Could We Be THE One?

Before coming to the teachings of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, I had always considered love to be something reserved for those ‘special’ few in my life.

It wasn’t just a normal way of being with everyone but something that needed time, consistency and a track record of trust. Take away that trust and the love would seemingly dry up like a puddle in the sun.

This was how I lived in my relationships: I’d ride the ‘connected’ times for all they were worth, all the while preparing myself for the inevitable hurt and disconnection that would come.

This would play out in its various forms of protection – holding back, distancing, or even complete retreat from the other person.

But that was love, right? Everything in the culture around me had confirmed up until that point the belief that love hurts; that you can have it and lose it and it is finite.

Serge Benhayon was the first person to present love to me as an energy you embody (from within yourself) that can only develop from a foundation of self-love and care.

As far as I was aware, love was something you went in search of giving and receiving, not something you chose to be. 

Looking back over my relationships, I can clearly see how this conditional version of love set me up to feel ‘needy’ of others and dis-empowered in life. Things would feel great when I was getting the attention, acceptance and recognition I was seeking, but when it inevitably dried up, I was faced with the saddening reality of how I truly felt about myself – that I never felt quite good enough no matter how much I seemingly ‘succeeded’ in life.

Through the teachings of Serge Benhayon, I’ve come to understand that the only way off this roller coaster of conditional love is full acceptance of the responsibility that nobody else can do the job of loving me, for me, and that with commitment to myself, it is possible to feel loved and supported, no matter what’s happening in my life.

This is a far cry from the relationship I once had with myself, the world and everyone around me!

Understanding this simple truth that I AM already love and that this is at the core of every single person, has helped me to see through the layers of hurt and protection that get in the way of this love being felt and expressed.

These layers of the ‘what isn’t’ love, such as the hurt of not feeling like we are good enough, feeling rejected, abandoned or not recognised, can seem overwhelming, yet in reality they’re all minute in comparison to the amazingness of who we truly are.

The art, as I’m gradually learning, is where we choose to put our attention: on the ‘what is’ – Love; or the ‘what is not’ –everything else.

When we confirm and appreciate ourselves for who we are, rather than for what we do, such as having an innate lightness or joy, we call for more of that quality to be lived and expressed, leaving less space for the negative self-talk that can dominate our thoughts and ways of being.

Could it be that this type of loving relationship with ourselves, one of full acceptance and appreciation, is THE one we’ve all been searching for? And is it possible that any romantic quest for the Mr or Mrs Right actually takes us away from knowing this true love? 

Perhaps it’s time to bring our focus to the one staring back at us in the mirror – the ONE who will be with us in every moment of every day, waiting for us to stop and finally see who we truly are – pure, all-encompassing and beholding LOVE.

By Alison Coleman

Further Reading:
Self-love vs self-loathing
Before and After My Self Love Program – Forever Unfolding the Real Me
To honour another you need to love yourself

1,125 thoughts on “Could We Be THE One?

  1. Could we be the one? Could we be the one who inspires our neighbour, co-worker, son, daughter, mother, father, brother, friend, or the person on the street to be who they truly are? Could we be the one that’s a bit different and shows those around us that there is another way? Could each and every single one of us be the one?

  2. “Understanding this simple truth that I AM already love and that this is at the core of every single person, has helped me to see through the layers of hurt and protection that get in the way of this love being felt and expressed.” So so true Alison when we truly know we are love there is no hurt that can play out, it all melts away when we express who we truly are.

  3. There is no such thing as being alone when we live in connection to our love within. For in that moment we are in union with all that is Divine, as such with God and there is no greater presence to be with, than with Him.

  4. “Serge Benhayon was the first person to present love to me as an energy you embody (from within yourself) that can only develop from a foundation of self-love and care. ”
    I had the same experience with Serge Benhayon, he was the first person I met who knew what the word love meant.

  5. I’ve loved what you have shared here Alison, searching for love elsewhere to complete us when it is within us all.
    Like yourself I am gradually learning too to bring what I am, build the foundation of what I am and what is not and I can reflect this to others to build theirs if they so wish.

  6. ‘As far as I was aware, love was something you went in search of giving and receiving, not something you chose to be. ‘ This is such a great point that many of us , if not all, have been ensconced in. It wasn’t until Serge Benhayon said to me ‘all you have to do is Be Love’ that the penny dropped and I realised how simple it is. Then I could begin to unravel and understand all that was not love in my life. Still in progress, I am experiencing how love is an amazing ever deepening expansion that knows no bounds.

  7. We can only have negative self talks when we do not deeply love ourselves. Otherwise it would be impossible and not exist.

  8. We can hold on and cherish our hurts, not feeling good enough, not recognised, feeling rejected and so on, but with that we only are holding back the love that already lives within and can be lived without any effort if we choose to live so.

  9. ‘The art, as I’m gradually learning, is where we choose to put our attention: on the ‘what is’ – Love; or the ‘what is not’ – everything else.’ I’m finding that appreciation helps this process hugely as it is absolute and truthful.

  10. I must admit that I always thought that there would be a “one” who came to save the world but I now realise that that was a falsehood sold to me and in fact we all are the one’s in that we all are responsible for saving ourselves.

  11. Not claiming that we are the One does not serve anyone; in fact it is a complete hindrance to what we are here to do. We are all the One so there are no favourites.

  12. Whenever we put our focus outside of us – we set ourselves up to fail, as we reject our inner-side being ness that is who we are and move with everyday. Could it be that by acknowledging our inside, our truth – it makes us expand, bigger and hence all the manners and ways of living away from that will be exposed? And need an update? Yes, hence it is great to actually allow the what is truly new and eliminate the dirt that is polluting us, that has never worked.

  13. ‘The art, as I’m gradually learning, is where we choose to put our attention: on the ‘what is’ – Love; or the ‘what is not’ –everything else’. And wow, what an art to learn. This quote lived has changed the very foundation of everything I do. How amazing this is when you start to live it you see how it was there to live the whole time, we just chose the other direction.

  14. ‘As far as I was aware, love was something you went in search of giving and receiving, not something you chose to be.’ Yes Alison, this is a very different place to be and completely re-writes what we think Love is.

  15. The person looking back at us in the mirror is the only person with us in every moment. Terefore, it is best to build a relationship with ourselves first because then we know who we are as we look out from our eyes to others.

    1. So true Lucy, we are for ourselves the first and foremost, who have to come to terms with the love that we already are before we can share this love with with the world.

  16. For years I have taught that being the “one” was some sort of big deal and the reason why I would not accept myself as the “one”. More recently I have come to know that it is our responsibility to be the “one”, as each of us so can and do reflect something different to each other.

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