A Choice to Heal by Choosing Love

by Michael Goodhart, Vermont, USA

I’d like to share some experiences I’ve recently had that I feel were made possible by applying some principles that I have learned through my participation in Universal Medicine workshops and Esoteric Healing sessions. The main point being that our lives are greatly the result of the choices we make in every moment, and that if those choices are loving ones, we can heal patterns that may otherwise repeat themselves in order to show us where attention is needed.

When I first came to read Serge Benhayon’s books and commenced taking some courses I was very much in my head about the work being presented and began using some of what I had learned in an intellectual way with my friends and family. I knew in my heart that I had finally come to a True Way of Living that I had been looking for my whole life – but had been applying the teachings in the same way I had with the myriad of New Age spiritual modalities I’d delved into previously. That is, I was merely repeating the words and principles I had learned. However, this is not at all what Serge had presented to me in the first place. He has always provided a truly different approach in that if we are to really change our world in a positive way, we have to LIVE these principles of love and start feeling from our inner hearts and bodies – not just our heads.  That being said, I recently made the choice to reach out to members of my family and friends who I felt I had gotten off on the wrong foot with when I first set out on this new way of living. There had been some things that were said that initiated a separation and breakdown in communication as I thought I was re-claiming myself – but was going about it in a way that pushed some people away, instead of just being me and letting them be inspired by that, if they chose to.

So, one day recently I decided to simply make a phone call or write an email to four different people that I felt fitted into the category described above. I just honestly told them how I felt about them, avoiding a big story or gushy apology but also taking responsibility for my words and actions in the past.  Each conversation or letter was based on only one important message… LOVE.  I just chose to open up, forget any past negative emotions that had been projected towards me, and focus on connecting with each person. Even though I tried to hold no expectations, to my delight each one resulted in a super positive response and in some cases, a true healing for both of us – as well as other connected people.  I was amazed at how simple it was, and wondered why I had waited so long to act on my feelings. Perhaps I had come to a point where I realized that I had been holding back my love and was holding on to being right instead.  Through my continued inspiration from Serge Benhayon and UniMed events and students, I’m starting to gradually see my life and what occurs in it as a direct result of my choices. This time around, I’m choosing LOVE, and it’s feeling more and more like me every day.

333 thoughts on “A Choice to Heal by Choosing Love

  1. What I can feel is how we are all learning to be a student in the way love moves, that knows and holds everyone equally as a god we are, and that there is no need for trying or efforting to change anyone, but simply living, and that includes ourselves.

  2. How many of us can put our hand up and say that we’ve done a similar thing. I know I did, for a couple of years I remained closed off and quite hostile to some people around me. Judging how they lived their lives as right or wrong, while preaching that they shouldn’t judge me. In our resistance to being honest and transparent we can create any story that fits into our head and with that live a life of complete illusion, always blaming others and never really looking at ourselves. The teachings of Serge Benhayon inspire the opposite and invite people to truly take responsibility for their steps, and their way of life.

  3. For many of us we are so used to using our minds to think, that it takes a while to truly understand what is being presented by Serge Benhayon, as for many me included, we try to intellectualise what is presented rather than feeling the truth of the presentations in our bodies and living that.

  4. Sometimes when we are going through big changes we can want to share all we have discovered, but we can forget how much others are also offering us as well in the wisdom they have gained in life at these times and just want to push our side. It’s a rookie mistake and I’ve done similar myself.

  5. When I finally made the choice to accept “that our lives are greatly the result of the choices we make in every moment,” I was able to make sense of a life that for many years had never made sense. It wasn’t an easy acceptance at the beginning as it meant I could no longer blame anyone else for the course of my life, and it wasn’t about blaming me either. But accepting that I had created this life, by the choices I had made, opened the doorway to a very valuable knowing that I had the power to change my life by making different choices; a very liberating moment in time.

  6. Great sharing about what you’ve come to know as what’s true for you- and the simplicity of just being you. When we accept who we are, there is no need to try to convince or prove anything to anyone, and in that space we can be more open with others.

  7. No one likes being preached to by someone who is not living what they say. I have certainly made this mistake myself and it doesn’t feel great for me or the other person. The power of words is that they come with everything about the way we live.

  8. We are the only ones that can restore our true way of being and in our way back we will correct all that we have made in disconnection with the love that we are.

  9. I too, have found that it is in the preaching to another about a life-changing truth we have discovered, that we open ourselves up to the possibility that they will take a step, or many steps, away from us. But it is the living of this truth that may inspire them; no words needed.

    1. Indeed, we just have to live our lives to the best of our ability and the vibration we are connected to will then do the work. No preaching required.

  10. A love story Michael! I’m going to try this .. “I just chose to open up, forget any past negative emotions that had been projected towards me, and focus on connecting with each person.” Once you fully commit to something with a simple intention of choosing love .. love will be what it is you’re committing to. If you hold onto an outcome or expectation you will diffuse the quality of love.

    1. I agree Rik; those words are very inspiring and I too am going to be bringing this wisdom to a long-standing relationship issue. Attempting to heal a relationship when you are stubbornly holding onto hurts is an absolutely futile exercise, whereas approaching any healing from a totally loving foundation opens the door for the healing to naturally unfold.

    2. Yes, forgetting the negative emotions that have been projected onto us is a great start to connecting with someone. I had an unpleasant encounter in a car hire office yesterday. But I resisted their insistence I take a better car with Sat Nav, which I didn’t need, and which of course cost more. I also have an annual policy, which means they weren’t able to sell me their own insurance, though they persisted for a while. Inside I remained steady and light and playful and he ended up taking photos of damage prior to my hiring, which he had refused earlier. Staying open-hearted resulted in no unpleasant feelings either way, and we shook hands before I drove away. .

  11. Well done Michael. Being open and honest with others, as you say it had gotten off on the wrong foot when you made some changes in your life, which gave you both the opportunity to bridge and heal your relationship. What others do with that opportunity is their choice.

  12. Society craves connection. Fact. Love is so rarely expressed that people are thirsty to be met and be heard. When you express and open up yourself, it invites the space for others to do so also, and hence the power of true expression and why the dark forces that wish to keep separation alive and active in the world want it crushed immediately.

  13. There is a far more harm felt when we hold back love than we realise, simply because we do not realise how much love we generally all hold back.

  14. Yes our barometer can be Love, is it or is it not? If yes then act, if not renounce. Our days become less cluttered with the debris of self doubt, regret, blame, issues, in fact any emotion, which distract us from living life fully. Love what you share about your relationships.

  15. Such a beautiful example of the healing power of love. Being able to let go ‘of being right’ and allowing ourselves to be vulnerable and deeply honest is the first, and very big step, in this wonderful healing process.

  16. I think that is the essence of what being esoteric is all about, simply being yourself, and it’s hard to resist anyone being just themselves, it radiates a sense of trust and familiarity that is beautiful to feel.

  17. We can choose, or not, to see to what extent we exercise our right to make choices which are totally consequential for us. When we choose to do so, awareness comes right into the next choice.

  18. “Perhaps I had come to a point where I realized that I had been holding back my love and was holding on to being right instead.” I had never seen it quite like that before but it is very true. Standing firm in the belief of being right will stop any love coming through, and no one gets to feel the reflection of love that is so missing in this world today.

  19. So amazing to feel how the way of love is that it offers healing and truth, and does not right the wrongs.

  20. When we come from right and wrong we have removed ourselves from love, but when we can with honesty and love express how we are feeling, then much healing is on offer for those concerned.

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