STOP in the Name of Love!

Recently I was in the midst of a big project and I had shared with some friends that I was really tired. Someone suggested that I take the morning easy and rest in preparation for the big meeting I had around lunchtime.

I am pretty sure that I scoffed at the idea – “Are you for real? I have too much to do! Have you not seen my to-do list?” But something inside of me was asking me to go deeper with this and neither gloss over what I was feeling, nor what was being suggested to me, as I had done in the past. So in that moment I expressed that I didn’t know how to – I didn’t know how to stop.

Some suggestions then came forth about how to stop and I realised that I actually do know how to stop, but I don’t put it into practice often enough.

I just kept going.

  • Just get this job done.
  • Just tidy up the kitchen.
  • Just send that email.
  • Just put that load of washing on… and then I will stop.

Even then, when I did stop, I never really stopped to truly rest or nourish my body. When I ‘downed tools’ I stopped for a cuppa and a biscuit, just as I used to stop with a glass of wine and a cigarette: or when I ignored nearly all of the messages to stop from my body, it increased the intensity of the messages and said very loudly, ‘STOP!’ and I got sick and was forced to stop and rest – often feeling like my body had betrayed me.

But through Universal Medicine’s presentations, I am learning how to be with my body and listen to the wisdom it shares quietly, taking the moments to stop and be with my body and to nourish it.

I have also learnt the importance of taking care of myself, and through the healing modalities of Universal Medicine I am learning to bring to a halt the relentless momentum that I have been living with that makes it difficult for me to stop.

So I stopped in the name of love (for me), lovingly put on some moisturiser and covered my body in eye pillows (small heat packs). Then I lay down for a couple of hours and rested. I even fell asleep.

The world did not fall apart. It did not end because I took two hours off. I simply rested because that was what my body was sharing with me it needed to do. I awoke with a renewed sense of care and love for myself and with a deep appreciation of taking the time to stop. I then went about my day much more openly, rather than in the tension of having to push through to get my ‘stuff done’. And P.S. – the stuff got done!

Nowadays I am looking to bring in more stop moments – a loving work in progress because some days I still override the need to stop. I am, however, choosing more and more to be present with my body, listening to what it is saying and stopping when it is needed.

I am learning that life is simply more joyful when I choose the quality in which I do something and that these choices about my quality are equally as important as my actual output.

In loving appreciation of Serge Benhayon and his family; and of my friends, who asked me to reconnect to something that I knew, as well as a deep appreciation of me, for taking the time to stop.

By Sarah Flenley, Cairns, Far North Queensland, Australia

Further Reading:
The ‘Self-Care ABC’
Stopping Within Sight of the Finish Line
Early to Bed, Early to Rise, Makes you Healthy, Wealthy and Wise

904 thoughts on “STOP in the Name of Love!

  1. A stop moment that I have started to bring in at work is actually a moment of movement. It’s when I walk from my office to the kitchen and see whether I can walk with connection and purpose rather than scurrying from place to place. The other stop moment that I am currently exploring is if I can be connected to my body when I am talking to tradespeople. I have in the past had a tendency to rush my communication when I’m dealing with tradespeople, I suppose judgement is there too, as in I haven’t seen them as being as important as whatever it is that I’m doing ‘work-wise’. But now I practice being in my body as fully as I can and stopping what I’m doing on my computer and being as present and as chilled as I can with everybody regardless of whether they’re directly involved with my work or not.

  2. We see being up and doing things as activity, but we don’t see rest as activity – yet it is, there is lots of activity taking place in rest, we can be more reflective and contemplative, receive insights, come out of feeling rushed or stressed and into a sense of settlement, the body is active in rest in a different way, busy taking care of itself and we are giving each cell space to more harmoniously work without the pressures we place on the body. I find rest is a more inward activity.

  3. Appreciation of who we are and that we can also feel that same divine essence in another is part of us connecting to our inner temple and thus deepening our ability to rest deeply.

  4. That is amazing that you stopped for a rest, fell asleep, woke up and still managed to complete your tasks. In a world that seems to want far more hours in the day to get everything done this is unheard of, however you have shown it can be achieved.

  5. Thank you Sarah, stop moments can have a profound effect on our health and wellbeing as they can support us to be more aware of where we are at and how we truly feel in our day, which can lead us to making healthier choices for ourselves by understanding what is needed. The stopping part is so essential because we often have patterns of being on the go and focusing on making sure the outer things get done, and not taking care of ourselves.

  6. Like you Sarah I know that force that keeps you going from one tick box to the next – it’s like an out of control train. But I love your suggestion to say ‘stop, in the name of love’ for when bring the integrity of love to any situation quality, harmony and grace can follow.

  7. Learning the value of quality over quantity by honouring the wisdom of our bodies, not only supports our well-being but also provides far more presence in our living day. With this, the quality and authenticity is then naturally felt in what we do, with no push, drive or exhaustion.

  8. ‘I am learning that life is simply more joyful when I choose the quality in which I do something and that these choices about my quality are equally as important as my actual output.’ Yes we all know that quality not quantity is the way to go but we can easily get caught up in the business of life. When we do our body suffers and we end up pretty ragged or numbed by a substance so we don’t have to feel this raggedness…we can push it aside but it does not go away it just goes deeper into the body and we wonder, later on, why we have an illness or disease.

    1. Elainearthey this is a great sharing as we can over ride and get on with things when our bodies are asking us to take more care of ourselves and may be stop and rest. If we don’t listen it makes sense that the unrest would go deeper into our bodies and then manifest as an illness or disease sometime later. It’s our bodies only way of saying stop.

  9. Love it Sarah … the world did not end because your took a couple of hours to rest, because your body needed it. What a consciousness that we have to keep going no matter what, and that if we don’t everything will fall apart. Just goes to show what the foundations are and what we have been living that we don’t feel steady and stable.

    1. So true Natalie – that world received instead a truer reflection of what is means to live in honor of who we are, and it is this quality of reflection that is far more needed today.

    2. It may also be that the world IS falling apart because we aren’t stopping – we aren’t giving the body it’s true and very needed rhythm of action and then rest, which places a great pressure on our health. And, we aren’t allowing the space to contemplate and reflect on life, to sense and honour what we feel, and then go out back to the world and take action on that by making changes for ourselves, or by calling for change in the world. We simply don’t have as much ability to connect to our soul and God in that non-step doing, it’s in the quietness that we can reconnect and feel what’s true, and restore ourselves with our own love.

  10. Stop moments for me are life-saving moments when I give myself the space to take an honest look at how I am feeling instead of pretending that I am fine, when I’m not. They are the biggest gift of love from me to my body, with the outcome a deepening of the respect for, and the honouring of, my body, and from there for the whole of my life.

    1. It’s so nurturing to stop and just ask myself “How do I really feel?”, especially if I’m thinking a lot or feeling unsettled. There is also the ‘stop moment’ that invites us to enjoy how amazing we feel, and even take some time out to do this and go deeper with it.

      1. Melinda, great sharing ‘that there are also ‘stop moments’ that invite us to enjoy how amazing we feel, and even take some time out to do this and go deeper with it,’ how often do we stop and give ourselves permission to deeply appreciate just how amazing we are and feel. To allow ourselves to access more of the joy that is always there waiting to be reconnected to.

    2. I love that idea, the biggest gift of love from me to my body. I know that when I do not offer myself those stop moments I get quite racy and within a short time my body is speaking very loudly to me.

  11. “I am learning that life is simply more joyful when I choose the quality in which I do something and that these choices about my quality are equally as important as my actual output.” – this is GOLD, for when we feel joyful within, no matter what we do, even if it is taking the rubbish out, becomes fun rather than a chore. And in this too we do not tire out as much – compared to when we are feeling like we have to do things and do them fast and efficiently and it is a burden (this is super tiring no matter what we are doing).

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