Purpose: Discovering & Nurturing Who You Truly Are

by Dr Rachel Hall, Holistic Dentist, Kenmore, Australia

I’ve been working on being more gentle and nurturing towards myself, taking life slower and being kinder with my self talk and actions for some years now.

When I first began to be more in tune with me and my body I recognised that I had a continuous underlying nervous tension and anxiety running like an undercurrent in my body. When I contemplated and felt into this anxiety I realised I had spent most of my life from being a teenager (and possibly even younger) in a state of angst, wondering what on earth I was here for, what was the purpose to life and more deeply and importantly, what was MY purpose.

By the age of 34 the need to find MY purpose became all consuming. I found myself almost constantly questioning – “what’s my purpose, what is it that I am here to do, what’s my calling?” “Is this all there is – eat, sleep, work and repeat ad infinitum?” Surely there had to be more.

As 35 approached my need to find my purpose, my calling, intensified; what was the part I was to play in the grand scheme of life? I searched in vain and almost quit my profession so I could try something new – healer, teacher, counsellor, coach?

But this is where the problem lies. When we consider our purpose to be something external, we may never find it. When we attach purpose to a goal, activity or a vocation, we are likely setting ourselves up for failure or disappointment.

And this is exactly what I believed until 9 years ago when I started to apply the teachings of the Ageless Wisdom (via Universal Medicine) to my life.

Purpose has nothing to do with what you do. Purpose is about discovering and nurturing who you truly are: to know and love yourself and to reflect that love to the World.

That’s IT!

Of course you can have passion for life and the things that you do. But they are just that, things you enjoy doing. They are essential to the quality of your life, but not to your inner quality.

Purpose does not hinge on your getting that job, a pay rise, meeting the right partner, having kids or not, being liked or having loads of friends on Facebook. Purpose is something else entirely….

What if your purpose is very different than what you’ve been taught to believe?

What if your purpose is to build an everlasting relationship with yourself, to fall deeply in love with the precious you?

What if your purpose is to deeply care for yourself and gently heal and by doing so, become a role model for others to do the same?

What if your purpose is to release all shame and feelings of unworthiness and find your vulnerability and fragility?

What if your purpose is to teach yourself that there is no such thing as perfection… and that your never ending pursuit of it is destroying your life and your relationships?

What if your purpose is to elevate your energy and that of the world around you?

What if your purpose is to develop an everlasting faith in yourself, to remember your Divinity and treat yourself accordingly?

What if your purpose is to take impeccable care of yourself so that you have the energy and joy to serve others?

Take a moment to consider the possibility that your purpose is about finding yourself.

Consider that your self-worth has nothing to do with your craft or calling and everything to do with how you treat yourself and your inner quality.

I’ve met brilliant and successful people whose lives appear incredible from the outside but who are a mess on the inside; full of bitterness, meanness, sadness or self-loathing etc.

Imagine what we could accomplish if we moved from loathing to love, if we knew that no matter how important our mission, our inner purpose matters even more.

People are like plants, we all lean towards the light.

You are the light. Your inner purpose is to connect with that light and become the love that you naturally are.

255 thoughts on “Purpose: Discovering & Nurturing Who You Truly Are

  1. Life can be a real struggle when we make it about drive or motivation, because we are already looking at the final outcome it comes with expectations, yet purpose has no expectation it is a movement that allows us to do whatever is needed to be done without needing know what that is.

  2. What if our purpose is not about us at all, but about aligning to a greater purpose, a greater plan – knowing and understanding that we are a part of something so much greater than ourselves. In that greater purpose, we find that we are taken care of. It has nothing to do with the ‘what’ but everything to do with the quality that we’re in: so there could be just as much purpose in resting and taking care of ourselves, as there is to running a global project. It feels like the way we connect to true purpose – i.e. what’s truly needed – is through our bodies: feeling what to do, when and how to do it. True purpose then is like medicine for the body – it revitalises us and connects us to the world and to one another.

  3. When we connect to purpose we become aware that every move we make has a greater purpose than just for ourselves which has a significant ripple effect on others.

  4. Finding our purpose becomes an all-consuming obsession because the fear of not finding it can mean we search outside of ourselves with high anxiety. The feeling in our body when we realise that we don’t have to go anywhere but to build a relationship with ourselves, is something that brings a settlement to the body that once felt, cannot be forgotten.

  5. ‘What if your purpose is to take impeccable care of yourself so that you have the energy and joy to serve others?’ I have experienced that working in health-care without loving care for myself, is a ticket for a burnt out. After many years I am back in health-care taking care for myself based on my self-worth, and there is so much joy to serve and to care for others, I could not have done this without bringing love and care to my precious body. And still I have a lot to learn about the relationship with my body, but there is a foundation which I have built in the last couple of years of understanding and appreciating who I am.

  6. Beautifully said ‘But this is where the problem lies. When we consider our purpose to be something external, we may never find it.’ I am becoming more and more aware that our purpose is not about doing but about being …. all that we are in every given moment ✨

  7. First I love this sentence which will help a lot: “Purpose has nothing to do with what you do. Purpose is about discovering and nurturing who you truly are: to know and love yourself and to reflect that love to the World.” The next one I will take to heart is “What if your purpose is to elevate your energy and that of the world around you?” Reading this was what I needed right now, thanks Rachel.

  8. It is very true Rachel that it is commonly believed that ‘purpose’ means to do something, to achieve, to have a goal in life, yet as you have shared this level of purpose never satisfies or fulfills. If we look deeper within to who we are in essence will find that we are love, and as such our true purpose is to live love in every aspect of our lives. Therefore, our purpose would be to be who we are and stand for the love we are all here to live together.

  9. One part of looking after ourselves is that we can become more effective even though we seemingly work more slowly and steadily, just without the tension and the drive.

  10. I love coming back to this blog, its like sitting next to a cosy log fire that is radiating and filling the space around with so much warmth and love and there is nothing to do but soak it all in.

  11. The question regarding purpose (what is my purpose) is one that is not always asked and much less answered properly. The usual question is more, what would I like to do for a living or what would I like to work on? Two very different questions regarding ourselves, our lives. The first question contains the potential of everything. The second one, directs us to a portion of the everything we choose.

  12. ‘What if your purpose is to build an everlasting relationship with yourself, to fall deeply in love with the precious you?’ This feels like true purpose to me as it ask you to go inwards and connect with all the wisdom, awareness and intelligence that we hold within that can guide us through life. Life was never meant to be a struggle.

  13. I am also taking life a lot slower, and in doing so, doing things in a different quality, no more rushing around, and my self talk has also got a lot more loving, though still have to be observant, as frustration (with self) still likes to creep in when I am not looking! And that is not loving.

  14. This is a brilliant blog! I was just pondering on what was my purpose, and how does one connect to purpose, knowing that it is not something outside of oneself. This blog was a timely read, and also a confirmation of how much I am living purpose, without perfection and always still learning.

  15. I can feel the hollowness of trying to do life without knowing oneself, and how that has left many feeling defeated and lost in life.

    1. Those words really hit home: ‘trying to do life without knowing oneself’, feels a huge struggle, and actually it was, having walked that path for a long time. When the student is ready the teacher appears, and life delivers exactly what you need to change direction, an opportunity to make different choices.

    2. Yes, I have met many people who live that way but we may still prefer to live that way rather than be responsible and looking after ourselves as that seems to make little difference from that lost and defeated place. Thankfully that is completely wrong.

  16. ‘What if your purpose is to deeply care for yourself and gently heal and by doing so, become a role model for others to do the same?’ there are so many in the world who would benefit from living with greater self care and to see people who are already living that makes it easier for all of us to align.

  17. ‘Purpose has nothing to do with what you do. Purpose is about discovering and nurturing who you truly are: to know and love yourself and to reflect that love to the World.’ Pure Gold Rachel Hall, thank you. We will never find true purpose in what we do, for it is in who we are that true fulfilment comes.

  18. This is a total different package of purpose most people think purpose is. And by living that I will actually do much for the world that is noteworthy and important. But with a true foundation of purpose, the one you describe, underneath.

  19. Yes, Rachel you are fully right. And the trick is to really embody this and feel the absolute joy of it, and not make this into an ideal which we live from the head. Dangerous, as ideals, also this one will destroy one’s body.

  20. We think our purpose is to put ourselves out there, by becoming successful, doing great deeds or accomplishments, making a name for ourselves, becoming a mover or shaker in life, any and all of life’s activities, this is living life outside of ourselves, when the opposite is really our true purpose, to connect deep within to the love that we are and tenderly bring this love to ourselves first and foremost and then bring this love out into the world as the divine reflection of who we all truly are.

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