My First Impression of Serge Benhayon

My first impression of Serge Benhayon has never changed since I met him about ten years ago. I felt the great love and care he had for me and everyone around him, equally so.

Serge Benhayon | Founder of Universal Medicine
Serge Benhayon | Founder of Universal Medicine

At that time, I was really struggling in life. I had almost given up on therapy – I’d tried Primal Scream Therapy, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and general counselling. I remember a psychiatrist assessing me at one point and asking why was I being assessed: was it to determine if I was crazy or not? At one point I even had my own Community Psychiatric Nurse assigned to me. I didn’t know what other avenues to pursue to overcome a general feeling of daily depression and futility.

I was still trying to achieve what I felt the world was telling me would deliver me happiness: a career, a loving relationship, a family, and the perfect body and to be really fit. A personal ambition of mine was to be a really impressive surfer.

Deep down, I knew that achieving any number of these things wouldn’t fulfil me, but I still clung to the possibility that achieving them would. I’d already discovered living in the most beautiful place in the world hadn’t brought me any happiness as I just cried for days on end. I’d also completed my degree but this also didn’t give me a well-paid job, as I was told it would. I was in a desperate state but didn’t want to admit it.

I kept on distracting myself with trying to achieve perfection in myself and my life and anytime I came close, I put a spanner in the works to start all over again.

I was very lost, really struggling, but trying at all costs to cover up this fact. I was still going out drinking, smoking weed, but had given up other drugs. I was super skinny and had an eating disorder that was all consuming – I thought about little else but food. I couldn’t string a sentence together and was really jumbled in what I said. I was dyslexic and awkward with people because I felt a great sense of worthlessness, at the same time as feeling very arrogant in that I knew better than other people.

I struggled to connect with people and kept myself hidden. I took on jobs that involved lots of time alone. Although very conscientious to never put a foot wrong and to prove myself an excellent worker, I didn’t like working alongside managers because I had issues with authority. I had a few friends but was aware of how needy I was, so I wasn’t very sociable as I didn’t want to expose how desperate I was for company. I was very lonely even though I was in a relationship – which wasn’t the most loving, albeit very conventional.

Meeting Serge Benhayon for the First Time

When I met Serge Benhayon for the first time, I was a mess… incredibly insecure and defensive. I was in a constant state of frustration, knowing there was more to me than this protective facade I was living, but unable to unlock and express who I was.

When I met Serge I felt instantly that he knew who I truly was. I felt he saw my true worth and that all the walls I’d put around myself were paper-thin. I felt I was loved and accepted unconditionally without having to do a thing.

All the crazy things I berated myself for each day didn’t matter… I was seen and met for the first time ever. I could feel he knew my true worth way more than I ever did.

I remember wearing a white dove and him saying something about it being a symbol of coming home and that’s what this meeting felt like – I was coming home to me and to what I always knew was true. Over the years I have dragged my heels in coming home. I’ve not wanted to admit the extent of the harm of the activities I’ve put a lot of energy into that had harmed me or others. I’ve kept a belief that I was beyond redemption and this was accompanied by an immense guilt.

Knowing Serge Benhayon has Changed my Life

Serge Benhayon has been a constant reflection of my worth, regardless of how I have lived. The love and respect he has shown me has never, ever faltered over the years I have known him, no matter how much I myself have. Seeing how he is deeply caring and loving with everyone he meets has helped me to trust in love again and begin to trust and love myself.

I have made major changes in my life. I know I’ll never drink or take any drugs again, I don’t drink caffeine because I feel its effects and I don’t over-exercise or do things I feel ill after, like surfing in heavy seas.

I no longer feel the world owes me, but that I actually have a quality I can give back to humanity by sharing and expressing. This is amazing in itself as I used to steal anything I could from department stores as a late teen… yes, I am still working on accepting this but can understand how angry and addicted to excitement I was at the time. I was desperate to feel alive.

Feeling my beauty reflected back to me from my interactions with Serge, and being totally honoured and respected, has allowed me to consider and experience my beauty as being on the inside and not on being what is deemed physically attractive. I’ve been able to re-connect to being a woman and respecting that for myself. I’ve understood relationships between men and woman can be deeply honouring of each other so I’ve said ‘No’ to abusive relationships.

I am starting to build a relationship with myself that isn’t wholly self-critical and judgemental. I’ve started to be more tender with how I am with myself and treat myself lovingly.

I may well be slow on the uptake in this regard, but I was horrid to myself – a constant torrent of ‘should be better’ and ‘not good enough’ – now I’m letting go of these beliefs, knowing I am lovely just for being me. I’m learning how to express in the world and be responsible, and not a victim or subservient. I’m finally tackling how I self-sabotaged myself with food and checking-out from the world. I am beginning to trust what I feel and put it into loving action where required.

I never feel lonely now, which is amazing. I have a completely different attitude to work; I’m there to do all that I can to support people, even if this means saying things I know they may not want to hear. I love meeting new people and am very at ease with people – I often chat and joke in supermarket queues etc. I also like my own company and going for walks by myself, but not to escape the world.

All this because I met a man called Serge Benhayon who reflected back to me how amazing I am.  All this because I saw him reflect back to everyone how amazing we all are and in that I learned we are all equal – I am no less and no more than another, I do not need to do anything to gain favour, and I know that we all bring something uniquely golden to the table that no other can.

Competition is pointless, and appreciation of oneself and others is key if we are to come together to make living joyful, meaningful and fun. My first impression of Serge Benhayon has never changed, but my life certainly has!

By K.B. (UK)

Serge Benhayon | Founder of Universal Medicine Serge Benhayon is an author and presenter and the founder of Universal Medicine. You can learn more about Serge Benhayon at his personal website

Follow Serge Benhayon on Twitter @SergeBenhayon or on Google+ +SergeBenhayon

Further Reading:
Inspired by Serge Benhayon & Universal Medicine: Feeling the True Me
“Serge Benhayon Said…”
How I Changed my Life – Thanks to Serge Benhayon

859 thoughts on “My First Impression of Serge Benhayon

  1. You were blessed by never being satisfied or fulfilled by all these outer things so that you looked the other way and found the true everlasting and expanding riches that we all carry within.

  2. This is such a testament to Serge Benhayon and the Way of the Livingness. It proves that being held as equal, with deep love and respect, is more healing than any therapy session could ever hope to be. Serge doesn’t focus on your problems, he simply reminds you of who you really are. This is what we crave, the coming home that the author speaks of.

  3. “Knowing Serge Benhayon has Changed my Life” – agree and same for me too KB … and in changing my own life, many other’s lives have equally changed for the true better too from me living the Ageless Wisdom Teaching in – living love.

  4. How many things do we strive for to tick the boxes of worthiness, these goals and ambitions are so ingrained in us that we are probably not aware of, so much that we do which makes us feel sluggish, and without any level of vitality – how has this become our normal?

  5. It is such a wonderful refection for another to hold you in your true worth that you do not yet hold yourself in. From this space we are met to such a degree where we can choose to connect with and live who we truly are, an equal son of God.

  6. To say that your feeling of Serge Benhayon has not changed in 10 years speaks volumes for his steadiness. I can say the same – in fact I seem to be more inspired by him each time I meet him. He constantly chooses to say what’s next for the world and represents that in full. He is solid in every aspect and words diminish the magnitude of what he presents to humanity by way of reflecting that we are equal to him.

  7. It is interesting that what we avoid such as connecting to people we miss the most. We naturally love people and connection. It simply means as I am finding out what has been lacking is the connection to self. Make life about connection to who I truly am with no holding back and my love for others naturally follows. True joy becomes a part of life as opposed to the disconnection and loneliness I was once choosing for myself and was a part of my livingness too.

  8. We can tell the most about how our lives have changed from the little things that have big ripple effects. Things like chatting with people in the supermarket rather than hiding at home – they are poles apart. Not wanting to get out of bed to enjoying our jobs – your blog is very inspiring, not only because you have outcomes that are amazing but because the way you got to those outcomes was to build a relationship with yourself.

  9. “Serge Benhayon has been a constant reflection of my worth, regardless of how I have lived. The love and respect he has shown me has never, ever faltered over the years I have known him, no matter how much I myself have.” This unconditionalness of Serge is this amazing doorway which allows us to accept our own true worthiness that most have given up on and thereby can heal our ills and hurts.

  10. So many miracles in this blog. Especially this one – “I no longer feel the world owes me, but that I actually have a quality I can give back to humanity by sharing and expressing.”

  11. This just goes to show that all it needs is for us to truly meet another with love and no needs or imposition, allowing the person to just be. Seeing the true truth of the person before us. Sometimes all we need in life is to know we are okay and to then move from this space/place.

    1. When I see and read another and accept them where they are at I can truly love them. I see the games at play, the hurts, the disconnection to themselves, the emptiness etc yet I can also see the love they truly are. I cannot react like I used because I know what is there in front of me is not them. This way of being comes from the loving relationship I have with myself which I am forever deepening.

  12. “All this because I met a man called Serge Benhayon who reflected back to me how amazing I am. All this because I saw him reflect back to everyone how amazing we all are and in that I learned we are all equal” And we all share this responsibility to reflect back to others how amazing we all are.

  13. “I no longer feel the world owes me, but that I actually have a quality I can give back to humanity by sharing and expressing.” This is super beautiful, something for us all to realise, how much there is in us to share and bring to the world.

  14. I am just so struck by what I can see / feel in your blog… that conflict between what is presented on the outside and the narrative that is going on inside. I can put out a very polished, assured, and steady facade. But is that really how I am feeling at all times on the inside? Or have I learnt this immaculate performance to protect myself when things are feeling a bit messy inside…

  15. Serge Benhayon is an amazing man who lives that amazingness every single second and by doing so, he shows us that we too are all equally amazing. All we have to do is get ourselves out of the way.

  16. I can totally relate to your words K.B. about Serge Benhayon, as having experienced the same sense of being totally met and accepted just as I am by Serge, without any judgement or critique. And yes – my life has changed beyond measure from the Ancient Wisdom Teachings Serge presents.
    “My first impression of Serge Benhayon has never changed, but my life certainly has!”

  17. Your blog really reminds me how important our first impressions are, I absolutely agree with everything you have said about Serge Benhayon, and I wonder how many other people in the world can greet you with absolute integrity and unwavering truth not only in your first impression, but the second and third and so on and so on.

  18. “My first impression of Serge Benhayon has never changed, but my life certainly has!” I would say the same and add that my life has changed and yet when I attend a presentation by Serge Benhayon it’s like the familiarity continues to grow whereas when I first met him I felt so alienated from what was being shared. Like leaving home for so long then coming back and realising all the details of what was here, were there the whole time.

  19. So interesting when you hear someone who has done the whole athlete or university thing and found that it does not deliver when there is no relationship with themselves. To me it shows the set up of how much importance society puts on achievement, but forgets the all important ingredient of making sure you are yourself in all of that…. and sprinkling some purpose on top!

  20. The energy we choose and express in our movements every day has a huge effect, if only we could tangibly see the particles shift we would understand we are real sculptors with it, establishing a quality from which the next bit of life will come. The question is as Serge Benhayon and you show KB, what is it that we are putting out? Divine art or counterfeit?

  21. To come back from all that you put yourself through is super inspiring. I have people in my life that I’ve witnessed destroy themselves beyond what I feel is repairable and it saddens me very much, but your story is just one of many that reminds me that actually, there is always a choice and the support is always there whenever we ask for it.

  22. When we take responsibility for the things we have done that were not true to who we really are, they cannot own us any longer and thus our true self is given permission to shine out and dissolve the facade we had created to hide behind.

  23. To meet someone who doesn’t see you as anything other than amazing, without any rara but just a genuineness is indeed life changing as I’ve experienced something similar to what is shared here. You start to question the fact of how you’re judged and condemned yourself when someone just accepts you and it’s been deeply life changing. And all it took was the willingness of another to see all of me, and that inspiration had me looking at both myself and life differently.

  24. Its amazing how hard we can be on ourselves, with the way we treat ourselves, the negative and critical thoughts on our physicality, our self-bashing, and negative thoughts and all our disregard in every pocked in our lives, and its all seems ‘normal’ and repetitive day in and day out. That was until I attended courses and presentations by Serge and Universal Medicine, was when I started to make different choices.

  25. Wow wow and wow K.B what amazing changes you have made in your life. Society is now made up of many lost and lonely people, the rate of suicides have gone up and more people have mental health problems.
    What Serge Benhayon presents is a road map back to connecting to who we truly are and in the process avoiding many nasty turns.

  26. Thank you KB, you have really expressed the power of another’s reflection, and the power we each have to simply be our loving selves and the ripples this can have on others. We try so hard to be more or meet a picture of how we think we should be, when just being our natural selves is enough. It’s actually a really beautiful experience for another when we are just our gorgeous true selves.

  27. Being in the presence of someone who recognises your worth and essence regardless of how we may think of ourselves or behave is truly powerful, it’s like a call to remember who you really are already on the inside.

  28. When we get to a place of realisation that beauty lies within we put an end to the never ending trying to look good. We begin to accept who we truly are faults and all and live a quality that can only confirm who we are.

  29. When we are so used to living not respecting our worth, being worth-while can be unfathomable. But with steadying the loving movements in our life, we deepen our own love and self-worth and many more possibilities begin to open up. The first impression of Serge Benhayon has shown us the love that we are, it is truly very memorable and the process has been inspiring.

  30. This is an incredible story. To come from an attitude of the world owing you to then realising that in fact you have much to offer the very cool indeed!

  31. First impressions are generally the ones to be relied upon although when it comes to Serge Benhayon I have found that over time, the impressions are confirmed so frequently and consistently that there is no question he is a man of the utmost integrity. His service to mankind is a constant inspiration and the extent and affect of his work beyond compare.

  32. Meeting Serge Benhayon for the first time is to be met with the reflection of our true worth and the feeling of being seen and appreciated and the awareness that he consistently does this with everyone, no exceptions, that he meets. The power of this is life-changing as you detail so clearly KB and is truly a home-coming to ourselves and our divine essence.

  33. My first impression of Serge Benhayon is still my impression of Serge Benhayon – a man who knows God in every cell of his body/being and who lives it in full.

  34. It’s amazing how much we can feel in an instant – how much can be communicated between us without words even but just by the way that we are. We all are role models for one another, and in that have the opportunity to inspire another to be more true to who they really are (just by virtue of us living that ourselves) or to negate who they are…

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