A Different Kind of Sunday Session

by RB

It was only 3 years ago, on a Sunday afternoon, that I would be at the pub; listening to live music, drinking a beer or glass of wine after having smoked a joint before leaving the car. I would feel anxious about being there, worrying if I looked good, nervous if guys talked to me, and really quite uncomfortable… but, to avoid feeling all of that, I would just get stoned and have another drink. I would eat junk food as it was easy and cheap. I wasn’t really enjoying myself, but it’s what everyone else was doing, so I thought that I should be doing it too. I did not know any other way.

Last Sunday was so very different, so relaxing, and I enjoyed every moment. I spent my Sunday arvo doing a session swap with a fellow esoteric student. We shared ideas on how to be more responsible with our savings, we discussed healthy recipes, and I shared what I had learnt at a recent workshop with Chris James. We were both connected with each other, listening and expressing, taking the time to fully listen to what each one of us was saying. We both laughed and had a great time.

Thanks to the courses that Universal Medicine has presented, I have learnt so much. What is so great is that instead of just learning, reading and gaining knowledge, I have been able to connect to me again, and make this connection my way of life. The connection to me has been created by my taking the time to tune into my body and feel it – rather than ignoring my body and its loud signals, and living life based on what ‘everyone else is doing’. I no longer need to do certain things at the expense of my body, just to fit in to what society considers normal, even if it is quite harmful.

Now I do know another way, and I wouldn’t want my life to be any different. Being present, aware, drug and alcohol free is what makes me feel so great today.

346 thoughts on “A Different Kind of Sunday Session

  1. We try hard to fit in with friends and life, and however much we kid ourselves that we are having fun it still leaves us with an empty feeling, and a feeling that there has to be something more, lovely to read how you started making true connections and how that changed how you felt, when we drop the bravado of life and make it about connection the whole world opens up.

  2. Meaningful interactions are worth their weight in gold. I know that the reason I went out and partied so much when I was younger was to chase some kind of friendship and intimacy with friends and guys alike. Sometimes it worked and I felt like I had so much fun out, that it proved I was close to the people was I parting with. In the end though, when the tough times came, my friends never pulled through. I was always left feeling empty and sad. I am so glad I am able to experience a new and clean way of spending my time now, one that does not leave me hungover or regretful.

  3. To be able to express yourself to another in honesty and openness, with no holding back is a great gift you give to yourself and those you spend time with. Thank you RB for sharing the real you.

  4. I used to dread Sunday nights as the work week loomed ahead. I would often drink alcohol in an attempt to feel better. Now I look forward to Sunday evening as it is a time when I connect with others and prepare for the week ahead.

  5. Connection with oneself is everything. In connection, there are things you can do and things you would never try. The latter are things that are harming in one way or another.

  6. Gosh that is a completely different Sunday afternoon!!! And sounds so lovely, also really lovely that it involves truly connecting with another person. Years ago my Sunday afternoons would be very similar .. lazy and I would be checked out; now mine are a lot different too. I have just come from a Wellbeing for Women event in London which was absolute gold. Connecting and sharing with other women, appreciating both them and myself (I struggle a bit on the appreciating me part!) which in turn bought a huge confirmation in my body I can feel. It just goes to show our choices our everything and we have the power to turn our lives around completely if we choose. My life is soooooo much more purposeful now than it has ever been and Universal Medicine has been a huge support in helping me with this.

  7. Living a life free of alcohol is something I greatly appreciate, through attending Universal Medicine presentations I felt supported to stop ignoring the truth about alcohol that I had always felt deep down but I had over-ridden this feeling to fit in and be accepted. I have never once ever looked back after making this true choice.

  8. It is amazing how many of us do what the crowd is doing but don’t really enjoy it. If we were all honest and admitted we didn’t want to do it, then the pretense and the need to conform would be gone. After living the first 30 years of my life completely to go along with what others were doing, I can say there is nothing like living your life from your body and what is true for you.

    1. The need to follow the crowd and to be accepted is so strong because we live unconnected to our essence, our amazingness. When we connect to this in my experience what the crowd think is irrelevant. They can think what they like, but I know I am ok. Well in fact a lot more than ok.

  9. Amazing how what we consider a ‘good time’ is completely exposed as abuse when we re-claim a truly supportive way…

  10. I often have a joke about how my weekends are spent now compared to what they have been in the past. It’s become a life live for other to evolve rather than a life live for others to like me.

  11. Sunday’s were a day off, a relax, a treat, a time to catch up at the end of another week etc etc. The problem was that Sunday’s lead to Monday’s and then it was back to work. I remember trying to make Sunday’s last forever and trying to fit as much in as possible which would make Monday’s even worse. It was like the day of the week almost controlled my mood and I still see this around me. Sunday’s are now very different and have a different feel. They still lead to Monday but I take more care on Sunday’s knowing that this day sets my week up and so in that Sunday becomes the week and it brings a different awareness to things. I know what i use to do many years ago on Sundays and it didn’t support me, now my choice is to do on this day like any other day, support myself in what I feel and see and not use it as a day to wipe myself out.

  12. After 40 years of virtually daily alcohol consumption I have not touched a drop for 10 years and not had a desire to even once in all that time, so absolute was my renunciation of the poison I had been calling my friend. The very thought of numbing myself in the way that I used to is abhorrent to me.

  13. Yes I recalled the Sunday sessions when I lived in the UK. The norm was whilst
    Sunday dinner was cooking, the afternoon was down the pub for a few drinks, sometimes so many that the dinner was a blur, I feel I wasted many of my Sundays. Yet when I worked on a Sunday, I would pick my previous partner from the pub, things would look so different, I felt different being around people who were drunk but unfortunately I never questioned it as I felt the odd one out – a cycle I didn’t know how to get out of.

    Since living in Australia, Sunday drinking stopped and I certainly don’t miss it. Since leading up to Universal Medicine workshops, and having regular sessions with Universal Medicine practitioner, the whole normal socialising has been turned upside to downside.

    For me the norm is being sober 7 days a week for 365 days, no matter the occasion, weddings, funerals, public holidays, Easter, Christmas and the list goes on.

    I would much rather spend a Sunday doing the things I want to be doing then things I don’t know what I am doing once the alcohol takes a hold of me.

  14. To be able to feel like you again – that is everything. Living simply, not needing to fit in, and following the cues from our body, is our natural way of being that we know so well, but have temporarily forgotten.

  15. One of the most wonderful things about attending Serge Benhayon presentations is there is a window into a new way of living, a way that is different to the norm most of us have experienced. I would have had no idea this other way of living, this true way of living that is so joyful and harmonious were possible had it not been for Serge Benhayon.

  16. Doing things just to fit in is a common one. How often do we over-ride what we are feeling and just go along with things to avoid a reaction from another?

  17. There is another way of living that what the so called normal life shows us. We can enjoy each other’s company without alcohol, rich foods, or drugs. We can be together joyfully without sport or movies to engage us. We can be ourselves in a way that is very precious and loving.

  18. Only by truly starting to like ourselves do we begin a relationship/connection with ourselves. When we choose to take drugs or drink alcohol or do/eat anything that takes us away from ourselves, we don’t really like ourselves very much, or we have chosen to like something else over our bodies.

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