The Simplicity of True Expression: Inspired by Serge Benhayon

Recently at a workshop presented by Serge Benhayon, Serge shared that as a society we are far too polite and nice with each other, with no one really being prepared to call out what is truly going on for another.

He shared that sometimes things need to be said to support another to look at what is going on for them.

He used the example of saying to a woman, “Hey, I have noticed you have put on a couple of kilos, is everything okay?” Initially the audience laughed at the thought of saying that to another, especially to a woman. The audience was clearly uncomfortable, challenged by all the beliefs and ideals that tell us you don’t say that. Imagine a woman’s reaction to that?

Serge went on to express that if it were delivered from true love and care, anyone would be open to hearing that.

I, in fact, have experienced this to be true on both counts: as the one expressing the truth and love, and as the one being on the receiving end of this level of love and truth.

Recently a very dear friend of mine, who happens to be a photographer, told me that my birthday present from him was to be a photographic portrait session. I was deeply touched and of course said “Thank you.”

He immediately followed that with, “Yes, but I will not photograph you until those dark circles are gone from under your eyes.” I had a moment of shocked silence, but also a deep realisation of just how much this man loves me.

Truthfully, in that moment, I realised just how much he loved me to say what he did.

I knew it had nothing to do with my looks, as he could easily cover up the dark circles, but rather it was everything to do with his concern as to why I was so tired and/or run down.

What was equally funny was he too was slightly shocked and I could tell he was bracing himself for a possible negative reaction from me.

I could tell he was totally relieved when I burst out laughing and expressed my appreciation for what he had said, which very much confirmed that I knew it came from all the love I know he has for me.  His expression just simply confirmed this love to me.

Since this beautiful exchange, I have continually reflected on that comment. For many reasons:

  • Firstly, to seriously look at why I do have dark circles under my eyes.
  • Secondly, to consider what it must be like for others to want to express like that, but believe they can’t in a world that says it is rude and impolite, instead of the love that it truly is.
  • And, finally, to reflect on what it feels like to be loved so openly and honestly like that.

For me, this is true love and I for one am forever appreciative of it. Thank you deeply, dear friend (Alan Johnston), for loving me so much that you were prepared to express the truth, no matter the possible consequences, and thank you deeply Serge Benhayon for your continual inspiration in leading the way back to what true love is, and for equally always loving me enough to express the truth.

In the ten years I have known you, you have never held back from expressing. Your love is beyond measure and you are prepared to say whatever is needed, regardless of the reaction.

Caroline Raphael & Alan Johnston
Caroline Raphael & Alan Johnston

Which leads me to a point of question. Why do we react when truth is expressed?

Is it possible we don’t like to hear the truth because it requires change on our part?

Is it sometimes far easier to ignore what is being presented and/or find a way to blame or make the one expressing truth wrong, rather than take responsibility for what needs changing and accept the gift that is being offered?

Love in expression is a two-way street: we need to be open enough to allow the truth to be expressed and we have to love enough to express the truth when it is needed.

Without this level of expression, we will stay stuck in the niceties and pleasantries of everyday conversation and hence, away from the truth we all need to evolve back to the truly divine and glorious beings that we are.

Published with permission of Alan Johnston

By Caroline Raphael, Goonellabah, Australia

Further Reading:
The highest form of intelligence is love
Truth – Expressing in Full
Trusting out ‘True Voice’ and Expression

815 thoughts on “The Simplicity of True Expression: Inspired by Serge Benhayon

  1. Presented (or confronted) with truth the lies we tell ourselves and hence everyone else are exposed. How to continue living a lie once it is exposed? It only works as long as one can pretend it to be okay or being the truth.

  2. It may sound strange to what many believe love to be but love is not always feeling comfortable but at times quite challenging. Love comes with truth and vice versa and has really nothing to do with pandering, being nice or sympathy, a lesson most have to learn as the version of love we are familiar with we have learned in our families and often is far from what love truly is.

    1. Very true Alex. The idea of that love is to be always agreeing with someone, making them feel comfortable and that we should not say what we feel because we ‘love’ this person and don’t want to upset them is very strong in society but it is not true love. True love gets us out of unloving behaviours that keep us small and this can at times be challenging or exposing, but I found if I say yes to what has been shared I feel in time much greater than I did before when I was locked in my own lies thinking them to be the truth.

  3. It is a known fact that friends often mirror each other, I have seen it when groups of people come into the cafe I own and they will often dress similar and all order mugs of Cappuccinos.
    In this case, you and Allan are very different people but what you do mirror is the ability to put truth above niceties. The reason you love these qualities in Alan is because you hold them so strong within yourself. Alan and you are two, powerful, truthful and brave people, I appreciate you both.

  4. Just gorgeous to read Caroline, to have the truth spoken to you in love what a beautiful gift you gave to each other in your openness to receive Alan’s love, a true blessing for all.

  5. Love has nothing to do with being sympathetic and being nice or giving my power away in one way or the other and in truth I know what love is as it is inside my body. I am learning to express from there and feel when love is expressed to me, both ways can feel very uncomfortable but as you so beautifully have expressed; ‘Love in expression is a two-way street: we need to be open enough to allow the truth to be expressed and we have to love enough to express the truth when it is needed.

  6. Truth is light and expanding when allowed and accepted, a very different feeling form niceties that’s for sure.

  7. It’s beautiful to read of the true love and care that was expressed to you and it reminds me how this is a truly intimate way of expressing with one another, naturally open and not held back by pictures of what we think we should or shouldn’t say…

  8. Some of the more potential ‘ouch’ situations, have given me the most growth. I think deep down we all want to know the truth, sometimes a comment from a friend can be the impetus to stop the runaway train that you want to stop but dont know how.

  9. And the wonderful thing is , that words expressed truly from the inner heart will never ever leave another feeling less, but will always build a bridge back to re-connection.

  10. “Love in expression is a two-way street: we need to be open enough to allow the truth to be expressed and we have to love enough to express the truth when it is needed” – I love this. It is the way I am with others that would determine how they would express themselves with me. If I am obviously so reactive and judgmental, or withdrawn and closed off, I don’t think I can expect anyone to be totally open and honest in how they communicate with me.

  11. “He shared that sometimes things need to be said to support another to look at what is going on for them.” Discussing this with a friend recently. If we don’t – lovingly – call each other out – we may continue blissfully unaware of the harm or reactions we are causing, It is also the ‘how’ we call out. If done lovingly and with understanding rather than from judgement then it can be very supportive.

  12. When we don’t hold back from expressing the truth we offer another an opportunity to deepen and evolve, and if don’t express truth everyone remains silent and we all stay stuck.

  13. It is interesting to observe how much we as a society hold back expressing what we feel or notice so that we don’t ‘upset’ another. However, as you have shared Caroline, there is no greater offering we can share with another that the gift of absolute truth, as we are honouring who they truly are in essence, and of course ourselves equally so. When we allow the truth to be expressed, without protection or reserve, we allow the opportunity for evolution, as such our relationships deepen with a greater connection to love, to who we are in essence.

  14. In niceness nothing ever changes.. we stay stuck in the same patterns, blind to our behaviours that we need others to sometimes point out, lovingly. I hold back out of fear of another’s reaction, and so I make it a big thing, when really, me just being me, and saying what I can feel, with the care and love that is so naturally there, is all that is ever needed. No big deal, no story or drama, just keeping it simple.

  15. We’ve really made a big deal out of the truth- to the point where it feels forbidden and life-threatening. Dramatic I know, but it can feel that saying the truth can cause the floor to cave in and swallow everything in sight- such is the fear that we have built up around it. but it’s also not just in verbal expression that we hold back the truth. The way that we move can hold back the truth if we are not moving in connection to ourselves, and this guarantees that the truth will do anything but bubble out of us when it comes to speaking to others.

  16. We can be direct and it can be from a true care and concern for another, not in any way a put down as you say but an invitation to say hey I see you and can see something’s up and in that we offer each other the opportunity to be more honest and true to ourselves, and to genuinely support one another.

  17. It does actually take love to share something that you have observed in a person to support them out of a pattern that is harming them. I find that people can stay in an emotional state for a lifetime as others are unwilling to address it. Instead they might avoid, pander, offer sympathy etc. all of which confirm the person as the lesser being they are behaving and does not offer any way out.

  18. What a gift you were offered by Alan – the photographic session was extra – the true gem was being offered the opportunity to evolve by recognising that you were not treating yourself lovingly.

  19. True friends are willing to express lovingly regardless of any reaction on our part as they care too much to let us abuse ourselves.

  20. Yes, it is this cushioning of people and situations that keep the world the way it is because if we all shared from our hearts what we truly feel, life would be very very different. I have had so many instances that people say they don’t like the systems that are in place or when things are unfair but they never would say it so someone who could change something about it out of fear of being attacked or affected by it negatively in any other way but this keeps everything the same.

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