My First Impression of Serge Benhayon

My first impression of Serge Benhayon has never changed since I met him about ten years ago. I felt the great love and care he had for me and everyone around him, equally so.

Serge Benhayon | Founder of Universal Medicine
Serge Benhayon | Founder of Universal Medicine

At that time, I was really struggling in life. I had almost given up on therapy – I’d tried Primal Scream Therapy, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and general counselling. I remember a psychiatrist assessing me at one point and asking why was I being assessed: was it to determine if I was crazy or not? At one point I even had my own Community Psychiatric Nurse assigned to me. I didn’t know what other avenues to pursue to overcome a general feeling of daily depression and futility.

I was still trying to achieve what I felt the world was telling me would deliver me happiness: a career, a loving relationship, a family, and the perfect body and to be really fit. A personal ambition of mine was to be a really impressive surfer.

Deep down, I knew that achieving any number of these things wouldn’t fulfil me, but I still clung to the possibility that achieving them would. I’d already discovered living in the most beautiful place in the world hadn’t brought me any happiness as I just cried for days on end. I’d also completed my degree but this also didn’t give me a well-paid job, as I was told it would. I was in a desperate state but didn’t want to admit it.

I kept on distracting myself with trying to achieve perfection in myself and my life and anytime I came close, I put a spanner in the works to start all over again.

I was very lost, really struggling, but trying at all costs to cover up this fact. I was still going out drinking, smoking weed, but had given up other drugs. I was super skinny and had an eating disorder that was all consuming – I thought about little else but food. I couldn’t string a sentence together and was really jumbled in what I said. I was dyslexic and awkward with people because I felt a great sense of worthlessness, at the same time as feeling very arrogant in that I knew better than other people.

I struggled to connect with people and kept myself hidden. I took on jobs that involved lots of time alone. Although very conscientious to never put a foot wrong and to prove myself an excellent worker, I didn’t like working alongside managers because I had issues with authority. I had a few friends but was aware of how needy I was, so I wasn’t very sociable as I didn’t want to expose how desperate I was for company. I was very lonely even though I was in a relationship – which wasn’t the most loving, albeit very conventional.

Meeting Serge Benhayon for the First Time

When I met Serge Benhayon for the first time, I was a mess… incredibly insecure and defensive. I was in a constant state of frustration, knowing there was more to me than this protective facade I was living, but unable to unlock and express who I was.

When I met Serge I felt instantly that he knew who I truly was. I felt he saw my true worth and that all the walls I’d put around myself were paper-thin. I felt I was loved and accepted unconditionally without having to do a thing.

All the crazy things I berated myself for each day didn’t matter… I was seen and met for the first time ever. I could feel he knew my true worth way more than I ever did.

I remember wearing a white dove and him saying something about it being a symbol of coming home and that’s what this meeting felt like – I was coming home to me and to what I always knew was true. Over the years I have dragged my heels in coming home. I’ve not wanted to admit the extent of the harm of the activities I’ve put a lot of energy into that had harmed me or others. I’ve kept a belief that I was beyond redemption and this was accompanied by an immense guilt.

Knowing Serge Benhayon has Changed my Life

Serge Benhayon has been a constant reflection of my worth, regardless of how I have lived. The love and respect he has shown me has never, ever faltered over the years I have known him, no matter how much I myself have. Seeing how he is deeply caring and loving with everyone he meets has helped me to trust in love again and begin to trust and love myself.

I have made major changes in my life. I know I’ll never drink or take any drugs again, I don’t drink caffeine because I feel its effects and I don’t over-exercise or do things I feel ill after, like surfing in heavy seas.

I no longer feel the world owes me, but that I actually have a quality I can give back to humanity by sharing and expressing. This is amazing in itself as I used to steal anything I could from department stores as a late teen… yes, I am still working on accepting this but can understand how angry and addicted to excitement I was at the time. I was desperate to feel alive.

Feeling my beauty reflected back to me from my interactions with Serge, and being totally honoured and respected, has allowed me to consider and experience my beauty as being on the inside and not on being what is deemed physically attractive. I’ve been able to re-connect to being a woman and respecting that for myself. I’ve understood relationships between men and woman can be deeply honouring of each other so I’ve said ‘No’ to abusive relationships.

I am starting to build a relationship with myself that isn’t wholly self-critical and judgemental. I’ve started to be more tender with how I am with myself and treat myself lovingly.

I may well be slow on the uptake in this regard, but I was horrid to myself – a constant torrent of ‘should be better’ and ‘not good enough’ – now I’m letting go of these beliefs, knowing I am lovely just for being me. I’m learning how to express in the world and be responsible, and not a victim or subservient. I’m finally tackling how I self-sabotaged myself with food and checking-out from the world. I am beginning to trust what I feel and put it into loving action where required.

I never feel lonely now, which is amazing. I have a completely different attitude to work; I’m there to do all that I can to support people, even if this means saying things I know they may not want to hear. I love meeting new people and am very at ease with people – I often chat and joke in supermarket queues etc. I also like my own company and going for walks by myself, but not to escape the world.

All this because I met a man called Serge Benhayon who reflected back to me how amazing I am.  All this because I saw him reflect back to everyone how amazing we all are and in that I learned we are all equal – I am no less and no more than another, I do not need to do anything to gain favour, and I know that we all bring something uniquely golden to the table that no other can.

Competition is pointless, and appreciation of oneself and others is key if we are to come together to make living joyful, meaningful and fun. My first impression of Serge Benhayon has never changed, but my life certainly has!

By K.B. (UK)

Serge Benhayon | Founder of Universal Medicine Serge Benhayon is an author and presenter and the founder of Universal Medicine. You can learn more about Serge Benhayon at his personal website www.sergebenhayon.com

Follow Serge Benhayon on Twitter @SergeBenhayon or on Google+ +SergeBenhayon

Further Reading:
Inspired by Serge Benhayon & Universal Medicine: Feeling the True Me
“Serge Benhayon Said…”
How I Changed my Life – Thanks to Serge Benhayon

920 thoughts on “My First Impression of Serge Benhayon

  1. The lives of so many people have been touched and changed by this wise man, Serge Benhayon. It only goes to show how every single one of us has the potential to inspire another in our everyday life – in the way we talk to people, sometimes one interaction can lead to a life change for somebody and we may not even know it.

  2. It is a truly amazing turnaround, and one of many lives changed by the inspiration of Serge Benhayon. “I’ve not wanted to admit the extent of the harm of the activities I’ve put a lot of energy into that had harmed me or others.”, this line exposes so much about human behaviour and society in general, we just do not have loving role models, we know our parents do the best they can but on a generational level the coping mechanisms we learn are generally quite harmful.

  3. Reading the first part of this amazing journey makes me realize how many people in this world are completely lost in such a way. And how many are diagnosed with having a psychological problem, when in fact what in many cases is taking place, is the inability to cope with the intensity of daily life. I could have ended up having a psychological health problem as well, like anxiousness or depression, but thankfully one day I made the choice to come across Universal Medicine. Today I feel deeply supported to approach my life in a very different way than in the past. I’m feeling more equipped to live joyfully and very open to whatever challenges comes my way. Living from a place of stillness and connecting with this quality daily, is allowing me to accept life as it is and enjoy more than ever before.

  4. This is not a utopia story with a happy ending, but a real experience from a woman who has taken the courage to connect deeper with herself. K.B by reading your words I can feel the enormous support you received from Serge Benhayon just by being met for who you really are. This reminds me how important it is to meet others without expectations or judgment, but from the equality of the heart. It has been life-changing for us and can be the same for others.

  5. My experience has shown you need to hear things first hand, so when I first met Serge I had first-hand experience with what he was sharing and it all made total sense. Today with much misinformation online that key principle still stands, if we are open to have a true conversation then have this first hand. Serge is my role model, in that he stands and lives a way of life that I am inspired by.

    1. Serge is a role model, that for me, can only be one of deep inspiration. I have been making changes to the way that I live so that I too can be more vital and joyful in myself and more loving towards others.

  6. My first impression of serge Benhayon was that he was a man of integrity and that feeling has never changed over the years.

  7. “I’ve not wanted to admit the extent of the harm of the activities I’ve put a lot of energy into that had harmed me or others.” I found exactly that the not wanting to admit and feel how harming things have been, keeps us away from truly healing why we chose what we chose. It’s like when we admit it, it’s super easy to let go, as when we do so from a point of understanding why we did things, we get to feel it was not the true us and that we were not ourselves. So it becomes about being who we are now instead of avoiding our past choices.

  8. “I no longer feel the world owes me, but that I actually have a quality I can give back to humanity by sharing and expressing.” this is pure gold, having this as your foundation in life is so unique and yet is there for all of us. Lovely to read and be inspired by.

  9. “I never feel lonely now, which is amazing.” When we reconnect to our inner being and to God we know we are never alone.

  10. When I first met Serge Benhayon I felt safe, supported, interested, met, appreciated, understood, inspired, normal and many other things besides, and he felt very fatherly in a true sense and he is almost the same age as me, so its not about that, but a quality in which he loves us all.

  11. Serge Benhayon is an incredible stupendous and wonderful person, for more reasons and ways than I could ever list on this page. There are not enough words, not enough moments in the day that could give an accurate description of what this man has given to the world. He is precious, and deserves to be treated so.

  12. My first impression of Serge Benhayon was that he was a very loving and caring man and that has never changed. In fact my first impression has been confirmed over and over again.

  13. When we are connected to the love that we are and is all around us we never feel lonely. When we are disconnected to ourselves and thus others it is devastating.

  14. It is quite a turnaround from thinking the world owes us to being in true service, coming from an overflowing and giving back to society.

  15. It is quite the thing, to write in such plain and simple words, that you were ‘horrid’ to yourself. And this touches me deeply, your honesty, and I find it inspiring too.

  16. Yes, Serge Benhayon simply reminds us how amazing we are. We have created a world where we constantly have to prove ourselves but never are in truth allowed to simply be ourselves. When we start to be ourselves and learn to look after ourselves with love and care we begin to blossom and our true and real potential unfolds.

  17. Meeting Serge Benhayon has changed many people’s life, and there are billions more others who could do so well with meeting him, he definitely is the one, but so are all of us. If we are saying yes to what is being presented by Serge, then let’s make that yes be a full one and take it all the way.

  18. What we invest in is key and when we come to realise what we have been choosing has been harming us and others it can be challenging to admit it. We can pride ourselves on what we have invested in and don’t want to truly admit how harmful it really has been. When we let go of those investments it becomes a lot clearer how much of a hold they had you in.

  19. The consistent quality and integrity that Serge Benhayon offers to all unconditionally, is truly inspiring to witness over many years, and not only is he consistent but also deepens in the love that he holds everyone in.

  20. We all crave to truly connect and be met. We look for love whether we know it or not. Serge Benhayon knows who he is and therefore knows who everyone is and thus we all get that incredible experience of being truly met by him. To be met by another is to meet ourselves and the more we meet ourselves that more we meet others.

  21. When the world is a complete mess and you become aware of the harmful way we all live and have not yet discovered there is another way to live – then it makes sense to feel upset about it all. Therefore what we call sick and needing psychiatric assessment is in many ways actually healthy. The fact is that the whole system is sick and not those that do not accept the harmful way of living. Thank God for Serge Benhayon, and The Way of The Livingness which shows us how to live as Gods in this crazy world we have created!

  22. This is the beauty when we are met by somebody who sees the true us instead of judging all the behaviours we have taken on to cope with the world. Because then we get confirmed who we truly are and can start to live this again, step by step unfolding our own inner beauty out and bring this to the world.

  23. A true coming home is bitter sweet in the sense that there is the absolute joy we feel in this reunion, coupled with the aching pain that we have lived for so long divorced from this beauty.

    1. The joy of all that we are and the ouch of all that we are not and have allowed and absorbed. However, once we are truly on the path of return and let go of more and more of who we are not, that joy just keeps expanding and expanding for who we are knows no limits!

      1. Feeling joy-full is not difficult for us, for how can it be when it is a quality of the Soul and therefore something that lives and breathes within us all? Pretty much all of us were born a ‘bundle of joy’ no matter what circumstance we were born into or how quickly this changed. What is difficult for us as humans is letting go of all the attachments, securities, ideals, beliefs and images that have stood between us and God and therefore have stood between us and the immeasurable amount of joy we have access to when we begin to free ourselves of these things.

  24. I too felt like I was coming home the moment I met Serge Benhayon for the first time. Here was a man who actually saw the real me, the one I had buried under so many hurts and issues, a beautiful man who never judged me for one moment for how I had lived, and how I was still living. I used to kid myself I could hide all the yucky stuff from him but that was an absolute waste of effort as when he saw me he saw the divine being I am before anything that was not divine, and in that beautiful confirmation he offered me the opportunity and the space to begin to heal; and healing I am.

  25. ‘I no longer feel the world owes me, but that I actually have a quality I can give back to humanity by sharing and expressing.’ This is a profound shift K.B., when we embrace our qualities and express them to the world we offer a reflection to others that is powerful and inspiring.

  26. Serge is an incredibly un-imposing man, who never sees anyone as lesser nor greater, but knows that we are all equal and that there is nothing more important than the connection with the other and our divinity. What a gift to our world to be re-introduced to a true and honouring way of being with each other.

  27. My first impression of Serge Benhayon was how ordinary he was, and that has never changed. He is the most ordinary, extraordinary man I know.

    1. So true Elizabeth, he does not want or need anything from you and yet he remains so open and consistent in the way he holds himself.

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