Re-Learning to Self-Worth

There is a beautifully written article on the Women in Livingness blog, by Kyla Plummer – (Sex, Drugs and Making Love). She is awesomely honest and open about her experiences of sex, drugs and making love (the only part left out was rock-n’-roll)!

In that written piece I came across a line that spoke back very strongly and clearly to me. I realised that I was, or rather that I still am at times, one of those many, to borrow Kyla’s words … “who have experienced similar things – craving love, touch, appreciation, connection – and not knowing my own self-worth”.

It was this ‘self-worth’ in particular that kept echoing through my head, heart and soul. Although the English Dictionary describes this double-barrelled word as a noun, I would say it is a verb too. Re-learning to self-worth has been a huge piece of my work and it is still in progress. Infinitely inspired initially by Serge Benhayon, and later Simone Benhayon, it started however, with (at least) a possibility, if not the deep inner knowing, that I was worthy of love like no other  (note: not that I am different to others, but that the love for self comes first). This made me aware how I used to think that I should accept and settle down with what I thought I deserved – read: NOT much and certainly NOT love. I used to (and at times still occasionally do now) talk to myself in a way that if that were somebody else talking to me, I would have said goodbye to the person long ago!

Esoteric Women’s Presentations and Esoteric Women’s Developers Groups, with Natalie Benhayon and Sara Williams, have inspired me to explore the power of deepening my relationship and love for self; to such a level that I would (at least) want to do anything that I knew would make this connection heartfelt, and to say NO to what does not belong to my newly re-discovered true self-regard milieu.

I became aware that not only do I love life, but that life loves me back and that it wants me to nurture myself. The deeper my love for myself, the more the universe (or call it God if you like) affirms my worth. I now know that slowly but surely this is how I can enjoy a lifelong love ‘affair’ which brings the fulfillment and contentment from inside out, and not from outside in.

Thank you Serge Benhayon, Simone Benhayon, Natalie Benhayon and Sara Williams from the depths of that amazing muscle organ which pumps blood throughout the body.

By Dragana Brown, London, UK 

582 thoughts on “Re-Learning to Self-Worth

  1. Dragana I can so relate to what you are sharing with us all
    Re-learning to self-worth has been a huge piece of my work and it is still in progress. .’
    As I uncovered yet another part of my self-worth issues that I did not have any awareness of. There is always something new to learn and understand why we behave in the ways we do, that affects not just ourselves but how we relate to all others and the world we live in.

  2. Making life about a ‘fulfillment and contentment from inside out, and not from outside in’. Beautifull. More and more life for me is about that along with true purpose.

    1. True purpose brings with it ‘fulfilment and contentment from the inside out’. It is a really wonderful feeling and one that I am currently incubating across all of my environments. I am coming to know that being a funnel for God is the true purpose of us all and to the best of my ability I am actively being the best funnel that I can be as much of the time as possible. All of the refining that I do, I do in order to make myself a more effective funnel.

  3. Yes, I know that craving for connection, touch, warmth, tenderness, appreciation and love from others. Is there any wonder that I get disappointed when I look around and don’t find the love that I crave and that only I uniquely know? It really is impossible to find it from another, because only we know the unique way that we need to love ourselves moment by moment. We are ‘worthy of a love like no other’ as you say.

    Time and time when I try to get it from another, then it is a fall on your face fail. In my experience I can’t say to myself ‘I love, I love you, I love you.’ over and over again until it goes in. The ‘I love you’ cannot just be words I say to myself, there has to be an activity of self-worth; like a verb, as you say.

  4. “The deeper my love for myself, the more the universe (or call it God if you like) affirms my worth” – this is so delicious.

  5. “This made me aware how I used to think that I should accept and settle down with what I thought I deserved”. It’s that point of what we have accepted that we can look at to see here new levels of love are able to be introduced and lived. Reading this line I became aware of how much religion has impacted me to feel I’m not worthy and to accept less, which is exactly the opposite of God and what love is.

    1. The whole ‘deserving’ of God’s love is a set up from the very beginning because God’s love is already who we are so the very notion of having to deserve it in order to receive it is a totally false one.

      1. I have been so caught up in this illusion that I have to work very hard to get God to even look my way, let alone that I deserve God’s Love, that didn’t even come into it. When I feel into the illusion I have spun for myself like a web that has encapsulated me and held me fast, it feels very old and to be honest has the reek of Catholicism all over it. The damage religious groups have done to vilify the true name of God, it’s no wonder many people are put off by the very word God.

      2. Who is it that thinks they have to behave a certain way to be deserving of God’s love? God that’s who, an aspect of God that has temporarily forgotten that God is who He is already.

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