The Truth About That Apple and Me

by Ariana Ray, Wales, UK

Yesterday I sat on a train coming home from an event I had travelled to London for. I had a really full weekend, going to the event and enjoying the company of friends. For the first half of the journey home I worked, as I had on my journey up. Suddenly I noticed I was tired: I stopped working and sat still to feel what was going on… as I did so, I had an urge to eat.

I know that in the past I would have reached for a chocolate bar, biscuit, or cake and some coffee. I have learnt by trial and error that chocolate, coffee and other sugar hits change my ability to feel what is going on in my body; so much so that I decided not to eat them any more. I realised that when I ate those foods, I used them as a ’booster’ to override the tiredness I felt, when really I just needed to rest. So I would stay up late, overdo it and get exhausted. 

Through attending talks and workshops with Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine I became aware that sometimes I eat to distract or disguise something else that is going on, or even use food to stop myself feeling at all! Now I enjoy eating a great balanced diet – the food that feels right for me, and now I feel much more alert, alive and vital during my days.

Sitting on the train on this occasion, all I had with me was an apple. Apples are great, and we all know the ‘apple a day’ slogan; it’s a neat healthy package in a green wrapping that you can pop straight into your bag. I knew the apple would give me the energy boost to push through this tiredness and finish what I was doing, but was it what I really needed?

I decided not to eat it. I wanted to feel how tired I actually was – to just feel the tiredness instead of using something to eat or drink, even something as healthy as an apple, so I could finish a project or task. So I sat with it and let myself feel where I was tired, noticing my arms, my legs, my whole body. I let myself be with it, allowing the tiredness to be – and it actually felt great to do. Why would I push this away? I felt like I was sinking into a feather bed just allowing myself to feel just how tired I was after my full working week and a great, but very full weekend. It actually felt great just to sit and feel.

Reflecting on my working day, I realised that I frequently eat an apple mid-afternoon to ‘get me through’; to push away the feeling of tiredness, the tightness in my shoulders and arms, or the scrunching of my forehead from trying to figure out how to solve a problem. But what happens when I do that and push through the feeling instead of listening to it? So I considered the simple apple further.

Isn’t needing anything to override tiredness, in itself, telling me a lot about where I am at and how I have been working during the day? It’s like we develop a hole inside that needs filling, but it’s got nothing to do with hunger or needing food at all. It’s not every afternoon that I need a ‘booster’ – so what am I doing differently on those days?  

What would happen if I just felt, and allowed myself to be aware of what my body is really feeling instead of pushing through to get the job done to meet a deadline, a performance indicator, or get some recognition for doing so? I can’t just stop working in the middle of a working day, can I? Maybe not, but I can acknowledge what I’m feeling so that at least my day is real. It’s real in the sense that I’m paying attention to what I am truly feeling. So what’s the worst that can happen? Yes, I feel tired, but at least then I have the opportunity to feel this and bring the changes that are really needed into my daily life. Allowing myself to feel my tiredness wasn’t so scary, in fact it gave me permission to start truly caring for myself.

I guess where I’m coming from is that I want to feel whatever is going on and not ignore it, so I can feel what is making me tired, and change it when it happens. What’s the alternative? Running myself into the ground, not even noticing what I’m doing? No thanks. Not anymore.

After a month of ‘no apple’ at work I’ve realised I don’t need to hide from what my body is trying to say to me, and that this helps me to not push myself to a point where I get exhausted. It’s like being able to listen to that part of myself that ‘knows’ for the first time, giving myself permission to really pay attention, allowing the moment to feel, rest, and come back to myself.  My body seems to know a lot more about what’s good for me than my oh so busy mind thinks it knows.

584 thoughts on “The Truth About That Apple and Me

  1. Thanks Ariana, I haven’t read this in so long, perfect timing to read today as this morning I was tired and decided to change the timing of when I left for an appointment to just lay down and let my body recuperate in a short rest. I hadn’t considered though going into the tiredness then by feeling it around my body. I can often feel it in my muscles but I liked the detail you brought by really allowing yourself to feel it around the body. I feel there is an ideal around having energy and that tiredness is seen as somehow weak or to be avoided, I can still see I resist feeling and responding to tiredness myself at times.

  2. What I get from this is how love is not about getting things right but is about allowing and responding, constantly so. It never comes up with ‘This is how it is done’ and does not see the need.

  3. It’s great that you have given yourself the time to stop because I can see around me all those people who do just push through with coffee and biscuits or some form of snack so they can keep going through their day. The game being played is to keep the body in motion so that it doesn’t get to feel any stillness; in stillness we find our way back to ourselves, back to God.

  4. Staying with what we are feeling is not always easy. Feeling tired for example makes me feel very vulnerable and there is a mechanism or autopilot that I’ve chosen for so long to escape. But what I read here inspires me because it shows that there is another way to accept whatever our body is experiencing. By not reacting to it I can feel a deeper understanding about me, my choices and the result of it. What you experienced with that apple feels very inspiring Ariana. It’s all about asking ourselves why, make a stop and feel what’s really going on inside us.

    1. It is an insightful comment Inma, thank you, I needed the reminder about the feeling of vulnerability and tiredness, and it’s also a deep honesty to be accountable for how we feel and how the way we live impacts upon us.

  5. I can totally relate to the apple giving the kick to get through the afternoon, and it is natural sugars so it is good for you right?! But I am learning that it is actually not about eating or not eating the apple – or anything else you would like to substitute, but about why you are eating. The moment we go to the why, we have a conversation that puts us in the front seat of our body and how we fuel it.

  6. An apple a day is to much sugar for me and like you Ariana, my day feels so much better when the sugary foods are not indulged in as it becomes a high then the inevitable low or lethargy that sets in.

  7. The honesty of our body is a beautiful relationship to deepen our openness and awareness with as the more we honor what is there to feel, we discover that is there always a greater truth present to live guided by.

  8. It is so true Ariana, when we reach for that sugar hit to boost us it just feeds the cycle to ‘stay up late, overdo it and get exhausted’ all again. Why do we not just let our bodies get the rest it needs….

  9. Great observation and sharing Ariana you show just how easily we use food and drink to mask our tiredness and then push through to get things done. Stopping to feel how tired we really are allows us to look back on our day and observe where the tiredness started. Our body reflects everything too, so it makes sense to listen to it before we are made to stop.

  10. The body just knows so much better than the mind how and why we feel what we feel, what we need, and definitely is the honest friend we need to truly take good care of ourselves.

  11. Oh how even the humble apple can undo us if used as a stimulant or a sugar hit. The more one refines their diet the more sensitive one becomes. This sensitivity allows a greater awareness that beats any food one could eat.

    1. Beautifully said Kathleen – the more we are willing to be aware of the quality of energy behind our choice to eat the more we free ourselves to live the truth of who we are and heal what is not.

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