A Lesson in Surrender – Be like a Feather

Have you ever observed how a feather floats through the sky, so smoothly and with grace, no matter what is going on around it.

There is not a speck of control as it silkily glides through the air and surrenders to the wind, letting it guide its movements.

In this surrender it becomes one with the wind, no longer individual, but part of the grand symphony of nature’s elements, trusting completely that it will be taken care of in its movements and when it stops.  

Yesterday I spent the day feeling like the feather. I was totally surrendered to my inner connection, the solid, grounded wisdom that lives within, observing all that was happening around me.

I felt exquisitely beautiful, very open with people and able to understand life with ease.

In this surrender, I was moving and expressing as my inner connection impulsed me to be. It was very freeing – I felt safe and supported and there was a confidence within my body that I would naturally know what to do next.

During a lovely and open discussion over dinner with my family, one of them reacted to something I said and responded with a sharp and pointed reply and asked me to stop talking.

In the past, I would have had my own reaction and I would have been very hurt, closing my heart and stepping away from the love I was naturally feeling. This hurt and shutdown would stop me from being able to observe and detach from the situation. I would go into doubt and let thoughts flood my head with the flavour of “Nobody wants me,” or “What I am expressing is too much.”

I would retreat into a corner of my heart and tentatively wait for someone to give me a sign that it was safe to come out again.

This time was very different. It was a defining moment in my learning of how to observe and not absorb.

When my family member spoke, I was able to observe what was going on and support myself to not take the words personally, but to feel and look deeper at what was happening before my eyes.

I did not react and I realised what we were talking about had triggered an old hurt. The retaliation I felt in the comment was because this person was feeling vulnerable as the conversation went deeper, asking us all to go to another level of intimacy with one another.

I could feel the anxiousness come in for them, and the resistance to being more intimate, in case they were not met in this next level of openness and in the way they had allowed themselves to show more of their inner self.

I did not go into sympathy for the hurt they were feeling and no anger exploded in my body.

I was bathed in the holding quality of love from my inner connection and so I remained like the feather – surrendered and knowing what I was to do next was already taken care of.

As I sat, I registered an exquisite open feeling in my body; thoughts did try to enter of “How dare they say that!” but I kept saying no to those and kept coming back to the feeling of warmth that was expanding from my heart.

I held my family member in absolute love, remembering the gorgeous, tender, precious, loving being they naturally are.

Their heated emotion transformed and any anger or hurt they were feeling dissipated from their body. They looked tentatively into my eyes and I met them with a fullness of love and understanding that melted their hesitancy away.

Dinner continued with a more open, intimate and loving discussion. This was a very defining moment for us all, grounding a new level of connection and way to relate as a family.

I was filled with appreciation for my choice to remain like the feather – surrendered to the exquisite love that surrounds us all and to the solid, unwavering wisdom that comes from our inner connection.

I have enormous appreciation for Serge Benhayon and his teachings of the Ageless Wisdom. Without them I would not have re-connected to the truth of how to “Observe and not absorb.”  Thank you Serge, for the ever expanding love and guidance that you bring to humanity.

I have enormous appreciation for Natalie Benhayon, who first presented the analogy of the feather and surrender. This has deepened my understanding of surrender and supported a profound healing. Thank you Natalie, you constantly inspire me with your commitment and your beautiful lived way.

by Bianca Barban, Registered Nurse, Melbourne  

Further Reading:
Learning to observe and not absorb life
Stillness
The Power of True Surrender

815 thoughts on “A Lesson in Surrender – Be like a Feather

  1. I am learning more and more how in any situation when we react; we can never truly be with or support another in love, for we have instantly separated from our love and them, and instead made it about ourselves. When we surrender to love we embrace the oneness that we are part of and as such we then are moved by the wisdom of love in divine service to humanity. The beautiful thing is that our bodies are always letting us know the depth of surrender to our love within – our Soul, that we have chosen at any given time.

  2. I love coming back to this blog as a gentle reminder to remain in the present moment rather than into thoughts of what is needed or going to happen, forgetting that the future is already taken care of and thereby being in a different time from the present moment. “I was bathed in the holding quality of love from my inner connection and so I remained like the feather – surrendered and knowing what I was to do next was already taken care of.”

  3. Deep appreciation to you for sharing the feather analogy – I can see how the pictures we have of how things are meant to go leave no room for feathers, surrendering, understanding or appreciation. If the pictures are not met then we have hurts, reactions, arguments, defence. One is exhausting and one is not. Feather it is then and out go the pictures – even the picture of what it feels like to surrender like a feather – just time to enjoy being my own experiment.

  4. I have been blown away by what can be resolved and healed when we choose to observe, without judgement, as situations unfold around us. Being observant allows us to remain connected with our love which will impulse us as to the truest way to respond for the benefit of all concerned.

  5. Thank you for sharing how you clocked unloving thoughts passing through you and you chose not to entertain or engage with them but instead chose to be with the warmth of your heart. To observe, is a choice. To go into reaction, is a choice. And which energy to surrender to is a choice that determines all the choices that follow.

  6. Lovely to read this again and feel the depth of joy there is to be had when we literally observe and not absorb.

  7. Surrendering starts with connection. We surrender to what we have connected to. Surrendering is a movement of grace; a clear recognition and appreciation of a magnificence to which we are part of.

  8. When I considered the picture of the feather floating in the wind, I felt a slight apprehension. I imagined being tossed around in the wind kind of scary, and also purposeless as a victim of circumstance. But I know I love watching feathers reflect playfulness and delicateness, so I read again.

    My heart filled with warmth with this paragraph: “I was totally surrendered to my inner connection, the solid, grounded wisdom that lives within, observing all that was happening around me.”

    All became clear and still. The surrender was no longer to the wind, but a surrender to the depth and the strength of the inner connection within that ensures the elegant, steadiness of the inner essence that is responsible for the harmonious and graceful glide in the wind or any other flow through life.

  9. I can really feel what it would be like to live life in the flow, as a feather responding to it with no reaction or struggle whatsoever. A beautiful analogy that’s very powerful too. Thanks for sharing.

  10. The alchemy of the God’s magic – no words needed – “I held my family member in absolute love, remembering the gorgeous, tender, precious, loving being they naturally are.Their heated emotion transformed and any anger or hurt they were feeling dissipated from their body. They looked tentatively into my eyes and I met them with a fullness of love and understanding that melted their hesitancy away.”

  11. Likening the act of surrender to a feather feels very appropriate. Many feathers make for wings and you know what you can do with those!
    To learn not to react is a very valuable thing. However, it’s not about being a robot and controlling ourselves. If we react, it can be a signpost to what needs to be looked at. There may be a deeply seated belief that no longer serves a life that is about surrendering to love. It’s all a good learning!

  12. I find reaction and anger to be a quick burst, similar to a horse breaking through the barrier before it actually opens. When I do this there is no room for observing and the conversation is then moved into reaction. I’ve been working on pausing and giving myself a moment to feel what has come with the words and then respond. It makes a huge difference.

  13. Thank you Bianca, surrendering to the love within oursleves is a true healing for all, this is somehting that I am learning more and more and get to appreciate the simplicity and beauty of life much more than ever before.

  14. It is a powerful moment, when we recognise that our capacity to truly behold others in love is so great that the defences and reactions of old no longer hold sway, Bianca. Thank-you for sharing this, and the Grace with which you hold others here. How blessed are all within your sphere.

  15. I love reading this blog and often come back to it when I need to be reminded of how to be loving and open in a situation.

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