by Suzanne Anderssen, Brisbane
I like to use metaphors to describe where I am at each moment. A year ago, I felt like I was walking a tightrope. The tightrope was very saggy, very swingy and each step along that tightrope was difficult, but I was at least travelling forward. Bit by bit, that tightrope became tauter, stronger, more still, albeit I still felt like I was walking it.
The metaphor I feel like today is similar, but maybe less life threatening! Life often feels like I’m at a surf beach, diving through waves. Have you ever noticed that waves tend to come in sets of about six or seven? Then there is a bit of a rest, where you can catch your breath and prepare for the next set. Sometimes that next set is an onslaught, where each dive under the wave is an effort, you get messed around in the froth, the sand; you barely have enough time to take another breath before you need to dive under the next wave, you may not even get to push off and dive under the wave, just duck under so you don’t get dumped. You’re exhausted by that set and nervous about the next, as surely it will come too soon.
And sometimes it’s a set of waves that you navigate with ease and harmony. Your timing in diving under the wave is perfect, you feel the swell of the wave above and around you, but you don’t get caught up in the swirl of the water. You have time to wipe your eyes, keep your hair off your face, take a look at where the next wave is coming from, take a deep breath and push off the sand with your two feet to dive deeply under with a strong body…and your swimsuit stays on too 🙂
For me, life can be like the surf. Those seven or so waves in a set represent my job, my husband, myself, my child, my child’s school life, my friends, my house.
Whenever I am on the verge of being dumped by the waves, I notice that I make a special effort to use a bunch of support mechanisms that I have learnt over my lifetime, with many learned in the past two years since listening to Serge Benhayon’s presentations. I have learned that what I can do to support myself is to breathe gently, or take a warm, moisturising bath, or make a super nurturing, light meal, or light some incense, or put on super comfy clothes, or take plenty of time to blow dry my hair, apply makeup, moisturise, paint my nails, or go for a long, easy walk or swim, or visit a friend, or do a meditation, or brew some herbal tea in a pretty teapot, or fold laundry (very soothing for me!), or tenderly moisturise my hands and feet… etc.
When I don’t feel amazing, I then consciously go back to basics, stopping to nurture myself fully and come back to a level of stillness that is me. I feel so grateful that I have people around me who have shown me many different ways that I can truly support myself.
203 thoughts on “On the Verge of Being Dumped”
Connecting to the stillness within and you feel you are in the eye of the storm of the world that swirls around you.
“When I don’t feel amazing, I then consciously go back to basics” I must do for when I feel out of sorts and a great reminder at this point in time. Thank you.
Universal Medicine are so incredible at nurturing people to develop their own tools of self care and true support. Truly an incredible organisation who consistently offer unending support to everyone.
There are many tools that support us with self care and nurturing, these will be different for each of us, some could be, ‘I have learned that what I can do to support myself is to breathe gently, or take a warm, moisturising bath, or make a super nurturing, light meal’.
I can so relate to the waves, after work today I needed support which came in the form of a comfy, soft PJ top (pink, of course 🙂 ), a rest, a hot drink, some incense, and a short Gentle Breath Meditation. I’m not completely back but I’m nearly recovered from the wave that was today! Great blog Suzanne and lovely to review your list of supports, and appreciate that I now innately do these for myself.
Lovely to read how you naturally deepen your love, care, and nurturing of yourself when needed Melinda.
I loved reading this. It is so gorgeous to read ‘breathe gently, or take a warm, moisturising bath, or make a super nurturing, light meal, or light some incense, or put on super comfy clothes, or take plenty of time to blow dry my hair, apply makeup, moisturise, paint my nails, or go for a long, easy walk or swim, or visit a friend, or do a meditation, or brew some herbal tea in a pretty teapot, or fold laundry (very soothing for me!), or tenderly moisturise my hands and feet… etc.’ My learning is very much not how do the waves affect me (and absolutely with not being perfect of course they do), but similar to you a way I can live that supports myself to instead navigate my way with ease and harmony. A simple teaching that we (the world) could all benefit from.
It’s so lovely to take that perfectionism off ourselves, and the pictures of how we are supposed to be, and simply respond with love and care for ourselves when we experience a ‘wave’ impacting us. It becomes less about what happened or how we were supposed to be, and more about the love we can bring to ourselves.
How do the waves affect us, and yes, they can come one after another in short succession, so how great to have tools that support us during these periods.
Being playful is such a great medicine for life. We may have a fall or get dumped by the waves, but we are constantly being offered another round, and mastery is not about never getting dumped.
So true Fumiyo, we are mastering how to be love in life, that means the whole of life and tested in many areas to develop strength and consistency.
I can echo that Doug. It is such a difference from numbing myself, being a victim, to actually having the tools, and applying them, to deal with and resolve issues – so empowering.
Absolutely Doug, seeing life through the bottom of a glass never works, but jumping in the deep end so we feel the magnetic pull out of the turbulence is one of the most loving lessons we can set as a foundation and deepen in.
Having the space to breathe and feel the loving flow we can live. Thank you Suzanne, adding to what you have shared, that by having the space to breathe and feel the loving flow we can live allows each step to be one of evolution, free of the tension of life as we are seemingly magnetically pulled forward to walk in the most loving way. Then we can also duck-dive any adverse situations as that are seen well before they arrive from the loving-rhythm we are in allows each step to be one of evolution as we are seemingly magnetically pulled forward to walk in the most loving way and also duck-dive any adverse situations as that are seen from the rhythm we are in.
From walking a ‘saggy tightrope’ to surviving ‘being dumped’ under tumultuous ‘waves’, I have experienced these challenging situations many times in my life. But over the last few years, thanks to the marvelous tools for life I have been offered by Serge Benhayon, the tightrope has been discarded and the waves are a lot more gentle, and so life flows way more easily than it has ever done – and it’s much less exhausting to live.
I totally agree with what you have written about Serge Benhayon, this man will be remembered in history we will look back and marvel at his powerful, yet delicate relationship to God and how totally obedient he was so that nothing could deter him from the message he was sent to present. Humanity as a whole is missing such a golden opportunity by not maximizing all that he knows and can bring. So my question is what is it about us that we are in such deep denial of the truth that is constantly presented to us. Why are we so afraid of ourselves that we don’t want to hear the truth of who we are and where we come from.
The basics are often under-rated, our foundations are so crucial in our wellbeing. When our foundations are weak, when we’re not solid in our stance, anything that happens can knock us over. Or we could go the opposite way and use force to remain above water, but that only works temporarily until we sink really, really deep.
I loved your reminder of how waves come in a pattern which was a great reminder for me of how life has its own natural flow and rhythm. When we live in that flow we stay on top of the waves, yet as soon as we stray from the natural flow, we soon find ourselves lost and looking for the light.
I loved your analogy of life like riding the waves, there are many things we learn through life from our own experiences and those of others, Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine have definitely inspired me to live my life through knowing myself first, which has truly helped me cope with the testing times in life.
Having these supportive methods in place is far healthier than the vices we have en mass resorted to, such as distractions or dulling with foods/drinks.
Yes, having a foundation of supportive measures to turn to as and when needed is so very wise.
A great reminder of the many tools I have to remind me to be love and to love me. It is so easy to let self care drop amongst all the things we have ‘to do’ but if we have true care for ourselves as a foundation thenee find we can go though life without getting caught up in life.
I get the feeling when I read this that we can be the ones that are at the end of an onslaught and manage as best as we can or we can actually move away from that onslaught and let something else guide us through life. This something can be love and it feels like life can be quite different when we are guided by love instead of how we think life has to be like.