Are we Appreciating or Wasting Space…? 

The word ‘space’ awakens a feeling of spaciousness within, as that is what it offers us – a place of exploration and understanding the meaning of life and our purpose on this planet. 

Space is a word that is used, quite often casually, without realising the full beauty of the word and what it can offer us in our lives.  

As I grow older, I am appreciating the value of it and how it can affect my day-to-day livingness, depending on how I use it.  

I am also feeling that time is no longer relevant – that in truth there is always the space to do what I need to do – and that if I become caught up in time, I can undervalue the quality and purpose of space.  

It is also often treated as if it’s of no importance and that all we need to do is fill it up with non-sense. I know this is how I have treated space and it is only as I have allowed more space in my day to connect to my body that I have begun to feel the value of spaciousness within – that my body loves space and the connection that increases as I allow the spaciousness that is God back into my life as I feel the in-breath and out-breath. 

When we allow more space in our lives, what do we do with it? We can ‘waste space’ by idling our life away without true purpose and this is what I did for the first few years of retirement, feeling I deserved a break. This perception of retirement is one that erodes our sense of purpose and we end up with a life of indulgence – and feeling lost.  

I still found myself very ‘busy’ as I had yet to come to a point where I was willing to look at space; it can feel quite scary when you have always made sure that you fill every moment with ‘achievements and doing’ in motivation and drive. 

Life suddenly (although in reality not so sudden, as this point had been building for some time) became unmanageable and a moment was dropped in: I connected to my true self and was guided to find support.   

When I allow space, the answer comes to me – within I hold this amazing wealth of wisdom, and it’s only when I stop that I allow a connection to the Ageless Wisdom that is available to us all. It feels awe inspiring when I realise that this wisdom is equally available to us all – no one has to be special, as we all are special… and yet not, as we are all the same in our essence. 

For me the space that was offered was the Gentle Breath Meditation™. It is simple and allows me to come back to my body and get out of the busy-ness of the head. It offers me a stop moment where I can connect and take stock and appreciate the wonders and magic that life holds. As we connect to the power of stillness, we are claiming ourselves in our sacredness. 

I had already begun to look for ways to simplify my life – I began to organise my paperwork and let go of so many things that were not serving a purpose. I then refined this process as I realised how many things I had around me in my home were reminders of attachments to the past and in their way were holding me in the past, rather than living in the spaciousness that is offered by our future.  

I was gradually feeling the benefit of space within my home as I no longer wanted my cupboards to be full to the brim – they seem to reflect back to me the squeezed feeling that I was also feeling in my body and when life felt stressful, I instantly knew that the lack of space was something I would no longer tolerate. 

I often find the two things – my home and my body – go hand in hand: when I clear things out, I begin to appreciate space in a new way – for the clarity it offers. When I let go of the clutter that I have used to distract me from me, I am left with a feeling of being at one with myself and my surroundings and then both my home and my body feel so much more connected to everything, including the Universe. When I allow space to support me I can begin to have a relationship with what I can feel around me – the higher vibrations of the Universe and the pull that it is offering me to return to the gloriousness of being at one with the all.  

Visiting the elderly, I realised that they lived through their past as a way to relate to life. It felt very important to allow them to feel that they still had a place in society… that they were not a ‘waste of space.’ I know that as my mother aged she felt that she was a ‘burden’ as she required help to support her in her daily life. 

As I age I feel very fortunate to be surrounded by people who encourage me to live life to the full… to not ‘give up’ on life and to value all that I can offer. I am deeply appreciating the space that I can allow others when I come from a point of observation and allow them a place where they are free to expand their own understanding of life.  

Space is a blessing that we can all experience as it expands our common understanding of one another… and the Universe that holds us all eternally in its space.  

I am valuing the beauty of my unfolding life and how much this has changed and allowed me to expand my experience – and that the more I can widen my horizons the more energy I can feel within. As I surrender into the spaciousness that is God I am surrounded by a beholding love that holds us all in space: a steadiness and stillness that is eternal. 

By Susan Lee, Retired/Volunteer working with a Refugee Centre in Norwich, and also supporting people to have access to Computers and Mobile Phones, Volunteering at a Care Home, Norfolk, UK 

Further Reading:
Making Space
Space, God, Purpose and human existence
The Power of a Pause – Lessons from a Garage Door

542 thoughts on “Are we Appreciating or Wasting Space…? 

  1. As without so within, as above so below, why would such things not be related in this stupendous universe of ours? We all know how as within manifests without in many instances, just like a messy bedroom when we were kids.

  2. I am not sure that it is possible to waste space, because space is always there and it is impossible to destroy it or trash it but what we often do is ignore it and perhaps even pretend space doesn’t exist. An example, if we fill our bag up to the top, jam packed with stuff, in our eyes there is no space left but in every particle, there is still space and even when we jam things tightly together there is still space in between each object. Therefore, space is something we cannot eliminate, it is literally all around us and within every aspect of our life.

    1. Interesting to ponder on your comment – and I can feel that what you say is true and am therefore feeling into what we do truly waste and what we do not. Wasting according to the dictionary is when we use to no purpose, and that for me is paramount – when we live life with true purpose we are honouring and nothing is ‘wasted’.

  3. Someone pointed out to me recently how quickly I speak sometimes and I realised that not only is my speech fast, there are often no breaks, in other words, I am not providing any space for me to feel my words. When I slow down I can feel as I speak and know if what I am saying is relevant to the moment or not.

    1. Great point Carmel when we speak fast without breaks we are not really feeling what we are saying or giving space for maybe what needs to be said. Maybe it is a way of avoiding going deeper and expressing from our heart.

    1. Each detail of each moment is felt within space and the greater our appreciation we can then connect to a deeper depth – one that is eternal and beyond our human concepts.

  4. “As I surrender into the spaciousness that is God I am surrounded by a beholding love that holds us all in space: a steadiness and stillness that is eternal.” What a beautiful journey to share Susan, to know we are held in Love and allow the unfolding to grow.

  5. There is always more space than objects in a room or indeed in the open air. Yet we are taught to value the things we can see, ie physical objects, be they people or things. Learning to view space in a completely different way, as being full of divinity, I am appreciating space so much more.

    1. Interesting what you observe here Sue – it feels as though we have been set up not to appreciate space in all it’s glory and wisdom. Space offers us everything and yet we treat it with disregard.

    1. I know what you mean Kev, I get the sense of space being squashed when I allow my day to be governed by time. That feeling of denseness is a result of avoiding spaciousness, it doesn’t change the offering of space but it stops my body from connecting and surrendering to spaciousness.

  6. ‘Space is a word that is used, quite often casually, without realising the full beauty of the word and what it can offer us in our lives.’ I’ve heard the word space being used in a way that fully appreciates what it brings – this is very rare, usually it’s just a word used to describe a space without things in it. Since I’ve heard it used in a way that beholds its true depth I’ve started to connect to what it is all about and my whole understanding of life is changing.

  7. I love what you are sharing here, this is real wisdom from an elder and it is beautiful that you are sharing this with us all; ‘I am also feeling that time is no longer relevant – that in truth there is always the space to do what I need to do – and that if I become caught up in time, I can undervalue the quality and purpose of space.’

  8. One of my job descriptions is called ‘space planning’ which is designing the layout of a room or multiple rooms to make the flow and function of the space work for people to live and work in. One term we often use is ‘wasted space’ if we see that an area is not utilised and has too much space. So, even on a physical level, we seem to find spaciousness difficult to embrace, instead, we often want to fill it up with objects. I wonder if this is a reflection of how we relate to spaciousness in life on a physical and energetic level. 

    1. The word space has two meanings, one we use to describe the physical aspect of space and then the other is the multidimensional meaning of love. Two very different meaning of the same words but if we combine the two, this confirms that everything is in fact love. Without space, we would not be alive or be able to move.

    2. Interesting questions – when we take a photograph or draw a picture the space can be just as important as the busy part of the image and brings contrast and balance to the whole.

    1. Yes, we will do anything to avoid the space where we can meet God………we forget that God is not in judgement over us – he holds us eternally in his grace.

  9. Retirement can be very challenging and is certainly not all that it is at times made out to be; many people experience a sense of futility and lack of purpose after the first elation has passed. Boredom and despair can easily set in unless we live in the knowing that every breath counts, until our last breath.

    1. I see that around me a lot, older and/or retired people feeling lost, lonely, missing work and the purpose and connection with others this offered and looking for ways to fill their days. To be in service doesn’t stop when we are 65, but retirement can expose the lack of connection with ourselves.

      1. And how uncomfortable we are when no longer run by time and it’s confines – we have always dreamed of space but the reality can be terrifying.

    1. Yes, appreciation is key and also embrace living in spaciousness because anything less leaves tension in our body and therefore, tension on the rest of the world/universe.

  10. ‘Space is a blessing that we can all experience as it expands our common understanding of one another… and the Universe that holds us all eternally in its space.’
    Slowly, slowly I am getting a sense of the magnificence of space and how much it actually offers each of us all the time. I have not experienced yet more love in my life than holding another in space and being held in space. I can simply melt in universal tenderness and universal intimacy through this, something quite extraordinary and yet so natural.

  11. ‘When I allow space, the answer comes to me’, this captures that there is something about the nature of space that we can align to, receive and know to be true.

  12. My relationship with space is still developing Susan, as so much of my life has been lived in doing things, having lists to complete, living in time and with drive. It feels very powerful to know we have so much space all around us, how it holds us and supports us, and how we can access the flow of it so much more.

  13. Great article Susan, I can feel in my day when I get caught up in time and the huge difference when I am living with spaciousness. I can feel that there is an idea in society that we have to move quickly and get things done as quickly as possible but actually there is no quality in this, it just becomes about getting it done. Living with spaciousness and moving with this quality is very different and there is purpose and love in this way of being and moving.

  14. “If I become caught up in time, I can undervalue the quality and purpose of space”. I can relate to this as when I buy into time pressures, there is nothing more important than time. I become very myopic and focussed on the task and lose my connection to anything beyond me.

    1. A great point Fiona, when we buy into time pressure it only lets us think in that individualised, compartmentalised approach.

  15. In a world where we have started to pigeon hole people into what they can and cannot express, it is a wonderful gift to offer others the space to know and express the magic of all that they are.

  16. To simplify my life is a continuous, purposeful movement. As I build my relationship with simplicity there is an impulse to want more… to be open and willing to bring more simplicity into my life. I went shopping yesterday and responded to what was needed. It was easy and simple – not something I have experienced in the past!

    1. ‘To simplify my life is a continuous, purposeful movement’ – a movement which cuts through any moment of hesitation or indecision that may try to intercept us from our true purpose.

      1. Beautifully said Susan. When we hesitate or are indecisive we create complication… we contract and space is condensed and reduced; there is then no absoluteness in the connection to our body and what we know is true.

  17. When The Gentle Breath Meditation becomes an everyday expression, it supports us to be present with ourselves. If, for example, something or someone is not moving in a way or pace we expect, connecting to The Gentle Breath brings us back and holds us in space and allows us to be with another in love, not anxiousness.

    1. Explaining the Gentle Breath Meditation in this way makes such sense – as we release ourselves from the hold of anxiety we can be fully present in the world and hold a space that allows the all to expand. Our hearts open wide and let in love…….

  18. “This perception of retirement is one that erodes our sense of purpose and we end up with a life of indulgence – and feeling lost.” This is an interesting statement and from observing generally I feel it relates to us all, when we loose our sense of purpose life becomes lack lustre and a breeding ground for uncertainty.

  19. Space is beholding and does not judge; we can fill it with clutter, non-sense or with purpose, it does not mind and forever accords free will. Our body then tells us what we have done with it, whether we have aligned to its qualities and deepened or whether we have treated it as a piece of empty and insignificant nothingness.

    1. Space is love, so if we are surround by space, inside and outside our body, doesn’t this mean we are surrounded by love and made of love?

  20. I never really gave any thought to the meaning of space. I never considered it nothing. I really thought though that it was out their somewhere. Out in space. But space is something that is being examined and questioned with great interest and certainly Serge Benhayon’s writings, comments and discussions on space have revealed a great deal more to space than I could have ever imagined. Space is something that we will over time understand more about what it is and what our relationship is to it and how we move through it constantly and what this means.

    1. Space is ubiquitous and there is more space than matter – space is all around us and right throughout our body. It is then up to us what we make of it, whether we ignore and neglect or honour and deepen into it.

      1. With your beautiful words Gabriele I can feel the all embracing nature of space and in this holding it nurtures and holds us until we are ready to return to the infinite love of God.

    2. I agree Jennifer ‘Space is something that we will over time understand more about what it is and what our relationship is to it and how we move through it constantly and what this means’ until we fully accept the grace of God and surrender fully to our inevitable infinite future as a fully integrated part of the Universe.

      1. “until we fully accept the grace of God and surrender fully to our inevitable infinite future as a fully integrated part of the Universe.” – Very beautifully said Susan.

  21. I never really gave any thought to the meaning of space. I never considered it nothing. I really thought though that it was out their somewhere. Out in space. But space is something that is being examined and questioned with great interest and certainly Serge Benhayon’s writings, comments and discussions on space have revealed a great deal more to space than I could have ever imagined. Space is something that we will over time understand more about what it is and what our relationship is to it and how we move through it constantly and what this means.

  22. It is great for me to come back to this blog to remind me that the spaciousness within the body can only be felt and lived when our homes hold this space equally.

  23. Appreciation expands space which is perhaps why we are such masters of densing it up by our continual negation of self. More space = more responsibility. Space is God’s communication field and whether we choose to expand it or shrink it will depend on how much we are open and responsive to that which is being communicated through it.

    1. Once we accept that ‘Space is God’s communication field’ it offers a depth and understanding of the beholding love of God. What else can hold us so magnificently and reverently?

  24. When we give someone the space to feel what they are feeling or express what they want to express the distance between us is palpable, for us both to feel the deepening as the space is honoured.

    1. ‘for us both to feel the deepening as the space is honoured’ – this is the magic of God and the Universe at play – so clear and so simple and yet so profound.

  25. ‘I often find the two things – my home and my body – go hand in hand: when I clear things out, I begin to appreciate space in a new way – for the clarity it offers.’ – Me too, I love clearing out and the space that naturally follows.

      1. Beautifully said Simon, I love how space never judges, never blames, never rushes, never gets caught up in drama or time, it simply is, forever present with everything. A beautiful reflection, or reference point, for how we can be.

  26. After most of my life, allowing myself to be ruled by time, and often exhausted in the process, I am loving my growing understanding of space. And what a difference this understanding has made to my life. Yes, it definitely feels more spacious, a wonderfully freeing and expansive feeling in me and around me, and if I should drop back into time mode, I can feel the tension instantly in my body. I am loving learning about space and know that the lessons are endless.

    1. Yes Ingrid, to get to know space and the endless lessons it offers I am also learning about time and my relationship with time. When I am governed by time I give my body over and sure enough I get exhausted. It is through the acknowledgment and understanding of time and the impact it has on my body that I am getting to sense that living in time is not it and this is opening the door to find out more about space and what that actually means and looks like in my daily living.

  27. I have seen many people struggle with retirement because their usual busy full routine changes and they are suddenly faced with the reality of how much they really enjoy their life and how much purpose they have in their life. It can also be a place people retreat from the world into and can have a detrimental effect on their health as they stop engaging or committing to life and people around them in the same way.

  28. The power of appreciation can’t be denied, we each have to make the choice to appreciate ourselves however, that is for us and only us to do. We can only save ourselves.

    1. I find that whenever I used to feel caught up in life, in what is going on I ended up using the Gentle breath to reconnect back to me.

      1. As with our breath itself, the Gentle Breath Meditation™ is always there to choose until our last breath.

  29. When something’s squeezed the view is distorted and in distortion it’s harder to appreciate simply because sight has been lessened. With space and therefore sight, appreciation is clearer.

  30. Forcing things to happen according to our own picture of a fixed timescale, instead of tuning into the feeling of when something feels right or not, puts a great deal of pressure on ourselves and others, and makes us feel compressed. When we let go and allow the space, life flows far more simply and effortlessly.

    1. Agreed, looking back it can seem crazy that we try and control how and when so many things happen in life rather than bring our all and work with the universe to complete all that is there to be completed.

    2. Forcing is imposing our will over that of God’s – How arrogant we have become to feel that we are mightier and more powerful. As you say Bryony ‘When we let go and allow the space, life flows far more simply and effortlessly – and more honouring to the Universe.

  31. I undervalued space for a very long time, considering it as sort of ‘nothing’ and of no use or purpose to us. Also not wanting to be aware of how much I love feeling space in my body, in my house and in my life. Recently I realized that space contains actually everything, so the complete opposite of nothing, and how much love and pure wisdom this actually is.

  32. Space is definitely not empty, but that is how we often perceive it to be and make it like when we sever our relationship with it and don’t allow what is there being communicated to be received.

    1. To be offered such a gift and then to ignore is churlish and disrespectful in the extreme. One day we will all appreciate space for what it is – a precious blessing from heaven.

  33. We live in a way where we are constantly wishing we had more space but often doing nothing to access it. It is a crazy situation when there is actually so much of it and we are being invited into it all the time. As you have expressed Susan, we are actually surrounded by it and it is everywhere if we want to connect to it.

  34. “As I surrender into the spaciousness that is God I am surrounded by a beholding love that holds us all in space: a steadiness and stillness that is eternal.” Beautiful Susan this says it all and is a real gift to know and inspiration to feel.

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