I recently attended a presentation by Natalie Benhayon on “A Sacred Relationship with Self.” This subject has been in my conscious awareness for a few years as I have been learning about and developing more self-love and more self-nurturing which has led to more self-esteem. When I received the notice of the presentation being given by Natalie, I suspected there would be a slant on how to be in relationship with my self as a woman. I’ve been a late bloomer so to speak, in the sense of realising what my true expression as a woman means for me. I was eager to attend, yet still a little apprehensive. The apprehension had to do with not being confident about ‘how to be a woman’. As the presentation began, I quickly learned that the evening would be about a relationship with my sacred self.
If we look at Natalie Benhayon, we see a young woman who is amazing. She is beautiful, sexy, cheeky, fun and a full time complementary healing practitioner. She is seeing people in clinic many days of the week, founder of Our Cycles App, editor of a magazine called Women in Livingness, designer of websites, director of the Esoteric Practitioners Association (EPA)*, Founder and Director of Esoteric Women’s Health and on the board of the College of Universal Medicine (a charitable institution) and constantly pushing the edges, not to mention a few buttons! How can one woman do all of that? Some of us admire her. Some of us might envy her. Some might even be jealous. Some don’t like what they see. What they don’t like is they know that they too could be all of that but are choosing not to. That isn’t a comfortable reflection.
For many of us who have the privilege of attending the sacred movement groups which were initiated by Natalie, we can easily feel what it means to be in our sacredness because the movements allow us to connect to that most holy of places. But how many of us retain that sense of sacredness as we put on our boots, gather our bags and scarves and head out the door? I’m going to guess not many.
Being in sacredness is about a sacred relationship with self and being fully present and connected with yourself…. and more.
We have had Natalie Benhayon and her family as well as other esoteric practitioners demonstrating what “being with yourself” looks and feels like and I, along with many other women I know, have been inspired to develop our own rhythm and beingness. I have an increasing awareness of when I am with myself and when I have dropped the ball and lost the plot. I am spending more time with myself nowadays so I know what that feels like and I still go in and out of being present with myself.
When I’m showering, I am aware of tipping the shampoo into my hand, aware of how I apply it to my scalp, of how gently (or not) I massage it in. When I’m pouring my cup of tea, I am aware of how I connect (or grab) the kettle. When I’m choosing my clothes I consider why I have reached for that blouse. Is it the colour, the fabric, the style? It’s a rare occasion now that I drive somewhere and arrive realising I was on automatic pilot all the way there. I’ve incorporated little check in points during the drive to make sure I am present in my body. How are my hands placed on the wheel? Does my mirror need adjusting? I am mostly spending time “being with myself” so when I do fall away from that position, I recognise it and can choose to bring myself back home to myself.
At Natalie’s presentation on ‘A Sacred Relationship with Self’, I felt that to be in sacredness as a woman is something even more profound. It isn’t just about being with myself, or being present or being fully present or being consciously present. It is about being all those things – as a woman.
As a woman, I’m learning to start with my stillness and anything I ‘do’ must come from that stillness. For me, the biggest distraction to my stillness is nervous energy. If I am anxious or worrying there is a ‘busyness’ in me that disrupts my inner stillness. If I am thinking about things I have to do, and it is not yet time to do these things, this also creates a ‘sense of work or activity’ that is not real or productive. When it is time to do this activity, whatever it may be, I can do it with a sense of my sacred self, knowing there is no right or wrong if I am in activity as my sacred self.
If I am not coming from stillness first I have left my true essence and entered into the male essence of action, the male essence of ‘doing’. This can be a tricky business in a world that acknowledges and rewards those who do and those who produce. But thank God, there are people like Natalie Benhayon who are presenting and demonstrating how to be role models for this profound way of living from their sacredness so that we have a reflection of what it looks like and what it feels like. I feel very fortunate indeed to be able to attend these presentations in person but I feel even more fortunate to be a woman, in a large group of women, who are helping pioneer the return to our true essence; that of living in a sacred relationship with self and in the sacredness of being a woman.
By Gayle Cue, Office Manager, Bangalow NSW Australia
* The EPA (Esoteric Practitioners Association) is the internal accreditation arm of Universal Medicine. It was instigated by Universal Medicine to monitor and accredit the modalities that were founded by Universal Medicine.
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When I deeply feel into life and the way I have approached it for a great time of my life is that I have made my self hard and tough as an answer to the abuse I encountered as a child, and still do as an adult. But now I have learned from watching Natalie Benhayon that it was just me reacting to the abuse in the outer world, the abuse that belongs to nobody’s nature, but we have made our way to behave in life.
Thanks to Natalie Benhayon I have been able to reconnect to the sacredness within and now am slowly rediscovering its beauty and its magnificence, its divine essence that lives in me.
Its not a surprise to read a blog about Natalie Benhayon and for it to be a topic on sacredness. She is the founder of Sacred Movement and attending her classes is mind blowing and very revelatory. I attended the universal Medicine Retreat recently and we were guided by Natalie performing a movement that I had never ever felt so sexy in my body. I was moving like a woman and I could not hold this back. I felt so sexy and it felt normal. I accepted this as being okay but I could feel my mind rebutting it continuously. Sacredness comes with a lot of force in opposition. It pulls me to consistently move more like this so it merely becomes my living way.
Beautiful Rik, thank you for sharing. Each and everyone of us knows how to move in sacredness whether we are a woman or a man. I became aware recently of how I have been shut down to not allow myself to move in a way that felt so natural for fear I would be ridiculed, condemned, accused of seduction, attacked especially by women etc yet there was no holding back; I was giving myself permission to move my body in connection to me, bringing all of me in that moment.
Natalie’s ability to speak what needs to be spoken inspires me. There is a dedication to humanity that is rock solid and gives no thought to personal gain and this is so rare. I would happily count this young woman as a role model.
“Being in sacredness is about a sacred relationship with self and being fully present and connected with yourself…. and more.” when we are fully present with ourselves we can not but love ourselves unreservedly.
Hi Sam, as for a man it is such a blessing to be around women that live in sacredness and it makes me remember that I to am from that same source and do not have to perform. It allows me to simply be the love I already am. Thank you for being one of the many women that have chosen to reconnect to that sacredness, as we miss it so much in our societies nowadays.
Great question what actually is sacredness? ‘It isn’t just about being with myself, or being present or being fully present or being consciously present. It is about being all those things – as a woman.’
Moving in connection to the sacredness I feel inside is part of it for me.
I am daily inspired by Natalie Benhayon, her dedication to offer all the women in the world the truth of what it is to live as a woman is out of this world. And for me personally her reflection of how to work and do so much without male energy or push is a huge example to live and work from the sacredness as well.
Natalie Benhayon is a remarkable woman and continues to inspire and remind all women that they too have an endless potential to reconnect to and live… that it all resides within.
From a foundation and connection to the quality of stillness, our movements and quality of life reflect the same.
Thank you Gayle for highlighting how it is about the quality of our being that we do things in rather than what we do.
I am learning this too and I choose to feel all that I have put up to prevent me from feeling my stillness.
Stillness is a treasure that ought to be the foundation of every moment of our life and not be overtaken by functionality and raciness. Stillness first and then everything else can easily follow.
For the past three weeks I have been feeling the importance of being more delicate and exploring what that means, and while at work yesterday I chose to be delicate with my movements and I had such a lovely day with my clients and myself. The day felt lighter, and my shift was a breeze.
Yesterday morning I had did esoteric yoga for one hour, which I could feel went quite deep for me in connecting with my stillness. The rest of the day I could just feel this contentment being me and being in my body, and I had the most lovely day hanging out with my mother.
Coming and moving from stillness creates plenty of spaciousness in the body, in our day and imbues everything we attend to with its delicate and sweet flavour.
‘As a woman, I’m learning to start with my stillness and anything I ‘do’ must come from that stillness.’ This is something we have not valued in ourselves and in society and we see the consequences of this everywhere around us, the raciness, the speed in which things needs to be done, the lack of presence and living without a connection with the body are a few examples of this. When women and men equally choose to value stillness and bring this in what they have to do, the world would look completely different than what we now know it to be.
Indeed it is never too late to reconnect and continue to deepen and expand that relationship with ourselves and the sacredness that is within.
Simply choosing to be aware of how we move things, get dressed for the day, wash our hair etc. is a huge step in truly taking care of ourselves – it asks the question of whether we are worth more than a rushed change and slightly lunatic exit from our house everyday?
‘But thank God, there are people like Natalie Benhayon who are presenting and demonstrating how to be role models for this profound way of living from their sacredness so that we have a reflection of what it looks like and what it feels like.’ If it weren’t for this reflection I would still be calling living with anxiousness and tension normal! Through this reflection, I am reminded that being in stillness is a choice although it is one we have to keep making. Through such a living example I am reminded just how possible, absolute and real it is and that this choice is all for the making.
Yes, it helps so much to have someone as a living example of what it looks like to live from that space, with ease and grace and commitment to life. In the face of those who don’t like what she shares there is not an ounce of judgement, simply an even more focused dedication to live the love we are all from.
.. and how beautiful and inspiring is that!
Sacred is who we are but have lost our connection to this most precious part of our being. We’re all invited re-connect and return to our sacred selves, this takes a conscious commitment to move differently inwardly and outwardly. Our sole purpose to align with divinity within.
‘the biggest distraction to my stillness is nervous energy.’ I know this well, having caught myself in a whirl recently and spinned me off course. The cause? Diving in, instead of standing back and feeling what was needed. Stillness compromised affects the body and every activity.
A great reminder of where it is truly about: the connection with our innate stillness and move from there. It starts with the connection with the body. I too can find myself in thoughts or I can feel the nervous energy or busyness. A stopmoment and a gentle return to the body helps me to be fully present again with where my body is engaged in. And the stillness greets me with a ‘hi there, great you are back’!
A beautiful blog to come back to, as we can’t get enough reminders to appreciate ourselves as the sacred woman we are, and to express from our innate stillness.
When working with my client fully present and in stillness the quality in which I move is exquisite and delicate, the connection between us is deepened. Drift out of stillness and a hard remoteness comes in: we’re now on auto pilot. Same applies to relationship with self. Moving with sacredness and stillness in everyday tasks elevates the quality of our days and must be treasured and embodied.
But how many of us retain that sense of sacredness as we put on our boots, gather our bags and scarves and head out the door? Great question, as a reminder that sacredness is not reserved for a special occasion or just in a sacred movement class, but in every single movement we make, from getting dressed, doing the dishes and taking out the trash….
In the past I had no clue how to be a women, as I was very much in my male energy, and as such had not developed a relationship with my body or my innate qualities as a women. In the last few years, I have been healing my issues, and clearing my body, so that today I feel so much more of me as a woman in my female body, it just feels like being home.
That male energy you speak of jacqmcfadden04 is very much that tick box mentality of doing doing doing in a way that totally disregards the innate preciousness, qualities and wisdom that every women and man holds equally within.
I relate to so much of what is shared here, to have experienced Sacredness in me, even if just a hint at times has been amazing and to observe how I let it go and get into doing in life. That nervous energy and busyness you mention is very much a trap I know well, a way to keep myself at arms length from me and as I write this I can feel how unnecessary it is and how great it is to be aware of this and to consistently keep coming back to feeling and connecting to me and know that in fact I can ‘do’ whatever is needed in the world in connection with my Sacredness, in other words all of me.
Living in the sacredness of a woman is palpably the most beautiful feeling of grace. as it touches every one we met, talk with or even communicate with via email. Our presence and essence is that of deep nurturing and understanding. A way of being that invites another to feel, sense and live from their own. Could this be how one can change the world?
This is what I am doing when I am driving, I check always my posture and every time I feel more present when I lengthen my spine. I check my hands on the steering wheel, and always come back to my breath and how it moves in and out silently. All small checks but truly supportive to remain present while driving.
Yes pioneering our return to truth. Beautiful and such a needed reflection for the world.
The more I am with myself, i.e. paying attention to what I’m doing in that moment, not daydreaming off in my head, the more aware I am of how and what I feel, within and around me. There’s less anxiety, less rush, more space and more flow. An ease and a feeling that everything that needs to get done, will get done. It feels a much simpler way to live.
It is very self-loving when we stay present in our bodies, and makes life so much simpler because we can be in touch with all we are feeling and all that is around us, thus we can feel our very next step, and the next, as our day flows and yes things get done in this effortless flow.
Coming from a steadiness and stillness that requires no force nor control but allows one to be is most exquisite to feel and live by.
Your blog beautifully describes what it means to be in a Sacred relationship with ourselves, and how the quality of ‘stillness’ is very much a part of a woman’s Sacredness.
Its really something to ponder – ‘how can 1 man do all of that’. She would say it herself that its not because she is special, but there is a commitment to life that is absolute, a service to people that is unrelenting, and a solidness in who she is that is unshakeable. Inspirational!
There really is a feeling of sacredness that comes with being still and feeling connected to our own bodies.. in that stillness, there is space, expansion and a surrender – a total knowing that nothing we can ever do can match the innate and incredible qualities of who we are at our core, underneath all of the behaviours and distractions.
“As a woman, I’m learning to start with my stillness and anything I ‘do’ must come from that stillness. ” Thank you Gayle for a great sharing, when what we do comes from our stillness there is a flow and a rhythm in our movements, when we leave our stillness behind we go into the male energy with its drive leaving our bodies with anxiousness and exhaustion.
It starts with an understanding that it’s about being the woman, with the natural sacredness and stillness we are … from within, not without and holding and being that in the world … and it’s our natural way, so it’s great many are looking at how we can live and be this way in life no matter what.
Beautifully expressed Gayle and truly inspiring!
“If I am anxious or worrying there is a ‘busyness’ in me that disrupts my inner stillness. If I am thinking about things I have to do, and it is not yet time to do these things, this also creates a ‘sense of work or activity’ that is not real” I love this analogy and can see it will support me as I deepen the relationship with myself. Having a dedication to living in relationship with ourselves and to bring that sacredness to the fore as a lived experience benefits everyone, with ourselves at the red-hot loving core!
To feel how another beholds themselves in a loving and tender way, is so inspiring to take that risk with myself also.
To be thinking about something before we need to do it is an activity … a move away from stillness, so true and something I haven’t always considered. What I feel now with stillness is a strong sense of settlement in the body so any moves made don’t disturb that equilibrium and while I don’t always have this I know in my being this is possible and how awesome it can feel.
Gayle it’s a very powerful point you have made here “It isn’t just about being with myself, or being present or being fully present or being consciously present. It is about being all those things – as a woman.” Once we connect to ourselves as women and express in full from our essence it’s a very powerful experience.
“As a woman, I’m learning to start with my stillness and anything I ‘do’ must come from that stillness” – agree Gayle, this is probably the most essential aspect to note in self-relationship as a woman.. the stillness quality; because without this we really are lost as women.
Developing this quality of connection to my stillness is an ever deepening process in which identifying with what I am doing can take me away from it and put me into drive or a nervous tension.
“As a woman, I’m learning to start with my stillness and anything I ‘do’ must come from that stillness.” How lovely it is to have women who move, express and live from their sacred self and we all have the opportunity to be inspired to also move in this way. I really love feeling my movements in the fine details I make and it really does connect me to stillness and grace and allows my body the space to be just as it feels to be. A beautiful blog thank you Gayle.
As .a woman, I’m learning to start with my stillness and anything I ‘do’ must come from that stillness. I can also feel the difference when I am out and have left my stillness, every thing changes, it is like putting on the dark shades.
Gail Natalie has inspired me and I’ve come a long way, probably like most other people. When I first saw her I was full of my own issues that I couldn’t understand how a young woman like Natalie possessed so much wisdom and she was presenting on stage to hundreds of people – yikes and without a power point presentations either!..
Over the couple of years I’ve seen Natalie to be the woman role model I seldom saw in the world. Would you believe it she inspired me to take pride in my body, how I cared for my nails, how I dressed etc, no other woman has inspired me in this way – truely inspirational woman of the world.
Amazing Blog. Natalie Benhayon is an absolute inspiration for how to live in sacredness.
‘As a woman, I’m learning to start with my stillness and anything I ‘do’ must come from that stillness.’ And that’s the difference, do we move from that stillness, stay with it or do we go into a doing, I know I and many others go into a doing so yes thank God there are those like Natalie Benhayon providing a reflection of how we can be as true women, that we can be in the world and do while staying connected to that stillness.
Natalie Benhayon has offered by her reflection how to appreciate the Divine gift of connecting to my sacredness as a woman and the responsibility to reflect this to others.
My driving is completely changing. Long distances can be a little challenging when I can go into my head but as soon as I notice this I bring myself back to me. There is a huge difference between driving on auto-pilot and driving while being present with myself and it really does make me wonder who is in the driving seat in those moments of leaving my body and checking out into my mind!