Learning Responsibility – it’s a Revelation

by Lee Green, Perth, Australia

Having worked in the hospitality industry for some 22 years I have seen many things and done many things that have made me who I am today. The choices I have made up until now have made me who I am right in this moment. I get to manage and run three cafes with an amazing team of people. They are everyday hard working people who get to show me many things that amaze, educate and make me wonder?

Hospitality has been sensationalised a lot in the last few years. Food has become a fashion in which people can immerse themselves, indulging is the new black so to speak. When did this all come about, and why are we content to over-indulge in expensive food and wine as if it were OK for our bodies, and YES, I have done this to myself in my past.

The many cooking books that are on the shelves enticing us to make their recipes are matched only by the many restaurants and cafes that abound, that are looking to serve us the ‘best’ food. A trend that I have noticed is in complete contradiction with what the ‘shopping’ public are able to afford and really want to spend. How does it all work? What drives us to feed so much, so often and without any thought on how it affects our daily living.

What would we do if our coffee were not available? Or the chocolate that we crave when things get a bit edgy is not there to fill the ‘gap’, settle us down and comfort us? The real question I am asking is “do we use food, coffee, alcohol, as a distraction from what is really playing out in our everyday lives?”.

How can this all work when illness and disease keep on getting worse? There is, in our everyday living, a lot of emotional hurt that we carry. We could ask ourselves, where is the responsibility of the individual in this?

It keeps coming back to that word, responsibility. It is fascinating really that when I started to feel the ramifications of the many coffees I would consume a day just to stay awake and function, it hurt physically as well as emotionally. I was doing this to me but why?

I kept looking and realised that the alcohol I was consuming was to keep me going after the day at work, a day that was empty when it could have been so full. The recreational drugs and excessive alcohol was an accepted part of the industry when I was growing up, and working in the high end of Sydney this was still very much the case.

Looking back and reviewing that time in my life I can see how desperately alone I was, clutching for any number of stimulants to stop me feeling the pain. The pain of missing me, in truth, of not ever knowing who I was. Where was my responsibility and who was guiding me through the never ending round of coffee, food, alcohol etc. I may have been on my own journey, but my peer group was living and breathing the same way I was. We called it fun and hi-jinx but we were all deeply aware of what we were doing to ourselves, and consequently those that we lived with, our friends and the customers and guests we served. Feels pretty average now, but no responsibility means at least for the moment, no consequences.

The crash for me was pretty hard and everything started un-ravelling. I was fortunate and found my inner resolve and started claiming that this was not the way that I wanted to live. I came across Serge Benhayon and the workshops that he runs through Universal Medicine and realised that I had a choice.

My body was not a thing that I had to drive, drown and crush, but was in fact the marker for where I was at. How I lived in every moment was represented in the very body that came with me everywhere. This was a revelation and is now an understanding that I live by. This revelation has given me the strength and power over my own choices to make fresh ones, ones that are self loving and that consider all of the people that I live with, work with and come into contact with everyday.

200 thoughts on “Learning Responsibility – it’s a Revelation

  1. ‘How I lived in every moment was represented in the very body that came with me everywhere.’ I love what you have shared with this simple line Lee, if we listened to the wisdom of our bodies we would never treat it with such disregard or override what it was saying.

  2. Managing 3 cafes! Gosh thats a feat! To reply to this question ‘do we use food, coffee, alcohol, as a distraction from what is really playing out in our everyday lives?”. From me it would be a categorical .. YES! It is truly inspiring and a great reflection to others in how you have changed irresponsibility to taking responsibility and how this in turn has strengthened and deepened the relationship with yourself and others.

  3. The city close to where I live is full of coffee houses and restaurants, there a literally hundreds of both.Food has become an entertainment and an escape, no different to the way people use drugs. In the 80’s it was the Pub culture and now it’s is the food culture, we seem to be reinventing ourselves rather than looking deeper into why we need to indulge in these various past times.

  4. Whether or not we are willing to take true responsibility depends on the level of love we are willing to accept and hold for ourselves.

  5. Fresh choices are available to us in every moment – that with fresh, lovingly prepared food choices support a bountiful array of other loving supportive choices to be lived.

  6. We often use our body for our own pleasure without considering whether this is actually supportive or not. There is a bit of a mentality here, that is, how much can I get away with? So we are content to put up with some symptoms as long as they’re not too severe…

  7. ‘My body was not a thing that I had to drive, drown and crush, but was in fact the marker for where I was at.’ – awesome Lee that you got to a point where you felt like building a relationship with your body where you actually wanted to listen to its messages instead of drowning them out.

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