On the Verge of Being Dumped

by Suzanne Anderssen, Brisbane

I like to use metaphors to describe where I am at each moment. A year ago, I felt like I was walking a tightrope. The tightrope was very saggy, very swingy and each step along that tightrope was difficult, but I was at least travelling forward. Bit by bit, that tightrope became tauter, stronger, more still, albeit I still felt like I was walking it.

The metaphor I feel like today is similar, but maybe less life threatening! Life often feels like I’m at a surf beach, diving through waves. Have you ever noticed that waves tend to come in sets of about six or seven?  Then there is a bit of a rest, where you can catch your breath and prepare for the next set. Sometimes that next set is an onslaught, where each dive under the wave is an effort, you get messed around in the froth, the sand; you barely have enough time to take another breath before you need to dive under the next wave, you may not even get to push off and dive under the wave, just duck under so you don’t get dumped. You’re exhausted by that set and nervous about the next, as surely it will come too soon.

And sometimes it’s a set of waves that you navigate with ease and harmony. Your timing in diving under the wave is perfect, you feel the swell of the wave above and around you, but you don’t get caught up in the swirl of the water. You have time to wipe your eyes, keep your hair off your face, take a look at where the next wave is coming from, take a deep breath and push off the sand with your two feet to dive deeply under with a strong body…and your swimsuit stays on too 🙂

For me, life can be like the surf. Those seven or so waves in a set represent my job, my husband, myself, my child, my child’s school life, my friends, my house.

Whenever I am on the verge of being dumped by the waves, I notice that I make a special effort to use a bunch of support mechanisms that I have learnt over my lifetime, with many learned in the past two years since listening to Serge Benhayon’s presentations. I have learned that what I can do to support myself is to breathe gently, or take a warm, moisturising bath, or make a super nurturing, light meal, or light some incense, or put on super comfy clothes, or take plenty of time to blow dry my hair, apply makeup, moisturise, paint my nails, or go for a long, easy walk or swim, or visit a friend, or do a meditation, or brew some herbal tea in a pretty teapot, or fold laundry (very soothing for me!), or tenderly moisturise my hands and feet… etc.

When I don’t feel amazing, I then consciously go back to basics, stopping to nurture myself fully and come back to a level of stillness that is me. I feel so grateful that I have people around me who have shown me many different ways that I can truly support myself.

134 thoughts on “On the Verge of Being Dumped

  1. Developing our relationship with our bodies allows us to meet the demands of life in a very simple and calm way and not get caught up with the overwhelm when things get a bit too much. It is this deepening with this quality within that creates space for life to flow in a harmonious way.

  2. Your metaphors paint a very vivid picture of how we can either allow ourselves to get uptight and/or swept up in our daily lives or we can prepare ourselves by building a solid foundation via a few simple support mechanisms.

  3. It is our movements what create situations where we find ourselves on the verge to being dumped ‘by the waves’. Once we are in it, we can dive further by confirming the movements that led us there or we can put a stop to it by means of choices and a deliberate attempt to shift how we are moving. Getting there and getting out of there is merely an option.

  4. Suzanne your metaphors make it very clear on the choices we make in every moment either allows us to go through life simply or get knocked around. When I push and put pressure on myself my body feels like it’s been smashed by a wave, and the next thing that is asked of me feels huge and I want it all just to stop. But when I feel into what feels true to do next, the intensity is not there and instead it’s gentle rolling wave.

  5. Oh my goodness reading all of this made me say YES ‘is to breathe gently, or take a warm, moisturising bath, or make a super nurturing, light meal, or light some incense, or put on super comfy clothes, or take plenty of time to blow dry my hair, apply makeup, moisturise, paint my nails, or go for a long, easy walk or swim, or visit a friend, or do a meditation, or brew some herbal tea in a pretty teapot, or fold laundry (very soothing for me!), or tenderly moisturise my hands and feet… etc.’ It seems for me the last few weeks have been non stop and only a while ago I was reflecting how I need to support myself, to stop, to nurture and really this should not just be 1 hour or 1 day in a month but a way of living so that we do not get ‘caught in the wave’. This is what Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine beautifully present and live and something I am still very much learning and a student of. Thank you for sharing. I’m booking myself a date with the bath 😄

  6. Thank you Suzanne for such a simple and beautiful reminder for any time we may feel overwhelmed or stressed in life – ‘When I don’t feel amazing, I then consciously go back to basics, stopping to nurture myself fully and come back to a level of stillness that is me.’

  7. In a world that is about output, productivity and outcome, acts like tenderly moisturising ones hands or taking the time to choose a cup to make the tea in or looking out the window to enjoy the colours in the sky is considered a ‘waste of time’. We have lost the understanding and importance of these in between moments that nurture us and make our lives full and enjoyable and through that give us a foundation we stand on when things get a bit rough or turbulent.

  8. The waves are a great metaphor for life. Living in a way that is in respect to our body and to the greater ocean we are a part of allows us to move in rhythm with the flow of it, navigating the waves with ease and buoyancy.:)

  9. A wise woman once suggested we “go back to basics and stay there”, for really the basics are the foundations on which we build from so if we neglect them, our foundation becomes unsteady and unsafe.

  10. The waves are the rhythm of life so are we going with this flow and surrendering or are we trying to control, finding out our own independent way, which I have discovered does not truly exist and hurts us so much. When we choose our true nature and are in rhythm we feel we are part of a whole, a divine order in which we have our part to play, lovingly so.

  11. The ‘basics’ are the essentials of life and we never graduate beyond them. They form our foundation in every step in life and support the solidness that allows us to glide through the waves of life.

  12. When we get ahead of ourselves or in delay through avoidance, coming back to basics brings us into the present moment and in reconnection to our body and inner self; connecting to our breath and our movements we feel who we are again and can appreciate ourselves. I love your metaphor of the waves and how it does feel like we are about to be dumped sometimes but we have these great tools, thanks to Serge Benhayon, to support us.

  13. A classic example of self-responsibility and self-love. Love it Suzanne and very inspiring how you see life and personally relate it back to you. There is much to ponder on here.

  14. I absolutely love the simplicity of what you have shared here Susanne – metaphors are a playful way for us to understand how energy works in our day to day and how we handle things and how it makes us feel – a very powerful tool!

  15. As a kid, I used to love the feeling of diving through a wave. It’s a great analogy, in life; we always have stuff coming to us we can either choose to stay in our own rhythm or get beaten around by it.

  16. As always it is forever our choice whether we allow ourselves to ‘sink’ or ‘swim’ when living in this great sea of life. Our task is to learn to swim in a way whereby we do not take great lungfulls of water into our lungs (absorb the world) but instead move in such a way that we rise above (observe in full) all that seeks to pull us under. This is done by the steadiness of our breath.

  17. It’s amazing how quick the support is or what to do is there when I check in with my body and ask what do you need right now in this situation. If I don’t listen, then that is when I get bolded over by the waves that are coming.

    1. So very true Aimee. It truly is awe-inspiring how our inner-wisdom is always on hand, we only need to surrender to it through connecting to the truth in our bodies.

  18. I used to create so many dramas in life and even though I would be whinging non-stop it was an indulgence, it was something that defined me, there was an attraction – life was just a series of motion, and I just had to move through it, and I used to think that was the whole point.

  19. There is a rhythm in which life flows, that we too are a part of. Developing a loving relationship with ourselves and our bodies is what allows us to be guided to know what is needed to support us to live in accordance to this rhythm, so then our life lived becomes a natural flow of movements rather than a struggle or resistance to our innate way of being.

  20. We can do many nurturing things for ourselves but unless we do them in a quality that confirms us they are just solutions, they work but they do not truly evolve us. I love that you have a set of go to things that support you and I think that is super important but what has always worked for me in whatever I do is my quality of movement. Then taking out the rubbish can be like a meditation or a cup of herbal tea.

  21. On the other side of the coin – Why is it then that we continually repeat a behaviour that is harming to ourselves and each other? Why do we not learn from the first time it hurt?

  22. Thank you Suzanne for sharing the many ways of self love and care that you use to bring yourself back, it is the quality in our movements that make what we do self loving and nurturing, the other day I had a situation where I went into anxiousness and became wheezy in my chest, a slight movement of my body happened and in an instant all the wheeze and anxiousness disappeared it showed me how changing our movements changes the energy.

  23. Loved your metaphors of life, how you have found ways to support yourself as you are on the verge of being ‘dumped’. The key is to read the waves of life in advance which gives us space to prepare for what’s next.

  24. Life can be intense at times. When this happens, an agitation comes into our body. What we do when this happens is crucial. We can go for relief or we can make a conscious choice of bringing life to a point of truth which changes immediately how we feel in the body and the situation we are going through. Honouring truth is an art that is always based on simplicity, love and connection.

  25. When we start to act from our head and leave our body behind we become less connected and riding the waves becomes something we have to try to do rather than have a feeling for or just knowing. It’s our level of awareness that allows us to clock when we are shifting away from ourselves and can alert us to making a move back before the dumping point.

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