Could We Be THE One?

Before coming to the teachings of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, I had always considered love to be something reserved for those ‘special’ few in my life.

It wasn’t just a normal way of being with everyone but something that needed time, consistency and a track record of trust. Take away that trust and the love would seemingly dry up like a puddle in the sun.

This was how I lived in my relationships: I’d ride the ‘connected’ times for all they were worth, all the while preparing myself for the inevitable hurt and disconnection that would come.

This would play out in its various forms of protection – holding back, distancing, or even complete retreat from the other person.

But that was love, right? Everything in the culture around me had confirmed up until that point the belief that love hurts; that you can have it and lose it and it is finite.

Serge Benhayon was the first person to present love to me as an energy you embody (from within yourself) that can only develop from a foundation of self-love and care.

As far as I was aware, love was something you went in search of giving and receiving, not something you chose to be. 

Looking back over my relationships, I can clearly see how this conditional version of love set me up to feel ‘needy’ of others and dis-empowered in life. Things would feel great when I was getting the attention, acceptance and recognition I was seeking, but when it inevitably dried up, I was faced with the saddening reality of how I truly felt about myself – that I never felt quite good enough no matter how much I seemingly ‘succeeded’ in life.

Through the teachings of Serge Benhayon, I’ve come to understand that the only way off this roller coaster of conditional love is full acceptance of the responsibility that nobody else can do the job of loving me, for me, and that with commitment to myself, it is possible to feel loved and supported, no matter what’s happening in my life.

This is a far cry from the relationship I once had with myself, the world and everyone around me!

Understanding this simple truth that I AM already love and that this is at the core of every single person, has helped me to see through the layers of hurt and protection that get in the way of this love being felt and expressed.

These layers of the ‘what isn’t’ love, such as the hurt of not feeling like we are good enough, feeling rejected, abandoned or not recognised, can seem overwhelming, yet in reality they’re all minute in comparison to the amazingness of who we truly are.

The art, as I’m gradually learning, is where we choose to put our attention: on the ‘what is’ – Love; or the ‘what is not’ –everything else.

When we confirm and appreciate ourselves for who we are, rather than for what we do, such as having an innate lightness or joy, we call for more of that quality to be lived and expressed, leaving less space for the negative self-talk that can dominate our thoughts and ways of being.

Could it be that this type of loving relationship with ourselves, one of full acceptance and appreciation, is THE one we’ve all been searching for? And is it possible that any romantic quest for the Mr or Mrs Right actually takes us away from knowing this true love? 

Perhaps it’s time to bring our focus to the one staring back at us in the mirror – the ONE who will be with us in every moment of every day, waiting for us to stop and finally see who we truly are – pure, all-encompassing and beholding LOVE.

By Alison Coleman

Further Reading:
Self-love vs self-loathing
Before and After My Self Love Program – Forever Unfolding the Real Me
To honour another you need to love yourself

1,000 thoughts on “Could We Be THE One?

  1. Starting with the notion of already having and being everything we could ever long for shifts one´s approach to life radically. The way most people live is from a deficiency or emptiness looking outward to be filled with what they miss or expect giving them fulfilment. This is the very nature of how we have made life to be, a creation from disconnection to the all we belong to. Living life from the potential of already being everything allows for a very different scenario whereby we don´t seek for what is missing but bringing forth to life from within what we want life to be.

  2. Your mention of the power of confirmation and how important it is in our relationship with ourselves and with others got me wondering…. what if all of the major issues problems and tensions in this world including all the wars etc would simply not be if we had more confirmation of who we are and what we feel in ourselves and with others?

  3. It is indeed about ‘where we choose to put our attention’ or what source and quality we are aligning to. We either live life from the outside in (the what is not) or from the inside out (the what is); the latter meaning to live as the one from the presence of who we are (love) and express this quality in the world.

  4. I love that we are already whole and that through our life cycles we are just returning to this way and re-configuring our movements to confirm this amazingness that is nestled within our hearts.

  5. To live every day with the notion or potential of being THE ONE is quite a remarkable approach to life with many unfoldments and revelations to be experienced inevitably leading to being THE ONE – to become who we already are.

  6. To actually and not just potentially be the one I need to move in a different way, a particular quality that is fueled by the energy of love, ie impulsed by the only one source that delivers true love, harmony, brotherhood, truth, joy, union… – our Soul, God, the universe. The moment we move in such quality we are expressing it, developing and magnifying it. The moment we align to what is not love we are back in the loveless dilemma we all know just too well.

  7. Yes Alison, so much of what we see in life focuses on a Love that is hard to get, out of our reach, or trapped in a gorgeous moment on a beach. Sometimes we see through this and know this is not the way to go, but then take this as a licence to hide away in ourselves too. Neither of these routes works out well. The truth is, as you show, that when we realise we are ALL one and an equal part of the same whole, then we can’t hold ourselves less than anyone else. So naturally we deserve love and understanding as much as anyone does, and it’s our job to deliver this present to ourselves.

  8. Accepting the fact that we are the One means that we are prepared to be responsible for everything in our life.

  9. There are so many beliefs that get in the way of this and so many pictures about what love is, that constant looking outside of ourselves to be filled by something instead of first allowing ourselves to be filled with our own love and then taking this out to the world.

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