by Shannon Everest, Brunswick Heads, Australia, Beautiful woman, Mother and extraordinaire in many fields….
When I was growing up, the one day in the year that I was celebrated in my family was on my birthday. That day was all about me and I felt special. I received gifts, had parties, there was a cake made especially for me – the type I liked. People even sang directly to me and about me! Now that was something I didn’t get often. This was not something I desperately craved but when I got it, it was a strong feeling of ‘yeah, this feels right, this is how it always should be. This feels natural!’ When others celebrated me, I felt confirmed.
And I loved other people’s birthdays too: it felt right to celebrate my family and friends on their birthdays. I didn’t have a sense of jealousy at this time about celebrating others or felt concerned that I wasn’t getting gifts or attention focussed on me. It felt so amazing seeing someone light up on their birthday because that day was all about them. So to celebrate my loved ones on their birthdays was a confirmation for me of what felt natural.
I just loved birthdays! And what I loved about them, whether it was mine or someone else’s, was that this was the most normal, natural thing – to be in celebration of ourselves, and each other. It was so normal to me, so what were all the other days I was living?
If there is one day, the world over, that we can give ourselves permission to celebrate ourselves – it is on our birthdays. But for anyone who takes this opportunity to celebrate themselves, it’s quite a depressing thing the next day to not have that again. I have noticed sometimes, when I speak with people about their birthday, that it can be depressing, an anticlimax, like it didn’t happen the way they wanted it to. What I have noticed is that we have often already learnt that in the past – it hurts to go from a day of amazingness to the next day of ‘not that’. So better to play it safe and not go there in the first place.
But it just doesn’t make sense! What I have also realised through having children and taking time consistently, daily, momentarily to celebrate them, is that the natural thing for them will be to grow up and celebrate themselves. Because through making it normal and natural and through making it something that doesn’t happen just on their birthdays, they get to feel they are worth celebrating just for being them. When you have experienced what that is like as a child, you don’t grow up wanting it or expecting it to come from outside. You grow up and it feels normal to be this way with yourself because the natural feeling was already confirmed in you. It then is a natural way of being with others, reminding them how amazing they are.
This is HUGE. It means that we can claim any day, every day, anytime to start celebrating ourselves. We don’t need to wait until our birthday, because it just doesn’t make sense to have 1 day of joy and 364 other days of ‘not joy’.
The problem is that when we save the celebration of ourselves for just one day in the year, it’s usually got to be a pretty big event to make up for all of those aforementioned 364 days: we then condition ourselves to expect a big party, lots of people around, stimulation, yummy food, big outings and therefore lose the essence of the celebration of ourselves…. we miss what is at the very heart of celebrating. We miss celebrating all of the simple things, all the beautiful things we see and feel and connect to with others – the magical moments that happen with our children or out on a walk in nature, or even when we are shopping and meet eyes with someone.
When I was a child, the truth was I wanted to celebrate myself and others every single day. It wasn’t until I attended a presentation by Universal Medicine and was asked the question: “Do I celebrate myself as a woman when I have a bath?” that I began to wake up to life again. My answer was no, that part of me that naturally felt that way had gone to sleep. I had grown up and become a partner, a mother of two children, and was not looking after myself properly, let alone celebrating myself. I had given up on that being normal and natural because the world around me reflected that it wasn’t normal, even though I could and can feel that in the heart of every person is that natural feeling to want to celebrate who we are and to celebrate each other, but life gets in the way.
So, I had stopped celebrating me and would only do that on my birthday. I started looking back at everything I felt as a child and how I had since then let so much come in the way of what I naturally felt. I started celebrating me. The simple truths expressed by Universal Medicine have re-kindled the natural childhood feelings of joy that I am now bringing into my life – in a celebration.
446 thoughts on “Birthdays”
At this time of year I love to listen to the birds as they celebrate the coming of the dawn and the day ahead. There is something very magical about spring and the celebration of new beginnings it offers to everyone.
Every day is someone’s birthday, and every day is the birth of a day, so there is always a call to celebrate with the stars that shine the light on us all.
So many things in our day are a celebration of how we are living and this is a feeling of natural Joy of our living-ness and then Joy that is followed by appreciation as this is the most divine aspect and where we all innately belong.
Just thinking of celebrating ourselves, and our how we are living ignites the joy and love within.
It is making it about true love, for ourselves and others, all of the time not just on 1 day of the year!
This blog is an invitation for me to celebrate myself in everything I do, for everything I am.. and this feels possible and yummy!
This is one of my favourite blogs, thank you Shannon. I am feeling to really look at celebrating myself and whether or not I can have a bath, a cup of tea, or a walk to celebrate me – wow, I have never done this. It’s a beautiful topic Shannon because it is showing us that who we are (and not what we do) is what truly brings joy and a sense of feeling amazing, and it is something we can access every day.
I love other people’s birthdays and Celebrating them, I am very much known for covering the whole room in confetti when its a birthday. The question I asked myself when reading this is how often do I celebrate me for just being me and others for just being them… no birthday needed. Like truly celebrate and deeply appreciate? The depth coming from within and a known truth not from a superficial or artificial excitement. Something to change here perhaps?
The way we ‘celebrate’ seems to be pretty much about making up for what we don’t to give ourselves and each other hence the anticlimax. This contrast guarantees the stimulation on both ends.