True Change: Self-Responsibility Inspired by Universal Medicine

by Marika Cominos, Director – Playful Creations, Melbourne Australia

Previous to finding Universal Medicine I had been on the ‘New-Age merry-go-round’, trying all sorts of potions, workshops, techniques etc, and none of them delivered me to any long-term sustainability of wellbeing, or made complete sense. As a result of these experiences I am much more discerning these days; there is so much out there that promises so much, but falls short on many levels. An organisation that exists first and foremost for the true care and benefit of humanity is hard to find – which is why I am so grateful to have found an organisation that lives the talk with impeccable integrity.

I am an avid quote collector and have been for about twenty years.
Below is one of my favourite quotes, found years ago, that playfully highlights one of the many reasons I am so inspired by what Universal Medicine offers.


Chapter 1:

I walk down the street
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk
I fall in
I am lost… I am helpless
It isn’t my fault
It takes forever to find a way out.

Chapter 2:

I walk down the same street
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk
I pretend I don’t see it
I fall in, again
But it isn’t my fault
It takes a long time to get out.

Chapter 3:

I walk down the same street
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk
I see it is there
I fall in… it’s a habit… but my eyes are open
I know where I am
It is my fault
I get out immediately.

Chapter 4:

I walk down the same street
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk
I walk around it.

Chapter 5:

I walk down a different street.

Portia Nelson

This quote says much in its simplicity.

What I love about Universal Medicine is that it presents commonsense information and perspectives on health, wellbeing and healing that consistently inspire me to move from blaming others and the world for my problems and woes (Chapter 1), through to taking responsibility for myself and my choices (Chapter 5).

When it’s someone else’s fault I can point the finger and feel a victim of life, but when I take responsibility it means that I have the power and freedom to make the changes when I choose to.

It was so easy for me to play victim, not take responsibility and keep falling in the hole… it has taken much more courage and honesty for me to walk down that different street!

And in the process I have discovered some amazing streets and some amazing people… but most of all I am discovering the amazingness of me!

263 thoughts on “True Change: Self-Responsibility Inspired by Universal Medicine

  1. Nothing like being responsible for our movements and choices… or better I would say: nothing like being aware of the responsibility we have in our movements and choices, as it is that choice of being aware, that takes us out from the drama to live in the full knowing that we are the electors of our world and the landscapes that surround us.

  2. There is a joy to retracing our steps along the way we have come avoiding the potholes arm in arm with others in Brotherhood with the wisdom of knowing the true path.

  3. I can feel another chapter following from this: once we master the chapter 5, we learn to walk amongst those who are prone to falling into the hole, never judging, but forever understanding what it is like, until the last person starts walking another way, keep showing our walk.

  4. “When it’s someone else’s fault I can point the finger and feel a victim of life, but when I take responsibility it means that I have the power and freedom to make the changes when I choose to.”
    I know the truth of this sentence because I was encouraged to believe I was a victim of life, however by reversing this attitude and taking responsibility for me and my choices is one of the most empowering things I have ever done in my life.

  5. It can be quite eye opening to see how much we are contributing to life being the way it is, not just for ourselves but others. I like that the quote outlines some of the steps we can go through from placing ourselves in situations and feeling like the victim, to gradually becoming aware of our role in what we experience and choosing another way.

  6. Thank you Marika and maybe a new book could be?
    For the next book chapter:
    1. I walk;
    2. My movements become gentle;
    3. Awakening True Movements;
    4. Deepening Sacred Movement;
    5. Owning a Deepening Humble Appreciative-ness that our movements are everything!

  7. It is really interesting that one might actually choose to stay in the drama of life than to live with the joy and simplicity of their amazing selves. Walking down a different street requires courage honesty and a preparedness to meet something grander.

  8. We would live in a very different world today if we lived the wisdom presented here, taking responsibility for every choice we make and the consequences thereafter. It is empowering to approach life in this way rather than complain and blame or play victim.

  9. Self-flagellation only deepens the wounds, which creates deeper tension and it does become pain-full to extricate one-self out the hole we have dug. Once out, the gaping hole becomes obvious and when we apply a self-loving way of deepening our connection to being more Loving in all we do, then hole avoidance becomes simple. Then as the pitfalls of life have shown their ugly hand, we can walk connected to our essences and see clearly a True path where no holes are noticed.

  10. I love the quote, it is completely our choice which street we walk down. It is 100% our choice which perspective we choose to have because regardless of the circumstances there’s a learning, a deeper understanding to be developed and an opportunity for growth. But if we walk with our eyes shut, we are losing our sight.

  11. Understanding what true responsibility means is empowering and has been life changing. To understand and accept that every choice we make is of our own making indicates that we then can choose otherwise. Through honesty we can feel the impact of our choices on our bodies and with the quality of life we live and if they support us to walk through life being our true selves or not.

    1. Absolutely there really is true empowerment in understanding the impact of our own choices and even just recognising that there always is a choice to be made, not from a place of stressing or worrying about it, but appreciating the consequences of our actions and the potential that we have to be true to who we really are, and support everyone around us with that as well.

  12. Great quote Marika, and yes, it certainly describes well, how Universal Medicine present the awareness of observing life rather than being absorbed by it … in relation to the quote you found, observation offers the space to see and be aware of those pot holes in life’s pathway.

    1. Yes I find that if I let myself observe my own choice or a situation without judgement then it opens up the possibility of understanding on a deeper level what went on and how best I can respond to it…

  13. I agree Marika, it is much wiser to front foot and anticipate what is coming and walk around it – and even better to walk another street that does not have any holes that delay us.

    1. So True Suse, then possibly with our deepening awareness no matter what the street we have walked them all for many life times and can access that because the Love we live this lifetime, thus we feel what ever is required well before each street!

  14. So interesting to see the patterns that we allow to play out in our lives. I feel it is something many of us have done, played the victim and blamed others for the situation we are in without seeing the part we played that allowed us to fall in the same hole over and over again. The patterns can be so familiar that sometimes it does take courage to change something that we have been doing for life times, but it can be so freeing when we start to make different choices.

    1. Yes agreed many of us have and do blame others and play victim in many situations in an attempt to not accept responsibility for the choices we make, which in fact is the choice to live a lie. I have experienced that if we are willing to be honest we will find that being responsible is empowering, and living with truth is far more liberating and enriching than it is playing the victim and giving our power away in blaming others.

  15. The victimhood mentality goes hand in hand with blaming and not taking responsibility. I understand this is full, have been aware of this for a long time. But caught myself doing it recently, still. Me a victim, blaming others? No way. What I did: I have an interaction with somebody and that person is delivering me truth which requires me to look at my behaviour which was not loving, I tend to turn it around and say: “I don’t feel good because this message is not delivered with love”. Instead of looking at my behaviour and taking responsibility for it. That is blame and victimhood. Someone else is never responsible for how you feel.

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