This morning I realised the impact that certain common sayings have had in affecting my choices throughout my life. We tend to think that a saying or proverb is used by a loved one with fondness, as an ‘endearing’ turn of phrase, but are they really supporting us?
As a young girl, one saying I can remember clearly being told to me regularly by my Gran was, “Cold hands, warm heart.” I remember her having very cold hands so it was reassuring to me that she had a warm heart.
The more disturbing fact was that I grew up having warm hands myself all the time, and lived with a little niggle at the back of my mind for many years that my heart would never be as warm as my Grandma’s.
I have to say my hands are not always so warm now, but whatever their temperature I never worry about the warmth in my heart.
I was planning to go for a walk this morning as we had the first sunny day in ages. One of my mother’s favorite sayings was, “Out you go and don’t waste your day,” which she used as she hustled us outdoors as soon as the rain stopped, and this came to mind as I looked at the sun this morning.
I could not decide where to go and was just putting on my shoes when I realised my body was needing to be still, not to walk, and despite the unusually warm morning and the lovely sun, I did not want to go outside. This morning I had gone into “Out you go, don’t waste your day” mode, (a common trap) rather than listening to my body and what it needed. So instead of walking, I chose to lie down for a gorgeous esoteric yoga session and connect to the stillness within. It would be this stillness that I would take with me later if I chose to walk.
There are so many proverbs and sayings used in our everyday language and we maybe each have our own familiar ones we grew up with or identify with, and which perhaps still return to now and again, influencing our choices if we don’t catch them.
Here are a few of the many that I have come across at times:
“When the going gets tough, the tough get going.”
Definition – Push harder when something is not working.
“If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.”
Definition – if something is working, regardless of its quality, there is no reason to change it.
“If you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em.”
Definition – if your way of doing something is not working, do it as others do, even if you don’t agree with their way.
“Familiarity breeds contempt.”
Definition – If you get too close to someone, you will lose respect for them.
Reading the above sayings now I can see that they:
- Deliver no truth
- Feel empty
- Encourage comparison
- Discourage unity
- Ask us not to trust our inner feelings
Could it be that most sayings actually can stunt our communication and are used when we are unwilling to go deeper with our expression?
And could sayings be having a negative impact on our lives and the choices we are making? Could they actually provide us with an excuse to remain comfortable with the status quo, fit in with others, avoid intimacy and thus give us an excuse not to shine? As we can see from the examples above, what seems at first like an innocent comment does not hold truth yet can be taken on as true.
As a student of Universal Medicine I have many times opened my Esoteric and Exoteric Philosophy ‘The Sayings’ book by Serge Benhayon. The sayings in this book don’t just speak to my mind as rules to obey or regurgitate: as I read, I can feel the words in my whole body – they vibrate throughout my cells.
Sometimes this leaves me feeling expanded and light and other times I feel a tension in my body. This tension is a gift for it is telling me I am more than I am choosing to live and is pulling me up to my next level of evolution.
Each word carries equal importance and reading these sayings I am left to simply feel me – all of me. No ideals or beliefs asking me to hold back, fit in, push harder, stop shining, but words which expose evil and inspire me to be more responsible in life. There is a depth and wealth of knowledge within these words that no other book of sayings can even touch on.
This is a book of sayings that delivers Truth. It asks us to consider that we are so much more than human beings using function as the way to get through life, and that we are living a long way from our true, natural way of being.
Through these heaven-sent words we are reminded that in our essence we are all love and we can all return home to love if we choose it. It reminds us that we are held in the magnificence of God’s love always.
‘Taking energetic responsibility for all that one does and all that one says and thinks is truth in power, for one will see exactly how we can harm or heal in all that we do, say and think. That’s true power!’ (Esoteric and Exoteric Philosophy “The Sayings” by Serge Benhayon, p 181)
By Jane Torvaney, Physiotherapist, Scotland