From Family Madness to a Miracle Re-union

Back in 2013 I spent a 4-day holiday with my sisters and their families in a 100sqm apartment in the middle of the city of Barcelona with five adults, three teenagers and one child.

We had the most amazing time together, preparing all meals by ourselves, including the grocery shopping, catering to all the different dietary needs, going to bed when the city just wakes up and rising when the city goes to sleep – including the teenagers, who were very cooperative and in flow with the family and took responsibility and cooked their own healthy meals, according to their own needs, which impressed me deeply.

And all this without fighting, bickering or negative talk; everybody including the kids got along.

Now this used to be not so normal in my family.

We would usually start the first big argument by dinner on the day we got together. Hardly ever a day passed by where not at least one person left the room hurt, or someone was crying or screaming. There was constant bickering about who does what and who always did this and who never did that and why does it always have to be me… like a record playing over and over again. You pretty much could predict what was going to happen each time and how the different family members would react.

But over the last years with the amazing inspiration from Serge Benhayon, his family and the Universal Medicine practitioners and students, new choices were made and things in my family and our behaviours towards each other actually changed and other family members got inspired along the way.

Now for me this is a miracle!

  • We were stuck in the same rut, repeating itself for years.
  • We genuinely tried hard to get out of it and to change our ways.
  • We had many discussions on what needed to be done and many solutions were offered.
  • And eventually we gave up because nothing ever changed…

And then unexpectedly through the mere reflection of a different life-style – as we were never told what to do or how to do it – we not only get along just fine, but interact lovingly with each other, including the young ones that are actually passing through the difficult transition from childhood to adulthood.

Isn’t that a miracle!?

My niece, who was 15 at the time, parted with the words: “I enjoyed spending time with you” and she meant it – even though she has a different lifestyle and certainly does not share all of my views.

What happened? We put the teachings of Universal Medicine into practice. Which is really simple – we started to listen to our bodies and made the focus of life first and foremost about love.

By Judith Andras, Beauty and Health Consultant, Cologne, Germany

Published with the permission of my family.

Further Reading:
What is a True Relationship and How Does that Feel?
A true family model for the 21st century
From reactions and tensions, to harmony within the family

459 thoughts on “From Family Madness to a Miracle Re-union

  1. What you describe – the harmonious living and eating together of a big family in a small place probably isn’t normal in just about any family. Amazing that you have managed this!

  2. I loved reading this blog, and totally can understand about the bickering and falling out that occurs when families come together. There is no need for this and there is another way to being with family and I loved how it all flowed, respect for one another, sharing with one another and doing totally the opposite to the city you were visiting. The flow of harmony could be felt.

  3. And that’s it in a nutshell, ‘we started to listen to our bodies and made the focus of life first and foremost about love.’ … we can focus on all that is wrong or we can make our lives about love and our bodies which show us the truth of how we live can support us in this.

  4. Through The Way of the Livingness, we begin to transform ourselves and when we do how we approach life changes. Things formerly thought difficult or burdensome no longer are and become effortless. This is miraculous.

  5. If we sincerely want to deepen family or any relationships it has to come from within ourselves first. Deepening of relationship with self supports us to be open, unimposing without expectations. Simply and lovingly being ourselves guides us into true movement.

  6. Interesting thing about family feuds is that most of us can probably remember having them – the screaming, yelling and tantrums by both adults and kids. But do we remember what they were about or why they started in the first place? I know I can’t. I remember the aftermath but not the initial start, which makes me think it was never actually about something in particular, but more the expression of all the angst and stress people are in from their days and lives. The teens with their angst about school and relationships, adults about their jobs and money and their relationships etc.

  7. Most people are given up to the point where they are convinced there is no other way but to just put up with the hurt they feel from the madness that is the current way of human life. But do not give up! There is another way and this family is living proof of the fact.

  8. Such a divine example of the fact that when we make life about love, miracles actually do happen, and your family reunion was definitely one of those miracles. I absolutely appreciate that in our midst we have a family, the Benhayon’s, who constantly and consistently offer us the most profound reflection of what true family is, as their family has built a super solid foundation for life based on love.

  9. ‘Which is really simple – we started to listen to our bodies and made the focus of life first and foremost about love’.- in any language, relationship, culture or life situation this practical and foundational truth does not change. I loved this Judith – Thank you so much for sharing.

  10. ‘We started to listen to our bodies and made the focus of life first and foremost about love.’ Beautiful Judith, our relationships transform as well as our lives, when we make everything about love… magic happens.

  11. We are blind to the fact that there can be another way, and only till we are open to the possibility and try it, do we see/feel the full effect of it.

  12. To embrace a way of living that takes responsibility for ourselves means that when we come together we are more likely to be respectful and in harmony with each other. What you share here is very inspiring.

  13. We are born into the families that we have for a reason. Once we understand this then we can begin to heal what is there to be healed and that is what brings a family constellation alive.

  14. When we are more present with ourselves we also are more aware of what we communicate and how to express ourselves in a way that others can hear us in their hearts as we speak from the heart..

  15. This sounds so gorgeous especially the rhythm of you all rising and sleeping together with nature rather than the city. I am loving the summer mornings in the UK right now .. really appreciate this time of the year ☀️🌳

  16. I love how true love in the family is so understanding and naturally harmonious with everyone no matter where anyone is at or what is going on for them. It is emotional reactions and judgement that get in the way of this natural way of living.

  17. Beautiful Blog Judith, it is indeed a miracle – families all around the world go through the “who’s turn is it”, “why is it always my job”, “you never do..” every day of the year. I have lived in many share houses and although my housemates were not blood related we still went through the same “family dynamic” – it seems it is a human condition, an ill-held one. If I ever have an issue/problem with another and cannot get along with them or at least appreciate something about them, it is always because I am unsettled within myself. It is as you say Judith, the moment I bring love in, first love and appreciate myself I cannot not love and appreciate another.

  18. Love is what we need in practise, The Way of The Livingness is support in your daily living of building this love, it has been for me all these years and continues to do so.

  19. I have noticed this for myself with a friend I have known for a long time who has also embraced the teachings presented by Serge Benhayon. There is so much more love expressed in the way that we live that when we come together there is a harmony that is like an underlay to our interactions. This is a very beautiful development and allows us to continue to deepen our relationship, supporting each other in way that was not possible before.

  20. Sometimes when I look at family relationships or small groups of people in general that cannot get along, I am not surprised that the world is in the state it is in, but as you have proved here Judith, through different choices we can get along fine in the micro which in turn will eventually bring on change in the macro.

  21. Thank you Judith, what you have received here is gold, something most families would love to experience. It’s another amazing confirmation of the integrity of Serge Benhayon and his business Universal Medicine and what his services truly offer to human beings.

  22. When we deepen our relationship with love for ourselves first, we bring to our relationship this quality of love which is free from expectations, need, protection or hurts allowing the space for another to feel this quality of vibration that also represents who they are.

  23. What a beautiful simple sharing Judith, how different to how a lot of people choose to be with their family members on a short holiday. Not choosing any distractions but living the love together, a foundation upon which you can build when you meet again and as another after effect, it will also have changed other relationships around you.

  24. Simply beautiful. Make the focus of life about love and the drama of who is right and wrong and who is to blame drops away.

  25. This is such a relevant blog to me Judith. I have yet to try another holiday with the extended family. We have the same scenario when we do. I do know that when I holiday with them all separately it’s becoming more enjoyable; I know this is because of my own livingness which has changed how I am with everyone. I’m so much more relaxed, accepting and loving and all get this reflection.

    1. Yes so true. We have to be careful not to consider ‘our way’ as the only way as that is incredibly imposing and it is everyones ‘our way’ butting heads! However, the beauty of knowing that what you do affects another means there is more willingness to offer each other space and more understanding.

  26. This is you living who you are – the truth of family – supporting each other not at each other. What a beautiful evolution of what is possible in being together as a group – all allowing each other space and seeing each other as equal.

    1. Agreed Hannah. What is offered here is the opportunity we all have to embrace what true family means, the power of evolution that is offered through every family constellation if we are open to truth and love.

  27. When we can allow others to be and share ourselves fully with others, there can be a natural joy and harmony where each person is left the space to be more of who they truly are.

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