My First Impression of Serge Benhayon

My first impression of Serge Benhayon has never changed since I met him about ten years ago. I felt the great love and care he had for me and everyone around him, equally so.

Serge Benhayon | Founder of Universal Medicine
Serge Benhayon | Founder of Universal Medicine

At that time, I was really struggling in life. I had almost given up on therapy – I’d tried Primal Scream Therapy, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and general counselling. I remember a psychiatrist assessing me at one point and asking why was I being assessed: was it to determine if I was crazy or not? At one point I even had my own Community Psychiatric Nurse assigned to me. I didn’t know what other avenues to pursue to overcome a general feeling of daily depression and futility.

I was still trying to achieve what I felt the world was telling me would deliver me happiness: a career, a loving relationship, a family, and the perfect body and to be really fit. A personal ambition of mine was to be a really impressive surfer.

Deep down, I knew that achieving any number of these things wouldn’t fulfil me, but I still clung to the possibility that achieving them would. I’d already discovered living in the most beautiful place in the world hadn’t brought me any happiness as I just cried for days on end. I’d also completed my degree but this also didn’t give me a well-paid job, as I was told it would. I was in a desperate state but didn’t want to admit it.

I kept on distracting myself with trying to achieve perfection in myself and my life and anytime I came close, I put a spanner in the works to start all over again.

I was very lost, really struggling, but trying at all costs to cover up this fact. I was still going out drinking, smoking weed, but had given up other drugs. I was super skinny and had an eating disorder that was all consuming – I thought about little else but food. I couldn’t string a sentence together and was really jumbled in what I said. I was dyslexic and awkward with people because I felt a great sense of worthlessness, at the same time as feeling very arrogant in that I knew better than other people.

I struggled to connect with people and kept myself hidden. I took on jobs that involved lots of time alone. Although very conscientious to never put a foot wrong and to prove myself an excellent worker, I didn’t like working alongside managers because I had issues with authority. I had a few friends but was aware of how needy I was, so I wasn’t very sociable as I didn’t want to expose how desperate I was for company. I was very lonely even though I was in a relationship – which wasn’t the most loving, albeit very conventional.

Meeting Serge Benhayon for the First Time

When I met Serge Benhayon for the first time, I was a mess… incredibly insecure and defensive. I was in a constant state of frustration, knowing there was more to me than this protective facade I was living, but unable to unlock and express who I was.

When I met Serge I felt instantly that he knew who I truly was. I felt he saw my true worth and that all the walls I’d put around myself were paper-thin. I felt I was loved and accepted unconditionally without having to do a thing.

All the crazy things I berated myself for each day didn’t matter… I was seen and met for the first time ever. I could feel he knew my true worth way more than I ever did.

I remember wearing a white dove and him saying something about it being a symbol of coming home and that’s what this meeting felt like – I was coming home to me and to what I always knew was true. Over the years I have dragged my heels in coming home. I’ve not wanted to admit the extent of the harm of the activities I’ve put a lot of energy into that had harmed me or others. I’ve kept a belief that I was beyond redemption and this was accompanied by an immense guilt.

Knowing Serge Benhayon has Changed my Life

Serge Benhayon has been a constant reflection of my worth, regardless of how I have lived. The love and respect he has shown me has never, ever faltered over the years I have known him, no matter how much I myself have. Seeing how he is deeply caring and loving with everyone he meets has helped me to trust in love again and begin to trust and love myself.

I have made major changes in my life. I know I’ll never drink or take any drugs again, I don’t drink caffeine because I feel its effects and I don’t over-exercise or do things I feel ill after, like surfing in heavy seas.

I no longer feel the world owes me, but that I actually have a quality I can give back to humanity by sharing and expressing. This is amazing in itself as I used to steal anything I could from department stores as a late teen… yes, I am still working on accepting this but can understand how angry and addicted to excitement I was at the time. I was desperate to feel alive.

Feeling my beauty reflected back to me from my interactions with Serge, and being totally honoured and respected, has allowed me to consider and experience my beauty as being on the inside and not on being what is deemed physically attractive. I’ve been able to re-connect to being a woman and respecting that for myself. I’ve understood relationships between men and woman can be deeply honouring of each other so I’ve said ‘No’ to abusive relationships.

I am starting to build a relationship with myself that isn’t wholly self-critical and judgemental. I’ve started to be more tender with how I am with myself and treat myself lovingly.

I may well be slow on the uptake in this regard, but I was horrid to myself – a constant torrent of ‘should be better’ and ‘not good enough’ – now I’m letting go of these beliefs, knowing I am lovely just for being me. I’m learning how to express in the world and be responsible, and not a victim or subservient. I’m finally tackling how I self-sabotaged myself with food and checking-out from the world. I am beginning to trust what I feel and put it into loving action where required.

I never feel lonely now, which is amazing. I have a completely different attitude to work; I’m there to do all that I can to support people, even if this means saying things I know they may not want to hear. I love meeting new people and am very at ease with people – I often chat and joke in supermarket queues etc. I also like my own company and going for walks by myself, but not to escape the world.

All this because I met a man called Serge Benhayon who reflected back to me how amazing I am.  All this because I saw him reflect back to everyone how amazing we all are and in that I learned we are all equal – I am no less and no more than another, I do not need to do anything to gain favour, and I know that we all bring something uniquely golden to the table that no other can.

Competition is pointless, and appreciation of oneself and others is key if we are to come together to make living joyful, meaningful and fun. My first impression of Serge Benhayon has never changed, but my life certainly has!

By K.B. (UK)

Serge Benhayon | Founder of Universal Medicine Serge Benhayon is an author and presenter and the founder of Universal Medicine. You can learn more about Serge Benhayon at his personal website

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Further Reading:
Inspired by Serge Benhayon & Universal Medicine: Feeling the True Me
“Serge Benhayon Said…”
How I Changed my Life – Thanks to Serge Benhayon

803 thoughts on “My First Impression of Serge Benhayon

  1. Letting go of shame and guilt is the first step in our return home, no matter what we have done in the past and the level of harm our actions have caused ourselves and others it is important to understand that that was not who we truly are and instead of giving ourselves a hard time we need to take stock of the choices that we have made in coming home to what we know love is and keep moving forth in full appreciation of it.

    1. Francisco what you are saying here feels to me to centre around acceptance, accepting that what we have done in our past which as you say wasn’t really us, we were so empty of love that we allowed another energy to dominate our bodies. If we get caught up in the guilt and the shame then we are just perpetuating the same energy so nothing changes. We have to change and heal the energy of the guilt and shame otherwise we cannot move forward as we cannot build a body of self-love. When we start to build a body of self-love we naturally allow the flow of harmony back into our bodies and this flow of harmony is the flow of the universe which is God and all his magic.

    2. When we focus on the smaller % of what we’ve done wrong, our shortcomings and our mistakes, we stay in that. Appreciation is the glue that holds us together, that builds and links the peaks of amazingness in our lives until it becomes one line of steady joy.. no highs, no lows, just a steadiness and a beauty in that.

  2. No matter what we do to achieve in life eg the degree, the perfect house, relationship, having a family etc unless we know who we are and live from this knowing we will be forever on the merry-go-round of wanting to achieve. The more I become aware of the distractions around me and what takes me away from knowing who I am, the more I am able to live in connection and in contentment with myself and nothing outside of myself can come anywhere close to that.

  3. The power that one man has to hold and reflect back to all others the truth of their being is immense – as demonstrated to KB here by Serge Benhayon. Is it possible that Serge Benhayon is not special but that he is showing us all the power we have access to equally? Is it possible that when we let go of any stories we have about ourselves or others, then we know the equalness we all come from? Thank you KB for your candour here and your willingness to share your experiences.

    1. Richard, these are beautiful words that build further upon what KB has presented, For it is with someone like Serge Benhayon that we get to feel that there is indeed an equality that lies inside us all – an equally powerful state we all have access to should we choose it. This is the reflection that is gifted to us when we are ready.

  4. KB thank you for writing this blog and putting into words what I have felt too; meeting Serge Benhayon we are faced with all that we are not and also all that we are. And for me that brought up the knowing that there was more to me but also feeling the frustration of not being able to unlock and express the true me, who I really am.

  5. It is greatly uplifting when we are met with the reflection from one who knows our true worth and holds us in that until we too can know and live it for ourselves.

    1. Very beautifully said Annie – and this is truly said from someone who has experienced it as a blessing!

  6. KB, thank you for such a deeply felt and beautiful sharing of how Serge Benhayon has supported you in changing your life and turning things around for you. Your appreciation is palpable, and the beauty is that you hold the appreciation for Serge, but also clearly for yourself too in all the choices you have since made in your own life. Well done, and thanks for sharing as this allows us to appreciate in turn and grow from this.

  7. ‘I felt a great sense of worthlessness, at the same time as feeling very arrogant in that I knew better than other people.’ Two ends of the same line, feeling less and feeling better than others with the same result we don’t let love in and separate us from the rest of the world. And both come from the same arrogance.

  8. K.B this is amazing to read, what an incredible turnaround you have made to your life. What you have written here about Serge Benhayon really stands out for me, ‘Seeing how he is deeply caring and loving with everyone he meets has helped me to trust in love again and begin to trust and love myself.’ I can feel reading this how important it is not to hold judgment on others for their choices, as I sometimes do, and how we can love everyone we meet no matter what is going on for them and that it was being held in this love that allowed you make the changes that you have in your life, thanks for sharing this, this is something for me to work on.

  9. I am slowly coming to understand the role of appreciation. I used to think that self-appreciation was just about being self centered but this is very far from the truth. If we do not appreciate who we are and what we do then we have no true foundation upon which to build on.

  10. Beautiful KB – I remember the first time I met Serge Benhayon too. I’d heard some audio recordings which he had done, which I had found hard to listen to – my mind had had a field day trying to analyse, dissect and pick apart some of the things that he said. Yet when I saw him for the first time it was like re-encountering an old friend, who was steady and strong, vibrant and alive and who had no barriers or walls in the way. It was like he was energetically communicating ‘hey here I am, you can see everything , I have nothing to hide’. This feeling was unlike any I have experienced and it’s a quality Serge maintains today, only like everything that he does it’s actually deepened and grown every day. What a man and what a way to be and to live.

  11. If meeting one person can have such an impact on one’s life and bring about a true, long-standing, change of its course, and if there are multiple cases like that, in fact, many about this same person (Serge Benhayon) – surely, it is worth taking notice of what this man is about.

  12. This is a remarkable story KB, and all from the inspiration of meeting Serge Benhayon. I have no doubt you would now be offering that same inspiration to all you meet and interact with these days… which is a very profound shift from your earlier days. To know we are all equal is huge, and I can recall learning this too by observing the way Serge was with every last person he meets or talks about. I knew who I was from the way he met me too, so I know what you are talking about, and then I got to know that we are all the same.

  13. “Serge Benhayon has been a constant reflection of my worth, regardless of how I have lived.” – It is a beautiful blessing to us all when we have someone who reflects back to us our worth in ways that we cannot even fathom. And it is a further blessing when we can feel this, register it, and recognise that worth lies within us…and yet another blessing when we live that worth and reflect to the rest of the world that they too hold this within, yet to be lived.

  14. Being met and seen for who we truly are is a simple yet profound experience. Your story K.B. demonstrates a way of approaching mental and emotional health issues that offers the possibility of a true path of recovery.

  15. Beautiful KB, if only we stopped pushing and trying so very hard, ceased our endless comparison and pursuit to be best in class. Perhaps then we would stop our bickering and fighting, and see that we are actually here to help and support each other in the most profound way? For not only are we not as separate as we like to think, we are one and intimately interlinked. The deeper truth that Serge Benhayon helps you see is we will never get to where we are to go as long as we stay stuck in thinking the whole world is about ‘me’ and what we know.

  16. I was thinking about the first time I met Serge today, I was given his email quite a few months before that however I kept making excuses as to why I didn’t want to email him – I hadn’t met him, I didn’t want to be referred to someone, etc. etc. I am so grateful for going to the Livingness 1 workshop last year in June and meeting this incredible person – my words just cannot express how blessed I feel.

  17. it just takes one true reflection to reawaken and reignite the truth in us, and so too can we embrace the responsibility to live and reflect the truth of who we are for all to know for themselves.

  18. I so know what you are writing about, I too tried every therapy possible, to no avail, until I came across Universal Medicine and the depression I had experienced for nearly all my life shifted. Universal Medicine Therapies support you to go the root of the condition and therefore be able to heal the issue and totally release the ill energy from the body.

    1. I’ve had the same experience Mary-Louise, nothing I tried gave me anything more than temporary relief then the issue, misery, or emotion would come back again, I tried for decades to support myself with everything from counselling to alternative therapies but it wasn’t until I came to Universal Medicine and their modalities that things truly changed. My life is now remarkably different and continues to build and expand in love and joy everyday. Even my health has improved in ways I thought it never could, and my relationships also – it’s pretty amazing.

  19. “My first impression of Serge Benhayon has never changed since I met him about ten years ago. I felt the great love and care he had for me and everyone around him, equally so.” Meeting Serge and the changes in my life since that encounter has been the greatest blessing in my life.

  20. It sound simple the way Serge Benhayon is, and he makes it look like it is but the effect is the most profound thing in the world. He makes life and simplicity easy and shows the true way we can live. Because, as you say KB we all naturally have a great effect in our own way – when we make our actions about Love and being clear we support everybody to do the same. This is something we really need to appreciate.

  21. “I was desperate to feel alive.” We are desperate to feel happy and to make sense of life and the ingredients we are missing and nobody teaches us is to stay loving – that life is about being loving and deeply caring for ourselves and others – and that is what Serge Benhayon so beautifully and unwaveringly lives.

  22. Imagine all the people that we all meet each and every day, whether it’s via email, telephone or sitting on the train. Imagine if each of us had the effect Serge Benhayon does – wow what a powerful support for us all to choose Love! We’d know that we are safe to be us, without pretence or escape, and that our sweetness truly has a place. The thing is, this isn’t a pipe dream but a fact – we do all bring a powerful effect to everybody we meet, but the more we align to living what we know is true – the more, as we see with Serge this can’t help but come through. The changes and inspiration that follow on from energetic imprints like this are impossible to fathom, so let us just appreciate – we have this awesome power. Isn’t it high time we woke up to this and chose to activate?

  23. When we are truly inspired by another we naturally feel empowered to live the same for ourselves…

  24. “I never feel lonely now, which is amazing.” When we try and escape the world we turn our back on humanity and this is the loneliness we feel most.

  25. Thank you K.B., what a gem of a blog and gem of a person! Your raw openness and honesty is very much appreciated, as for me this provides an opportunity to connect to another human being without any walls or facades, thankyou. It was an immense healing to read your blog and very inspiring, I particularly liked this line about your first meeting with Serge Benhayon “I felt I was loved and accepted unconditionally without having to do a thing.” In a world that constantly asks us to be or do something the power of love in its unconditional simplicity is life changing. I have experienced the same with Serge, he meets you for who you are and there is a feeling of not needing to be or do anything, just a full acceptance as well as being seen so clearly in the fullness of who we are – a fullness we may have given up on ever being met in.

  26. I feel one of the most amazing things about Serge Benhayon is that he sees you for the divine being you are; he sees past the surface ‘mess’ and knows intrinsically that you are and all are divine because he lives it and knows it within himself with not a shred of doubt. This is what we feel in his presence and it is why so many of us have changed beyond recognition from who we were when we met him. His beholding of what is when we can’t see it is quite staggering to feel and be held with.

  27. Your blog gave me a lot of understanding of why people act the way they act. Often we think people are shy or just not social but there might be a whole lot of reasons and past experiences of why that person is not letting themselves be seen and out. Your sharing: “I was dyslexic and awkward with people because I felt a great sense of worthlessness, at the same time as feeling very arrogant in that I knew better than other people.” that the feeling of worthlessness created a withdrawal and awkwardness is very revealing.

  28. I can’t help but feel that if everyone in the world feels that the world owes them, who is going to actually pay that debt?

  29. I spoke with Serge Benhayon just this weekend and the level of depth and love that he shared with was so different to anything I have experienced from any other teacher I have met before. His quality of being very present, absolute and open is quite an almost indescribable. We have so much to offer each other when we live from this absoluteness, to living love first and foremost, Serge is just a man, but a man who has chosen to live with a level of responsibility that is almost unheard of.

  30. “All this because I met a man called Serge Benhayon who reflected back to me how amazing I am.” This says it all really K.B. What Serge Benhayon offers everyone, no matter who they are, is a depth and quality of love that is unrivalled in this world.

  31. The most wonderful and inspirational aspect of meeting and knowing Serge Benhayon is that he is always consistently the same; an absolutely divine, loving, truthful, and universally wise man.

  32. Super inspirational, thank you KB for sharing your story. Amazing to feel that when we are met with someone who knows who they are and holds everyone else as an absolute equal, we start to feel the same, knowing that we are part of that equality.

  33. ‘Feeling my beauty reflected back to me from my interactions with Serge’, I love that line K.B. It described perfectly what is offer by Serge when in his presence. Our absolute beauty.

  34. My first impression of Serge Benhayon was,”WOW, how can he say that” such was my surprise at the natural authority, clarity and directness in his voice and the topic he was speaking on. This is what I began to love about Serge Benhayon that whenever I heard him speak it was consistent and I could deeply relax within myself and just listen – unlike many other speakers which are agitating.

  35. It is so beautiful how we can return to our true selves from a place that seems so far away from that. Serge Benhayon provides the most amazing reflection that we are absolutely that Love.

  36. I love that – my first impression of Serge Benhayon hasn’t changed but my life has. This is totally my experience too. I am amazed by this man, I have never seen someone cope so much direct and targeted abuse and still remain totally open with others – he is a huge inspiration.

  37. It’s truly something exquisite to connect with someone who does not judge or see ‘what’s wrong’. In this case as you say KB it doesn’t mean Serge Benhayon is blind to our faults – far from it, he just sees them as a speck of dirt compared to our true beauty. His way inspires me today to see other people I meet in this same way. Let’s celebrate our gorgeousness not the issues we appear to have.

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