Discovering my True Strength being the Delicate Woman I am 

All through my life until recently, I equated my true nature of being delicate as somewhat of a liability, a weakness, certainly not the strength I now know it to be. I hardened up as a supposed shield to protect myself in life. I later discovered that protecting myself like this was actually no protection at all.

I trained to be an aromatherapist 18 years ago after returning to the UK from living abroad, where I was working as a dance teacher. I’ve always enjoyed caring for people, so this seemed a natural progression. Physical and bodywork therapies, such as massage, have always been important to me, and I enjoyed giving massages to family and friends. My hands are sensitive, with an inbuilt radar, knowing exactly where to go to find areas of tension in the body.

In those days the techniques I learnt were all designed to go as deep as possible e.g. deep tissue massage, Shiatsu etc, using elbows and very strong, hard pressure, with the intent to bring relief, but this sometimes made clients wince, and also caused some pain in my own arms and shoulders. This was put up with by both myself and the client, as there was the belief that it was doing good. I now understand that these types of intense bodywork are crucially burying the issues that cause the tensions more deeply into the body.

Life for me then mirrored my work, which was far from a gentle pace or quality of being. As many people recognise, life can be hectic and busy as we rush to fit as much as possible into the day. Stress, a lack of true nutrition and fresh air, together with insufficient water and late nights, all took their toll on my health and well-being.

I was not present with myself, living more in my head than my body, and lacking confidence. I had low vitality with numerous low grade health niggles and I often felt tired – exhausted even. If I had known then what I know now, life would have been very different and much more joyful.

It was only after I came across the teachings of Universal Medicine, as presented by Serge Benhayon, that I discovered a new way to live that I had never come across before. It was revolutionary to discover simple self-care techniques, such as the Gentle Breath Meditation™, and several esoteric healing modalities, including Esoteric Massagea beautiful massage that is completely gentle, but offering powerful healing.

I also learnt ways to live that were not taught at school, nor anywhere else in my life. I could write a whole blog on each one, but in summary, these points really supported me and continue to be a work in progress:

Observing life and not absorbing it by not taking on board the external stuff.

Taking more responsibility for myself, not blaming others, not being a victim / martyr or taking things personally.

Learning to respond, rather than react, to situations and people.

Breathing my own gentle breath.

Not giving my power away – remaining strong within me.

Staying connected to myself consistently through being aware of my body.

Being gentle with myself and others.

• Understanding from Serge Benhayon “Expression is Everything”, so I’m now learning to express how I am feeling.

Learning to be the true me, knowing that everything I need is already there inside me.

Leading on from this was my learning about relationships, particularly the relationship I had ignored in the past, the one with myself…

The key to this new, gentler way of living for me was becoming more aware of my body and actually listening to the deep, inner guidance that lives within me. Living more from the inside out, rather than from the outside in. It was about developing a trust in myself and in my own inner wisdom. I learnt that at the core of our inner being, in our inner hearts, is our essence, which cannot be tarnished by anything outside ourselves. This is something everyone has and can tap into.

The modality that really supported me in this was Esoteric Yoga. At first I found it very uncomfortable to feel what my body was communicating with its various signs and symptoms. For example, when I was lying still during an Esoteric Yoga session, my legs would be feeling restless and irritated. I thought I was living well, being very health conscious, but there was a deeper energetic level to health that I had ignored. Something simple – like opening and closing a door gently or not – took on a new meaning. It indicated how present and connected I was with myself and to my body. After a period of time, the uncomfortable feelings became less as I became more aware of how I was living and started listening more to my body. My Esoteric Yoga sessions reflected this back to me, almost like a biofeedback system.

It was amazing to feel the delicateness in my body, similar to a beautiful rose with a deep, inner strength and grace. Being connected to this quality of gentleness makes life flow so much more easily.

I have now transformed the way I work completely. I no longer practise my old therapies. I now offer Sacred Esoteric Healing including the beautiful Energetic Facial release – a favourite of mine. My massage work is no longer hard work, but a joy with a lighter touch, which transforms issues rather than burying them, and I no longer have aching shoulders after doing a massage.

Sue Goodson at age 62
Sue Goodson – Age 62

Receiving Esoteric massage has helped me to develop more awareness, so that instead of ‘checking out’ or going to sleep during the treatment, I can feel my whole body and focus on releasing any tension that is there. Surrendering to my true, inner delicateness feels very natural.

Body awareness and delicateness are my true strengths now. My body shouts loudly and clearly if something is not right. By honouring my body, by listening, I have much more energy, vitality and well-being. I am appreciating how I no longer need to walk around protected with my body, which used to feel like an old fashioned corset laced tightly around my chest.

I now know that my true power is found in the connection to myself, to this quality of delicateness, which is strong and powerful, like a graceful flower blossoming. The strength of being in my delicate essence affects everyone around me in a most beautiful way.

By Sue Goodson, 63 years old, Massage practitioner, wife & mother, Lightwater, Surrey, England

Related Reading:
Esoteric Yoga: The Yoga of Stillness
The Gentle Breath Meditation™ & Discovering my Inner Self
Trusting and Expressing From My Essence

659 thoughts on “Discovering my True Strength being the Delicate Woman I am 

  1. There is so much strength in delicateness and like you Sue it has taken me quite some time to figure this out. Just goes to show how much we as women misunderstand our own true nature.

    1. Absolutely Elizabeth. It’s as though there is a force at play which has twisted our meaning of words such as delicacy, fragility, power, preciousness so we reject these, our natural and innate qualities. There is huge irresponsibility in our rejection of their true meaning for then we live a diminished life reflecting and confirming the falseness and the reinterpretation of these divine qualities.

    2. The world is not set up to reflect that it’s okay to feel delicate or fragile, so we do all we can to not feel this and distract ourselves from feeling this lack of connection to ourselves. It’s ironic that we spend so much time searching outside of us for things to fill us up and make us feel complete, when all that we ever need and want to feel is already within us, waiting to be reconnected to.

    3. This is a great point Elizabeth. There is such a depth to every woman and yet such a battle that is played to keep this depth at bay. Which is why it is all the more important for those of us who have gone to that depth and connected to how delicate and precious we truly are, that we do not shy away from this in a world that is desperately seeking to find itself everywhere and anywhere, but within itself.

  2. It is never too late to truly live the ways that support our well-being and vitality that aren’t taught. We can constantly learn and choose again what we discover supports us to re-connect to our loveliness, amazingness and living our lives in full.

  3. Thank you Sue, it seems so simple and easy to do – and the truth is it is, if only we can understand and compassionately keep in check the wayward selfish part of us that has ruled the roost for so long. It is driven and addicted to doing things that are to our detriment in so many ways. Our body gives us the most beautiful marker to be able to show the truth of our every move – all we need do is listen in full to what it has to say and not let our head get in the way.

  4. This discovery that it doesn’t work hardening up and creating a false sense of protection needs to be shouted from the rooftops. When you feel it for yourself, as we are all capable of feeling, you really get to feel the drain this creates in your body. As well as the harm it causes; it simply doesn’t work. Energy doesn’t recognise hardness as a barrier and passes through us regardless of whether we have hardened up or are open to whatever is there to feel.

  5. ‘Taking more responsibility for myself, not blaming others, not being a victim / martyr or taking things personally.’ This is key for me. Being invested in being seen as nice, friendly etc has meant that I have taken any kind of rejection very personally, inflicting hurt on top of hurt on myself. By working on responsibility by deepening my relationship with myself I am becoming less affected by other’s reactions to me. Most of the time I am able to feel that it’s not because of me they are reacting but something I am reflecting to them that has brought up something from them to feel within themselves that they may not want to take responsibility for.

  6. I love the points you share – discovering that I am already complete from with-in is an absolute joy. I don’t know how or when I might have go to this realisation and claiming, however I’m incredibly appreciative for Serge Benhayon presenting and initiating the fact that this is true for each and everyone of us.

  7. The power I hold within still blows me away, I’m still working on letting it all out. Feeling and knowing this truth it’s incredible to feel the immense power and change that will come when we all choose to shine, live and reflect this power to all.

  8. I have never been part of an organisation, a student body and a way of teaching that encompasses the whole of life and beyond. Nothing is left out or un-important in the teachings of the Ageless Wisdom and as students we are given everything to make the choices to reconnect to who we are.

    1. Yeh absolutely spot on, I’ve experienced religion, university, education, business, groups, family life, modalities and nothing encompasses and covers the whole of life the way the Ageless Wisdom teachings do.

  9. Developing our relationship with self allows us to identify the level of abuse that we have allowed in our lives and bring focus to that which dispels anything which is not form truth and we do this through our movements and the way that we choose to express with our bodies.

  10. I really love coming back to this blog Sue. Your list of things you have learned and are continuing to master is awesome to read – each one its own experience but that contributes to you living more of the real you, and all of equal importance.

  11. The modalities that are offered by Universal Medicine have been life changing for me. The Gentle Breath Meditation brought me back to a body that I had been disconnected from for so long and is a self supporting tool that can be used anywhere. And like you Esoteric Yoga has been the hugest support to continue to grow this connection, especially to the woman I am. As a result the way I now move in this world is so different than the way I moved for the majority of my life and my 67 year old hips are the most fluid they have ever been, something which I am absolutely loving and appreciating daily.

  12. That’s the beauty about allowing our delicateness to be seen, arises in is the rest strength and power that is also within, and not in a way to be better than anyone. It to be all of who we are.

  13. I have lived so protected and shut down due to the sensitivity of my being, now understanding through the Ageless Wisdom teachings that Serge Benhayon presents that sensitivity and delicateness are a part of who we naturally are and are and can be claimed as a beauty and strength that we hold within.

  14. Its an interesting comment – that when we become sensitive, our bodies literally shout when something is not right and we have the option to voice it and change it, or accept and carry on as if nothing is amiss. We are a walking radar if we just choose to stay open.

  15. “I later discovered that protecting myself like this was actually no protection at all.” This is powerful to realise our exquisite delicate nature is something to be lived and honoured so it is a reflection for others to also see and feel in themselves.

  16. ” I now understand that these types of intense bodywork are crucially burying the issues that cause the tensions more deeply into the body.” We must finally admit this to ourselves in our society.

  17. You describe Esoteric Massage and the “joy with a lighter touch, which transforms issues rather than burying them”. It is not just the joy but also the power of this modality that does transform issues and has no need to torture tissues with elbows, knuckles and steely hard fingers. Been there, done that –
    no thanks.

    1. Esoteric Massage is truly a transformational modality, we may think of massage as being purely physical, but what this modality offers is so much more. Not only has it helped me tremendously with allieviating pain but also in changing behaviours. It’s not like “stress relief”, there is true change on offer.

  18. As women we have many “superpowers”, two of which are our preciousness and our delicateness. Embrace these qualities and we find ourselves living a full and rich life.

    1. How beautiful to read this from a man, and how gorgeous that you can live and celebrate your delicateness and share it with others.

  19. Sue your blog is a great one to come back to and read, I can relate to your words on our delicate inner essence being our strength, as well as to all of your dot points. Responsibility is so empowering, despite how we may perceive events and ourselves we do have the power to make profound and lasting change.

  20. Delicateness is an innate quality in us all the we are too quick to dismiss or ignore. Far from being weak, there is a grace, strength and power to it… just ask a rose to show us its power in full bloom and we will see the beauty of delicateness for what it is.

  21. Universal Medicine therapies are unique in that our most intimate and prominent qualities do not need to be parked away while offering a healing session to anyone. On the contrary, they are part of your unique expression as a practitioner.

  22. I love how we are able to choose to embrace our innate delicateness as a true strength the more we connect to our essence and in being more self-loving and gentle appreciate how our true sensitivity guides and supports us to live our true nature.

  23. Sue until I met Serge Benhayon and he was presenting on the topic of what it is to be a true woman I had no idea that by being in protection of myself did not allow to know or understand what it is to be truly living as a woman. I’m still re- learning but from disliking being a woman feeling it to be a man’s world I am actually enjoying discovering what it is to be me in a woman’s body, its actually fun.

  24. The adage “no pain, no gain” belongs to the scrap heap; it dishonours the body and our delicateness and only gives the illusion of betterment. The body presents the account later, much later at times.

  25. It is quite beautiful having a treatment from someone that embraces their delicateness, it somehow invites me to do the same.

  26. ‘The strength of being in my delicate essence affects everyone around me in a most beautiful way.’ There is so much truth and depth to surrender in, just in this sentence…

  27. When we appreciate that there is more to life than just the physical it makes sense that it’s not just the physical force with which we do something that makes a difference – the quality of energy in the way it is applied does more than we can see with our eyes…

  28. I spent many years only wanting Remedial Massage, the harder it was the better I thought it was. It took a while to realise the harm I was doing to my body, but living in such a protected way had hardened my body so much I was almost numb to feeling this. Thankfully I addressed this hardness in my body and began to let it go. the Esoteric Massage has been key with this and has allowed me to feel how precious and tender I truly am.

  29. When are are in our delicacy, it brings an awareness that is unknown, it is in this awareness that we retain the joy in life. When we choose to be harden and close down, we close ourselves off to what is truly there, beauty, truth, love and harmony.

  30. Wow. Sue. I can really feel delicateness and tenderness as your super power, and how open and honest you are in your expression. It’s beautiful to feel how you hold self-love as your foundation and keep coming back to go deeper. Such an inspiring woman.

  31. Being delicate is one of the most amazing qualities of women, I used to think being delicate was reserved for those private moments where you don’t really do anything, but the amazing thing is that you can be strong and delicate and super practical, super fleshy and completely committed… and also delicate.

  32. In life we can be addicted to the ‘rollercoaster’ effect. We say we want easiness and harmony but then automatically introduce complexity. Pretty soon our life becomes a soap opera in its own right which like a tv show entertains us as we go and stops us from getting ‘bored’. But as you seem to say, what if there is another way? What if we consistently and religiously honour our delicacy? What if no matter what, we kept returning to that? It feels to me that we might have to go through an uncomfortable ‘cold turkey’ period in this process but ultimately what we’d find is a simpler way to live. Precious like the most fragrant flower, it smells sweet to me. Thank you Sue for sharing your story here.

  33. Our only true protection is love. All else is simply the armour we move in place to not feel the magnitude of who we are and what we are capable of when we live in union with this.

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