Since I can remember, I have been known as the ‘loud mouth,’ the child that said the inappropriate things and the one who embarrassed adults in their white and black lies.
For example, I never believed in Santa. At the age of about 2 or 3 I told my mother that I knew she was Santa because her handwriting was on my Christmas card from the alleged white-bearded man – so obvious, isn’t it!? Roughly around a similar time, knowing that the nursery is going to ask my parents to buy our Christmas presents, I asked for the smallest and most modest (cheapest) toy I could think of because I didn’t want my mum and dad to spend money on my toys that I could sense we had no money for.
Looking back now at this quality I held as a child, I can see what a gift it could have been for my parents, teachers and everybody around. Over the last year or so, whilst living with a woman who does not back down in front of anything in the name of integrity, somebody who would literally (in her own words) “take a bullet for truth,” I have begun to reconnect to that same long lost ability. The ability all human beings share, but do not necessarily practice, to see between the lines and question out loud that which does not seem quite right.
However, I have definitely not been welcoming this with open arms and a ‘hallelujah.’ When I get pulled up it feels exposing. Where I originally come from there’s an expression: “you look like you’ve just stomped the spring onions,” which basically means, you look like you pooed your pants as we like to say in English.
But the feeling is so real. It’s like somebody has just found your dirty laundry and is putting it out for all the neighbours to see. And that’s exactly what is happening: our dirty secrets come out and we begin to realise that we may not be ‘The Good Samaritan’ that likes to help everybody. In fact we could be doing all of the altruistic deeds out of a need to be liked, approved of and recognised. So in truth, we are then more of a manipulative Samaritan – yep, hurts to admit.
When exposed in my so called ‘good’ ways, I can often sulk for days thinking of all of the things I could have said in the conversation which could prove that I was right, that I am ‘good.’ I attack the person with my own thoughts like: “how dare they,” “this is my truth,” “they expect too much of me,” and so much more. However, underneath all of this I have a knowing that what has been presented to me is truth and I cannot alter it, even if I tried.
So we have created a society where we actually encourage people to learn to calculate the most appropriate thing to say in order to keep everybody around ‘happy’ and ‘at peace.’ We make it even more difficult for others to express truth by confronting and attacking the ones who do hold onto the truth, so the ones who choose to comply with the lies can float through the shallow waters of life untouched and untroubled by the outside world.
This path of dishonesty for me has accumulated deep levels of frustration, anger and aggression that have literally made my bones hurt. Anger towards myself for knowing truth so strongly when I see it and feel it, and yet, I choose to remain sitting quietly at the front of the classroom of life, putting my hand up to speak up only when I know that my answers will give me that grade A for compliance and will not ruffle any feathers.
What’s important here is that I know I am not alone in this experience. Someone close to me used to warn me that if I continue to speak without thinking twice first, I will most definitely end up in a marriage where I will get abused. This ‘warning’ came because they witnessed their mother get beaten on a daily basis exactly for the same reason.
But what I have found much worse is the attack we cast upon ourselves by holding back, by not saying the thing that is on the tip of our tongue, the thing that may cause a reaction of any sort in another but the exact same thing which may change one’s life or the life of many others. Forever.
We are afraid of speaking up because we all know what happens to the people who do: Rosa Parks got arrested, Martin Luther King got shot, Jesus was crucified and the loudest i.e. most outspoken child at school receives accolade of academic consequences, detentions and exclusions.
But perhaps it’s time to start considering what happens when we don’t speak up and the self-abusive behaviours this can often lead to, such as eating disorders as it may have happened in the case of Lady Diana, or the devastating depression which left Robin Williams feeling like the only way out was through taking his own life, or any of the other celebrities and people in general who develop drug and alcohol dependencies which can often lead to an overdose and another life lost.
It may be worth questioning whether any of these behaviours would even have a base to develop if we as a society were more honest and open to hearing and expressing what needs to be heard and or said.
After all, we can all feel truth, so why aren’t we all voicing it?
By Anonymous
Further Reading:
The importance of expressing truth
Truth – I Can Feel it in my Bones
Truth about Little White Lies
The Truth about Universal Medicine 
It’s great to feel the power in expressing the truth that we know and feel, yet for so long don’t express. It can be easy to let life go on, let the untruths circulate but when we stand up for truth we get to feel our real strength.
The image that appeared when you said the woman you live with would take a bullet for Truth, I could see her mouth catching the bullet as it was fired, so when we speak out for Truth it is more powerful than brute force and all the fighting in the world.
I love the awareness you share here. Deepening an inner connection so the world doesn’t have to be a certain way but can be seen for how it is and responded to accordingly without a need or investment from ourselves wanting it to be a certain way. I’ve struggled accepting life how it is and can see how this comes from me looking to the world to fulfill what only my connection with myself can bring because it’s about me bringing me to the world. When I am connected it’s a joy to share the love I feel with the world, there is no place for blame or resentment etc.
I love exploring my voice as I speak, particularly when it shifts in the pitch and or tone. It allows me to ponder on who I am with when these changes occur and why I am expressing in this way. There is always more to express and more to learn via our voice and our unique expression.
‘The Unspoken Voice of Truth’ This is a voice we can all hear deep inside us. It’s wonderful to start expressing it. At first, and still it sometimes comes out a little clumsily, but the more it’s expressed the more the cobwebs are being blown away by irrefutable clarity.
Calling a beautiful child a ‘loud mouth’ is such a gross and bullying reaction. And reaction it is – reaction to the wisdom, beauty, purity and spontaneity of that beautiful child. It is a deliberate attack – the person hosting a force that comes through that simply wants to squash those communications which pierce through the life of lies around them.
It’s an important question to ponder on….”what happens when we don’t speak up?” We only need to look around us to see what happens. It really is right in front of our eyes and we feel every single bit of it. But we don’t like what we see and more importantly what we feel and we fear the reaction of what will happen when we speak up. But not speaking up or waiting for someone else to do it doesn’t work, for we all have a part to play and “every voice matters”.
Knowing that we have abandoned truth, i.e. ourselves and who we are of course then ‘When I get pulled up it feels exposing’; we have to admit that it was us and not anyone else who made that choice no matter what the circumstances and understandable reasons we had for that choice.
Until truth is our common denominator we settle on what is not truth for the sake of not being challenged by truth.
Beautifully said Joseph! Truth is something so profoundly important, and yet could it be that we do not value nor appreciate it enough to place its priority on top of the list?
“But what I have found much worse is the attack we cast upon ourselves by holding back, by not saying the thing that is on the tip of our tongue, the thing that may cause a reaction of any sort in another but the exact same thing which may change one’s life or the life of many others. ” Holding back and not expressing as we need to is indeed deeply damaging, not just for ourselves but also for everyone else, and of course there is an art in expressing Truth whilst holding the other deeply with love.
For many years I had not considered what self abuse actually meant for me and still years after realising yes, I don’t care for myself like I could, there are layers and layers of depth of care I can go to. This is not indulgent, everything I learn in terms of self love is reflected, we love ourselves in truth then in truth we can love another. So aware of my breathing today and how I have allowed it to not support me as it could, so back to refinement and working through those layers.
“…when we don’t speak up and the self-abusive behaviours this can often lead to, …” Yes, all could be averted if only expression is expressed..
The absoluteness of truth shines a light so bright that all else is revealed for what it is. Thank you to all those who are willing to express it, for the world needs it if we are ever to cease the many loveless aspects to our modern life.
When we hold back we are not giving the other an opportunity to know truth.
If what we have to offer is of truth and we hold it back, it’s very dishonouring of ourselves – as we have denied /ignored what we know to be true.
It’s so true that dishonesty makes our bones hurt; something may never ‘come out’ but lying does an incredible damage to our mental and potentially physical health from the tension, loneliness and paranoia that it puts our body into.
A very strange remark that one might attract an abusive partner because of speaking up and nominating what is going on. It feels like the opposite is true – it is when we don’t speak up but put up with and say yes to whatever is happening, to ourselves and to others.
When we eventually admit to the falseness of right and wrong, good and bad we have invested in it is somehow a loss, a loss of identity for a moment before we realize that we have restored an original space for being who we once were and forever are without any need to justify. Good or bad is justification of what is not true in the first place, hence good is an empty attempt to replace the dishonoured truth.
Agree, dampening our expression of who we are results in illness. It takes practice, but with due commitment and care we can free ourselves from our inability to say what feels true, stand by it and walk with it. We do all know what feels true.
I never cease to be amazed at the wisdom of a child, it is so knowing and true.
It turns things around when we begin to see how not speaking the truth affects us in daily life. What if people who are over weight, use drugs or are aggressive are actually super sensitive but have not learnt how to express this and how to be with this in the world?
The world really needs those ‘loud mouth kids’ who expose the lies of adults. Otherwise there are no checks on the truth we are kidding ourselves about and no end to how far from the truth we may stray.
We are not voicing because of fear. We fear as we know Truth is not the accepted norm. We are going in to not be accepted. But we cannot force ourselves to go out and get smashed, that would be stupid, and we cannot hold back Truth, that is totally stupid too. So the process and yes it is a process is to build our bodies of love, to keep reflecting in this process, so many more people will see this reflection and will too be called by this Light to the knowing of themselves.With the love developing within us, the steadiness grows and even if we are not accepted so much, we can keep going with expressing Truth, for not only are we backing ourselves up with the support from our body, we will also be supported by every man and woman who in the process have also realized this light within themselves. Support is truly everywhere and there is no room for fear.
Truth exists whether we choose to be aware of it or not, this cannot be interfered with.
Great sharing Doug “If you accept the truth of reincarnation taking a bullet for the truth is the only way because to compromise will compromise your next re-incarnation.” how many is willing to take this step?
There are many signs to scare us, large and small that tell us to not rock the boat, and not express what we are feeling. It is possible to live in this way, stay quiet, and not get noticed but not only does the world miss out, when we compromise to please others, we lose ourselves.
We can all feel truth and this says everything for living what we feel is the answer to our health harmony and the responsibility we all hold. The suppression many of us undergo while growing up to not express our truth is something beautiful to change in the world, allowing us to all live in another way and true love to be known by all.
Truth is in our bones so it is painful when we deny our connection with it.
It is amazing to have people in our lives that don’t gloss over the truth and hit you where it hurts if necessary, to break down that pride we are so good at concealing at times. There is becoming less and less room in our lives for ‘nice’ and ‘good’, for they simply don’t work, whereas truth is the stand alone hero to get us out of the mess we have been in for so long.
Yes when truth is presented it is felt deeply and cannot be denied, it is then our choice to act on what we feel or over ride it.
As a little girl when I spoke everyone looked at me and made a big deal out of it. I was shy so when I did actually say something I got so much attention I couldn’t deal with it. So I shut down my expression. So my voice of truth was not used for many many years. When I did speak my words were full of resentment. Very painful. Out of this came the need to be nice which sugar coated the resentment. Yuck! A whole load of layers on top of the truth.
I had discovered years ago that people expect you to lie and are prepared to accept or attack it. But, if you just tell the truth, it leaves them confused when you just raise your hand and say; Sorry, I messed up!
I always held a strong instinct or feeling for people when I was very young and was very vocal about sharing this with adults. As I got older though what was once seen as being cute as I was a young girl once I hit puberty I was told I was being cheeky or rude, so I decided to not risk being called names and held back sharing what I felt out of fear of ridicule. I now appreciate the tension on my body when I do not express what is felt and instead of beating myself up know that in the very next moment I can express again from my body’s expression and continue to grow and learn as I feel too.
As I read this article I could feel the simplicity and magnitude of honesty and how we are all responsible for first and foremost developing a relationship with honesty with ourselves… coming back to that simple way of being when we feel with our whole bodies (not just refer to the learnt behaviour in our brain) and then begin to express and share this with others.
We have become a society that lives in a false reality, because we don’t express the honesty or the truth that we feel. If we were to express how we truly feel, and the truth about things, society would have to change.
There is a long for us all to go to get to this change, but if we all start to take responsibility and start to express how we truly feel, through our livingness and reflection to others it will change.
Yes, it’s reconnecting to the truth that truth is worth standing firm with and no threats or fear is worth the pain of turning ones back on it in the short or long term. I’ve compromised plenty and know this to be an opening for harm and abuse, that’s painful to admit.
‘Looking back now at this quality I held as a child, I can see what a gift it could have been for my parents, teachers and everybody around. ‘ I keep coming back to this sentence because, for me, it holds an appreciation of what I know I brought, but then gave up on because I didn’t like how I was received. Yes, even though there was my judgement that tainted what I said after expressing my original expression of truth, there was gold expressed but I turned my back on this truth because I judged it by the reactions to it of people not wanting to hear. And now it’s for me to start appreciating the true good that truth delivers.
True, uncomfortable and even bad things can happen to people who speak up presenting the truth, but what we may also need to consider is that they get recognised for who they are in their truth, i.e. they are clocked for the more, the truth they add to life.
Wanting to keep the ‘happy peace’ around me was important. Not wanting to rock the boat, I always held back expressing my view, so much so I doubted my validity. Although I still find it challenging, I am learning more and more to speak up and express.
Gorgeous we must re-claim that right to stand for all that we know is true and move on to what is next for us to become aware of and honestly live. Living is not true when love is missing. Only illusion keeps us away from truth and love.
“We are afraid of speaking up because we all know what happens to the people who do:” But if enough of us stood up for truth, and express from love not judgement, then the world view can change.
‘After all, we can all feel truth…’ hence we know exactly how to avoid, resist and fight it.
And it is this resistance that makes life so seemingly complicated… when in truth simplicity is our normal and natural.
We are masters of avoiding it, it is us who needs to come back and claim taking responsibility for accepting the truth.
‘The ability all human beings share, but do not necessarily practice, to see between the lines and question out loud that which does not seem quite right.’ I was one of those children too, and I was labelled as ‘Tactless’ because sometimes honesty hurts. Adults like to live comfortable lives and children soon learn that and conform to what is expected of them. Now I am rediscovering my ability to read situations and am also learning to deal with the reactions when I speak my truth – there may be an uncomfortable silence for a while as other people process it, but I can no longer hold back, it’s making me ill.
As a child I was often very afraid to speak up because I was sometimes threatened that bad things would happen to me or the people I cared about if I did. It was the fear of what ‘might’ happen that kept me silent for many years and now, I realise fear has no power unless I give it power, whereas truth is the opposite. Because truth is super powerful, it does not drain us of our power(energy) but feeds it back to us and everyone around us whenever we express it or live it. We can’t erase it, shift it or water it down, truth is solid, accessible and deeply loving.
‘So we have created a society where we actually encourage people to learn to calculate the most appropriate thing to say in order to keep everybody around ‘happy’ and ‘at peace.’’ – This statement could not be more accurate. We are so stuck in this idea of saying what we think someone wants to hear rather than delivering what is there to be said and getting ourselves out of the way. Think about it – if we say something so that someone thinks we are nice – then it is just self-indulgence. We get in the way. But if we deliver the truth we feel that is there to be shared – what if we are saying something that someone needs to hear in order for them to evolve and look at things in a different way?
When we have found the True values in life with the framework so that we can live and never have any regrets then I would “take a bullet for truth,” because we all have to stand up for True Expression then the unifying Truth can be shared.
Being exposed for holding back on claiming my truth is something I have squirmed about for years. As a child I learnt that it didn’t feel safe to be the whole me, so I learnt to replace the truth with half truths as a way to survive the constant onslaught of dishonesty that is the norm in society – a society that would be appalled and indignant to even contemplate this reality. As I allow the whole of me to express I don’t experience the rejection that I had always anticipated – what I feel is that people actually appreciate the new me as they know where they are and that there is no sense of manipulation taking place – just a clarity, openness and completeness.
I love your term ‘manipulative Samaritan’! It speaks of so much. It shows us how what we like to think of as ‘good’ deeds are not in fact ‘good’ at all. We are simply finding ways to appear like we are helping, when in fact we are simply covering up the truth and acting out of a desire to take care of ourselves.
Sure Victoria, when we allow ourselves to open our mouth and and to express what we sense needs to be expressed based on the love we have built in ourselves, the world would look completely different. Actually it is about responsibility, do we take our responsibility in what we are faced with, or do we instantiate ourselves from it and say ‘it is not my problem, I have nothing to do with it’.
Calling out what is not true can simply be done by saying what we feel, matter-of-factly. When we get on our high-horse of truth, and deliver what we feel is true for us with emotion, blame, judgment, or a need for the other to get it, the message is lost in translation, and the other gets our reaction and not the truth. And then it becomes being right, not truth.
Our body knows when we are not speaking up when needed, speaking truth, and it holds every interaction we have as either an expansion or a contraction.
It is the way that we express and deliver honesty and or truth that can make all the difference as to whether someone is prepared to listen and take on board what is being said, or not.
That is so true, it is in our delivery our expression, whether the other person is willing and open to listen. If we come with a controlling, forceful or demanding way that will not be open to another. We have to come from a connected and loving way.
To not speak out (speak our truth) we hold ourselves back and not only ourselves, but others as well. What you may have to share could be the thing that the other may need to hear in that moment and an opportunity lost for all!
When we hold back speaking our truth, we hold back the offering for another.
No matter how much we calculate to make others ‘happy’ and have what is perceived as ‘peace’, the very clear reality of this is it doesn’t work. Otherwise people wouldn’t be in the declining states of well-being that is very evident. Is the pretence of happiness and peace the root cause of why humanity is suffering so much?
Agree Lyndy when it is delivered with love more often then not the person receives truth gracefully and appreciates that you have loved them enough to talk with them even though they feel exposed.
I was told when I was young that if I continued to speak with out thinking twice that no one would marry me. There is some truth to this, in that many men do not want to be married to a woman who values truth greater then needing a man, as they find it too exposing. At that time it was a threat now I do not see it that way, knowing there are men who would love to be with a woman who speaks her truth.
Our arrogance has presupposed that a child is born an empty vessel, formed primarily by its knowledge and understanding of the outside world. Yet the real gold lies already within, by moving and expressing in line with their natural homeo stasis, they afford themselves a grand awareness and sensitivity to energy – a wisdom that is beyond all knowledge.
“it’s time to start considering what happens when we don’t speak up and the self-abusive behaviours this can often lead to,” well said and so true and a new vibration to live by.
‘not saying the thing that is on the tip of our tongue, the thing that may cause a reaction of any sort in another but the exact same thing which may change one’s life or the life of many others.’ – How true, who are we to decide to not deliver truth to someone when really, it may be just the thing they needed to hear to make a true choice for themselves.
Not rocking the boat is something people often welcome – we like calm and comfortable waters. But when you look around at us as a species and how we are living, we need our boat to be rocked.
So true Nikki….oh how we need our boat to be rocked!
All expression invites us to go deeper . . .in fact it also offers us the choice to react or to deepen our understanding of our self and others.
This quotation from Serge Benhayon says it all: ‘When the truth is felt, honour it. If it is there to be said to another – say it, for if not, your silence makes their wrong a confirmed right.”
Esoteric Teachings & Revelations, p 476
Being liked is no longer a choice for me, only speaking truth.
Absolutely for me too, like does not fit in anymore with me. I express the truth I feel in my loving way.
I too have found when someone stands in their truth absolutely there is no fear, only truth to be presented. I am beginning to experience this in my life too.
Honesty and truth can be expressed with sweetness and joy, a pleasure that is insurmountable against the tide of lies and misery that abounds in modern life today.
Shami so true, honesty and truth can be expressed with sweetness, joy and playfulness, that is what I am experiencing more and more each day.
Exactly Shami – we can to let go of the idea that honesty and truth is ‘serious business’
Thank you Shami for opening another window. I’ve learned the same: we can be honest and express truth in a light and playful way.
Expressing our truth is the only true protection we have in a world where corruption, greed, discontentment, unsettlement and lies are commonplace.
‘I can see what a gift it could have been for my parents, teachers and everybody around.’ Yes, it’s a true gift we all share if we reconnect with truth. I’ve observed adults be weary of it, not wanting their lies to be exposed. I’ve felt this way at times too. I’ve also seen how adults find a child speaking truth as amusing and then tell the child they’ll upset someone so they need to be quiet, the child looks puzzled as if to say, how does expressing the truth of God be seen as rude or ‘not nice’? I’ve also seen many adults dismiss children as pure gold is expressed, perhaps because if they were to acknowledge the truth they’d also have to feel the pain of suppressing this knowing in themselves and how painful that is.
Children know truth, they feel it in their bones and the saddest truth of all is that because we, as adults, don’t often like to hear truth, we squash those who naturally question and speak up. The tragedy of that is that children ask from a body that has no agenda, when this is re-awakened in an adult, it can sometimes come with the hardness of having had to keep it quite or being squashed for so long. There is a judgement and a force that can come with it that others react to. Whilst we deal with those hurts, it is worth considering, as adults and perhaps parents, that we should not be afraid of the truth our children are offering us, it is a much simpler and less draining way to live and be.
That’s a great point Henrietta – we as a humanity have created unspoken laws and rules that keeps us from speaking truth. How crazy is that.
We do indeed all know truth, no matter how much we defend or deny what we feel – it takes self-love and deep honesty to get behind the spiritual pride that most of us would put up towards being exposed in our ‘doing good’ tracks or any other expose for that matter.
Naming things and talking with others is one of the most powerful healing things we can do, as to express things is an opportunity to heal the shame we often feel and connect with who we truly are, not our created issues.
Yes, and if the truth is not embodied it is simply empty words and does not connect with another.
If we speak truth from knowledge then it becomes un-relatable and dogmatic, however if we speak from our lived experience of truth then it can truly be seen and heard – this is where children shine, speaking absolutely about what feels true.
Very true – when children are allowed to speak from their heart, it feels simple and true as opposed to measured and calculated.
My whole life I’ve been the opposite of what you described – not the loud mouth but the one who wouldn’t speak unless pretty much forced to – I hated speaking up, being the centre of attention, any kind of public experiences. The cure for this (I find) is knowing there is work that needs to be done, and we simply can’t afford to be silent or shy or mute – that our voice and what we stand for counts.
Truth sets free, lies keep you in the prison of over and over repeating cycles that lead nowhere but back to the same point. Hence no evolution.
I call this existing whilst slowly dying inside.
Truth will always be attacked, as it asks humanity to get out of their comfort. Knowing this and living the purpose of ones life to represent the truth does help, when you don´t want to make friends 😉
So true Victoria, the judgement we cast upon ourselves when we don’t speak the truth that we feel, is the cruelest and most debilitating. It feels designed to take us a notch further down and away from speaking truth, and we can repeat this process time and time again until we feel far away from expressing truth. But our inside-out knowing of the truth remains steadfast, no matter how hidden under many layers of societal ‘norms’ and ‘graces.’
My experience is it is impossible to not voice Truth, and carry on Life undisturbed, the tension is too strong to ignore. When Truth is spoken we may be ignored but our body will thank us, if we appreciate this movement and see that it is a step closer to coming back to ourselves as a whole. It is also important to feel how devastating it is for Truth to be ignored and to learn not to take it personally.
“In fact, we could be doing all of the altruistic deeds out of a need to be liked, approved of and recognised”. This doer of ‘good’ is much more likely to not want to be exposed by truth and to defend their actions than the outright liar, who is aware of the lie and so somehow much more honest. We tend to invest in things that make us feel like we are doing good but when the light of truth is shone on it, the ugliness of the self-interest is revealed.
Nowadays lying has become so blunt that we can lie to somebody right to their face and get away with it. The question is how far do we want to go – until lies are our truth and truth a faraway echo from the universe. I agree it is time to simply voice our truth and simply see what comes from it.
Not speaking up or speaking truth is poisoning us and thereby affecting others as well. It simply makes us sick, literally, personally and collectively.
This is the simple truth, that it makes us sick. That brings us to another level of responsibility – to know that it makes us sick collectively. And it makes sense for what we do to ourselves, we do to another.
There is great healing for adults when prepared to listen to the wisdom and truth that young children naturally express before they are diminished by beliefs, ideals and systems.
Being in connection with our body begins to expose old patterns of where we are numbing our awareness to not feel anything disharmonious and choose to remain silent. It is then possible to begin to question out loud and stand up for truth – this is deeply healing for all.
“The ability all human beings share, but do not necessarily practice, to see between the lines and question out loud that which does not seem quite right”.
Spot on Susan – there are both sides to the coin – we can speak up and be smashed for this, but regardless of this, it is not about hiding, for if we do so, then the truth gets watered down or buried till such time that we do speak up with no holding back. And so it is just as you have said, that when we stand for Truth, there is no fear of what is to come as there is a knowing that this is simply as it needs to be presented.
Being a ‘loud mouth’ so to speak is actually often someone who says things as they are and it is simply about people often not wanting to hear what is being said, or it being deemed unconventional.
Not expressing the truth we so clearly feel in order to protect others and most of all ourselves, is more directly harmful and undermining than anything that can come at us from others. Having said yes to being silenced is the much deeper hurt.
When we are children we often have not developed the filters and editing that we acquire by the time we are adults so it often means that we have learnt to not express what we have felt.
With a very close relative of mine going more to her last stage of life, I can feel the importance of not holding back anything that each of us want to express, making sure that there are no regrets and to appreciate deeply everything offered for the two of us.
This is a beautiful way to complete, I recently had member of our family pass over and it was a beautiful experience as we had expressed our feelings, there where no regrets and a deep appreciation of our relationship.
This is a powerful and well delivered blog of what goes on in our world because we as humans like to stay in our comfort and not rock the boat so to speak. What I love about this blog is that it is time to face the serious consequences by not speaking up, holding it all in, years of suppressing our expression on so many levels, that at some point it has to explode as an outlet and a release to clear from our sensitive bodies – for example in the form of illness and disease. Yes it is time for humanity to wake up and second step to take responsibility for all we have created, and from that space of honesty, we can all move forward or rather back to who we truly are in essence.
The problem with truth is people expect us to lie. The dog ate my homework, has to be a lie. It was a true excuse for me once when I was in 6th grade. The task was to create a country of the world. I made a cake and spent a great deal of time decorating it. The next day, I was meant to take it to school, our German Shepard had eaten the half it could reach on the counter! When we are adults we just accept lies, even when we know the truth. Lies are like cheating; they always hurt us first.
I didn’t realsie how much I hold back what I read and am sensitive too. I am just learning how much I turn this in on myself when I don’t express this. It’s like what I don’t express out then turns in and creates issues and then these add to situations, in particular, they add to what I have seen and don’t like and needed to express about.
To give voice to the lies over truth is to allow the shadows to dominate and live in a world of darkness that masks the light we know and are from. This era is fast coming to an end.
We all have Gold to share with the world equally, the only difference is seen in the willingness to explore and express that Gold.
This realization: ‘so the ones who choose to comply with the lies can float through the shallow waters of life untouched and untroubled by the outside world’, rewards to ‘play’ with the truth and we keep confirming the same over and over again.
It is very damaging to all if we hold back what we know we are strongly impulsed to say as even if it is not the truth at all and we have missed the mark we learn so much. . . much more than if we say nothing and keep it all in.
Beautifully put Vickoria. We all know Truth, so why are we not voicing it?
Those labels given to children who speak out truth that does not fit into the ideals of adults can be a curse throughout our whole lives.When a child speaks their truth, they are not being offensive or rude, they are simply saying what they observe. We need to learn this and not close children down from their awareness. It is the adults who behave inappropriately.
Adults should listen to children- they deliver gold, as they are definitely more connected to the truth than we are. No wonder, they get told, after they start talking, most of the time to shut up. The world would change, if in our upbringing children and adults were equal and listened to each other.
But wanting to know and listen to the truth requires the openness of taking on more responsibility in life and who is sincerely open to that?
It is the Emperor’s New Clothes isn’t it?! Children often just ask about what they see and feel. If we had the skills to be able to deal with that we would not shut children down for asking or pointing out things we are not at ease with seeing ourselves in fear of the consequences. It is adults lack of skills for how to deal with truth that we have to look at in order to support rather than judge.
So Gill, we need to learn to not shut the awareness of children, they are simply sharing what they observe and speaking the truth.
It’s a very powerful reflection when someone expresses their truth, without any hesitation or fanfare, rather as a part of their everyday expression. It’s can be very confronting for us as we all know and recognise the truth and it may be exposing how we have not made the same choice to express our truth, but rather to keep quiet, adding energy to re-circulate the false beliefs and perceptions which we have created in life. These will continue to exist as long as we allow them too. The more we choose to share our truth, always and unreservedly, anything that is not true will struggle to survive.
“We are afraid of speaking up because we all know what happens to the people who do: Rosa Parks got arrested, Martin Luther King got shot, Jesus was crucified and the loudest i.e. most outspoken child at school receives accolade of academic consequences, detentions and exclusions.” I think you’ve nailed it here, from young we are taught not to speak out or speak up to express our truth. We learn to go through life like this.
I so often wonder what it would be like to live in a world where there is only truth. I then realise that it is really down to us that know about clairsentience and our need to develop it. The more people that do, the more people will get caught out lying and deceiving until eventually in the end, we will all be speaking the same language of truth, because those that don’t will be completely exposed. I would far rather someone tell me that they don’t like me than pretend that they do, or tell me straight up how they feel, instead of glossing things up in order not to hurt my feelings.
It would seem that most people do not like to ruffle feathers and so chose not to speak up, but the more we live by truth, the more clarity we feel within our bodies and the easier it becomes.
‘The unspoken voice of truth’ is a great subject to explore for ourselves, in terms of considering how much we have held back and squashed what we are truly feeling, to the extent that this modus operandi is now an ingrained pattern.
Tumbleweed moment….yes a good program to put ourselves on so we can see how often we still, as adult, hold back and squash what we are truly feeling.
The self -abusive behaviours run riot when we do not speak about how we truly feel and see the world. The holding back feels so awful in our bodies, so much so, that abuse gives us more relief and comfort. We are already numb from the abuse of holding back that we can’t feel the damage. We are numb to the damage being done by the substances we then choose.
I feel what you are saying makes sense Simone, that we are so numb from holding back what we know in our hearts to be true but dare not say; that we cannot feel the further damage we inflict on ourselves by eating or drinking to fill the emptiness that not speaking up produces. My first step to reclaiming myself and my truth was to use the words ‘this doesn’t feel right to me’ I found these words to be hugely supportive for my body because at last I was acknowledging that my body does know the truth of everything.
Lies only work in the short term because the Truth will always surface in one way or another, nothing can remain hidden for very long these days.
Truth expressed is absolute and can for many expose to them the fact that they are not always that truthful. Depending to the level of honesty they live, people can either choose to surrender to this truth or, when vastly invested in the creation these lies deliver, become offensive and respond in defending their lies and maybe even try to attack the truth that is presented.
When ‘truth’ is the true united voice of all people, it seems sacrilegious that it is not our collective native tongue.
It’s true that if we accept a lower standard of love, conversation or factuality than we know is true or respectful in an instance, then this compromise can escalate more and more, until it does become an abusive relationship or otherwise outplay that seems ‘intense’, but can actually be traced back through each small tolerant choice.
Brilliant Ariana. I have experienced what you’ve shared, ‘Voicing the truth can be an excuse to dump our own views and ideals onto others.’ and it doesn’t feel loving at all. Discerning truth is an ability we all have, which allows us to see through everything, the illusion and all.
I have fallen for the false version of expressing truth, for example when I think I am expressing truth because the words sound right, but they are words that are delivered void of love, respect, integrity or brotherhood. So, when truth is being expressed in full through our livingness and connection to our soul, it is delivered with absoluteness, power, love, integrity and it is always inclusive of everyone. Expressing truth leaves no trace of recognition or investment in what has been delivered to be accepted or heard, it is simply delivered without any attachments what so ever.
I am learning to speak my truth instead of keeping it quiet to keep the peace, or to not offend as I have done most of my life. When I did speak my truth to someone the other day, I did go into a bit of “was it harsh” but I soon let that go. So different to how I would be in the past, beating myself up for saying the wrong thing.
When we have been settling for a world of lies and then hear truth or start to express it, it can totally freak us out because we are just not used to it. When I started to hear the truth of Universal Medicine teachings as presented by Serge Benhayon, there was an instant ‘finally I knew it was out there somewhere’ feeling and I had found it, to also the ‘oh no i’m about to be exposed and the lies I have been living’. A time in my life where I am deeply grateful that I persevered and stuck with what I knew was true no matter what.
‘The ability all human beings share, but do not necessarily practice, to see between the lines and question out loud that which does not seem quite right.’ – yes, we do all have this ability, yet we so often shy away from voicing what we are feeling to avoid standing out, to fit in and stay comfortable. The reason we react when people do speak out is because they are exposing the truth when we have been complicit in failing to do so.
Yes, when we hold back what is there to be expressed, it harms the potential giver and also the potential receiver, because they have missed an important piece of their evolution… and they often feel something was needed to be said but wasn’t as well, which creates/perpetuates mistrust in others.
Lies, abuse – none of it will ever change without someone being willing to call it out.
It possibly is all a little too familiar for some children now adults, that anything from a smack to a belting for what was called being ‘cheeky’ could be delivered because of speaking up/truth. I have seen things adults or others didn’t or don’t want to hear can come with a physical reply.
Is the world we have created the way it is because we have ignored our impulse to speak up when we know something is not right? It is our responsibility to speak our truth, and it feels good too!
It’s hard to fathom the truth that more harm is being done by not speaking up than speaking up. When this truth is felt in full our conversations will be vastly different.
The ruffling of feathers by exposing lies and calling for truth can be most unwelcome, although not many would admit that. “Keep quiet” is the message we often get sent. But to what is our commitment? A commitment to truth leaves the body feeling very steady.
I find that the most important part of expression is love – when we express with love, it may not get reciprocated by the other but the expression comes out with a quality that the other notices. There is still an awareness needed in the moment but in my experience if the words are inappropriate, then they can’t be expressed with love.
True Alison, the moment passes and so it’s never the same, much may have changed in the space between then and when it is eventually expressed.
These moments of holding back something that may feel uncomfortable for others, or may lead to you being attacked on any level, upon reflection, highlight what we place above truth and it full expression.
Wow, this blog is a call out to each and every one of us to come out of hiding and reawaken to the fact that truth lives within our very core; when we don’t let it out, this means that life is void of the true love and purpose that we are all capable (and made) of.
For me this highlights the importance of our relationship with ourselves and not trying to fit it, look good, be liked or be nice, as in any of those things, because they are not true, eventually we will fall flat on our face or be exposed. However, if we love ourselves for just being us and accept every part/inch of ourselves, with a willingness to heal and truly evolve, nothing else it needed.
So true Vicky, and when we have that acceptance of ourselves, we do not want or need anything from anyone. Also when we are with people, they can feel that there is no expectation for them to be anything.
“So we have created a society where we actually encourage people to learn to calculate the most appropriate thing to say in order to keep everybody around ‘happy’ and ‘at peace.’” And we can reverse that – society is of our making, through our choices to accept the dishonesty and to express it ourselves. Only through living in a way that is true, will we be able to influence others so that eventually society will change. It may take centuries but it will happen.
The tension is very tangible and what I have found is such a sense of relief when I have finally expressed.
We can all feel truth and we know it and the expression of this that we have as a child and learn to repress is a journey back to all we are and an important expression in many ways to appreciate and so much needed in the world for ourselves and others as is shared here so clearly.
This is the evil of allowing conversations, relationships, indeed our health to become watered down; diluted, little by little we have turned a blind eye on what we know is untrue and before we know it, we are living a life less.
Thank you DN. That makes a lot of sense.
What kind of a world and a life are we with our own hand creating when we hold back the truth that we know and let the lies and misconceptions set the foundations?
When we hold back speaking the truth when it requires expressing it is like a piece of fruit that just sits in the bowl uneaten. The fruit had a long journey from seed to it being ready to pass its nutrients to us. We miss the golden opportunity for everyone to evolve.
Speaking out for the first time after having holding back for many years is very daunting. However, after taking the first step it becomes increasingly easier and we become carried by the flow of truth.
Truth does not always need to be spoken, sometimes love can come with silence, a space to allow another to feel the reflection, it is their choice whether they accept that invitation or not.
“In fact we could be doing all of the altruistic deeds out of a need to be liked, approved of and recognised.” I know that I have gone into ‘being good’ mode to avoid the real guts of a situation and my part in it. This is my biggest ouch, being exposed in my ‘good deeds’ because I am wanting to notch up some ‘Brownie Points’ on God’s score card, which in itself is a complete illusion.
This is a beautiful insight into life, how much we are affected by speaking or not speaking our truth, how in fact our entire beingness is determined by this.
Truth has a way of prevailing eventually, and it seems that more and more things are being outed of late. Things like corruption within the banking sector, sexual harassment within the film industry and the UK Parliment. All the things people have thought that they have got away with over the last 20 – 30 years or longer are coming to light, and people are finding the courage to speak up and put a voice to their experiences.
One can also add the exposure of Pedophiles’ in prominent positions; from priests, celebrities to politicians that forever had been swept under the carpet. Truth is like cream; it will always rise to the top when you stop stirring it.
Yes DN, and we all have our so called vices which actually are the end result of holding back that natural expression that can come through us all of the time.
Holding back and not expressing that which needs to be expressed brings a tension to the body that is hard to handle.The only way we can do that is by hardening our feelings and dulling this tension by using food, alcohol, drugs, sport, becoming very mental, sex, work and so on in such a way that we are swamped by it and not able to feel the tension of not expressing. This is the reason for all these excessive behaviours.
Yes the tension of not allowing ourselves to feel the truth and express it is very straining on the body and we have so many ways of avoiding feeling that.
Indeed Monika we have made created many vices to escape in but at the end we have to face the reality of our choices possibly by facing illness or disease or and accident that stops us in our wayward behaviours. These stops are for us the opportunity to make other choices this time and that is actually the beauty of life. That we are well looked after and no mater what our choices have been we are always given this possibility which is actually the grace of life as we are all given the choice to return to God’s love over and over again.
The ugly truth is, we are dedicated to silencing the truth in others because we ourselves have chosen to keep quiet.
I remember when my children stopped believing in Santa Claus, I felt really disappointed, whilst at the same time, a voice inside was questioning why it was so important to keep this ‘lie’ alive, what was I protecting? In truth, I was protecting the created illusion that surrounds Christmas, confected commercialism amongst many other things.
Could it have been their enthusiasm that was then gone? Or that the belief that somebody (Santa) is looking after them is gone?
” Since I can remember, I have been known as the ‘loud mouth,’ ” I like you ” LOUD MOUTH “
‘knowing that the nursery is going to ask my parents to buy our Christmas presents, I asked for the smallest and most modest (cheapest) toy I could think of because I didn’t want my mum and dad to spend money on my toys that I could sense we had no money for’ – I love that you remember this so clearly, that at such a young age you were already so self-less and so in touch with what was going on around you – what a gorgeous confirmation of the wisdom and insight children have, that we come into this world ‘all-knowing’.
I know my more ‘ouch’ moments have opened the door to understanding myself more clearly and letting go of what is not the real me, which then clears the way to live more of the real me. And I think that is what we truly want, to live the true versions of ourselves.
‘I attack the person with my own thoughts like: “how dare they,” “this is my truth,” “they expect too much of me,”… ‘ I used to do this and sometimes can fall back into it. But the difference now is that I am aware that these kind of thoughts/attacks are equally as harmful as those who choose to express their thoughts/attacks out loud.
Speaking our truth or speaking up can also be about communicating our appreciation of another or of something else in life, opening up and showing our sensitivity and care, in that way, and not holding it in.
Isnt it interesting that we will label someone as a ‘loud mouth’ when in fact they are the ones expressing the truth that no-one else is willing to say! Is it because we are jealous, because we are uncomfortable and being confronted with the fact that we knew that truth too but chose to align with the lie instead?
It seems many of us are afraid to speak the truth, but the more we do it the less scary it becomes.
As speaking the truth becomes the normal e.g. when the majority of people are doing it, the people that do not speak from truth will then be exposed as not being the normal and possibly will be afraid to speak their lies any longer.
This is true Kevin, I used to be so scared of speaking the truth but once I got started I could feel how the fear dissolves and it can make relationships closer with more depth.
I remember as a young child my extended family chastising my mother for allowing me to speak so openly and freely about my feelings and thoughts, but she never held me back and encouraged me to speak my truth, always willing to listen to me equally in a conversation. Now as an adult, my family still struggles with me because I will not ignore the abuse they have for so long put up with, and I will not hold back that my life and upbringing (a girl allowed to have a full education and ambition outside of marriage) is different from theirs but in no way any less. If we all stand firm in what we know as truth the world benefits, even if it seems uncomfortable at first. And this can be delivered with much love and understanding, so that it is in no way harsh or judgemental
Voicing the truth is definitely necessary but what makes a truth true? My truth could be not your truth and we could easily call our own points of view and ideals and beliefs ‘true’. So yes to expressing truth but not without honest discerning of where what we feel to express is coming from.
I was brought up along the ‘book of etiquette’ which in a way is a summary of many societal and cultural rules we have agreed on. Having these rules serves all of us as those who abide by it can use it as the shield of ‘being good’ and those that do not can use it as the shield of ‘being rebellious against the establishment’ which is their version of good. Neither is an expression of truth though.
As you say “we all can feel truth” and thus is is only a matter of expressing what we already deep down feel.
We really need to sit in the muck and feel the truth of what being nice and good really is and how damaging it is to our own well-being and the well-being of others. A life based on comfort (whatever that may look like for each of us) prevents this…or rather puts the breaks on.
Sometimes adults do not like to hear the truth spoken as it makes them feel uncomfortable in themselves and they especially do not like to be exposed by children who seem to have such a clear understanding of life when young. I wonder if the uncomfortable feeling has something to do with the fact that they as adults know that when they were a child they had the same innocence to speak their truth too.
If we do not live and speak the truth we are living a lie. How we express that truth and with what energy is also very significant. It has to be with love and compassion, only this way can the other hear the truth, whereas spoken with judgement, criticism or anger it will rouse a reaction and a turning away. And Love isn’t soft, the truth can be delivered like the cut of a sword, but being expressed from the innermost heart it can enlighten and heal.
It has always interested me that many of those who reach the apparent pinnacle of ‘fame and fortune’ do not seem to be happy. If this is ‘the ultimate’ to which so many people aspire, why are those who ‘make it’ not full of joy? Do they get there, having given everything to reach that point, only to find ‘this isn’t it’?
When I hear of people who would ‘take a bullet for truth’s I am deeply inspired. I also can feel where I lack this absoluteness and rather than look the other way, I am choosing to see where these areas are and understand what’s going on and what support I need or beliefs or fears I need to blow out the water.
The exposing of ‘what is not true’ is as natural as breathing from someone who lives their truth, and it is actually quite a loving way of being which has no dictation, no judgement, doesn’t punish but provides the opportunity fo make something of a low vibration into a high one.
Funny story. I remember having the same unreserved ‘no’ filter and glaringly obvious voice of truth, and then it somehow got converted to a bit of a “cheeky loud mouth”, there is so much interesting behaviour to observe in what we experience from our family, friends and school mates as we grow up, indeed it is a reflection of how society is.
I used to speak up a lot as a child, and then I was told that not everyone wants to hear my opinion. I later learnt that often when I spoke the truth, people would react so I soon learnt to only say what they wanted to hear. It has taken me a while to realise that there is no love in holding back what is there to be said and shared, and sometimes its so important to speak up, even if it may cause reaction.
The voice of truth can be communicated in all our movements. Sometimes it is verbal and at times by reflection alone; every movement, thought, word or action we make, is either aligned to truth or not, and the quality of our expression is clearly felt.
I love this Victoria as sometimes speaking the truth may not be appropriate or may just fall on deaf ears and thats where the old saying kicks in that actions or our movements speak louder than words.
We could stop and really question a society that condemns someone that speaks truth, or even people that go out of their way to make the peoples lives that speak truth a living nightmare by trying to shut them down, expose them for lies. What I have noticed is how it all comes out in the wash and Truth is Truth and can not be changed as much as the desire of those who don’t want to see the truth. Truth will prevail and the more we accept this the more we will speak it with out holding it back.
“We are afraid of speaking up because we all know what happens to the people who do.” What quality are we speaking up in? If we speak out with judgement then that’s no surprise. Expressing with love and understanding may still get a reactive attacking response, but knowing we have expressed truth to the best of our ability feels ‘better’ energetically. Holding back supports no-one. This I am learning. As Edmund Burke allegedly said: ‘The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.’
Yes it’s very inconvenient for adults when a child speaks the absolute truth. It exposes the lies beautifully. No wonder they try to shut this down. I get the image of the truth piercing through the air breaking all illusion. This is to be valued not frowned upon.
I put off and delay speaking the truth sometimes, because I’ve feared others’ reactions, but also because I’ve had a picture of what I thought it should look or sound like: a strict and harsh telling off, putting people in their place. But that is not truth, that is arrogance and being right. What I’ve come to learn is that there is a vast difference between being right and bringing truth. There is not an ounce of judgment or harshness with truth: it is all encompassing, expansive and loving. Loving in the true sense in that it holds another in love, allowing and giving them space to feel the truth for themselves, from their own bodies and not because I’m telling them that that’s how it is or has to be, and not needing them to ‘get it’ or get me.
Yes.. awareness and discernment of what to say, how to say it, and the timing, is part of delivering something what is there to be expressed with truth and love, in equal measure.
Isn’t it crazy that when you say “we know what happens to people who speak up for truth” we’re referring to abuse, being shut down, prison maybe, murder, genocide and more. This simply exposes that the values society is currently living by are completely false, and far away from truth, brotherhood or respect, and that it’s well overdue for us to change this game.
Holding back and not voicing the truth we feel is one of the most self-destructive behaviours we can have. On the contrary, speaking the truth is one of the most precious gifts we can offer to us and the world. Even when it may be not received, aproved or celebrated, it’s the most needed treasure the world is truly craving for.
This article has so much to offer and what it exposes is the extent of the lie we live and have been encouraged to live from young. In my generation growing up, we were actually told ‘speak only when spoken to’ or ‘children should be seen and not heard’. It was clear from a very young age that if you had an opinion on something, then it was not valid because you were a child, so we quickly learned to hold onto our truth.
A powerful exposure of the insidious mind chatter that can play around and around in our minds if we are not aware of it. Unchecked, it becomes a self-righteous, heinous and critical master.
“When exposed in my so called ‘good’ ways, I can often sulk for days thinking of all of the things I could have said in the conversation which could prove that I was right, that I am ‘good.’ I attack the person with my own thoughts like: “how dare they,” “this is my truth,” “they expect too much of me,” and so much more”.
I think it’s important to know that it’s never just about us, and we’re always contributing something to the world – it’s whether we want to contribute towards the truth or the truth being hidden.
“…So we have created a society where we actually encourage people to learn to calculate the most appropriate thing to say in order to keep everybody around ‘happy’ and ‘at peace.’…” Yes, unfortunately this does seem to be the way… a circulation or ‘merry-go-round’ go the same-same, yet if we didn’t have those who do speak up, our world would’t be evolving
When we hear truth we know it, even if it might make us feel uncomfortable that we have been living the lie.
I like this analogy – that when we choose to swim with and through the lies we are only paddling in the shallows, missing altogether the depths that are offered to all when we live in Truth.
A long time ago, a wise man said; there are men who speak because they have to say something and others that speak when there is something say.
I still find myself digging my fingernails into the palm of my hands, as I hold them tight when I recall a moment when I gave in and held back truth I knew in my body. It comes with an immense grief. Every time I feel this, I go ‘Never again’. But what I can also feel, is how mastered I have become at justifying not expressing truth.
We may try to float in the shallow waters of life, but what is our foundation, but a damp and cold thing that affects all.
I used to think ‘keeping the peace’ was the best solution and meant everyone was then ok but see more and more the harm it has caused because by doing so I was allowing the lies we were living to remain unihibited and effectively endorsing them. I know for me it starts with a little compromise to the truth but before too long I am accepting a far lesser version of the love that I know which not ony hurts myself but also hurts everybody else and keeps us trapped on the merr-go-round of life.
Yes yes yes – now this is the Truth expressed with so much love – it’s about our quality and movements in the life we call ‘our livingness’
A million thanks for this Ariana – gorgeous
Thank you Ariana – This is what’s needed – not to dump our views on our brothers and sisters but rather live our lives with integrity and honesty. This is felt and speaks energetically to All
Expressing the truth is liberating, it creates space and the freedom to move.
Truth is a currency that we all know but few use.
We all do know the truth and we gauge how much truth can be shared and at what point we can go to without standing out.
How’s about we turn it around and commit to standing out for expressing the truth?
I was one of those people who was taught not to rock the boat! This was to my detriment, and for years I felt it was the right thing to do and that I would be more acceptable to society. I have since had to unlearn this holding back and empower myself to speak my truth.
Beautifully said Ariana. We so often learn our biggest lessons simply by the reflection and observation of another who is living their absolute truth so that we may be inspired to make different choices for ourselves.
This is an awesome blog. I know that not expressing is like trying to keep the sound of God contained inside a body that isn’t designed to contain it but sound it on, so everyone can hear and know divinity. It cannot be healthy to stop what is to be heard and contain it in our bodies. We may fear speaking out but not doing so is more harmful. I know I have tried to numb out the tension of knowing this by harming my body further with eating too much, going to bed late, watching too much TV etc. It’s much wiser to express and address any reactions others may have, than to let humanity continue with lies and fall further into disregard, illness and disease.
The pressure to keep the truth to yourself is immense and I’m sure many feel as through the world would fall apart if they expressed how they really feel all the time. In my experience the exact opposite is true. When we make truth our way we have an opportunity to connect and the lies fall away. It’s not always an easy process but it is worth it.
We are accustomed to this idea of being the black sheep – but it doesn’t have to be this way. Yesterday a friend of mine put his arm on my shoulder, gave me a hug and let me know I didn’t quite seem myself. They way he did this just allowed me to feel this truth. When we avoid judging and reacting to what people do a whole ocean of understanding is there for us to have access to. This is what we are here to deliver to others not harsh words or anger.
Very beautiful Joseph, what a loving friend you have. I have come to understand that expressing truth cannot come with any judgement, justification, apology or sympathy. Because when truth is delivered with love, it is none of the above but it is an absolute power that cuts through any ill energy that does not belong to us or humanity.
I agree and when we “live our own integrity and love” which isn’t truly ours but a connection and livingness to everything we feel then the “voicing of truth” isn’t a voice at a particular point but more a living movement that flows to each point and does all that is needed at that point. What it looks like isn’t dictated to us but more it moves to expand and see more of what is truly going on. We are never truly talking to one person and giving them something but more talking or moving in a way that honours all we are feeling at any point and stepping next into an expanded part of where we had just stood. There is a flow to life, a flow to everything and in that flow all is there and so it doesn’t become about what to say or what not to say, it just becomes the honouring of our next movement, no matter what sits before us it is simply a movement to be aware of.
I have noticed how there is a part of me that can be very devious and dishonest – a part of me that is so deeply hurt that it is easier to keep the peace and play a false game than to admit the hurts and deal with them. And yet, to see this and feel this is a beautiful thing as it shows me that there is yet another part of me to claim and support lovingly so. And this in itself is saying yes to growth, and no one said growth was comfortable or always that fun to experience! In bringing this understanding we realise that this is life – life is not meant to be rosy and la-la, as we are here to grow and evolve. Life has its rough moments, but we need to allow ourselves the grace to feel that this is a growth in itself and that we are always being held by God especially in the most difficult times – and through this holding we have the capacity to handle what comes our way with grace and beauty.
Thank you Henrietta for your timely reminder – growth can be very challenging at times but we are always held in God’s eternal ever expanding love. We have the capacity to evolve with grace and love even in the most difficult of times. A great reminder for me as I evolve deeper into God.
Great exposure of the game most of us tend to comply with as we grow up of not speaking out and rocking the boat but at what cost? I know for me the price has been too high and as I now endeavour to re-imprint my old self-abusive ways and speak my truth to the best of my ability it is interesting to observe the ways that I sabotage this and tone something down to make it more acceptable…
We set it all up don’t we? I mean we have a world where there is people persecuted for all manner of things. We raise children to be ‘good’ children in relationship to this model, we want what’s best for them, for them not to have the things done that we have endured, we want them to be the ‘best’ people they can be but at the same time we want them ‘protected’ for all the ‘bad’ things in life, sounds exhausting and very complicated. What if there is simply one truth? In this one truth there is manner things to be read, timing, awareness, respect, love etc etc. In other words this one truth is a lived one that has a relationship with everything and in this ‘living way’ all is felt and then expressed as it’s needed. Sounds to ‘good’ to be true and yet regardless of thoughts it is true and whether you speak up or don’t speak up all is a reflection to your relationship with this ‘one truth’.
When we hold back our truth we are saying yes to all the lies and promoting them… thats a big ouch!!
I think when we really identify who we are or our worth with a certain kind of behaviour, and then this behaviour is outed as not really being loving at all then it’s like we can take it as someone saying we are not good rather than actually they are calling out the behaviour not us as a person.
Why do we hold back in speaking the truth, often is the fear of losing people, looking stupid and many more. But the truth is if we don’t speak our truth what are we doing to our body and what are we reflecting to others?
“The greatest gift we can give is for us to live our own integrity and love, then it becomes as visible as the nose on people’s faces, they see for themselves what is needed and what love truly is.” I found this very amusing Ariana and yet so honest, up-front and true – love it!!
I’ve experienced that timing makes a big difference in terms of sharing my truth and when I speak up as soon as I feel something, so I am sharing how I am feeling about a situation before I am in any reaction, before the ill-energy, or whatever is going on has affected me in any way. Because if it does, I am gone and whatever comes out of my mouth is then going to be in the same energy, causing more harm.
Most of us fear speaking up, it can mean becoming unpopular, being misunderstood, in some cases it can be social suicide but we all know why we fear it, what this blog is putting out there, is maybe there are worse consequences to living a lie and is remaining silent really the answer that will protect us? I have always been outspoken, a loud mouth, someone that questions everything, to the point of annoyingness to my teachers in school, I have not been shy in this, our parents didn’t even bother with Santa as they knew they wouldn’t have a hope. I am however now discovering a new sensitivity in my expression and awareness of the audience I am speaking to. I am realising that truth is not being honest, truth is living a quality that talks to people’s cells, for my body actually communicates so much more than my words ever carry. THIS IS SO BIG FOR ME, as I always thought I had to “call things out” but the true “calling out” comes from calling them out in myself and then living in a way that my issues are healed. The healing and self-reflection that naturally occurs in others next, actually comes from a combination of their choices and an inspiration, not my words.
Beautifully said Sarah – for it is in our lived expression that our body speaks louder than any words! Love this reminder – thank you!
I used to call things out when I was young but I did so from a judgement. I got a lot of reactions as a result which I can well understand. I then hid away from expressing believing it to only bring conflict and confrontation. So I love your comment Sarah as I have felt being called out by someone’s mere presence or someone’s gentle words that come with their livingness. Far more powerful because I can feel the lie I am living from my body and I cannot deny that truth. And I love how it’s my living way that is there to be built together with expressing what my body is communicating and listening to that myself.
I love the depth of Truth you are referring to here Sarah. Yes it is not just about words, but an ongoing calling things out and healing them in ourself, so that we live true to the best of our ability. The reflection we offer one another speaks volumes in ways that is understood at the core of our being.
Gorgeous response – truth is living a quality that speaks to a persons cells – love love love this.
I have seen so much damage done in the name of Truth, that it sickens me to the core.
Let’s just LIVE and LOVE the Truth and stop imposing our beliefs and values on others,
Gorgeous response – truth is living a quality that speaks to a persons cells – love love love this.
I have seen so much damage done in the name of Truth that it sickens me to the core.
Let’s just LIVE and LOVE the Truth and stop imposing our beliefs and values on others.
So true and well expressed, Sarah. The most impactful way of expressing the truth is to live it.
Love what you contribute here Sarah. It is the energy in which we express that is felt and inspires another, bringing it back to the responsibility we hold in how we are with ourselves in every move.
Thank you Sarah for this observation ‘truth is living a quality that talks to people’s cells’ which ties in beautifully with the title of this blog. It is not necessarily about what we say or do not say but it is about our movements and the truth that they express which can inspire others to be true to themselves. This is so much more powerful than battering them with your views as I have been guilty of on many occasions particularly as a bolshy teenager when I thought I had the answers to righting the world’s wrongs and frequently imposed these on others as a great way of avoiding working on my own issues.
Wow Sarah, I love this powerful and deeply healing awareness you share here – it is our movements from our body that call things out – reflection is everything!
“I always thought I had to “call things out” but the true “calling out” comes from calling them out in myself and then living in a way that my issues are healed. The healing and self-refection that naturally occurs in others next, actually comes from a combination of their choices and an inspiration, not my words”.
Stephanie, I love the quote that you have included from Sarah’s comment. there has been a great deal of ‘calling out’ of others in our community, and it has been championed as speaking up. But it is a bit like the way people have used ‘freedom of speech’ to back what are actually disguised attacks. It is beautiful what Sarah has said here, that others are a reflection that can alert us to where we can learn, and that it is our movement and emanation that will heal ourselves and others.
Holding back as a child from expressing what I was sensing caused many ill choices throughout my life. Attending Universal Medicine presentations has inspired and supported me to make the changes to ‘find my voice’ again and begin speaking up where it would have been almost impossible before.
I love this Joseph – it puts everything into perspective about holding back or speaking the truth.
“Stay silent and suffocate all that’s dear? Or speak and risk the occasional spear?”
What is true expression or speaking the truth has been bastardized enormously, hence, there are those that swear and shout believing that for them that is the only way to get it out, those that hide behind emotions believing that no one wants to hear, and those that are in your face holding their fist high believing with all their might that is how you express the truth. None of this has an ounce of healing or support in it but as you say just ‘supports and propagate the lies’ of speaking truth. Calling these false ways out in our selves and each other allows for more awareness to stand on and re-connect to what we all know in our bodies.
This question is for each and everyone of us to sit with, to ponder on, and to take into our own lives. To see what stops us from bringing the truth to every aspect of our lives, to see the moments where we feel it and don’t say it – what was it that stopped you/us in that moment?
Not speaking up is an imagined protection from repercussion but this is also a lie, because it hurts us any way. Illness and disease are great proof of this and it is time we joined the dots by speaking truth.
This blog triggers a lot of childhood memories and there is really no way of ‘managing’ a lot of untruths. We can contract from the truth or we can call out the untruths but it is very difficult to do the latter without reaction. It is possible, though, especially with some practice and then we also know when to say something and when to just let our presence speak.
It says a lot about society when there are negative consequences for expressing the truth.
Yes it does, and how you are liked if you don’t speak up, or you keep up a lie and you are targetted if you speak up and tell the truth and expose any evil.
“…attack the person with my own thoughts…” If everything in life, in the Universe we live in is about energy, then this is much more harmful than the physical punch, as it can be glossed over by the veneer of the ‘nice’ and ‘i like you’ behaviour, as thoughts too penetrate the body.
I soooo agree with this Ariana. Sometimes people come to truth on their own, in their own time when we simply discern while in their presence without passing comment. Yet other times when the arrogant stance is hard and fast, a line of truth can support all. I feel this blog is amazing, and I felt the words you shared added a level of truth, so Thank you….
Yes, I totally agree your comment Ariana adds another important dimension to this great blog.
Loving your honesty here and yep it is not so comfortable when we get called out for not living our truth and all that we can be. I am slightly baffled at how someone said this to you ‘to warn me that if I continue to speak without thinking twice first, I will most definitely end up in a marriage where I will get abused.’ I feel we have, and are living in, a society where we have become very complacent in not standing up for truth, or not expressing how we feel, because we are afraid how we may look or how others may take it, but in not expressing how we feel it actually ends up hurting our bodies. However, I agree that in any circumstance, to connect and discern what is needed and if indeed we are being honest is imperative, as how we express is just as important as what we express.
Brilliant comment Jospeh. I notice how your comment rhymes at the end and delivered with truth.
It feels a time is coming when these lies of what we previously thought to be truths are being exposed. I have not watched much television over the Christmas period but I have seen programmes advertised exposing scams, exposing the glamour of Hollywood not being a great place to live, and exposing the behaviours of governments with less integrity than we were led to believe at the time. It is time to up our game, speak out truth when we can feel it to be so, and stop holding back allowing everything to continue.
I agree and yet do we truly hold back at the speaking part? I mean if we see and know something and then it comes to a point to speak and the words don’t come out is it that point we look at? I see a relationship with life issue rather then a speaking issue. We can see there is no issue with truth, we can see it, we know it and yet we don’t follow completely through. For this part to stop or halt like it does then there would be an ingrained movement that consistently is lived that then trips us up at preciously the ‘right’ time, every time. In place of putting more pressure on this speaking point we could ground back to our movements before this point, no pressure or focus just a freedom to move with how we feel to move and allow the next thing to be there for ourselves. We often get caught in time or out of time or dictated to by time that then gives us the perception of how and when things need to be done and yet time has not place in truth.
Yes it seems we are shooting ourselves in the foot by creating a society where it is about keeping the status quo and never truly question it because if you do we tell each other our place. Yet this is not our true place and our rates of illness and disease show we are not doing well as a species at all. It is time to be more honest with what we feel because if we make the world more about truth and love, nobody looses out.
It is progress from killing each other but there is a lot more possible.
A great sense of equality here… “we can all feel truth”. Not one of us is more advanced or better placed to sense Truth or the opposite. But we are all gifted the opportunity to honour the Truth we feel in every moment.
Truth is like an old friend which always has your back. Lies are at best seeming allies which seemingly comfort and support us but are actually deeply harming and self sabotaging to live by.
I’d never considered how much we’re set our lives and society up to reward and honour lies and how truth is pushed into corners or swept away where possible … but it’s a constant because we all know truth and so we’re living a lie while knowing and feeling it’s a lie and we cop that in our bodies, in the tension we feel … we effectively make ourselves ‘sick’ with this, and why? To fit in, with what exactly and with whom, for all of us know truth and if we began to be more truthful we’d create the space for all of us to live in a society based on truth.
I am pretty sure there will be a lot of people who can relate to this story. As kids we know truth inside out. It is only through the reactions and comments of adults around us that we learn that truth is not welcome as it ‘ruffles feathers’. But as hard as being dedicated to speaking truth can be, it is a gift that the world sorely needs or lies will continue to rule.
I agree and as the beings we are “we know truth inside out”. As you know we are just larger versions of those same “kids”. So what has changed? Children are you could say ‘more’ free to move. In other words it could be possible the only difference in how we as adults is that we restrict our movements more, you know we have got to be ‘good’ and ‘polite’ people. Not only that we have to be on time and not do that but do this etc etc. The main part I am seeing is in the freedom of movement and as a child you knew no other way other then to play with life.
‘As kids we know truth inside out’, yes we do but equally as adults too, it’s just that as adults we’ve had a lot longer to refine the art of pretending that we don’t.
‘The ability all human beings share, but do not necessarily practice, to see between the lines and question out loud that which does not seem quite right.’ What we have chosen is to comfortably sit back and not rock any boat but do we really feel comfortable doing so? I don’t and I wonder, like you’ve shared Victoria we all have the ability to feel what is true or not, it is time to give the truth a voice and not hold back any longer.
I find that as I start to “see between the lines and question out loud that which does not seem quite right” the closer to the epitome of ‘good’ these things are – things that would not normally get called out because the ‘good samaritan’ or the ‘compliant student’ seem, to all intents and purposes, to be doing nothing wrong, but that is only because we have not opted for truth, and settled for comfort instead.
I love how as a small child you knew the truth and expressed it. In comparison, I was nothing like this. I fell for the story of Santa because it was promulgated everywhere and I trusted my parents, despite my initial experience of it leaving me feeling unsure and unsettled. In the end, the biggest disappointment was that I had been lied to, not that he wasn’t real, but most of all self-anger that I had fallen for something in hindsight so obviously untrue! For a child to be confirmed in the truth of what they know would be, in my opinion, one of the most responsible and healing things we could do for humanity!
Michelle I know the disappointment you felt, I felt that it was a conspiracy (not that I knew this word at the time) between all adults everywhere in the world to lie to their children I was shattered. Even white lies can have a massive impact on young children…. Is any lie worth promoting or worthy for us to simply allow it to slip by???
The question for me, in the instance of this particular lie, is why present a fiction as a truth to children, and who do we really do this for, us or our children? Is it possible that the lack of connection we live with and its ensuing consequential flatness and hardship mean that we have to try and spice life up, make up something comforting or feel we have to compensate somehow for the unsettlement in life (that we have created) or escape for a little while, living vicariously through the innocence of our children? In making up a very poor copy of the abundance of life that is there in truth (and consistently promoting it without a second thought) or not connecting to/acknowledging the love and support that is really available simply exposes how we negate our responsibility to live in connection with ourselves, all others and all things universal.
This is something I also reflected on with friends with it just being Christmas. Like you felt Michelle, the part that hit home the most was being lied to and bigger than that, falling for the lie and feeling so silly and ashamed like my innocence and trust had been revealed for all to see. Looking back, it goes even deeper than that because it shows how you can be manipulated and used to keep lies perpetuating. It is really more sinister than we like to see and admit.
The Santa lie is very exposing because it shows that many people are involved in a huge lie and all of them play along because they feel it’s loving and kind to propagate this fantasy. When kids are devastated that Santa isn’t real it’s the lie that they are hurt by not the fact that theirs no overweight man in a red suit in the North Pole.
I find the lying to children about Santa actually very unsettling, even sinister!
How can it not be for everyone concerned when there is a blatant lie being told (for some reason that I’m not sure people even are sure about themselves if you were to delve deeper). Surely being lied to by adults is asking a child to disregard their inner knowing to take on the lie of others, which could be said to be a lot of how we live in society – ignoring basic truths so as to get on in life. So love your honest account of how it was for you as a child. I wonder if it’s more than just realising those we are meant to trust have betrayed us by showing they are capable of lying, but that we see the truth that society is set up to not honour what we know within and constantly asks us to do what it asks at our cost.
It’s only through the presentations of Universal Medicine that I’ve seen it’s possible to live honouring myself and those around me and contribute to society in a positive way. Until then I was doing society’s bidding, trying to be ‘good’, without greatly questioning whether how and what I did was true
Absolutely Karin. It really hurt at the time that society did not honour and support my innocence but took advantage of it! Over time we all get worn down until we either rebel or confirm, presenting a veneer of what we think we should be until we believe we are the picture we present – and in protection behave at the expense of the truth we know but have given up expressing.
From a recent conversation I had with someone I got to feel how this person disliked having their ‘suitable truths’ questioned. They got very angry and defensive. But to me what they were defending was indefensible as it was defending a religion that preaches and teaches piety and goodwill to all mankind, while at the same time abuses children. To me this doesn’t make any sense.
Awesome article, Vickoria. You have exposed old beliefs of ‘Only say something nice; Don’t upset people; Keep the peace; Everyone’s entitled to differing opinions; Don’t rock the boat; Don’t impose on others; Don’t be judgemental; Don’t be rude;’ etc. It is time we denounced these old, ingrained restraints on expression and had real conversations of truth that we can all feel. Lovingly expressing what feels to be said, with understanding and appreciation of others, is our responsibility to be love in the world.
Great question as to whether the ill behaviours you mention and many others would have any kind of foundation if we were all to speak up and not hold back. It is utterly crippling and devastating to hold back from being our full selves – we lose sense of who we are and become self-doubting, self-loathing and ultra self-critical. In contrast, expressing and not holding back, whilst can be excruciating at first while we break down years if not lifetimes of holding back, brings us to greater connection with our true selves – the one we have hidden for so long, which brings with it a confidence and trust , a knowingness and steadiness where there is no place for the establishment of ill-behaviours.
“The Unspoken Voice of Truth” – from the spoken voice of honesty.
More and more there is a call for transparency in our communities and societies where people can speak honestly about what they see happening that is not true.