Judgment has been exposed to me recently as being a very ill and very ingrained condition we hold in our general way of thinking. In short, a moment stopped me in my tracks as I got to feel how evil it really is to judge another.
I realised making judgments places others into a box based on what they have done or said in relation to my own perceptions of what is right or wrong, as opposed to seeing them for who they really are.
Judgments are essentially a put down, a way of making another lesser than me for their imperfections, and holds me as being greater when I know I too can at times make the same ‘wrongs’.
Whenever we judge or hold another less, the evidence is clear, it can be felt and seen throughout our whole body.
In my case, it can be seen through my facial expressions, my smile, which is not my full smile, and through my eyes, which are guarded and not fully allowing me to see the other person in full. It is also in my posture, which I realise now is often guarded as my shoulders are rolled in, keeping my heart closed. It goes to show that judgement can never be hidden!
Yet what is interesting about judgement is that it is based entirely on a perceived ideal of what is ‘right’ and thus what must be ‘wrong’.
Without any knowing of a right way to be, there cannot be any judgement as there is nothing to base the actions of another against. They cannot be judged ‘wrong’ as they are just what they are.
What strikes me is just how many unconscious judgements we place on ourselves nearly all of the time.
All are based on a perceived notion of what is right and what is wrong, never simply based on what is true. Some examples I have noticed myself using are:
“Can I say that?”
“Is this the right thing to do?”
“Is this going to break some rules if I do this?”
“What will others think if I do this?”
“I should not have said that.”
Judgement is so insidious – I know I have often found myself not enjoying situations that I otherwise would have because of the weight of such thoughts over my mood and general state of being.
My body takes on a feeling of seriousness and dullness as a result of the judgements I continue to place on myself nearly all the time.
Then I realised, there is no right and wrong in God as there simply isn’t any judgment in Him. He is pure love so how can there be any right or wrong?
I was brought up through the Catholic Church and was taught their belief of sin; that we were saved from our sins with the coming and the death of God’s Only Son Jesus (Yeshua). This teaching does not, and never did, feel true to me.
The whole idea of sin and being a sinner is based on the ideal that God judges us for what we do. God would never do this simply because He is Love, and He will always hold us in Love regardless of the behaviours we choose to live. After all how can a super loving Divine being ever cast judgement on anyone or anything if all He is, is pure love?
In God there is just the understanding of what is true and not true; it just is.
Rights and wrongs are a haggle, a debate, a justification that forms the basis of a judgment or an issue we hold about another person. Crazy as it seems, without the rights and wrongs, there would simply be no judgements. For how can there be when there just is what is true and what is not?
Right and wrong are the same sides of an illusionary coin, a coin that most perceive to have them on opposite sides.
Right is not better than wrong in God’s eyes, for it is not about perfection as there is no judgment. Try to say the ‘right’ thing, and failing and judging ourselves for saying the ‘wrong’ thing, or not saying something when we should have, are examples where right and wrong never seem to get us anywhere. We can be as polite and well-mannered as possible but even then the riddle of right and wrong never seems to be mastered.
None of this exists when we speak from love and understanding and this alone proves the fact that right and wrong actually do not exist.
There is only what is true and what is not true.
If right and wrong form the basis for most of our patterns of thought, it is just as insidious as an invisible mist that pervades our sight, unbeknownst to us, blocking our clear view of truth and love.
As quick as wildfire, when I have judged myself, held myself accountable and suddenly put myself less than who I am, I have committed a perceived ‘wrong’.
Such behaviour is nothing more than rubbish, because as I am learning, it is far more loving to pick myself up, dust myself off, and lovingly learn from the lesson presented before me than it is to hold a self-imposed ideal that I am no longer ‘good enough’ because of my recently committed imperfection.
God is accessible through nothing more than a True Loving Way of being with all: a way that I am learning is clearly laid forth through our re connection with our bodies, and the letting go of the held ideals and constructs that paint God as being some other way.
He is the supreme holder of love, offering us evolution out of our patterns, issues and creations so that Humanity returns to the One Whole, the Brotherhood we originate from.
Inspiration came from Serge Benhayon to write this blog. His very livingness is the richness of God that we all once have lived, and this connection is felt in his every word and gesture. He has inspired me to reclaim my own Divinity and connection to God, the natural absoluteness I lived as a child.
By Joshua Campbell, 23, IT Professional, Tauranga, NZ
Further Reading:
True Reflection, The Way of The Livingness & The 5 Elements of God
Living Religion: A relationship with self, love and God
Livingness
The Truth about Universal Medicine 
Gee this is so beautiful to read, thank you Joshua. I didn’t realise how much judgement I was in still because of the cloaking of it under right and wrong, including how I am with myself. You wrote “I am no longer ‘good enough’ because of my recently committed imperfection” and I noted the word ‘committed’ and it reminded me of how we say ‘commit a crime’ or ‘commit a sin’, and it points to how serious and grievous we feel mistakes are and then allow them to dictate our worth, instead of being light about it and enjoying the learning process life offers.
Being right or wrong equally are not truth. They are a delay to avoid truth.
What is right or wrong, and who or what decides what is right or wrong?
Understanding how appreciation works and that when we Live with True-appreciation, which is understanding that to be energetically appreciative, we understand that we are divine beings and so much more than physicality. Then our deep-humble-appreciative-ness eliminates any judge-ment
Putting our energy into appreciation helps stop judgement.
There is no way to know what another person would think, and our judgement of what they think is usually a judgement we have on life, on us and others.
It’s important that you say “through my eyes which are guarded and not allowing me to see the other in full”. Often we can go into the pity of guarding ourselves and thinking it is because the world is doing us wrong, so we ought to protect ourselves. But there’s another side to the coin like you have mentioned – we are distorting our perception when guarded.
It startles me to know that other people can feel my every thought and movement. Although we may not be aware of it, although we may not register it consciously it is true that we are all feeling everything and there is no hiding. We have just agreed to play this game where we pretend we are clueless.
Since we are all connected energetically, it makes sense that we feel everything and so there is no hiding.
Judgments lock us into the game of comparison – right and wrong, good and bad, better and worse which effectively blinds us to the games actually at play.
Quite evil games at play, to label another right, wrong, good, bad, or better, especially when we are all equal; what are we to judge or compare ourselves with another.
I know for a fact that judgement feels awful in my body whether I express it to another or feel it coming back from someone it still stinks – this is enough evidence for me that it does not belong in the grandness of the universe and that God does not play ball with judgement.
Beautiful blog Joshua and I can really see more clearly now how much of a set up it is to have a picture or notion of God as being judgemental for then it normalises and justifies us being judgemental with each other and with ourselves.
Saying no to judgement is a loving step, ‘it is far more loving to pick myself up, dust myself off, and lovingly learn from the lesson presented before me than it is to hold a self-imposed ideal that I am no longer ‘good enough’ because of my recently committed imperfection.’
Right and wrong are substitutes for truth and untruth. There is a similarity between the concepts but no more than that and we can and do go badly wrong on mistaking one for the other.
We are full of love and putting a right or wrong in our thoughts is simply a distraction away from our ever deepening source ; our love.
Bringing in right, wrong, and judgement does take us away from who we are in truth, love.
What I find fascinating reading this is how we create our own concept of God base on our own judgements; and of course this applies to everyone, so we have our view of the world and how we think it should or even shouldn’t be and then we assume everything else works from those views, so the foundation of all this is false, and it exposes how our want to get things right or not wrong is based on a false platform from the beginning.
“There is only what is true and what is not true.” There is no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ in truth, it just is. This is a powerful truth I have learned from presentations and life lived by Serge Benhayon.
That right and wrong thing, it feels like a blob of interruption that comes in and stops truth from being received by the heart. It seemingly settles an argument by putting me in a certain position, but I am left unsettled.
Judgment is so disallowing. It freezes us in a specific moment and in its flavour and gives no space for evolution.
You can only judge others, when you still judge yourself. So when this feeling of judgement arises, it would serve us better to use this as an opportunity to evolve.
Reading through your blog today Joshua, it struck me how insidious right and wrong consciousness is, that it’s part of the foundation of judgement. Seeing things as right or wrong is deeply entrenched in society, we have for such a long time lost connection to our innermost loving essence that we can only judge things as right or wrong, instead of seeing with clarity if something is true to the love we are, or coming from outside of this love.
We have for a long time lost touch with who we are in truth, ‘we have for such a long time lost connection to our innermost loving essence’. Serge Benhayon inspires us to return to our essence, ‘He has inspired me to reclaim my own Divinity and connection to God, the natural absoluteness I lived as a child.’
Judgement is based on a false idea of love for love, in truth is a beholding and as such an observation, so can never ‘judge’ another or even ourselves as right or wrong. There is only truth or not and love observes us in both, with the understanding that ultimately we all come back to the truth, a one unified truth we are all from.
‘The whole idea of sin and being a sinner is based on the ideal that God judges us for what we do.’ Having been bought up a Catholic it was drummed into you that you are a sinner, I always knew it wasn’t true. It is amazing the lies that get told and still people fall for it, this is evil in action to reduce people’s awareness and true connection to God.
This word judgment is crippling the whole planet and everything that lives on it.
Who knows the truth than God. If we are really honest within our own bodies we know how it leaves us feeling when we judge another, for when we do not, it feels inclusive of all and to me that is where God resides.
Very true Shushila, ‘God is accessible through nothing more than a True Loving Way of being with all: a way that I am learning is clearly laid forth through our re connection with our bodies,’
Judgement is an action aimed at reducing another person and yourself in one go. The judgement is always about the other one, but the action is about both.
Right and wrong complicate things no end, and when we try to get things right, we actually end up getting them ‘wrong’ because the right and wrongs are judgments based on pictures. In trying to get something ‘right’, we’re striving for a picture that isn’t true or real, but something we’ve created – an expectation that we’ve set for ourselves, and usually set up for ourselves so that we can fail.