by Johanna Fredericks, Bachelor of Education, Perth WA
The lies about Love that I have fallen for were exposed to me yesterday when I attended the Couples Workshop held by Universal Medicine. As it turns out, it wasn’t really just for couples, it was actually a ‘Relationship Workshop’ – about our relationship with self and our relationships with others.
We were asked simple and direct questions that, for me, exposed the false ideals and beliefs that I was holding on to around what Love is.
Because of these ideals and beliefs, which I hold only in my mind, I sometimes feel hurt when others don’t meet my idea of Love. When I come from my mind’s perception of what Love is or from what I was ‘told’ Love should be, I get tricked into thinking that I get hurt.
The biggest revelation for me during the Universal Medicine relationship workshop – one that I felt deeply to be true in my body – was that Love is from the heart and the heart is pure and it can never actually get hurt. I also got to feel very deeply that Love is universal, it is equal for all, it is a quality and an energy that we naturally are and can hold others in.
Even though I have been developing a deeper level of love in my body over the last 6 years, and I know that I AM LOVE and I feel the purity of true Love when I am connected to my heart, throughout the workshop I got to feel the depths of the absolute lies that I had been sold about Love in my life.
For example, in the past I believed Love was about:
- Meeting expectations,
- Doing something ‘nice’ for someone,
- Always giving up time, even if it was at expense to self,
- Recognition and identification,
- Buying gifts and making gestures for the sake of it,
- Not speaking up,
- Enjoining in emotional messes,
- Allowing people close to me to get away with treating me, at times, without care.
It was freeing to feel this, as I no longer carry the hurt because I now understand it.
And if we are all holding misinterpretations and expectations of what Love is, then our relationships are being affected greatly, because one person’s expectation rarely fits in with another’s. No wonder there is often a mismatch!
I also now know there are no limits or boundaries to Love in its true form. I got to feel the two versions of Love and they are polar opposites.
I allowed myself to see, with my eyes wide open, what I had been sold as Love and what I had fallen for. I held the two views side by side: what I had been sold and believed versus, what I know love to be and feel deep in me and in others. When I compared the two versions, I got to feel the great injustice of it all.
Now I know True Love is about (and the fact is, I knew this Love when I was little):
- Treating myself and another with tenderness, preciousness and a deep level of care,
- Consideration, understanding and appreciation,
- Feeling the quality of the movement in my body and the care in the voice,
- Getting called out when we are not being the Love that we are,
- Not holding back in expressing Love in action or word,
- Looking deeply into another’s eyes,
- Allowing fragility, true intimacy and surrendering,
- Holding Love strong and supporting others,
- Being interested in another and being patient.
Love for me now is also:
- About letting me know that I matter greatly,
- Supportive, nourishing and TRUE,
- Something each and everyone of us IS and deserves.
Today, I am more able to live in this amazing Love and know that it is there for us all, should we choose it! Through the consistent and unwavering true Love Serge Benhayon and those from Universal Medicine have shown me, and through Universal Medicine presentations and workshops such as the recent one on relationships, I’ve been able to feel Love in its true form and have been clearly shown that this Love can be lived every day. From this reflection I’ve also been able to feel that I AM LOVE.
Now I am deeply inspired to support myself every day to live the Love that I am, in connection to my heart. This love is so grand, I am forever unfolding, developing and deepening… allowing the Love that lives within me to be… and no longer falling for lies about love.