Learning to Express from my Heart and Body, instead of just Speaking from my Mind

by Rosie Bason, Mullumbimby, NSW

I attended a workshop with Chris James yesterday. Chris James is an amazing musician and a student of Universal Medicine. In his workshop “Discovering your true natural voice” I learned so much, I felt so much and I cried – which is great, as I do not find it easy to cry. I would like to share my experience with you.

I learned to feel what it feels like in my body when I speak – I could even feel it when I whispered.

I felt the difference when in a group we practised communicating from our body. When we would go back into our minds and disconnect from our body, by habit, it would feel different, almost empty, but when another spoke from their heart and stayed with their breath, I could feel it coming from their whole body. To describe that feeling; it was like a wave of vibrations coming from their whole body, not just a sound coming out of their mouth. To be able to feel this, I did have to learn how to listen. 

I learned how beautiful it is to be with someone and fully listen: to listen without commenting, to listen and be there for someone whilst being fully with me was just such an awesome experience. It exposed how often when I am with someone, but because I am not in my body, because I am not with my breath, that I am often thinking about other things, or thinking about what I should say next, so that I am hardly listening at all. But when I choose to be with me, to breathe gently and to not worry about what to say or control the conversation, and just allow another to speak, it is just simply beautiful. It felt so good and the old habit of thinking, controlling and not being present was completely gone. And when I was listened to, in that same way, I just felt so supported and safe to just express whatever was needed to express.

One of my most revealing moments was when Chris brought awareness of how I talk when not opening my mouth very much, how I am in control and that my jaw is very tight. Whoa! This really hit home. I have always been in control and I can feel that in my upper arms, but I had not felt it in my face. I was not aware at all. I am now learning to open my mouth more, speak with more clarity, and allow my face to relax. I am learning to not try to work out and control everything in my mind before I speak because I felt how awful it feels to listen when someone is not speaking from their heart. I will practise being with me so that I speak from my heart and therefore not have that control and that vibration affecting not only me, but those that I am in contact with.

I also became aware of how fast I speak. This can be an anxiety thing or just because I am speaking from my mind: I can now feel that it’s not a very nice feeling in my body when I speak from my mind. I found it easier to feel it from someone else speaking at first, but then I could easily recognise that same feeling within. When I slowed down, when I checked in with my breath, my whole voice changed – and when I really did not think about what to say before speaking, I felt so much lighter and open and relaxed. It is a clear marker in my body, so that if I catch myself speaking like that, I can just take a moment to reconnect with me and my breath.

151 thoughts on “Learning to Express from my Heart and Body, instead of just Speaking from my Mind

  1. I have been singing a lot lately after having a few sessions of writing a song and just having fun. But what I realised when I was singing was that I could feel how much I open my mouth, and the focus I had which perhaps I don’t do while speaking… the art of speaking from our bodies, perhaps is the art of surrender into our beingness or innermost.

  2. Our voice and how we speak, the tone, the pace reveal so much to us. If we are aware, we can feel when we are talking from our heads or from our bodies, because there is a marked difference in quality.

  3. “I learned how beautiful it is to be with someone and fully listen.” I love what you have expressed here Rosie, being with someone in this way with no attachment to control or judge what is being said is deeply supportive and honours them so that they feel truly met and able to open up fully and let go of what is no longer needed. It is a beautiful experience as you have described.

  4. Thank you for sharing about not opening the mouth very much while talking – this is something I became aware of recently, and it too makes much sense to me that it is to do with being in control. Everything you share here brings me back to the body, and how it is my connection and surrender to the body first, that pretty much determine the depth of connection that could be explored through my expression.

  5. Thank you Rosie, great to read this today because I have been noticing how much I am not with myself when I listen, and how simple and lovely it can be from reading about your experiences. Very interesting too about how communication from the whole body feels, like a wave of vibrations instead of just sound when it comes from the mind alone.

  6. As a dear friend said, ‘The body is the marker of all Truth’ and Chris James is a master in enabling you to feel this in your own body and to become aware of truths you did not acknowledge before.

  7. I remember that listening exercise. It is so very different to listen like an observer rather than with a mind full of ‘what will I say next?’ And being listened to in this way is truly supportive too.

  8. Thank you Rosie, for sharing just how potent it is for us to bring our presence to our everyday. As, be it listening or expressing, when we are connected to our body and being the quality of reflection we hold and offer is one that honors and represents the vibration of who we are, love.

  9. Very cool to have all those things pointed out to you. A credit to Chris who is able to present in a way that does not have people get their back up, but rather are able to see it as supportive feedback for us all to learn from.

  10. It was feeling the clear marker in my body that encouraged me to keep choosing to connect to my heart and express what I was truly feeling. Honouring my feelings in this way enabled me to trust, accept and value myself in a far more loving way.

  11. I too have experienced that feeling of my whole body vibrating when I speak or sing from my body. It’s like that particular vibration gently breaks apart any tensions I may have in my body. I feel much looser, lighter and joyfull in my and with myself. It’s like a massage from the inside out.

  12. There is no limit to the depths of connect and level of presence we can have with our body in everything we do. It’s a matter of changing our perspective to see and feel the detail of our expression – both physically and energetically.

  13. I have attended Chris’s workshops and they are very powerful and revealing , I realised my quiet voice was really me holding me back, I could feel my body expand when I stayed with my breath and just sang feeling the vibration of my voice throughout my body.

  14. Who knew there was so much to speaking and listening as many of us would say we are great at both. But these two aren’t just things to do and while on the outside we can say we do both this article takes us inside to check in with the quality. I must admit even while reading this article, which to me is a form of listening, I brushed over sections because I was talking to myself and so had to re-read them. It is amazing to stop and listen to the conversation that goes on inside our head no matter what is going on outside. More often then not the conversation is leading to one point, for you to come back again to the same point. In other words, if you aren’t aware the conversation we normally are having with ourselves is one that puts or drags us down. To simply appreciate the feelings you have and appreciate yourself no matter what you are facing is always a choice and a point for us to build from rather than tear down.

  15. There is a huge difference when we communicate with body awareness than when we communicate from the mind, the first one creates a flow and simplicity in life and the latter one creates issues and complexities that are not of truth and serve as an impediment in our own evolution.

  16. I have not had the privilege of attending any of Chris Jame’s workshop and cannot wait to attend one day.

    But claiming my voice has been another biggie for me and recently I received confirmation from Natalie Benhayon (Universal Medicine Practitioner) that my voice had altered and was asked if I had made any dietary changes. Before this I was drinking soy chai latte and since letting go of it, my voice no longer sounded damp.

    As much as it made sense, it didn’t make sense until I really heard it in another. My own partners voice had altered after he decided to give up dairy of his own accord, I suddenly realised his voice / sound didn’t sound so nasely anymore. A whole new factor I hadn’t considered before.

    1. That is amazing Shushila, everything has a quality including our voice, and our diet can impact on how we sound. Everything we express, voice, movement, etc reflects the care we have or have not taken. I have never realised we can sound damp! I’ve definitely heard racy and dull voices so damp makes sense!

  17. There is true beauty when we express love from our bodies. This purity in expression can be felt completely from the one expressing and equally the one receiving…

  18. Choosing to connect and express from our heart instead of our mind opens up our awareness to listen and feel from a far deeper inner quality that enables us to build truer relationships with everyone including ourselves.

  19. “I did have to learn how to listen.” We hear so much but how often to we truly listen to what we are hearing?

  20. ‘When I slowed down, when I checked in with my breath, my whole voice changed – and when I really did not think about what to say before speaking, I felt so much lighter and open and relaxed.’ I know this is true for me too and as today i have been a bit speedy it is great to be reminded and allow myself more space.

  21. Chris James’ workshops are phenomenal, what he presents about being connected to our breath, our body and expressing from this connection is amazing to experience and learn to live. You’ve inspired me to be more aware of this myself. I could also relate to the tight jaw, so I will be focusing on my face more today as I talk to people. Thanks Rosie.

  22. Great blog Rosie, it makes such a difference when we speak from our body I feel more connected, lighter and more me, and when I am feeling the need to control or am feeling anxious in anyway I always speak from my mind.

  23. The thing that stood out for me too in these workshops was just how little awareness of our body we can have when we communicate. It is so exposing yet so empowering to feel that we do often say one thing from our mind but our body is communicating the almost complete opposite of that!

  24. We can hold so much tension in our jaw. I love how in the workshops with Chris James we get the opportunity just by opening our mouths and annunciating more clearly the words that we are singing to release some of this tension.

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