The Joy of Music Without the Pain

by Suzanne Cox, Customer Service Profession, Ocean Shores             

My past has been heavily entrenched in music. I was always drawn to it as a form of expression – from waking up first thing in the morning singing the latest nursery rhyme taught at kindergarten, to learning to play my favourite pop songs on piano or guitar. I joined the school choir, and I was always playing music on the radio or my favourite album: I worked for a number of years in a CD shop, married an amazing singer/songwriter and have hung out with a lot of musicians. I loved every minute of it… or so I thought.

I can’t remember there being any particular big ah-ha moment, but about six years ago I stopped: I stopped listening to and singing other people’s songs, and I stopped playing the guitar. I was still being exposed to music but I stopped engaging with it. I felt I was coming to a point where I was beginning to develop a new understanding with music and I felt I needed to stop for a while, and give it a rest.

During this time I have discovered so many things about music. I realised music had become a great place for me to hide and allow myself to be emotionally played with.

I also started to notice how much popular music was changing. My husband and I have often conversed about how compressed and layered the music is now; so much so that people are being trained or further removed from hearing a true voice. For example, if I listen to an old Elvis Presley track from the 50’s and then stick on a track sung by any one of the numerous pop stars of today, it feels like the purity and warmth of the true voice that was there with Elvis and the simple production qualities of that time have now been lost or forgotten.

The tricks of the music trade today are similar to that of the images we now see all around us where flaws are rubbed out and altered to achieve an image that seems to me to be so unattainable.

We end up worshipping someone else’s image instead of worshipping and deeply connecting to our own natural beauty and divine expression.

The same happens with music. Well, thankfully not all music. If I put on any albums released by Glorious Music, I no longer feel bombarded or imposed upon. There is room for me to listen without someone trying to entice me into their emotional pain. I no longer need to be perfect, for perfection is not the goal. Truth is what I hear, and it doesn’t hurt to listen to it.

As soon as I pressed play the first time I listened to the first album, I wept. This is the truth in music I was looking for all along and at last I felt validated. I had come home to me. A true blessing and inspiration, so profound and ever expanding; something we can all be a part of!

My brother once told me I was a better piano player than he was. I remember being perplexed at why he would be saying this, considering he was more technically proficient, more knowledgeable in the theoretical aspects and got higher marks than I did in music exams. He said, “Because you can feel the music and express it in your playing”. My husband has said similar things about my singing.

I have been pondering for a while, wondering when it would be time for me to come back to music as an expression. Is it possible for me to express the real me through music, and to truly enjoy music without succumbing to the emotional hooks I was previously drawn into?

Well, thanks to Glorious Music, I can now say, “YES!”

428 thoughts on “The Joy of Music Without the Pain

  1. AWESOME to revisit this blog after what is likely several years here Suzanne. The dedication and work of Michael Benhayon and Glorious Music has similarly supported me beyond measure, to return to what I now know to be a true connection with music – one where the true healing art that this is has been restored, and there is not one iota of me seeking the identification in it (including merely to be seen as ‘good enough’) that I knew through so many years of my past.

  2. The thing is, how does such a change occur? How DO we go from being versed in potentially many facets/styles/training in music, and then realise that what is predominantly performed, produced and celebrated in the world today, does not honour the true healing art that music is and can be?
    If I may be so bold as to share in a nutshell, what can bring about such a transformation… I would say from my own experience, that it takes a fundamental shift within oneself, an acceptance and re-awakening of sorts, that life is about returning to a lived embodiment of the love of our soul. It is the individual’s choice to embark upon such a ‘path of return’ (as it’s termed) to one’s soul or not – if chosen, so many pursuits in life that were the (false) glorification of the individual become exposed, and the purpose behind any one activity in time can become truly clear – that all is about The All, and nothing less.

  3. A great point about music being processed to present a version of perfection just like photoshopping an image. There feels to be something very sinister that wobbles and denies us as a vehicle of expression.

  4. Thank you Suzanne, great great learning and supportive choice you have made to leave the music and come back to it with all that you have felt and discovered. A powerful saying , tht is so true and very very commonly lived, but now I can say : there is another way.
    ‘We end up worshipping someone else’s image instead of worshipping and deeply connecting to our own natural beauty and divine expression.’
    The music band Glorious Music and Chris James have deeply supported me with that. Using my clearsentience and discern which energy I truly want to listen to. And skip the rest that in truth impose and make you feel uphigh or empty or in the absoluteness of emotion.

  5. I love your honesty and your openness about your journey with music and what it once meant to you compared to what it means today is worlds away. Music is like everything, its energy, so no matter how sweet the voice, if the intension is to hook you or to get attention or to fill an empty part of you, then you get this emotional package hidden behind the sweet voice or the great tune ect, ect..we don’t get to pick and choose, its all or nothing, its a package deal. I love music but that does not mean that all music is love, if we want to be fed back love then we have to look at the artist that is producing the music we are choosing and observe the quality of life they are leading, if its loving, then its more than likely that the music will reflect that same love. Unfortunately, most of us are on struggle street and so there is a limited range of truly loving music that is energetically sound.

  6. Than you Suzanne for a great sharing about your love of music, and how you have come to realise how music affects our emotions and hooks us in to the energy of the artist, thankfully we are blessed with the quality of love and inspiration of what true music really brings us which is what Glorious Music and Chris James holds.

  7. Suzanne, there is so much here in your blog that is inspiring for any musician that is open to another way of playing, singing or listening to music. The catch, of course, is that music is a medium that does get us so emotionally involved, and invokes feelings in us that we can and actually want to indulge in as a form of distraction or comfort. But as you say, the beauty and freedom of imposition that comes with the songs of Glorious Music and Chris James is so different as it brings so much joy, love and true harmony while at the same time it leaves us alone. All the songs from both these artists are literally heaven sent.

  8. We choose to listen to music but not to be aware of what music does both for us and to us. The moment you raise your awareness regarding music, and you get to understand how it affects your ability to move towards truth, you choose very carefully what you will listen to.

  9. I love listening to music that does not impose on you. I have experienced it as pure balm for my body.

  10. To be able to feel music and then express that through the way an instrument is played or a song is sung allows another to also feel this for themselves without imposing it on them. When music is shared in this way it is an absolute joy for everyone.

  11. It is true – we are suffering a great distortion of our senses in the sense that all we see and hear is becoming ever so slightly skewed bit by bit until we not only accept a vastly reduced version of the sound or image before us, we champion it as being ‘true’ when deep down we know it is merely a highly polished lie.

  12. Awesome blog Suzanne, I can relate to everything you share here. Glorious Music has had a powerful impact on my life as well with music. For many years I listened to music from the moment I woke up to when I went to bed and often would feel quite emotional and melancholic with the music I was playing. Listening to Glorious Music I don’t feel any of the hooks or old feelings like I used to with my other music, it was then obvious to me how imposing a lot of music and how it affects you in many ways. I love listening to Glorious Music because like you, I can feel the expansion and inspiration it offers everyone.

  13. “My husband and I have often conversed about how compressed and layered the music is now” So true, voices sound often so mechanical and fine tuned that it actually does not really sound real anymore. Because of this distortion and drive for perfection it is also so hard for the artists of today to publish albums as it takes just ages for it to be ready (among a lack of inspiration for new songs).

  14. Man if I had not come across the wonders of Glorious Music and the true music that they are producing, I would never have come to feel the true healing power music can have and how harmful it can be when expressed from emotion.

  15. It’s true that music has deep emotional hooks that we love to get caught by… it’s only when listening to music that is free of these hooks, that we get to feel the difference and observe just what we have invested in.

  16. Its terrible what music has become. It is so warped now. It’s changing, like everything, to be more indulgent and extreme with sounds to delight the ears. Listening to music by surrendering to my body honours the joy in my body. This is music non-emotional and not seeking identification. Glorious music is just that – I have the ability to feel glorious.
    I very much appreciate and my heart sings to the en-joyment of Glorious music and all other music performed with this purpose.

  17. ‘During this time I have discovered so many things about music. I realised music had become a great place for me to hide and allow myself to be emotionally played with.’
    It is like each genre of music is made up of it’s own cocktail of emotions. I find it fascinating to observe which kinds of music I am attracted to at different times.

  18. The hold that music can have on us is a huge one, and I put my hat out to anyone who has let themselves be honest enough to realise how harmful music can be when it is not performed or composed from a body that understands energy. The point you make Suzanne, that ‘We end up worshipping someone else’s image instead of worshipping and deeply connecting to our own natural beauty and divine expression’ – and that this also happens with a lot of music is a poignant one – much of the music today asks you to enter into its realm, its vibration and leave yours behind. One day the harm of this will be widely known, but until then we can only discern if we let ourselves be deeply honest about what is energetically going on when music is played.

  19. Music like many facets of life can hide the true quality and or connection to ourselves because much of the music today distorts the truth by developing or identifying with an image or idea of perfection. We see many pop stars today and music being developed that is edited or auto-tuned to sound perfect to the ear or for the style it is adhering too, but are we losing the true quality of connection that can really be shared by the ignition of our bodies and the awareness we in-still?

    1. Hi Kelly, indeed we have lost the true meaning of music in our lives and which is to support and heal us in life and not like the music in current times to evoke or support emotions in people, emotions that are not as harmless as we thought they where but actually are very destructive to the body.

  20. Music today seems so manufactured, so false, very much like the photos that adorn the cover of most women’s magazines, photos that have been so airbrushed that the true beauty of the woman has been totally lost. I can longer listen to this music but finally I have discovered what true music is; this is music that I can really enjoy “without succumbing to the emotional hooks I was previously drawn into?” Thank goodness for Glorious Music for bringing true music to the world.

  21. I am aware of how people’s images are changed digitally for magazines, posters and videos to make them look ‘better’ so it ends up not being like the person at all but didn’t realise a similar thing was done vocally for music .. then again I am not surprised. Yep I love Glorious Music and how it is unimposing to the person listening to it and true to sound.

  22. I find that music can be a great supportive tool for healing when it is expressed from of emotion and instead expressed from love. Music impulses a movement that can either support the flow within our body or not. It may elude us with great tone but impulse a heavier feeling within us which we don’t often realise is what it is also delivering when not expressed from love.

  23. When I read this line – “We end up worshipping someone else’s image instead of worshipping and deeply connecting to our own natural beauty and divine expression” – I was like WOAH, OF COURSE! So much of my teenage years/young adult years was spent worshipping bands and my music idols. I put hours of time into learning every word on the latest album, posters on walls etc…. And the worship of my natural beauty and divine expression?…pretty much nought! My self-love and self-care was pretty low back then. Interesting food for thought.

    1. I reckon the idolising of the ‘stars’ in music and the world of celebrity in general sets us up for division – we divide humanity into groups based on value with celebrity (including royalty) being of greater importance. It’s an absolute lie as there is no greater truth than our equality, however the lie is a perfect breeding ground for self neglect. We generally don’t care preciously for that which we feel holds little or less value (ourselves in this case).

  24. When you consider that music is a vibrational communication and we are energetic beings, we can easily be ‘played’ when we are not discerning about the quality of the vibration we allow in.

  25. Music comes with either true purpose, ie to confirm, heal and evolve us or with the purpose to take us away from ourselves by filling us with emotions and pictures of who we are not.

  26. I agree that music has changed significantly like many things and we are continuing to ‘dress’ things up in order to cover for their lack of quality. Music for me was something I bombarded myself with, playing it super load whenever I could and also to let it take me away. I didn’t like what the world was and music gave me a chance to escape and remember old times or just get away. Now I don’t need the escape and so that quality of music no longer makes sense and so I choose the music I listen to carefully. It’s no longer just a thing to listen to in the background as you do something it’s part of my way of life and I don’t want to be moved by the music.

  27. I’ve not been musical person but always wished I could sing. Even with songs I would have difficulty remembering the lyrics to sing along with. I have even observed this with Glorious Music too and feel its because I have not connected to my voice, to my expression is why I stumble with lyrics.

    Recently I heard a new song by Michael Benhayon and whilst he was playing his guitar before the singer started to sing, my body felt the lyrics of his strings, my body could feel the love that was pouring through him through his music and I had tears rolling down my face – this is real music, music I have never felt from its true source.

  28. I am in full agreement with you Suzanne – thank goodness for Glorious Music and Michael Benhayon – I love the music and songs to express with my voice singing along or through the body with True Movement.

  29. I had a very similar childhood with music. I was always singing and writing songs or making up dances to go with the latest songs. Music and vibrations are a very important part of the expression of our essence. I feel this is why there is so much pollution of music, so that we lose means of accessing and expressing from our soul. I completely stopped listening to music and dancing for a while, but thankfully there is music like Glorious Music that re-awakens the light and joy I had as a child.

  30. While many people think that music is harmless and just part of life and to be enjoyed for what it brings. But when we look more closely to it we might come to other conclusions, that it is not that harmless as we thought it was but is used to sooth our emotional pain in life and with that do not really heal the underlying hurts so that these can continue to rule our lives and actually remain unseen.

    1. If we were to listen with our whole body and feel the overall effects we would be able to discern the energetic quality of the music much more clearly. Just using our ears is not enough.

  31. Thank you Suzanne for sharing your story about the difference in music and your experience, Glorious Music is indeed heaven sent music, no imposing no emotion just every note filled with love calling us back to love.

  32. It’s amazing what we accept with music, as you said many songs try to entice you into the emotion of the song and singer, yet if someone was telephoning us to repeatedly do the same thing we might not take the call because of how imposing it is. To add music doesn’t make it any less imposing.

  33. I used to sing in a really good male a cappella choir and can relate what is shared here with my time there. If there is one thing I would love to share with my former choir it would be to feel what they are singing with all of their body and tune themselves in to the energy of what they are singing. This makes a world of difference, not just to the quality of the voice but to the choice of song.

      1. Very true Christoph. In those days when I would sing it would feel great when I was singing, but that feeling very quickly dissipated once the singing was over. Today I sing in this different way and sing songs that are configured in a different way too. As you say, this does not lead to highs and lows so much but a lasting sense of fullness.

  34. It’s true how we end up worshipping someone else’s image rather than being inspired by the person behind the image. We’re so obsessed with being hooked in to emotional stuff that we need the dramatic effect of perfected sound, melody, lyrics etc. Once we realise all that emotional stuff is literally like adding weight to our bodies, it’s quite the revelation. Why do we enjoy feeling the emotions of others so much, or rather why do we need to feel what they’re feeling? Where is our connection with ourselves and why isn’t that enough?

  35. When synthesizers first came out, people showed off their capabilities, the same with stereo. Now they are showing off how pleasing they can make a voice. I wonder when they reailise that this is a dead end as it stops human expression.

  36. Music for me was the go-to when things got really miserable, but that’s what it is designed to do – hook us in, and then we succumb to the emotion. We identify with what’s being sung and think it is helping us, while all along not realising that we are owned by the music. Whereas with Glorious Music we are left alone because there is no imposing, hooking energy wanting us to change or to recognise the talent of the performer.

  37. I noticed my body’s reaction to some music the other day. One song I found I was super sad and wanted to cry. I wanted to go into the drama of a few things that were going on in my life. The next song I found myself hugely irritated and reactive. I stopped the music and it was like a switch had gone off and my body felt the relief of not being bombarded any more. But I have still found myself wanting to listen to emotional music as there was something very hooking about the first song.

  38. If we truthfully admitted the actual way music works, we would begin to see that what comes through in most of the things we listen to, is more harmful than a class A drug. What Glorious Music delivers is simply profound because they show that it’s the quality that comes through the sounds that we make that matter. Thank you Suzanne.

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