A Choice to Heal by Choosing Love

by Michael Goodhart, Vermont, USA

I’d like to share some experiences I’ve recently had that I feel were made possible by applying some principles that I have learned through my participation in Universal Medicine workshops and Esoteric Healing sessions. The main point being that our lives are greatly the result of the choices we make in every moment, and that if those choices are loving ones, we can heal patterns that may otherwise repeat themselves in order to show us where attention is needed.

When I first came to read Serge Benhayon’s books and commenced taking some courses I was very much in my head about the work being presented and began using some of what I had learned in an intellectual way with my friends and family. I knew in my heart that I had finally come to a True Way of Living that I had been looking for my whole life – but had been applying the teachings in the same way I had with the myriad of New Age spiritual modalities I’d delved into previously. That is, I was merely repeating the words and principles I had learned. However, this is not at all what Serge had presented to me in the first place. He has always provided a truly different approach in that if we are to really change our world in a positive way, we have to LIVE these principles of love and start feeling from our inner hearts and bodies – not just our heads.  That being said, I recently made the choice to reach out to members of my family and friends who I felt I had gotten off on the wrong foot with when I first set out on this new way of living. There had been some things that were said that initiated a separation and breakdown in communication as I thought I was re-claiming myself – but was going about it in a way that pushed some people away, instead of just being me and letting them be inspired by that, if they chose to.

So, one day recently I decided to simply make a phone call or write an email to four different people that I felt fitted into the category described above. I just honestly told them how I felt about them, avoiding a big story or gushy apology but also taking responsibility for my words and actions in the past.  Each conversation or letter was based on only one important message… LOVE.  I just chose to open up, forget any past negative emotions that had been projected towards me, and focus on connecting with each person. Even though I tried to hold no expectations, to my delight each one resulted in a super positive response and in some cases, a true healing for both of us – as well as other connected people.  I was amazed at how simple it was, and wondered why I had waited so long to act on my feelings. Perhaps I had come to a point where I realized that I had been holding back my love and was holding on to being right instead.  Through my continued inspiration from Serge Benhayon and UniMed events and students, I’m starting to gradually see my life and what occurs in it as a direct result of my choices. This time around, I’m choosing LOVE, and it’s feeling more and more like me every day.

280 thoughts on “A Choice to Heal by Choosing Love

  1. Once we get over our hurts and heal the drifts away from people we have allowed as a result of being in our hurts, we improve all of our relationships across the board even if another is still holding on to something.

  2. Our patterns are a key element to deepen our understanding of ourselves. Since they are the product of choices, some visible (we register them) and others invisible (they are so fast that we cannot even register them), working on our awareness is so crucial to shift our patterns to ones that are healing.

  3. “I had been holding back my love and was holding on to being right instead” – I can very much relate to allowing this to get in a way of relationships. One for me to watch out for, definitely.

  4. When we come across a way of living that makes sense and feels true, it can be very tempting to throw everything we were doing before out of the window and cling on to a new set of principles – particularly if this is an old pattern of embracing one thing after another, trying to find some kind of balance or equilibrium in our lives. But a true way of living asks you to connect to what’s inside of you – that quiet inner voice that so often gets over-ridden by our forceful mind. So applying a set of principles from one’s head, without feeling whether they are really true or even working for us, just doesn’t work – and is obviously false to everyone else as well. I love how you shared Michael your realisation that you were holding on to being right and holding back your love – and what a healing it was for you and others when you let this go.

  5. It is so key that we choose love above all else. I know for me I have a tendency to try to rectify ills and by doing so try to justify myself and then make up for them. But love says that was not love simple. So the moment we use love as our marker everything becomes clear. We do not need to get to love because we are love and this is one of the carrots we have been fed. Knowing that we are love we simply need to surrender to this fact and naturally everything else will unfold – after all how can we try to get to something we already are?

  6. What I love about this blog is that it really does convey the absolute simplicity of the wisdom Serge Benhayon offers. We each have a choice – to be love, or to seek love. The problem with choosing to seek love is that we are love and so seeking love creates an unnecessary pursuit of ourselves – one that can be ended with the realisation and awareness that the love we seek is already within us. No pursuit of ourselves is necessary. What is needed is for us to choose the expression of the love that we are – as Michael shares here – with some very beautiful results.

  7. Living without connection to our bodies, makes it impossible to be re-connected to our inner heart, the true source of the love that we are, otherwise it is living emotional and lesser love through our ‘heads’ and this is not The Way of The Livingness that Serge Benhayon presents and lives in full.
    “He (Serge Benhayon) has always provided a truly different approach in that if we are to really change our world in a positive way, we have to LIVE these principles of love and start feeling from our inner hearts and bodies – not just our heads”.

  8. I love the title of your blog Michael. When we make the choice to open up and truly express how we are feeling it is amazing how we are able to initiate great change and heal ourselves and others by choosing love.

  9. I work a lot on the computer each day, even at times more than 10 hours a day but I feel more connected than ever to people just as I would if I was working with them in person all because I make my work about people and not just about myself

  10. Beautiful to read Michael. What a blessing for you and your family members, precipitated by you reaching out simply with love and responsibility.

  11. People get so used to us a particular way that it makes them comfortable and feeds the status quo. When we make the choice to grow and change some of our ways of being it makes them uncomfortable and challenges them to look at how they are living – and sometimes this exposes that how they are choosing to live or be is not the wisest choice after all.

  12. Great reminder Michael of the fact that words without love are simply just that… words without love! And when words are not expressed from the love we are, they are either not expressed in full, contain emotion and hence are open to reinterpretation from what we were initially feeling to express.

  13. One moment where love is chosen allows the next moment of love to be. When we resist or hold that back or second guess it we are setting up a momentum to bring to us issues and dilemmas. When love is chosen we have much more space and freedom.

  14. When I read about how life and everything that ends up happening in our lives comes back to choices, I am reminded that I am much more powerful than I give myself credit for, thank you.

  15. Thank you Michael for a beautiful sharing, realising that there is not one ounce of love in being right. When we express in honesty our hurts can be healed and love finds it way into the hearts of others in this loving connection.

  16. The perfect blog for me to read today. I impose my ideas about things on others when I am in my head and often I don’t realise I’m doing it because I’m too in my head to notice. Reminds me why it’s so important to live it before we speak it.

  17. Universal Medicine has be mistakenly taken as just another new age thing. Yet, it is not. The movements it impulses are totally different. There is definitely something about movement that anyone can recognise not just as being different; but as being of a totally different quality and energy.

  18. This is a gorgeous sharing Michael. You remind me that it’s never too late to express what we feel. This helps me to accept the mistakes one made along the way and reminds me that it’s how I deal with my mistakes that matters.

  19. Letting go of old hurts allow us to feel the greatness of love, this has been key to deepening the relationship with myself and others.

  20. Michael what a delight to read this. It’s inevitable we will make mistakes with relationships, hurt each other unintentionally etc, but how wonderful to be able to honestly and humbly express yourself and reconcile and continue to move to greater love in those relationships – beautiful! .

  21. A great article and how about this, “I’m starting to gradually see my life and what occurs in it as a direct result of my choices.” and I don’t think I truly know to the depth of how true this is as yet. I have an awareness of it but still hold some things out. In this one line we could change everything, every moment, every relationship, every conversation and while it maybe difficult to see at the time, what comes next is the freedom to walk your own steps. This one line means that if we just or only truly connected with the choices we make then our life would reflect that truth. To me I see a great freedom, strength and power in this and have seen it many times already reflected to me.

  22. Choosing to connect back to the truth we feel inside and to honestly express ourselves in a more gentle and loving way allows others the space to be able to feel the same quality within themselves and the opportunity to open up too.

  23. “I realized that I had been holding back my love and was holding on to being right instead.” It is very confronting when we wake up to the fact that so much of what we thought was ‘right’ is so very ‘wrong’.

  24. When you first discover the work and the amazingness of it, it is very tempting to want to share it with everyone and I certainly made some big mistakes in trying to share it by telling them. This inevitably comes from the head instead of the heart and it serves the other person not at all. In fact it alienates them if anything. The work is to be shared by living it so others get to see it, not hear words that are not matched by actions.

  25. Love your sharing Michael. We often tend to make these mistakes when we think we have found that one person making a difference in our lives. I did something similar with other modalities/teachers and understandably people would run the other way – it wasn’t truthful.

    As already mentioned when we start to reflect another way of living with out words or impositions, people notice. All we are doing is reflecting to others that we are being our true selves – a huge impact.

  26. Imagine if healing relationship conflicts could be as simple as sharing how we truly feel from our hearts. Such simple medicine could not only save so much conflict but also evolve the quality of how we live.

  27. When we choose to live with love we live with truth; when we choose to live with our hurts we live with lies. One keeps us together, the other keeps us separated.

  28. ‘When I first came to read Serge Benhayon’s books and commenced taking some courses I was very much in my head about the work being presented and began using some of what I had learned in an intellectual way with my friends and family.’

    Getting ourselves out of the way in terms of what Serge Benhayon presents is a challenge in and of itself. For example, Serge has long exhorted us to simply be who we are. 10 years on, I feel I’m only just starting to live this, having spent the last decade in the knowledge of this statement rather than in the livingness of it.

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