There is Another Way To Be

by CB, Belgium

How would it be if you met someone who simply lets you be who you are, who does not need anything from you, does not want you to change, does not push you into something or expects you to be a certain way or do something for them? How would it be to be truly met for the amazing beautiful person that you are? Who does not judge the choices that you have made and does not identify you with your defence mechanisms and behaviours? Someone who simply loves you and shows you you are that love too? 

Wow, wouldn’t that be special? But not very realistic you say? That’s just not the way people are?

But it is: I have those people in my life now and know many that are learning to be that way once again as I am myself. Through being a student of  Universal Medicine and therefore a student of myself and life, I have found that there is another way to be, both for myself as with others.

We all are all that innately but through our experiences and hurts we have left our true selves. But we do not have to stay that way, we have a choice. A choice to return to the loveliness we are and always have been within, in our innermost. That is the esoteric.

161 thoughts on “There is Another Way To Be

  1. Couldn’t agree with you more, to simply let you be you. Not pleasing, performing, restricted, moulding, false, trying, for personal gains and the list could go on. Just to simply be you, and see you for who you truly are. Yes, that is what Universal Medicine offers and more, if you so wish.

  2. Such a simple and beautiful way to describe what esoteric is about. I’m blessed today by having these kind of relationships in which I’m met for who I am, no matter what. This feels to me very supportive and very confirming about the way the whole of Humanity one day will be.

  3. … and what if that ‘another way to be’ is indeed the way we always were and actually are? It is no wonder that once we experience it, we really feel at home.

  4. I often feel that those closest to us can be the hardest for us to truly accept and appreciate for who they truly are. As I feel we can often get caught up in the everyday dilemmas of their and our own hurts and expectations that we place on one another. Having said that “There is always another way” one that I am daily exploring in my life. Responding without reaction to all I meet along my way.

  5. This is the beauty of knowing your essence and meeting others in theirs, and the beauty of a community (such as the Universal Medicine student body) dedicated to learning this and offering it to everyone they meet. Because we largely as a global community don’t live our essence, our relationships can actually be arrangements, with expectations, unwritten rules, conditions, needs, and seeking others to fill the emptiness of not living connected to our own loving essence. Once we begin living from our essence it’s like having to reverse out of the falsities, seeing and nominating the impositions we both hold others in and allow onto ourselves, so we can instead then be the love we naturally are – exactly as you describe in your first paragraph.

  6. What a wonderful explanation of the Esoteric – the who we are below all the what we do, what we look like, what clubs, groups and events we join. In our inner-most there is no opportunity to judge because there is an understanding of our equal-ness.

  7. We often speak of an “utopian” world where everything is love and harmony, and we think that it’s impossible to achieve. Yet, both love and harmony are in our inner hearts – in the core centres of our being. That is where we come from and that is where we so want to return to – Universal Medicine has been showing its possible for over 19 years now.

  8. There is a way to be in life that is very lovely and joy full. Not without tension or at times stress and that attraction to be an individual but those need not dominate to the point of deterioration of our health. Thank God for Serge Benhayon living this way and many more inspired others.

  9. I know that one, to be around someone that just lets you be who you are is actually quite rare because we all carry some form of expectation of how the world around us should look like.

  10. It’s really great to know people who don’t push me to be anything but me, but yes the greatest thing is to be myself the first one who treats me in that way.

  11. It is starting to become clear to me that the esoteric heart is only just the beginning, and that there is in fact much much more to discover, learn about and live.

  12. Life offers us constantly occasions where we are asked to change, to be and act differently based on someone else’s assessment of what and who we are not (and need to be). Yet, for some, life has offered the rare privilege of being met by someone who sees you first for what and who you are and holds you in that, independently of how you hold yourself. Since what and who you are is independent of what you portrait to be, what you do with your self-portrait is up to you and irrelevant since you will be yourself anyway.

  13. As I read this I contemplated- how often do we give ourselves the grace and just allow ourselves to be without any judgement or condemnation. When we do this with ourselves we are then also able to offer this to others.

  14. Thank you CB, you have summed up so succinctly what it is to offer others true love and the joy of receiving this from others, and also returning to love to live this for ourselves. There can be no true greater reason to celebrate.

  15. Thank you CB for your sharing, when we let go of expectations, pictures, and live in the fullness of who we are there are no boundaries to what is possible.

  16. When I read the first paragraph, I get a sense of how we have been so deeply conditioned to live in a constrained world, not knowing the grandness of who we truly are, that it feels as though we actually need someone to need something from us, expect us to be a certain way, want us to do something for them to feel like there’s a purpose/structure in life, that we are actually very scared of being totally free.

  17. It is deeply healing to be met for who we are, all that we are in essence, and in experiencing this with Serge Benhayon, I have been inspired to explore all that I innately am and here to live. A deep sense of trust is restored when we meet another for who they are in essence, as we begin to break down the walls of protection we have erected from our hurts of not being loved for you we are, by ourselves and by others.

  18. Thank you CB, I appreciated these words about how people can inspire us, someone “who does not need anything from you, does not want you to change, does not push you into something or expects you to be a certain way or do something for them?” That small sentence encompasses so much about what is unsupportive and unhealthy in relationships, the needs, expectations and arrangements, and how imposing these things are. Love in it’s true form is something that transforms relationships because there is no need or picture, there is space to be all that you are and exactly where you are at with no expectations, and love meets you in the truth you are. I have experienced this continually from Serge Benhayon, and it’s amazing.

    1. It is amazing to experience this Melinda, ‘Love in it’s true form is something that transforms relationships because there is no need or picture, there is space to be all that you are and exactly where you are at with no expectations’.

  19. Having such a person in your life is life changing. And a huge blessing to know that I too can and am learning to once again hold others equally in love without conditions.

  20. The joy of being met for who we are and not what we do is a joy to behold and appreciate and meet others in.

  21. The joy of being met for who we are and not what we do is a joy to behold and appreciate and met others in.

  22. It’s interesting to witness that once you open yourself up to the possibility that you don’t have to ‘try’ so hard and that you might just already be enough, you start to attract the kind of support that will help you turn that possibility into a reality as they remind and confirm you that you are enough, and that they don’t want or need anymore from you than what you have to offer.

  23. Allowing someone the space in which to make their own changes, in their own time, is a great gift we can offer ourselves and others. It’s not about being the silent observer – there are times where what we observe needs to be expressed, for another to hear it, but the way we do this, and the space we offer with it, matters.

    1. That feeling of space inside is absolutely precious… what we can feel, the wisdom that is available, and what is there to share with the world is absolute gold.

  24. It is incredibly supportive and inspirational to have people in my life that do not judge me but accept me for the beautiful woman that I am and to build upon the markers in my body to remind me what that feels like. It exposes those moments when I have felt judged by another and instead of observing I allowed the thoughts to affect me because I went into comparison with an expectation instead of holding the love I am. To know what it feels like to not be judged and claim it within my body inspires me to look at my relationship with judgement and how it plays out in my life.

  25. I struggled through many years of this life, with its many ups and downs, but all the while having a sense that there was “another way to be”, another way to live this life that I was finding so hard to live. It was not until I found Universal Medicine that I discovered that the life I had suspected was possible actually was; that was the moment I felt as if I had returned home to me.

  26. That person was Serge Benhayon for me in this life. Showing me what love is, that I am that same love and that even though I have defence mechanisms and behaviors he never saw them as me – in this way I started to feel that I was indeed something else, not the mechanisms and behaviors I had identified with – but this loving beingness I got inspired to re-connect to by seeing Serge Benhayon and the family living. It was by their simple movements: how they did the washing, how they folded up the towels to how they would eat and prepare the food etc. Equally to how they would speak in such gentle matter to people with so much respect, in how they would approach people making no difference between family members or people on the street. I have observed them closely and got inspired by their movements – how steady they were within themselves; which was palpable to how they would treat themselves, talked about themselves and how they would have these full days but never forgot themselves in it! Profound.
    A beautiful experience to see how love is being lived and being so close a testimony was the moment my light switched on, or actually I chose to switch it back on; with a little help… A very true supportive help – reflection, my experience with this family.

    1. It’s an amazing experience Danna, thank your for sharing. It shows that living love is not a lofty concept but able to be lived across all areas of life, including in the most practical and mundane activities, and equally with all. Very inspiring. The very nature of reflection is also so non-imposing as it allows us to decide what we wish to do with what’s being reflected.

  27. It is an amazing feeling to have the type of people in one’s life as you have described. It has been 10 years for me now that I have had those type of people in my life and I may still be a student but I am becoming one myself filled with love and light for all.

  28. To me, this blog is describing our relationship with God – He who does not judge and constantly holds us for the purity and divinity we are and never less than that.

  29. So true, being surrounded by people who are living from who they truly are is awesome to be around. When things are upsetting, hurtful, this offers us a reflection of the next thing that needs to be healed instead of holding them to ransom for years or centuries – love it and truly freeing.

  30. Are we talking about a simple true connection, one that starts with how we are with ourselves, knowing that for every point after that that true connection then walks out everywhere. What better way to live than to live whatever you see is needed first. No talking required as all is communicated before your mouth moves. It may seem idealistic to some and then to others it’s an actuality, it’s the truth. Neither are right or wrong as everything is our choice on how we see things. For me, true connection with how I am feeling at every point is a growth and expansion that walks me differently to the world in every moment, the appreciation of this “growth and expansion” gives me a platform to step to the next part. When I write this, it makes life and what I do so so simple, truly connect and appreciate what you feel from there and repeat.

  31. Such is the nature of true love with all it’s beautiful upholding qualities, emanating from our inner heart which is held by every human being whether they have connected it or not.

  32. What a great question to ask….

    “How would it be to be truly met for the amazing beautiful person that you are? Who does not judge the choices that you have made and does not identify you with your defence mechanisms and behaviours?”

    This sentence and article have reminded me of the kind of person I am naturally but sometimes lose through my own hurts. I have the inspiration and experience of a team of people that live in a way that always loves me, always pulls me up but never puts me down or writes me off. As you have felt, this is inspirational and it cannot be owned, it’s for everyone equally and it is possible.

  33. What you have shared highlights the sad fact that we have accepted the way we currently exist as a humanity as ‘normal. Yet in-truth we crave for much more because we are so much more, deserve to live so much more and can live the more we are as it has never left actually us. It is only us that chooses to live less than who we are rather than in connection to our essence within.

  34. Serge Benhayon offers us a reflection of the all encompassing love that is God’s love; an absolute love that knows and loves us all equally for the love that we are.

    1. Beautiful Mary, it’s a love that sees us in truth, and never wavers, no matter how far we live away from our true loving nature.

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