Learning to Express from my Heart and Body, instead of just Speaking from my Mind

by Rosie Bason, Mullumbimby, NSW

I attended a workshop with Chris James yesterday. Chris James is an amazing musician and a student of Universal Medicine. In his workshop “Discovering your true natural voice” I learned so much, I felt so much and I cried – which is great, as I do not find it easy to cry. I would like to share my experience with you.

I learned to feel what it feels like in my body when I speak – I could even feel it when I whispered.

I felt the difference when in a group we practised communicating from our body. When we would go back into our minds and disconnect from our body, by habit, it would feel different, almost empty, but when another spoke from their heart and stayed with their breath, I could feel it coming from their whole body. To describe that feeling; it was like a wave of vibrations coming from their whole body, not just a sound coming out of their mouth. To be able to feel this, I did have to learn how to listen. 

I learned how beautiful it is to be with someone and fully listen: to listen without commenting, to listen and be there for someone whilst being fully with me was just such an awesome experience. It exposed how often when I am with someone, but because I am not in my body, because I am not with my breath, that I am often thinking about other things, or thinking about what I should say next, so that I am hardly listening at all. But when I choose to be with me, to breathe gently and to not worry about what to say or control the conversation, and just allow another to speak, it is just simply beautiful. It felt so good and the old habit of thinking, controlling and not being present was completely gone. And when I was listened to, in that same way, I just felt so supported and safe to just express whatever was needed to express.

One of my most revealing moments was when Chris brought awareness of how I talk when not opening my mouth very much, how I am in control and that my jaw is very tight. Whoa! This really hit home. I have always been in control and I can feel that in my upper arms, but I had not felt it in my face. I was not aware at all. I am now learning to open my mouth more, speak with more clarity, and allow my face to relax. I am learning to not try to work out and control everything in my mind before I speak because I felt how awful it feels to listen when someone is not speaking from their heart. I will practise being with me so that I speak from my heart and therefore not have that control and that vibration affecting not only me, but those that I am in contact with.

I also became aware of how fast I speak. This can be an anxiety thing or just because I am speaking from my mind: I can now feel that it’s not a very nice feeling in my body when I speak from my mind. I found it easier to feel it from someone else speaking at first, but then I could easily recognise that same feeling within. When I slowed down, when I checked in with my breath, my whole voice changed – and when I really did not think about what to say before speaking, I felt so much lighter and open and relaxed. It is a clear marker in my body, so that if I catch myself speaking like that, I can just take a moment to reconnect with me and my breath.

135 thoughts on “Learning to Express from my Heart and Body, instead of just Speaking from my Mind

  1. We can hold so much tension in our jaw. I love how in the workshops with Chris James we get the opportunity just by opening our mouths and annunciating more clearly the words that we are singing to release some of this tension.

  2. The thing that stood out for me too in these workshops was just how little awareness of our body we can have when we communicate. It is so exposing yet so empowering to feel that we do often say one thing from our mind but our body is communicating the almost complete opposite of that!

  3. Great blog Rosie, it makes such a difference when we speak from our body I feel more connected, lighter and more me, and when I am feeling the need to control or am feeling anxious in anyway I always speak from my mind.

  4. Chris James’ workshops are phenomenal, what he presents about being connected to our breath, our body and expressing from this connection is amazing to experience and learn to live. You’ve inspired me to be more aware of this myself. I could also relate to the tight jaw, so I will be focusing on my face more today as I talk to people. Thanks Rosie.

  5. ‘When I slowed down, when I checked in with my breath, my whole voice changed – and when I really did not think about what to say before speaking, I felt so much lighter and open and relaxed.’ I know this is true for me too and as today i have been a bit speedy it is great to be reminded and allow myself more space.

  6. “I did have to learn how to listen.” We hear so much but how often to we truly listen to what we are hearing?

  7. Choosing to connect and express from our heart instead of our mind opens up our awareness to listen and feel from a far deeper inner quality that enables us to build truer relationships with everyone including ourselves.

  8. There is true beauty when we express love from our bodies. This purity in expression can be felt completely from the one expressing and equally the one receiving…

  9. I have not had the privilege of attending any of Chris Jame’s workshop and cannot wait to attend one day.

    But claiming my voice has been another biggie for me and recently I received confirmation from Natalie Benhayon (Universal Medicine Practitioner) that my voice had altered and was asked if I had made any dietary changes. Before this I was drinking soy chai latte and since letting go of it, my voice no longer sounded damp.

    As much as it made sense, it didn’t make sense until I really heard it in another. My own partners voice had altered after he decided to give up dairy of his own accord, I suddenly realised his voice / sound didn’t sound so nasely anymore. A whole new factor I hadn’t considered before.

  10. There is a huge difference when we communicate with body awareness than when we communicate from the mind, the first one creates a flow and simplicity in life and the latter one creates issues and complexities that are not of truth and serve as an impediment in our own evolution.

  11. Who knew there was so much to speaking and listening as many of us would say we are great at both. But these two aren’t just things to do and while on the outside we can say we do both this article takes us inside to check in with the quality. I must admit even while reading this article, which to me is a form of listening, I brushed over sections because I was talking to myself and so had to re-read them. It is amazing to stop and listen to the conversation that goes on inside our head no matter what is going on outside. More often then not the conversation is leading to one point, for you to come back again to the same point. In other words, if you aren’t aware the conversation we normally are having with ourselves is one that puts or drags us down. To simply appreciate the feelings you have and appreciate yourself no matter what you are facing is always a choice and a point for us to build from rather than tear down.

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