by Dianne T, Ocean Shores, NSW
From early childhood I was obsessed with love – I wanted to really know what it was, and so with my usual intensity I read, watched, listened, experimented, and applied myself to my very best ability in my own relationships.
Everywhere I looked, I could see a problem: what people called “love” did not hold up to what I felt love must be like. The only place I could feel a hint of it was in the harmony I felt in nature. Among humans, not even that was present. These were some of the things I saw:
“He loves her” – but he beats her every night when he comes home drunk, and sucks up later with a bunch of flowers and a box of chocolates.
“She loves him” – but she sneaked pregnancy on him and made him marry her, then gossips to her friends about how horrible he is.
“Everyone thought they were the ideal couple for 25 years and we were so shocked when they broke up and they can’t stand each other”, etc etc. Now I’m in my late 50s and have had my share of relationships. My ex-partners and I lived and related in what we thought was a loving way, and yet we could not comprehend the extent of conflict, pain, misunderstanding and not-feeling-right that came with it. It was often subtle, so that if one were to compare us with other couples who were in blatantly abusive, destructive relationships, they’d say we were in a happy one, and be envious. However, in observing my own and others, in all my amazing life so far, I’ve seen very few marriages that were truly loving; rather, they’re based on emotional need, convenience, voluntary mutual denial of problems – or at best a kind of practical, co-operative friendship or ‘co-miseration’. From the woman’s perspective, I see my sisters all over the world marry in a whirlwind of bliss and romance, then gradually become contracted and unhappy, over-driven, numbed-out – most complaining of ‘feeling sucked dry and unsupported’ by their husbands, families and work.
This year I have the joy of learning a whole new way of relating lovingly with myself, and, if I am ever in a relationship again, it will be very different. I also have the joy of knowing and speaking with a few couples who are learning this new way of relating lovingly with themselves and their partners, and can’t wait for the day when it’s the rule, not the exception. There are people who also see this and become immensely jealous. They are afraid, perhaps because they see the truth and realise it exposes their own deficiencies in loving themselves and others. They don’t feel they can have it too (even though of course they can), so they attack it.
Though many women are re-learning to self nurture and the awesome enriching that brings to themselves and their family, friends. A few started to realise that they are not living the loving life they want, when their husbands chose not to listen or won’t change, they are left with the choice to either go on suffering, or leave. Recently, a few men who have lost their wives in that way have begun a smear campaign against the people who showed those women, by example, how to love themselves. The detractors thus attempt to discredit the women by discounting their innate ability to choose, to grow, and to develop all throughout their lives. My feeling is that these men are perhaps afraid to look within themselves, because that may mean they have to take responsibility for what made their wives leave them.
What is scary is that a few women have joined the male critics. Again, I feel that they are afraid to look at their treatment of themselves (no criticism sisters, I’ve been there too) and their lifelong acceptance of what they know to be less than love; from outright abuse to even the most subtle but nonetheless powerful pressures to compromise themselves to suit another.
If only these frightened people (men and women) could see that if we all become fully loving and fully who we are, there will be so much love to go around that no-one would need to feel bad. That healing would be available to all of us, and end the suffering and the living of the lie. So please let us get on with developing our self-love!
I personally have chosen to go to sleep earlier and get up earlier, changed my diet, stopped consuming drugs for recreational purposes, increased my lifelong commitment to making changes that support my body to heal itself, stopped watching the kinds of films and listening to the kinds of music that over-drive my nervous system and emotions and disturb my sleep, stopped rushing and stressing myself and taken a more detached, ‘bigger picture’ view of life and its difficulties. I explore the way I eat, exercise, walk, work, relate to the opposite sex, treat other people and generally treat my own body – and then make changes to be much more loving, gentle and present. My body loves it ….. all of it! I would recommend these natural, healthy changes to anyone; they can only benefit individuals and couples, even though some people may unaccountably consider them weird!
Good on Serge and his team at Universal Medicine for sticking to their path in spite of being attacked. They walk what they talk, and we all have much of value that can be learned from them.
The Truth about Universal Medicine 
Relationships is one of these spheres of life where by and large people get to some sort of equilibrium that is based on how far they are willing to run away from their hurts. This sort of unstable equilibrium is emotionally charged as it reflects the limit of what a person considers is possible and desirable. Yet, this comes from the body. Relationships with others is always related to our own relationship with ourselves first.
I agree – so many people are afraid of looking at themselves and their choices and what they might find underneath it all. We can all feel the potential of what that might mean and bring, and in our resistance, it brings much tension. All I can say from my experience is it is not as bad as you might think it is, it is definitely worth giving a go.
“I explore the way I eat, exercise, walk, work, relate to the opposite sex, treat other people and generally treat my own body – and then make changes to be much more loving, gentle and present. My body loves it ….. all of it!” There is no greater champion or critic of our life choices than our own body.
Through the loving reflection of Serge Benhayon, his family and the students of Universal Medicine, I have been inspired to learn and express the truth of self-love. As a consequence I am in the best relationship of my life – by a very long way – built on mutual self-love. I also have wonderful relationships with others too, because when I am being responsible for loving myself, I am not turning to others in need but with a full heart that offers them the very same loving reflection that they too can choose for themselves. Why anyone feels this is something that they need to attack is strange, for it seems to me, most people would choose to have more loving relationships…wouldn’t they?
Listening to the talk and then observing the walk that comes from the talk is uncommon in our world today. But, I say with absolute authority that I’ve never been presented with the true meaning of love before attending presentations by Serge Benhayon at Universal Medicine.
I totally agree, Elodie. Prior to meeting Serge Benhayon I lived in an illusion as to what love was and it was no wonder that my relationships were ‘car crashes’.
How can we understand love if we do not love ourselves. How can we know love if we cannot receive love in all the many ways love presents itself. ‘To know thyself is to love thyself’.
I agree that there is so much more depth and vivaciousness to be accessed in all our relationships with each other if we let go of our fears and our protection and allow ourselves to feel the love that we are and naturally can express.
I went to a workshop yesterday where the male presenter was sharing how men have found any way to bring down women for millions of years, that the change will come from men (because it is men who exercise the most violence against women) but we as women needed to step into our power and not apologise for who we are and what we bring. I could feel both the men and the women in the room feel like we each had lived in shame of that abdication of responsibility and yet were willing to be the change. This group was looking at gender equality in the workplace, at how to stop gender violence, it was nothing to do with Universal Medicine. People who want things to stay the same attack these people too. What I have been inspired by when considering the level of attacks the Benhayon family have experienced is they are simply walking what they live so the attack means nothing to them because they know they live a more loving way which is desperately needed in our society. No apology.
The very practical examples you give at the end of your blog show how to start a loving relationship with yourself is down to earth, simple and everyone is capable of making these choices. I am deeply inspired by Serge and Universal Medicine for living love consistently and for bringing the truth of what relationships truly are.
This is an amazing sharing Dianne. You share the truth of Serge Benhayon, Universal Medicine and his presentation of the Ageless Wisdom . I am fortunate to have connected with the teachings of Universal Medicine in this lifetime and they continue to change my life.
“Good on Serge and his team at Universal Medicine for sticking to their path in spite of being attacked. They walk what they talk” and that walk and talk is love.
Thank you Dianne, Common sense tells us looking for a scapegoat for ones own abusive behaviour won’t work – it’s just putting more abuse out into the world without taking the responsibility to be decent, respectful and loving. Even a bird in the wild will attempt to escape an aggressive suitor. Women and men everywhere have a right to leave abusive relationships, and to do so without the conjuring up of stories of “cults” being responsible. No matter how you dress up irresponsibility of being abusive to others, it’s still irresponsibility.
Great blog Diane, unfortunately so many have settled for a lesser form of love that is miles away from true love, when one awakens to this truth in a relationship the other can be inspired to move in that direction, or the other can become very resistant blaming everyone and everything for this, instead of taking responsibility for their part of the demise of the relationship.
The truth is love is available equally inside us all, but we have the free will to share this or keep it locked away. Another cannot be our source of love although we can enjoy the love a person is and brings into our lives. When that goes it can highlight the absence of love in ourselves and the beliefs we hold about relationships – and it can also be an opportunity to heal ourselves and become more responsible and loving with ourselves and the others.
When we hear the word relationship, automatically we tend to think of others. We are indeed in relationship with others all the time. Yet, we tend not to consider that the more lasting and more important relationship we ever have and will have is with ourselves. We discount it. Yet, the moment we take it into account and work on it, miracles occur.
Loved reading your blog Dianne, you express so well how marriages and relationships are often silent arrangements which are not based on love. When we make relationships about love, we no longer accept what we once did.
Women endure abusive relationships because they do not value the preciousness they are first and foremost. With out a standard of tenderness in how they treat and hold themselves they accept far less from those around them and who they choose to be in relationship with.
Beautifully said Rachel, these words could be studied by girls and women everywhere and change the world.
I could say that the relationships I have had through out my love have not been loving at all, though at the time I thought that caring for others and putting myself last was a loving way to be This only left me continually looking, but always coming up empty. I had it back to front it, was taking responsibility for loving me first that was the turnaround in my relationships
It’s not weird to change the way you live under the auspice of Universal Medicine’s principles. If whoever were to say, they need to take a closer look.
Relationships can be a breeding ground for an abuse or a clear reflection of what we need to work on next. I know, I have been in both and sometimes I have even had both in one relationship, ebbing and flowing over the years. Love is not roses and fluffy clouds, it is something that we naturally are. It’s not something that someone can give us or take away from us, it’s an expression and movement that emanates and communicates. It can be silent, it can be firm, it can feel so still that it makes your body squirm but only if you are resisting it; if you embrace it and live it and know that it is equal in you, the possibilities are endless.
The great American writer, Henry David Thoreau wrote of those who lived “lives of quiet desperation”… I remember reading this as a teenager and, as you yourself observed Dianne, seeing that this was what everyone around me lived in, with no exceptions.
Relationships were a place of compromise, of accepting abuse – some loving moments yes, and even some fun, but the dross and heaviness of the status quo that was accepted as ‘ok’ and normal even, was depressing.
Today also, I know that another way can indeed be lived, and I know this in relationship with my husband and many others in my life. There is no ‘quiet desperation’, born of the want for love but belief that it will always be sought outside of us and never truly found within. Rather, there is a foundation of love lived that only builds and expands, as it rightly should – and Joy, yes my God Joy… is a mainstay.
Were it not for the work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, I do not feel it would have been possible to be so inspired to make the changes in my life that this could be as it is.
Me neither Victoria. It has woken me up to what is possible and their ‘quiet desperation’ is a great way to describe all the holding back we do in a relationship, not saying anything just in case we rock the boat, yet the boat is quietly sinking.
Self-responsibility in relationships… a topic deserving of our deepest of attention, and one that if heeded, holds the keys to changing our world. Thank-you.
Beautifully said Victoria – with out the need, give and receive mind set and vast array of expectations we put on relationships, we are then free to bring our full selves and share the love we have within with others. There is much joy in the expression of this responsibility.
Agreed. It is the only way to know and live in true Joy…
Understanding about true love revealed how so many of my previous choices were in fact not true love but emotional and conditional love. I also spent years searching for love but now realising it was a diversion, because all along love was already residing within me, in all of us.
The disparity between the picture of the loving relationship that people try to portray and sell you can be very different to the actual reality of what you feel is true.
True love exposes the falseness we have settled for – it’s uncomfortable to realise and admit, but we have all felt it, that there was a kind of off-ness in what we have called love and we were never quite completely content if we were very honest. Granted we all have free will to choose and defending and holding onto the falseness is of course an option available, but that definitely doesn’t feel like a wise choice to me.
The teachings of Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon on self-love are so simple and yet completely life changing, which does create reactions when we feel such simplicity has been with us this whole time and all our efforts without self-love as our first agenda have resulted in no true success. But reacting to this creates more harm where accepting this helps maintain and appreciate those self-loving choices.
It is through self-loving choices that we can heal our hurts, our addictions and our relationship issues. It is super simple, when we commit to loving ourselves we naturally feel and appreciate the love all around us.
So true because from the beginnings of one man people from across the entire world have been inspired to love themselves as well. Showing how simple and successful self-love truly is not just for self but everyone.
Love only started to make sense to me when I could feel it for myself. I’m inconsistent with surrendering to feeling it, so I can get caught up in my old understanding of love, but this never lasts because once true love is felt in the body, there is no going back.
It has become so normal to settle for less in a relationship and especially as women, we have become so accustomed to being degraded as it happens almost all the time, whether you read magazines, see advertising on the street or watch Disney films – we are put down everywhere, not to speak of the extreme violence that is done to women in many places of this planet.
What Serge Benhayon presents around self-care and self-love truly works, if you feel inspired to make some changes for yourself – great, but if you feel challenged in anyway that’s your choice and you walk away. Unfortunately there are some that can’t just walk away, instead they choose to attack Serge Benhayon and the Benhayon family and blame them for their issues and their deep hurts that have blinded them from seeing the truth.
Ultimately I feel we all want a loving relationship, sometimes when we see another live this it can be challenging, very challenging to feel and sometimes when it is presented to us we find it hard to truly accept and embrace it.
It’s true MW and so important to be honest about it for it’s only in this honesty we can realise what we are rejecting, which when truly seen and felt, makes no sense to reject.
I love the simplicity in your list of changes that you have made Dianne – no rocket science required, in fact, so ridiculously simple that its hard to understand why we all didn’t get it from the get go!
It’s a startling fact to realise there is little or no love in the relationship norm we have accepted.
How I am with myself absolutely reflects on how I am with others. On the occasion when my self care slips so does my feeling about myself and there is less ‘fullness’ of presence with others. I can be more reactive than able to simply observe and lovingly say what is to be said or remain silent, depending on what is required.
It makes so much sense that if we do not have a loving relationship with ourselves that a truly loving relationship with anyone else is impossible. To take the time to build this relationship with self is the most priceless and most wonderful investment one could ever make, and from this foundation of self knowing and self love the ripples will naturally and effortlessly begin to flow on out to others.
“….what people called “love” did not hold up to what I felt love must be like. The only place I could feel a hint of it was in the harmony I felt in nature. Among humans, not even that was present” This was the same for me too, but I now see love in the Benhayon family – who walk their talk. Their love is universal – for all equally so. An inspiring reflection for everyone they meet every day. Learning to love ourselves first – only then can we truly love another.
Relationships can be complicated and yet also incredibly simple when they are founded on the depth, beauty and level of care that we hold for ourselves first. This is our responsibility and our power… to have and embrace the relationships we want and deserve.
It’s really a beautiful thing to know that there are people who are committed to depeening the development of all of their relationships even though it’s not always that easy. But we do have to traverse through our hurts to get to the place where they no longer affect us and we can then be ourselves in relationships, being ordinarily human and all. Some are more ready than others to so this.
As a whole global society we need to redefine what it means to have a loving relationship, we’ve gotten so far away from what is true, beautiful and and real, what we consider normal now is actually awful, so completely unloving and incredibly disrespectful… We for sure need a new normal.
I agree Meg. We have come to accept that it is ok to come home from work and dump our day on our partner, to put them down in some way….the list is endless. But this is abuse and needs to be exposed for what it is. It’s not ok and it certainly isn’t love. I have often thought to myself that I wouldn’t talk to my friends in the same way I have spoken to family members or partners, and I can’t be the only one, so this just shows that we do know it’s abusive but are choosing to ignore that.
Very true, it doesn’t make sense that we don’t absolutely treasure and cherish our nearest relationships – these are the relationships where we need to be exploring the depths of where love can go, not introducing abuse and disregard for another.
Gorgeous blog Dianne. You bring so much understanding to behaviour that is actually quite difficult to make sense of.
Well done for making these amazing changes Dianne. I can totally relate to your blog. I too from a very young age I was fascinated about love. I was looking for it in all the wrong places and thought it was always about searching for it outside of myself. Now, I know love is and has always been within, patiently waiting to be lived and expressed.
A relationship is about deepening your commitment to each other and sharing the love that you are. If there is no true love in a relationship and one person is not willing to work at building a true foundation of love then it is abusive for the other person to stay. We all have the free will to choose love or to choose something that is not love. To be jealous and abusive of those who choose true love just adds to the abuse.
This is great to read, and feel the truth in your words. All that is going on in relationships is often far from true love, I can see that the basis of self love creates a higher norm of love, which will impact all relationships we have.
Thank you Dianne, to me love, which has nothing to do with the emotional kind of love, but true love as presented by Serge Benhayon had also been a long term quest on my part. I have asked hundreds of people about love and no one before Serge Benhayon’s presentations on love made any sense. Thanks to the presentations by Serge Benhayon I now understand why very few if any have a true grasp of the depth of what true love and God are all about. To me love is shared equally by God because God is love, how could he be anything else and as the Sons of God our love can be shared equally when we reconnect to our soul. Our soul is the divine aspect or love that is waiting to reconnect with us so we can return to being the Son of God.
For more about Serge Benhayon go to;
http://www.unimedliving.com/search?keyword=SERGE+BENHAYON
Life flows far easier and simpler when we live a life of responsibility.
Thank you Dianne and Shelley, free will, allows us the choice to be loving, which Dianne, myself and thousands of people world wide have also found true love, all thanks to the presentations by Serge Benhayon.
I believe Serge Benhayon and his colleagues deserve more then a ‘good on them’, with respect to the writer. The amount of abusive behaviour that has gone on, directed at Universal Medicine, would send anyone mad. It is vile and no constructive language that is used for nothing but to destroy another person. The abusive individual does this to mask their own inner turmoils.
When we make choices that are loving and true for us some are inspired by this and others can react strongly and dig their heels in further avoiding all responsibility and blaming others – missing out on an opportunity to grow and evolve.
This is so true Anna. I used to think it was my responsibility to fix situations when people reacted to me and that it was my fault, which was not true. But now I realise people can react to me when I am expressing love and truth. Sometimes truth can be difficult to accept when we are not ready to take responsibility for life. I realise I am only responsible for my choices and what I express and not other people’s.
The work of Serge Benhayon has supported me to find true love. First within myself and then in my relationship with my partner, then with my mother and father, then with my sisters, then with my clients… and believe me, the list goes on.
It is so true self-love is the key to really loving another as I am discovering myself. When feeling all of me I can feel that there is no need for love, just an enormously beautiful willingness to share this love with others. As it is not mine it is that what makes me part of the whole.
Thank you Dianne for telling it like it is.
This is an interesting point to consider 1heart1love1earth, that we sometimes feel more alone when we are ‘in’ a relationship than when we are actually alone by ourselves… It says a lot for connection and the fact that in order to have a truly loving relationship with anybody else, we need to have a loving relationship with ourselves.
An accurate evaluation of relationships Dianne, it all starts with the way you treat yourself and this in turn effects your relationships with others.
Well said Dianne. This article shows that we all are looking for love but so often fall for an imposter emotional mis-interpretation of the meaning of the word. Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine have inspired me to reconnect to the true love within me and nurture self-love so that love becomes a way of being to be shared with others.
Expressing love for another is so much more than just saying the words, great blog Dianne.
Thank you Dianne for expressing your gratitude towards Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon publicly. This is a testimonial of the truth, that is so needed to stand against those who out of jealousy and other reasons fight what love brings.
Wouldn’t it be amazing if we all chose to take responsibility for the way we live by nurturing and caring for ourselves in every way, choosing not to accept abuse and to live a more joyful, harmonious way with everything and everyone. “So please let’s go on developing our self-love”. Self-love – Responsibility for self.
It is the only way and because we all know this is the truth, there are people who have not been willing to go there (and still are not willing) are getting jealous and start attacking the ones who are applying self responsibility by truly loving themselves. And what’s more the changes they make are forever and always lasting. From my own experience it is living very joyful and fullfilled life.
Great post Dianne. I love it! I particulary love the line; ‘ can’t wait for the day when it’s the rule, not the exception.’ Couldn’t agree more. When did a natural way of being/living become an exception to the rule? I’m all for mixing things up along side you.
It is great that you have exposed that the detractors ‘attempt to discredit the women (that left them) by discounting their ability to choose to grow and to develop throughout their lives’. For me, you cannot claim to love someone and deny them their choice to grow and develop… and yet if they choose this and you do not want to join them in living a forever deepening level of love and responsibility, then you cannot blame them (or anyone else) for them walking away from your choices.
Dianne, this is an awesome blog that shows it is within us all to have the loving relationships we so desire, it just begins with loving ourselves first, nurturing ourselves with the choices we make and living from the love we naturally are. It is as simple as that, it just takes us to each make that loving commitment to ourselves.
It is all about being honest and taking responsibility for the way we live – once true self love is felt and lived in the body, being that love in all aspects of our lives and relationships is the only way it can be. Thanks Dianne for sharing.
‘So please let us get on with developing our self-love!’ Absolutely Dianne the more we do this the more there is to share with the world which benefits everyone.
I agree Dianne, we must ” ..get on with developing our self love.”
I agree, Dianne. Feeling the truth in a relationship and living by that is surely more important than sticking to the status quo, as otherwise there are two people who are enduring a life sentence in “co-miseration” as you so rightly say – what a waste of life and love!
As far as the love and relationships went, I did my best try delivering what I thought ‘love’ looked like and expected the same from the others, it really was a hard work. To be presented with what true love was, and to learn self-love was the bridge towards it was a huge blessing, and there’s no other way to be other than to live by that truth as best as I can.
I Dianne, Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine don’t only talk the talk, but also most definitely walk the walk, to a very high level of love and integrity (without perfection). They are amazing role models in my life, not to copy, but to gain inspiration from. absolutely agree
This is just great Diane, with your examples you detail the truth about ‘love’ and then what real love is – nurturing care and deep respect. Love this line: “Many women are re-learning to self nurture and the awesome enriching that brings to themselves and their family, friends” – so true and wonderful, and yet also so sad to experience (as I and others have) the jealousy of this enriching hidden under scrutiny or ridicule of the woman (or man) taking time to relate lovingly with themselves. YES good on Serge Benhayon as you say Diane, and I also say thank God for Serge and Universal Medicine for presenting The Way (it is).
You make a great point with this article, true love for each other comes from a true love of self, this real connection is so powerful.
There is much here Dianne, but to mention a couple of points – that observing relationships and also experiences of our own, is that love has not formed the foundation of most relationships. Through the work with Serge Benhayon, I can work on making all my relationships loving, and nothing less. The other point that I felt to comment on is that Serge Benhayon, his family and all practitioners associated with Universal Medicine walk their own talk – this is so true, it is not touted knowledge from a text book, but lived experience shared for us all to benefit from.
This is so true Dianne. Developing a self-loving relationship is the foundation for all loving relationships. Inspired by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, I have found that choosing to live this way has deepened my experience of what my true love within myself feels like. So now there is no need or expectation of someone else providing this for me, therefore no blame, anger or hate towards another is called for. It has been immensely full-filling developing, and continuing to develop, this loving relationship with myself, my husband, my family and friends, and my work colleagues. I feel that this blog is a call for true responsibility. For if you are not ‘feeling the love’ then we only have to look within to feel where the disharmony is, which then only reflects a beautiful opportunity to heal and deepen our love within, which then allows more love to be offered and shared with everyone.
Thanks Dianne I agree totally with your blog and often see couples in relationships that are not based on love but rather a need or a want that eventually can’t be filled anymore resulting in the couple starting to experience problems. When the original need can’t be filled anymore most often one or both people in the relationship look elsewhere for someone new to fill the void they choose not to fill for themselves.
Now being aware of this I am able to work on my daily rhythm and own relationship to constantly build the love back for myself and therefore in my relationships.
Absolutely true what you have said Dianne. I too have changed to allow more love for me and with others and the journey is beautifully simple and enriching.
Thank you for sharing here Dianne. I agree – up until the last few years I was dismayed by the relationships I observed. Even the most ‘perfect’ couples did not seem truly joyful. Since becoming acquainted with Universal Medicine I have had the honour of witnessing people in true relationship and it has been nothing short of incredible. My own relationships are blossoming. I have had a taste of true love, and it starts with me.
Dianne I totally relate to your experience about so called ‘Love’ I always would say I am here to learn about what is ‘not love’ as that was my observation and experience as nothing felt real only a game we played. And then there were joy-full moments that felt real and only since I met Serge at Universal Medicine did I begin the re-discovery what love is, and begin to truly let love in and turn my critique around to developing self-love.
And what I love about you Dianne is your true honesty
Thank you for sharing your observations on love Dianne. I appreciate your commitment to deepening your own self-love and exploring the ways in which you can treat your body and those around you with more love, understanding and presence. I too am thankful that Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine have not stepped away from being their full loving selves and sharing this in presentations and events despite the unfounded allegations and attacks.
I love your blog Dianne, It is so true that the root of most if not all problems are that people do not develop a loving relationship with themeselves and are always looking outside themselves for everything. I agree with “If only these frightened people (men and women) could see that if we all become fully loving and fully who we are, there will be so much love to go around that no-one would need to feel bad.”
How is it possible that taking care of ones self is viewed as weird? This opinion must come from people who don’t self care, because then I guess it would be weird to watch, or this could be a used as a sneaky excuse for not stepping up to the plate to start caring for oneself. Insinuate those who take care of themselves as weird and then maybe the individuals can convince themselves there is no benefit to self care and self responsibility.
So spot on Dianne, I’m totally with you! I too ‘can’t wait for the day when it’s the rule, not the exception’. Let’s bring it on!
I agree Dianne – “let us get on with developing our self-love!”
Without the true inspiriation we are lost and the world mostly doesn’t offer that in the sense that there is so much conveniently not of truth ,so we get used to compromising and dropping as it becomes the norm . Learning to return or come back to love and better choices in self love is an empowering way to live . Thank God for the work of Serge Benhayon and Universal medicine and now the student body to provide us all an inspiration to learn to raise our consciousness and deeper the connection to ourselves and each other.
Dianne, I love all your blogs and this one is no exception. The insights, observations and deep wisdom you share always inspires me. Thank you.
I agree mccannelizabeth totally inspirational.
Universal Medicine has also taught me something quite extraordinary: I do have a relationship with myself and the quality of that relationship is key regarding others. So, working in how I relate to myself has become a very important area of my life. I have my ups and downs but I can feel moving forward and forward.
It speaks volumes about the state of our relationships when people cannot cope with their partners choosing to live with more love.