Exposing the False Perception of a Perfect Life

I was living a seemingly perfect life and was feeling normal living with my emotions and selective memories of the good times I’ve had.

I was under the impression that I had worked out what life was about and had the illusion of being in control. I couldn’t fault anything physically as everything looked picture perfect, but there was a constant feeling that something was lacking. Life felt like a tasteless strawberry made out of plastic, but it seemed no one was aware of this except me.

About four years ago I came across the books and presentations of Serge Benhayon and found them of great interest. Every time I attended a workshop or had a conversation with Serge, everything he presented was simple and made perfect sense to me.

He was talking about self-care, self-love and being with oneself. For example, I realised there is no self-love or self-care when one makes a choice to drink alcohol or to climb Mount Everest, where the fingers might freeze and may need to be amputated surgically.

If we consider ourselves the most intelligent species on this planet, why would we consider choosing such behaviours that are so harmful to our bodies? He presented simple talks that made me reflect on my own ingrained and unloving behaviours.

However, I found the most important message was that living what you have learnt is far more powerful than just knowing it.

Once you start living the knowledge, you become the living, breathing example of this truth without needing to remember any words of wisdom. For example, when I apply cream on my body gently, with love and care, the yumminess is felt in the body, and due to this simple, self-loving act, I feel nurtured as a result.

Once that feeling is registered in my body, there is no need to remember that gently applying cream is supportive. It becomes a livingness instead of just mental knowledge and words. This livingness feels like embodying the knowledge as a natural way of being.

After every encounter with Serge Benhayon, I observed and noted the changes in my awareness.

I became more and more aware of my obvious patterns and ingrained behaviours, such as the simple act of turning on the TV. In doing so, I became aware that on many occasions, I used it to distract myself rather than dealing with something inside me that needed resolution.

I also became aware that every behaviour that did not contain a feeling of centeredness or stillness had hurt, anxiety and nervousness hidden underneath it. I saw that my lack of life skills (the arrogance delivered through my mind would not agree, but this is a fact) made it difficult for me to deal with many situations in life. I observed how I often wanted to run away, or push someone away, blame others and manipulate situations.

All these things were OK in my so-called ‘normal’ life, but they were not loving. They were just ways to merely cope with life.

Today I feel that I’m living my life with more awareness than I ever had before and this is ongoing and ever deepening.

I have found that self-awareness is the key to my evolution and is what brings me true joy in life. This awareness allows me to see things as they truly are and has completely changed my perception of life.

In this constant flux of self-awareness, I ask myself:

  • How did I wake up from my bed? Is my body refreshed and ready for another day or do I need to drag myself out of bed because I have to go to work or to do something that needs to be done?
  • How am I walking? Am I walking with loving feet or just to get from one place to another to get the job done?
  • How am I eating? Am I eating to nurture myself, or just to put the food in my body to get through the day; or do I want to distract myself by consuming certain comfort foods so I do not feel what’s really going on in a situation?
  • How am I speaking? Am I present and in connection with the person I’m talking to?

The list goes on for every activity in my life, with awareness and love being at the core of every one of them.

The more I choose to be present in each moment, the more I can express from self-awareness.

My life has become an amazing journey and the fun part is that the loveliness never ends and is forever evolving.

by Haresh

Further Reading:
Self-abuse Under the Umbrella of Making it Right
A Sacred Relationship with Self – Inspired by Natalie Benhayon
Choosing Stop Moments in My Life

783 thoughts on “Exposing the False Perception of a Perfect Life

  1. Love it Haresh – it is so true: self awareness is a huge joy. As you become to see and feel the space to what you do and choose, we for example can become aware of why we eat certain things at a certain time and or if we indulge for example in watching TV. Life becomes more fun as we observe our ways (choices) and to also change them and see the loving effect that that is having is great. But more wisely is to use the awareness to lift yourself up constantly to the next level and allow others to see what you are living by sharing that in your living way.

  2. Beautiful sharing Haresh, thank you, life becomes all about awareness and a continual deepening of our self awareness, so that by observing our movements we can choose to deepen our self love which brings in so much joy.

  3. It is great how you share about wisdom coming from our livingness and not our mind. This is in many ways the defining issue of humanity for a long long time. We have been talking and talking about concepts, theories, and ideas but have they truly worked? Not many have and this is because not many have taken to truly living what they are saying as it is only through living truth that life actually starts to change its quality.

    1. Very true Joshua. Our bodies will always reflect the truth of what is actually being lived regardless of the whatever knowledge is spoken or concepts are idealised. Hence the value in developing a loving and honoring relationship with our bodies being, and living in connection to our inner-wisdom and what feels true.

  4. Great blog Haresh. A picture perfect life that looks good but tastes like a plastic strawberry as you say, can be quite dangerous. There really is nothing to fault if all the boxes are ticked and when they are ticked – what is left to do? That’s when we have to move out of doing and into being, but with a momentum of life being based on what you do, that shift can be challenging and a helping hand is most welcome.

  5. “I have found that self-awareness is the key to my evolution and is what brings me true joy in life. This awareness allows me to see things as they truly are and has completely changed my perception of life.” This is beautiful Haresh. I too spent years searching for something because life felt lacking. I went from one spiritual practice to another as none of them offered what I was looking for and none of the presenters lived the knowledge they presented. This all changed when I met Serge Benhayon and attended Universal Medicine presentations.

  6. I would say someone would have to be in extreme resistance to their own love not to be inspired on some level by Serge Benhayon and how he lives, The Way of The Livingness. And yes ‘If we consider ourselves the most intelligent species on this planet, why would we consider choosing such behaviours that are so harmful to our bodies?’ Why indeed would we even consider such things let alone do them!!! Drugs, smoking, alcohol, over-eating, putting our bodies through extreme sports/things. This alone, if we truly allow ourselves to stop and feel, tells us something is not right. This would tell me despite our so called ‘evolution’ we are still not truly dealing with our hurts, anxieties, nervousness, anger, frustration etc, etc. I love the sharing of the questions you asked yourself; ‘How did I wake up from my bed …’ and simple questions like these are great place to start and simply bring it back to how are we living and how much are we loving ourselves.

  7. We have all been socialized in reductionism. We know how to reduce ourselves; we know how to ‘invite’ others to reduce; we know how to live in reduction mood; we know how it feels. Of course, familiar as it may be, the underlying tension of reductionism does not go away. We can do something or nothing about this. In spite of it, the moment we are presented with something that allows us to put a name to it and to feel what happens to the body when we connect deeply to something we feel is absolutely true, the number of days of the game we were part of are counted if we embrace what we now know is true and walk (with) it.

  8. “Once you start living the knowledge, you become the living, breathing example of this truth without needing to remember any words of wisdom” – so simple. No need to memorise, the truth becomes us.

  9. Self-care and self-love is the foundation upon which we can strive forth in our own evolution, living day to day in the knowing that we already are everything and just needs to be confirmed in our bodies that know the true essence of our being-ness.

  10. The livingness is certainly about how we are living and bringing more loving choices into our days. It might look a little different for everyone, but your example of applying cream is a great example. if you do this in a way that is gentle and honouring of your body, then nurturing yourself is a natural result of this.

  11. “I also became aware that every behaviour that did not contain a feeling of centeredness or stillness had hurt, anxiety and nervousness hidden underneath it”. Haresh here you have shared a beautiful and clear expose of the fact, that when we feel disharmonious in any situation that there is a lesson being presented to us which needs our attention.

  12. I agree Haresh, it is more powerful and inspiring for another to see the Livingness being lived rather than knowledge being spoken without any true experience of it.

  13. The willingness to be honest with how we are really feeling, brings awareness to the choices we make and why, as such empowers us to make the adjustments needed in order for us to live a life the is guided by our truth and love within. The Way of The Livingness is all about that, learning to live life guided by our relationship with our inner-heart, with love and truth, where real enrichment and fulfilment is known and experienced through the quality of connection we choose to live with.

  14. I agree Haresh, life is an amazing journey which continuingly unfolds as we become more open, and willing to see more. What really stands out for me is to what extent we are living as less when we are stuck in our own issues. Making self-loving choices as you have done, just goes to prove that there is a light at the end of the tunnel and that life does not have to be a burden.

  15. What I love most about this piece is how your evolution is based on a stream of questions that encourage you to constantly go deeper in to your awareness and in to your connection with your body.

  16. Living from what the body knows within offers us an amazing abundance of depth, clarity and wisdom that we can tap into anytime and the beauty is that we can then walk hand in hand with the body and move from what it shares to express ourselves in full appreciation of the vehicles we are in too. pretty amazing for us all.

  17. ‘The fun part is that the loveliness never ends and is forever evolving’. This point is worth appreciating as it is true there is no end and hence it is never too late to begin making changes. We have an opportunity every moment to begin anew and live how we truly feel. Very simple.

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