Learning Responsibility – it’s a Revelation

by Lee Green, Perth, Australia

Having worked in the hospitality industry for some 22 years I have seen many things and done many things that have made me who I am today. The choices I have made up until now have made me who I am right in this moment. I get to manage and run three cafes with an amazing team of people. They are everyday hard working people who get to show me many things that amaze, educate and make me wonder?

Hospitality has been sensationalised a lot in the last few years. Food has become a fashion in which people can immerse themselves, indulging is the new black so to speak. When did this all come about, and why are we content to over-indulge in expensive food and wine as if it were OK for our bodies, and YES, I have done this to myself in my past.

The many cooking books that are on the shelves enticing us to make their recipes are matched only by the many restaurants and cafes that abound, that are looking to serve us the ‘best’ food. A trend that I have noticed is in complete contradiction with what the ‘shopping’ public are able to afford and really want to spend. How does it all work? What drives us to feed so much, so often and without any thought on how it affects our daily living.

What would we do if our coffee were not available? Or the chocolate that we crave when things get a bit edgy is not there to fill the ‘gap’, settle us down and comfort us? The real question I am asking is “do we use food, coffee, alcohol, as a distraction from what is really playing out in our everyday lives?”.

How can this all work when illness and disease keep on getting worse? There is, in our everyday living, a lot of emotional hurt that we carry. We could ask ourselves, where is the responsibility of the individual in this?

It keeps coming back to that word, responsibility. It is fascinating really that when I started to feel the ramifications of the many coffees I would consume a day just to stay awake and function, it hurt physically as well as emotionally. I was doing this to me but why?

I kept looking and realised that the alcohol I was consuming was to keep me going after the day at work, a day that was empty when it could have been so full. The recreational drugs and excessive alcohol was an accepted part of the industry when I was growing up, and working in the high end of Sydney this was still very much the case.

Looking back and reviewing that time in my life I can see how desperately alone I was, clutching for any number of stimulants to stop me feeling the pain. The pain of missing me, in truth, of not ever knowing who I was. Where was my responsibility and who was guiding me through the never ending round of coffee, food, alcohol etc. I may have been on my own journey, but my peer group was living and breathing the same way I was. We called it fun and hi-jinx but we were all deeply aware of what we were doing to ourselves, and consequently those that we lived with, our friends and the customers and guests we served. Feels pretty average now, but no responsibility means at least for the moment, no consequences.

The crash for me was pretty hard and everything started un-ravelling. I was fortunate and found my inner resolve and started claiming that this was not the way that I wanted to live. I came across Serge Benhayon and the workshops that he runs through Universal Medicine and realised that I had a choice.

My body was not a thing that I had to drive, drown and crush, but was in fact the marker for where I was at. How I lived in every moment was represented in the very body that came with me everywhere. This was a revelation and is now an understanding that I live by. This revelation has given me the strength and power over my own choices to make fresh ones, ones that are self loving and that consider all of the people that I live with, work with and come into contact with everyday.

208 thoughts on “Learning Responsibility – it’s a Revelation

  1. ‘How I lived in every moment was represented in the very body that came with me everywhere.’ I love what you have shared with this simple line Lee, if we listened to the wisdom of our bodies we would never treat it with such disregard or override what it was saying.

  2. Managing 3 cafes! Gosh thats a feat! To reply to this question ‘do we use food, coffee, alcohol, as a distraction from what is really playing out in our everyday lives?”. From me it would be a categorical .. YES! It is truly inspiring and a great reflection to others in how you have changed irresponsibility to taking responsibility and how this in turn has strengthened and deepened the relationship with yourself and others.

  3. The city close to where I live is full of coffee houses and restaurants, there a literally hundreds of both.Food has become an entertainment and an escape, no different to the way people use drugs. In the 80’s it was the Pub culture and now it’s is the food culture, we seem to be reinventing ourselves rather than looking deeper into why we need to indulge in these various past times.

  4. Whether or not we are willing to take true responsibility depends on the level of love we are willing to accept and hold for ourselves.

  5. Fresh choices are available to us in every moment – that with fresh, lovingly prepared food choices support a bountiful array of other loving supportive choices to be lived.

  6. We often use our body for our own pleasure without considering whether this is actually supportive or not. There is a bit of a mentality here, that is, how much can I get away with? So we are content to put up with some symptoms as long as they’re not too severe…

  7. ‘My body was not a thing that I had to drive, drown and crush, but was in fact the marker for where I was at.’ – awesome Lee that you got to a point where you felt like building a relationship with your body where you actually wanted to listen to its messages instead of drowning them out.

  8. When we drive our bodies hard and fast and to excess indulgence with the way we live, can we really be that surprised that it leads to an inevitable crash in the way of exhaustion, an accident or illness and disease?

  9. It is interesting that we think that we are avoiding our responsibility, and for a moment it seems that we are getting away with it. However, the fact is we can never escape our relationship with our responsibility or our bodies, as whatever we choose is reflected through our body. Our bodies are not designed to be abused, pushed or driven. This I have discovered, and the more we embrace all that our bodies are ready to guide us with, the more we live, breathe and work with a greater connection to truth.

  10. When we are not living the fullness of who we are, the world misses out on us, and your sharing reminds me of the responsibility we can choose to live with. Food is what builds, nourishes and maintains our physical body to be in the world, and if we are choosing not to be who we are in the world, it inevitably affects the choices we make with food, and it really makes sense of what is being made available to us out in the world in order to serve this demand of ours. It’s an amazing gift to all of us to have someone with the awareness like you to be in the food industry.

  11. I have noticed that as soon as people get bored shopping they head straight for something to eat, from a coffee and cake to a full blown lunch, and for many this is becoming the norm, I feel no one wants to sit still long enough to feel what is going on, and hence choose either to distract themselves or dull what they are starting to feel.

  12. This is such a great question Lee and a very pertinent one right now with the Christmas season upon us; “What drives us to feed so much, so often and without any thought on how it affects our daily living.” While many live like this on a daily basis the intensity gets ramped up a notch or two at this time of the year which has our precious our bodies groaning under the weight of the incredible excesses of food and drink; and then the first item on the new years’ resolution list is – go on a diet/detox! Crazy behaviour really when our health and our well-being is at stake in every moment.

  13. The way I eat impacts on the way I live and relate with others. I am always responsible of my choices, aware or not, consequent with them or not. Maybe because of that, there is sometimes some reaction to the word ‘responsibility’, because it reminds us the unavoidable fact that we are not victims at all, but doers of our reality. The good news is that we can always rectify and re-imprint our life, as when we consciously assume our responsibility, we empower ourselves again.

  14. When we deepen our awareness and start to truly understand how much our body supports us in awareness and the wisdom it clearly communicates we would nurture, care for and appreciate ourselves far more deeply than we do, knowing the quality of how we are affects everyone around us.

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