All through my life until recently, I equated my true nature of being delicate as somewhat of a liability, a weakness, certainly not the strength I now know it to be. I hardened up as a supposed shield to protect myself in life. I later discovered that protecting myself like this was actually no protection at all.
I trained to be an aromatherapist 18 years ago after returning to the UK from living abroad, where I was working as a dance teacher. I’ve always enjoyed caring for people, so this seemed a natural progression. Physical and bodywork therapies, such as massage, have always been important to me, and I enjoyed giving massages to family and friends. My hands are sensitive, with an inbuilt radar, knowing exactly where to go to find areas of tension in the body.
In those days the techniques I learnt were all designed to go as deep as possible e.g. deep tissue massage, Shiatsu etc, using elbows and very strong, hard pressure, with the intent to bring relief, but this sometimes made clients wince, and also caused some pain in my own arms and shoulders. This was put up with by both myself and the client, as there was the belief that it was doing good. I now understand that these types of intense bodywork are crucially burying the issues that cause the tensions more deeply into the body.
Life for me then mirrored my work, which was far from a gentle pace or quality of being. As many people recognise, life can be hectic and busy as we rush to fit as much as possible into the day. Stress, a lack of true nutrition and fresh air, together with insufficient water and late nights, all took their toll on my health and well-being.
I was not present with myself, living more in my head than my body, and lacking confidence. I had low vitality with numerous low grade health niggles and I often felt tired – exhausted even. If I had known then what I know now, life would have been very different and much more joyful.
It was only after I came across the teachings of Universal Medicine, as presented by Serge Benhayon, that I discovered a new way to live that I had never come across before. It was revolutionary to discover simple self-care techniques, such as the Gentle Breath Meditation™, and several esoteric healing modalities, including Esoteric Massage – a beautiful massage that is completely gentle, but offering powerful healing.
I also learnt ways to live that were not taught at school, nor anywhere else in my life. I could write a whole blog on each one, but in summary, these points really supported me and continue to be a work in progress:
• Observing life and not absorbing it by not taking on board the external stuff.
• Taking more responsibility for myself, not blaming others, not being a victim / martyr or taking things personally.
• Learning to respond, rather than react, to situations and people.
• Breathing my own gentle breath.
• Not giving my power away – remaining strong within me.
• Staying connected to myself consistently through being aware of my body.
• Being gentle with myself and others.
• Understanding from Serge Benhayon “Expression is Everything”, so I’m now learning to express how I am feeling.
• Learning to be the true me, knowing that everything I need is already there inside me.
Leading on from this was my learning about relationships, particularly the relationship I had ignored in the past, the one with myself…
The key to this new, gentler way of living for me was becoming more aware of my body and actually listening to the deep, inner guidance that lives within me. Living more from the inside out, rather than from the outside in. It was about developing a trust in myself and in my own inner wisdom. I learnt that at the core of our inner being, in our inner hearts, is our essence, which cannot be tarnished by anything outside ourselves. This is something everyone has and can tap into.
The modality that really supported me in this was Esoteric Yoga. At first I found it very uncomfortable to feel what my body was communicating with its various signs and symptoms. For example, when I was lying still during an Esoteric Yoga session, my legs would be feeling restless and irritated. I thought I was living well, being very health conscious, but there was a deeper energetic level to health that I had ignored. Something simple – like opening and closing a door gently or not – took on a new meaning. It indicated how present and connected I was with myself and to my body. After a period of time, the uncomfortable feelings became less as I became more aware of how I was living and started listening more to my body. My Esoteric Yoga sessions reflected this back to me, almost like a biofeedback system.
It was amazing to feel the delicateness in my body, similar to a beautiful rose with a deep, inner strength and grace. Being connected to this quality of gentleness makes life flow so much more easily.
I have now transformed the way I work completely. I no longer practise my old therapies. I now offer Sacred Esoteric Healing including the beautiful Energetic Facial release – a favourite of mine. My massage work is no longer hard work, but a joy with a lighter touch, which transforms issues rather than burying them, and I no longer have aching shoulders after doing a massage.
Receiving Esoteric massage has helped me to develop more awareness, so that instead of ‘checking out’ or going to sleep during the treatment, I can feel my whole body and focus on releasing any tension that is there. Surrendering to my true, inner delicateness feels very natural.
Body awareness and delicateness are my true strengths now. My body shouts loudly and clearly if something is not right. By honouring my body, by listening, I have much more energy, vitality and well-being. I am appreciating how I no longer need to walk around protected with my body, which used to feel like an old fashioned corset laced tightly around my chest.
I now know that my true power is found in the connection to myself, to this quality of delicateness, which is strong and powerful, like a graceful flower blossoming. The strength of being in my delicate essence affects everyone around me in a most beautiful way.
By Sue Goodson, 63 years old, Massage practitioner, wife & mother, Lightwater, Surrey, England
Related Reading:
Esoteric Yoga: The Yoga of Stillness
The Gentle Breath Meditation™ & Discovering my Inner Self
Trusting and Expressing From My Essence
The Truth about Universal Medicine 
This is such a template for how to build a more gentle and tender way that builds us from the inside out.
There is an incredible beauty when you see someone in their gentleness. It’s empowering to feel; it’s holding of who you are, and it offers you another way to choose to live by the reflection you’re offered.
Going into protection is one of the possible ways of keep making life about me, me, me.
Like a rose without thorns so too must we let go of the spikes that keep others away from the exquisite scent of our true selves.
Thank you Sue, always a pleasure to read how you returned to yourself and to living from your essence. “It was amazing to feel the delicateness in my body, similar to a beautiful rose with a deep, inner strength and grace.” This line has really inspired me to be more aware of how I now feel inside and to hold myself with more joy and appreciation.
We are encouraged from young to toughen ourselves against the onslaught of the world or be crushed by it.
There is seemingly no room for the feelings of fragility, tenderness and delicateness that are as natural to us all as breathing. so we put them to one side and forget about them, getting by in life as best we can. Life does us we don’t do life.
Turning all this around has been a huge learning for me, thanks to the support of Universal Medicine I am rediscovering my fragility, tenderness and delicateness and how bringing these qualities to the fore of my life helps support other people to feel these same qualities in themselves.
I am very much still turning this around, so engrained is the protection and need to be tough and going it alone strong. It is such an isolating way to live and serves no one.
I remember when I thought that a massage, if it were gentle. was not really a massage. It is not the depth or technique but the quality of touch, the quality of energy that the practitioner lives that is felt and makes a difference to the client. In those days I may have been reacting to the lack of energetic integrity of the practitioner. All I remember is that I did not like those soft massages I had back then. I remember having my first Esoteric Massage with Curtis Benhayon and how magical it felt. No softness here but a very delicate yet firm touch that allowed my body to surrender to it’s own delicate and precious nature, that connected me or supported me in connecting, to an inner confidence and a grace in my movements.
Yes I agree, I was one of those massage practitioners that didn’t realise the quality of how I was living had an effect on the massage I was offering. My massages were probably on the deep tissue side because I didn’t know what gentle felt like to me. There is so much that can be gained from working on ourselves as practitioners.
When we start to honour our delicacy and our tenderness, it is possible for others to know who we truly are…
It’s crazy how we seem to think that high amounts of pressure on the body is the way to go – you share such an interesting point here about how you used your elbows and it hurt both you and the client but no one said anything because it is ‘normal’ – what if we spoke up when things don’t feel right, and choose to see this sort of deep tissue massage as a burying of issues.
The gentle and tender approach is far more supportive for a life that is vital and joyfull than the hard and aggressive manner that leads to a miserable life.
‘I was not present with myself, living more in my head than my body, and lacking confidence.’ When I look at your picture and seeing you what comes to me is a completely different you than what you have described, I see the real joyful you and you can hardly imagine you are 62 years old. You are a true inspiration for women to live a life connected to the delicateness we as women are.
We give our power away in so many ways. Mostly this comes from allowing our minds to direct and control, with great disregard to our bodies, if you consider the substances we consume that we all know are harmful for our bodies, including our organs. When we connect to our bodies and begin listening to them, much healing takes place with old habits just dropping away as we can make choices that truly nourish and nurture every part of our being.
Feeling the power of delicateness and preciousness is very empowering.
Indeed. The moment we truly feel the power in our own delicate nature is the moment we realise that it is a sign of great weakness to deny this.
“The modality that really supported me in this was Esoteric Yoga” – I agree, same for me, this modality is life-changing.. life-changing because it supports on working the very one thing [quality] that restores balance in the world, workplaces, and life that has so much excess of it’s opposite, making us and everything off kilter – this quality is stillness or femaleness and without this re-balancer and taking it as best I can into my whole life in the way I live, I would still very much be lost to life and its spin. Stillness provides the seat of clarity, steadiness and confidence.
There really is power in true delicateness, it’s not about being wishy washy but honouring the delicate nature of our body. The quality of energy behind what we do or express is what makes the difference.
Sue, one thing that was very evident in your sharing here was actually the delicateness of the way you expressed yourself in the writing itself. This was really palpable for me, in that I could actually feel the level of tenderness and acceptance you have come to of your own true essence. To me, this shows the power of living in this way, as it then offers the same level of delicateness for another to adopt for themselves through the way we are living.
And that can be sensed even when talking about the weather or walking down the street. How we live is always on display and can be seen with our sensitivity being active and honoured.
‘The strength of being in my delicate essence affects everyone around me in a most beautiful way.’ Now this is powerful and such an inspiration for me as I have tended to do life the hard way.
Everything in your list made so much sense. It was so logical and really simple, not complicated or hard…that is unless you have built a way of moving and living that has a momentum to it that means taking time to rest, to breath and stay connected to yourself when you move without getting distracted is an irritation because it is so slow and, heavens, a waste of time! I can say that because that is where I started. Yet the trajectory for that momentum is one massive crash and not remotely productive, intelligent or smart.
The body is an amazing communicator and the brain receives that communication all the time whether we choose to clock it or not. As babies we love moving and discovering our bodies and how they move, learning how to get ourselves to interesting objects that our parents have perhaps though out of our reach! Yet as a society we are taught that the brain and the intelligence we are taught has more value because it can be measured and over time we lose the value we once had in that simple connection to our bodies.
‘I now know that my true power is found in the connection to myself, to this quality of delicateness, which is strong and powerful, like a graceful flower blossoming. The strength of being in my delicate essence affects everyone around me in a most beautiful way’ Beautiful Sue!
I can feel the strength in the delicate beauty I feel within. It is definitely a very deep choice to remain dedicated to exposing and letting go of the many ways that I live that hide and cover up my innate natural strength.
Delicateness is often used in describing a lacey material, or clothing, yet so rarely used to describe the essence of a woman. Yet for us to know the delicateness of lace, one knows innately the delicateness of the essence of a woman. Does this not cause us to ask why that delicateness is not a natural choice, made daily in how we live? I am asking and already there are many so called reasons as to why. But not one equals the beauty of being delicate, sensual and fully accepting of the grace of my essence.
Why do we not learn this way to live with ourselves at school? the emphasis on the mind is causing the disconnection with our body. The playfulness young children live with is how they live so naturally connected with their bodies and the wisdom in there. It is all there. Schools should start to honour this from day 1 a child is entering the system.
If the delicate, playful nature of a child was fostered rather than slowly crushed by the force of conformity, we would have vital, joyful adults walking around, rather than the exhausted, coffee dependent adults most of us are.
So true Sue, for it only takes one breath back to our Godliness this life, that makes us realize what we have been missing all along. Breathing the truth and love of who we are. The loveliness where we were born with… just have lost sight of, but for us to return to. When we have the willingness to do so.
Thank you Sue, your photo is really lovely! Modalities that use pressure and force on the body, confirm a consciousness that comes from living disconnected to our essence and to all it’s qualities, because without our essence, we make it about the body and physicality not the energy, and how supporting that to change (ie return to our essence) supports the body to change.
I also found through Esoteric Yoga sessions how delicate I was. I used to feel like a tom boy and was almost shocked to feel how graceful and delicate my movements were. The simplicity of this modality shows me that this is one of the keys to being able to be who you are in life. Focussing within my body and being very honouring of it, allows me to access my inner essence and the ‘real me’ that I had buried since childhood.
‘It was amazing to feel the delicateness in my body, similar to a beautiful rose with a deep, inner strength and grace. Being connected to this quality of gentleness makes life flow so much more easily.’ Beautifully said Sue, there is a great strength when we honour our delicateness.
Thank you Sally, in Australia being tough, rough, not showing your feelings, and where the ideal of manhood is championed, and those qualities being also valued in women, it’s so lovely to come to this blog and read the comments and experience delicateness being valued and lived by men and women.
“I now know that my true power is found in the connection to myself…” – how simple and how true this is Sue. Connection to oneself is the backbone of and to the body that enables all limbs to work; without it we simply break down into collapse.
Thank you Sue, so true, even the delicateness of you that is felt in your writing, is making me feel also my own delicateness and I can feel how much I have guarded myself that others would not see or feel that or come close, wow, that is a big load of unnecessarily protection!
‘Learning to be the true me, knowing that everything I need is already there inside me.’ a truth to be fully claimed and walked by many, including myself. How often and easy is looking outside when inside we have all.
Sue the picture of this blog reflects exactly the joy and beauty that you emanate today. I felt deeply touched when I knew you personally in a course held by Universal Medicine. Your warmth, openness and delicateness were there to remind me of the same qualities within me.
When a client winces it is never a good sign! ‘but this sometimes made clients wince, and also caused some pain in my own arms and shoulders.’ It is great you have come back to the delicateness of being you.
This sentence in itself is so powerful…”Observing life and not absorbing it by not taking on board the external stuff.” If we all committed to this one choice, what a world we would live in…..
This blog is a great reminder that there is more to us as human-beings than we probably care to admit. For me, I understand that there is a ‘being’ inside the human body and this being holds the keys to the universe. I wonder what would happen if we were to appreciate this part of us, which I have discovered is a whole body experience, rather than relying on just our minds to navigate us through our lives.
Beautiful Sue, thank you.. What you share touches the heart. We can make our love grand by choosing to breathe it and make it our life. A gorgeous strength is the love we are and how delicate this is. For us to explore the depths of it again, simply by being who we are in connection.
“Leading on from this was my learning about relationships, particularly the relationship I had ignored in the past, the one with myself…” – agree entirely with you Sue, as I’ve been finding too, the relationship with oneself is the relationship to the rest of the world because in knowing ourselves, we can know another.
The inner connection to our innate knowing of the intelligence of the universe – which is infinite is the most important lesson you could ever have in life.
If it’s great medicine in your body, it will be great medicine for others too. How crazy that we continue to think that hurting ourselves doing ‘good’ can ever work. Thank you Sue.
I agree Joseph. I wonder what exactly is offering a person who is compromising his or her body. If would come from love never hurt, push or compromise, just expose what is there to be truly healed.
As I deepen in that body awareness, I find the need to adjust the quality of my movements to match the next level of delicateness that I have discovered within.
Our fragility is not just something to be admitted and addressed, but embraced and appreciated. It is not just here by accident, but designed to remind us of the truth. Thank you Sue for this reminder here.
The strength of a woman lies is the stillness, as the stillness is seamless, unified, wise and beautiful.
Such a beautiful testament to the power of a true relationship with ones’ body. Thank you Sue.
“I now offer Sacred Esoteric Healing including the beautiful Energetic Facial release – a favourite of mine. My massage work is no longer hard work, but a joy with a lighter touch, which transforms issues rather than burying them, and I no longer have aching shoulders after doing a massage.” So many people who want massages are happy to be beaten and pummeled before they feel there has been any positive results from having their massage. I have found the Esoteric Healing to go so much deeper simply with the lightest of touch, because it is the energy that is being addressed first.
“All through my life until recently, I equated my true nature of being delicate as somewhat of a liability, a weakness, certainly not the strength I now know it to be. I hardened up as a supposed shield to protect myself in life. I later discovered that protecting myself like this was actually no protection at all.” We grow up hiding this sweetness because we feel it is a weakness in this world. I see it so much in the media around us, Women are consistently encouraged to present an exterior where they look tough, invincible, unbreakable.
Who would have thought that the connection to the quality of delicateness is powerful? It is interesting how we have misused the word strong in many different ways taking on many pictures, ideals and beliefs yet at the same time knowing what is true. Feeling delicate within my body is incredibly beautiful. There is a strength that is natural and real with no trying and no imposing… it is simply there in my expression when I choose to connect and surrender.
I love observing people who allow themselves to be delicate. It is one of the most beautiful things we can see.
Once I would not have put ” strength and delicate” in the same sentence! Having learnt how delicate doesn’t mean weak but in fact is perfect with “strength”. Thank you Sue.
I noticed when I was receiving deeper tissue massages or any massage in fact that was not truly gentle and loving, that the issues and tensions I had would never seem to clear long term and often return the next day. I still felt tense within myself and my body reflected that. Massages with deeper love and care allow you to let go within yourself and your body releases tension as a consequence.
Every client who cares for themselves truly or is deepening into this awareness will appreciate meeting you as their practitioner and this then ripples out, how glorious Sue.
The keys you have shared are all common sense, yet they don’t enter your thoughts when you are caught in a way of living that is driven by the mind. Looking back, it is hard to believe that I lived so disconnected and disrespectful of my body but there was nothing else that I saw or coming to my understanding. I now share this change with other people, as I can feel what a prison it is to live in the mind and in disconnection to the body.
Reading through your list of “ways to live that were not taught at school” the question that instantly rises is – why aren’t they taught to all students? Each one of them offers such wisdom and support for each and every one of us, but presenting this wisdom to our young ones will offer them such a beautiful foundation as they grow and go out into the world. Maybe then life as we know it today will slowly begin to change.
Deep tissue work is coercive and very imposing on our physical body which only accommodates and moulds itself according to the flow of energy we allow to come through us.
What a gorgeous testimonial to the Esoteric healing modalities and the power of being present, delicate and honouring our natural sensitivity as a strength. It is quite ingrained the belief that being delicate or sensitive makes you weak. Yet is actually very disarming, inviting and safe for other people to feel you just vulnerable and open.
So beautifully said Fiona, people can and do disarm when we are delicate and gentle in the way we are and move. It is a quality that can be trusted when we are consistent.
Self-acceptance of who we are is the key in life, for we are already everything and once there is acceptance we can allow the divine wisdom out for the evolution of all.
It is quite fascinating being with yourself. especially during an Esoteric Yoga session. It can teach you so much if you are open to being honest and listening to you body. A session or program allows you the space and grace to learn how to be with you body and feel the quality of energy that your body is in.
There is so much more to us than meets the eye – we are so much more than just physical beings and so to equate our power just with our physical strength or ability to push through life is mis-guided in my eyes and as you share there is a real power in honouring our whole body and its sensitivity.
Saying YES to my delicateness is a big focus and theme in my life as well. It needs a constant reminder and an exploring and in that finding the strength and trust to go on with it. When we as women live in the delicateness of who we truly are, meeting each other in that, the world will change. Because there is nothing more powerful, than a woman that lives their delicateness in power.
Far from being weak, delicacy is a power… an essence from the divine. It’s who we are.
Having given many Esoteric Massage sessions to friends, family and the public I am amazed at how appreciative everyone has been at the tender loving care that we bring from the outset, the warmth and ambiance in the room, the delicate way we place the towels and healing eye pillows, the way we hold the arms and legs as we gently replace them on the massage table and then the care that we take in heating the cream and oil. All these little things add up and the ‘client’ responds to this level of care. They can tell if it is just put on for this one hour or if we take this much care in the rest of our lives, or at least aspire to it. This quality is not generally experienced in our lives but having had a taste of it some of us choose to welcome it into our own lives by taking more care of ourselves in the way we move, eat, sleep etc.
” …. instead of ‘checking out’ or going to sleep during the treatment, I can feel my whole body and focus on releasing any tension that is there”. It feels delicious to stay with my body during an esoteric massage – or connective tissue therapy – feeling the changes inside my body. If I fall asleep I miss that!
Hardening up to protect ourselves is counterproductive. This way we just hurt ourselves first with hardness and loss of a sense of our true self, whilst the harm from other people still gets in.
We seem to have confused being delicate with being weak and pathetic. There is absolute focus, purpose and joy when we allow our delicateness to emerge and be lived in full therefore having zero relationship to being weak. Just shows us how much we have bastardise words.
What a great checklist… The bullet points that you make in your article… It’s like it sums up the necessary evolution of a human being to truly start to know oneself, and free oneself from the tentacles of our past.
Sue this is such a transformation from ‘I was not present with myself, living more in my head than my body, and lacking confidence.’ to ‘Body awareness and delicateness are my true strengths now.’ It is so beautiful to feel the power of love in what you have written. And your picture is breathing out your delicate and loving nature.
Today I spoke to someone about the qualities of being delicate, understanding and loving, of listening to ones body and being sensitive. They surprised me by saying how powerful they felt these qualities were. On hearing this I got a deep appreciation of these qualities and to not shy away from them but embrace them wholeheartedly.
Allowing our delicateness to be, allows the feeling of life to go with it. By becoming hard and protected, we don’t register what is there to be felt and we cut off our super power of clairsentience.
It is so beautiful to know there is another way to massage the body with the gentleness and delicateness that it deserves and that allows it to clear old patterns and behaviours from our body in order to regain true movements that are a reflection from our soul.
To live with delicateness and preciousness requires great strength.
Our only true protection is love. All else is simply the armour we move in place to not feel the magnitude of who we are and what we are capable of when we live in union with this.
In life we can be addicted to the ‘rollercoaster’ effect. We say we want easiness and harmony but then automatically introduce complexity. Pretty soon our life becomes a soap opera in its own right which like a tv show entertains us as we go and stops us from getting ‘bored’. But as you seem to say, what if there is another way? What if we consistently and religiously honour our delicacy? What if no matter what, we kept returning to that? It feels to me that we might have to go through an uncomfortable ‘cold turkey’ period in this process but ultimately what we’d find is a simpler way to live. Precious like the most fragrant flower, it smells sweet to me. Thank you Sue for sharing your story here.
Being delicate is one of the most amazing qualities of women, I used to think being delicate was reserved for those private moments where you don’t really do anything, but the amazing thing is that you can be strong and delicate and super practical, super fleshy and completely committed… and also delicate.
Wow. Sue. I can really feel delicateness and tenderness as your super power, and how open and honest you are in your expression. It’s beautiful to feel how you hold self-love as your foundation and keep coming back to go deeper. Such an inspiring woman.
When are are in our delicacy, it brings an awareness that is unknown, it is in this awareness that we retain the joy in life. When we choose to be harden and close down, we close ourselves off to what is truly there, beauty, truth, love and harmony.
I spent many years only wanting Remedial Massage, the harder it was the better I thought it was. It took a while to realise the harm I was doing to my body, but living in such a protected way had hardened my body so much I was almost numb to feeling this. Thankfully I addressed this hardness in my body and began to let it go. the Esoteric Massage has been key with this and has allowed me to feel how precious and tender I truly am.
When we appreciate that there is more to life than just the physical it makes sense that it’s not just the physical force with which we do something that makes a difference – the quality of energy in the way it is applied does more than we can see with our eyes…
‘The strength of being in my delicate essence affects everyone around me in a most beautiful way.’ There is so much truth and depth to surrender in, just in this sentence…
Whenever we choose to discover our true nature, we will find a grace and beauty, a delicacy and a tenderness, and this will always change our lives.
It is quite beautiful having a treatment from someone that embraces their delicateness, it somehow invites me to do the same.
The adage “no pain, no gain” belongs to the scrap heap; it dishonours the body and our delicateness and only gives the illusion of betterment. The body presents the account later, much later at times.
I used to be complimented when I was sick or had any injury and went on stage regardless of that and did a full on dance show. You get praised for disregarding your body. What a bastardised version of honouring.
My body patiently coped with it, as always. The pain that it represented afterwards was accepted, as the recognition filled my need to be seen and was more important at that time, than my body. How crazy, looking back now.
Sue until I met Serge Benhayon and he was presenting on the topic of what it is to be a true woman I had no idea that by being in protection of myself did not allow to know or understand what it is to be truly living as a woman. I’m still re- learning but from disliking being a woman feeling it to be a man’s world I am actually enjoying discovering what it is to be me in a woman’s body, its actually fun.
Universal Medicine therapies are unique in that our most intimate and prominent qualities do not need to be parked away while offering a healing session to anyone. On the contrary, they are part of your unique expression as a practitioner.
Delicateness is an innate quality in us all the we are too quick to dismiss or ignore. Far from being weak, there is a grace, strength and power to it… just ask a rose to show us its power in full bloom and we will see the beauty of delicateness for what it is.
Sue your blog is a great one to come back to and read, I can relate to your words on our delicate inner essence being our strength, as well as to all of your dot points. Responsibility is so empowering, despite how we may perceive events and ourselves we do have the power to make profound and lasting change.
It is such a revelation when we allow ourselves to feel delicacy in any form…. And then to start to live it is extraordinary
How beautiful to read this from a man, and how gorgeous that you can live and celebrate your delicateness and share it with others.
As women we have many “superpowers”, two of which are our preciousness and our delicateness. Embrace these qualities and we find ourselves living a full and rich life.
You describe Esoteric Massage and the “joy with a lighter touch, which transforms issues rather than burying them”. It is not just the joy but also the power of this modality that does transform issues and has no need to torture tissues with elbows, knuckles and steely hard fingers. Been there, done that –
no thanks.
Esoteric Massage is truly a transformational modality, we may think of massage as being purely physical, but what this modality offers is so much more. Not only has it helped me tremendously with allieviating pain but also in changing behaviours. It’s not like “stress relief”, there is true change on offer.
” I now understand that these types of intense bodywork are crucially burying the issues that cause the tensions more deeply into the body.” We must finally admit this to ourselves in our society.
“I later discovered that protecting myself like this was actually no protection at all.” This is powerful to realise our exquisite delicate nature is something to be lived and honoured so it is a reflection for others to also see and feel in themselves.
Its an interesting comment – that when we become sensitive, our bodies literally shout when something is not right and we have the option to voice it and change it, or accept and carry on as if nothing is amiss. We are a walking radar if we just choose to stay open.
I have lived so protected and shut down due to the sensitivity of my being, now understanding through the Ageless Wisdom teachings that Serge Benhayon presents that sensitivity and delicateness are a part of who we naturally are and are and can be claimed as a beauty and strength that we hold within.
Living this brings true joy.
That’s the beauty about allowing our delicateness to be seen, arises in is the rest strength and power that is also within, and not in a way to be better than anyone. It to be all of who we are.
The modalities that are offered by Universal Medicine have been life changing for me. The Gentle Breath Meditation brought me back to a body that I had been disconnected from for so long and is a self supporting tool that can be used anywhere. And like you Esoteric Yoga has been the hugest support to continue to grow this connection, especially to the woman I am. As a result the way I now move in this world is so different than the way I moved for the majority of my life and my 67 year old hips are the most fluid they have ever been, something which I am absolutely loving and appreciating daily.
I really love coming back to this blog Sue. Your list of things you have learned and are continuing to master is awesome to read – each one its own experience but that contributes to you living more of the real you, and all of equal importance.
Developing our relationship with self allows us to identify the level of abuse that we have allowed in our lives and bring focus to that which dispels anything which is not form truth and we do this through our movements and the way that we choose to express with our bodies.
Sometimes this is hard to face but it’s ultimately the truth we need to face.
I have never been part of an organisation, a student body and a way of teaching that encompasses the whole of life and beyond. Nothing is left out or un-important in the teachings of the Ageless Wisdom and as students we are given everything to make the choices to reconnect to who we are.
Beautiful truth Rachael.
Yeh absolutely spot on, I’ve experienced religion, university, education, business, groups, family life, modalities and nothing encompasses and covers the whole of life the way the Ageless Wisdom teachings do.
The power I hold within still blows me away, I’m still working on letting it all out. Feeling and knowing this truth it’s incredible to feel the immense power and change that will come when we all choose to shine, live and reflect this power to all.
I love the points you share – discovering that I am already complete from with-in is an absolute joy. I don’t know how or when I might have go to this realisation and claiming, however I’m incredibly appreciative for Serge Benhayon presenting and initiating the fact that this is true for each and everyone of us.
‘Taking more responsibility for myself, not blaming others, not being a victim / martyr or taking things personally.’ This is key for me. Being invested in being seen as nice, friendly etc has meant that I have taken any kind of rejection very personally, inflicting hurt on top of hurt on myself. By working on responsibility by deepening my relationship with myself I am becoming less affected by other’s reactions to me. Most of the time I am able to feel that it’s not because of me they are reacting but something I am reflecting to them that has brought up something from them to feel within themselves that they may not want to take responsibility for.
This discovery that it doesn’t work hardening up and creating a false sense of protection needs to be shouted from the rooftops. When you feel it for yourself, as we are all capable of feeling, you really get to feel the drain this creates in your body. As well as the harm it causes; it simply doesn’t work. Energy doesn’t recognise hardness as a barrier and passes through us regardless of whether we have hardened up or are open to whatever is there to feel.
What an eye opening truth is shared here Fiona. I hear you loud and clear, from the ground.
Thank you Sue, it seems so simple and easy to do – and the truth is it is, if only we can understand and compassionately keep in check the wayward selfish part of us that has ruled the roost for so long. It is driven and addicted to doing things that are to our detriment in so many ways. Our body gives us the most beautiful marker to be able to show the truth of our every move – all we need do is listen in full to what it has to say and not let our head get in the way.
It is never too late to truly live the ways that support our well-being and vitality that aren’t taught. We can constantly learn and choose again what we discover supports us to re-connect to our loveliness, amazingness and living our lives in full.
There is so much strength in delicateness and like you Sue it has taken me quite some time to figure this out. Just goes to show how much we as women misunderstand our own true nature.
Absolutely Elizabeth. It’s as though there is a force at play which has twisted our meaning of words such as delicacy, fragility, power, preciousness so we reject these, our natural and innate qualities. There is huge irresponsibility in our rejection of their true meaning for then we live a diminished life reflecting and confirming the falseness and the reinterpretation of these divine qualities.
The world is not set up to reflect that it’s okay to feel delicate or fragile, so we do all we can to not feel this and distract ourselves from feeling this lack of connection to ourselves. It’s ironic that we spend so much time searching outside of us for things to fill us up and make us feel complete, when all that we ever need and want to feel is already within us, waiting to be reconnected to.
This is a great point Elizabeth. There is such a depth to every woman and yet such a battle that is played to keep this depth at bay. Which is why it is all the more important for those of us who have gone to that depth and connected to how delicate and precious we truly are, that we do not shy away from this in a world that is desperately seeking to find itself everywhere and anywhere, but within itself.
I agree Elizabeth, for so long I felt my vulnerability to be a liability.
It is through the teachings of Universal Medicine that we can once again reconnect to the immese wisdom within our bodies and finally stop compromising the true nature of our beingness in order to fit into a world based on ideals and beliefs, we simply have absolutely everything we need when in connection with our hearts.
A truly gorgeous photo of you Sue confirming all you have expressed. Reading this and from being a massage practitioner before knowing Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine and then getting to feel the difference in everything after attending Sacred Esoteric Healing and Massage courses I would boldly say I think everyone before becoming a practitioner should do these courses. I would further say this is in fact vital! You get to learn and feel the importance of true energetic integrity … in fact so much is revealed the veil of illusion is pulled away. I have learnt so so much, for the better without a doubt and am still continuing to learn.
‘The key to this new, gentler way of living for me was becoming more aware of my body and actually listening to the deep, inner guidance that lives within me.’ There is a natural way of being with ourselves like this, but until I came across Universal Medicine I hadn’t connected to it. I was overriding what I really felt and listening to outer ideals and beliefs rather than my own innate knowing.
Universal Medicine brings a clarity to true healing like no other organisation I have ever come across. Being clear on the energy behind a modality and what it is doing or supporting energetically in the client and the practitioner is crucial for the true wellbeing of all of us.
Our true power is in expression.. in every moment. AND that we must always express all that we feel in one way or the other (speech or without speech). Going against, not expressing ourselves causes deep damage to our body and the moments thereafter and the people you will meet. Hence, like Serge Benhayon shared – EXPRESSION IS EVERYTHING.
I have never really been into any healing techniques before I had one with Universal Medicine. I was never comfortable with someone touching my body. However, when I had my first esoteric healing treatment I was deeply touched by the tenderness and care of the practitioner- it was amazing to be met in such a way and I noticed that the tenderness was what allowed me to surrender more into my own body.
Sacred Movement is another very powerful modality to surrender to the delicacy and tenderness in our bodies which like you’ve said is so natural. To not protect our chest but to be open and be delicate and let others feel the sacredness in our bodies, work in progress but definitely the way to go.
Beautiful Sue – when we move with presence, care and precision we give ourselves a yoga session in whatever we do. This way of living builds a knowingness that equips us to respond to whatever life presents. What a delicate and precious relationship this is and one so well worth honouring.
I have also re-connected to the delicateness in my body, the quality of stillness and inner strength within through Esoteric Yoga. It allows us to feel the body and being within at a deeper level.
It is totally empowering the day that we realize that that which we have been avoiding within us is in fact our natural strenght and it needs to be reflected back to others and inspire them to embrace their delicateness and tenderness within.
Like you Sue, from attending the endlessly amazing presentations by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine I have “learnt ways to live that were not taught at school, nor anywhere else in my life.”; and everyone of these lessons has simply made sense to me. In light of the incredible changes in the quality of my life from these lessons I can imagine how the health of humanity could also improve dramatically if they were taught at school and at home; I can definitely see that the global health statistics would be in a much more ‘healthy’ state.
Awesomely honest blog. It is amazing how people are in the ‘health’ field treating others yet not healthy themselves and in complete disregard of their own bodies ‘I was not present with myself, living more in my head than my body, and lacking confidence. I had low vitality with numerous low-grade health niggles and I often felt tired – exhausted even. If I had known then what I know now, life would have been very different and much more joyful.’ I did this as well as I was a massage and reflexology therapist for a short period but had to stop because I was .. ill! It was through meeting Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine that I learnt true energetic integrity and how to truly love and care for myself.
Thank you for sharing your journey Sue. You have inspired me to look deeper at the way I am living and appreciate the delicate woman I am..
Far too many of us in today’s world are living the opposite of the delicacy and divine tenderness that comes completely natural to us when we connect to it.
Learning to live life from our body and not our head is a completely different way of being in and relating to life and ourselves. When I live life from my head I get drained and exhausted pretty quickly and then end up staying more in my head because I don’t want to feel the tension I’ve taken on. Living from my body feeds me energy back and makes me more aware of what I might be taking on, and more aware of the choice to do so or not.
A flower is never apologetic for being dedicate and so it is never seen as anything but for magnificence that it is.
Having worked in the massage industry, I saw the damaging effects on therapists when giving massage in a way that was in disregard of their own body – and the way in which massage was taught encouraged this to be so in favour of achieving a result with the client first. Massage therapists have a short life span career-wise as the body, wrists and hands generally give way, thus enforcing a career change before too long.
In contrast, Esoteric Massage supports the practitioner to honour themselves and their client equally at all times, which supports on all levels and thus the practitioner is asked to walk their talk and be living examples of self-care and a way of living in and moving the body. In this way of working and living there is no damage, strain or struggle, but an ever deepening relationship with the body, and the service being offered.
I’m going through a challenging moment right now, and everywhere I go the name of Esoteric Yoga keeps popping it up. I’ve done it before and found it an amazing support, but there’s some part of me that totally resists this idea -surrendering and feeling more. Even this is very revealing, and indicates to me how we know the truth but fight it too. Thank you Sue for sharing your experience and inspiring me not to give in to the hiding and running away game.
With very little effort we can again connect to and feel our essence and the very true delicate nature that we are, this is essentially the easy bit, what it brings is then the part of the equation that many shy away from. As Sue shared, we feel how we are living that is not truly from our innermost essence and for some this becomes an internal struggle, as it did for me for years. Of late though through a deeper surrender and a the development of trust, what is presented is no longer a struggle to deal with, but an absolute offering of grace from my soul.
Massage as you have shared Sue is so powerful, and yet the way it is presented by the esoteric practitioner it is amazing for both client and practitioner.
Thank you for sharing your amazing transformation Sue, there is absolutely nothing more divine than reconnecting to that delicacy and beauty of our true essence.
Allowing our delicateness, and fragility to just be with others allows and gives others permission to do the same within themselves. This is something I observed today with a friend of mine similar to the more we surrender to the love within the more love we are with others and this can help support others in letting go of any tension or stress that has been held onto in the body.
We can often endure pain in the mistaken belief that it’s good for us and that we will benefit, like those hard massages you speak of here and how we harden and brace our bodies to be in and meet life. This is in fact hurting us and our bodies more and coming back to and listening to our bodies and what they need is the way to be with ourselves and life without hardness – what a gift the Esoteric Healing modalities are showing how we are in our bodies and offering us a reflection of another way.
I grew up losing almost all connection and awareness to my body. Thinking that everything comes to me from someone else or random acts. These days this equates to thinking the world is flat. My commitment is to reflect that what we do with our body matters and no one else has authority over our choices and well-being.
I am starting to appreciate that I too am naturally delicate and that this is where my true strength lies – not in the Amazonian qualities I used to celebrate in myself.
Being delicate is a true nature of a woman and leads to a power that she can rely on to be a solid guide throughout her life. How? By being delicate a woman is in honouring of her body and with this is deepening the relationship with her sensitivity and feelings. When a woman honours her body there is no room for disregard or making choices that do not match this already lived quality.
Yes so true Rachael, and when woman honours her body she naturally honours everyone.
What a strength awareness of your body and embracing the stillness that is our natural way is. They are undervalued qualities in life yet the Esoteric Yoga program has been a clear reflection to me of how they are both powerful qualities which feed into the rest of my life and therefore the lives of those around me.
I love what you have shared here Sue and also find that awareness of our bodies and how they move play an integral role in our connection to self and others and find it so much fun exploring and deepening my own relationship with my body and how deeply sensitive and delicate I am and can be in every movement made.
‘Observing life and not absorbing it by not taking on board the external stuff.’ I am just learning the beauty of observation. It allows me the space to not take on board my own reactions, to not judge me for them but bring understanding no matter how uncomfortable and strong the reaction is initially.
“Living more from the inside out, rather than from the outside in.” is definitely the way to get to know ourselves for the tenderness and sacredness that we are and embrace it in our fullness with deep appreciation to live what is so natural in our lives.
It feels so normal for you to have come to this understanding Sue. Although it’s the opposite of how you started out in this life, which admittedly also feels normal given the environment we live in, there is a natural and more grounding feeling about what you’ve chosen now that feels way more accessible simply by the way you have approached it.
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it really is wonderful to read about someone turning their life around so… So majestically and coming into the full bloom of who they truly are.
Looking at your list today, the “not blaming others, not being a victim” is a game-changer on its own. Just taking that offering, with a good pinch of honesty, and observing yourself for a week to see if/when/how much you do the blame/victim game, is a real eye opener. I have started to look at that and realised how quick I can be to blame – it is fascinating when you shine a light on it and see how much you can do something without really realising it. Only from there can you decide to make changes.
There certainly prevails in society the belief that we need to get some very clear and tangible force with massage, if not sensual, sexual or relaxing. There are so many variations to the intent of massage and its many presentations and yet in the Esoteric massage we arrive at simplicity and true, deep healing- without the stimulation, hooks, forcefulness and imposition of other massage modalities and those delivering them. The Esoteric massage removes disharmonious energy and supports us to heal the whole of us.
Universal Medicine has brought to us such divine gifts that words cannot express adequately their reverence and service to mankind – every tool,technique and ancient wisdom simple and uncorrupted to navigate us on our return path to God.
To think that massage needs to be physically deep or manipulative to be effective negates that fact of everything being energy and so doesn’t provide for true healing as it is just addressing the function of the body without assisting the energy behind the tension or injury to be resolved…
Esoteric Yoga allows us to reconnect to the innate wisdom that lives within us all, that place where we know that nothing has greater power than our light of our soul.
“Body awareness and delicateness are my true strengths now. My body shouts loudly and clearly if something is not right.” It’s pretty amazing to appreciate just how much wisdom we hold within our very own bodies and that all the answers we need to live a vitally rich life are right there waiting to be connected to in any given moment. Thank you Sue a beautiful blog indeed.
This is beautiful to read as I think we all can relate and see that the hardness we can live with is far from the strength we hold that is the delicateness within.
I have also done the Esoteric massage course which I found truly supportive in so many ways, and something my body lovingly accepted and appreciated because this massage transforms issues rather than burying them….and oh body I had a lot of buried stuff that has since cleared.
There is a strong belief out there, as you have indicated Sue, that traditional massage needs to dig deep apply huge pressure on the body to be effective. Because we have become so inured to life as a result of the stresses and and hardships of life, our bodies seem to have lost their sensitivity and appear to need deep pushing with massage to even ‘feel’ anything. This goes hand in hand with the myth of ‘no pain, no gain’. Esoteric Massage is beautifully gentle, respect and honours the body and the laws of movement, and is very powerful.
There is absolute power in the quality of delicateness I am discovering this too, just like you Sue, I saw it as a weakness and did not want to be seen as delicate and womanly. The relationship with ourselves and our body asks for a constant deepening, for me this is letting go of levels of control one by one and let my body be the one that leads my way.
Thank you Sue, another very inspiring and healing read for me of your blog. “My body shouts loudly and clearly if something is not right. By honouring my body, by listening, I have much more energy, vitality and well-being.” This is such a beautiful and enlightening process listening to the body, the more I respect and honour the wisdom communicated by my body, the more I see how wise and intelligent it is and my life reflects it also with better health and vitality. Listening to the body is simple, powerful and very delightful.
Life changes incredibly when we start to have a loving relationship with ourselves. Every step is absolutely worth it – even if some have felt like walking through stuff I’d prefer not to, what is left behind is the stuff I was avoiding walking through. So the next steps are lighter, clearer and much more simple.
I appreciate how far I’ve come and I’m discovering surrendering to the true impulse of my next step. It is absolutely worth taking those initial steps.
As a 19 year old, I’m still in the early phases of learning about myself and becoming in tune with my body and mind. I’ve learned that I can never really know something because once I think I do, something else comes up in my body or mind that I hadn’t noticed before! It’s definitely a continuous journey. Thank you for sharing this. I love that people can experience these breakthroughs at all stages of life 🙂 ❤ Sending love.
I feel the hugeness of all you’ve learnt and share here Sue through your association with Universal Medicine; and how what is presented is so different to everything else, and yet makes so much sense, to take deep care of ourselves and have a deep and loving relationship with ourselves, and how this is the start of all things and from there we take this out into the world and how we are with it, and that changes all things we meet – it is truly amazing and hearing your story is a beautiful confirmation of this, thank you.
The power is there for us all to feel as we read your words, Sue. Each time I read this blog I feel a new sense of joy as I go deeper with connecting to my own delicateness. It’s so true when you say that ‘I learnt that at the core of our inner being, in our inner hearts, is our essence, which cannot be tarnished by anything outside ourselves’ and with confidence we can connect to this place and allow all the hurts from the past to gently leave our body as we let go and leave room for our essence to thrive and truly unfold to us all the magic that surrounds us in the Universe.
Since experiencing the difference with the support of Universal Medicine and from my own choices to develop a relationship with my body I can also say that being delicate feels far stronger and steadier than living in a way where I hold back or believe that I have to protect myself from something/someone. All this does is leave me spinning and hurt whereas being present with my body leaves me were I am, wherever that may be at the time but with a knowing that I can handle life and be my delicate self.
‘“Expression is Everything”, so I’m now learning to express how I am feeling’. I am learning how to express myself and share more of myself, and that my expression counts. This goes much easier than in the past especially the more I deepen my appreciation for all the many new choices I have made and for how far I have come.
These points are just magic. So simple yet so powerful to implement simple changes and allow the ripples to take effect in it.
Thank you, Sue, indeed we all have been gifted immensely with so many resources to come back to be who we truly are and it is our responsibility to constantly use them and do not depend on others to get us there. The level of love and strength lived by Serge Benhayon is just a reflection of what is possible for us all to live if we consistently rely on the resources available in our livingness.
This statement – “knowing that everything I need is already there inside me” – is a key tenet to The Way of The Livingness and after years of searching outside ourselves, to better ourselves, it is remarkable to know that it is inside us, all the time. The Kingdom of God is inside us.
I was chatting to someone recently and we agreed that we do harden ourselves and put up a veneer or wall to protect ourselves against the onslaught of the world, but actually this is no protection at all as we still get affected by what is happening around us. But then for them taking down the wall felt so exposing even if it wasn’t actually working and that’s okay, at least they understood that there was a wall there and while we try to protect ourselves, we are not allowing others to see us for who we truly are and that is a huge shame and how most of us are living in protection.
A very beautiful blog Sue, and one that speaks to me very strongly today as I feel my own exhaustion right now, and ask where I can listen more deeply? Today I took something personally and boy did that hurt and it reminded me that doing this is super draining and so unneeded. It isn’t just those physical things, it’s the deep seated underlying ways of being we foster and how these impact our vitality and lives. And the great thing we have chosen this so we can choose differently.
It is a strong belief systems that muscles and soft tissue have to be kneaded, pummelled and stretched in order to release – what if this is adding insult to injury and does nothing to release the energetic root cause of the condition but buries and cements it deeper into the body?
It feels so beautiful that women around the world are discovering and embracing their delicacy after having ignored it for so long. Once we make that initial connection we realise how the world has been manipulated, and consequently deprived of a reflection of what a truly beautiful experience it is to feel a woman who is aligning to her delicacy. It is also very apparent from the lovely photo of you Sue that your delicacy is in full bloom.
Awareness is the essence of all meditation techniques
Having been an aromatherapy, remedial and sports massage therapist for many years I can see where you come from! I loved what I did but I was exhausted. People wanted fixing and I thought it was my job to do that for them. It wasn’t until I came across Sacred Esoteric Healing that I appreciated the delicateness of touch, the conversation the body is having that wants to clear the energy behind an issue not just the symptoms. Applying it in my life was imperative if I was to be working with any integrity. Thank you for sharing the steps to go from this fixing and exhaustion to allowing and vitality.
One thing Universal Medicine continuously offers is a deepening of every facet of life. If you think you have something covered, feel into it again and what you discover is another layer petal ready to bloom.
Definitely, but from experience there can be that knowing or inkling that there is always more to live but out in the world that ‘more’ comes from outside – more money, bigger house, more ‘likes’ on Facebook etc. Universal Medicine’s presents that that more is already here with us, like the petals on a flower just waiting to open. You don’t see flowers obtaining extra petals from other flowers, they come from within.
In the past I too learned massage and how much pressure you are supposed to use when releasing pressure on a part of the body. We were even strongly encouraged to take up weights and strengthen ourselves so that we could sustain that pressure on our body. Thank-fully I didn’t actually choose to do that firm massage and instead only did relaxation massage which was not as taxing on the body but still felt put pressure on my body.
Receiving Esoteric Massage has helped me to develop more awareness, so that instead of ‘checking out’ or going to sleep during the treatment, I can feel my whole body and focus on releasing any tension that is there. Yes, since having Esoteric sessions, I too, have learned and felt the deep benefits of staying with my body and connecting with what I have held within it, and am amazed at how much easier it is too access that tension and discover the reason why I have it. It doesn’t make sense now to me why I would have not wanted to be more responsible for my body and choose to stay more connected and aligned to the source that feeds it back absolute love.
The strength of being in my delicate essence affects everyone around me in a most beautiful way.
Absolutely Sue, and this is a true gift that we can share with everyone when we choose our own gorgeous essence to live from.
How beautiful to be reminded of all the blessings we have been offered by Serge Benhayon – we now have so much to support our body and life to come back to a true way of living that is all embracing and truly self loving. It’s beautiful and truly awesome to feel the changes that you have made in your life, and your delicateness and grace shine forth for all the world to see and be inspired.
That is what I took from this blog this morning Susan, a wonderful appreciation of what we have been offered and what is available for all as a result of these blogs.
It is interesting to notice how often we ignore the messages of our bodies. Like how the massage was painful for the practitioner and the patient so it makes sense that it is not healthy for us.
I can relate to what you share here about life mirroring work. I know I put my career as everything and get very much the same – I lived for work not for me or others. But what you share here about coming back to how you feel in your body was also key in supporting me to see the bigger picture.
As men we have to return to our fragility and tenderness and I feel the path that you have shared as a woman and how you have connected to you delicateness is similar to how I have connected to my fragility and tenderness. So thank you Sue for the reminder of what was and how simply life can be transformed.
There is much to be said and gained for us all daring to go there to discover our tenderness and delicateness.
Absolutely Irena when we step outside our bubble a whole world opens up from the truth that lives within and this is so simple from the connection we have from our divine essence or inner-most.
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Your joy, delicateness and the power of these qualities are palpable in your words Sue. Reading this blog feels like an opportunity to meet you and learn from all you have experienced. Thank you.
It is so amazing as a man to also connect to ones delicacy through these esoteric modalities. Being delicate, tender and gentle were things I only thought were for women but the choice is equally there for men to connect to these things and when we do it is such a natural thing to do.
Powerfull message to all of us Sue. Showing us that we are here to come back and re-unite to our Soul, to who we are and what we bring. And that no matter what, we are constantly being pulled to this source of connection – Soul-fullness we come from.
The deepth offered by esoteric healing is more than anything I have ever experienced before.
“My massage work is no longer hard work, but a joy with a lighter touch, which transforms issues rather than burying them, and I no longer have aching shoulders after doing a massage.” This is beautifiul to read Sue, and to know that there is another way to be with whatever we are doing. It does seem crazy that in order to help another using so called ‘healing modalities’ that we should put our bodies under any undue pressure. In contrast, this is not the case when treating with the Esoteric Healing modalities, particularly when we have felt our own delicateness as a result of receiving these treatments and are then able to impart that same delicacy to another.
There is a delicateness in my body that I am constantly being called to surrender to. I can attempt to step away from it, yet compared to this delicateness, every step away is in fact, painful.
Thanks Sue, this is a very honouring (yet rare) piece of writing on the inner quality of delicateness. This line in particular really moved me “It was amazing to feel the delicateness in my body, similar to a beautiful rose with a deep, inner strength and grace.” I had not really seen myself like this yet it feels very true. How glorious to understand ourselves in this way! I can feel for me there is an opportunity to go deeper in feeling and accepting my beauty and delicateness – thank you.
The ways to live that you list should be what is taught at school first and foremost!
“I later discovered that protecting myself like this was actually no protection at all.” It pays to feel the layers of protection we build up around ourselves when we are with others and allow vulnerability to soften our ways and movements.
It is presented by society that knowledge and mental intelligence is the highest achievement and thereby freedom but as you say Mary it is the opposite – imprisonment to ideals and beliefs of others. True success and freedom is to live connected to our Soul and impulsed from our heart.
Having been brought up that it was necessary to develop a ‘shield’ and a stiff-upper lip to be a ‘true man’ it has been a revelation and a relief to discover that this is not true strength or a being a true man. I discovered that, “I now know that my true power is found in the connection to myself, to this quality of delicateness, which is strong and powerful, like a graceful flower blossoming. The strength of being in my delicate essence affects everyone around me in a most beautiful way.” This delicateness is the true quality of all men and it is the denial of this that is a foundational cornerstone to the violence and abuse in the world. To let down the shield and go naked, so to speak, and walk with an open heart is initially scary but that is what is required to heal the hurts that we are protecting by our violence.
I love the list you’ve come to practice in life, each having the capacity to forever deepen. For me the; ‘Not giving my power away – remaining strong within me’, I can explore with everything from relationships at work to food.
So for example I had an interesting food belief come up today at the dentist. I’m not one for breakfast but had a long dental appointment scheduled where I possibly couldn’t eat at the end of it. My body was saying no food but my mind was saying what I was told when I was a kid – got to eat to get me through the experience despite being not hungry! It was more than the basic premise that my body needs food to live well and function, it was a kind of use of food to bring me the comfort and reassurance needed to survive the ordeal (I was not looking forward to an unknown, lengthy procedure despite great dentists).
I realise I give my power away to food a lot – started from being a child and then exams, needing to ‘eat fish for the brain’, to eating loads before long runs that I feared I couldn’t physically handle, to at some point in my day I need food to deal with what’s presented to me. Again, yes we need food for our bodies but this was something different – a belief that I didn’t have the capacity, the power within, to deal with life so I needed to eat in order to be given these magical properties!!!
A beautiful testimonial to a graceful and elegant life that echoes with the obviously great choices that have been made
Observing life is certainly a key learning in life that allows us the space and grace to respond to life rather than be swept up by its many currents.
Thank you Sue, I find your blog very inspiring and a great reminder to reconnect to that delicate and tender part within myself that allows me to deepen the relationship with who I truly am and the roles of what I think a man ought to be.
‘Living more from the inside out, rather than from the outside in.’ I’m going to have to write this on my mirror! It is so important to bring everything that is within to all that we do, otherwise we are weighing what we do and see in the outside world to give us a sense of self, which only leads to heart ache.
Sue, I enjoy how you say, ‘The strength of being in my delicate essence…’ Most people are afraid to be delicate because they equate it with weakness but in truth delicateness has a power and strength which is fluid and graceful and stands strong because it is known that it needs no protection.
I love this blog Sue, you have expressed so clearly how the understanding and living of the truth that delicacy, fragility and gentleness can bring a more powerful healing and lasting change, and can transform lives, so contrary to typical contemporary beliefs.
Great life points you list and yes each of these is gold. Learning to observe and not absorb life has been huge for me and is still ongoing. A lot of the obesity issues that we see are actually due to people energetically absorbing and taking stuff on and this can literally bloat you and is certainly exhausting and feels awful.
Observing (and not absorbing) brings understanding to a situation and allows us to in turn respond and not react – it is an absolute game changer.
Body awareness and delicateness are my true strengths.’ This is so awesome. I can find myself in situations where I go into protection mode or getting it sorted mode, which creates a tension in the body and a tendency to go faster. There is a temptation to override feelings of true care in order to get whatever done. This never works, it creates complication and chaos in the body. Lovely to read your journey today Sue and feel the inspiration it offers.
It is so interesting how we are dismissed at such a young age as not being delicate and tender, how we are taught to be strong and resilient. Connecting to our true innate qualities as Women and honouring this to be our natural expression is one that takes consistency and letting go many ideals and beliefs of who we think we need to be.
Thank you Natalie, there is so much more strength in just being ourselves.
‘The strength of being in my delicate essence affects everyone around me in a most beautiful way.’
This reminds me of how we naturally can adjust the way we speak and move when we are around babies because we can feel how sensitive they are to every single thing.
Absolutely… and is revealing of the fact that we seldom if ever afford this degree of detailed care to each other as children and adults.
I appreciate coming back to this blog as it is a great reminder of the strength within us that can be felt by following and honouring what we are aware of from our body.
Developing the confidence and rhythm to ‘breathe our own breath’ is really amazing; in a world where the name of the game is security and ‘fitting in’ to feel comfortable, avoid jealousy and go with what’s considered normal, learning to stay with ourselves and not breathe/live in a way that’s government by images or ideals is very powerful.
I love this blog, reading it I feel joyful, and I appreciate that feeling joy is now an everyday occurrence in life and all because I too live and support myself with gentle, tender loving care as Sue has detailed here. How can the world not want to see and feel that this joy is present inside everyone, if the choice is made to care deeply, joy simply oozes from our being.
My hands are also like radars that can find those areas of tension and now that I appreciate how delicate I can be with myself first and then with others healing is a pleasure.
Thank you Sue, as a tender loving man I have slowly returned to my healing with my hands. Without the teachings by Serge Benhayon I feel I would also be stuck in the belief I was doing good. My healing work is now all about energy and the energy I align to so that I do not have any impositions towards my clients. Aligning to divine energy or the esoteric, which is my inner-most or inner-most-heart, provides the platform for my healing so that all I do is to be aligned to being obedient to divinity in all I do to the best of my ability.
It is rare to find a practitioner that truly cares for themselves and yet it is clear to me that this should be something every client checks when entrusting somebody to support them to heal. Beautiful to hear about the way you have turned your work and life around gregbarnes888.
It is with joy I share how my life is unfolding as I become open, and not closed off so that I can then feel those areas in my life where an opening is for the ill energies to enter and affect my ability to heal. Thank you Leonne, I appreciate that you also bring a loving support with your words and this is important as it builds the humble servant that I am.
Thank you Sue for a beautifully tender story, with the word delicate I get a feeling of tenderness and preciousness, and a strength in the knowing and honouring that we are innately love. How different our life can be when we learn to live from the inside out and not from the outside in.
Delicacy brings an awareness that is unknown when we choose to harden and close down. It is in this awareness that we retain the joy in life.
I so agree Sue – Esoteric Yoga is an awesome, simple, enjoyable modality that totally supports us to begin to live connected with our bodies and then totally deepen this to an incredible degree. We learn to discern how to keep our bodies healthy and well-cared for and truly nourished. This connection and relationship with the body hugely enriches our lives and brings an end to the way we have abused ourselves through our seemingly harmless and socially accepted behaviours.
I cannot resist but write that my true strength is being the delicate, tender and amazing man that I am, naturally so. The more I surrender to this fact the less trying I struggle I find with life. The more I see and allow myself to understand what is going on around me and therefore the less I react to life. It is incredible the difference.
“Body awareness and delicateness are my true strengths now. My body shouts loudly and clearly if something is not right.” I have been connecting more and more to the delicacy within myself and I am constantly being surprised at what a beautiful and strengthening quality it is, not the weak or disempowering thing we have been led to believe it is. There is no end to it.
Our thinking has been deeply flawed – to consider that strength is a hardening of ourselves, a getting on with it, a steeling up, dismissal and denial of our body at our deep expense…true strength is connection, observing life and bringing our true quality to the fore.
Sue its great what you share as I can relate to everything, being taught the deep massage, you absolutely true to say all it does is bury the condition deeper, which then appears somewhere else at a later date. Its also hard on the practitioner as so many end up injuring their wrist and thumbs. The Esoteric Massage is so powerful and allows us to connect, stay present and allow the body to release. I love giving Esoteric Massage as well having it myself. Esoteric Massage has helped me release really old buried issues, tensions going back a very long time, I began to connect back to the true movement of my body.
What happens when we connect to the essence that lives in us all is hard to imagine if you have not lived that for a long time. To me it brought me to be a very gentle, tender and delicate man I always had felt inside but did not know how to live, but through this connection naturally emerged.
There are lots of beautiful insights to who we are with-in here – thank you Sue.
Deepening a trust in myself and my inner wisdom is very high on my awareness at the moment, an essential part to clearly claim as part of living the fullness of me.
It was when I met Serge Benhayon and attended Universal Medicine events that I first considered what connection was about. In the world today it seems that it is the mind that is championed with the body coming in a very distant second place. Yet it is through connecting to our body that the true wisdom can be felt.
Strength and delicacy don’t seem to go hand in hand, I’m still learning to surrender to my delicacy and still find myself pushing my way through life and hardening in order to prove myself. I have moments of allowing my delicacy and these feel absolutely beautiful.
Life is so very wrong when we grow up considering that things like being delicate tender or gentle are a liability or weakness. As for both men and women connecting back to these ways of being is simply something we all need to do.
Embracing delicacy, whether we are a man or a woman, allows us to develop our clairscentience, or to feel the world beyond what our 5 senses are telling us is there to be felt. This is important, for it is the only way that we start to feel the true magnificence of our being, which is energetic before it is physical. By contrast, a body that is hard and tough is dense by nature. The more dense your body, the less sensitive it is to feeling energy. And so, yes, there is power in delicacy, not in the physical sense, but in the sense our awareness of life is all the more greater.
Esoteric Yoga has been key to me reconnecting to my delicateness and to the power of our delicateness when it is expressed. I used to live in my mind all the time, but now I’ve learned that my wisdom and intelligence comes from the delicateness I feel when deeply connected to my body.
Learning from life is so much more expanisve than learning from any school, life is our most amazing classroom.
We can hear and ‘read’ truly when we allow our sensitivity expression without reaction.
“… I hardened up as a supposed shield to protect myself in life. I later discovered that protecting myself like this was actually no protection at all…” Through Esoteric Yoga, gradually the ability to surrender the body becomes easier. It is in this surrender that you feel that protection drop away, and what lays beneath this hardness or guard is a body of love, a stillness – the body’s posture of being in protection has only served one function really… and that is keeping one away from being in connection with their innermost love.
‘I later discovered that protecting myself like this was actually no protection at all.’ I would go on to say that actually this ‘protection’ is the opposite of protection; for years it kept me separate from, and therefore ‘unprotected’ by everyone and God.
Looking at your photo I was quite taken by your beauty and absolutely your delicateness and preciousness. It was a joy to behold.
It is a trap many fall into – believing we need to be strong and protect ourselves from life…it is a great blessing and needed development for each of us to surrender to our divine, innate quality and to allow our vulnerability, delicateness and truth to express forth for herein, is our strength…living the true us in the world.
Protection and ideas about what is ‘strong’ or ‘how we need to be’ prevents our true quality from being lived and therefore expressed and keeps us at odds with the natural flow of life.
Esoteric Massage is such a respectful and delicate modality whilst being powerful beyond words. Having received many I am in no doubt of the depth of healing that can take place and then some that I am not even aware of.
Sue, as you have so beautifully said, our power, as women or men, is found in our connection with ourselves – it is found in the quality of relationship that we hold with ourselves and each other. Life and growth (evolving) is about people and about relationships – and the first and best relationship to start with is the one with ourselves and our deepest essence. From here we actually end up nurturing our relationship with everyone and the all…
We are born with such deep delicateness and preciousness which is so powerful that others can be a little scared of it. So we start to pick-up the vibe early that to be ok for others we need to dull down a little otherwise they pull back. To me this is the first letting go of who I truly am in my essence. The delicate, precious power of me is the essence that I’m realising supports me through all else.
It’s very easy to forget our gentle and delicate nature when we are in the throws of a busy day and surrounded by challenges. In my job I can feel pressure building up on my shoulders and I end up feeling anxious or frustrated. I totally lose any sense of my true nature. On days like these I find it helpful to focus on something simple like the way I walk to help bring me back. It is an ongoing process of learning and unfolding.
Thank you Sue for your honest and beautiful sharing, I used to have Remedial Massage regularly and always felt the harder it was the better it was, of course I was never releasing any tension and obviously I was further burying issues into my body. Having experienced Esoteric Massage for many years now the difference is profound, my body now carries none of the tension or stress it used to and my lower back pain I had for many years has completely gone. From my experience I know that Esoteric Massage is a powerful modality that supports the body to release any deeply held tension or patterns allowing the space for the body to truly heal.
Although we are all by nature very sensitive there is an art to living this in full, allowing it to support us rather than act as a hinderance is a great turnaround. There is so much power in being tender that I had not clocked before attending Universal Medicine presentations.
I know exactly what you mean Rachel, prior to Universal Medicine I had struggled hugely with my tenderness not knowing how to really be thinking I needed to be all tough and macho when that was the opposite to what my body was saying to me. It is crazy how much we listen to the outer world rather than what we are feeling within. And what Universal Medicine has brought for me is a re-establishing and deepening of that already innate connection.
If we appreciate and understand there is a cause and effect with everything then living disharmoniously could very much lead to an imbalance of the fine works of our physical and mental body. We know that many things do lead to a breakdown of our health, for some reason we aren’t joining the dots with all aspects of health.
Very true Sue, women expressing from their natural femaleness have the power to make us melt.
Going through life being hard in our movements and the hard way in which we speak to ourselves and others goes against our true nature, and the body suffers as if being under assault with every step we take. If we are in severe pain and physical discomfort we naturally walk more gently, and from my own experience the pain levels drop – could it be that we can learn from these messages the body clearly gives to us.
I am very glad you mention the following Sue: ‘In those days the techniques I learnt were all designed to go as deep as possible e.g. deep tissue massage, Shiatsu etc, using elbows and very strong, hard pressure, with the intent to bring relief, but this sometimes made clients wince, and also caused some pain in my own arms and shoulders. This was put up with by both myself and the client, as there was the belief that it was doing good. I now understand that these types of intense bodywork are crucially burying the issues that cause the tensions more deeply into the body.’ A medical student who came to me for a healing session was covered in bruises all over her back and arms and when I asked where they came from she said it was from a massage to help her flexibility. I was surprised that someone with medical training could imagine that bruising someone’s body would help them in any way (unless it was something like getting a joint back into a socket) and that such a treatment of a woman’s delicate body was outright abuse. We have, in our society, forgotten to feel what is true happening.
I love this sharing as it is so indicative of how we as women surrender to our innate beauty and power.
Sue, I love reading this article, I also thought this, “All through my life until recently, I equated my true nature of being delicate as somewhat of a liability, a weakness, certainly not the strength I now know it to be.” I thought that I needed to be hard to get through life, that being tough and rough were good qualities to have and that being delicate and sensitive were weak. I am learning now how powerful my delicateness and tenderness are and how amazing it feels to live theses qualities and be letting go of the hardness that was there.
‘ It was about developing a trust in myself and in my own inner wisdom. ‘ Yes Sue I feel this is my experience also, the more I discard the old habits, beliefs and ideals, I become free from the old habitual responses that kept me away from knowing my natural responses my body was offering… my own inner wisdom.
I can really relate to what you’ve shared in that the hardness we go into is not really protect us at all. But by being delicate and gentle we are protected from those harsh and hard behaviours as we are not dishing them out to ourselves or others. And when we do receive anothers unloving behaviours we can bring an understanding to why they do what they do without taking it personally. As we understand why we have or do the same at times.
Thank you Sue. Through your blog I am reminded of how we can be the creators of our own illnesses and diseases, just by the way we move and care for ourselves.
Our every movement counts more than we may ever realise and truly appreciate – this needs to be widely known… by all.
This is an incredible unfoldment of your relationship with you and expressing more of who you are rather than who society wants you to be, and what’s amazing is that you’re appreciating this without going into ‘but it’s not perfect’ or ‘good enough’ which is such a dismissal of taking things step by step or deepening any relationship.
It is by honoring our body and what it is feeling that we will have more energy and vitality in life. This morning I was not feeling very well and I had to accept this without judgement but with lots of understanding and tenderness, I appreciated my body for being so sensitive and loving in reminding me about my choices.
Accepting how we feel can feel like a challenge at times, but it’s only a challenge while we resist accepting that our bodies are responding to our choices. We cannot get away with anything. By practicing saying thank you to my body that reaction to the feedback is getting less and without the reaction I feel more open to exploring my responsibility in why I feel the way I do.
Thank you for bringing the true value of delicateness back, a word I would have baulked at only a few years ago. There is enormous power in delicateness and there is a deep, ever-deepening and very yummy connection to the body that is its foundation.
It is so supportive to hear other people talk about delicacy in this way. I am developing my understanding here and can feel that there is a huge depth in the relationship between delicacy and strength.
Just lately I have let my delicateness slip and my shoulders and upper half of my body have become hard and painful. I have not felt my body to be this way for 4 or 5 years. This is really showing me that I really need to keep building on the delicate woman I know myself to be. The hardness started around Christmas time with the heavy schedule at work and then I compounded it with other things in my life that I also let slip. Rather than stop and truly surrender and deepen the love for myself I didn’t, and now I my back and posture are suffering the consequences of my choices. This recent experience is showing me it is never worth letting my delicate and gentle ways go as it is the whole of my body that suffers.
Sue, I like the fact that you talk about strength in delicateness…Being strong in today’s world does not have to mean hardening up and acting like a man. In fact our strengths as women AND men actually lie in our ability to let go, to surrender and to be delicate which is our nature, something we have been born with and which lies within all of us whether we are aware of it or not. Sometimes though it can be a scary process to let go of the protection we think we have from the hardness, and to allow ourselves to just be as we are.
Lovely blog Sue and I love the bullet points you have made here. In particular ‘Learning to respond, rather than react, to situations and people’ is such an important one because I know the situations where I have reacted in the past and recognising that pattern in me and learning to observe a situation and respond is very different and so much more supportive for everyone. Thank you
I hadn’t realised how much I had hardened in reaction to life until I started to become more aware of my body and how it feels through being inspired by Universal Medicine. We can be so used to our body being a certain way or to just not truly tuning in with it, but I can say it is worth connecting with and appreciating what our bodies are showing us!
My hands keep reminding me of how delicate I am. They teach me daily to keep my heart open, deeply feel and be open to receiving and expressing love.
We have so many opportunities to reconnect with our innate tenderness and sensitivity throughout the day that we override and miss. Modalities like Esoteric Yoga offer an opportunity to re-ignite our awareness of this.
Being delicate is very different from being feeble. It seems like a lot of people, me included, have mistaken the two. What I have learned is that we can be very delicate whilst working out our muscles to support the body and the being.
We are so powerfull in our delicacy.
“I also learnt ways to live that were not taught at school, nor anywhere else in my life”. This has also been my experience from the presentations of Serge Benhayon too Sue. Just imagine if we hadn’t had to wait until this time in our lives (I’m in my 60’s too) but had been presented this wisdom from day one. I am sure that if the ways ‘to live’ that Serge that has presented over the last 17 years were taught at school the world our children would grow up in would be a very different one than the one they are growing up in today.
‘…this quality of delicateness, which is strong and powerful…’ it is very cool to see these words in one sentence, to start to re-claim the true power of delicacy. Thank you, Sue.
I agree Matilda true power is indeed delicate and open, it is something that has been covered up by the misuse of the word power to mean strength and force. Reclaiming the truth of power is essential for our evolution.
‘By honouring my body, by listening, I have much more energy, vitality and well-being’ Beautiful Sue and the appreciation is felt and an inspiration for everyone allowing so much more to our lives our purpose and the contentment that comes with this from within is pure gold.
There are many brilliant life changing moments is Serge Benhayon’s sharing and presentations. Choosing to ‘live from the inside out’ is one of these for me. Understanding this brings the responsibility of my choices back to me, the power to choose again when what is being reflected isn’t truly supporting me or another.
So cool to become aware that our bodies are your greatest support an honouring how they feel changes our lives….”Body awareness and delicateness are my true strengths now. My body shouts loudly and clearly if something is not right.” So true, when something jolts, it can be felt, from a movement, a word or an intention we are all naturally sensitive and it supports us greatly to consider this a possibility.
The very first time when I had a session with one of esoteric practitioners I started crying the moment he put the blanket to cover me. It was so gentle and so caring that I became sad from feeling my hardness, protection and even this simple movement was more powerful than any treatment I received before.
Thank you, Sue, for sharing your story which is as the gentle beautiful flower radiates the stillness and enormous beauty.
Thank you so much Sue – your blog truly and exquisitely reflects an inner wisdom within your body – and your connection to delicateness. Having read your words I can feel that my day will unfold with a deeper connection to my essence as I explore my delicateness……….
“I also learnt ways to live that were not taught at school, nor anywhere else in my life.” this is exactly what I found Sue, that so many of the key principles and virtues I hold about the way I live my life today were not shared with me growing up, yet they are the very things that mean my life is richer in true quality than ever before.
It is amazing how these simple ways can transform a whole life. There is so much more joy and love in a body that lives this way and who would not want that in their lives?
It is one more of the lies we’ve been sold and that we have bought, the delicateness is a weak thing not to champion in any way unless it’s for an expensive garment. What a lie this is. hold someone in delicateness and feel the alchemy that ensues, as the person held remembers the delicateness at the core of their own being.
‘I now know that my true power is found in the connection to myself, to this quality of delicateness, which is strong and powerful, like a graceful flower blossoming. The strength of being in my delicate essence affects everyone around me in a most beautiful way.’ Gorgeous Sue, and it certainly comes across in your beautiful photo.
It is interesting how we tend to equate protecting ourselves with hardening. This is very common in men. Hardening allows us to feel we are protected for mainly two reasons: because we cease to feel anything and as such are capable of doing things that we would never do otherwise and because it helps us to transmit an image that we hope will not offer any opening for someone to mess with us because we are gentle.
‘The strength of being in my delicate essence affects everyone around me in a most beautiful way.’ and how could they not melt, be affected and inspired by your beautiful quality. I love the photo you have chosen of you for this blog – very inviting, delicate and claimed.
“After a period of time, the uncomfortable feelings became less as I became more aware of how I was living and started listening more to my body”. Unless we feel honestly where our body is at, and at times the uncomfortableness, then it is impossible to be with the true surrender of the body. This process for me has included looking at no longer judging myself or being hard on myself but to simply be curious about what my body is communicating, how I have lived up to that point, then how I can support myself to be connected and remain with myself knowing the quality of my movements and self choices during the day. Esoteric Yoga has been an absolute godsend in supporting me to deepen, trust and self develop. Esoteric Yoga is the session you give to yourself and for me it is a modality that has let me feel that the way my body feels and the depth of connection I have with myself is solely in my hands.
‘ Stress, a lack of true nutrition and fresh air, together with insufficient water and late nights, all took their toll on my health and well-being.’ isn’t it interesting how even when we have a desire to help people and seek to complete an array of the required qualifications and training etc that we can still end up with a situation where our body is suffering and very far from true health. We see this all the time in the health and medical industries where people who are trained have the knowledge yet are completely not well themselves or not able to handle the stresses of life. This is a further confirmation of the support offered from self honouring, true self care and the importance of the way we live each day so that we actually bring a vital, rested, nourished and well looked after body to our professions – otherwise we are just unwell people with more knowledge working with other people yet bringing no true help.
The quality we treat ourselves with and choose to move in has a tremendous impact on how we are treated by others.
The deep inner guidance from our body is something we must learn to connect with before humanity rises from the illness and disease we are instead choosing right now. Your sharing is so important in the process of our awakening Sue. Thank you.
Astonishing that we can go through most of our life expressing in a way that is quite in contrary to our essence. Until I was inspired by Universal Medicine to start connecting with, accepting and honouring what I felt deep within, I did not have a clue what was actually my true essence and what was learned ideal and belief.
It’s amazing how we can fool ourselves into thinking we are ‘doing good’ when in fact we are not. People put up with all sorts of physical and mental pain under the guise of ‘good’. The ‘No pain, no gain’ mentality is an accepted view on life of many older people. ‘Chin up and bear it’ was a common saying from my childhood. This idea of ‘good’ is insidious because it stops us feeling what is really going on. Once someone questions it we can all start to see the truth and so it’s great to call it out and give people the opportunity to look at it more deeply rather than just accept it at face value.
“I now know that my true power is found in the connection to myself, to this quality of delicateness, which is strong and powerful, like a graceful flower blossoming.” – who’d have thought that feeling delicate could also be powerful and yet I know for myself that it is, and that the opposite is true. If I go into a push or drive say at work, people around me feel it and go into protection. When I’m connected to my delicatness…which feels natural and lovely…I see what that does to people around me too….it is disarming.
what you share here is a truth that is known in our body. That connecting to it deeply is leaving us feeling the most delicate but strong in essence.
Body awareness really is the beginning of a great unfolding journey to the stupendousness of who we truly are. Seems too simple to be true, but the reality is 100 PhD’s will only likely take you further away from the true wisdom and knowledge that is there on offer and accessible for all equally.
Massage is so often associated with ‘deep tissue’ work and a desire to ‘really get into’ the areas of the body that are in pain or discomfort. But the Esoteric Massage offers something different, and it is this tendernes and lightness of touch that you talk about Sue, that can bring about such profound change in the body and as a result, to our lives. It is a truly beautiful modality.
Yes I hear of many people who say they were often bruised or in more pain after going for a massage. It is crazy really that even those this occurs people still convince themselves that it is something good for them when one clearly puts the dots together, it is obvious that it is not. Esoteric Massage is the only massage modality that I have found that brings true support and release of tension to the body whilst allowing you to experience a lovely surrendered feeling in the body. From esoteric massages I have always been able to feel the beautiful delicate woman I am.
Yes, Sue, we can turn our lives around quite dramatically once we stop identifying with being a victim of life.
Awesome Sue, It has been a real pleasure to read about your life changes since coming to Universal Medicine. What you have learnt should be taught in schools from day dot!
They are amazing and there is much to be appreciated here.
Our hands do know where to go, when we work with massage to find tension, for sure Sue. But the huge changes come as we change ourselves, and wow, then does the energy with esoteric massage flow.
It is incredible to consider that we may go an entire life (or more) living from our mind and our minds constructions of how to be in life, how to live life and the minds interpretations, assessments and deductions yet all the while avoid being present in our body to feel and heed the wisdom that is never ceasing to pour forth and present itself for our learning, growth and evolution.
As Serge Benhayon has presented “the body is the marker of all truth” so I do find it fascinating that many in the ‘healing’ industry do not have such healthy bodies or vital lives themselves. This is not a criticism or judgment, simply an observation that takes into account how much we have been sold on knowledge and function at the expense of the body and really being honest about what is going on for us.
Esoteric Yoga has also supported me to connect to the gorgeous delicate woman that I am. Every movement done within an Esoteric Yoga class can be offered to ourselves with a preciousness leaving an imprint of a way that I can be with myself all of the time if I so choose.
When I first heard Serge Benhayon present on the principle of observing life not absorbing it , I was so used to absorbing life that I had no idea how to do this, particularly because, as a massage therapist and energy healer, I championed the fact that I could feel in my body what was happening in there’s. It took me over a year to stop taking my clients pain into my own body. The relief was huge I could feel just me not every-one else as well.
Yes, Mary-Louise, I too thought I was a good practitioner by being able to feel what was going on in a client’s body within my body…no wonder I was exhausted at the end of the day! It is super important to not take on the energetic choices of another.
I can relate to what you say marylouisemyers, as I took on my clients pain too. By being sympathetic and too nice I would allow them to dump their stuff onto me, which was like poison to my body energetically. I was taking on other people’s issues and not dealing with my own, just adding to them.
By observing life , not absorbing it, and learning Esoteric Massage I was able to work in a true way, and be much more aware and present in my body, therefore not taking on other’s stuff. I also started to look after myself with more self care and regard. The Esoteric Massage practitioners that I learnt from like Curtis Benhayon, and other inspiring practitioners including yourself, are true role models, as practitioners and just as importantly in life. I learnt so much by observing the beautiful way you all worked, and the energetic integrity that you all have in common.
Yes Sue, it is this energetic integrity that runs as a common thread through all the practitioners of Esoteric Massage along with all the other Esoteric modalities that have been presented to us by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, that is so fundamental and so inspiring to these heaven sent techniques.
‘This was put up with by both myself and the client, as there was the belief that it was doing good.’ So often massage is dictated by the ideal of ‘harder’ being better – with little consideration to the quality of the energy in the treatment being offered.
Strength is an interesting quality, we can measure it in its physical nature, which can be very tangible, but there is also the strength we exude in our ability to engage life, our strength in how we interact, our sureness and conviction and of course in our gentler ways of being. Strength in tenderness is something we can all explore and is a form of strength we should never overlook.
Sue, I found your blog to be so gentle, loving and confirming reminding me also that delicateness that women naturally are is certainly not a weakness.
It is so beautiful to let ourselves feel, maybe for the first time, that the delicateness we feel inside is not something to be dismissed, hidden or covered up; that in its outward expression we get to see its strength and the way it supports others.
You say Sue: ‘ I hardened up as a supposed shield to protect myself in life. I later discovered that protecting myself like this was actually no protection at all.’ This is what we have practically all done – imagined that things are the exact opposite of the way that actually works in truth. I too have kept protecting myself through life with a variety of crazy choices of ‘armour’ – especially contraction, along with hardening. In fact this form of protection only serves to LET IN ‘enemy’ forces that don’t belong to us, and take us away from our essential well-being. When dealing with energy it is the opposite from what a soldier would do in war for protection i.e. put his hard armour on.
Sacred movement and Esoteric Yoga have opened the door to my delicateness and inner beauty which naturally leads to my connection with the divinity of the universe.
If it was not for the support of Esoteric Message I would never have come to appreciate how healing, supportive and nurturing the touch of true gentleness and care can be. Far more so than any aggression, hard and rough massage could ever be.
Delicacy is an energetic emanation as much as it is a physical state of being, that allows us to connect to the absolute majesty of our divine connection.
These points you have listed Sue of ways in which you have supported yourself should be taught to children in schools. These points are very simple and invaluable in offering us a more true way of living and being.
Reading your blog Sue I was reminded of all the therapies that I used to practice that were harming my own body as I worked. I pushed with my fingers to the point that they bent in awkward positions, used fists and elbows and at the end of the day my joints always ached. I had bought into the belief that I had to work the tissue of the body hard to make change. This is so untrue! Enter Esoteric Massage, a deeply gentle and profoundly healing modality in which the practitioner carries out the treatment in connection to his/her own body and moves tissue in a way that honours the tender, sensitive and delicate beings that we all are.
I can relate to what you have written here Jane, as I was trained in Reflexology and found that by the end of the treatments my wrists, thumbs, shoulders and lower back would hurt so much that I decided that it wasn’t worth it. Many days I was in more pain than my clients.
These days I find the Esoteric Massage far more gentle and kind to both the clients and myself.
As a man I have always tried to hide my delicateness and fragility as well believing these things to be a weakness and something to be eliminated. Gradually with the support of Universal Medicine I have come to understand just how powerful it is to honour my fragility and tenderness and return to a way of being I knew as a child.
Without the Esoteric Practitoners support I would not have got to the underlying beliefs that hold me to ransom, set in my old patterns. The body is so willing to expose these patterns when we surrenders to the love we are.
It is through surrendering that we can come to know who we truly are and that we are indeed divine.
‘I am appreciating how I no longer need to walk around protected with my body, which used to feel like an old fashioned corset laced tightly around my chest.’ Very beautiful Sue. Those old-fashioned corsets were an attempt to bind the women into an image of the way she should be, and they were symbolic of the suppression of a woman’s delicateness and power, a reduction of her true beauty. And we have said ‘yes’ to all this binding, especially the one you describe so well here Sue, of the protection we have held around our heart, the hardening and tightening that we have allowed. Let the love out, let the love in and be a vehicle for divine expression.
Wow what a gorgeous transition -showing it is not what we do but how we do things that makes the difference. We become more sensitive the more we choose to deepen the relationship we have with ourselves.
I experienced this same sense of power with a physiotherapist in a session where I could feel the absolute tenderness in her body that was being reflected in mine and at the same time feeling the power in her voice that was in no way imposing, but I could feel the delicate strength, it was awesome to experience and shows the importance of being connected with our own essence in all that we do.
“Being connected to this quality of gentleness makes life flow so much more easily.” – the moment we are in sync with the inner rhythm impulsed from within there is a way to flow with life without getting thrown off one´s inner course by life. It is worthwhile to establish such inner rhythm (without perfection) as only then life makes any sense or actually we bring sense to life due to the natural purpose and evolutionary qualities we express.
As a woman there is nothing more beautiful than to connect with our essence, our delicateness and to share this with others.
I used to ‘love’ deep tissue massage, the harder the better. I remember a woman giving me a relaxation massage when I had been expecting deep tissue, I got so irate with the lightness of the touch that I nearly punched her out.
Since re-connecting with my body I cannot handle deep tissue massage at all. I realised that my body actually went into massive tension and protection from the onslaught of the pain inflicted by the pummelling and digging into the body that goes with this type of massage but at the time I was so out of my body and numb that I could not feel a thing.
“Living more from the inside out, rather than from the outside in” brings out our true beauty as well as the power and wisdom that eternally resides within, as opposed to what is too often the case of handing ourselves over to outer influences that leave us bereft of these inner riches.
Sue this is beautiful as you are and a real treat to read and feel you in your power and the work you have done on yourself .” I now know that my true power is found in the connection to myself, to this quality of delicateness, which is strong and powerful, like a graceful flower blossoming.” Inspirational !
I shudder at how ungentle and rough I had let life mould me and now through Universal Medicine how gentle I am learning to become again. The way I used to put my tools back in my van or how I opened doors was in no way gentle . I now know that our each movement affects everything and so why not make an effort to make them as lovingly gentle as possible.
Observing life and not absorbing is a beautiful teaching. Very recently from listening to someone explain their understanding I could feel that observing comes before thinking. Therefore we connect to our bodies where the body intelligence supports a total understanding of a situation. So we can remain present and aware and not have to pull in other behaviours to counter what we don’t want to feel.
I totally agree mary, and for me too, it is like having the best friend in the world always with you. Simply by developing a relationship with myself, and listening to the body. The more I do this the more life flows, whereas in the past I was not tuned in to the importance of this, and things didn’t always go smoothly. As you say the inner wisdom is in every one of us ‘ if we are prepared to stop and listen’.
The key for me is not the increase of vitality or lack of illness but rather, reigniting the connection to the power that lies within.
Reconnecting to the quality within and learning to move it allows us to be observant of life and not absorb life. Therefore, it is our responsibility to deepen our relationship with our bodies in order to know who we truly are.
This is great Francisco – ‘learning to move with the quality we have connected to’, confirming this in our bodies and not just a mental awareness.
I have loved through the Esoteric healing modalities discovering that my true power lies in my delicacy.
The words ‘strong’ and ‘delicate’ could be perceived as being completely opposite. But as you have beautifully demonstrated there is strength found in embracing and expressing your delicacy. Inner strength is so much more powerful than the strength that we usually try to portray to the world in the form of hardness and protection.
‘Surrender to my true inner delicateness and the tension will go away ‘ magic and beautiful if we allow ourself to do this by honouring who we are in full and then our very being emanates all it is and the delicateness and fragility can be felt and is an ever deepening expanding process. Your blog is a real inspiration as you are Sue.
It is inspiring to hear about women who are embracing the true delicate qualities of being a woman and knowing these to be strengths. Thank you, Sue.
I remember the old ways of doing massage well – digging in, causing discomfort and even pain and last but not least, hurting myself in the process over my years of practice. Like you, it was through Esoteric Massage that I learnt that the ‘no pain, no gain’ model only spreads the tension around, waters it down so to speak but does not address the physical energetic root cause of the tension and disfunction and most importantly, does not give the body the slightest chance to experience fluidity and ease of movement as its natural state.
It is truly amazing that you have changed your whole life and job to represent the woman you now are, the woman that is delicate and strong, it shows it is never too late to make a huge change.
For many years whenever I had a massage it had to be deep tissue work, for me the harder the better. At times it got quite painful, I now realise I was desperately trying to burying everything and numb myself. After experiencing the Esoteric Massage for the past 10 years I would never go back to having deep tissue massage again, the difference I feel in my body after having an Esoteric Massage is truly profound and has supported my body to deeply heal and let go of tension without any force.
“The key to this new, gentler way of living for me was becoming more aware of my body and actually listening to the deep, inner guidance that lives within me. Living more from the inside out, rather than from the outside in.” So often we override what we feel in our bodies, and instead rely on our minds to rationalise every situation. But what we are not aware of is where the thoughts in our minds are coming from, and whether or not they are actually true. If we can start to make a distinction here, then we are on our way to connecting to who we are and our true qualities, including our delicateness.
The reclaiming and appreciation of the true meaning of delicacy, thank you, Sue… this is huge and starts to dismantle the championing of struggle and toughness as being admirable qualities.
Offering relief is delaying our evolution. If there is pain or tension in the body dealing with the reasons as to what caused the tension in the first place will offer true healing. Unless we deal with these underlying issues, we will always seek relief keeping us in the same cycle playing out over and over again.
“….using elbows and very strong, hard pressure, with the intent to bring relief, but this sometimes made clients wince, and also caused some pain in my own arms and shoulders” — Sue this makes me think of the saying “no gain without pain” – I used to use this myself in the gym or exercise, and also work related, to to push or force my way through something. Today, and from developing to deepen self-love, there is nothing gainful about being in self-induced push/pain, and everything gainful from its opposite – the simplicity and touch of ease.
‘Taking more responsibility for myself, not blaming others, not being a victim / martyr or taking things personally.’ Though I can fight this at times, taking responsibility for myself actually feels amazing . Very confirming of life and the joy I can bring.
I was always drawn to massage but never felt to take any courses until I had the opportunity with Esoteric Massage – one of the most amazing experiences of my life.
Power is often associated with physical strength or force but I can really appreciate the power in true delicateness, and the power that comes from someone’s connection with their innermost.
I used to associate the word power with money, someone who is an important leader, royalty etc. but now I too know that our true power comes from choosing to connect to ourselves, choosing to live from our delicateness, gentleness and love. This power is not just for a special few but it is available to everyone and this amazing power has always been there for us to express from. Interesting how we have denied it, avoided it and have even forgotten we have it, the power of connection to our soul. And you are showing us the way Sue.
The gentle techniques of Esoteric Massage and bodywork allow the body an opportunity to trust and surrender – reconfiguring and restoring the body to its true movement and reconnection to who we truly are.
I am struck when talking about the most striking changes that have happened in your life there is a clear awareness of the difference between being in your head and being in your body and the consequence that has on your life. That is such a practical place to start when building our awareness.
I know I hide away from my sensitivity and delicateness because the quality I know is not accepted by many or the environment around me. The feeling of “How dare you honour your delicateness?” is what the common reaction is. But that’s what I love about being delicate – it is unique and it asks people to be honest without actually asking them – a great marker of what is true or not.
It’s crazy that we harden ourselves against the world and then go for a massage expecting the therapist to break through it! I used to offer deep tissue massage, and it felt constantly like I was just having a fight with people. They wanted me to break down their tension but they would resist and fight back. The whole process created more tension. I discovered that more gentle techniques were much more effective, and that they invite and allow the person to ‘let go’ without the need to break through anything.
It is amazing how we can negate those beautiful qualities of tenderness, gentleness and sensitivity and reject them as being weaknesses, I certainly did. Over the past few years I have found it wonderful to stop denying these qualities that are natural and that my body knows so well and allow them out fully with no apology,
Esoteric Yoga asks nothing of us but to simply be with what we feel. By feeling what is there in the body we have the opportunity to experience what it is that we have been holding and for it to shift. The modality is very simple yet deeply powerful offering a true healing.
I too did deep tissue massage for many years, what I witnessed during this period was that my clients would feel relief for a day or possibly up to a week then they would return with the same pain or pain in another part of their body. At the time this did not feel right that they should be depending on weekly or fortnightly massages to get through so I trained in many other types of massage looking for the answer but I did not get to the bottom of my dilemma until I started doing Universal Medicine Massage. This was the first massage I had come across where actually the root cause was addressed and true healing occurred. I let go of all my former massage training and techniques and trained in this modality and have never looked back.
I too used to think that fragility and delicateness were a sign of weakness and when it was presented as being something to embrace my first reaction was to reject it, but then I felt to explore it just a little. I now have become more aware that to honour my delicateness and care for myself is part of my self-loving responsibility and that by being open and vulnerable and gentle is not weak at all for I can feel the true power there is in this way of being and in fact how disregarding and irresponsible it is for me to live in any other way.
The power of Esoteric Massage is in the delicateness that is offered to the muscles and tissue. It’s like holding a baby so tenderly and lovingly – it offers support, trust and an ability for a letting go releasing the holding which causes the tension.
Learning to not get swept up in the heat of the day to day dramas of life is so incredibly important. What I have found is that drama leads to more drama and distance from situations supports both greater distance and greater clarity. The more involved we allow ourselves to get in a drama , the harder it is for us to truly know what is playing out because we have become one of the characters in the drama and you can’t ‘read’ a situation once you’re in it.
“Leading on from this was my learning about relationships, particularly the relationship I had ignored in the past, the one with myself…”
Its funny when you consider it, we demand others we are in relationship with to treat us a certain way and to meet all of expectations, when they don’t, we are hurt and upset but we are never taught to give the utmost importance and detail to our relationship with ourselves and when you nail that, all others reflect what you have built with you anyway.
I love the title. It is not often you hear the words strength and delicate together. That our strength lies in our delicateness may seem like an oxymoron but when we connect to either our true power or our delicateness we realise they go hand in hand and that you can’t have one without the other.
Well said Nikki, they certainly are linked, power equals delicateness. This is pretty much opposite to what most people interpret the word power to be. This highlights how distorted our understanding of ‘power’ has become. Therefore, the more we live in our true power, as shared by Sue and yourself, the more we are able to expose and eliminate the false version of it.
Thank you, Sue. The life lessons you have shared with us here would be an amazing foundation for any school curriculum or parenting class. These are the things that are truly important in life and honour the ‘being’ rather than just the ‘doing’.
“The strength of being in my delicate essence affects everyone around me in a most beautiful way.” – it sure does Sue. I’ve seen people melt around me when I’m feeling my lovely delicateness and tenderness.
Since reconnecting with me and really getting to know myself, I have discovered that being delicate is so so beautiful. When I move from my delicateness, I find that people around me respond in a way that is honouring and supportive. Through this unfolding, I have discovered that being delicate is indeed my super power that has always been there but now I let it shine through.
A deeply inspiring blog which applies to us all – by making loving choices and with the support of Sacred Esoteric Healing Modalities, we can turn our life around and live a joy-filled life despite how far from our reality this may first be.
Wow Sue, you look stunning! Also, thank you for the the eye opener. It’s so simple, just surrender and the tension will go away!
I am discovering that we are all naturally delicate, gentle and loving but as we go through life these beautiful qualities get tarnished abused and neglected. It has taken a while for me to re-connect to my fragility and allow myself to honour that I can be delicate, When I do, I love the feeling in my body, all the hardness I carry just falls away and my day starts to flow as I am not resisting what is such a natural and beautiful way to be.
Recent UK newspaper headline proudly announced; (1) ‘ Those in middle age are dangerously unfit’ and (2) ‘83% of people aged 40-69 who are either drinking too much, are overweight or who do little exercise.’ This is is a consequence of people who are not living from that most delicate part of themselves but in the full flow of life, driven, fast and largely sedentary. People can be taught to ‘live again’ in the true sense of the word but few know how to. This was my experience before Universal Medicine and teachings of Serge Benhayon. Prior to this I was slumbering, stagnant, never a heavy drinker, fairly fit but it was all superficial. I had no idea my life could be transformed in the way it has. I now live with awareness and understanding of what true health is and my responsibility to bring it into my own body. This is gold. Everyone should have access to The Way of The Livingness as presented by Universal Medicine.
(1) Daily Telegraph December 2016
(2) Public Health England survey
How awesome it is to realise that the fragility we feel inside, so often dismissed because it does not equal the harshness that we call ‘life’, is our greatest strength. We are all craving the restoration our true relationship with delicacy so thank you Sue for putting it back on our maps, the truth that our delicacy, fragility and tenderness is who we really are.
Regardless of the condition or illness, and as you have shown Susan, its never too late to turn our life around. Becoming a student of life, in the way Universal Medicine teaches, re-learning how to build a loving and nurturing relationship with ourselves is open to all of us.
I can so relate to what you are saying here Sue: ‘I thought I was living well, being very health conscious, but there was a deeper energetic level to health that I had ignored’. I too was eating healthy, had given up drinking, not longer taking drugs, trying to get enough sleep, but even so my health was failing because I was ignoring all the truly healthy ways of living which were having such an effect on my energy: don’t give your power away; observe and don’t absorb; heal your hurts, etc.
The esoteric therapies at large are so different from the ones I’ve tried out before as they focus on the quality not just the technique, and supporting the body to restore it’s natural flow and vitality.
Our body is the beholder of our connection with the Universe, so living in conscious presence and in connection with our body is equal to living connection with the Universe, that grand order we all innately belong to.
Absolutely – Grand beyond measure we each are in our universality.
I love this as an inspiration to honour, respect and develop a relationship with our bodies.
Love this obvious link here Nico, crazy how blind we can be when we don’t want to know the truth of our origins.
Indeed Vanessa, you can call it crazy but the people that have chosen to be blind will absolutely not agree with this qualification as they have an investment in their choice to live in this life of creation and will not give it up until they will be forced by a stop from their body by illness or disease or a natural disaster like a tsunami or earthquake.
” The strength of being in my delicate essence affects everyone around me in a most beautiful way.” Delicate is the key word here for me. It resonates deeply within. This is one l can so easily overlook in challenging situations in life.
Imagine if the points you write here Sue were indeed the first thing taught at school. Imagine classes on honouring your body, sessions on working together with everyone, presentations and seminars on being Love and sharing this with someone. Well, this is exactly what is on offer with Universal Medicine events and courses and one thing is for sure, these lessons in Love are better late than never at all.
‘I also learnt ways to live that were not taught at school, nor anywhere else in my life.’ These teachings are profound and support a way of living, rather than struggling through life, work and every facet of our lives.
We have misinterpreted the true meaning of power. We have taken it to mean something or someone that can ‘have it’s own way’, something or someone that can get others to do what they want, something or someone who can control and manipulate others or situations but non of these are part of true power. Power is almost a hidden quality, it is quietly spoken and yet felt by all.
“Discovering my True Strength being the Delicate Woman I am” – Sue, this is such a gorgeous title worth reflecting on when so much of this world works to go against this natural grain of a woman, all ALL ages – her delicateness and the strength of this, not ever to be trodden on or taken advantage of under the perception of it being ‘weak’, … delicateness is the lightness of a woman’s (whole) touch, and there is everything to adore in this.
I do agree with that Zofia, the power that emanates from a woman who is connection with herself, her femininity and sacredness, is delicate and very nurturing for everybody that she meets.
‘The strength of being in my delicate essence affects everyone around me in a most beautiful way’ – so true, Sue. It’s a quality of being that is felt first, a loving warmth inviting others to connect to their own tender selves.
‘I hardened up as a supposed shield to protect myself in life’ … I know this well. When we do this, we are not only keeping ourselves separate from others, but from our selves also. It’s not natural for us to live this way which is why it feels so awful. Instead of recognising it’s the consequence of our own choice, we tend to look around us and find others to blame for the hurt and dis-comfort that we are feeling. To be open and allow our love to freely flow to others is also allowing the flow of their love back to us.
Body awareness is an interesting topic, and understandably something most of us ignore. For if you truly connect to your body – as Esoteric Yoga encourages you to do – you have no choice but to feel the momentum of how you are living, and that is not always pleasant. So at first, with Esoteric Yoga, it is very natural to feel un-ease, or should I say dis-ease in the body. Tension, anxiety, restlessness. But this is not our natural state of being, even if it is familiar and all too common. Unfortunately, before being able to connect to the true joy and stillness that resides within our bodies, there is a stage where at first we must get honest with and feel the discomfort of the other, and this can be off-putting to the point of not wanting to go any further. But the truth is, it does not take long – in fact a temporary arrest of such conditions can often be experienced in a single esoteric healing session (with the right practitioner) – which in itself can then inspire one to realise that they are not owned by such a state of being as they may have once thought. Of course, the permanent connection to one’s true inner joy, and the permanent arrest of such ill conditions takes far more than a single solitary or even group of session. It requires dedication to a particular way of living that lives in honour of our true inner joy – and that is in a nutshell what The Way of The Livingness is all about.
Thank you Sue for your inspirational sharing! We all need to appreciate the amazing beings that we are.
As I drove back today from an event, I was asked to have a look in my home what is important to me and what isn’t. I could instantly feel that I’ve never allowed myself to delicately feel what the value is of the things I have in my home. To open up my heart for myself and allow myself the delicacy and tenderness, is something I am now looking forward to, to explore.
‘Breathing my own gentle breath.’ Such a simple statement yet how often do I do this? When things get a little stressed at work I notice my breath change, when I watch a dramatic moment unfold I notice I hold my breath, when I am late or nervous my breath changes. Just noticing my breath and coming back to it is a game changer for my health and well being. My breath in tune with me is my rhythm. How often I let the outside dictate what my natural rhythm is is eye opening but I have the choice to return to me no matter what is transpiring around me is beautifully powerful.
There is such a gorgeous sweetness to this blog, and indeed a genuine strength that seems to come with so much honesty and willingness to learn.
Esoteric Yoga has been an amazing modality for helping us to feel our bodies and the innate stillness within. Learning to move with tenderness, touch delicately, feel everything that is there to be felt, a beautiful honouring of our bodies.
It makes sense to lack confidence when life is lived predominately from the head and not the body. How can confidence be walked when we are not connected to the body? Especially since the body makes up much more of who we are then the mind. It’s like only being 3/4 of who you are! The more I connect to and live from the body the more stable and naturally confident I feel.
Every step towards Soul, is who we are more coming out – hence we discover the true strength of being a woman or man. It is by those teachings of Universal Medicine, I had come back to feeling my Soul again, and since then (and forever) inspired to life from connection to that, to the best of my ability. Thank you Sue for sharing what is there for us to know and feel again and again..
It is beautiful to read what a life full of love brings. It takes time to develop a loving way and it’s never not challenging, but living this way brings us a true way to live.
Your body shows that you couldn’t do a hard massage and that is a beautiful thing to appreciate. My hands used to hurt and people ask me these days how I can do so many massages and not get tired and its all about the quality in which I do those massages and I am no longer using brute force.
All of us really want to find out who we truly are and the esoteric healing modalities and courses are the fastest track to finding this out.
What great bullet points you share Sue and how working with these has now brought you to a relationship with yourself – a beautiful healing for yourself and others.
“Leading on from this was my learning about relationships, particularly the relationship I had ignored in the past, the one with myself…”
It is beautiful to read Sue, how at age 63 you are embracing life in full and discovering your true strength along with your delicateness as a woman, when generally so many woman who get to their sixties start to see life as slipping away and the elder years approaching with some trepidation. Your blog is deeply inspiring for all women, and you are looking gorgeous!
“I now understand that these types of intense bodywork are crucially burying the issues that cause the tensions more deeply into the body.” Sue this is something that I never wanted to feel when I was having all the massages I could! Why would something that I thought was so relaxing not actually be supporting my body? Well I guess its only when you feel what a true treatment provides, a level of ease, stillness and deep surrender in the body do you realise that the conventional massage gives the illusion it works yet leaves one very short of the truth – the feeling and connection to who we are.
Sue – I too have felt a marked difference in my body through Esoteric Yoga. I love your sharing of this and how you felt the tension in your body gradually drop away. There is a lot we can do to support our bodies – and these modalities have been a gift to help me get back to me.
It must be made clear that delicateness is not a weakness, but actually a quality of soul-full living.
I agree Sue, I used to feel my delicateness was a weakness and spent many a year overriding it and trying to portray a strength that was hardens and protection. Viewing it from within the body in full, it allows us to feel the delicate delightfull-ness of who we really are, and emanate that as our strength.
I can relate to this too Gill. In my experience delicateness and a loving nature was rarely valued by those around us and seen as a weakness. To fit in we began to calibrate, put on protective shields, an outer show of strength not the real deal which lay within. To be free of this outer hindrance, feel again our true inner essence and walk with this quality is true strength.
this is true strength Sue, and truly inspiring. thank you for sharing.
Thanks to Universal medicine we have been given the wisdom, teachings and tools to come back being who we are in all our glorious amazingness unfolding the innate qualities we are here to bring and share. The choice to do so is ours and equally blesses everyone else.
Opening up to people, to feeling everything from their love and their reactions to when you express your love or your reactions open the floodgates to learning and understanding more about everything.
There is such a strength and power when a women is truly delicate with herself – in fact it melts most men. We do not want the tough macho women – I know for many men that is a real turn off. For me true sexiness comes from within and is irresistible when a women full appreciates and embodies this.
Your beautiful photo Sue is a true testament to your chosen way of living as a delicate and powerful woman. How many women of 63 look as young and beautiful, full of vitally as this? The whole world should be asking ‘How did you do it???’
Yes this is a true key Sue: ‘The key to this new, gentler way of living for me was becoming more aware of my body and actually listening to the deep, inner guidance that lives within me.’ In general, as society we have forsaken our bodies and our connection to them and simply treated them in disregard and often abusively – drinking and get a hangover and then doing it all again – just to name one common thing! They key is to truly inhabit the body, honour it and listen to it.
Taking things personally is definitely a killer.
I so relate to everything you share Sue, and I felt a deep responsibility to heal from a young age. Also, in the past I got lost in the deep tissue types of healing and massage, which only at best offered temporary relief. I now work with the energy I connect with and this makes all the difference in my ability to be there for the client. The healing modalities offered by Universal Medicine are gifts from God and should be given the place they so deserve for they are surely needed by humanity.
“I hardened up as a supposed shield to protect myself in life. I later discovered that protecting myself like this was actually no protection at all.” So true Sue… hardening ourselves causes us harm and it certainly doesn’t protect us from anything or anyone.
“I equated my true nature of being delicate as somewhat of a liability, a weakness, certainly not the strength I now know it to be.” Isn’t it a very clever trick that we are led to believe that delicateness, tenderness and vulnerability are weaknesses … when in fact they are indeed our strengths! They reveal an honesty and transparency that is not only refreshing to be around but very inspiring – because the fact is we all feel these in ourselves and in others, and so to allow them to be creates an honesty and an openness to share all of ourselves with others and to let others in.
Interesting that we can override pain in the body during a massage treatment or during exercise etc., in the erroneous belief that it is doing ‘good’. This is so suggestive of how we override even the loudest signals from our bodies that all is not well and then subvert it into abusing the body more! Thank you for sharing what you found within when you started to connect more and more to your body and to live less from the head – a beautiful illustration that there is a different way.
‘…with the intent to bring relief, but this sometimes made clients wince, and also caused some pain in my own arms and shoulders…’ the idea of there being pain in these therapies to bring relief may seem crazy and yet we can find it in so many other areas of the lives we have come to accept also such as in sport and exercise; ‘no pain, no gain’. Our ability to override what our body is telling us has lead us far from the truth.
There will always be a strength, in living the truth that lies within us all!
Your opening words say a lot about how the delicate and tender qualities are often ridiculed, rarely valued and misunderstood. Consequently, we drop or overlay them with other qualities more acceptable to others: being smart, rushing, clever with words, hard, competitive. Thankfully, once more re-united with your true self, you now inspire others to trust their own delicate and tender selves.
Here’s to the strength in delicateness, and living true to our natural ways – thank you, Sue.
“I thought I was living well, being very health conscious, but there was a deeper energetic level to health that I had ignored.” This is what makes the Universal Medicine Modalities stand apart from any others, there is a deeper level of energetic health and responsibility that we are supported to connect to on a daily basis, until such time as this becomes a way of living; the Livingness.
“Body awareness and delicateness are my true strengths now. My body shouts loudly and clearly if something is not right.” How amazing to have created such an intimate relationship with yourself Sue, to be honouring the very quality you previously felt was a weakness to now find its your best ally that immediately informs you when you and your body requires more TLC. This establishes a whole new benchmark for self-care and holistic living.
The more people that give and receive these wonderful modalities, the more people will experience the joy of being connected to themselves again. I certainly recommend the massage, the yoga and the many others that are beautiful to give as well as receive.
What in truth did the harshness, intensity, anger, frustration and hardness of women’s lib do for the true restoration of women rights? Women’s rights will be restored as a natural consequence of women returning to their original nature. There is no battle needed. Yield will follow yield.
“Stress, a lack of true nutrition and fresh air, together with insufficient water and late nights, all took their toll on my health and well-being.” These are such basic and simple needs for our general health and well being, but it is amazing how many of us will override them, and as you experienced Sue, by negelecting them we eventually pay for the consequences. It is beautiful to read how you have now rediscovered your delicateness and are claiming back the beautiful woman that you are.
True strength comes from living the fullness of who we are… simple as that!
“All through my life until recently, I equated my true nature of being delicate as somewhat of a liability, a weakness…” Sue isn’t it interesting that what is of the greatest strength has been subverted into perceived greatest weakness… Or, that what we regard as our, or a weakness.. is in fact the, and our greatest strength.
Letting go of hardening in the body and allowing the gentleness, fragility and sensitivity to shine is a complete reversal of what I have lived, but oh boy is it worth making the effort to change old patterns and habits for!
The simple techniques of self-care that Universal Medicine teaches can make significant changes to ones life. By applying the principles of gentleness we change our world from the inside to the out.
Reading your words today Sue showed me clearly how we can experience temporary discomfort and difficulty, and run away back to what is ‘more easy’. Or we can see it, as you have done here, as a beautiful part of the body’s process in becoming clear. If we go this way, we can in the long term enjoy and savour an amazing delicateness that is the real us.
Understanding delicateness as a strength is quite revelatory as it is not the usual way life works for most or many would expect to be a way that supports dealing with life. Showing the world by living example that it is not just possible but even very beneficial for one´s own, and the well-being of others, opens doors that otherwise would probably stay unknown for much longer.
Yes Alex – delicateness is like fragility or the word precious. They’ve been used to describe weakness and brittleness which is the very opposite of the strength and beauty these words actually in-house. The more people reflecting the true qualities of delicateness, fragility and preciousness, the more we can define the words.
I saw an article today celebrating women’s boxing with a photo of one woman lunging forward with a huge punch in the other woman’s face. I was stunned to see how far that was from the true strength and power mentioned in this article, when a woman commands greatest regard and respect through her steady stillness, delicateness and grace. And what is more this graceful expression is necessary so that the men have a chance to also connect to the greater level of tenderness and care within themselves. The tough and hard act is not representative of how gorgeous both men and women are in their true expression.
This is a lovely blog Sue about your return to soul. Many people, both men and women, feel their delicate true nature and consider it a liability or weakness as you described. In a harsh world it may not seem to fit in but it is most needed. When you appreciate the quality of Delicateness and claim it as naturally yours, it comes with strength and is definitely not weak or pathetic.
I could very much relate to the belief that delicateness equated with weakness. However having had several delicate role models around me now, I can feel how much grace and beauty it can reflect to others. I love observing the way a glass can be picked up and held or fingers gliding over a keyboard. These are magic moments that lighten my heart and are so needed in this age where we are so rushed and harsh with ourselves.
I have had a guy staying over for a night and it has been amazing to have a man around the house – allowing him to carry the shopping or reach something on a high self I would otherwise have struggled with – is this being a weak woman, or is it simply a respectful and equal relationship, where I am no less and he is no more because he is helping me and I am learning to ask for help. There is a natural fragility in both men and women, and it is lovely when it is honoured.
” I now understand that these types of intense bodywork are crucially burying the issues that cause the tensions more deeply into the body” A beautiful sharing Sue of your unfoldment and the importance of connection and quality shown so clearly thank you.
‘…Living more from the inside out, rather than from the outside in…’ – Sue this is awesome and I really relate to the change and healing it brings to live in this way. I can say that in the past I lived from the outside – like a sponge taking on everything. But now I understand there is a different way to live – from the inside out – providing a reflection to so many.
I also used to work physically hard with my hands for many years Sue, when massaging or manipulating people’s spines. I now have arthritic thumb joints as a result of all that pushing. It has been a complete revelation to me over the past few years to work more gently with Esoteric Massage and it achieves far better results too.
What I really appreciate here is the point where you were inspired to make changes and bring more love to the fore of both your personal life and career.. such is the power of love.
‘Stress, a lack of true nutrition and fresh air, together with insufficient water and late nights, all took their toll on my health and well-being.’ Some people pride themselves on the amount of work they do, but if it impacts on our body, then there is no quality in any of that. Fresh air, good nutrition and great sleep are definitely conducive to good health. It’s very simple, really.
“It was amazing to feel the delicateness in my body, similar to a beautiful rose with a deep, inner strength and grace. Being connected to this quality of gentleness makes life flow so much more easily.” So true Susan… when we are in the natural harmonious flow, life evolves rather than just happens – there is a depth and quality that cannot be denied.
Love this line Susan… “Living more from the inside out, rather than from the outside in. It was about developing a trust in myself and in my own inner wisdom.” The ‘outside in’ is how so much of society lives and which is so exhausting! Living from the inside out is something I am learning and which brings so much joy and magic in life.
You are living proof Sue that the teachings of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine when applied and lived are life transforming.
Very supportive dot points. “Breathing my own gentle breath” – I find the conscious presence that we bring to breathe our gentle breath and move in our gentle way is fundamental and integral to all of those other great points Sue.
Each of the points you made about learning to observe rather than absorb life, being more gentle in how you are in the day, not giving your energy to other people or problems etc. are each monumental changes, and I can imagine are individually so supportive to have ‘under your belt’ as lessons and skills! Instead of looking at all the things ‘wrong’ with our lives or what we do that’s unsupportive, taking things step by step and applying consistency to what we’d like to develop makes so much sense and is a much more effective/loving way to look at how we live.
The ways to live listed herein are so simple and yet make such a profound difference. Having also benefitted from them I would recommend them to anyone.
Life for me then mirrored my work, which was far from a gentle pace or quality of being.
An incredible powerful pearl of Wisdom on it’s own. We all can relate how we’ve been with life, pushing, protecting, manipulating, abusing, bullying etc. But what if life only reflects this back to us because we choose to have that kind of relationship with life! Could this be possibly true? Could it be that our relationship with ourselves is exactly reflected by our experiences in and with the world? I’ve found for myself that this is certainly true. There’s such a well of love that I can connect to, but for a long, long (and still) time I chose to fight the love in and around me. As it’s painful to admit that I’ve been the one making the choices. We’re loved and honoured to the bone in whatever choice we’re making and all days we’re reflected that we do belong to love. That we are love and come from love.
Yes, Sue, it is super important to realise that there is no protection in being protected, but great strength in allowing ourselves to be real and vulnerable.
A great blog showing the consequences of allowing our own delicateness to shine and living in a way that truly supports this.
‘Stress, a lack of true nutrition and fresh air, together with insufficient water and late nights, all took their toll on my health and well-being.’ – What you describe here is a typical day for a lot of people, perhaps even the majority. Could it be that this has some correlation with the fact that the illness and disease statistics world wide are on the rise?
“I also learnt ways to live that were not taught at school, nor anywhere else in my life.” So true Sue, studying Universal Medicine has empowered me to make huge changes to the way I live, essential changes that no-one else has ever presented to me. Your testimony here is a shining example of what happens when we apply these ways to our everyday life, not only does our health and vitality radically improve, our inner strengths are given full permission to flourish as we come to appreciate, value and express who we really are and our true qualities.
The light touch of the Esoteric Massage is deeply healing and I have found releases the tension and tightness in the body to a level that I haven’t felt from a traditional massage.
‘Observing life and not absorbing it by not taking on board the external stuff’, this is a big one that I am still working on every day. When we take on stuff that’s not our to take on, it weighs us down and takes up space that could be filled with all the love that we naturally are.
Now I find it an essential to be delicate, where as before I learned the value of this I was constantly giving my power to events, people and outcomes outside of myself which I felt no delicate as in my being only a sense of control or lack of control 😝
Sue what a great ‘to be list’ to welcome a new year in with, or any other time we feel to choose what truly supports connecting back to ourselves.
So beautifully shared Sue with such a divine appreciation for connecting back to ourselves. This essential point that isn’t made clear to many of us is one that we can’t live harmoniously without.
‘I later discovered that protecting myself like this was actually no protection at all’, I have also found this to be true, Sue. Not only does it offer no protection, it actually makes things so much worse as it keeps us separate and alone, preventing us from feeling the beautiful flow of connectivity that naturally unites us together as one family.
Sexiness is quality brought out naturally when one is living who they truly are, rather than the ideals and beliefs they have previously subscribed to.
For me delicateness is synonymous with purity, surrender and innocence which are the most sublime qualities to find in any-one or any-thing.
Sue, this photo of yours is absolutely stunning, it radiates joy, ease and the beauty that comes with saying YES to loving choices and YES to love itself.
Sue I love this point “Learning to respond, rather than react, to situations and people.” its something that I am certainly working on at the moment and what I can feel is that one has to allow the delicateness we are in order to allow ourselves to respond, as if we are delicate we can respond but if we are forceful with ourselves we will naturally react. I’d not really joined the two together but will see how that supports my responding.
We think we are protecting our self when we harden our bodies, when what is actually happening is that we put up a shield that does not let people see who we truly are. We hide our natural qualities like tenderness and delicateness inside and do not let others experience and enjoy and be inspired by them. We both miss out on the possibility for evolution.
This is one of the most delicious and powerful blogs that I have ever read Sue. The words themselves convey the quality in which you are now living and are as a healing balm on the reader. Words such as : ‘Body awareness and delicateness are my true strengths now’, shine like a light in a world full of hardness and pain. Thank you!
Sue, one of your paragraphs reminds me of how common it is that we forget about one very important relationship and that is the one with ourselves. I have found it is actually equally important as all our other relationships. Learning to build a loving relationship with ourselves supports us in every way.
I also trained in deep tissue massage but when I learnt Esoteric Massage there is no way I would go back to inflicting hard pressure on anyone’s body. People think it’s doing them good because they feel something is happening and they may get some form of relief from it but no healing occurs. With Esoteric Massage, on the other hand, the gentle touch asks you to be present with yourself and feel your delicateness underneath the layers of protection. For some people this is a bit threatening but if the practitioner is not imposing and holds them equally in love this may allow them to surrender and enjoy the treatment as it offers the body an opportunity to release excess and stagnant energy.
If we learnt at school what we learn at Universal Medicine courses and events we would be so much better equipped to deal with the world and our own issues. In fact we would come to know that we have no issues, for once we connect within they dissolve away like the mist does when the sun shines on it.
Thank you Sue, I enjoyed reading your story and can relate to a lot of it. What a beautiful woman you are at 62. I agree the Esoteric Facial Release is simply divine as is the Esoteric Healing and Massage.
“Living more from the inside out, rather than from the outside in.” – these words stood out for me (today, as every time I read something, there’s something else that’s resonating). Life is to be lived from the inside out. Simple words, truthful words, but I’ve learnt that I do have to know the inside before I’m able to live truly from the inside out. Using my sixth sense has brought me in connection with me. I am deeply sensitive. Even though there’s still lots of times that I’m not connected to this sensitivity, I innately know that I am fragile, sensitive, tender, delicate and so much more. Accepting and allowing myself to feel these qualities of mine always bring back the stillness to me. There’s nothing more beautiful outside of me then me being connected with my own precious love inside of me.
I agree Floris, true love lived can only come from a life lived from the inside out.
‘This was put up with by both myself and the client, as there was the belief that it was doing good.’ – This is an important statement to highlight, how often do we keep doing things to ourselves and others under the belief that it is ‘good’ when in truth it is actually abusive? I would say, much more often than we are truly aware of.
I love the power and grace in this sentence: “I now know that my true power is found in the connection to myself, to this quality of delicateness, which is strong and powerful, like a graceful flower blossoming.” I have been completely blown away and inspired by witnessing those women around me who choose to live in this way. We as women completely disempower and dishonor ourselves when we compete with the men and think we have to be hard and tough in order to be powerful. The truth is even the men are most powerful, aware and wise when they live with connection, tenderness and sensitivity.
The only thing that hardening up our bodies can achieve is to keep people away and to stop us feeling the love that we innately are inside, so no one wins. Re-connecting to your true strength through re-building the foundation of love through accepting your own delicateness, and reflecting this to all around you is inspiration for us all to read, thank-you Sue.
“Body awareness and delicateness are my true strengths now. My body shouts loudly and clearly if something is not right” . . . these strengths are available to us all when we reconnect to our essence and are open to listening to their body.
What a beautiful unfoldment you have shared here.
“Body awareness and delicateness are my true strengths now.” – very beautiful Sue and your picture sure is confirmation of what you’ve chosen for yourself.
‘Learning to respond, rather than react, to situations and people.’ This is a huge area that I am working on – letting go of the emotional reaction and instead feeling exactly what has been triggered, usually an old hurt that has nothing to do with the person in front of me, who without knowing has reproduced a tone of voice, a phrase from our past. Life is constantly presenting us with reflections and we can choose to react and indulge in heavy emotions, or we can choose to learn, stay light, and let go.
I have also found Esoteric Yoga to be an invaluable modality or practice to support me to be more connected to my body which has led me to make all sorts of changes to my life which have all been for the better.
I agree Sue as a health care professional I have noticed that there is a deeper level to our health than just the physical body and what we can see with our eyes so it makes sense to be aware of and monitor this deeper energetic health way before it turns into a physical condition.
Yes, Sue, the choice to be delicate rather than in the hardness of protection changes everything, for the body as well as our relationship with self and others. A strength and steadiness emerges when we consistently allow our true nature to come out.
“The key to this new, gentler way of living for me was becoming more aware of my body and actually listening to the deep, inner guidance that lives within me.” – This is beautiful Sue and something that I have learnt, or could say have reconnected with, via Universal Medicine – we each have access to an incredible kind of intelligence from our innermost, one that cares about and is in harmony with everything.
It’s great when you find practical activities or things you can do regularly that support whatever is developing in your life at that time, e.g. for you Sue it’s awesome that Esoteric Yoga was so complimentary to you already deepening your connection to your body!
“I now know that my true power is found in the connection to myself, to this quality of delicateness, which is strong and powerful, like a graceful flower blossoming.” Claimed words! Just awesome.
“Life for me then mirrored my work”, my experience is this also Sue, everything mirrors everything; the way I work mirrors the way I cook, converse, walk, think and hug, simply because it is me that does all of this – and ‘me’ is the end result of the quality I choose to live in, hence everything is done in that quality.
‘Body awareness and delicateness are my true strengths now.’ Sue thank you for sharing your transformation and the true strength of delicateness.
And I agree Sue – the Energetic Facial Release is exquisitely beautiful to both give and receive – just heavenly!
Esoteric Yoga has been a game changer for me offering support to reconnect to my body, to listen to what it is revealing, learning to move in a way that is delicate and tender and to feel the stillness that is deep within, offering a marker from which I can live from. This way of being with myself is a far cry from the tension that I use to live in.
It is a pretty amazing thing to discover – that there is a powerful strength in delicateness which applies to both women and men equally.
Yes I agree Tamara Flanagan, “that the powerful strength in delicateness” is found equally in both men and women.
Interesting, Sue, how you bring strength together with delicacy and how strong and powerful it is to allow our delicacy as women. Your unfoldment speaks volumes.
Thank you Sue. The list of things that supported you is mind blowing. I have felt the benefit of these things also and each and every one of them could have changed my life on its own. Your blog allows me to appreciate what I have been blessed with.
You look amazing – a testament to life you are now choosing
Having trained as a remedial masseur, which employed deep tissue work, I never stop being amazed by the depth of release, and that it is long-term, from the Esoteric Massage that is so gentle.
“It was about developing a trust in myself and in my own inner wisdom.” It is a core focus of the teachings of Universal Medicine that bring us home to our selves, our inner knowing and wisdom. And how awesome to be supported by such powerful, tender and deep healing modalities like the Esoteric Massage and Esoteric Yoga that empower us to reconnect to our bodies and permanently clear the blocks and beliefs that stand in between us and this infinite well of wise and potent fragility. What an awesome shift to go through Sue, from attempting to pummel the knots out of the body, to realizing the power of your delicacy is all that is required to transform those deeply ingrained issues buried in our bodies.
What’s beautiful Sue about the list of points of things you have learned is that they are available to anybody. We can all learn these things and transform our lives by making more self caring and self loving choices, and by taking more responsibility for ourselves. A true Universal Medicine for all. I can also really relate your last point about learning to be the “true me” and knowing everything is already there inside you, this is a very empowered place to live from.
Sue the quality of your livingness is displayed in the photo
And Sue as you re-discover your true strength being the delicate woman that you are, you remind all other women that they too are made from the same delicate nature as you. Together we shall remember our true nature, we were never meant to go it alone.
Sue I’ve not seen many 62 year-old women who look like you. You are glowing with a gentle vitality and a powerful serenity, testimony to the life changes you have instigated and embraced and described for us here. You have offered up a true recipe for living, particularly for us women who have abandoned ourselves and our connection to our innate beauty and grace and, as you say, delicateness.
All the Esoteric bodywork modalities offered by Universal Medicine (and I’ve had many wonderful sessions in them all), and The Gentle Breath Meditation, have allowed me to re-connect with my body in a way I had not been able to since childhood and possibly even infancy. And in re-connecting to my body I’ve been able to move away from a life run according to the whims of the ever-active (and ultimately unhelpful) mind to re-ignite a developing relationship with my soul… a far more practical and harmonious path.
How gorgeous to see a 62 year old woman looking so beautifully at ease with herself… you do not look hardened or worn down by life Sue, such a beautiful role model thank you.
I agree Jenny; I could feel how wonderful it would be to receive a facial release from Sue who clearly lives all that she has shared in her blog from her own beingness.
“Stress, a lack of true nutrition and fresh air, together with insufficient water and late nights, all took their toll on my health and well-being.” Sue I always take a stop moment when I realise that we push our bodies way beyond what they are designed to do. Now from what I understand this is not about working too hard, as we are designed to work, but its the quality in which we work, live, move and express that counts most.
‘If I had known then what I know now, life would have been very different and much more joyful’ …. which is why these blogs are so important and such a gift to all who read them. Reading a blog such as this may be all someone needs to re-ignite the connection within. The more we share and support each other, the more we strengthen the brotherhood that naturally exists between us.
‘Surrendering to my true, inner delicateness feels very natural’ – I now realise that the un-rest and sadness I have felt in the past, that I’d attributed to ‘not understanding how to be in life’, was simply my resistance to surrendering to and being my gorgeous self.
Same for me Alison, I can totally relate. Once I realised this I was able to surrender more to my delicateness, my natural way, and to be myself as much as possible.
It is outstanding to feel the strength in delicateness and so opposite to what most of us have believed about delicateness. It just goes to show how much we have to look more closely at what we have taken on that is the absolute opposite to what is in fact the truth. We have accepted so many things that simply are not true and everyday we live out the consequences of having accepted such lies. It is our body that then suffers the consequences.
I love the title of your blog it is so true that is where our strength lies.
Thank you Sue, This is a great blog to read. It has made me ponder of the word delicateness, that when recognising ourselves as being delicate is to become aware of the grace of our energetic state of being, and how we then begin to appreciate, honour and take care of this natural way of expressing the light and love of the Soul that naturally comes from and is then magnified through the movements of our body.
What a gorgeous tribute, affirmation and appreciation of you Sue, beautiful and inspirational to read. I love what you have expressed here;
“It was amazing to feel the delicateness in my body, similar to a beautiful rose with a deep, inner strength and grace. Being connected to this quality of gentleness makes life flow so much more easily”.
Thank you Sue for letting us all see and experience what a great person you are, with so much insight and so much care. This really comes across in your blog because I can tell that you are telling us all of what you have to say so that we may understand a bit more about ourselves and perhaps even step in even further to discover what depths there are hidden inside. Your level of care for people is evident in your words.
It’s amazing how, after years of trying to deny ones sensitivity. it remains. This to me proves sensitivity is innate and amazing; and it is in us all universally so. Sometimes feeling how beautiful my sensitivity is is painful as I feel how I’ve denied myself who I am and how lovely I am, but appreciating my delicateness this does go. And turning my back on who I am isn’t without consequence – not punishment, simply consequence.
All you share Sue is so beautiful and I can relate to it all. The understanding you have come to in listening to your body, honouring and deeply caring for yourself, is a real inspiration to feel and know as is the development of an ongoing deepening in your relationship with yourself with a loving commitment and joy that can be felt. Thank you for your amazing sharing.
Esoteric Massage is such a beautiful modality and I love how you mention that “My massage work is no longer hard work, but a joy with a lighter touch, which transforms issues rather than burying them, and I no longer have aching shoulders after doing a massage.” And that you do not check out receiving this same massage technique from someone else. This is huge and really shows the beauty of this modality.
It is a falsity to think that hardening up is a true protection, yet so many women go into this way of being at the detriment of allowing their true power to shine through their vulnerability and delicacy.
The points you make here should be taught to us all at a young age as they would really change the way we grow up and get caught up in life and lose ourselves. To me these are key points that need to be revisited and to become my way:
• Observing life and not absorbing it by not taking on board the external stuff.
• Taking more responsibility for myself, not blaming others, not being a victim/martyr or taking things personally.
• Learning to respond, rather than react, to situations and people.
• Breathing my own gentle breath.
• Not giving my power away – remaining strong within me.
• Staying connected to myself consistently through being aware of my body.
• Being gentle with myself and others.
Beautiful transformation Sue, of yourself and also of your profession too. As you share; “The key to this new, gentler way of living for me was becoming more aware of my body and actually listening to the deep, inner guidance that lives within me. Living more from the inside out, rather than from the outside in” – connection to the body, and the quality of that connection is the ultimate change-maker isn’t it?!
We don’t normally associate power with delicateness but your blog, Sue expresses the beauty of true power which, as you say, ‘is found in the connection to myself’. The more we do this the less we give our power to others and can therefore trust our inner wisdom which is accessible by all who live ‘from the inside out’.
What a beautiful blog Sue. It is compounded with your photo. Thank you for sharing.
We are so fortunate to be able to access such amazing modalities which can connect us back to our bodies and our innermost sacredness. The stillness of Esoteric Yoga was certainly challenging for me too, but it showed me just how far away I was from “me”!
I agree Susan, we need to re-define words such as ‘strength’ and ‘power’, understanding that in our delicateness lies our true power.
Sue, over the years I have watched you transform into this beautiful and truly delicate woman. Such joy – thank you for sharing your process with us all.
Who we have come to believe that we are, we are not. The life that we are living is not true. However the truth lives forever underneath the lies and is not compromised in any way for having been covered up for eons.
I recognise the feeling of hardening my body as a way of going into protection, but all this results in is physical discomfort and pain. Ironically, I am discovering that allowing my delicateness and fragility to be present is the best protection as I can feel more as a result and am able to observe more and absorb other people’s stuff less.
It is lovely that you have been able to continue your work as a therapist and bring this greater awareness of yourself as a woman and to bring all of you to your work. That naturally inspires a client to be all of who THEY are.
I have worked as a massage therapist for years, and used to be super strong and give deep tissue massages and basically hurt people including myself. It was exhausting. I no longer do this, and the feedback I get is awesome. There really is no gain with pain. Most bodies are so tense and hard that the last thing they need is more hardness….. what they respond best with is gentleness and tenderness and I know this from massaging hundreds of people. With a gentle massage, they are able to trust, let go and surrender instead of brace and tense the muscles in preparation for the pain and assault. Big differences.
This makes me reflect on all the times I have used body massage to check out and fall asleep and was under the illusion that it was good to get a massage and get rid of all the tension through immense pressure. But I too now have an understanding of Esoteric Massage – and it is a beautiful and gentle technique that is very powerful.
‘The strength of being in my delicate essence affects everyone around me in a most beautiful way.’ This is just gorgeous.
Your beautiful picture reflects to all of us how making loving choices and honouring your body has initiated great changes towards your own health, well being and vitality – a glowing skin, a twinkle in the eye and a re-claiming of the delicate woman that you are. Thank you for sharing Sue, your true strength is indeed and your delicateness.
I love what you are saying here Sue and most of all I love your expression, very delicate and deeply loving and caring.
How lovely, Sue. There is something beautifully ageless about your photo, and I can feel that delicateness is a quality that can be celebrated at any age and is equally exquisite when it is felt in oneself or another.
How beautiful and honouring to read and see your lovely photo glowing and shining in your glory now. A very loving sharing of how you have changed your life and the amazingness you have become and learned to appreciate. “I now know that my true power is found in the connection to myself, to this quality of delicateness, which is strong and powerful, like a graceful flower blossoming” So true.
I’ve found Esoteric Massage to be a very powerfully healing therapy in the support it provides too – helping to unlock tension and the energy associated with it in the body so that it can truly release and re-harmonise.
Serge Benhayon shares life skills that support, it is to reconnect to the innate wisdom within, equal to everyone.
It is really amazing what we can learn and re-imprint in our lifetime when we are open to feeling what is truly happening in our bodies Sue. When we know we can reflect to others, we can feel the responsibility of staying with ourselves more and more, the world is crying out for a different way to live. We can bring this by how we live and work with the brilliant modalities of Esoteric Massage and Esoteric Yoga.
I used to roll my eyes at any woman who appeared delicate. As a young woman my idea was that I needed to appear strong and capable of doing things without the need for any help. This idea lead to me being exhausted and very unhappy, yet I soldiered on like this for years. The idea that there was another way to live came when I started attending workshops presented by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine. I have learnt there is more power in the expression of my naturally delicate and tender self, than there was in that hardened, tough and false me.
I personally love the Esoteric Massage – I get up off the table and feel like I have a new bag or new legs – I move and walk differently because it is like my whole body has shifted and become more aligned, it is really an amazing modality.
The fact any esoteric modality can reveal how much out of sync we are when we have the feeling that things are going well/really well, but they in fact aren’t, makes clear the extent to which we lie to ourselves.
To be sensitive has been misinterpreted. It is not to be continuously hurt by life, but to the contrary. It is the ability to sense life, and in doing so, understand it more deeply so that one does not personalise what one feels. Without doubt when one is sensitive, one seemingly gets hurt more than the average joe. But that is not because they actually get hurt more than the average joe, only that they are courageous enough and open enough to acknowledge when they have been hurt, unlike the person who toughens up, who actually still gets hurt by life, but cannot feel the fact, and does not want to acknowledge it. The problem with this latter approach is that it leads to much complication, and a way of life that is not honouring of your true self, or others.
It’s true that the relationship we seem to avoid and ignore the most is the relationship we have to ourselves! It’s much ‘easier’ to be picky and evaluate exterior things, problems, dynamics and issues rather than look at how we behave or think on the inside when it’s just us.. But we live with ourselves 24/7, so it is the most important relationship to look at and the quality of this can determine the quality of ALL other relationships.
The power of the Esoteric Massage is something that I too am blown away by, in what it is possible to shift in the body with such a light touch. To feel the body responding so immediatley to what is being offered and be guided by that, rather than a strict regime of techniques that have to be done ‘by the book’ gives the body an opportunity to truly heal.
Absolutely the esoteric massage is deeply healing.
I can relate to feeling uncomfortable during Esoteric Yoga – I have felt this myself and it’s such a loud and clear message from my body showing me that I have difficulty simply just being with myself.
Thank you, Sue, this is a gorgeous reminder for all of us to appreciate the power of just simply allowing our exquisite true nature to be lived and expressed – “The strength of being in my delicate essence affects everyone around me in a most beautiful way”.
Sue, what. beautiful sharing about the unfoldment of your presence.. I love it.
“Leading on from this was my learning about relationships, particularly the relationship I had ignored in the past, the one with myself…”
Hear, hear Sue and what is so beautiful about this relationship is that there is no end, no final mastership, it continuously calls us to see more of our choices, to understand what feels true and natural and all that does not. We are guided by a supreme friend; our bodies.
“We are guided by a supreme friend; our bodies.” Beautifully expressed – such a lovely way of describing our body and our relationship with it.
What an amazing statement to hear “Body awareness and delicateness are my true strengths now.” – Considering the years I spent disassociating the word delicateness from any form of strength, I can categorically agree that when I touch or am touched, looked at, spoken to with a delicateness I know I am receiving (and can offer as well) far more than just delicateness, as I receive also the quality and awareness that built that delicacy.
I used to have deep tissue massage for about 15 years prior to Universal Medicine, sometimes every week in the belief it was good for me, and while it relieved the pain it was short lived. Hence my regular trips, so it makes sense to me we are just burying our issues and it is our body’s way of saying there is something to look at here. When I began Esoteric Massage the pain began to really shift as I looked at the way I was living and like you the hardness and protection that was my way of getting through life. Having deep tissue massage without looking deep into the causes of why the pain is there in the first place doesn’t make sense, whereas Esoteric Massage allows the healing to really begin.
What a gorgeous photo of you Sue and absolutely gorgeous to feel your delicateness and tenderness and inner strength and wisdom throughout your sharing. I love receiving Esoteric Massage, I always feel after a session it has cleared what needed to be cleared and I always feel a deeper connection with my body afterwards.
It is inspiring to read that as we get older we do not have to fall into the current trend of what it means to age, and that it does not matter how ill we are or how old we are, we can still make some simple changes to our lives which will make a difference to how we feel and our sense of well-being.
Sue, it is so beautiful to re-read your article, I enjoyed reading the list of ways to live now that were not taught at school, this really stands out for me, ‘Not giving my power away – remaining strong within me.’ I have been feeling this lately, an inner strength, it feels very powerful and solid, feeling in my body and not being affected by what is going on around me.
‘I later discovered that protecting myself like this was actually no protection at all.’ There is great wisdom in this line in my view. The way I see it, when we live in protection we do so because we believe there is something we need to protect ourselves from – perhaps obviously so. Is it real – or are we creating the need for protection? It seems to me, most of us live in protection ‘just in case’ something hurtful happens and then live our lives in separation and contraction from each other, ‘just in case’. But then we live in the shadow of hurt constantly. Perhaps it would be more true to open up to people and emerge from our ‘bunkers’ and see how this works instead.
“All through my life until recently, I equated my true nature of being delicate as somewhat of a liability, a weakness, certainly not the strength I now know it to be. I hardened up as a supposed shield to protect myself in life.” I can relate to this so well, Sue. From being a child I was always told what a sensitive child I was but to be ‘a man’ felt such an unmanly quality. Everything I experienced confirmed for me that to be ‘a man’ was to be hard, unfeeling and aloof. Although having mastered much of this well I did not feel at ease with myself. Then discovering through the teachings of the Ageless Wisdom as presented by Serge Benhayon that that my sensitivity was in fact a strength and the hardness an illusion a true man is, was a breath of refreshing, healing breath. However, although recognising the truth of the teachings without question, having lived for so long endeavouring to suppress and hide my sensitivity that now, paradoxically, I have to learn to live my true nature freely. But what a joy and freedom that is becoming.
The esoteric modalities as presented and taught by Universal Medicine bring a delicacy of touch that offers an awareness of the energetic causes underlying what is felt in the body.
“After a period of time, the uncomfortable feelings became less as I became more aware of how I was living and started listening more to my body.” There is such an immense power in us learning how to accept and stay present with these uncomfortable feelings that then enable us to change how we are living so that they leave our bodies. I know that it was this approach that supported me to make huge alterations to my dietary choices that were causing my body great pain. The simple tools that Universal Medicine offers are powerful aids that when consistently applied that transform our entire relationship with ourselves, our bodies, health and inner being, as you have testified Sue.
Delicateness is a way to know that every detail in life matters, and it is something to be cherished in all people and not thought of as weak.
That is so gorgeous Harry. Delicateness is often diminished in this world where a lot of value is put onto producing and being fast and strong. But as you said is the absolute key ingredient to living a truly caring life for all to feel and enjoy.
I can relate to what you have shared about Esoteric Yoga Sue. I had experienced quite a lot of yoga before hand but it was nothing like what I had experienced before. It was so uncomfortable, especially in the seated position. I would have never thought in a millions years that sitting on the floor with my legs out in front would have been.
But that was a while ago now and my experiences are now very different. I no longer look upon any uncomfortable feelings in my body as something to get rid of but something to look underneath, the reason the tension is there in the first place, the reason for my choices. I also love the gentle guidance of each of the Esoteric Yoga Facilitators, gently encouraging to always come back to what we are feeling in our body, without any judgement and with great honesty, The thing that I love about Esoteric Yoga the most is that through learning to observe my body, I have and am falling in love with my body and how it will never let me down in communicating to where I am at and how I am travelling. I don’t always like what I am being told and can react to that, but I do appreciate my body more every day.
“I am appreciating how I no longer need to walk around protected with my body, which used to feel like an old fashioned corset laced tightly around my chest.” I had to laugh when I was reading your wonderful example how the protection feels in your body as it is so very true for me too. Thank you so much Sue, for sharing your experience with us and I have to admit that without this old fashioned corset you look so much younger and brighter than 62 . . .
The connection to our inner most, and from that with the all we are part of, gives us a strength and a knowing that is beyond the dimensions of the world we currently are living in and are part of. That said, living from that inner connection makes us live that other dimension we are connected to here on earth and in that livingness we are bringing heaven to earth. How amazing is that!
It is so simple if we allow ourselves the space to be still and re-connect to our body and bring in a loving, nurturing and supportive way in our livingness. Esoteric Yoga is an amazing modality that brings one back to feeling all that is to be felt in the body and which is often over-ridden by the drive we bring in to get things done. This has been a real celebration of the delicacy we all hold within.
It still blows me away when I give and also receive Esoteric Massage, that the gentle touch is so so powerful in shifting and releasing held tension in the body that a stronger more traditional massage does not shift. There is such power in gentleness, a truly healing quality in which the connective tissue in the body responds so well to by opening up and saying ‘yes please, treat me with tenderness and care’.
I can relate to the that knowing when doing massage, where we just have the inbuilt sense of where the hands need to go. It is well worth trusting this sense and I am also a great believer in a light touch these day having previously learned remedial and sports massage which encouraged a deep pressure. I hear many stories now of people who go for deep massage and end up with the same symptom arising at a later time in meaning the relief that was sought has not healed the body but as Sue says has actually buried it.
In that case when people are purposely asking for these deep massages and hard techniques, then I question, do you really want to be healed from what is in your body or are you only looking for relief and do you not want to disturb that comfortable life you you have?
Just loved reading about your re-discovery of your gorgeous self, Sue and how you life has changed as a consequence, along with the blessing you now offer everyone you meet as they get to feel the true you in your delicate tenderness.
‘It was amazing to feel the delicateness in my body, similar to a beautiful rose with a deep, inner strength and grace’, love your expression Sue. Your beauty and grace shine bright for all to feel and see.
I love the way you share that gentleness and delicateness as a woman are your true strengths Sue. Some of the most healing massages I have ever had were done by Universal Medicine Practitioners, in gentleness.
“It was amazing to feel the delicateness in my body” what a great reflection for us all that words should be used to describe true feelings. When you speak about delicateness it’s not from what the word means from your head but how you’ve shared, you felt it in the body, that feels like the way forward for all of us – to use words that we feel in the body and therefore when we say them it comes with a whole fullness of lived experience. Thank you.
I never considered myself to be a ‘delicate’ person in fact many times I felt the complete opposite but what I have come to feel and know now, as Sue has, through the support of Universal Medicine is actually the true delicatenss that my body is when I allow it to express this. When we allow our body to be and speak instead of stubbornly control everything by the mind it is truly amazing what is shown and felt. We are so much more than we currently allow ourselves to be.
Thank you MA for your contribution regarding the meaning of the word delicateness, as felt from the body, rather than the head. It would be great to redefine the meaning. As you say it “feels like the way forward for all of us – to use words that we feel in the body and therefore when we say them it comes with a whole fullness of lived experience”.
Gorgeous picture of you Sue, and I must say, you don’t look 62 year old – you look far younger!
I have to agree, Sue you do not look 62 at all, and your reflection is the proof in the pudding of your simple way of living and the relationship you have with yourself.
Simple and very true…”By honouring my body, by listening, I have much more energy, vitality and well-being…” This way of self care is the ‘X factor’ for true health and wellbeing.
You say Sue: ‘I also learnt ways to live that were not taught at school, nor anywhere else in my life. I could write a whole blog on each one, but in summary, these points really supported me and continue to be a work in progress’. This wonderful blog lays out all the most useful, crucial and beautiful things that our education should be based on – observation, taking responsibility, not giving our power away, breathing our own great in our own rhythm, learning to respond not react. realising that expression is everything, awareness and connection in true relationship to self and others. What a list of honour – this is true education.
A list of honour indeed Lyndy – if we start living like this ourselves, just like Sue has done, then reflecting it to our family and friends, then to the wider community, then just maybe the education system, by the reflection of our livingness, will begin to change from the inside out.
Wouldn’t life be different if education were based on these skills, instead of competition, the ownership of knowledge and only being recognised for what one achieves? From a base of true connection with ourselves we would return to working together in harmony and brotherhood.
The fact that the delicateness in all of us remains intact despite the levels of hardness and aggression that we all go to, is, in itself testament to it’s strength.
No one taught us that delicateness, tenderness, purity, gracefulness, innocence are actually really powerful qualities that not only feel extremely lovely in our bodies, but also are part of the nature of who we are. I love women as well as men being connected to these ‘fine’ qualities. Thank God for Serge Benhayon and from him the so many courageous people that committed themselves to walk the path that leads us back to ourselves.
It’s so true that massage techniques that go ‘deep’ structurally do not actually go ‘deep’ at all and they do not heal, they bring relief. We can’t dig tension out with an elbow! I find that gentler techniques are much more effective in helping the body to let go.
“I now understand that these types of intense bodywork are crucially burying the issues that cause the tensions more deeply into the body.” This line is a cracker because it exposes so much. I used to try many different healing therapies and I would feel better for a time but then when I stopped, the issue would come up again (either as the same or present itself in a different way). I can see now that the issue was being buried more deeply into the body and when the therapy stopped, they resurfaced. Nothing ever really changed.
Such a beautiful blessing for us all Sue, to know we all have a choice to return to our essence, our inner delicate selves and embrace a responsible, true, joy-full connection in our every moment and in every detail.
Look at you, 62 years old, vital, joyful and delicate, how different would your picture have been if you would have continued to do your deep tissue massage on your clients and living convinced you were doing the right thing? How amazing are the esoteric therapies to come back to the beauty you are from the inside out?
Its inspiring as a younger woman to see some older commit to life more fully and turn their life around.
A great transformation in many ways from how to now massage and now how to live. We can see how life is linked and you don’t have a work life and a private life but the two are one and the same. Bringing awareness and care into either one brings the same into the other. I remember I use to think that they were two completely different things and I would live them that way. Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon supported me to see how intrinsically they are linked or connected and how everything is in fact connected. I can’t just do whatever after hours and expect to turn up to work the next day ‘clean’. Anything you live is with you, no need to look back or forward as everything you are is in your touch right now. This is our ultimate responsibility to live true to how we are and not pretend our life has compartments.
A most beautiful blog Sue; your photo oozes the delicateness that you have rediscovered, that you in fact have always been. As someone in their 60’s as well, I can feel how lovely it would have been to have been raised to know this from day one; what a lot of angst and living a life that was contrary to who I naturally was, would have been avoided. But, as the saying goes ‘it’s better late than never’ and at 67 I am delighted to have rediscovered my “true strength” and what it truly means to be a “delicate woman”.
Sue, I loved reading this blog and about the qualities that you naturally have such as delicateness and gentleness, it is very beautiful that you now see what a strength these qualities are and that you have embraced and live these qualities in your day to day and what an amazing difference this has made to your life.
I love the symbolism of the strength and power in the delicateness of a rose and the strength and power in the delicateness of us. It is exactly how I feel, in such that when I harden myself and close down to others I am far less powerful than when I openly express my vulnerabilities and delicateness.
Thank you Sue. The description of your life and reconnecting with your true power is beautiful. I loved the ending line – ‘The strength of being in my delicate essence affects everyone around me in a most beautiful way.’ Being aware of who we are, is a strength in itself!
‘Being gentle with myself and with others’, this is so simple and yet it has taken commitment to make the shift from self bashing to choosing appreciation first and by doing so I am naturally more appreciative of others.
Wow, what a delightful beauty with 62! You are a role model of how to age gracefully Sue Goodson.
Stunning photo Sue…your beauty and grace blessing us all.
Your article unfolds to reveal the beauty and power in changing the relationship with ourselves to one of tenderness and awareness. I recall how alien and hard it was when I was asked to work gently with the body after having been trained to push and ‘dig’. But learning that I could be gentle, even super tender in giving a body treatment, this confirmed for me our natural quality – one that is sorely missed by huge swathes of humanity. I cherish the fact that there is so much communicated in the tenderest of touches.
What you share about the massage and body awareness is very interesting – how we often seek the hard and deep and painful massage believing it will help to relieve the tension when in fact the scar tissue that builds up to form the knots we want to go away, can’t be healed with deep pressure.
Your transformation Sue is incredible. Learning to listen, trust and honour my body and make choices accordingly to support my body has also resulted in me feeling more vital, joyful and energised. Taking care of our body allows us to feel how delicate and precious we are. What you’ve shared Sue has much wisdom and gems for us all.
It’s beautiful how you now appreciate your inner wisdom and strength and take heed of what your body is showing you. It’s easy to override what we feel in our body if we have a belief about how we think something needs to be to work e.g the deep tissue massage but in my experience too our whole body has an intelligence that knows what is harmonious and healing and what isn’t and it gives us a sound marker from which to feel the truth if we are willing to connect with it.
A woman who knows who she is and claims it with genuine authenticity is incredibly powerful and inspiring, it’s amazing to see women stand up and say – this is me – in a world that actually asks women to oppose their natural and loving and precious nature.
What a wake up call! If you were thinking you were truly serving your clients and were in fact burying their issues deeper in their body, it makes me wonder how much harm we can be doing in other parts of our life by simply not living in connection with our inner heart and our body
Thank you, Sue, this is beautiful, to read of the way you do massage now is very different from the deep massage I have experienced from other practitioners, always thinking that if it hurt it was doing me good. That is simply a myth, it is amazing what can be released with a simple, tender and loving touch.
Wow, that’s such a welcome change. I love the point about the quality in which we do things, such as the way we open and close a door. It might seem insignificant, but if everything is everything and we’re only choosing to be present sometimes, like in a meditation class or yoga then what’s the point. I love the responsibility you’re bringing to your life.
Reading this reminds me of a beautiful song with the lyrics ‘When you wait with open arms like a snowflake love comes down into our hearts’. There are many therapies that relieve the tensions (issues) we carry in our bodies. The esoteric therapies assist to support the awareness and understanding of why we carry certain issues in the body. Esoteric therapies have supported me immensely over the years to understand how and why I treat my body the way that I do, in turn naturally I have developed a much greater understanding of others.
Sue I lit up reading this and could feel this beautifull space from which you were sharing from. It is lovely to hear about your life, how you write is very gentle and unimposing and that is such a beautifull photo of you .. this delicate surrender with the colour of your blue dress complimenting the your beautifull blue eyes … just exquisite. I can really relate with what you have shared about massage, my hands are exactly the same ‘an inbuilt radar knowing exactly where to go’. I trained in Swedish Body Massage and Aromatherapy as well and loved massaging but would feel tired after this. Esoteric Massage is completely different, very gentle yet very powerful clearing energy from the body instead of burying it further in, and not wearying for the practitioner. It is truly lovely to hear how your life is unfolding.
For years I ignored the fact that I have a small body and a small frame – let alone the experience that if my female body is left alone it exhibits the most loving, harmonious delicate expression. I took pride in carrying heavy massage tables up and down stairs. I was renowned for tough deep massage sessions, using thumbs, knuckles, elbows if necessary. And its toll on my own body I saw it as failure, so I tried harder! My life has also completely turned around. It has been a breath of fresh air, meeting Serge Benhayon and his family. The unwavering honouring and appreciation of such natural qualities as delicateness within me and all women, and the consistent power, clarity and love of humanity expressed by the women in the Benhayon family who are perfect role models of living in such an honouring way, is inspiring and empowering beyond measure.
I too practised massage techniques for a while, and found it fascinating the difference between the relief from a symptom that I was trying to give to clients vs a totally different approach in the Esoteric. Here it is not a question of making things go away, but rather highlighting them so we can see what is really going on – which then gives us the opportunity to work on them.
Building a relationship with ourself does change the whole feel of our life even if the things we do, do not change much .
I love your photo Sue and the delicacy you emanate.
Beautifully said Sue, thank you. When we ignore the relationship with ourselves we ignore the most fundamental of all relationships because everything arises from within us. Our relationship with ourselves is the point of ‘first contact’, where we connect to all that makes us who we are. To me, ignoring this relationship and seeking solutions out there in the world is like looking in the mirror and expecting the reflection to change. Impossible.
Each of the Esoteric Modalities have supported me in different ways to come back to a known in my body, a truth that gentleness is our natural way of being.
The points you share which support you, Sue, sum up a great deal in a few words and are a helpful reminder to me. Most are very simple in nature but require an awareness, responsibility and honesty – three things which can be challenging and require work. Expression is indeed everything, and you do it beautifully in this blog.
Have you ever stepped on a tack barefoot, it is a physical pain you can’t ignore! Why do we take emotions and turn them into pain and then hide them? As you have said Sue, so many new age modalities just bury the root of these pains deep, but don’t deal with them. A sliver in the finger always seems to find the exact point of a nerve ending and how do we treat this, with tenderness in its removal or brute force? Should we not treat our buried hurts with the same tenderness?
‘By honouring my body, by listening, I have much more energy, vitality and well-being’ – I agree Sue. When we aren’t constantly fighting our body and overriding our feelings of what is supportive, the levels of exhaustion/tiredness we experience seriously decline and (very different to the ‘norm’) vitality comes back into the picture!
This hardening and protection you write of Sue changes our whole way of being in the world, from our walk to the way we talk, how we interact with others or not – in fact every aspect of our lives. Even to the point where we are so used to it that until someone points it out in themselves, quite often we don’t give it much consideration and carry on in a way which we consider as being normal.
I too have discovered the strength in delicacy and just like a flower in bloom holds a power and grace.
This is a really beautiful blog giving lots of practical tips on how to live.
You are beaming in your photo Sue and look amazing for 62. It’s a shame that the way you have learnt to live is not taught in schools. It would be a great foundation for our young people if they were taught these skills throughout their education.
In the hardened state we don’t see any other way other than to remain hard and protected. To even allow ourselves the space to question the guarding and not dismiss the possibility of being delicate and tender is a huge step. Each time I drop the guards I feel so beautiful and strong at the same time, yet this is something I am having to actively choose to be as currently there is a constant momentum of tensing back up. In that openness I can be curious as to why I believe this guard to be ‘good’ even at the expense of the body.
Thank you Sue, a very beautiful sharing and a photo that shows how much the outside reflects the inside.
The Esoteric modalities definitely bring us all back to the love that we are in essence, deeply delicate.
You say: “If I had known then what I know now, life would have been very different and much more joyful.” I agree. What a different world we would have if the simple, loving and basic keys to life that Serge Benhayon lives and presents were more widely available and taught at school.
The relationship with myself is a forever learning that now cannot be ignored for it is the relationship with myself that paves the way in life and everything is determined based on this relationship.
Thank you for sharing how you are embracing the strength of your delicateness and working on that often neglected relationship – the one we have with ourselves. For me too Esoteric Yoga has been a huge, and also confronting, support with this unfoldment and the depth of stillness that I can come to allows me a deeper connection to my delicateness and the power that is within us all if we start making different choices.
It is a joy to read this blog Sue and gorgeous to see your petals unfolding and coming into bloom as is very clearly reflected in your photograph.
“I now know that my true power is found in the connection to myself, to this quality of delicateness, which is strong and powerful, like a graceful flower blossoming”.
For way too long the word delicate has been associated with weak and unhealthy. I know that in the past I have found the notion of women being ‘delicate’ as very distasteful and as a result have looked to be a rather masculine woman. I have sworn with bravado, partied hard to match the boys and generally acted in a hard and callous way. Thankfully I also came across the work of Universal Medicine and as a result have found my way back to the delicateness that is part of the true nature of every woman.
Sue, reading your blog it is clear to feel you through your written word. There is something very reassuringly solid about you, which lays to rest any myth that delicate can’t be strong and solid at the same time.
A beautiful blog and photo Sue. “The key to this new, gentler way of living for me was becoming more aware of my body and actually listening to the deep, inner guidance that lives within me.” Life changes when we do this – so why isn’t it widely taught in the home and at school – yet?
This is beautiful Sue and is an absolute testament to the power of the Esoteric Healing modalities, and how they can support us to explore and rediscover the true delicateness and beauty that we all have within us.
Beautiful, Sue. The confidence and strength in your delicateness shines through your writing and is an inspiration to take down the false protection of hardness.
Thank you Sue, your delicateness is palpable in this blog, a light and tender quality that offers us all a space to simply be tender with ourselves too, what a glorious realisation that something you felt was your biggest weakness is in truth your biggest and best strength. And this is the core message of Universal Medicine’s teachings and a truth that Serge Benhayon lives 24/7, that at our core lies an essence so divine, tender and exquisitely gorgeous that restores the true joy to everyday life, an essence that is extremely evident in your beautiful photo and in light hearted writing.
What a gorgeous photo Sue, your gentle delicateness shines through the picture and the words in your blog. You are a testimony to the changes the Esoteric Modalities bring.
Simply reading this article supports one to stop, be still and connect with their essence.
There is immense power and joy in delicateness and fragility – whether people melt or react, it’s a reflection the world sorely needs.
“Living more from the inside out, rather than the outside in”. Until I met Serge Benhayon I wasn’t even aware that there was a difference, let alone how to address the imbalance that I was living. His words have changed my life.
You have just written the syllabus for what should be a compulsory subject for all pupils at all schools.
I can relate to the outer protection you speak of. Esoteric modalities support us to connect more deeply with ourselves and surrender to our innate tenderness and delicacy as a way of being in the world.
I absolutely agree that the Esoteric Massage is like nothing else. Working with Curtis Benhayon with massage is a healing experience beyond words can describe.
Sue your fragrant delicacy offered here for us to receive and appreciate.
What a beautiful sharing Sue, and it comes with such appreciation of how your life has turned around, how YOU turned your own life around once you encountered the truth and another way with Universal Medicine. It can be so powerful to come back to a basic way of being, one that is actually quite natural to us, one that respects us and others, and one that we don’t find that easily reflected to us in our current world. However, it is there being reflected to us, and so the choice is ours…should we simply choose to see this, and should we choose to embrace it.
It is a reawakening of the delicateness in us that brings us home to a place that we actually know so well. We all belong to be like that but most of us have forgotten that that is our essence and our strength.
This is lovely Sue, that you transformed the way you work from hardness to gentleness. What a healing that is for you and for everyone else in your life that you massage and give sessions too.
When did we ever think that being delicate was a weakness and something to avoid at all costs and how come it’s accepted for children but changes as we grow older? What’s interesting is that this is not considered a weakness for children. I know I was very much embroiled in this belief and thanks to the Esoteric Modalities I have been able see that being delicate is absolutely part of our true nature. Thank you Sue for claiming this as yours.
Reading your blog Sue, I can’t help but feel how real and sustainable is the way in which you are today with your body. You share no ‘magic pill’, but rather a way of relationship with the body that holds the capacity to continue to deepen over time – now THAT is something, in a world where burn-out, especially amongst health practitioners, is so very and alarmingly common. Deeply inspiring, and boy, you can’t help but feel the true and real benefit to your clients and all those around you.
Thank you Victoria Warburton. Yes it is so empowering to know that we have everything we need right within us, and developing the relationship with my body has been key, and which continues to deepen. As you say the burn out rate amongst practitioners is common so to have this available to us is invaluable. Esoteric Therapies are Heaven sent.
Strength in delicateness – how beautiful to know and experience this in one’s own body Sue, and to feel such profound changes through the modalities you have worked with and also offer to your clients. No ‘toll’ on one’s own body is required, when we let ourselves return to truly listening and developing such a relationship with our own bodies as you have described.
I have also found Esoteric Yoga supportive beyond measure in this. Something very special is offered in every Esoteric Yoga session I attend – awarenesses of how I’ve been, and how I can be, in my daily living. It is a time to commune deeply with my body and being, and commit to moving in a way that is self-honouring to a ‘T’, and nothing less. A time to surrender to the being I am, in full connection with this physical body. In this, I’ve discovered also that my inherent delicateness cannot but be known, and how strong and truly beautiful I am in this quality.
What a joy to read your blog Sue and to feel how you have reclaimed your delicateness. Every women who reclaims her true nature is an inspiration for us all.
Sue its beautiful to read and appreciate that true strength comes from allowing the delicacy that you are, it goes against the way we view what strength is and what delicateness is, yet having known you over the past few years I can second the fact that the more you’ve embraced you and your delicateness the greater your true strength has become.
Delicateness is another word for ‘light’, which is also our love. When we look around us and see such brutality in the world, this gives us a clue as to how it has all come to be. We are trained right from the start to see delicateness as a sign of weakness and champion the belief that men need to be tough and that women need to out-men the men and so we move about in iron fortresses lest the world see the true beauty we are. How lost are we when we have allowed such darkness to reign because we hold back from expressing our true essence? As a humanity we have yet to resurrect and live in full the heavenly light we are born from. I love stories like yours Sue because they show us how simple it is to arrest such an ill way of living and pierce the dark clouds we live under with a light divine. Very inspiring.
Beautiful Sue, I love reading sharings like this where there is an openness about the things we have tried before, married with the simple knowing that ultimately they didn’t work for our body. This is the amazing hallmark of The Way of The Livingness and what Universal Medicine present – a consistent focus on the quality of energy we spend. And boy does this way appear to work, looking at you today.
I totally agree Joseph. The quality of the way Sue lives shines through, emanating absolute vitality, joy, beauty and love. She is showing the world how gorgeous and vibrant we can look and feel in our sixties from making loving choices and choosing to live The Way of The Livingness.
Sue, we have so many ideas of how we think we should be and can so easily get caught in ideas and how things look and the biggest trap of all is when we think we’re doing good for either ourselves or others – it takes real honesty to in fact see the impact of all we do and feel how our body is, not how we think it should be, yet we do know and our bodies show us, and it’s great when we start to listen and feel what they are communicating to us, it really does change our lives.
I loved reading the summary of points that really supported you Susan as they are all worth there weight in gold . . . and this . . . “I now know that my true power is found in the connection to myself, to this quality of delicateness, which is strong and powerful . . ” . . . as true power comes from getting ourselves out of the way and when we connect deeply to our self we connect to a multidimensionality that does not have an ounce of self in it.
Oh gee I remember receiving deep tissue massage, it felt like my muscles were being beaten into submission… and after would look like it from the bruising. So to say I appreciated being introduced to Esoteric Massage and the healing it offers from a gentle clearing touch, is an understatement! I could so do with one right about now.
What a deeply beautiful blog Susan! I can feel the wisdom of the stars in your stunning transformation from stressed out tissue-digger to precious powerful woman and healer. Wow! This is an inspiring start to my day, and I am sure for many many others.
This is super lovely to read. I love hearing how gentleness, delicacy and tenderness hold true strength as I still fall for my habit of going hard as a means of protection. This is becoming less so as I begin to notice when this happens whereas before either I didn’t or I actually brought hardness to my being falsely believing it was protecting me – it wasn’t as it was only causing physical ailments with possible long-term health issues and didn’t allow me to move or express in a way that actually supported my well-being.
A great testimony Sue about the Esoteric modalities which bring awareness and insight to the fact that we live in a world of energy…. “but there was a deeper energetic level to health that I had ignored…”
“I now know that my true power is found in the connection to myself, to this quality of delicateness, which is strong and powerful, like a graceful flower blossoming.” Beautifully expressed Sue and shows that our true nature and state of being is found from within the confines of our body and soul. Thank you.
You don’t look 62 ……rather 52
What a beautiful picture of you, Sue. I can feel your delicate strength in your eyes. Just gorgeous.
Great blog Sue, the points you’ve shared are awesome reminders for me. Your beautiful delicateness, joy and amazing smile lights up the screen. Thank you for showing us what it looks like to express our true delicateness and power. Amazing!
The Australian saying ‘you never never know, if you never ever go’, came to mind while reading this blog. You never know what strength lies within gentleness unless you go to it and feel what it offers. Thank goodness for Esoteric therapy’s, taking us places we may never have been.
Kim, how wonderful to apply that saying to this situation – if we never try out gentleness and tenderness, we won’t know what it is like. Yet at the same time we could say that that is actually where we come from, and hence it is simply about undoing what we have learned in our current world so that we can return to this gentleness and tenderness that lies within us all. And once we feel it, the strength in gentleness is indeed undeniable.
“The strength of being in my delicate essence affects everyone around me in a beautiful way.” I agree it does, i too have felt the power of us being fully committed in life to bringing our presence everywhere, it impacts others with such an uplifting quality- other people simply love being around us when we are connected. It allows them to feel safe somehow, unimpressed upon and something resonates deeply within them, that they subconsciously say “yes thats me too”. Immensely powerful and yet so so simple.
As we all come from the same source we have a remnant remembering that we will never loose and will be rekindled in us wherever we meet the reflection of that same essence again.
This is my experience when others stand beside me, when they are in their quality I am presented with a different way of being in the next moment. Very simple yet profound.
We think we are doing ourselves a service by hardening ourselves but it is indeed a dis-service as we make ourselves separate and cut off from what we most long for – our love within. It’s ridiculous that we seek to protect ourselves from hurt but hurt ourselves in the process.
This is so true Sandra, when we choose to shut ourselves off from people and from the world in protection, we not only hurt ourselves but people around us too. What I have realised is that choosing protection ultimately feels deeply sad as it blocks out love flowing in and out, it suppresses our most natural expression.
The delicateness, joy and strength this blog is written in, is absolutely gorgeous. A testimony of everything you’ve shared Sue. I’d love to get a massage from you one day! To me it shows that we all can come back to a way of living that is truly delicate, tender and loving. Simply by putting effort / energy into the connection with our own vehicle, our body! That your sharing may inspire both women and men all around the world. Your in your sixties, what a T R U E role model you are. Thank you!!
Sue, I enjoy how you speak of ‘surrendering to my true, inner delicateness … similar to a beautiful rose”
This quality emanates a subtle perfume which affects all those around us. How different from your old way of protecting yourself which as you realized ‘was actually no protection at all’. It keeps people out and also keeps us from letting love in and feeling our own love within. Lovely to read of your beautiful transformation.
Yes a stunning photo and I love how you have summed up the core teachings of Serge Benhayon so simply. I agree when we are in connection with ourselves that feels amazing and supports all others so well.
All of us at one point or another have chosen to harden ourselves rather than deal with what we have felt.
Yes, and the trouble is we are feeling it just as before but without any protection, so it hurts even more. The only ‘benefit’ we get is that we have reduced our awareness to the process.
The phrase “comfortably numb” captures it well I feel Christoph.
Living from the Inside out…The rose so beautifully reflects the quality of blossoming that is very natural when we live from our inner connection. Thank you for sharing Sue.
What a stunning blog Sue. I too have found esoteric yoga to be absolutely life changing, it is a modality that you can do 24 hours a day with the allotted session time being the marker.
Same for me, Leonne- through my own choice and letting go, it is the practice which has allowed me to really go deep in terms of what my body is feeling. I’m always left feeling the delicateness of my actions.
Looking at your photo was such a gift, you are a beauty-full woman.
I can really relate Sue, from the squish of hardened protection and a corset like restraint around my rib cage – and more – to a freeing up of the body and ways in life with others via starting to live from the inside out – from pushing and being result driven and seeking betterment like in the old massage you describe – to being in flow with my inner rhythms and discovering the absolute truth in what you say – that delicacy is indeed our greatest true strength.
Receiving the esoteric healing modalities definitely rests your perceptions of what a deeply rested experience a session can be.
I know when I receive and give them I am the calmest in almost any other situation.
This is beautiful Sue. I can feel the delicate flower that you are blossoming and the joy you have in claiming this. Just gorgeous.