266 thoughts on “How Amazing it Feels to Be Myself”

1. You can feel how we create a momentum and complicate life all to not feel what we are missing and in doing this the gap with ourselves becomes bigger.

2. How awesome it is truly surrender to who we are and express from this truth. Pure heaven indeed.

3. Thank you Rebekah, people the world over search for that illusive thing to fill the emptiness, everything from adrenaline sports to enlightenment, family life and romantic relationships, career….etc, etc! And, all along the thing that brings us complete fulfilment and contentment is living ourselves in full. It’s right there within ourselves, not in the outer life. Having experienced the same thing you speak about, the joy of coming home to oneself, I can now fully appreciate the depth of wisdom in the simple advice to “just be yourself”.

4. The interesting thing is that nobody I have ever asked has said that they would want to be anyone else. What we all do want though is to be more able to be ourselves in full everywhere we go

5. Feeling and being our self is ultimately what we are seeking and yet we tend to try ‘fitting in’ first and go through all that pain and trauma before we come back to being ourselves again and for some this is realised earlier than others.

6. It seems to me that the majority of the world is not actually living who they truly are and as a result are feeling an inexplicable emptiness inside them; the emptiness of missing them. It doesn’t matter how much we do, how much we eat or drink and how many games we play this emptiness will only be filled by re-connecting to our true essence; and that, I know, feels amazing.

7. We do use the phrase “Just be yourself,” so very often and yet it is in the actions or the doing to be someone or to be recognised for what we do to be what we think is us that takes us away from “being who we truly are.” So to look at the phrase again and say ” just be yourself,” would mean to honour ourselves from our being-ness and not from what we do as it is the quality of the being that then expresses who we are in essence, this feels like a much more simple approach to how we live and move today.

8. I am finding that this discovery of being me versus living to be liked, has many layers and details in how it plays out. It’s not something you get, complete and move on from. It’s a constant redevelopment back to being me in life.

9. In my experience there is nothing grander than being true. Worth the investment I say to make living true an established and normal way of being.

10. It’s interesting to watch people change who they are when they are with different people like a chameleon, and I was once like that too, until I found Universal Medicine who have helped me live a life true to myself, where I am self confident and am able to stay true to myself no matter who I’m with.

11. Developing our relationship with self is an ever evolving process, and the more we commit to it the more we know we are all knowing beings and have within us all the capabilities to meet life in it’s fullness.

12. How many people in the world are feeling exactly how you had once felt, ‘there was something missing’?

    I too was feeling the same, the only difference, I was more angry in the way I went about with this missing link. It literally was my way or the high way!…..

    Over the few years, with attending Universal Medicine presentations, receiving esoteric healing, I too found the real me emerging more and more, it is still working progress but boy has that anger guard crumbled.

    I liked how you and your family began having family meals together and being there to truely support each other is an amazing turn around for you all.

13. Looking back at how I used to be around others compared to how (and who) I am now. I feel so much steadier as I am no longer acting to a role, trying to be accepted based on my skills. I am more confident and settled in myself, supportive and attentive while remaining unsympathetic and strong in what I feel without wanting the other to be perfect for me. The real me is an awesome being to be with.

14. Any presentation that offers a young woman a path for being herself, for making her own choices, for not giving up herself to match in with her peers is an organisation I would be interested in. Such an organisation is Universal Medicine.

15. I can feel the celebration of your being you and the spaciousness and joy this brings. I love that I am also opening more and feeling the joy of living with me and how that inspires connection with others, life becomes richer and fuller and a sense of purpose emerges and a responsibility. It is like growing up all over again.

16. ‘We often use the phrase ‘just be yourself’, but do we really know the meaning of that?’ A great question to be asking Rebekah, in the past I also used to be all things to all people and ended up feeling exhausted, always trying to fit in and be liked. Letting go of this old pattern was an empowering step in my life and I began for the first time in my life to have a loving relationship with myself which supported me to bring this love and deeper quality into all my relationships – some embrace it and some turn away from what is on offer, either way I am no longer attached to their choices which has been very healing in itself.

17. Beautiful Rebekah. We are always going to feel that we are missing something when we are not being ourselves in full.

    1. Yes which places demand on everyone and everything else to deliver something to us. In other words we end up living a life in constant neediness which is a very desperate and miserable way to live.

       1. That’s exactly it Thomas, living in a “constant neediness which is a very desperate and miserable way to live.” All that is missing is the simplicity of being ourselves.

18. “After going to my first Universal Medicine presentation I thought ‘wow’” And the ‘Wow!’ just keeps expanding as I rediscover The Way of The Livingness in the way I choose to live.

19. This feeling is the one that many search for in the bottom of a glass or the perceptive depths of a TV screen.

20. “We often use the phrase ‘just be yourself’, but do we really know the meaning of that?” yes Rebekah, and we have numerous pictures of what ‘just be yourself’ looks like or should look like or looks like for someone else. My greatest teacher or supportive friend that has helped me to truly see who I am, has been my body…. it never lies…and also, Serge Benhayon and many other amazing practitioners and friends.

21. Recently I have become aware of how I go along with things in my every day and have started to call it out. I realised the harm I was doing to myself and then decided to have a session with an Esoteric practitioner. They told me it came from wanting to be nice and good. I found it interesting. I knew I lived with a need to fit in and being nice and good supported me in this false way of being but what I found interesting was that I got accused often of having everything my own way and because of the many accusations, over time I felt bad! The most important thing I am learning in all this is what is true for me so working with the connection to self and developing stillness in my day is vital.

22. Thank you Rebecca for sharing you being you, this is what we all crave, no trying to be something we are not, or living up to an ideal but us just being us and nurturing our being by our loving choices.

23. “This is why I always felt there was something really big missing in my life… ME.” If only we realised this when we were young that we don’t need to loose ourselves when we go out into the world and try and fit in, becoming so much less than our natural amazing selves. When we do things to be recognised or liked and behaving differently with different people trying hard to be something we are not, it is not only exhausting but life starts to become more complicated as we try to fit into all the different personalities we have created.

24. Awesome read Rebecca. It really is the simplest thing – to be yourself.
    You know those times when you are just brutally honest and real – it is like there is a build up and you just burst out being yourself! It actually feels really great to speak up and release what you know is true. As Rebecca has claimed it is about respecting you, and just how sensitive you are to everything that is not love, and being decent and loving with yourself first and foremost. Everything else is living a lie.

25. OMG Rebekah, I was also absolutely masterful at this: “I focused on other people’s issues or problems so that I couldn’t feel what was actually going on within me.”
    There I would be, one of the last at any party, oftentimes ‘counselling’ someone who was too drunk to remember in the morning (or, hang on, it WAS usually morning by then…).
    How lost I had let myself become – feeling such intensity in relationship with the world and the way it seemed to be run, and how people could be with each other… that I also gave away many parts of myself in order to be liked, accepted, to hide… and lost the pure and absolute Joy of simply being me.
    Not that I felt completely ‘lost’ my whole life prior to coming to the work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine – there were many joys, and much awareness – but it was truly not until this point either, that I met a reflection who said from every cell in his body, ‘just be you’ – and don’t hold back from reclaiming you in full. And I got to feel and begin to heal, the massively contracted state I had been essentially existing in.
    In truth, I’ve never looked back since.
    Thanks for this great blog – loved reading every drop of wisdom you’ve shared here Rebekah.

    1. Exactly what I have felt as well Victoria but haven’t put into words, “Not that I felt completely ‘lost’ my whole life prior to coming to the work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine – there were many joys, and much awareness – but it was truly not until this point either, that I met a reflection who said from every cell in his body, ‘just be you’ – and don’t hold back from reclaiming you in full.” And also realising that we are already everything… it’s just letting go of the contraction as you say which is simply all the times we haven’t been, lived and expressed our selves in full.

       1. And accepting that the ‘fullness’ and Joy can actually be one’s consistent experience in life – the ‘ups and downs’ that were once accepted as ‘par for the course’ need not be our ‘normal’.

26. The more I become me, the more I understand life and all that it entails. Life becomes more about love, as becoming me is becoming love and making my every move from love. Becoming me is stepping outside the illusion that people need to like me in order for me to like me. I love that the more I become me the more true friends I have. It’s a great confirmation that how I was living and the fear I was having about people not liking me was a total illusion.

27. “I tried to fill this by many things – one was by being liked. I would try to achieve this by being everyone’s friend and never saying anything that would create any sort of tension between people.” This seems so innocent but it’s amazing how detrimental this is for us, to hold back our expression of who we are in truth, to be liked by others.

28. When we have lost who we are it is hard to offer this to another in full. Coming back to ourselves, appreciating the incredible light within allows us to have no fear of not being liked, for the light that glows within becomes the beacon we move by, and no longer do we move by another’s perception of us, or in most cases what we perceive another’s perception of us is.

29. It is extra exhausting when we unnecessarily put our fingers in too many pies in the vain attempt to prove ourselves and our worth.

30. I can relate to the chameleon routine and just how exhausting it gets trying to be different with different people. Get them in the same room and its impossible! Coming to Universal Medicine and realising that not many of us are being ourselves is like a breath of fresh air. All the issues we think we have all stem back to this. And the answers are just as easy – be love and be the truth of who you are, in full.

31. Wonderful to read of your blossoming back to who you truly are through your connection to Universal Medicine. You are a great example for other young people to follow .

32. “I had simply stopped being myself.” How much in life is designed to make us stop being ourselves? And then a light goes out upon the planet.

33. Reading this I got to feel isn’t amazing that we go through school, college, work, marriage .. life yet on some level still do not know who we truly are or give ourselves the space for us just to be and unfold or a moment to stop and feel what is going on for us without trying to constantly numb it with food, social media, substances, tv, shopping etc. I really loved the practical ways you shared in how you changed this for yourself … speaking up for yourself and taking care of yourself more and how this had a ripple affect with your family in that you started to sit down and have dinner together and share your day. Beautifull.

34. Wanting to fit in is such a trick, because just about everyone is playing it. If this is the case how many bring who they know themselves to be into their lives? Something to truly ponder for each of us personally and to begin to drop any facade we may present for the beauty and grace of who we are.

35. ‘I felt everything that was spoken on was truth: it was so refreshing to hear.’ You mention this Rebekah both in relation to Universal Medicine and to the kinds of conversations you’ve been having now with family and friends. I agree – talking about what’s real in life is like diving into a cool glass of water on a hot summer’s day – a glass that’s long been absent from most of our lives. How gorgeous it is to come back to the truth of us.

36. ‘For me, being yourself meant only being the part of you that others will like’ – The scary thing about this statement is that, temporally, there is absolutely nothing wrong with it! Surely it makes sense to be polite, kind and someone who is ‘likeable’?.. But what if moulding our personality to be this likeable character is actually a) a reduction on our expression and now how we’d naturally express ourselves, and b) a way of selling out to what others or society wants us to be like rather than who we really are.

37. How often we are seeking outside ourselves for the key ingredient that is forever within and has never left us.

38. Being who we truly are and expressing our inner-essence is definitely needed in the world… what a difference we make when we are full of the value we are.

39. I’ve always had those nagging doubts, wondering if I’m doing it right, or what the other person would think. I know from long years of experience that just makes me a puppet on a string, succumbing to other people’s wishes in the hope of gaining recognition and acceptance. Its only when I start to connect with my own feelings, my own essence that there is a stability – and then I can offer that uniqueness to the world in whatever way it needs it.

40. I love how simply you share your story Rebekah, how you realised you had simply stopped being yourself and how you then proceeded to unpick all the ways that played out. Life then becomes so much simpler since we’re not trying to put on an act or second guess ourselves and others (yes I’ve played the not myself game too), and the more I’m me, the more life just is so simple, they’re less trying and of course so much more energy. It’s definitely the way to go.

41. When we don’t bring ourselves to life, we leave ourselves open for everything that is not us to be lived. In other words, when we live who we are, there is no reason to live who we are not.

42. It’s mind puzzling that we struggle in life yet the simple answer is to just be ourselves and everything will be taken care of. Sadly “being ourselves” has come to mean sometimes being who I choose to be which might just be one of the multiple personalities you speak of and not really our true self.

43. Reading your words Rebekah the term “just be yourself”has been revived and brought back to its true meaning for us all to understand and feel.

44. “taking steps to look after ourselves and this made us more aware of each other and the support we could give to each other in this development.” So often there can be a drive and push and expectation from ourselves to be a support to others and yet when the focus is on them we forget about ourselves. The truest and most supportive support I have received and when offered advice to another is when it comes from lived experience. Being with others can be an amazing reflection for how we can love and care for ourselves if we break away from the reactions and blaming and feeling hurt and see it as a lesson in where more of who we truly are is there to come out.

45. ah you can feel the ease in the blog as you embrace simply being yourself! There is tension in trying to keep up the facade of being all things to all people around us and one that we take as normal because we are all doing it. Your blog is a great reminder to re-connect to the wonder of being all of you and sharing that with the world.

46. The pain of being rejected for the true me sits deep and runs most people´s life until we figure that the even deeper pain is to not be oneself, that we miss being the true me more than anything else; then we start the return to who we are and living the life we deserve and actually are obliged to live as it is in accordance with who we are and what we are here for.

    1. So true Alex, perhaps the deeper pain that comes from others rejecting us, is that we have rejected us first by trying to change to be liked by them. It takes time and honesty to look below the surface and see if, in fact, we are being ourselves or still trying to fit in – thereby rejecting ourselves anew!

47. It is quite an awakening when we start to understand what or who the real me actually is in contrast to the behaviours and coping mechanisms we have developed with ourselves and others and are identified with and by. Once we reconnect with the real me there is so much to discover, restore and develop as this ‘me’ is not a stagnant thing and much grander than we can fathom.

48. What a wonderful discovery. As my awareness of this truth grows, I get to feel just how deep this reconnection to myself goes. In fact my experience is that it continues to deepen every day so that this relationship with myself is the foundation upon which life sits. Once upon a time, I was lost in that world of seeking recognition and approval from others, ignorant of the importance of that relationship with myself. But it has been through the grace of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine that I have really started to come back to myself and to walk my own footsteps every day. Thank you Serge and everyone who is making this choice today – a ‘quiet revolution’ from the innermost heart.

49. When we first start high school we so desperately want to fit in that we put our best selves forward, we act like a chameleon, being whatever is called for in any given moment for the people or person we are looking to accept us most. This skill is honed very quickly as it is perceived to be related to life and death. Yet in that process we can walk so far away from ourselves we can actually forget who we are. Therein lies the many years of wilderness as we come back to try to re-connect to who were were all along.

50. I can relate to playing roles for different people to be liked and accepted for most of my life, it was life changing for me when I began to connect to the true me and not change for others. The great thing is the more we do this the more we support others to also be more real and drop their guards and to connect more deeply to others.

51. Rebekah it was lovely to just read your blog again. I know for me I can relate to soo much of it – at school lots of people said they knew me but I did not even feel I knew myself – as what I was offering them was a mask, a front. So I would be in all the different, even opposing groups taking bits I liked but never being myself. I did not think people wanted the real full me. When I had tried to just be me I felt different and excluded so then tried to mould myself to fit in. But that just created a massive tension in my body and would lead to explosions every so often when things got too hard. It has only been through Universal Medicine that I have developed a consistency in my life and actually started to value and love myself for me and what I bring not purely what I can do for another. And the more I do this the more content I feel and the more life makes sense! Otherwise I just get the thoughts of whats the point of it all and so want to give up – which really does not help anyone!!!

52. I can relate to the thing of becoming what everyone else feels most comfortable with. The thing is that when we do that then we take on everyone else’s unwillingness to be truthful and that does not sit well in our body. This is spoken from my own experience having to get rid of a lot of things that isn’t really my stuff, but stuff I’ve taken on from others.

53. It’s funny, or not really, how I constantly search high and low, and everywhere for what I miss, and that everything is inside of me. I don’t have to climb any mountain, meditate in some Himalayan cave, nor search the fours corners of the earth far and wide, it can all be found right where I am now, at work, at home, in the supermarket, walking down the street, wherever I stand, and feel myself. This is something I am not living fully yet.

54. This is an epic expression of who you have returned to, your original self that is. Its funny how we all have a different stories but they are so similar, I stopped being myself so young, its almost like I read what I needed to be in order to be liked and ticked those boxes in exchange for that recognition, its really sad when you think about it. On the bright side, I have also now returned to being me and there is no way I am ever selling myself short of that again.

55. Discovering that when one is unhappy is not because of what is happening around or to us but because one is unhappy with oneself, ‘missing being me’ is such an empowering awareness. Reconnecting to oneself in full, is fullness in life – what more could one want?

56. Rebekah, the ripple effects of being yourself is felt in the closing paragraphs of this blog. When we serve ourselves first we have much more to give to others: we no longer hold back and freely offer ourselves to humanity.

    1. I totally agree, Kehinde and the example of Rebekah being herself is an inspiration for us all to aspire to and deepen within ourselves.

57. When we let go and allow ourselves to just be the huge amount of stress and tension we place on ourselves begins to dissolve and our relationships start to bloom because there is more honesty and openness felt. A win, win on all counts. Thank you Rebekah.

58. Inspiring Rebekah, both your choice to give being yourself a go, despite potential reactions from others and not being ‘liked’ for it, and for the impact it has had on your family coming together. It’s what we all want but aren’t all prepared to go there, but you’ve reminded us it does not have to be an ordeal simply to be yourself, in fact it sounds like quite the opposite to me!

59. “When did we stop being ourselves that we needed to be reminded?” This is a great question Rebekah. When we lose connection with our own self and expression we can look for it everywhere outside of ourselves… and that search is endless.

60. I love how simple and real you have shared the changes you made Rebekah. Like most I’ve also been a revolving door… going in one way and coming out another. I walk away, hearing how I had talked and been with someone, cringing because it wasn’t truly me. What is fun and interesting is all the amazing qualities that are just allowed to come through when we take away the facade that have been blocking them from view.

61. I can so relate Rebekah, to play this game of ‘fitting in’ and ‘being liked’ is super exhausting and for me has lead to a lot of lower back pain because of the holding back from expressing myself and being the real me.

62. The title of this blog says it all and I can confirm that yes it feels amazing to be myself.

63. I defiantly relate to being a chameleon socially and living life trying to not rock the boat. I really enjoyed your writing style and hearing this touching tale of returning to be yourself, I am on the same path, coming back to actually discover who I am.

64. “I realised I never ever put myself first. I focused on other people’s issues or problems so that I couldn’t feel what was actually going on within me.” This is common so we don’t need to feel ourselves and deal with our pains and hurts. We bury ourselves in others and their issues and lose ourselves in effect.

65. For me in the past, when someone would have said ‘just be yourself’ it would have taken me to an anticipated and accepted conditioned way of being with them but in no way truly myself as in that time I did not know or had any connection with who I truly was. Same as with you Rebekah, I was always missing something but not able to find the answer on that question which lasted until I met Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine who presented to me a way of being with myself in which I could truly just be who I am.

66. “We often use the phrase ‘just be yourself’, but do we really know the meaning of that? When did we stop being ourselves that we needed to be reminded?” – Great question Rebekah and one well worth deeply considering…

67. It is so lovely to be aware of how we cover up ourselves and mould ourselves to something we think will fit in. Each of us brings a unique expression. If we hide this we all miss out.

68. Yes, I realize now that I had been performing most of my life. I just thought that’s what you did to get what you want. Serge Benhayon and others have supported me understand that this is why I have been so exhausted all my life. It takes a lot of energy to not be yourself! I am now remembering myself more and more everyday.

69. To know how you have changed yourself to fit in with others at a young age is a great step toward honesty and truth. It has taken me so many more years and a connection to Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon in the past 10years, to actually see how I was trying to please everyone, and in most cases no one! This is a great way to lose oneself. At times I have the same old pattern creep back in but I am quick to recognise this now. When do we lose the knowing that we are all we need to be from day one?

70. When we conform and contort ourselves into what we think others expect or want of us it totally disconnects us from our real power which is to simply be ourselves, and a great reminder of how to do this as an adult is to observe the absolute fullness of expression that children show us.

71. ‘I focused on other people’s issues so I didn’t have to deal with what was going on within me’ – how often do we use others and their issues as a distraction from dealing with our own? And what are we avoiding when we do? I’m uncovering the million things I do to avoid dealing with ‘my stuff’ and this is a big one that I’ve used as the perfect excuse not to take responsibility to look at my own part in a situation or relationship. What’s beautiful is that once we realise we have a tendency to do this, we can start to change it – and it benefits all of our relationships, especially the one we have with ourselves, as we start to heal what we were trying to avoid in the first place.

72. It is amazing that our whole lives are lived from outside of us and that who we are is reflected in what the world puts forth in it’s ideal and beliefs, trying to fill the emptiness that is within, while all the while we carry this treasure within, unknown. We are simply missing ourselves our true and loving self which is every unfolding as we open up to becoming more loving with ourselves.

73. Twisting and contorting ourselves into different shapes and aliases in order to be accepted and liked by other people – not a great act and one that leaves us empty and bereft of our essence. But who really and truth-fully talks about things like that? The whole world seems to be geared towards popularity or even notoriety and getting as much recognition as possible, at just about any cost.

74. I’m drawn to the phrase “just be yourself”. I agree that we don’t really know what that means. I know I certainly didn’t and I did many things in life to “find myself” but all I was doing was searching for acceptance, identification and recognition. Which put me on the road to more of the same. One of the many beautiful things presented by Universal Medicine is that we do not need to search anywhere for ourselves as everything we are supposedly looking for is already within and the journey is simply about peeling away the layers of what keeps us away from knowing this.

75. How beautiful that you have rediscovered the path back to yourself and have embraced living the true you. So many experience the tension from being bombarded with countless images and messages from the outside of who, what and how to be to fit in and be accepted and yet the tension is only ever truly released when these are ignored and we connect to and live the truth of who we are within.

76. Its fascinating how immediately when we are not content with being ourselves we are holding ourselves into something to get some form of satisfaction from the outside – be it being liked, or being hated, it is all a form of recognition.

    1. Great point Joshua. We also then blame outwardly rather than look at the way we are living. It is almost like auto-pilot as insidious it is. However, no matter how hard I have tried and believe me I have tried very hard, nothing, absolutely nothing outside of me has ever come close to the contentedness and love I feel when I am feeling fully myself and in my essence.

77. Being yourself is important. Not being yourself is like carrying on a lie. You have to remember who you have told what to, and keep the deception going. Not being yourself is like that. And the tension to say the right things as the fantasy person takes a lot of energy. No wonder there is a lot of exhaustion in the world. Not being yourself says to another, “I have no confidence in you to love me the way I am”. Do you really want to be friends with someone who does not like you just the way you are? Will they want to be friends with you, knowing you think so poorly of them and that you are not yourself? There is a false foundation to these relationships that just feels like a waste of opportunity. We need to understand how we got to this. Self worth is very important and any lack of this needs to be recognised to be healed.

78. It is beautifull to read Rebecca, as I can so relate to the fitting in and slowly but surely reclaiming who I truly am. Universal Medicine presents something very essential, we are love first and foremost and in this we are all equal, and we can only make a choice how we deal with life, and the energy that drives us. It is fundamental to have this clear and feel the equality to just be sure in our own skin, and being able to be who we truly are.

79. So basically when we miss something, and this can be anything, we just miss ourselves. That is why for me the most important relationship is the one I have with myself.

80. Lovely insight Rebekah. It really is crazy that most people do not simply choose to ‘be themselves’ when surely this is the most natural thing in the world. You have me pondering my own relationship with myself. I can see that many of the things I identify as ‘me’ are actually not me at all.

81. “I am now more aware of what it means to just be ‘myself’, and I find that I am now more confident in myself and in my relationships with others. I am aware of how in the past many of my relationships were based on trying to impress and fit in: this way of relating no longer fits for me. I am aware that what I was missing almost three years ago was me being me. Now, every day is expanding to be more loving than the day before.” Beautiful Rebekah. Waking up to the fact that I was missing me was a revelatory moment.

82. Thank you Rebekah for sharing your experience of finding the real and true loving you, connecting with your family and friends from your true divine essence.

83. There were times in my life when I decided to get friends or be included in cliques at school, so I would take on a different persona, which took a huge amount of energy, and work really hard at fitting in. It was exhausting and after a while I would have to drop it. Being myself is important, and what I have come to realise is that there were little niggles I had let in over the years that took me away from who I am. There was one that said, if you make a big effort to fit in, it will pay off. There was another that said, if you don’t fit in your kids are not going to be invited anywhere. Little ideas that made me feel less for just being me.
    Expressing and being me is the best thing I can do, and getting rid of the picture I held about how my life should look and what friendship should look like is a great thing to do too.

84. Carrying around these multiple personalities is very draining and exhausting on the body, but to allow ourselves to just be and let our amazingness shine, now there is glorious music to my ears and body.

85. Adapting our behaviour to be liked is a mechanism that we use for protection. However, by no means is it a true protection it simply takes us further away from the true essence of who we are.

86. There is nothing more grand than a life lived being our true selves.

87. ‘For me, being yourself meant only being the part of you that others will like…’ – this I am sure is true for many of us. We feel that we have to play a role and being ourselves means to be liked before it means to be true.

88. Rebekah I loved reading how through your own change, you have offered a beautiful opportunity and great foundation for the rest of the family to be more open with one another.

89. What I was struck by was how much support there is for you now especially with your family and the re-connections made around the dinner table, something so simple rarely done in the busyness people get caught in today. beautiful how allowing yourself to be yourself has led to such expansion in your life.

90. I found your paragraph about trying to be good at everything super interesting. I know have thought in the past that if I’m great at everything my life will be super full and complete. So completely not true, you can be the best at everything, but if you’re not content in your own body and with who you are nothing feels as amazing as it should.

    1. Meg I agree, it doesn’t make any difference, how many friends we have or if we have what others perceive as a great job, if we are not connected to ourselves nothing in the world fills the void that we feel, and as a consequence we keep searching for something we already have, only we have just lost our true connection to ourselves.

91. Speak up, the more people that dislike you the better. Just Kidding.

    But it is a great exercise to see that this isn’t the case. It is quite the opposite; there are people who are dying for others to say what you have to say. At the moment the world is governed by a small self serving minority. Time for the majority to speak up.

    1. Haha, spot on Luke, there are so many people who are just waiting for other people to stand up and say what they know is true.

       1. What are we waiting for? (or to make it more personal). What am I waiting for?

       2. Totally, it feels in me like an invisible contract we have amongst each other – I will if you will… but so much is lost in this waiting and hanging around, rather than taking the initiative and being willing to lead the way.

       3. I agree, its the individual contract that negatively diminishes the whole. Not because it reduces the whole but because we reduce ourselves which is apart of the whole. Hope that makes sense.

       4. We all know the truth and feel it but at times don’t want to stand out or we fear that we will get it wrong or be ridiculed so we stay quiet and hide in the background.

       5. Totally, and I know for me it can be an automatic choice, but it’s also often a conscious choice to stay quiet and fade into the background. It’s really cool though to begin to change this and know that the truth really needs to be spoken – and what’s the worst that can happen!

92. Having avoided living me in full most of my life. It is so deeply wonderful to actually understand what that means. To live me in full, to know when I am off, know that reaction is like poison in the body, that we are so much more than living life for the weekends and holidays. Feeling amazing for just being me, is a great place to be.

93. As I started being myself more and more, the (false) foundation many of my relationships were built on started to get exposed – which were usually mutual agreement of abuse – abuse of each other, and abuse of our selves in various manner, and whatever that was, it was always stopping each other from being truly free. It feels amazing to let go of that game, and start to learn what a true relationship feels like.

94. I agree Rebekah, living who we truly are is the most amazing feeling and inspires everyone around us to also make this choice.

95. “It was exhausting as I was putting on an act for so long without realising that I was getting further and further away from the truth of who I am.” This observation really resonated with me. We instinctively know that we are not as we should be and in searching for the truth we move further away by trying to fit in with what we see around us. Universal Medicine presents the fact that it is only by connecting and living by the impulse of our inner-heart that we can return to being who we truly are.

96. This is so awesome to read, good to feel for myself what has changed over the years that I have been studying with Universal Medicine. It is huge, I still sometimes feel like I need to be different, but with loving myself more and more this feeling gets less and less. It is awesome being me.

97. Awesome article Rebekah. I’m still learning about me after having lived a life for and through others – it feels great to be open to seeing the real me and letting go of who I thought I needed to be. It really is lovely when someone is themselves and you can feel that solidness about them anything less is a huge loss for us all.

98. What beautiful changes to have made within 3 years and a wonderful example of how easy it can be when we are truly honest with ourself and willing to make the necessary loving changes to return back to knowing who we are. So many of us seek recognition and acceptance by trying to be all things to all others and lose ourselves in the process. By your willingness to accept yourself, not holding back bringing all of you to all your relationships Rebekah you are now an inspiring role model for your friends and family.

99. Your blog reminded me of how many times in the past I would change myself to fit in, I was proud that I could fit in with many different people, though what I came to realise was I was leaving myself out of the picture and playing nice in order for people to like me. This is really quite yucky! Now I know myself I no longer pander to everyone’s need, instead I stand firm in what I know to me. Thank you Rebekah, great blog that will inspire many to check in and ask who they really are.

100. The seeking we all do, or have done in the past, searching and trying different things, changing ourselves and our ways to fit in and feel a sense of belonging, to only feel empty and alone at the end of the day, and further and further for our true selves. I am forever grateful for the presentations of Universal Medicine, through these I am learning to love myself and accept myself for who I truly am.

101. Rebekah, how lovely to see that within just 3 years of being part of the Universal Medicine Family you have made so many changes. I love these words you shared “Now, everyday is expanding to be more loving than the day before.” Beautifully expressed thank you.

102. Yes I know all these tricks too Rebekah – to fit in, to be nice, to lay low so you won’t be noticed or not have any jealousy or animosity come towards you. It’s a very clever game that I am learning to unplay, unpack, and burn! It is a constant choice for me in every moment and situation to be me – all of me. The more I develop my own relationship the more I appreciate myself, my qualities and my expression, that it makes me want to share and not hold back who I am.

     1. What a great place to be in Marcia. I love how you say, ‘It is a constant choice for me in every moment and situation to be me – all of me,’ and also very inspiring where you’ve written how you want to share and not hold back who you are.

103. When we realise the true meaning of “just be yourself” it certainly is life-changing.

104. ‘We often use the phrase ‘just be yourself’, but do we really know the meaning of that? When did we stop being ourselves that we needed to be reminded?’
     This is what I love about Universal Medicine events. It asks us the most basic of questions, questions that actually expose the choices we make that are harming us every day. Why should we be reminded to be ourselves…exactly…what happened for this to be a catch phrase? Mind boggling.

105. Such a simple question to ask to ‘just be yourself,’ but a hard question to truly express for many. I have only just started to really see who I am and it can be at times a scary and raw place to be, but by removing these layers of falsehoods we hold and past beliefs and ideals we live with it can be like seeing the world with fresh eyes. I’m loving the honesty of that and how the journey to go deeper with my own relationship with myself and others is a brilliant ride and I don’t want to get off.

106. I can relate to pretty much all your blog Rebekah. Changing myself depending on who I was with I had taken to an art form – and I was very proud of myself for being able to do it too. But I was so desperately sad. I had very little sense of who I was without someone else there to morph to. Being alone was very challenging and still can be sometimes, but reading your blog I realised how steady I am now with others – how I do not sway about in the breeze of life, trying to bend and change myself to make others feel comfortable and feel that I am accepted and have a purpose to my life. The steadiness I now feel is pretty magical, and what is being shown to me here is how to take it to the next level – appreciation for how far I’ve come.

107. It sounds like such a simple thing, to be yourself, yet some of us are so practiced in being something else. The changes can be profound and such a relief when the masks come down and we can stop juggling all those facets.

108. It is exhausting ‘putting on an act’ for so many years and in my case being chirpy or smiling, and trying to brighten someone else’s day up left me feeling ragged and worn out. Behind closed doors I was equally as tired and fed up as they were! But, as you share Rebekah after introducing little by little those self-loving and self-nurturing, changes and choices into my life and feeling all of ‘me’ – it feels great. No trying, just being and letting others feel the ‘real’ me too.

     1. I’ve done a lot of that too Marion, being there for others to cheer them up, when in truth I was feeling just as rubbish about myself as they were. We think we are doing a ‘good’ thing, and we get praise for being ‘selfless’…and it drives us to continue living with this front that just isn’t true. I held so much pride on being accepted by others for my ‘selflessness’…when I think about it now, it feels gross actually. My intention was never to be deceiving, but the fact is, I neglected myself for the sake of others, I comprimised and scarificed myself for all who were not me. Why would I do that, when there is an option to care for me first, and then be a million times more available to others, but from truth and without compromising myself in the meantime.

109. I haven’t been my true self for a very long time and I am still opening up to that. For instance, I was always very enthusiastic and quite excited, and people liked that about me. This is slowly dissapearing and this is new to people. I am more in touch with my stillness and more in my body. This may appear that I am not myself any longer but in truth, the excitement was not my true self, the deeper connection to my stillness is.

     1. Yes I have found this is interesting, Mariette, that when I stopped being and behaving in a certain way I have then had comments like ‘you are not yourself’ when actually these are the times I am feeling more myself as I am in my body and aware, rather than just playing a role.

110. Yes, simply being ourselves heals so much Rebekah as all we are not just drops away. – ‘ …. I realised what was missing in my life. It wasn’t friends, or boyfriends, good grades, or a religion – I had simply stopped being myself. It was crazy how simple it really was, and I was excited and almost revived that I could be myself again – and be confident in being that. It really opened my eyes as to what was going on within me… I realised I never ever put myself first. I focused on other people’s issues or problems so that I couldn’t feel what was actually going on within me.’

111. Rebekah, this is a great discovery to make, “But it wasn’t enough because there was such a lack of worth in myself – I didn’t feel happy or confident in myself to step out and be myself.” This comment should have whole programs written on it and shared to schools all over the world. Let’s take a closer look at this and how it manifests in all its myriad ways in each child’s life, then offer a space for us all to make a new empowered choice.

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113. If I imagine the enormous amount of energy used for interactions of not being true, but accepted and I now imagine this energy would be somehow visible in the same way it is palpable, what impression would it be, looking at people interacting? How would it feel and how would it smell? As to then imagine the feeling, smell and view of the energy that comes from interactions from the true essence… Very impressive to imagine that around the world. And realize how it is our reality every day in the world. If we could measure the one and the other energy, used at for example one day? It is where we are actually living in what surrounds us and what we are magnifying in the one ore the other way. And how great to contribute to the true energy-level… and support this shift to truth, as you do : ).

114. Interesting how someone recently told me I wasn’t myself anymore and by that they meant I didn’t drink alcohol or stay up late or read lots of books or eat cakes and drink tea and coffee or do various other activities that they associated me with. On the contrary, I feel that the way I was, obscured my true energy from myself. I am much more vital now and much more aware and more honest, which perhaps is difficult for some people.

     1. Beautiful comment elainearthy sometimes other struggle with the reflection of love and want us to go back to being the way that makes them feel comfortable.

     2. Yes elainearthey, I guess they miss the you that used to join them in those activities. When we change, some people around us, including family, find it hard to deal with. Some old relationships may break down, and new ones will form. I found this to be the case when I stopped drinking.

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116. Being ourselves brings a freedom, there is no need for adjustment or any other behaviour that is not true to us. As everything that is needed for every moment is already there. It is not always easy to really trust that, but I can feel when doing it more and more it gets lots easier.

117. So many points in your sharing I can relate to, today especially this one ” I am aware of how in the past many of my relationships were based on trying to impress and fit in”. I call it the “fit in disease” – in the past I pleased other people to get recognition and love due to my lack of self-worth. That felt terrible. I was caught in the victim role. Thanks to Unimed and Serge Benhayon I found my way out of this self-damaging way of living. Today I enjoy more and more myself and other people.

     1. alexander1207 I’m going to watch out for whenever I fall into ‘fit in disease’ and see it as that – a dis ease with myself that I can choose to drop and fit in with myself instead. Very catchy and a great way to clock that that’s not who I am and doesn’t serve anyone around me by going against myself to fit in.

118. An awesome blog Rebekah and I could relate to a lot of what you shared. Attending Universal Medicine presentations have certainly supported me to be who I truly am and I notice how this supports and inspires everyone around us to also choose this as well.

119. It really is Natasha, the greatest give to another, family, humanity and ourselves.

120. I have been trying to fit in for a long time, not claiming that what I am. And I do agree all that there is to do is getting to know ourselves and our qualities. And feel that there is no need to fit in because of that what we already are.

121. How many of us actually grant ourselves the time to get to know ourselves better, outside of the expectations we place on ourselves to meet up to societies ideals of who we should be?

122. ” … being yourself meant only being the part of you that others will like … ”
     Great blog, Rebekah, very relatable! We’re all going around showing a face that we believe is acceptable to the group we are with and yet we all would like to drop this tiring, continual ‘calibrating’. Which we can. And we can do it with love … expressing what we really feel, saying no when we want to, calling out something we see that’s not right … all in an aware and considerate way and speaking from our real selves.

123. “Now, every day is expanding to be more loving than the day before.” What a beautiful way to start each day Rebecca, when just being ourselves feels so amazing.

124. I have recently been noticing the way in which when I can get so tired and depleted through just not being me, when I change the way I am or behave in a way that isn’t true or natural for myself I find it entirely exhausting as there is so much excess energy used in changing everything about myself, the way I move, the way I talk, my conversations, how I eat, etc etc. Then come the end of just a few hours of behaving this way I can need a nights sleep, and sometimes it’s not even past midday!

     1. It is a very tiring way to be, constantly adjusting for another to like us is hard work. While a day being full of ourself, without needing to fit in, is an easy day. No adjustment needed..

125. Rebekah, it’s so obvious what you share and yet I know I have done it, put myself last, tried to turn myself inside out to see how I can fit and if something failed I considered it about me not doing that fitting in well enough – it’s an odd mix not wanting to be noticed and yet assuming everything was about me, but actually I wasn’t being me at all. I so relate to what you’ve shared and love how you took the time to unravel it and come back to you, something I’m also doing more each day, and it does make such a huge difference. And the more me I am, the less it is about me, it’s just so much simpler.

126. What a simple, honest and very relatable account of something most of us, if not all, would be able to relate to, – and how we often adapt and adjust our behaviors depending on who we are with. What a great reminder of the importance of developing an awareness of this and the beauty and connection that comes from just being ourselves.

127. Wow, I love this blog! When I read your comment, ‘I had simply stopped being myself’ – something just unlocked for me! Although like yourself, I have been on a self journey to experience expressing more from me, the real me, it just dropped a whole lot deeper when I read your blog and in particular this sentence. I realise like you, all the emptiness I had been feeling and searching for, was me simply missing me. Wow! So simple, yet so profound. What a blessing as a teacher, that I can share this with my teenage students. Thank you Rebekah and how amazing you have discovered this early in life – go you!

128. Simply gorgeous blog Rebekah, trying to fit in leaves one so exhausted and confused. It is a joy to see and feel how you have come to know and be yourself – I feel this in and for myself too – thank you.

129. Being more and more consistently the real me with everyone is something that Universal Medicine have and still do support me hugely with.

130. Rereading your blog, the fact, that I could see a lot in others too, caught my attention this time. Actually almost all my friends I had were always sharing where there are up to and I asked them intentionally about their stuff. I loved to hear their story and loved to help them to see clear. Almost everytime we met, at the end of our date, they would say: now, I know nothing about how you are, or didn´t even realize that they were main focus on our conversation. Why I am sharing this? Because you can distract yourself a lot in always asking and wanting to help the other, to not look and share your own stuff .Sometimes still I don´t like it to 100% to tell how I am, but I am well aware that this is part of the development to open up towards people, to show and be me and to let them in.

     1. Yes, I can relate to this ‘technique’ of asking a 1000 questions so you don’t have to talk about yourself. I have used many techniques out of protection so I don’t have to open up to others but the more I am aware of this and I let go, the more open, intimate and beautiful my interactions are with others.

     2. Making our lives about others first is an extremely efficient way of not having to look at what is going on in our own lives. We will even receive recognition and appreciation from everywhere around for being good and selfless.
        But underneath we will never lead an easy and joyful life. Only if we are able to love ourselves and care for ourselves first are we able to truly support others instead of misuseíng them for our own games.

     3. So true steffihenn, this gives the illusion we are very open but in fact we share nothing of ourselves. It feels very different when the flow goes both ways, letting someone in and equally letting myself out, a true connection happens.

131. It is interesting to ponder what it means to be yourself and as you propose Rebekah, at what point did we stop being ourselves? Further to this, if we are not ourselves then who are we? And why have we stopped being ourselves? For me, it is a work in progress, but I know that it feels true when I connect to who I really am and express from that connection.

132. It’s like at some point we choose to let go of the confidence we live contently knowing who we are, to abide by social constructions of how to be with each other. In this we somehow forget how to be true, constantly looking to the outside for the world to tell us how to be and act… only to find ourselves so far down the rabbit hole that we aren’t even aware that we have lost ourselves completely and sadly do need reminding… of a knowing that was there inside us all along. Crazy.

133. Rebekah I can relate to so much of what you shared as it is how I have lived my life for so long, choosing to share only parts of myself with other people, different parts with others and it is such an exhausting way to live as it is just as you described like having multiple personalities, none of which is actually the true you. How crazy is that! I am slowly bringing more of the true me out to shine and it feels so lovely when I do. Thank you for reminding me that the best version of me is the real me – not the me who tries to be something or someone I’m not.

134. “I had simply stopped being myself.” How do we stop being ourselves? In my experience tI have many little points of separation and it has been incredible when I have started to make the choice to reconnect and realise how often I was making decisions based on a reaction to what had a happened rather than connecting to what is truly needed for our future.

135. A truly lovely blog Rebekah, and thank you for sharing your journey. I have found that in the past I was always conscious of being the pleaser and nice person even when part of me said no to what I was asked to do . This is something that still trips me up but I am learning to give myself time to feel before I answer these days.

136. What a beautiful reflection for your friends Rebekah.

137. Building a relationship with oneself and getting to know oneself are very important aspects of life. It is not promoted much but it is crucial if you want to feel whole, content and connect to the true purpose in life.

138. I can relate to every word of this. Most of us create a chameleon exterior, changing ourselves as needed. What you raised about people saying “just be yourself” was interesting to contemplate. When we live for long being what we think others want us to be, it becomes very hard to know what ‘being yourself’ really is. It is only through Universal Medicine and coming back to focusing within me that I have begun to understand and appreciate what ‘being me’ looks and feels like.

139. I must agree Rebekah, it is just amazing to be myself. As you when I look back, I was totally lost and checked out in my life. And only through Universal Medicine I started to find myself as well. Nowadays I’m still sometimes checking out, but nothing compared to what I was before.

140. Just beautiful, Rebekah. The more we claim ourselves and build a foundation of love in our bodies, the love feeds us back. I am starting to feel this for myself and the feeling of joy I have is enormous. Such a contrast to how I felt before discovering Universal Medicine.

141. I so agree Rebekah, when I first heard a presentation by Serge Benhayon suddenly so many things started to make sense and made me question “So who am I?” It has been a fascinating journey letting go of all the fitting in and learning to enjoy being who I truly am.

142. I find it amazing that the more I am myself the more confident I am as well. It’s interesting how by fitting in we are really creating a false confidence and as you said we just get further away from who we are. It is so delightful to just bring all of myself to every interaction I have – and know that it’s simply just me, nothing more and certainly nothing less.

     1. This is great Jo, you’re right by changing the way I am in order to fit in and play the game I feel very anxious, self conscious and fearful, whereas as I learn to express more from myself and my essence then I have a whole new level of confidence, there is nothing that anyone can do to sway that, as I know I am with myself.

143. It’s a joyful ride to be on the expedition “exploring myself”. I love it too…*

     1. …and to trust, that what we explore is enough, no matter whom we are meeting or talking to 🙂

        1. Well said, beauty*

     2. I also love to be on the expedition of ‘exploring myself’. There is no end to the depth that we can connect to ourselves, and from their what we can offer others by way of reflection. Stunning.

        1. And it’s pure joy to go through everything that is part of the expedition. Like making “mistakes”, falling on the knees, stand up agin. Meeting myself with the love of a mother, the understanding of a best friend, the joy of a child and wiseness of the old. All coming from the inside nurturing myself… That truly brings harmony to my life.

144. I have played so many different roles in my lifetime to fit in, be liked and not be ridiculed. I even used to change my accent to speak in the same way as the person I was speaking too. This role-playing was exhausting and felt horrible in my body, being false.
     More and more, I’m starting to express me, and what a joy it is.
     Thank you Rebekah for your fantastic blog.

145. That exhausting act of ‘fitting in’, a socially acceptable form of multiple personality disorder, is a game we learn to play from when we are little. And gosh we get good at it. No wonder we are all so tired. Problem is that it gets to be too natural and before we know it we don’t even know we are playing. That step of seeing it in your friend Rebekah was such a great start, and very beautiful that it wasn’t were you stopped. While we play the ‘fitting in’ game we miss out on ourselves and everyone else misses out too. When we meet the people who aren’t playing we feel what life can truly be….simple, gracious, consistent and powerful. Yes, that is the life I choose.

146. Yes I too can relate to the futile search – of trying to fill yourself up with everything and anything (other than the real you) and how exhausting this is. There really is nothing in the world that compares to the freedom and joy of being who you really are; anything less is a misery we have accepted as ‘normal’.

     1. yes, I know I tried to ft in for years and had no idea how to anyway, so it was futile! I know now being me is ok, and that is my daily focus. There has been a lot to unlearn but thats ok, every step I take towards the real me is amazing!

147. Rebekah, I could sense the joy in you as I was reading your blog. The seeking that we are all doing/have done is an endless cycle of searching and trying one thing after another only to keep feeling alone and empty. I am very grateful that Universal Medicine has shown me the way out of this ‘prison’ via an understanding that the answer is simply about living and being our true selves.

     1. So simply and clearly expressed Helen. What I found with all the searching outside of myself, was that it was often filled with complication, stress and tension, interspersed with temporary periods of relief, but certainly not joy. Finding the answers within has simplified my life in ways I could not have imagined and while it has not always been easy because it’s meant taking responsibility for my choices, it is without doubt simple in its truth and also the first time I can say I’ve been able to experience joy, which I am discovering can only come from a quality of living.

148. Wonderful blog Rebekah. It’s amazing how exhausting it can be when we hold back form expressing who we truly are and are continually trying to impress and fit in with others. Allowing yourself to be you and expressing that, has been supportive and evolving both for yourself and those around you.

149. Rebekah I feel the same way. “Now, every day is expanding to be more loving than the day before.” I can’t thank Universal Medicine enough for helping me return to the glorious, amazing woman I always was but chose to hide for so long. Everyday just gets better and better.

150. “I was putting on an act for so long without realising that I was getting further and further away from the truth of who I am”. Not only did I get miles away from ‘just being myself’, I had actually identified with and believed I was the personality I had created. Having discovered the falseness I had been living it has been challenging to relinquish that way of being but oh so liberating. I feel I now understand what ‘just being myself’ means – no hurts to protect and no identification with what I do or with anything outside of myself. Now a loving journey to live that discovery

151. Rebekah I can so relate to this. This is what I did for many years. I even used to dress differently depending on which friend I was going to meet. I simply wasn’t myself. Crazy! Yes it was such a relief when I finally gave myself permission to be me. So very freeing.

152. I love the simplicity with what you are sharing here, Rebekah. To just be yourself …. I too spent many years being the cameleon, trying to ‘fit in’, to be accepted by sharing the part of me that I thought others would like. The truth is, everyone else was probably doing the same thing, so we were all part of the crazy game.

153. I loved your Blog Rebekah – it has exposed some old beliefs I had when younger and the way excuses and reflection from others can be used to allow one to behave in ways that are not truly you. Your simple statement – ‘I had simply stopped being myself. It was crazy how simple it really was, and I was excited and almost revived that I could be myself again’, brought such joy. Yes it can be so simple. Thank you for sharing.

154. Rebekah you have shown to us first hand the amazing benefits of connection to ourselves and making life about love rather then just fitting in …”Now, every day is expanding to be more loving than the day before.” Awesome -thank you for sharing.

155. Being the real me was something I had never considered until I found Universal Medicine. My self worth was based purely on what others thought of me and how I came across to them, but I now know that acting out a character isn’t the real me either. Building a relationship with myself and finding out who I am, is more appealing to me now than keeping a charade going – besides it’s so exhausting.

156. I agree, many people live putting forward a performance. When we get recognised or applauded like actors it’s like this persona can get cemented in place. To let this character go and reveal the simple loving person who’s always been there underneath is very freeing, and something you have inspired me to continue doing. Thank you Rebekah.

157. We have so much amazingness to share. Holding it back is extremely depleting. What has been my coffees and sweets in the past, is now sharing my beauty and grace with people and nature. Feels much gentler for the body!

158. So powerfully expressed Rebekah. We all instinctively know whether or not the people we love are being themselves. Isn’t it strange that we often don’t even realise we are not being true to who we are? Perhaps because we don’t love ourselves? Your blog makes it clear that when we do love ourselves the only thing we can do is be us and that makes perfect sense.

159. It’s really beautiful to read how you came to realise the joy in simply being yourself. I’m so inspired to be likewise and not let those self inhibiting thoughts like, it’s not my place to say anything or I might get criticised for saying something and have to live with someone’s reaction for ages like I did as a child.

     But I’m not a child any more, I have all the skills to deal with people’s reactions so no need to be hesitant in expressing myself and waiting for permission to speak. What a great blog to remind me to feel when I do hold back and choose to reconnect. Then, even if people were to react, I’ve got me feeling great for expressing what was there to be expressed.

160. Rebekah I can relate to so much that you have shared here, especially about playing different roles with different people. This was something I would do, to be liked too. It’s amazing how simple it can really be to interact with others when we re-learn and trust in our expression from our inner hearts. That’s where real connection starts.

161. Rebekah, what you have captured here is the true essence of the game we all play based on a lack of self worth. Many years ago, a famous sports psychologist presented to me that the people with the lowest self esteem were the highest achievers in society – the high level athletes etc. Because they had no foundation for their own truth worth, they sought to find confidence by excelling at something that was outside of them. Of course, as it has been shown, when they are no longer living a life based on the treadmill of success, they struggle to cope, often having to deal with long term depression when they no longer have the illusion of a busy life to keep them occupied. How do I know this? Because I was one of them before I stopped looking outside of myself to define who I truly was. Self acceptance is the key.

162. Rebekkah I relate to your comment about ‘being yourself meant only being the part of you that others will like… don’t show them all of you as they might not like it’. I certainly can relate to years of chameleon behaviour, and definitely to missing ‘me’. I love the way you have deepened your insight and that your family now sits together at meal times to truly be with each other.

163. So relatable Rebekah! Thanks for sharing. I too am learning to bring myself to every situation/interaction. Adapting in order to fit in is a sneaky thing….it crops up all the time, forcing me to constantly be aware of it so I can shut it down.

164. Great to re-read your blog. “After going to my first Universal Medicine presentation I thought ‘wow’! Everything that was spoken of was just, well, common sense… but it got me questioning why these things that they spoke of were never talked about: things that I always wondered about and had no choice, but to accept there were no answers for my questions. I felt everything that was spoken on was truth: it was so refreshing to hear.” I remember thinking this too – it all made so much sense, and continues to do so – deepening and evolving our beautiful selves so that we are free to be who we are truly meant to be. Huge appreciation to Serge Benhayon.

165. Rebekah I can feel the freedom in which you write about now giving yourself the permission to simply be yourself and how your family support you with that. It feels so full of possibility, like a breath of fresh air. Life is so much simpler this way when we let go of trying to please others.

     I know I catch myself trying to make an impression – especially at work where I try to be seen to be a good worker with all the answers and expertise. Even when I’ve just started a job and can’t be expected to know everything I put myself under this pressure. Living like this makes life dull, serious and full of anxiety. Crazy! It’s a real lose lose situation where myself and everyone loses out on me.

     All I need do, to come back to me is appreciate how I am with others when I am myself. It’s lovely. Learning to be with myself lovingly is so important: the freedom to be me which you have so brilliantly expressed.

166. Thank you Rebekah for sharing how amazing it feels to be yourself. Having spent a lifetime doing my best to fit in and not rock the boat so people would like me I can really relate to what you have shared here and how exhausting it is. The changes you have made to support yourself to just be you are so inspiring and the payoff is so awesome that why would we choose anything else? For me this is still a work in progress because some of the habits are so deeply engrained but the more I become aware of the guards I put up between myself and others the more I am able to make the choice to just be me and share that with other people rather than measuring what reaction I am going to get and using that as my guide.

167. I am so glad that I found this blog this morning. I haven’t been feeling like myself for a while, and how you described yourself pre-Universal Medicine really echoes the most part of how I used to behave (in my case it was not just being nice, I could be highly unpleasant at other times as well), and reading about you transforming into being yourself again was very healing. Thank you, Rebekah.

168. ‘Being liked only by being what everyone outside of me wanted or needed me to be. This is why I always felt there was something really big missing in my life… ME’. How many people in society are feeling this same ‘something is missing in my life’ game being played out in and around them everyday?? And in contrast, how amazing you must feel just by simply being you Rebekah. Thankyou for such an inspiring sharing.

169. I really enjoyed this blog Rebekah and for years I knew that I wasn’t being myself but no one around me was saying any different, until I met Universal Medicine that is. There I have met people who are not afraid to just be themselves and do not worry about what other people think of them, and more importantly they do not have to be act differently to different people or be anything for anyone.

170. Rebekah I have been a chameleon most of my life. I would take the colour of the situation and blend in as much as possible to either be liked or pass unnoticed. Thanks to Universal Medicine I’m learning to be myself, to enjoy it and I am discarding the many skins I collected over the years.

171. Rebekah, what an awesome sharing of what it means ‘to be yourself’. Thank you!

172. Brilliant blog Rebekah, I related to your words very well. It is exhausting when we are not ourselves but trying to fit in. I thought that I was pretty consistent with being myself with others. But now I look back and to be honest I wasn’t always myself. I actually held a lot of myself back, because I hid it so well that I forgot I was hiding who I am from people. This was something that I had only recently realised. I was under my own illusion. I love what you shared at the end ‘Now, every day is expanding to be more loving than the day before.’ Thank you Rebekah.

173. Rebekah you describe for me a human “disease” with your words: “For me, being yourself meant only being the part of you that others will like… don’t show them all of you as they might not like it.” So really who is not doing this!!!! So your blog shows everybody so easily what is possible – if they will choose to be more themselves.

174. What a beautiful testimony to Universal Medicine. A simple but profound way of living.

175. Rebekah, the essence of your story is also my story and I have been pondering on quite who I have been being for most of my life ! Once we discover ourselves it feels like we have a foothold in something real, something we can finally trust. It feels to me that this is all I have ever really wanted and the exploration of me feels at the heart of all that I do.

176. Beautifully expressed Rebekah you nailed it! Wanting to be liked is such a trap and the answer to simply be who we are…love. That your family has changed so much, even now when you are all grown up, is so lovely to hear, thank you for sharing this.

177. I felt such a strong sense of support and brotherhood at the end of this blog. Its beautiful Rebekah how you show that when we are us and speak the truth, we actually support and enrich the lives of everyone.

178. Very inspiring Rebekah – to feel how your whole family has changed. This is a great reminder that everything is possible and things do change in time if we stay in our own commitment to ourselves.

179. Your comment is great because I really feel how many people can relate to your experience. To please others and seek recognition, gain approval, is such a toxic way of being in the world because as you share so beautifully they are all not true expressions of ourselves. Sometimes, as I am learning recently, we need to be clear and direct in order to bring something true to another. If we are caught up, as I often am, in pleasing others or being ‘nice’ this is no way serving them to be all that they are and serving us in being all that we are with them. A horrible way of being and relating with each other, one that has no basis of truth.

     1. I think you have just described me Natasha. What I have found out by ‘being nice’ is that everyone is affected. No one gets to see and feel the real me which means there is the possibility that they won’t be the real them. In truth, I am not only harming myself but others too, which as you say, is not a ‘nice’ way of being with each other.

180. Thank you for sharing your story Rebekah, great reflections. I can so relate to the changing personality so as to fit in with the people around. It is so much a part of how we function that we forget who we really are. It was a lovely wake up call through the common sense Universal Medicine presents that break down the illusions we live in.

181. I also played different roles in different settings, was a master in adjusting and feeling what the others needed so they would accept and like me. It requires a little adjustment from their side now to feel the change in me and relate to that. Some love it and feel drawn to me, some don’t and then the contact fades or naturally stops. It’s all fine, I don’t have an investment how it should be. Very freeing.

182. Rebekah I too was a ” people pleaser,” throughout my life and never really showed all of who I am to the world.” For me, being yourself meant only being the part of you that others will like… don’t show them all of you as they might not like it. ” Now with my own growing support and love for myself and with the help of Universal Medicine I am beginning to realise that I am amazing just allowing myself to be, just as I am and that I need to bring that otherwise it’s not truly responsible for myself.

183. I remember, almost to the day, ‘ I stopped being myself ‘.
     I could never understand what ” just be yourself ‘ meant.
     Like you Rebekeh, it took the teachings of Universal Medicine to finally find there is a ‘true me ‘ within. With that discovery I fulfill my expectations and, whilst holding them in love, not someone else’s.

184. Rebekah, you’ve a knack for putting things plainly and simply. It’s interesting how once we start to identify the inconsistencies in ourself, we learn from observing the inconsistencies in others around us too. May we all be consistently ourselves – life is more lovely this way.

185. Hi Rebekah,
     I really love how beautifully you have expressed you not being you in an effort to be liked. I was very much the same – and it still plays out at times – that I would alter who I was, or share more or less of me, depending on who I was with. I would often feel my throat and chest constrict as I would do this… and now I can feel it is a (very) heavy weight on my whole body if I try to play this game. What I have come to learn is that who I am is beautiful and lovely, absolutely gorgeous!, and that, that can be shared with everyone. There is no need to alter myself for anyone – and that in fact, when I am fully myself with people, it offers them a beautiful reflection of who they are also.

186. I can so relate to what you are saying !
     Building a relationship with oneself is the absolute key to let go of being liked.
     I always use the term `becoming truly free`- letting go of the recognition of others and honouring yourself and knowing that you are absolutely enough in everything that you do. It gives you that immense relaxation which is the best base to truly be yourself.

187. Ariel this blog needs to be read by every young person and people of all ages for matter. Amazing what you have reclaimed for yourself with the support of Universal Medicine.

188. This is so lovely Rebekah, I love your last line “Now, every day is expanding to be more loving than the day before”. Just from learning about being you, who you rally are, you’re being more loving everyday!! Sounds great to me!

     1. Thank you Rebecca and Raegan, I agree, the more love we pore out each day the more love the next day and so on!

189. I also am very grateful to have found Universal Medicine
     A lovely reminder Rebekah to keep on being ourselves; no matter who we are with or whatever the circumstance; and to keep on shining.

190. “For me, being yourself meant only being the part of you that others will like… don’t show them all of you as they might not like it”, Something I am sure most can relate to Rebekah. How can you ‘be yourself’ when you can get used to ‘you’ being only a part of the whole of you? True role models help bring back the definition that we are actually that wholeness we have always sought.

     1. I can so relate, Joshua, “How can you ‘be yourself’ when you can get used to ‘you’ being only a part of the whole of you?” I have found that I needed to build a whole new relationship with myself that was not based on good and bad/ right and wrong; a relationship that simply allows myself to just ‘be’ myself without the judgment or the self criticism that kept me living in the measured way that I had been living. This of course is a forever unfolding work in progress as through the observation of yourself comes the realization of how many beliefs and ideals one holds about life that keep you from being all of who you are.

     2. Thank you Joshua, you bring simplicity to an age-old question, who are we? When connecting to the love we truly are “we are actually that wholeness we have always sought.”

     3. Absolutely Joshua, the beauty is by you in the claiming of your full expression, and living your natural love, this is an inspiration to me. Thanks to the presentations by Serge Benhayon who started this amazing inspirational path. I can now say their are many such role models as yourself in the student body of Teachings of the Ageless Wisdom.

191. Rebekah I felt so in tune with your blog it was almost my story, particularly being someone different with each friend, person and family member. It’s the old “trying to be all things to all people” no wonder I have worn myself out at times dancing to a different tune for each person! I feel this is something I am still in the process of changing. You also say you “started to drop the guard I held which for me was not speaking up because someone may not want to hear what I have to say” This is so me and I am now just starting to drop my guard and express what I feel to say. Honouring myself enough to believe that I have as much to share as those around me. I realise that I am getting to know others but I haven’t given them a chance to know me and I am holding back my Light. Thank you Rebekah for reminding me to continue to shine.

192. Wanting to be liked and trying to impress leaves an awfully empty hole. It’s a ‘catch 22’ scenario; the harder you try, the bigger the hole, the harder you try … and round and round it goes. Universal Medicine has been the circuit breaker by literally ‘giving permission’ for us to just be who we truly are without trying. And that is huge relief!

     1. I like the term circuit breaker David Universal Medicine has definitely shown me the way to be me. Which sounds so strange but has created the pause long enough for me to question why I was making the choices I was.

        1. Thank you Rebecca, David and nicolesjardin, I agree, the term ‘circuit breaker’ fits; I also feel that it is a ‘circus breaker’, because before Universal Medicine life was a bit of a circus that was there to please others. When we express love each day, there is more love to express the next day, and so on, which becomes a ‘circuit maker’ or a rhythm that is spherical, returning even more love!

        2. Absolutely Nicole, as Rebeka states, “now, every day is expanding to be more loving than the day before.” This is no longer a three-ringed circus for us but returning to the divine circle of God.

193. Rebekah, I had to laugh when I read how you also had tried “being everyone’s friend and never saying anything that would create any sort of tension between people” as I so tried this too – feeling each situation and how I needed to ‘be’ in order to make this possible, instead of just being me. A so-called ‘people pleaser’ I was. This did not work well at all. In that way, I was never really anyone’s friend, as how could I be if I wasn’t even being myself. Today, I have the most amazing, true relationships with many friends, my partner, my children – just by being me and expressing from my heart – even when it is uncomfortable.

     1. I sat on the fence for years, trying to be what people wanted, playing devil’s advocate rather than having an opinion of my own. Everyone saw me as ‘nice’ or ‘kind’. But a) that fence is very narrow and restricting, and b) after a while no one really saw ME because I was just this nice kind person in the background, a bit like a bland wallpaper. It’s been so lovely to discover I’m not bland at all, and to express it.

194. I love how you realised that so many of us change to be what we think others want us to be, the biggest irony is that they only want us to be ourselves. As you discovered when with practitioners, being yourself was the way forward, thats why they can do the job they do with such presence, its amazing how awesome it feels to be around people who do not let go of being themselves for anyone. We need true role models like this.

195. This is so great and spot on Rebekah, and it got me reflecting back on how I was with people and how people/friends/family were with others too and what I noted about them but glossed over. Your neatly describe what ‘just be you’ actually means with your words…”this was because I was being liked only by being what everyone outside of me wanted or needed me to be.” When we are equal in our expression whomever we’re with without all the trying, helping out, proving, there is expansiveness within the body and communication that says ‘this is the real-me and it feels great’.

196. Great Blog Rebecca, I so recognise the way I have been with people, never showing the real me, always just one part or the thing they liked. But just as you mentioned, it has changed as I can feel how I truly am and that it is not something to hold back.

197. I feel what you have exposed here, Rebecca is an epidemic that affects people the world over. When we are missing ourselves, missing living and breathing from a connection to who we truly are each day, we constantly search for something that will fill the emptiness of being apart from our true selves.

     Beautifully said.

198. Thanks Rebekah, I like and relate to the part of not saying or expressing things in case people won’t like you or to get along . Just to be yourself and with yourself feels better and makes it all much simpler .

199. “How Amazing it Feels to Be Myself”
     I love the title of your blog Rebekah, it says it all. I forgot too what a beautiful, tender, and loving being I truly am. I relate to feeling lost, not being especially good at anything. Forgetting that I am already everything without having to do anything to prove it.

200. A lovely blog Rebekah. Consistently being the same no matter what situation or setting is important. It is an effortless way of living that doesn’t drain or exhaust the body.

201. Wow awesome Rebekah. I can definitely relate to the need of being liked to fill a gap…that, and not rocking the boat. My experience of first attending Universal Medicine was exactly the same.. It all made sense and I was glad other people shared the same view on different subjects. It was refreshing and led to the support i needed to slowly make changes so i felt awesome. At last there where people reflecting what I knew/felt all along!

202. I can relate to not ever putting myself first. So, as a result I was living my life for everyone else and it came as a surprise to me that I didn’t actually know myself. A lot of the things I believed in were from my parents and from the world outside of myself, until I attended presentations with Universal Medicine I never questioned how I felt about things and that what I felt actually mattered. Thank you for sharing Rebekah.

203. Rebekah, just wanted to say I love the way you pose this question “We often use the phrase ‘just be yourself’, but do we really know the meaning of that? ” Indeed, do we really know?

204. Could it be that we choose people around us to confirm us holding back parts of ourselves because of self-worth issues and playing the game of I want to be liked at any cost with people playing the same game and trapped in the same dilemmas?

205. Thank you for sharing your experience of being true to who you are Rebekah. Often we put on different facades, falling into familiar roles, or roles that we feel are expected of us. How simple and lovely to have the freedom of being ourselves.

206. Great sharing Rebekah. I have a similar experience with my family.
     When I started to be more me and to enjoy life my family started to be much more relaxed and harmonious around me.

207. I remember in my youth being so confused by trying to figure out what was wrong with me and how I should behave so that I was acceptable and liked that I completely lost touch with myself. It took a very long time to unravel, but now … well sometimes there is pang of the old fears but generally I have a take me or leave me attitude and I agree, it is much more fun being me! It makes me think how important it is to raise children to know they are enough just being themselves. That they don’t have to twist themselves into some other shape to fit in. Imagine how beautiful that would be. How much pain they would save.

     1. Totally agree Jeanette it certainly does highlight the importance of parenting which in turn highlights the responsibility of parents to live in a way knowing that they are enough just being themselves so that they can be role models for their kids.

208. Absolutely agree Jessica, this is definately something so many people would be feeling. I see it everyday with my friends, work colleagues and strangers.

209. This is an amazing blog Rebecca and one I can relate to so much. It is easy to put way too much pressure (and exhausting) on ourselves to constantly be someone we are not. And it so refreshing, so much ease and so simple to just be ourselves. It is amazing the amount of protection, guard and cover up we carry, it is no wonder many people feel stressed and drained – I know I sure do when I play all these different faces and games. What I also loved was the feeling of ” We began having a family meal together…” I can just feel how super loving, supportive and lovely this is. It can even relate to being in work, taking time to have lunch with colleagues etc.

210. Wow, how interesting it is to read this. Having written this blog three years ago. It’s so cool to re-read where I was at at that moment in my life and the things I was realising. It’s like going back in time and talking to myself. Being myself is an ever developing thing, I’m not perfect but I am much more aware of who I am and what my special purpose is to the world. I look forward to coming back again in another three years to see how I’m going.

     1. Yes Rebekah, it is a bit like a time machine. Fascinating really. I will look forward to your on going input.

211. Wow, what an amazing blog with such wonderful inspiration, Rebekah, thank you. This question “When did we stop being ourselves that we needed to be reminded?” made me squirm in my seat a little, because I have too, searched outside for attention, acceptance and whatever else so that I could identify myself. All the while I HAD access into my inner self, but chose not to connect. I am inspired to go deeper and bring more of myself to the surface and show the world. Watch out.

212. Yes, well said Lisa, we all benefit from Her choice to just be herself.

213. Hi Rebekah, your written expression is just beautiful. I can really relate to your story, especially to adjusting how I am to fit with whoever I’m talking to, even if it’s subtle, it is still there. Keeping everyone happy is a big part of it. I love how you also connect this to putting others first and being unaware of yourself and your own needs. It’s given me a greater understanding of how it’s all related.

214. I love you are questioning the phrase: ‘just be yourself’. I see around me also a lot of people with different faces for different people and I notice this in myself too. I am more and more myself and it is such a joy but I feel that it gets challenging at times when I do not feel like people will like what I have to say. Thank you for this inspiring blog.

215. I also learned more and more to be myself, inspired by Universal Medicine, their courses and feeling meeting people who really are themselves and don´t change.
     I discovered that allowing myself to “be my natural self” is much more relaxing for me and for others too.

216. So simple and so true Rebekah. I love what you say here “We often use the phrase ‘just be yourself’, but do we really know the meaning of that? When did we stop being ourselves that we needed to be reminded?” Your blog is a powerful reminder for us all that if we are unsure of ourselves, we know we are not being ourselves in contrast to the natural confidence that is there in being who we are.

217. Yes, be you be true!

218. How simple and loving to be living as we should all be.
     an old saying goes like this:
     “Be yourself everyone else is taken”
     If only we applied that statement more in life.

     1. Great reminder thank you Gail

     2. Love it Gail or this one “Be yourself as you are the only one qualified to do so”

     3. Love this Gail and then there is this “Be yourself as you are only one qualified to be so”

219. lovely Rebekah, Like a lot of people “just being myself” was something I did not really understand. like you I took on the persona of what I thought people wanted me to be, how exhausting.

220. I love your blog Rebekah and can relate to so much of what you share, and in particular this phrase: “It was exhausting as I was putting on an act for so long without realising that I was getting further and further away from the truth of who I am.” Not until I came across Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine did I slowly start to realise what was the reason for my exhaustion – it is utter madness how so many of us walk through life convinced we need to put on an act to be accepted. Thank goodness I have now learnt there is a different way.

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