Being a Student of Life

I am a student of life: I know and feel the truth that there is always much to learn in life every day. To me, life is always presenting the opportunity to learn – as it challenges and inspires me constantly, in every moment.

Being a student of life means that every day I have the choice as to how I live and move within my life. I know within my deepest heart that I am the master of my life and how I choose to live it… I can feel the many opportunities that present for me to grow and deepen my ability to be myself in full. For instance, there are many behaviours that I have taken on over time that really don’t support me – in fact I can clearly see that these behaviours really don’t support anyone else around me either. Like getting angry and reacting to things in life I get triggered by because I’m not seeing what’s really going on in situations, by choosing to withdraw from life when I am confronted by the intensity of things I don’t think I can face (or don’t want to), allowing abusive thoughts to dictate my life or not listening to what my body is telling me it needs – such as not moving in a way that supports it, or eating foods it tells me don’t nourish it.

I’ve noticed lately that when I’m breathing in a really controlled, stuffy, shallow way I can’t feel my body and instead I stay stuck in my head, distracted by my thoughts. Once I notice this I realise that I can take full stock of the fact that I can breathe, open my chest and feel my whole body with a very real connection to and appreciation of this precious vehicle that carries me through my day. The importance of being a student of life, I have realised, is the enormous responsibility I have in my everyday choices in how I live this life, and how it affects myself and others in either a harming or healing way.

The teachings of Universal Medicine have offered me a chance to really have a look at how I live, and how we live as a society. It’s my choices every day that are the living open book I am writing of my life and the others I share life with… I now realise that how I live profoundly affects not only me, but others around me as well. We are not living as isolated beings from each other as we may wish to believe. It is an illusion to see it any other way. Each of us are intrinsically, simply together on this planet – sharing this space in us and around us.

I now consider every day as an opportunity to take stock and actually look at what is going on in my life so that I can bring more of myself to the world and this has allowed me to begin to heal that which does not and could never work for me or others. This also in turn inspires another to be themselves in the very same way – instead of being ‘victims’ of life – being on the backfoot of life. This is evident in how many of us live; with the increase in illnesses and disease we currently have: the mental, emotional and physical disharmony, due to accepting a lesser state than the truly loving divine and joyful beings we are.

I deeply appreciate the opportunity I now give myself to be on the front foot with life. To live and be open to seeing the things that are there every day – although they at times may be very challenging – as opportunities to learn and grow. In being a student of life, I am developing more truthful and loving relationships, healing behaviours that no longer support me or others, and accepting that it is my responsibility to live in such a way.

By Carmen Iredale, Home Cleaner, Swimming Teacher, lover of people and being the love that I am, NSW 

Further Reading:
Tools for Life
The classroom of life
Reaction versus response

112 thoughts on “Being a Student of Life

  1. Each day this week I’ve spoken with people who have opened up and shared their innermost and honest feelings about caring for loved ones. These conversations inspired me to write about family and care and is an example of how we are presented with the next level of learning by our Soul. It is offered, we accept it, or not.

  2. Being a student of life is to attend the most important school there is though most play hooky through drugs, alcohol, sport, work, etc.

  3. I have been a student many times in life. Each time there’s a cycle that’s gone a little like this – excitement or dread about the course, worry about if I have the abilities, stress, lots of writing and hard work followed by relief, indeed a lot of relief. I’ve transposed a lot of this onto being a student of life and am coming to terms with it being a continuous path -though I know this will evolve to being joyful as I embrace that it’s never about me working alone, but with the support of the universe and God.

  4. Being a student of life has supported me to be in an interactive relationship with life, a two way dalliance that feels like it’s getting deeper and deeper and definitely more beautiful and decidedly more roomy.

  5. Like a pebble thrown into a pond that sends out ripples, so too do all our actions and thoughts ripple out to affect others.

  6. I so agree Carmen – being a student of life allows us the privilege to choose in every moment how our day will be. It feels empowering to understand that in any one moment I can come back to me and feel my body and the impact of my movements on others – life becomes all embracing and not so intensely focused as it can be when we lose connection with the multi dimensional pulse that supports us all to live as one.

  7. The forever student, lives without pictures of what life should be and remains ever open and accepting of what it presents.

    1. I so agree Kehinde. Having pictures and expectations of ‘how things should be’ is a killer in any relationship. Staying open to what may present is key.

  8. So much energy, attention and resources spent creating students of formal and flawed education systems, and so little devoted to guiding us to become true students in the school of life.

  9. Great point Alexis. It’s true that we are relating on a below level standard in our relationships – one person’s hurts and behaviours can be played out against anothers and there is no true relationship. Thanks for the reminder of what a truthful relationship lived is ~ to express from our wholeness the innate oneness and universality of us.

  10. Being on the front foot used to come with all sorts of ideas about having to plan ahead, duck and dive from possible confrontation or complication – in fact I made life complicated thinking it was this which turned me off ‘front-footing’. Reading this and feeling how, when I stay with the settlement within myself, I realise I am on the front foot for whatever is presented to me in life. Being settled provides a foundation that I can move forward from, there is a knowing in my response, no being taken off course by a myriad of choice. There are practical things to do but no effort required.

  11. Thank you Carmen. Our responsibility simply presented and with this the joy that awaits when we do connect to our bodies and allow ourselves to feel the very natural relationship with heaven that we all have.

  12. We all have a responsibility, every single person on the planet, and when we finally wake up and truly realise this it is such a blessing on so many levels 💫

  13. Living as a student of life, allows me to learn and embrace more of myself in every step, re-connecting to my inner wisdom, responding from there to what’s next, without images or investments. This is an amazing path of surrender and reclaiming of what I always was and will be.

    1. I love this embracing more of oneself because it’s also then embracing all of life and other people too. And the embracing part feels very loving and nurturing.

  14. I have to be honest and say a lot of my life I’ve wished to switch off and say, yep I’ve done enough for today I need a break- eat loads, watch TV etc. Like today I was super transparent with some people and their response was really supportive. Now I could go back into my shell and shut out the world, or I could just stay present. I could be curious, what is it now that I wish to retreat from? What’s the next learning?

    Writing this I realised I put on myself that I need to be a certain way so the next time I meet these people I’ll be met with acceptance and love. But actually, I don’t have to perform or live up to an expectation or ideal – which is very exhausting.

    When I let go and be, then there’s no need to take a break. When I’m trying to be anything other than myself or do more than what’s being asked, I’m not listening to what’s already in place to bring through. Perhaps life isn’t the struggle I make it!

  15. From my own experience choosing to withdraw is a trap because you cannot read what is happening in life any more. It’s as though you give your body over to another energy because you cannot be bothered to participate in life and then that energy expresses through you and you are not you anymore.

  16. We’re all in the classroom of Life, I suppose the significance is in the knowing that we are. Once we know that we are then life feels very different. It feels to me that the pace quickens and that there is an interactivity with Life that actually becomes deliciously intimate.

    1. The more I accept my studentship the more open I am to all the learning that every day offers. In the past I had a strict picture of what I needed to be to be acceptable. The embracing of the forever learning is one of the most freeing choices I have made.

      1. I got a real sense of space Matilda when I read your comment, a sense of space that I too have felt. Gone is the self recrimination and in it’s way is simply an allowing for me to do, say and think whatever, knowing that my awareness and commitment to life are increasing and so with that comes natural change.

  17. For so many of us studying has felt boring or like a total waste of time. Studying has often felt pointless or even futile. Many of us have struggled to understand the subjects that we have been studying and at times we have simply given up as something has just been too hard. But being a student of Life is not at all like that because the learning is specific to each of us. A curriculum that is tailor made to our needs and not a single lesson that is un achievable. How amazing and how beautiful is that? Oh and there is no such thing as pass and fail, even better!

  18. Reading how we react because we are not seeing the full picture is really asking me to contemplate this more fully. Any time I feel a reaction I can stop and ask myself, ok, what is it I’m not seeing? It takes away the personal and makes it into a lesson. I do do this but to really confirm there is always more and to seek support if needed is very supportive.

  19. “For instance, there are many behaviours that I have taken on over time that really don’t support me – in fact, I can clearly see that these behaviours really don’t support anyone else around me either” and this is the litmus test isn’t it Carmen, if it doesn’t support us then it can’t possibly support anyone else but I have spent so many years thinking that I was supporting others whilst simultaneously wearing myself down. Now I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that I and everybody else are intrinsically linked, we are One United Being and so anything that wears me down wears down the whole, it can’t but not, regardless of the beliefs that I hold.

  20. The truth is something that each and every one of us knows inside out, it’s just that we do an incredible job at either denying it or ignoring it because to acknowledge the truth would interfere with our reckless ways and we’re not prepared to reign in our behaviour and align to our soul. Yet.

  21. This was a stop moment for me when I read this.
    “I know within my deepest heart that I am the master of my life and how I choose to live it”
    What many human beings have done over the course of many lifetimes is give their power away to another energy for security. We have traded our power to determine our own destination for the sake of security and a comfortable life. Coming out of this can be difficult because lifetimes ago we signed an agreement with another energy and that energy still wants to own us, so breaking the contract can be difficult because it owns the body through the contract signed.

    1. Thank you Mary. Great expose on the energy that has been running our bodies that we signed up for. It is that we know it that is difficult, for to turn the massive tanker and our momentums around takes healing, support and loving ourselves as we go.

  22. “It’s my choices every day that are the living open book I am writing of my life and the others I share life with”. Reading these very wise words, I can feel so strongly, that if they were shared with us from young that we would grow up naturally knowing that we are responsible for every single choice we make, as every single choice not only affects us, but all. Yes it is our book to write, but it is in the living of what we write, that we come to understand that every word is being written for another.

  23. It really is a gift to see/consider everything as important, and that what we do and say and how we approach situations and people matters. It is not a burden or a pressure, it is being committed to being aware of the impact we have in this big pool of water we live in.

  24. ‘I know within my deepest heart that I am the master of my life and how I choose to live it…’ Embracing this rather than denying the truth we are masters of our lives is powerful.

  25. Being an active student of life takes the ‘perfection pressure’ off – school wants us to be good at something, our work, our family life all have these expectations that we need to be a certain way, and that is usually pretty perfect to someone else’s definition of the word. But being a student means to me that we know we won’t get it all the time and we are learning to be all we are in a world that is set up to lessen who we are at every turn.

    1. So true revans. Being a student means we don’t have to get it right. We may not always fit a picture of what we think or how we need to live. But be open to learning and coming from our heart and truth in life. As you say the world is set up for us to not live like this. Hence the joy and grace of being a student of life.

    2. There is something so honouring and loving about applying the student of life philosophy. It brings so much understanding and space to life and the learning opportunities that are constantly on offer. We do not need to be anything just willing to learn.

      1. I agree Matilda that by choosing to be a student of life we open life up, as opposed to the closed and clamped down view that so many of us hold about life. The truth is we restrict ourselves, we willingly climb into straight jackets and zip ourselves up at the back and we do this by taking on beliefs (all of which are restrictive), we hold onto small pictures of how life and people should be and we choose an energy that does nothing other than reduce and belittle the truth of who we all are. It truly is time to choose something different if we want a different outcome.

  26. Being a student of life is fascinating because there is so much going on underneath the surface of it that we are just not responding to. We are so caught up by the pictures we have been given. It’s like we are so bedazzled by the wrapping paper we have forgotten to unwrap the present.

  27. Reading this I’m getting a deeper understanding of my life and how I was so frustrated with myself, with God, with everyone, because I was trying to live my life from my head and the shoulds and should nots that I tried to adhere to but couldn’t because I wasn’t connecting with my body. I was refusing to feel. Instead I was in constant judgement of right and wrong. Learning what there is to learn and dropping the judgement is making all the difference, opening to an acceptance of life that’s grand and loving. No need to ‘sweat the small stuff’ or any stuff when accepting all that each day brings for me to learn and heal. Dropping the fight.

  28. I loved your example of the breath Carmen, how when we bring focus to that quality our thoughts change, our heart is opened and the breath that we breathe out is a blessing for everyone. What you have shown is that it’s all about quality and detail, which is the mastery, not a big try-hard goal or drive.

    1. Great thanks Bernadette. Yes it’s great to remember the simplicity of living in life with connection to our breath and our body.

  29. ” instead of being ‘victims’ of life ”
    This is a great learning and a great reflection for anyone that wants to take notice. For there are a lot of people whose life is lived in ” victim of life ” and it looks like there is no way out.

    1. Assuming the identity of being a ‘victim of life’ is no different to assuming the identity of being a ‘champion of life’. Same, same but different. They are both false identities that we choose to take on in place of being who we truly are. Just different overcoats that’s all.

  30. Thank you Carmen, adding to what you have shared; Truth lives within us, so when we seek from our Soul-full-essences, the understanding we get from our connection is our true responsibility to walk in a way that supports us in our True Livingness.

  31. “It’s my choices every day that are the living open book I am writing of my life and the others I share life with…” And it is there for everyone to read so to speak, to feel and be inspired by, to know that there are other possibilities, to witness the reflection of another that offers an advance for how life can be.

  32. One day we will all be students in Life, all actively engaged in the process of evolution. How incredible will it be when we are all dedicated to the same one purpose, the purpose of evolving the All and the Everything.

  33. I’m developing an appreciation of what challenges me because this truly is an opportunity to grow, often because I’ve ignored things to the point that I am challenged and cannot step forward without addressing what’s there. This is such a different way of seeing life from when I used to bemoan my ‘lot’.

  34. “To be on the front foot in life.” There’s a challenge for me. Yet, rather than waiting for events to unfold if I’m aware of the energies at play I’m less likely to get caught out.

  35. Universal Medicine teachings have certainly supported me to look at my everyday living and how that affects not only myself but everyone around me too

  36. Just to hear you say that you are a student of life is beautiful, as I feel this is what we have all forgotten. We make life about function which completely misses the depth that we can go to with ourselves if we just allow the magic of life that is there to flow through us.

    1. Reading how we react because we are not seeing the full picture is really asking me to contemplate this more fully. Any time I feel a reaction I can stop and ask myself, ok, what is it I’m not seeing? It takes away the personal and makes it into a lesson. I do do this but to really confirm there is always more and to seek support if needed is very supportive.

  37. ‘The importance of being a student of life, I have realised, is the enormous responsibility I have in my everyday choices in how I live this life, and how it affects myself and others in either a harming or healing way’. This is so true and very powerful to know that we are the orchestrators of our own lives and the choices to be the love we are in full is up to us. Simple really – are we saying ‘Yes’ to all that is on offer or are we saying ‘No’.

  38. “The truly loving divine and joyful beings we are” we are aren’t we, but we have made choices that have currently lead to us believing that we’re hard done by, picked on, marginalised, under the pump, up against it. Or even if we don’t believe any of that and think that we’re okay, or even that life is good or great, this is still a vastly diminished representation of the truth.

    1. Yes I’m slowly realizing how amazing every single one of us is, yet many of us are living at a diminished level. Bringing appreciation into my life, rather than looking at where I’m not coming up to scratch, is making a difference to my life.

      1. There is something to be appreciated in every single situation, we may have to search through a pile of rotting rubble to find it, but it will be there and by finding it and highlighting it, we have the power to change the situation, often quite remarkably.

  39. “I now realise that how I live profoundly affects not only me, but others around me as well”, agreed Carmen. We are the One United Whole, there is no such thing as either living in isolation or moving in separation.

    1. Yes thanks Alexis. No escaping of this fact. To live from my heart and wisdom feels way more true than being at the mercy of what life throws me.

  40. Reconnecting to the truth of who we all are is very powerful and an inspiration in the way we choose to live.

  41. The forever student, does not find life dull or mundane, rather each day is full of possibilities to learn and deepen awareness of our innate divinity, and connectedness to all others.

      1. I love this Lucy, I recently started another new job which involves steam ironing mens business shirts. It is a repetitive job doing maybe 100 shirts at once yet I love that – as you say each moment is rich and constantly expansive – I am constantly reminded although it is the same thing over and over to bring my sensitivity, care and attention to detail with holding and touching the material when I am handling the shirts. Some very loved shirts!

  42. “The living open book I am writing of my life and the others I share life with” – this really stood out for me. Indeed, we are living and writing this book constantly, with every word uttered, every thought contemplated, every step, every movement, every breath we take is a word, coming from what we have allowed ourselves to be inspired by, and exhaled out in expression – that form this living book, which leaves an imprint for others to read as we live it, as well as in time to come.

  43. “To live and be open to seeing the things that are there every day – although they at times may be very challenging – as opportunities to learn and grow.” That is really a wonderful way of living as it seems to be so much simpler – even if there are challenges – as so there is the possibility to go with the flow and not working against it what could causes complications and hurts.

    1. Hi Ester, there seems to be the possibility in life to either let it gobble you up with all your issues and problems and get in many holes or stay steady and bring you and your all to life regardless of what comes. What i am learning is that I am imperfect and it is giving me a chance to live more from my heart and not be so hard on myself and my imperfections. And as you say go with the flow of life.

  44. I always loved that feeling when you totally embraced a study or project and gave it your all, keen to learn more not just tick a box. Reading this makes it clear we can all bring this joy of learning to living our life.

    1. Ah yes totally. There is a lot of box ticking in life but actually there need not be. I don’t mean by getting rid of ticking boxes, but of bringing one’s all to what’s being asked and really connecting to purpose. Nothing is then ever a chore or remotely arduous.

  45. Thank you Carmen for the reminder that we are precious divine beings who are not the sum of our behaviours, but much more. And how easy it is to drop the responsibility and awareness that all our actions and movements affect everyone around us, and therefore how important it is to consider the quality of these – are they inspiring or are they shutting others out?

  46. Thank you Carmen for the reminder that we are precious divine beings who are not the sum of our outside behaviours, but much more. And how easy it is to drop the responsibility and awareness that all our actions and movements affect everyone around us and therefore how important it is to consider the quality of these – are they inspiring others or are they shutting others out?

    1. Most of us know ourselves by our ‘outside behaviours’ and yet these are totally made up, there is no truth in them whatsoever. Our behaviours are flimsy interchangeable components that make up our human characteristics from one lifetime to the next, they have absolutely nothing whatsoever to do with the unalterable constantness of our soul.

    2. Thanks Gina. Yes we are so much more than our behaviours. The living of our soul in life to the best of our ability is what brings joy and harmony to ourselves and others.

      1. ‘We are so much more than our behaviours’ agreed Carmen but we are currently totally and utterly blindsided by not only our behaviours but the behaviours of others, so much so that life consists of people’s behaviours interacting with other people’s behaviours, we are currently nowhere near interacting with each other on a soul level. But one day we will be, so much so that the only interactions that we’ll have with each other and with life will be on a soul level.

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