2004 was one of my most disastrous years. My marriage had broken down. I had no real job. Financially I was totally dependent on my husband. Emotionally I was unstable and did not feel either like a woman or a good mother. On top of this, a friend of mine died at the age of 30 after ‘a simple operation’ to her knee and left behind a husband and two little kids.

I did try to fix all the things on the outside by doing sports and having affairs to fill my lack of self-love, trying to confirm that I was ‘functioning’ as a woman. I started to smoke cigarettes (and the occasional joint). I was involved in as much emotional drama as I could create. And also I looked at some spiritual pursuits, healers and NLP. This made me feel ‘alive’.

I threw myself into caring for my friend’s two children and their alcohol-dependent father. This made me feel useful and gave me recognition and the feeling I was doing something good. Continue reading “Brought Back to Life” →

by CB, Belgium

How would it be if you met someone who simply lets you be who you are, who does not need anything from you, does not want you to change, does not push you into something or expects you to be a certain way or do something for them? How would it be to be truly met for the amazing beautiful person that you are? Who does not judge the choices that you have made and does not identify you with your defence mechanisms and behaviours? Someone who simply loves you and shows you you are that love too?  Continue reading “There is Another Way To Be” →

by Cherise Holt, Australia

When I was 21 I married my best friend and in total we shared 11 years of our life together. Our relationship was happy and loving. We were easy going and always made sensible, grown up decisions for ourselves. We were great with our money, dedicated to our work and study, we had built our dream family home and planned out our future together. Our motto was ‘together forever’ and we would add ‘TF’ to the end of almost every text message and post-it note.

When I first saw my practitioner 20 months ago I had introduced myself, spoken about work, food, lifestyle and I slipped in “I should also mention my husband has suddenly left one month ago”. I had felt the shock of the situation but I never felt that I was a victim of it or of him. I had never asked him to come back to me because even though he struggled to give me a few reasons as to why he was leaving he had said to me “he didn’t feel like he was being himself”. Amongst the questions that I had in my own head I couldn’t deny that these words he had spoken were completely true. I could feel exactly what he meant by them and I could see it in his eyes. Continue reading “Divorce – A Gift of Love” →