Judgment has been exposed to me recently as being a very ill and very ingrained condition we hold in our general way of thinking. In short, a moment stopped me in my tracks as I got to feel how evil it really is to judge another.
I realised making judgments places others into a box based on what they have done or said in relation to my own perceptions of what is right or wrong, as opposed to seeing them for who they really are.
Judgments are essentially a put down, a way of making another lesser than me for their imperfections, and holds me as being greater when I know I too can at times make the same ‘wrongs’.
Whenever we judge or hold another less, the evidence is clear, it can be felt and seen throughout our whole body.
In my case, it can be seen through my facial expressions, my smile, which is not my full smile, and through my eyes, which are guarded and not fully allowing me to see the other person in full. It is also in my posture, which I realise now is often guarded as my shoulders are rolled in, keeping my heart closed. It goes to show that judgement can never be hidden!
Yet what is interesting about judgement is that it is based entirely on a perceived ideal of what is ‘right’ and thus what must be ‘wrong’.
Without any knowing of a right way to be, there cannot be any judgement as there is nothing to base the actions of another against. They cannot be judged ‘wrong’ as they are just what they are.
What strikes me is just how many unconscious judgements we place on ourselves nearly all of the time.
All are based on a perceived notion of what is right and what is wrong, never simply based on what is true. Some examples I have noticed myself using are:
“Can I say that?”
“Is this the right thing to do?”
“Is this going to break some rules if I do this?”
“What will others think if I do this?”
“I should not have said that.”
Judgement is so insidious – I know I have often found myself not enjoying situations that I otherwise would have because of the weight of such thoughts over my mood and general state of being.
My body takes on a feeling of seriousness and dullness as a result of the judgements I continue to place on myself nearly all the time.
Then I realised, there is no right and wrong in God as there simply isn’t any judgment in Him. He is pure love so how can there be any right or wrong?
I was brought up through the Catholic Church and was taught their belief of sin; that we were saved from our sins with the coming and the death of God’s Only Son Jesus (Yeshua). This teaching does not, and never did, feel true to me.
The whole idea of sin and being a sinner is based on the ideal that God judges us for what we do. God would never do this simply because He is Love, and He will always hold us in Love regardless of the behaviours we choose to live. After all how can a super loving Divine being ever cast judgement on anyone or anything if all He is, is pure love?
In God there is just the understanding of what is true and not true; it just is.
Rights and wrongs are a haggle, a debate, a justification that forms the basis of a judgment or an issue we hold about another person. Crazy as it seems, without the rights and wrongs, there would simply be no judgements. For how can there be when there just is what is true and what is not?
Right and wrong are the same sides of an illusionary coin, a coin that most perceive to have them on opposite sides.
Right is not better than wrong in God’s eyes, for it is not about perfection as there is no judgment. Try to say the ‘right’ thing, and failing and judging ourselves for saying the ‘wrong’ thing, or not saying something when we should have, are examples where right and wrong never seem to get us anywhere. We can be as polite and well-mannered as possible but even then the riddle of right and wrong never seems to be mastered.
None of this exists when we speak from love and understanding and this alone proves the fact that right and wrong actually do not exist.
There is only what is true and what is not true.
If right and wrong form the basis for most of our patterns of thought, it is just as insidious as an invisible mist that pervades our sight, unbeknownst to us, blocking our clear view of truth and love.
As quick as wildfire, when I have judged myself, held myself accountable and suddenly put myself less than who I am, I have committed a perceived ‘wrong’.
Such behaviour is nothing more than rubbish, because as I am learning, it is far more loving to pick myself up, dust myself off, and lovingly learn from the lesson presented before me than it is to hold a self-imposed ideal that I am no longer ‘good enough’ because of my recently committed imperfection.
God is accessible through nothing more than a True Loving Way of being with all: a way that I am learning is clearly laid forth through our re connection with our bodies, and the letting go of the held ideals and constructs that paint God as being some other way.
He is the supreme holder of love, offering us evolution out of our patterns, issues and creations so that Humanity returns to the One Whole, the Brotherhood we originate from.
Inspiration came from Serge Benhayon to write this blog. His very livingness is the richness of God that we all once have lived, and this connection is felt in his every word and gesture. He has inspired me to reclaim my own Divinity and connection to God, the natural absoluteness I lived as a child.
By Joshua Campbell, 23, IT Professional, Tauranga, NZ