STOP in the Name of Love!

Recently I was in the midst of a big project and I had shared with some friends that I was really tired. Someone suggested that I take the morning easy and rest in preparation for the big meeting I had around lunchtime.

I am pretty sure that I scoffed at the idea – “Are you for real? I have too much to do! Have you not seen my to-do list?” But something inside of me was asking me to go deeper with this and neither gloss over what I was feeling, nor what was being suggested to me, as I had done in the past. So in that moment I expressed that I didn’t know how to – I didn’t know how to stop.

Some suggestions then came forth about how to stop and I realised that I actually do know how to stop, but I don’t put it into practice often enough.

I just kept going.

  • Just get this job done.
  • Just tidy up the kitchen.
  • Just send that email.
  • Just put that load of washing on… and then I will stop.

Even then, when I did stop, I never really stopped to truly rest or nourish my body. When I ‘downed tools’ I stopped for a cuppa and a biscuit, just as I used to stop with a glass of wine and a cigarette: or when I ignored nearly all of the messages to stop from my body, it increased the intensity of the messages and said very loudly, ‘STOP!’ and I got sick and was forced to stop and rest – often feeling like my body had betrayed me.

But through Universal Medicine’s presentations, I am learning how to be with my body and listen to the wisdom it shares quietly, taking the moments to stop and be with my body and to nourish it.

I have also learnt the importance of taking care of myself, and through the healing modalities of Universal Medicine I am learning to bring to a halt the relentless momentum that I have been living with that makes it difficult for me to stop.

So I stopped in the name of love (for me), lovingly put on some moisturiser and covered my body in eye pillows (small heat packs). Then I lay down for a couple of hours and rested. I even fell asleep.

The world did not fall apart. It did not end because I took two hours off. I simply rested because that was what my body was sharing with me it needed to do. I awoke with a renewed sense of care and love for myself and with a deep appreciation of taking the time to stop. I then went about my day much more openly, rather than in the tension of having to push through to get my ‘stuff done’. And P.S. – the stuff got done!

Nowadays I am looking to bring in more stop moments – a loving work in progress because some days I still override the need to stop. I am, however, choosing more and more to be present with my body, listening to what it is saying and stopping when it is needed.

I am learning that life is simply more joyful when I choose the quality in which I do something and that these choices about my quality are equally as important as my actual output.

In loving appreciation of Serge Benhayon and his family; and of my friends, who asked me to reconnect to something that I knew, as well as a deep appreciation of me, for taking the time to stop.

By Sarah Flenley, Cairns, Far North Queensland, Australia

Further Reading:
The ‘Self-Care ABC’
Stopping Within Sight of the Finish Line
Early to Bed, Early to Rise, Makes you Healthy, Wealthy and Wise

884 thoughts on “STOP in the Name of Love!

  1. Thank you Sarah, stop moments can have a profound effect on our health and wellbeing as they can support us to be more aware of where we are at and how we truly feel in our day, which can lead us to making healthier choices for ourselves by understanding what is needed. The stopping part is so essential because we often have patterns of being on the go and focusing on making sure the outer things get done, and not taking care of ourselves.

  2. Like you Sarah I know that force that keeps you going from one tick box to the next – it’s like an out of control train. But I love your suggestion to say ‘stop, in the name of love’ for when bring the integrity of love to any situation quality, harmony and grace can follow.

  3. Learning the value of quality over quantity by honouring the wisdom of our bodies, not only supports our well-being but also provides far more presence in our living day. With this, the quality and authenticity is then naturally felt in what we do, with no push, drive or exhaustion.

  4. ‘I am learning that life is simply more joyful when I choose the quality in which I do something and that these choices about my quality are equally as important as my actual output.’ Yes we all know that quality not quantity is the way to go but we can easily get caught up in the business of life. When we do our body suffers and we end up pretty ragged or numbed by a substance so we don’t have to feel this raggedness…we can push it aside but it does not go away it just goes deeper into the body and we wonder, later on, why we have an illness or disease.

  5. Love it Sarah … the world did not end because your took a couple of hours to rest, because your body needed it. What a consciousness that we have to keep going no matter what, and that if we don’t everything will fall apart. Just goes to show what the foundations are and what we have been living that we don’t feel steady and stable.

    1. So true Natalie – that world received instead a truer reflection of what is means to live in honor of who we are, and it is this quality of reflection that is far more needed today.

  6. Stop moments for me are life-saving moments when I give myself the space to take an honest look at how I am feeling instead of pretending that I am fine, when I’m not. They are the biggest gift of love from me to my body, with the outcome a deepening of the respect for, and the honouring of, my body, and from there for the whole of my life.

    1. It’s so nurturing to stop and just ask myself “How do I really feel?”, especially if I’m thinking a lot or feeling unsettled. There is also the ‘stop moment’ that invites us to enjoy how amazing we feel, and even take some time out to do this and go deeper with it.

  7. “I am learning that life is simply more joyful when I choose the quality in which I do something and that these choices about my quality are equally as important as my actual output.” – this is GOLD, for when we feel joyful within, no matter what we do, even if it is taking the rubbish out, becomes fun rather than a chore. And in this too we do not tire out as much – compared to when we are feeling like we have to do things and do them fast and efficiently and it is a burden (this is super tiring no matter what we are doing).

  8. The idea of stopping for a moment when we are super busy and feeling how much there is to be done, feels like the craziest idea EXCEPT if and when the body is saying it is time to stop. And amazing when we actually listen – often we worry and think we will be behind schedule or that the job will not be completed, but usually when I have listened to my body then it is amazing to feel how everything falls into place and how fast my body can recover from a small break and then how much more focused I am with getting the job completed.

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