Discovering my True Strength being the Delicate Woman I am 

All through my life until recently, I equated my true nature of being delicate as somewhat of a liability, a weakness, certainly not the strength I now know it to be. I hardened up as a supposed shield to protect myself in life. I later discovered that protecting myself like this was actually no protection at all.

I trained to be an aromatherapist 18 years ago after returning to the UK from living abroad, where I was working as a dance teacher. I’ve always enjoyed caring for people, so this seemed a natural progression. Physical and bodywork therapies, such as massage, have always been important to me, and I enjoyed giving massages to family and friends. My hands are sensitive, with an inbuilt radar, knowing exactly where to go to find areas of tension in the body.

In those days the techniques I learnt were all designed to go as deep as possible e.g. deep tissue massage, Shiatsu etc, using elbows and very strong, hard pressure, with the intent to bring relief, but this sometimes made clients wince, and also caused some pain in my own arms and shoulders. This was put up with by both myself and the client, as there was the belief that it was doing good. I now understand that these types of intense bodywork are crucially burying the issues that cause the tensions more deeply into the body.

Life for me then mirrored my work, which was far from a gentle pace or quality of being. As many people recognise, life can be hectic and busy as we rush to fit as much as possible into the day. Stress, a lack of true nutrition and fresh air, together with insufficient water and late nights, all took their toll on my health and well-being.

I was not present with myself, living more in my head than my body, and lacking confidence. I had low vitality with numerous low grade health niggles and I often felt tired – exhausted even. If I had known then what I know now, life would have been very different and much more joyful.

It was only after I came across the teachings of Universal Medicine, as presented by Serge Benhayon, that I discovered a new way to live that I had never come across before. It was revolutionary to discover simple self-care techniques, such as the Gentle Breath Meditation™, and several esoteric healing modalities, including Esoteric Massagea beautiful massage that is completely gentle, but offering powerful healing.

I also learnt ways to live that were not taught at school, nor anywhere else in my life. I could write a whole blog on each one, but in summary, these points really supported me and continue to be a work in progress:

Observing life and not absorbing it by not taking on board the external stuff.

Taking more responsibility for myself, not blaming others, not being a victim / martyr or taking things personally.

Learning to respond, rather than react, to situations and people.

Breathing my own gentle breath.

Not giving my power away – remaining strong within me.

Staying connected to myself consistently through being aware of my body.

Being gentle with myself and others.

• Understanding from Serge Benhayon “Expression is Everything”, so I’m now learning to express how I am feeling.

Learning to be the true me, knowing that everything I need is already there inside me.

Leading on from this was my learning about relationships, particularly the relationship I had ignored in the past, the one with myself…

The key to this new, gentler way of living for me was becoming more aware of my body and actually listening to the deep, inner guidance that lives within me. Living more from the inside out, rather than from the outside in. It was about developing a trust in myself and in my own inner wisdom. I learnt that at the core of our inner being, in our inner hearts, is our essence, which cannot be tarnished by anything outside ourselves. This is something everyone has and can tap into.

The modality that really supported me in this was Esoteric Yoga. At first I found it very uncomfortable to feel what my body was communicating with its various signs and symptoms. For example, when I was lying still during an Esoteric Yoga session, my legs would be feeling restless and irritated. I thought I was living well, being very health conscious, but there was a deeper energetic level to health that I had ignored. Something simple – like opening and closing a door gently or not – took on a new meaning. It indicated how present and connected I was with myself and to my body. After a period of time, the uncomfortable feelings became less as I became more aware of how I was living and started listening more to my body. My Esoteric Yoga sessions reflected this back to me, almost like a biofeedback system.

It was amazing to feel the delicateness in my body, similar to a beautiful rose with a deep, inner strength and grace. Being connected to this quality of gentleness makes life flow so much more easily.

I have now transformed the way I work completely. I no longer practise my old therapies. I now offer Sacred Esoteric Healing including the beautiful Energetic Facial release – a favourite of mine. My massage work is no longer hard work, but a joy with a lighter touch, which transforms issues rather than burying them, and I no longer have aching shoulders after doing a massage.

Sue Goodson at age 62
Sue Goodson – Age 62

Receiving Esoteric massage has helped me to develop more awareness, so that instead of ‘checking out’ or going to sleep during the treatment, I can feel my whole body and focus on releasing any tension that is there. Surrendering to my true, inner delicateness feels very natural.

Body awareness and delicateness are my true strengths now. My body shouts loudly and clearly if something is not right. By honouring my body, by listening, I have much more energy, vitality and well-being. I am appreciating how I no longer need to walk around protected with my body, which used to feel like an old fashioned corset laced tightly around my chest.

I now know that my true power is found in the connection to myself, to this quality of delicateness, which is strong and powerful, like a graceful flower blossoming. The strength of being in my delicate essence affects everyone around me in a most beautiful way.

By Sue Goodson, 63 years old, Massage practitioner, wife & mother, Lightwater, Surrey, England

Related Reading:
Esoteric Yoga: The Yoga of Stillness
The Gentle Breath Meditation™ & Discovering my Inner Self
Trusting and Expressing From My Essence

721 thoughts on “Discovering my True Strength being the Delicate Woman I am 

  1. “The modality that really supported me in this was Esoteric Yoga” – I agree, same for me, this modality is life-changing.. life-changing because it supports on working the very one thing [quality] that restores balance in the world, workplaces, and life that has so much excess of it’s opposite, making us and everything off kilter – this quality is stillness or femaleness and without this re-balancer and taking it as best I can into my whole life in the way I live, I would still very much be lost to life and its spin. Stillness provides the seat of clarity, steadiness and confidence.

  2. There really is power in true delicateness, it’s not about being wishy washy but honouring the delicate nature of our body. The quality of energy behind what we do or express is what makes the difference.

  3. We’ve all been told that the answers are out there somewhere and we bought that, so it is hard for us to accept that all the answers are already known inside each and every one of us, but its true and as we go around and around the sun some more times this will become known to all.

  4. Sue, one thing that was very evident in your sharing here was actually the delicateness of the way you expressed yourself in the writing itself. This was really palpable for me, in that I could actually feel the level of tenderness and acceptance you have come to of your own true essence. To me, this shows the power of living in this way, as it then offers the same level of delicateness for another to adopt for themselves through the way we are living.

  5. ‘The strength of being in my delicate essence affects everyone around me in a most beautiful way.’ Now this is powerful and such an inspiration for me as I have tended to do life the hard way.

  6. Everything in your list made so much sense. It was so logical and really simple, not complicated or hard…that is unless you have built a way of moving and living that has a momentum to it that means taking time to rest, to breath and stay connected to yourself when you move without getting distracted is an irritation because it is so slow and, heavens, a waste of time! I can say that because that is where I started. Yet the trajectory for that momentum is one massive crash and not remotely productive, intelligent or smart.

  7. The body is an amazing communicator and the brain receives that communication all the time whether we choose to clock it or not. As babies we love moving and discovering our bodies and how they move, learning how to get ourselves to interesting objects that our parents have perhaps though out of our reach! Yet as a society we are taught that the brain and the intelligence we are taught has more value because it can be measured and over time we lose the value we once had in that simple connection to our bodies.

  8. ‘I now know that my true power is found in the connection to myself, to this quality of delicateness, which is strong and powerful, like a graceful flower blossoming. The strength of being in my delicate essence affects everyone around me in a most beautiful way’ Beautiful Sue!

  9. I can feel the strength in the delicate beauty I feel within. It is definitely a very deep choice to remain dedicated to exposing and letting go of the many ways that I live that hide and cover up my innate natural strength.

  10. Delicateness is often used in describing a lacey material, or clothing, yet so rarely used to describe the essence of a woman. Yet for us to know the delicateness of lace, one knows innately the delicateness of the essence of a woman. Does this not cause us to ask why that delicateness is not a natural choice, made daily in how we live? I am asking and already there are many so called reasons as to why. But not one equals the beauty of being delicate, sensual and fully accepting of the grace of my essence.

  11. Why do we not learn this way to live with ourselves at school? the emphasis on the mind is causing the disconnection with our body. The playfulness young children live with is how they live so naturally connected with their bodies and the wisdom in there. It is all there. Schools should start to honour this from day 1 a child is entering the system.

  12. So true Sue, for it only takes one breath back to our Godliness this life, that makes us realize what we have been missing all along. Breathing the truth and love of who we are. The loveliness where we were born with… just have lost sight of, but for us to return to. When we have the willingness to do so.

  13. Thank you Sue, your photo is really lovely! Modalities that use pressure and force on the body, confirm a consciousness that comes from living disconnected to our essence and to all it’s qualities, because without our essence, we make it about the body and physicality not the energy, and how supporting that to change (ie return to our essence) supports the body to change.

  14. I also found through Esoteric Yoga sessions how delicate I was. I used to feel like a tom boy and was almost shocked to feel how graceful and delicate my movements were. The simplicity of this modality shows me that this is one of the keys to being able to be who you are in life. Focussing within my body and being very honouring of it, allows me to access my inner essence and the ‘real me’ that I had buried since childhood.

  15. The esoteric modalities brought to us by Universal Medicine have assisted me to reach many huge revelations and also to heal myself in many different ways. Before this I never really understood healing and would be happy if just the pain or discomfort was lessened.

  16. ‘It was amazing to feel the delicateness in my body, similar to a beautiful rose with a deep, inner strength and grace. Being connected to this quality of gentleness makes life flow so much more easily.’ Beautifully said Sue, there is a great strength when we honour our delicateness.

    1. Thank you Sally, in Australia being tough, rough, not showing your feelings, and where the ideal of manhood is championed, and those qualities being also valued in women, it’s so lovely to come to this blog and read the comments and experience delicateness being valued and lived by men and women.

  17. “I now know that my true power is found in the connection to myself…” – how simple and how true this is Sue. Connection to oneself is the backbone of and to the body that enables all limbs to work; without it we simply break down into collapse.

  18. Thank you Sue, so true, even the delicateness of you that is felt in your writing, is making me feel also my own delicateness and I can feel how much I have guarded myself that others would not see or feel that or come close, wow, that is a big load of unnecessarily protection!

  19. ‘Learning to be the true me, knowing that everything I need is already there inside me.’ a truth to be fully claimed and walked by many, including myself. How often and easy is looking outside when inside we have all.

  20. Sue the picture of this blog reflects exactly the joy and beauty that you emanate today. I felt deeply touched when I knew you personally in a course held by Universal Medicine. Your warmth, openness and delicateness were there to remind me of the same qualities within me.

  21. When a client winces it is never a good sign! ‘but this sometimes made clients wince, and also caused some pain in my own arms and shoulders.’ It is great you have come back to the delicateness of being you.

  22. This sentence in itself is so powerful…”Observing life and not absorbing it by not taking on board the external stuff.” If we all committed to this one choice, what a world we would live in…..

  23. This blog is a great reminder that there is more to us as human-beings than we probably care to admit. For me, I understand that there is a ‘being’ inside the human body and this being holds the keys to the universe. I wonder what would happen if we were to appreciate this part of us, which I have discovered is a whole body experience, rather than relying on just our minds to navigate us through our lives.

  24. Beautiful Sue, thank you.. What you share touches the heart. We can make our love grand by choosing to breathe it and make it our life. A gorgeous strength is the love we are and how delicate this is. For us to explore the depths of it again, simply by being who we are in connection.

  25. “Leading on from this was my learning about relationships, particularly the relationship I had ignored in the past, the one with myself…” – agree entirely with you Sue, as I’ve been finding too, the relationship with oneself is the relationship to the rest of the world because in knowing ourselves, we can know another.

  26. The inner connection to our innate knowing of the intelligence of the universe – which is infinite is the most important lesson you could ever have in life.

  27. If it’s great medicine in your body, it will be great medicine for others too. How crazy that we continue to think that hurting ourselves doing ‘good’ can ever work. Thank you Sue.

    1. I agree Joseph. I wonder what exactly is offering a person who is compromising his or her body. If would come from love never hurt, push or compromise, just expose what is there to be truly healed.

  28. As I deepen in that body awareness, I find the need to adjust the quality of my movements to match the next level of delicateness that I have discovered within.

  29. Our fragility is not just something to be admitted and addressed, but embraced and appreciated. It is not just here by accident, but designed to remind us of the truth. Thank you Sue for this reminder here.

  30. “I now offer Sacred Esoteric Healing including the beautiful Energetic Facial release – a favourite of mine. My massage work is no longer hard work, but a joy with a lighter touch, which transforms issues rather than burying them, and I no longer have aching shoulders after doing a massage.” So many people who want massages are happy to be beaten and pummeled before they feel there has been any positive results from having their massage. I have found the Esoteric Healing to go so much deeper simply with the lightest of touch, because it is the energy that is being addressed first.

  31. “All through my life until recently, I equated my true nature of being delicate as somewhat of a liability, a weakness, certainly not the strength I now know it to be. I hardened up as a supposed shield to protect myself in life. I later discovered that protecting myself like this was actually no protection at all.” We grow up hiding this sweetness because we feel it is a weakness in this world. I see it so much in the media around us, Women are consistently encouraged to present an exterior where they look tough, invincible, unbreakable.

  32. Who would have thought that the connection to the quality of delicateness is powerful? It is interesting how we have misused the word strong in many different ways taking on many pictures, ideals and beliefs yet at the same time knowing what is true. Feeling delicate within my body is incredibly beautiful. There is a strength that is natural and real with no trying and no imposing… it is simply there in my expression when I choose to connect and surrender.

  33. Once I would not have put ” strength and delicate” in the same sentence! Having learnt how delicate doesn’t mean weak but in fact is perfect with “strength”. Thank you Sue.

  34. I noticed when I was receiving deeper tissue massages or any massage in fact that was not truly gentle and loving, that the issues and tensions I had would never seem to clear long term and often return the next day. I still felt tense within myself and my body reflected that. Massages with deeper love and care allow you to let go within yourself and your body releases tension as a consequence.

  35. The keys you have shared are all common sense, yet they don’t enter your thoughts when you are caught in a way of living that is driven by the mind. Looking back, it is hard to believe that I lived so disconnected and disrespectful of my body but there was nothing else that I saw or coming to my understanding. I now share this change with other people, as I can feel what a prison it is to live in the mind and in disconnection to the body.

  36. Reading through your list of “ways to live that were not taught at school” the question that instantly rises is – why aren’t they taught to all students? Each one of them offers such wisdom and support for each and every one of us, but presenting this wisdom to our young ones will offer them such a beautiful foundation as they grow and go out into the world. Maybe then life as we know it today will slowly begin to change.

  37. What a gorgeous testimonial to the Esoteric healing modalities and the power of being present, delicate and honouring our natural sensitivity as a strength. It is quite ingrained the belief that being delicate or sensitive makes you weak. Yet is actually very disarming, inviting and safe for other people to feel you just vulnerable and open.

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