487 thoughts on “Life beyond Anger”

1. The retreats, workshops and presentations of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine give us all the opportunity for a different perspective on life. To take responsibility for ourselves and that we are not passive victims of life and its ups and downs, but that we can actually master life and live it to the full.
   This way of living definitely works because I am the living proof.

2. Anger is a sore topic for me, for a while now I have been aware that there are levels of anger bottled up inside ready to explode at any minute. My knowledge tells me that I should just let go and feel it, surrender to it – however, when I let go a little bit and it starts to come up I feel uncomfortable, distressed and quickly run to my numbing agents to avoid feeling it. It is a process, I know that one day I will let go of it and connect to a deeper level of beauty and harmony than I can probably not even imagine. I very much look forward to that day.

3. We all have something equally divine and beautiful to bring to this life, feeling broken is something that many feel, even if it is an under lying issue and we are not honest about it. And yet it is our sensitivity that we are trying to bury, being honest about how we feel and appreciating our sensitivity is a wise move.

4. ‘This shift in perspective allowed me to actually see how I had contributed to the life I complained so much about – a big pill to swallow, but a very empowering one when grasped.’ This is the same for many of us, I certainly blamed other people for any misery in my life and learning that I was responsible for absolutely everything that was happening to me was and is life-changing. I have been letting go of the anger and criticism and can feel now how abusive it was.

5. ‘They simply reminded me that I had choices, that being a victim or reactive was a choice too. Slowly I came to see this was so – and understand just how powerful this awareness is…’ When we realise we have a choice and we start to acknowledge we do matter, life at first seems to be upside down, but basically we cannot blame anyone else any longer, but lovingly take the path back to who we are without all the layers we have put on ourselves to protect our hurt.

6. Truly amazing and lovely to hear how your relationships with your family have healed.

7. When we accept that wherever we are in life is a result of all our choices. It is the start of the turn around to start heading down the right path, sure there will be deviations but it is the first major hurdle.

8. What a truly wonderful reflection your children and family have now … AMAZING, and that you are making it more about true connection with yourself and others, not for any reward or recognition, but just because you feel the call and importance of it. So very inspiring ✨

9. Something that stood out for me while reading this blog is how when people view everything that happens in life as either coincidence or luck, it immediately diminishes any sense of true purpose in our lives and spawns the thoughts of hopelessness and giving up on life.

10. When we don’t give up but come to accept and love ourselves it shows anything is possible. We just have to choose….

11. Written almost 6 years ago, this blog holds all the more inspiration now thanks to your living way with Universal Medicine. An absolute delight to read this morning FL, thank you.

12. Livingness is powerful. How we live our lives in Truth is being felt in the movements of others, expressing from this movement changes our whole lives.

13. When there is willingness the world opens up. It is very inspiring to read your rediscovery of you and agree, it is ever unfolding.

    1. True Victoria, as I read your comment the difference between the two postures is striking – head down, close off, don’t engage, and stand straight, look out and be willing to engage, where the relationship is with the world rather than ones woes. FL’s story is a great example of moving from one way of being to the other, and fundamentally supported by all aspects of Universal Medicine to make those changes for themself.

14. There is no such thing as a ‘hopeless case’. We can label someone as such and convince them that they are but this is the highest form of evil as it encourages people to give up on themselves and sink into the label they have been given.

15. Although we call all these changes we make to our life as ‘life changing’ and in a way they are, but actually it is us returning to our natural way of being, a way of life that was already there in us but not lived in full expression.

16. Being our own worst enemy has a way of making relationships very difficult, especially when we do not realise how and in what way we are contributing to the mess.

17. There is so much that gets ordered in our life when we just stop blaming outside and take responsibility of our choices in our life. This in itself is great part of the change that comes later.

18. Beautiful to read this FL, and how you have changed your life to one of love and acceptance, I too through Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine have found that changing my choices and the way I live, has opened my life up to many new beginnings.

19. So many of us feel trapped with our emotional traits and personality and it is so inspiring to read that there in fact is another way to be in life, to be our true selves, and it is a choice available to every single one of us.

20. While we stay identified with being a victim, neither healing or change are even remotely possible.

21. It’s a huge moment when we realise that we contribute to our circumstances and it’s not all someone else’s fault! It’s like waking up from a bad dream. At first you blink and try to adjust to what you can now see. But gradually you get to feel the beauty and freedom of not living in ignorance.

22. No one is a ‘hopeless’ case although a lot of people are fed to believe they are. What you’ve shared here shows we can always choose a new beginning and start to make different choices in our life when we are inspired by people how to live in an open and true way.

23. ‘in many ways this story of recovery is only the beginning’ And what a great beginning you have made F.L. Thank you for sharing and showing how possible it is to ‘relearn how to live’ 

24. Great sharing F.L., indeed it is totally empowering to know that we have always a choice of what we experience in life- we either go for what is familiar and totally emotional or at the same time we can choose total divinity and love in our lives, for in truth we are vehicles of expression and the only choice we have is that which we align and become obedient to.

25. ‘I could pass any written exam on Buddhist principles, I could never find a path to actually living any of the principles he presented for more than five minutes’. The principles of religion need to be practical and totally applicable in today’s world, if not we just don’t do them

    1. Absolutely Suse. If they aren’t living principles, we can get lost for lifetimes in the ideas, pictures and intellectual musings being presented.

26. We need to work harder at maintaining a so called ” victim mentality” than to just simply take responsibility of our life and choose that which is of truth that allows us to surrender to the gentle flow of life. For in truth life presents us with endless opportunities to evolve and if we say yes to this pull, the more we free ourselves from the shackles of life.

27. A truly amazing turnaround in your life and a testimony that we have the power to change anything and everything if we so choose and have the true support to help us.

28. From deeply hurt and closed down to open and trusting of people again. When we choose self-responsibility we are in the front seat again, no longer playing the victim…

29. I can relate to this story of feeling a huge frustration and anger at life and not knowing where to turn a few years ago. Then I would put my head in the sand, do some retail therapy and not think about it, but nothing changed..until meeting Serge Benhayon and attending the Universal Medicine courses. Slowly through a lot of resistance, I have learnt it is possible to build a way of life sorting out the hurts and living in a rhythm of my day that I now have no need for all those emotional reactions.

30. ” I slowly began to relearn how to live; it was the first time it had ever been put to me that there was a way of living that could help me with my perceived problems, ” The key to understand is that most people are not living they are existing . The ” way of living ” is living who we are by our whole-self choices now by what the world has imposed on us. Thank you for sharing.

31. It would be lovely to have a follow up about the rest of the story in the past 5 years FL how things have changed or deepened now because the end of this blog does feel like a new beginning that can blossom and flourish. How great it is that despite giving up on others, you never gave up on yourself, or else everyone would have missed out.

32. So true – there is an incredible, consistent loving flow of inspiration and reflection from all Universal Medicine Presentations and the Benhayon’s. I know for sure that it is the most divine gift that is being offered,
    and it is up to me to wisely choose what I do and how I respond with what is shared.

33. FL, this is a gorgeous testimonial of how far you have come already in embracing life, and knowing too that this is only just the beginning. We are indeed blessed to have the support of the Benhayons, the Universal Medicine therapies and The Teachings of the Ageless Wisdom to guide us along the path of life, for in the end there is only one path, it can simply take a long time for us to get there (to that one path), as I have discovered!

34. “What I couldn’t walk away from though, was the feeling of being truly understood and held in love.” This is so powerful and just shows how much love offered in truth can shift emotional behaviours that we are deeply entrenched in.

35. There is much you have shared here that is truly inspiring, thanks for your honesty and the reflection of the difference a choice can make.

36. Disempowering ourselves breeds anger so when we empower ourselves and claim ourselves the anger is no longer there.

    1. Yes, a friend and I were just discussing this the other day. When we hold back our natural expression it can breed discontent, frustration and anger. It is possible to express in a way that still holds another in love so it is empowering for everyone.

37. The victimhood and blaming can feel comfortable, but it is very VERY uncomfortable when compared to the love I have been held in and experience from Universal Medicine and Esoteric practitioners. The support I have been given to take responsibility for my hurts, my life, my situations, my reactions etc. has been monumental and now I live with so much joy that wasn’t even on my radar 10 years ago. And the affect this has, that the way I live, has on the wider world around me is magic.

38. Its very empowering to take back responsibility for our own lives and when we are prepared to do this there are no victims, and no one to blame either…and that includes ourselves.

    1. This is true it liberates us completely when we take responsibility for our own lives.

39. ‘…if only my mother had loved me…’ and if only her mother had loved her…and if only her father had loved her mother. Blame is endless it seems and so when a person realises this and takes responsibility for being the change, and embracing the love they are for both themselves and others, then we are onto something that can truly make a difference in lives.

    1. So true Richard for blame is a vicious circle that keeps going round and round with no end until we break the cycle by taking responsibility for all that has and does unfold in our lives.

40. The path of living the love that you are within is what makes all the difference.

41. On the surface, I was always enthusiastic about life – I was always busy, always diving into new opportunities, new ideas, projects, etc. etc. However, all of it was to get that recognition, have something on my CV to show my hard work, since my introduction to UM I have come to realise that and also just how much lack of motivation for life I really have. However, what I have also come to now is that I know I have a greater purpose than ticking boxes, I know there’s more to life, and now I too look forward to the rest of my life, but truly look forward to it – not just because I have dreams and ideas about what it’s going to be like, but because I know that with every day I am getting closer to the real, raw me 🙂

42. This is a beautiful sharing and very inspiring to read, that no matter what we have been through in life we all have an opportunity to truly heal and move forward free from old patterns and hurts.

43. FL this blog reminds me of the ‘bad old’ days I once lived, I was secretly labelled as carrying ‘a chip on my shoulder’!….

    Roll on to now and I can honestly say since Universal Medicine’s workshops, my life has had a turnaround. I am no longer carrying this ‘chip on my shoulder’, if anything its just a green lettuce leaf – LOL.

    I have taken more ownership of the part I play in the calamity instead of making it all about them. I agree that it is a work in progress and in absoluteness – the true me is emerging more and more – I cannot thank Universal Medicine or the Benhayons enough for that universal love they’ve shared with all and there’s plenty more of it to go round.

44. The way we brand ourselves can be truly damaging, branding ourselves as “hopeless” can cap the potential of our whole lives, and what if that potential is limitless? It’s great to explore where we may be holding onto completely false truths about ourselves and discard them for good.

45. Beneath every reaction is a reading that has already taken place, and if you find yourself consumed in reaction, then you miss out on the reading that would otherwise reveal to you the truth of what you had observed.

46. What a beautiful story of recovery. I love how you recognise that the practitioners who train in the Universal Medicine modalities do not favour you more because you have turned your life around. The Ageless Wisdom shows us that we are all equal and just because someone is making more self loving choices does not make them “better” than another, it simply means that they are taking more responsibility for their choices and all of us have that opportunity if we want it.

47. It is amazing that we can go through life not realising that we have a choice in the matter of our lives, once we become aware of this fact that our life is what it is because of our choices, we stop the blame game and become responsible with the opportunity to transform our lives by our own self loving choices.

48. “This shift in perspective allowed me to actually see how I had contributed to the life I complained so much about – a big pill to swallow, but a very empowering one when grasped.” this is the fundamental transformative step – to realise we are the result of all of our choices – the responsibility is not about blame, but of actual true self-empowerment, as only then are we able to take the steps out of the quagmire and free ourselves from our own self-imposed imprisonment.

49. “There is no one to impress, there are no favourites, no goals to meet, just a chance to truly grow.” What a gorgeous space of freedom – that is The Way of The Livingness.

50. A great article highlighting the fact of many things. The transformation itself is huge as most would think that there is possibly nothing beyond anger. A self reflective approach like this is quite amazing and reveals the ‘more to life’ that we are possibly looking for and also when we don’t live as though we are a particular issue it gives us the space to actually see what is happening around us.

51. I often observe when someone express in anger…when the reaction subsides and there is no reaction from me, in the space that is offered for them to feel what the anger has resulted in, is an understanding that anger actually does not work or solve anything. Very often when they have come to this understanding, what is then expressed is connection–coming from first the connection with themselves.

52. I have thought that just because I don’t smash plates or raise my voice that I don’t have anger issues. This just goes to show how our thoughts alone can trick us. Because so many moments every day I can feel I get irritated. This person should behave this way, that person should never eat that food – the list goes on. But all along it’s me who’s had the anger simmering along. I can confirm FL that this is not a diet that agrees with me. Now I am starting to understand the lies that I have been subscribing to, I am inspired to see through the anger to the truth.

53. Brilliant blog FL and a sharing I am so inspired to read. I have tried for so long to surgically cut out and remove anger from life, but it just doesn’t work, or make things right. That’s because I feel the anger is there for a specific reason in the first place: to cover up hurts and our own deep sadness at abandoning ourselves in the most profound way. This is the part we need to deal with.

54. Wow I love this blog F.L, you really have a natural and direct expression that is so relatable on so many levels. I imagine, from the life you came from that this blog would have been a huge healing for you to have written as well as the blessing it is for us all to read.

55. What can I say besides this is a very down to earth and inspiring account of your choices. Speaking from experience, getting off the victim train can be a long and tricky process. I know that I still jump back on the train from time to time even though I know it only leads to one stop – lack of responsibility central!
    Thanks for taking the time to share your experiences, I find your voice very accessible and hugely valuable!

56. “What I couldn’t walk away from though, was the feeling of being truly understood and held in love. That was so crucial for my recovery as I really had not felt that before. It allowed me space to turn around the trajectory of my life.” – How powerful this is – to be held in true love and so whilst we may be having our comfortable boat rocked we are given the space to connect with a truth that we know from inside of us, with no judgement and as an absolute equal to all others.

57. Such an inspiring story. It takes a huge amount of honesty to admit to what we are really choosing. When I look around I see many people living miserable lives. When I look at students of Universal Medicine I see a paradigm shift. I see people who are responsible and loving and people that know what joy is because they live it.

58. This is a fantastic line: “I am so glad I didn’t give up or keep branding myself a ‘hopeless’ case.” I wonder how many people in the world have given up on themselves and branded themselves in a similar way. What we have to deal with in life can sometimes be tough or seem insurmountable but it’s never worth giving up on ourselves, or anyone, we all have imperfections and stuff to learn, it’s simply a necessary part of life.

59. Anger and fury are one way to block moving forward and seeing self as goodness with perfection and arrogance are also a block – the only difference is that one is louder than the other. To expose the blocks requires honesty and a deep commitment to the truth that is within each of us. Using our resources including the amazing practitioners around us to support us to re-connect and to reflect a different way of living in love will change most messes. Thanks FL.

60. F L your sharing could be a sharing of many and your discovery and livingness of the love you are and the changes that have happen just by claiming this truth could be the sharing of many. The power of living from within and claiming that truth is available to us all. This exposes the beliefs, ideals and pictures from outside of us that are not true yet we allow ourselves to be driven to such a point of separation where we consider giving up. This shows the importance of sharing our re-connection and claiming of who we truly are and deepens my Appreciation everyday for what one man, Serge Benhayon has begun just by living the love he is for others to see.

61. This is a remarkable story. To have given up on all aspects of your life to being so committed to all aspects of your life is a living miracle.

62. We could be spending so much time acting out our hurts, but we are never that. Who we truly are never leaves us and patiently awaits our home coming.

63. Once we learn that our life is our responsibility and that there is no-one to blame, we have the power to change what we don’t like and have blamed circumstances and others for. And from there we can easily make different choices, or not.

64. It is amazing to be met by someone or a whole group of people who love you no matter what you are choosing. They can see who you are in essence and they continue to hold you in this even when you may not be holding yourself in this. This offers a great healing and support to rebuild that love within.

65. This blog is great as its showing there is more stillness we need to build as we connect deeper to our body.

66. ‘…the Benhayons or Universal Medicine practitioners don’t regard me more favourably due to my being much less reactive and more loving these days.’ This is true love. Being loved for who we are.

67. I have read quite a few blogs in the archives this morning, and it is quite amazing how many I have read about people who have turned their lives upside down for the better – a testament of course to Serge Benhayon, but equally to all who have been honest and willing enough to reflect on their own life and to be open to how it could be so different, not necessarily on the outside, but from how life is experienced from within.

68. No one to impress and no favourites. What a rare place to find ourselves but oh so needed. If I’m honest I would have to admit that I would love to impress Serge or Natalie Benhayon as they certainly impress me…your blog helps me see what a twisted game this need to impress is. If I can’t impress another then they must also not be judging me. This feels absolutely beautiful and reminds me I don’t need to try to be anything. Being me is enough.

69. Being truly understood and held in love is such a blessing as is understanding and holding ourselves in love.
    A beautiful story FL of you taking responsibility and making wise self loving choices; thank you.

70. I love your honesty F.L. that ‘the ‘victim’ mentality and the comforts it brought; it had been a longstanding pattern and wasn’t going to shift straightaway’. We can be very stubborn in holding onto our comforts and patterns but we need to acknowledge on every level that they just go around and around teasing us until we decide to commit to working on them. But, the more we work on and build ourselves from within the less space there is in our lives for these patterns, so gradually one by one they hook us in less and less and eventually no longer hold power over us and free us from the straitjacket of existence these patterns feed.

71. Like you FL so many of us have changed our lives through Universal Medicine. I can so relate to the victim mode of feeling everyone was to blame for how I was feeling except myself. Taking responsibility for everything I do, every word I say, and every movement I make is now an ongoing part of my life, it is a continual deepening of my awareness that exposes the many ways that no longer fit my life anymore.

72. F.L, it really is incredible to read about the changes that you have made in your life and how different you now feel, it’s very beautiful that you now have ‘fulfilment and true peace’. In our society this is rare, there is so much self criticism and self loathing instead, so it is wonderful to read how it is possible to feel differently about ourselves and about life.

73. We have created an incredible community of deep love, honesty, and harmony – we must cherish and deeply appreciate where we are at the moment.

74. So well said FL. Anger is such a destructive, unpleasant and unhappy experience, it’s shocking at first to realise it is something we actively seek out. It’s taken me some time to grasp the way it’s used to hide and keep other people out. It is one thing to hear all of this, it is another to shine a torch light upon all of our life and be truly honest about all the areas where we hold ourselves the victim of something others have done. Bravo to you!

75. A beautiful realisation that we are all responsible for the choices we make and how they affect us and all those around us.

76. It really is such a beautiful reflection and confirmation for others to see someone living from their very essence and then letting that magnify out in all facets of our lives. Allowing ourselves to be all of who we are in every aspect of our daily life brings so much wisdom and joy and it feels amazing in the body too. Thank you F.L.

77. The truth that is inescapable is that we are energy and have an essence. An essence that is our Soul. Yet due to creation and separation away from this essence, we have a spirit that now can run away with it without considering the Soul it is made of. Yet we can not escape the fact that our Soul is with us and is never gone hence we always keep the essence of who we are (our very Soul) wherever we go in our bodies. Thanks to God and Universal Medicine I have been made aware, as I had chosen to be aware again, from this fact.

78. This is beautiful F.L. and shows what Love can do. It’s like a seed, that has everything that it is inside and that it is going to be, and with the right water and nutrients it blossoms into the full gorgeous flower it is.

79. It was a big turning point for me also in my life to understand that we are all ultimately responsible for everything that occurs to us in life and we can choose the quality of our own lives through how we move and our daily choices and that it is a fruitless illusion to blame anything or anyone outside of us for our woes.

80. “I look forward to the rest of my life now… in many ways this story of recovery is only the beginning.” To be able to say this in todays world is quite extraordinary and hopefully this will become the ordinary for many, as there is a way to live joyfully and contentedly, feeling true purpose in life.

81. It is this quality of healing that humanity needs as a whole. In fact the very fact that this depth of true healing is rare is what hurts us the most for underneath all the addictions, horror stories and issues we bear is the longing to be met and to be loved.

    1. Very true Katerina… and we all benefit when someone reconnects to who they are and lives breathes and reflects showing others who they really are as well.

82. When we commit to living the truth of who we are, those who also feel the pull towards this truth will seek us out. This is the pull of true brotherhood.

83. I loved reading this blog this morning FL. More and more I am getting to see anger as seperate to me. Just in the same way I could be tempted to raid the cookie jar when I was younger, I can still be offered anger to indulge in if I choose. But the results are not sweet for me or for you. I understand now that the anger is not the whole picture – but that there is sadness, hurt and sensitivity to life’s events happening underneath.

84. “That was so crucial for my recovery”. This line stood out as we can often associate recovery with addictions such as gambling, drugs or alcohol. But of course, emotional addictions are equally devastating to people – both the individual and those around them. In some ways even more devastating as these ones often go unchecked and are not called out by those around them. Maybe more the bigger ones, but there are so many ways (big and small) that emotional addictions play out and can wreak havoc in our lives.

85. I love how you conclude: “I look forward to the rest of my life now… in many ways this story of recovery is only the beginning.” This is for sure only the beginning, it feels in many ways that you are actually beginning your life again, there is such a freshness and newness to the way you write, and once you connect life can only get better.

86. Blaming circumstances and others around me used to be my choice as well, and it took me a long time to realise but now I know that in that choice I am constantly in reaction, fighting life, and retreating into a dead end surrounded by enemies. Taking responsibility opens up space for me to bring about a change. It is the power in my hand.

87. A great blog FL and a turnaround through your choosing to take responsibility for your own decisions and life; We could all benefit from doing the same and I know many have done just that. How fortunate we are to have so many wonderful Practitioners in Universal Medicine, who as you say are not attached to our outcomes but are there with love and support for us when we consult with them for healing.

88. A beautifully expressed path back F.L. The path of return requires small steps of grace and love, to offset the momentum of unloving choices. Once it is known that Glory is readily awaiting, the miasma must be cleared and responsibly felt. Our life is mapped out for us. We are part of a plan. Our future is inevitable only for us to walk and is bright – why should we not walk it and be free from the shackles of distrust, abuse and struggle. Universal Medicine is that path back to home.

89. When we are held by so much love, energetically speaking, we not only feel everything we are and how equal that love is within – but also, our steps away from living and expressing that quality. This can be confronting and cause people to react as responsibility is asked when looking at the steps taken away from truth.

90. I love this blog. The funny thing is every day I feel like I am at the beginning of the rest of my life as each day there is always more to learn and more grow from.

91. It’s awesome to have the support of people who are not willing to pander or waiver under the intensity of what we can sometimes bring ie: the anger, the blame, the victim mentality, the sad story. This is the most supportive thing ever, because it reminds us that it’s not who we are, and so a choice is always available if we consider turning it all around.

92. FL thank you for sharing your experience with Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon. I find it incredible how you have changed and for me it is very inspirational. You wrote: “They simply reminded me that I had choices, that being a victim or reactive was a choice too.” That is really something worth it to learn from day one – I am wondering how our world would look like today if we would chose to do so.

93. Thank you for sharing your story, it is very inspiring and one, hundreds if not thousands have experienced with Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine. The details of the story are different for each person, but the discovery that there is a WAY of life that works (The Way of the Livingness), how we do have choices, consequences and responsibilities, the power of being held in a love that is totally non-judgemental and non-imposing and the seemingly miraculous life and health changing consequences of that – this blessing is available for all who choose it.

94. “What I couldn’t walk away from though, was the feeling of being truly understood and held in love” That is it F.L. there is something we can feel from the Benhayons and the esoteric practitioners that we don’t feel from most people, There is a holding love that we too can be like them and all we have to do is make loving choices in our lives as they have done.

95. Serge Benhayon has given me the tools to change my life and thank-fully I have chosen to learn to use them.

96. The tension held in our bodies when we are living with anger keeps us from living life in full. Thanks for sharing your story and how continued commitment from yourself and the support of Universal Medicine practitioners enabled you to turn your life around and let go of the anger and the tension it had been creating.

97. I love how you are absolutely accepting of yourself just where you are at. We spend so much time putting ourselves down for not being perfect, which only adds another layer to the fog that blocks our connection and obscures the realisation of the grandness of who we truly are.

98. This blows away the saying ‘that’s the way I am’ when behaving in a way that alienates or abuses people. We learn behaviours to help us deal with life and through healing we can let them go and live with fewer or no reactions to things around us.

99. “What I couldn’t walk away from though, was the feeling of being truly understood and held in love.” The gifts that an Esoteric Practitioner brings to you cannot be underestimated and is truly a gift from Heavan.

100. What a return F.L, very inspiring. We do recognise the truth when it is before us. “What I couldn’t walk away from though, was the feeling of being truly understood and held in love.”

101. Powerful indeed when we take steps to truly heal and move forward in love, everyone feels it and can be inspired to also address their choices and to make changes that are more supportive and true.

102. It is in many ways “natural” to react to the world, for the world is not truly a reflection of our higher nature. However, at some point each and every human being has to take responsibility and accept the fact that through our living way we contribute either to the way it is, or the way we know it should be.

103. Being relatable is so very powerful as people can feel that there is something there they can, well, relate to and feel is common in them too.

104. From a life that ‘sucked’ to a life of love, very cool to read FL. We contribute to everything life brings us, simply reflections of the way we choose to live. Great to have a clear mirror rather than a distorted one.

105. Beautiful sharing, FL.What Universal Medicine offers is life changing. I also feel like I am learning how to live for the first time ever in my life.

106. That’s a very cool story. I love your attitude and approach and am very pleased you no longer have all that bitterness, it oozed through the blog so what it must have been to live! I am very inspired by you.

107. Incredible! The level of responsibility you are willing to take for your life is completely inspiring!!
     Thank you for making all those choices and being another shining light to help remind everyone what is possible!

108. Thanks F.L. it is such a crucial turning point you are referring to… “This shift in perspective allowed me to actually see how I had contributed to the life I complained so much about – a big pill to swallow, but a very empowering one when grasped.” Without taking responsibility for our circumstances and the way we have reacted to life, no true change is possible let alone being sustainable.

109. It took me a lot of years of life to realise just how much my reactions disturb me and those around me far more than the events that have happened in my life.

110. Life as it is currently accepted to be lived by is very intense and as such this intensity can be felt if we are sensitive to each other. Often it is this inner intensity that creates troubled relationships between people. Over the last 6 years I have been learning from example what it means to not have that intensity but a steadiness within oneself and what that then produces in relationships with others as shared by Serge Benhayon and many others. The more I take responsibility for whats going on inside me – my thoughts, moods, feelings, behaviours, the quality I do daily tasks in, the less intensity there is within me, thus it is not dumped onto another and my relationships have grown rather than reduced as they did during my teens and early adult life. I was unwilling to deal with my own issues so when another brought me their’s it was too much. And this mentality of wanting something or someone on the outside to fix our woes is the weight we bring into relationships that will never be healed, only numbed. What Universal Medicine has shared is that by being me and not all the things I have taken on from the outside then we can have truer relationships and this is inspiring as this is everything we’ve ever wanted, to be seen and met as who we truly are and Serge Benhayon reflects this constantly, the fact that we can be met and relate to each other from who we are.

111. I too branded myself as a hopeless case before I began attending Universal Medicine Courses, where I got to see that thinking I was a hopeless case was just a thought being feed to me by an energy outside my body. This was a revelation to me and made total sense. Once I understood this I would tell myself that this was not my thought, I no longer feed the thought and indulged in it and in time it disappeared with no therapy and no counselling, just not entertaining the thought, re- connecting to my body and aligning to the hierarchical energy.

112. Your story is awesome, inspirational and living proof that just because we may have had a tough background or troubled past that we don’t have to let that dictate who we are today.

113. Its a testimony on life and the state of humanity when we say that the way to live ‘normally’ is hurting us all in such a way that we need such healing in the first place. Thank God for Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine as more than ever is such a reflection so needed.

114. Universal Medicine offers us the tools to find ourselves back again and connect that which has already been lived within our hearts.

115. No matter what we are born into we have a choice to hold on to our hurts or to let them go and reclaim the power and strength of the self-care we all equally deserve and have access to.

116. The way we respond to our life is up to us. For me having chosen parents and a family that sounds very similar to yours FL offered me an amazing life, a journey through childhood into adulthood that left me somewhat angry, resentful and bitter at the world. Haven now taken responsibility for my life I can look back at just how much my parents taught me and understand the dynamics and where my family were coming from and that was their own hurts.

117. Finally allowing myself to see how “I had contributed to the life I complained so much about” was the one of the biggest and best wake up calls I have ever had; no more blaming others for my miseries, my life is my responsibility and no one else’s. With this realisation came an inner knowing that now the way was clear to begin to change my life, and that I have done in a myriad of most wonderful ways.

118. Learning that we have choices and consequences is a very important step in truly healing as with out this level of responsibility we are in the paradigm of blaming others for our lives. The blame game keeps us stuck in a merry- go–round of irresponsibility and dis-empowerment, never getting to the truth of the situation.

119. ‘I took the opportunity to consider another way of living.’ Imagine if there are no helpless cases, no victims, and no people we should give up, and it was simply about choosing another way of living.

120. Dear FL,
     You present here how Serge Benhayon and his family, loved you the same no matter your choices, and that this is done with no want or need for you to choose one way or the other, doing it for you and humanity, as all of us now benifit from you being the true loving tender person you are. This is by far the most humbling and inspirational thing to observe, and to also witness personally for myself.

121. Incredible F.L. in many ways this story of recovery is only the beginning. You assemble the light in many, the awakening son that helps others to see their life – simply by living the way, in consistency, harmony and joy. There is no better prevention of misery than living from the true light. And this recovery were we talk about is exactly it.

122. I can very much relate to your sharing FL, the power of responsibility and self care is enormous

123. So true FL we have lived the false self for life times so yes, it is just the beginning when we arrest this momentum as then we have to establish a way living the true self.

124. Thank God and thank you Universal Medicine for showing us all that there is a way of living that is so beyond anger, frustration, bitterness, sadness, hopelessness and despair that these emotions hardly get a look in and when they do we know that they are presenting for us to learn something more about how to deepen our connection with ourselves and others.

125. This to me is nothing short of a miracle, the way you never gave up on yourself is the real stand out for me in your article. I also love how you talk about what true love actually is, its not attachment or sympathy, just connection to self that inspires others.

     1. I agree, Sarah. So many people talk about the ‘fight’ people have to overcome adversity, depression, illness and many other ailments. It implies there may be a winner and loser. But the change described above was no fight, but more a surrendering to who he/she truly is. And “… in many ways this story of recovery is only the beginning.”

126. Great to re-read your words of wisdom FL. You express that really it was just the beginning for you even after those major changes you have made and shared with us. I would agree that we are always growing in our daily lives even if at times we feel we have slipped back we are always moving and learning. I am forever grateful for the presentations by Serge Benhayon of the Ancient Wisdom .

127. I love your honesty and inspiring blog F.L. I have found blaming our circumstance or others doesn’t support us in any way. Blaming simply keeps us trapped in the vicious cycle of misery. Whereas once we choose to take responsibility for all our choices we then begin to see how destruction irresponsibility is. Once we make more loving choices and take responsibility for our life we no longer feel the weight of our choices, but feel empowered, lighter and more joyful. Who would have thought taking responsibility could be so much fun and could feel so amazing? Well it is, I have started to live a more responsible life and I feel incredible.

128. “This shift in perspective allowed me to actually see how I had contributed to the life I complained so much about – a big pill to swallow, but a very empowering one when grasped.” We hold ourselves to ransom when we adopt the ‘victim’ of life mentality. What a blessing to be shown that we hold the key to free ourselves from this inner turmoil by simply taking responsibility for all our choices and willingly commit to making changes. We will soon see that we are, in fact, the masters of our own destiny.

129. The sense of being understood from an Esoteric Practitioner is one of the greatest gifts anyone can receive.

     1. Agreed. And it goes beyond understanding, one is held.

     2. With no imposition of or from them but instead a willingness to see all that we are, yep definitely a great gift to receive.

130. ‘What I couldn’t walk away from though, was the feeling of being truly understood and held in love.’ The key factor in healing is being held in love and what you also have been mentioning, to know we are in the driver seat of our lives, no one else. Indeed life changing and a true new beginning of an amazing way of life.

131. Thank you FL for this awesome blog – there is such as honesty when you talk about how we often just seek to have someone else to blame about our circumstances, someone to conveniently point the finger at. And just like you have said, there is this attitude of “if only our father/mother had brought us up differently, if only this or that situation had not happened then everything would be fine”. The reality is that we cannot control life and what happens around us, however we always have a choice in how we respond to what happens and we are always offered an opportunity for learning with everything that eventuates around us. It is when we soldier on and pretend that everything is ok when it is not, it is when we smile though we are crying and miserable inside, it is the pretence of happiness that we put up when we are hurting on the inside…all this eventually bubbles up to the surface as a form of resentment or anger – anger and resentment at ourselves for not handling the situation in a more empowered way, a way that is available to us all at all times. And when we actually choose to go for for the more empowered way, wow does life suddenly take a turn and we suddenly get to see the blue skies, we get to feel the appreciation of what is, and of ourselves. Thank you FL for this wonderful reminder of taking responsibility and cherishing the moment for all that it represents: which really is the reminder of our own grandness.

132. It’s an enormous learning curve to realise that it’s not the things that happen in life that disturb us, but our reaction to them.

133. A great line FL, “What I couldn’t walk away from though, was the feeling of being truly understood and held in love. That was so crucial for my recovery as I really had not felt that before. It allowed me space to turn around the trajectory of my life.” Our society has made knowledge key to supporting others, for example with psychology (of which I have great respect), yet we have not really considered how crucial love is to recovery. I recently realised how different it feels when someone offers support that has the energetic quality of love, and when someone offers advice or some form of support without love – they are very different and I respond differently. I feel the presence of love heals enormously, regardless of the detail of what’s discussed.

134. Hi FL, This blog is a great testimony to just how far you have come. You made me laugh with this . . . “Besides, the way I was going, there were bound to be aspects of the afterlife that irked me as well!” . . So great you have retained your sense of humour and come back to yourself. When we can take a step back from life we are more able to observe the comedy/tragedy of it all without getting sucked in.

135. “Interestingly enough, the Benhayons or Universal Medicine practitioners don’t regard me more favourably due to my being much less reactive and more loving these days. They are unattached to my choices and the outcomes that follow. If they never saw me again it wouldn’t trouble them. They simply inspired me to wisely choose how I respond to life and leave me to continue this way forward in my own time, preferably sooner than later, for my own sake! This has been wonderful, there is no one to impress, there are no favourites, no goals to meet, just a chance to truly grow.” This is such a great point that you make here. It is not about “being good” and then people liking us more, it is about our own evolution and making choices that support us. For far too long we have made it about pleasing others which were, in fact, to miss the point altogether.

136. I loved reading about the changes you have made FL. Realising we are responsible for all in our life opens so much up- and has a lot of learning and understanding involved.

137. “What I couldn’t walk away from though, was the feeling of being truly understood and held in love” how gorgeous is this? We know truth and love when we feel it 🙂

138. “This shift in perspective allowed me to actually see how I had contributed to the life I complained so much about – a big pill to swallow, but a very empowering one when grasped.” – this is a powerful realisation! To have the honesty to say this is huge, but even greater is the beauty that comes with the empowerment. We cannot change the way we live for a truer way until we have been willing to see what it is about how we live that no longer works.

139. ‘They simply reminded me that I had choices, that being a victim or reactive was a choice too. Slowly I came to see this was so – and understand just how powerful this awareness is…’ In every experience and all that we do we always have a opportunity to either grow and evolve or not and it’s our choice which pathway we want to take.

140. Yes the Benhayons are very inspiring, leaving it up to individuals to make their own choices in every moment. It is with such love and understanding that I have developed within myself, through being inspired by what and how they live, that I then live in that understanding for all others I come into contact with. A very different way to how I used to live, full of reaction, judgement and critique, not anymore.

141. ‘I wasn’t always as willing to let go of the ‘victim’ mentality and the comforts it brought; it had been a longstanding pattern and wasn’t going to shift straightaway’. Our patterns are like that FL, they shadow and are completely ingrained in all that we do but because they are so familiar they feel comfortable, even when they are totally loveless.

142. I love what you share here about the Benhayon family FL. I love the fact that there is no judgement and that they treat everyone the same, as an equal – because they know in the heart of their beingness, just as we all do, that we are all equal – no matter what we may present them with on the outside. They know the truth of our Beingness and see it in everyone, holding that truth rather than reacting to the guises others present. Through their example I am learning to be this way with others too and it is a remarkable way to be in this world – and not of it.

143. Being free of our woes does feel like a rather incredible thing to consider – but if we know we are the ones creating them, then this becomes a very real possibility rather than a fantastic fantasy.

144. Is it possible that ‘somehow deep within we know what the answer isn’t’ because deep within we know what the answer is?

145. It is amazing how one change in perspective from blame to responsibility has the power to liberate us from so many of our issues. Blame is just a way of giving our power away to others and keeps us stuck. Accepting responsibility for our lives, for all of our lives, is an amazing step to take.

146. They ‘just simply showed me consistently that there was another way to be in life’ this is one of the most powerful, graceful and loving things we can do, any hint of telling and people shut down. You can physically see the change, or if on the receiving end feel it in your own body. There is no love or understanding in telling, it’s deeply damaging and hurts. Yet it one of the major things we all do, I feel starting at a young age, being told by adults what to do, this carries on in school. I often then see young children taking on the telling mode they have picked up from parents, teachers or people in general and it feels awful. I know for me when I am told what to do, my body contracts, hardens and I want to do the exact opposite, telling is an imposing force.

147. This is an incredible blog and an absolute blessing to read.

148. ‘I learned that I had choices and responsibilities.’ This is the most amazing freedom to be lived.

149. I totally agree FL, it can be a very rude awakening when we open our eyes and actually see how we ourselves have ‘contributed to the life I complained so much about – a big pill to swallow, but a very empowering one when grasped’.

150. I all deeply appreciate the Benhayons and the livingness they model. I have also learnt so much about myself through taking responsibility for my choices and moving beyond my old self-destructive patterns and as result live a far freer and joy-full loving life.

151. If we don’t stop to feel the discomfort of not living true to who we are, our bodies are always in tension. I love the way you so graphically described your unsettlement FL. To feel the ‘coming home’ to a true way is like being given live saving resuscitation! I so relate to your sharing.

152. This is an inspiring account of how, when in life you feel like you are hitting a dead end and feel there’s no where else to go, there is always the U-turn… The letting go of all the things (choices, behaviour patterns) that got you to the dead end is a testament to knowing that there has to be another way to live life.

153. F.L I have tears rolling down my checks, your blog has really touched me I can feel the huge profound changes you have made in your life and I can feel the love you was supported with to make such a change. Wow what an amazing testament to the work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, a miracle of many.

154. So often in life we are trying to impress and we want recognition. It may be quite obvious or it may be sneaky but for many it runs deep. I love what you shared about the Benhayons seeing and treating you no differently that when you first went to them, than to when you had made many changes in your life and way of living. Being held in that way – where you are seen in your essence no matter what you may be playing out, is truly incredible.

155. Beautiful F.L. I love the matter of fact way you write your story with no emotion. What you have achieved is nothing short of a miracle.

156. There is a real frankness to your writing that makes me just want to keep reading, no BS just the facts and a deep appreciation for the love you received from Universal Medicine. This blog is in the archives now and I can’t help but wonder how you are doing some 4 years after writing it? Thank you for sharing your story and obviously would love to hear more.

157. Learning that there was a way of living that actually helped me to make more loving choices for myself was absolutely pivotal for the changes that have occurred in my life. I used to think that I had to make a disciplined choice to give up this or that and always wondered why it did not work. Now I know why it did not work and that is because it is not about discipline but about choosing to live in a way that then supports loving choices to be made. It is about how we choose to live and how much we want to connect with the love that we already are.

158. I read this blog today because I had an angry moment a few hours ago and was looking for something to help me understand what happened. When I read this blog all I can feel is the absolute love, care and dedication that the Benhayon Family has offered. I can feel that the only way forward is to connect to the love I have been shown that is equal within me.

159. Wow a powerfully inspiring story of what is possible when embracing healing rather than blame. Being held in love and understanding is a gorgeous way to allow you to shift whatever hurts are there and live more of who you are… and the enormity of this speaks for itself through the life you now live. Amazing.

160. It really proves how truth and taking responsibility are the most loving choices even when they are initially hard choices. To leave you going down the track of the victim is not loving at all. To bring awareness of your choices is the most loving and rewarding thing to do. This goes equally for all of us.

161. Beautifully inspiring and confirming that there is simply a different way to live, more joyful and rewarding.

162. I agree F.L, realising that we are responsible for all of our life choices can be a very big pill to swallow, but it is also empowering because we can then take responsibility and begin to change our lives because there is no-one to blame, we just have to take a long, hard look at ourselves and acknowledge what the world is reflecting back to us and begin to love ourselves.

163. It’s Beautiful to read your story FL. And see that the support of Universal Medicine is unconditional, and shows us the truth of who we are.

164. Looking back on life now, I find it truly amazing that we didn’t realise that we have choice, and that with shame blame and guilt we then don’t take responsibility. To take responsibility for our choices may be a bitter pill but as you say F.L a very empowering one.

165. The victim mentality is such a biggie to let go of because it sure becomes one of your (seemingly) best friends but as you have found FL identifying oneself with any aspect of victimhood diminishes us severely.

166. Beautiful article FL! Loved how you shared that Universal Medicine practitioners constantly presented to you that you had choices.. no matter how reactive you were being! We often justify our reactive behaviour and blame our circumstances but don’t want to realise that we all have an innate wisdom which will know what to do in any given situation! you are a true example that we all are ‘the one’!

167. It’s so simple really isn’t it – when I think of all the money and time I spent over several decades on trying to ‘fix’ my life with little to temporary success, at the end of the day (& while it hasn’t always been easy), all I have had to do is take responsibility and begin making loving choices without trying to fix anything, but simply to be more me!

168. ‘I slowly began to relearn how to live; it was the first time it had ever been put to me that there was a way of living that could help me with my perceived problems, and I was willing to give it a try.’ Beautiful to read how you came to make different choices even though at times it was a struggle, and the love that you felt held in would have been an amazing support.

169. If any of us could say we have never held back our full and loving expression because we have been hurt or have a fear of being hurt, then we could truly say we have never played the victim. I feel that many of us have indulged in this and felt we were powerless and victims of how mean the world is. How amazing and wonderful it is to change all that, to see there are choices, to not be pushed around and played with by the world and to make positive choices to come back to the love that we are. I appreciated your story FL as it feels universal. Realising our responsibilities in our lives is a joy for all of us.

170. Prior to meeting Serge Benhayon, I’d never considered myself an angry person per se (although I knew at times I felt angry and was certainly often frustrated, controlling and stressed!), but it wasn’t until I met Serge Benhayon that I actually began to be more honest about my behaviour, which included realising I had buried a lot of my anger – and that as a result of my hurts I was often in a lot of reaction and resentment to myself and others. Learning to take responsibility for my life, and the choices I had made that reflected my life and relationships, doesn’t mean I don’t at times still feel angry or frustrated, but I’m much more aware and honest when I am and willing to look at what’s going on for me. The changes in being much less reactionary and having a more loving approach to myself, are highly recommended!

171. I am so glad you didnt give up on yourself either FL, you are very very inspiring.

172. I loved reading your blog FL, what a transformation, thank you for sharing how different you life now is, after learning to take responsibility for your choices and by the unwavering love and support from Serge and the Universal Medicine Practitioners.

173. Very inspiring Sue and Debra – there is so much power in every moment and every choice, we can feel condemned or held back by our past, yet its powerless compared to the moment. When we make each moment about love there is nothing that cannot be overcome.

174. What a beautiful conversation about “shunning” others and ourselves. The power of accepting others and ourselves exactly as we are is profound. Similarly judging and shunning others, effectively turning away from the love that is there to be expressed, has a very powerful negative effect on everyone. What a great topic to be highlighted, Thankyou.

175. I agree Lindell! The bit about probably being irked by something in the afterlife made me laugh out loud! It’s a great stop moment to have a laugh at ourselves, it really restores a true connection.

176. I agree Lucy and Debra. The New Age/Spirituality also seems to want to take people even further away from daily life, the mundane, and a connection to the body. Universal Medicine for me works so well because it’s all encompassing of life, work, family, relationships etc, and the deep self care needed for the body. It’s so, so practical yet the most powerful thing I’ve ever experienced. I would trade every single thing I’ve explored in my past about self help, new age, religion, spirituality and personal growth in a second to have come instead directly to Universal Medicine. Universal Medicine works for people because it represents the living truth.

177. Great to read this again FL, I love the raw unedited honesty of exactly where you were at. There is a total acceptance of that which is rare in this world. The consistent reflections from the Universal Medicine practitioners is very powerful, because in that we see that something is actually working in a world full of empty promises. I also love the practicality of the Universal Medicine workshops – it’s all applicable to daily life which is what we need to sort out.

178. Great blog FL and one I can relate to. It was like a breath of fresh air when I found the Benhayon family and the Esoteric Practitioners, because for once in my life there were people making sense of everything that I saw as wrong in my life, and yes it was a hard pill to follow when I discovered I was the creator of my own woes, but at the same time a life saving eye opener.

179. Your blog leaves me with a feeling of serenity. I love about your writing that it is appreciative of Universal Medicine, but not missionary.

180. Yes Marion, I agree and I don’t believe we get offered that being ‘held in love’ very often. It is when a person is completely there, listening and engaging. It is a very empowering feeling and certainly made me want to offer that kind of love to myself so that I could consider offering it to others.

181. I picked up on that as well Debra. There is something about the practical tools I have learnt through Universal Medicine that stays with me and that I have been consistent with beyond anything I learnt through Buddism or other practices. It has been so consistent that it is now my normal and a way of living for me. What a waste all those diets and self help books were when I look back. All the answers about what worked for me were inside me, what I needed was to build a way of living that slowed me down long enough to listen!

182. You are a wonderful example of the simplicity of owning our own choices and consequences. There doesn’t need to be a big battle or a drama around honesty. Just a willingness to accept that, if some of our choices harm another person, there will be consequences. If our intention is not to harm then it is a learning and the more we can foster a space for learning to be ok and cut back on the judgement the more honest we will all allow ourselves to be.

183. Thank you FL it is beautiful to read the choices you made to turn your life around and to no longer play the victim role. Universal Medicine supports everyone equally to address their hurts and to let go of all that stands in the way of us being truly loving.

184. ‘This shift in perspective allowed me to actually see how I had contributed to the life I complained so much about – a big pill to swallow, but a very empowering one when grasped.’ When we realise our life is the way it is because of our own choices, not only is it a great revelation, it gives us a greater understanding to make more self loving choices.

185. ‘What I couldn’t walk away from though, was the feeling of being truly understood and held in love. That was so crucial for my recovery as I really had not felt that before. It allowed me space to turn around the trajectory of my life.’ The feeling of being understood by others is such an amazing gift and the choice to understand others even more so. The key is to let go of all judgement that holds us bound and stagnant.

186. I loved reading this! I branded myself a ‘hopeless’ case and was very attached to wanting sympathy from others. I also practiced Buddhism for many years and thought just another 1000 lives and I’ll get it. But seeing the Universal Practitioners who have always held me in the truth of who I am has made it very difficult to resist this truth and now I am finally starting to accept and express this in my daily life. Amazing.

187. F.L I can agree with this so deeply as well..”This shift in perspective allowed me to actually see how I had contributed to the life I complained so much about – a big pill to swallow, but a very empowering one when grasped.” This has been the miracle for me and continues to be every day now in studying the work of Universal Medicine.

188. It is amazing that someone can change so drastically and beautifully just by taking responsibility and learning to love themselves. How lovely that the true and gorgeous you is now here for all to know. This is a true miracle as we often hear people in the world say “people don’t change,” well yes they do, and these blogs are testament to that.

189. What a transformation you have had from the anger to the inspiration that you are today.

190. ” I felt totally accepted and loved for who I was.” Universal Medicine presents a way of living that brings acceptance and love for ourselves and for all around us. The Way of the Livingness brings harmony and joy equally to all.

191. Yes Julie I have been thinking about that one a lot lately and witnessing it in both myself and others. And then when I read comments, other blogs, meet other students of Universal Medicine I am blown away by the daily level of miracles that are occurring as more and more people are choosing – as F.L. does here – to look at their lives, stop the blame and accept their choices and responsibilities in life and re-introduce self-love. If there was an anger-meter across the world – this activity would be slowly bringing the levels down whilst also inspiring others to do the same. One day we could all live like this. I look forward to it.

192. Especially your sentence “but I now have fulfilment and true peace within me regularly.” resonates in me. I made the same experience in the last years and as you say, to feel the inner peace in me, is such a gift – I feel complete. This feeling is so precious, to feel connected with myself and with the rest of the world.

193. This is a beautifully revealing and inspirational blog FL. To have changed from and angry and disillusioned person to one who feels life is now worth living . This shows the dedication you have had in making the changes that have altered your life. The love and support of the amazing Serge Benhayon and the wonderful Universal Practitioners who as you say never give up on

     hows the dedication you have and the great support of Serge Benhayon and the fantastic Universal Medicine Practitioners

194. Amazing F.L. So inspiring that you allowed another person in, and it just so happened that that person presented you with a choice that you felt was so true you couldn’t walk away from it. Amazing that you have reconciled with your family and regained your amazingness and ability to trust. Powerful stuff.

195. That’s so true, Sally. Even in our disconnection, we somehow carry on ‘being ourselves’ by holding onto a version we have constructed from identification of some kind, and it really is quite shocking when we realise how far we had actually come away from who we truly are.

196. “To let go of the ‘victim’ mentality and the comforts it brought” – knowing that being a victim is comfort is huge. That we have a choice and we have responsibility is the key in true healing and has been a huge learning for me too.

197. Great point Brendan. Like anything, taking responsibility takes practice and a great deal of courage (or just plain and simple pride swallowing) to make that first move. But once enacted, everything that follows thereafter because simpler and simpler to deal with. And far from being a chore, learning to take responsibility is actually a great joy for with no one to blame, we give ourselves permission to be our own master once more.

198. Thankyou F.L, I really enjoyed reading this first chapter of the rest of your life. Understanding that ‘playing the victim’ card is a choice is indeed, a huge pill to swallow. One of those ones that get stuck in your throat and you can still feel the imprint of it long after the pill has gone down. But once this medicine gets to work, nothing beats this awareness for it offers a release of all that has come to bind us and tether us to a way of living that simply does not work. Standing tall, in truth and with love, willing and able to take responsibility for our every choice is the sure way back to the love that we are.

199. When we look at the world and observe how we are treated and treat others it is often with judgement and criticism. I am learning to accept without judgement people and where they are at and accept the choices they make.

200. Reaction is totally a choice – one thats creates further separation in a world where true Brotherhood is few and far between and getting along is selective. I am learning that reaction is also a choice to not understand the situation or person, it keeps a distance and feeds the existence of everything we are not. With understanding we can see the truth and equality as we all have stuff to deal with in our circles and cycles.

     1. I agree Racheal – reaction is definitely a choice. We are love. Therefore, we know what is of this love and what is not. All that is not love can be referred to as ‘evil’, as evil is the absence of love. We all see evil at play within and all around us and we sense it because it causes a jarring by virtue of the fact that anything that is not love simply ‘does not match’ and will therefore arise a tension in the body. Thus, we all see evil all of the time, we just choose to ignore it. Most of us are in a state of permanent reaction to the world in which we live; we despair at the wars, the corruption, cruelty and abuse that we are witness to and/or are participants of every day. In complete reaction to this we shut down and seek comfort, distractions and entertainment in order to cope with these atrocities that we allow by turning a blind eye. The reaction we feel is there as a marker for the evil that we see but refuse to deal with. For in-truth and deep down, we each know that such evil has no place in a body of love nor the world in which we live and it will only go away if we take an honest look at how we are living and collectively admit that the way of life that we have created here on Earth, is not a way of life that truly supports, nurtures nor sustains us and the love that we are.

201. This is beautiful because I can sense how much change you went through an how much struggle you experienced. It is a hard thing to swallow the pill of responsibility, especially when your life has been ‘tough’ but how absolutely incredible is your life now.. a true and remarkable turn around.

202. Wow, what a transformation you have been through. I love how you have taken responsibility, made the choice to step out of the victim role and blaming everybody and how you are a true inspiration now for all those around you.

203. One of the most supportive things about Esoteric modalities is that the person is not judged. It really gives room to be all of who you are in that moment and to completely let go of what is not needed. The freedom to nominate what is on the inside helps it to break free and leave the person unattached to the cause of their issue, it is quite beautiful. Thank you FL for sharing the power of the Universal Medicine courses.

     1. Absolutely Matthew – when we judge another it keeps them cemented in what they may be in or choosing. It feels incredibly expansive and loving to feel someone holding you without any judgment of your choices, like you’ve said ‘It really gives room to be all of who you are in that moment and to completely let go of what is not needed.’

204. Your sharing here FL is truly beautiful and very inspiring to read. Life is about choices and taking responsibility and you are reflecting how true and amazing life can be when we commit to being the love that we naturally are.

205. Thank you FL, this is a great blog. What i see is the type of relationships or interactions we have with others (family and non family) is a reflection on the relationship we have with our self first. It sounds as if the primary relationship, you with your self, today is much more self loving and this has had a huge impact in everything in your life. To realise this is “only the beginning” is an awesome way to approach life.

206. Beautiful expansion Stephanie. I am learning that my feelings and actions towards others are always a reflection of what is felt first from within myself. Learning to take responsibility for my life to this level at times is hugely challenging and I can go into denial or numbing to not feel but essentially it is the greatest learning to look and learn from ourselves first and take responsibility for the reflections that are offered to us daily.

207. ‘This has been wonderful, there is no one to impress, there are no favourites, no goals to meet, just a chance to truly grow.’ Just a chance to truly grow. This is quite extraordinary to have in a world where we always have to proof ourselves and where competition runs high. And it is incredibly helpful and supportive if you have people who see you for who you truly are and are not getting annoyed, upset or give up on you because you might be a bit stuck in your behaviours or old patterns. The grandness of you counts and not the little bits and pieces that still need learning and mastering.

208. I love this FL that this story of recovery in only the beginning, as even the toughest things to deal with can be worked through as it never ceases to amaze me how capable we actually are. You honesty in this blog speaks volumes thank –you.

209. I can relate to this blog in that I wasn’t always willing to let go of my ‘victim’ mentality or my anger. I sometimes went to practitioners with a story but I was always open to be called on it and redirected to taking responsibility for what was happening in my own body. I never felt judged even when it took me many sessions stuck on the same issue.
     It was the unconditional Love I received from the practitioners that got me through even though it was something very foreign to me and at first I struggle to accept it and let it in I knew deep underneath my resistance I had found something real that offered my a true connection to who I really was under all of my anger.

210. This is a beautiful sharing. From what felt like a sense of hopelessness to now feeling inspired by life and living more lovingly, this shows that although it can be hard to face the responsibility of our choices, the outcome of doing so is a sense of self-honouring and it is also incredibly freeing.

211. What an inspiring story. I too felt given up and resonate completely with your starting situation in this article. Similarly, awareness that I am responsible for everything in my life was also gifted to me by the unwaivering support and love from Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine Practitioners. I understand the full responsibility of knowing that choices I make in every moment has a direct impact on myself and all around me. Glorious blog.

212. In the last few years i have realised that everything in my life – is the direct result of my own choices. That anything that i seem to struggle or an angry or upset about how my life is – always come back to me. My world is exactly how I have created it.

     Once I started accepting that – things have become so much simpler and the responsibility and clarity I can choose to live with is very liberating.

     Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon, and all the Benhayon family are wonderful examples of what life is like when you realise you are in the drivers seat – and the reality you create is the result of how you live.

     I am very grateful to have them in my life.

     1. Your sentence “My world is exactly how I have created it.” is so powerful. It describes beautifully self-responsibility. Once we start to take responsibility for our own choice, life starts to change.

213. What an inspiring post F.L., I can feel the heaviness of former despair, to the lightness of joy in re-finding you and Truth again. Two points crucial aspects you share to unlocking the despair: Choices and Responsibilities so clear and easy to understand. And your line here a stopping reminder: “They simply reminded me that I had choices, that being a victim or reactive was a choice too”. Everything is a choice. So huge.

214. I have the feeling as you describe my life of the last years. I like especially your sentence ” They simply reminded me that I had choices, that being a victim or reactive was a choice too.” As a victim I always thought, that I don’t have a choice or I don’t have the right to make the choice, but the truth is, I made a choice in the first place – to be a victim. There is no coincidence. Everything what happens to me is, because I made certain choices, i.e. I have the power to change my life through choices – very empowering.

215. Having met the Benhayons and getting the understanding of the ageless wisdom, I came to understand I have choices and responsibility. I realised my life depends on the choices I make and I am free to make what ever choice I feel. Having understood the true meaning of responsibility and the impact on others, changed how I am in the world. My life has changes so much in a beautiful loving way., by letting go of anger, frustration, hurts and sadness. Now embracing love and openness, honesty and truth.

216. Well said – great blog thank you for sharing

217. I feel the magic of God and your amazing commitment, dedication and love for yourself F.L. in reading your story of transformation. It may only be the beginning, but what a grand and totally inspiring one it is.

218. Like you FL “I am so glad I didn’t give up or keep branding myself a ‘hopeless’ case. I took the opportunity to consider another way of living”. So often when life gets hard and painful it can seem easy to give up, but without failure it will simply get harder the next time. To discover that there is always a choice to live another way seemed a bit too good to be true to begin with, but eventually I realised that true it was, and still is. Every day I am so glad that I didn’t give up on me!

219. Thank you FL, your story reminds me of how I was before I came to Universal Medicine – unhappy with life and angrily blaming everyone else rather than take responsibility for my own choices. As you say, the loving support of all the practitioners that is always there, without judgement, has enabled me to see myself and my way of living without judgement, to accept where I am at, and to appreciate the changes I have made so far. My life is a work-in-progress, as the commitment to living a life of true love is slowly unfolding.

220. You’re so right, FL – the awareness that it’s all about choice and accepting that we’re totally responsible for our choices are the keys to getting out of our self-made prisons. The consistently held love and understanding of practitioners whilst we’re choosing makes all the difference.

221. This is an inspiring story FL . It highlights to me the amazing difference taking responsibility and looking within makes to the way we respond to situations and the healing that takes place within us.

222. Thank you FL for a very inspiring story. It is amazing the power we have to change our lives if we are willing to take responsibility for our choices. “To be truly understood and held in love” is this not what all mankind longs for.

223. I am so glad too F.L. you never gave up, had you, I would never have deeply felt the inspiration of your story. Big thanks to you, I look forward to more of whats to come.

224. Absolutely empowering FL that you have made those choices for yourself. A true testament to the power of love and the ability to inspire you to reconnect back to you.

225. When you get support from someone who doesn’t have any attachment to your outcome you receive the best result if their intentions are also to truly help. As they are not swayed by sympathy, and their compass points truth all the time, other untainted views and advice can really help.

226. Very positive turnaround, the power of self love and taking responsibility for your choices.

227. What I find incredibly powerful is that through taking responsibility for your own healing it in turn facilitated the healing of many of your relationships. Someone had said to me recently that we don’t necessarily need to be in contact with someone in order to heal that relationship and your experience confirms this.

228. When we choose a path of healing it isn’t necessarily comfortable however you continued to make the choice despite this and I love that you shared the level of consistency of love, acceptance and non-judgment you received from the Benhayons and other esoteric practitioners. They’re an amazing living example of how we can be if we so choose.

229. Thank you EL for your sharing. Your experience with the Universal Medicine Practitioners and especially Serge Benhayon and his family, is a testament of the Love that they hold us as humanity in, inspiring us to grow and share that love with all we meet.

230. ” What I couldn’t walk away from though, was the feeling of being truly understood and held in love.” This is the greatest gift we can offer ourselves and everyone else. Those of us who experience this are truly blessed and forever changed.

231. This is a true testimony to how our choices can keep us angry and away from others believing that it is everyone else and not us who have a problem. This shows that it is possible to change.

232. I love how you talk about the Benhayons and their unattached and yet all loving assistance. This is exactly how they are.

233. It was a pleasure to read such an honest account of an incredible transformation from victim to empowerment through being held in such exquisite love and then choosing that for yourself. Awesome.

234. Your story of recovery is remarkable. The way you took responsibility and changed your life is deeply inspiring. You have shown us that the way you choose to live and every choice you make can lead to great healing. It all comes down to our choices. Healing cannot be present if the choice to let go of our hurts is not chosen. Any pain or deep hurt is possible to heal once we allow understanding, openness, honesty, truth and love into our lives.

235. I love the turn around F.L. It’s HUGE! to break those heavy patterns that had been playing out all those years, is nothing short of a miracle.

     1. That’s right Elodie, it is huge. A credit to F.L for the commitment and choosing to deal with the deep hurts and issues. It is so beautiful to read this inspirational blog and feeling how truly amazing that this way of living from the teachings of Universal Medicine actually works. There seems to be nothing out there that provides this level of support and true change. It supports anyone looking to change their life and anyone who isn’t as well, because Universal Medicine is all about supporting humanity to return to love, it is all about everyone together as one.

     2. So true Elodie, a miracle no doubt, one of many miracles brought about by the ancient wisdom and Serge Benhayon’s presentations, as evidenced by the many blogs of personal experience here and on the other linked blog and websites.

236. Such an inspiring sharing with us all F.L. Yes truly I feel there is “another way to be in life” from just existing to living in a way that is all encompassing. Experiencing the amazing healing sessions with the Benhayons and the esoteric practitioners has changed my whole perception of what I ‘thought’ life was about. Knowing now “there is another way to be in life”. It all starts with self love, then it just grows from there.

     1. I agree Marion, I am on a similar journey too. Now, discovering this super supportive and loving way to live I am feeling amazing change within. The feeling of steadiness, appreciation, spaciousness, beauty, joy, love and connecting to who I am is deepening everyday.

237. Thank you for sharing your inspirational story FL. I have also been inspired by the Benhayons and there empowering support. And yes this is just the beginning ✨✨

238. It is ‘a big pill to swallow, but a very empowering one when grasped’ and a very rewarding one too. A lot of change comes about when I am willing to see how I have had a hand in many situations that I wasn’t willing to see before.

     1. I agree, so awesome to have that realisation. Also very empowering to be honest about our past choices too, it enables us to make more loving choices to begin the healing process. Not to go into blame or beat ourselves up about past choices that weren’t loving, but to see them for what they were, take responsibility and choose more loving choices now. It is what we choose now that matters and it’s all about choices, choices.

239. F.L your blog is very inspiring. I can appreciate what you have expressed in relation to my own healing and I truly hope those out there that perhaps haven’t taken that giant leap yet come across your expression as it would very encouraging and motivating . As you say, support means so much when you start making your way out of the anger and hurt of days gone by . One could almost think you were an angel 😇

240. F.L. There is a lot to be appreciated when you can find a practitioner that can truly support you to reclaim yourself. Like you say the Universal Medicine practitioners did not judge you or tell you what to do, but as an equal simply reflected and supported that there was another way to live that supported you to re-connect to the teacher and wisdom within. All the people that have truly inspired me are the ones that remind me that the answers are within each one of us equally so.

     1. So true, Marika: the answers do reside equally in each of us: there is no need for comparison, pressure, anger, reactivity, when this is a known fact. I’m all for claiming my true equality.

241. Thanks for sharing F.L. You’ve clearly found your way back to the real you with the support of Universal Medicine. That’s pretty cool!

242. F.L, yours is an example of the extraordinary level of care and loving support that Universal Medicine practitioners bring to help us take back responsibility, shed anger and all else that does not serve in living a deeply fulfilling life.

     1. Absolutely Rob. To be read, understood and supported constantly without judgement, is an incredible blessing.

243. The message I am getting loud and clear is that nothing can change while we are not taking responsibility for the way we are in life. It is so easy to blame everyone and everything around us, (it might even feel like the answer in the short term) but we are the ones who have to keep living with ourselves feeling resentful, cranky or miserable. Being held as an equal and in unemotional love by Universal medicine practitioners is also key. This reminds and beckons me to come back to a more loving me.

     1. This is great Fiona, “Nothing can change while we are not taking responsibility for the way we are in life”. So simple and yet very,very,very profound.

244. “They are unattached to my choices” this is a deeply freeing and powerful way to live.

245. “I learned that I had choices and responsibilities” What a deeply profound and simple life change, shared from Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon.

246. I have changed a lot since meeting the Benhayons and listening to the teachings of the Ageless Wisdom presented by Universal Medicine too FL. Over the years, ways of seeing myself in the world have changed because I have learned how to build a relationship with myself that has given me the strength and confidence to start really being myself in the world rather than holding it all inside of me. This has changed my health enormously too.

247. I know the feeling of the Benahyons not having any attachement that I get what they are presenting. It gives me that space to have the choice on my own if I want to decide differently and change old patterns. This is a true healing offered to me and I thankfully receive it over many years now. Boy oh boy did I change since then. It feels like I was a total different person a couple of years ago when I met the Benhayons.

     1. I agree steffihenn, and through the love and consistency of truth offered by the Benhayon’s and other Universal Medicine practitioners, I have found my way back to living from the true essence of who I am. I still come across stumbling blocks to work through, but the support and understanding for growth is forever available through Universal Medicine.

248. Thanks FL for your beautiful honest account of your life and how you found the inner wisdom to grow beyond the old self-destructive patterns. I too have a deep appreciation of all the Benhayons and their unending support, that has also helped for me to turn around ages-old ill-momentums to a new freer and far more loving way of living.

249. Beautiful story FL. You provide a lovely reflection for your family and friends.

250. I like the frank and responsibility taking tone and point of this blog. For we’re talking about what we choose, not what we’ve done, to enjoy (or not) living the way we do.

251. I have never previously had an influence in my life, as Serge Benhayon has been, where as stated in this blog there is no attachment to me, to the story I bring, to the deeds I do, yet at the same time there is an immense feeling of being held lovingly as an equal. This is truly showing the way forward for anyone wiling to deal with their own issues and feel deserved of being held in equality and love, no greater or less than any other human being on the planet.

252. Thanks FL, I feel you have just written about me, minus the children :-):) I am really looking forward to your next blog.

253. I am really glad that you have made these changes and now look forward to life. It is a better place for having you fully in it.

254. So enjoyed reading how you have reconnected to awesome you, FL. You have been on quite a journey, and it’s testament to you and your choice to love yourself, that you have achieved all you have. Enjoy being you.

255. Yes FL, accepting that we are responsible for our choices in life can at first seem quite a big pill to swallow but I have found that with time and practice, it is also incredibly freeing and empowering. If I am not blaming others for my circumstances and how I feel about myself, then how I am in the world is totally up to me – it makes everything so much simpler!

256. Thank you FL for sharing your inspirational story , what a turn around knowing there is a choice to be made.

257. Thank you for sharing your inspirational story FL.What a turnaround to the way you used to view life.Your blog shows how important it is for us to take responsibility for our selves rather than blaming everyone else for our woes.

258. What a beautiful blog to read F.L, thank you for sharing your very inspirational story.
     “What I couldn’t walk away from though, was the feeling of being truly understood and held in love”
     Being held in this love is so divine and empowering; such an inspiration for us all do the same for one another.

259. What you have shared FL is a another awesome testimonial of how through awareness , choices ,responsibility and wiliness to work through hurts and old wounds . There’s been an amazing transformation that has made your life and relationships much more joy-full.

260. Very inspiring to read your story. FL you have truly taken your healing into your own hands with the assistance of the Benhayon family and Universal Medicine. Good on you for going there and I’m sure this blog will inspire many others, that there is a different way.

261. It is wonderful when we know we are in a mess and choose to do something about it.

     1. That’s a great revelation Caroline, it’s when we DON’T realise we are in a mess, that keeps us in that mess. So hurrah for awareness, which then give us the freedom to make new, true choices.

262. From what you’ve shared I hear that moving from blame and being the victim in life is as simple as, although not necessarily easy, taking responsibility for your own life and the choices you have made. I too have found this to be true and that taking responsibility is the key to living a very different life, one where I am actively engaged with life and the people around me. It’s a life filled with love, joy and most of all honesty.

263. Wow, this is truly inspiring F.L., to go from having thought to end your life to looking forward to the rest of your life now …….. Is huge.

264. Thank you F.L for your your sharing of your pathway back to love. I too am on this pathway and now experience a life that was beyond my imagination in the past. Many aspects of my life have changed completely and sometimes are in fact the complete opposite to how I perceived them in the past. If I look back now, I was always trying to comply to any ideal and belief that I had taken on, in complete disregard of how I felt inside. To be able to do so I had to negate myself and this left me with the constant underlying feeling of sadness for not being able to live the life that so vibrantly was living within me. But now I can allow this vibrant life to come out and I have accept it as my guide in life. Whatever life will bring to me, I will not waiver from expressing the love and joy I have re-found within.

265. This is beautiful F.L and what we would call a modern day miracle. Although you haven’t said this, it reminds me that so many people suffer with depression and feel there’s no way out. What the beautiful practitioners you speak of show us, is that there is another way, and now you are being that person for others too. Absolutely brilliant and keep going!

266. This blog speaks a thousand words in more ways than one. When I read between the lines what I feel and hear is this; “My life has gone from an absolute chaotic mess to be so beautiful and enjoyable, not only do I love everyone around me so much, but I really love, accept and appreciate myself so much, to the point that I don’t care whether you believe me or not and support what I do or not because none of it matters except for the fact that I have now found the lovely, beautiful, stunning and adorable woman that I am and this means more to me than anything else in the whole entire world. – and P.S you are the same”. All I can say is that I feel warm and inspired inside when I read this blog. Thank you for FL for making the choices you have and for sharing it with us all.

     1. Ha, great summary Danielle…who wouldn’t want to experience that! From chaotic mess to loving life!

        1. Yes well worth the commitment to change!

267. A great sharing, Thankyou FL. Choices and responsibility, two major things I have also learned since attending Universal Medicine presentations. These changed my life also, since I stopped feeling a victim of circumstance and realise I set it all up. A big ouch, but this enabled me to move on. My life has changed dramatically also and I am told how well I look by people I haven’t seen for a while.

268. So awesome the turnaround in your life FL, by taking responsibility for your own choices in life and no longer coming from reaction. Very inspiring story.

269. Thank you for sharing your story F.L. It is inspiring to read about someone taking responsibility for their life and make loving choices rather than going into blame.

270. I’m very deeply touched by your blog…The returning truly starts with the understanding of there is responsibility and choices. That’s how I got back on track to and – just as you – finally even get back to a loving relationship with my family. All based on my free will – me choosing to listen to my heart and keep on living the “way” inspired by Serge Benhayon.

271. There’s a turn-around here in this blog, which is quite amusing and enjoyable to read – particularly with the lovely light hearted and comical way of the grammar and words chosen. But, this is the whole point: what is chosen, is what makes the story beautiful and heart warming. Everyone, excluding no-one, at least, can make their own choices.

272. FL, this blog touched me deeply, thank you for sharing. What I feel most of all, is that you have claimed this for you, with loving support you made new choices and you and your life have completely changed because of that. That is amazing. It’s also a great point you make about those who’ve inspired you (the Benhayons) not treating you any differently because of your choices, it re-inforced for me that it’s for us to make those choices for us, not for another, not to be like or rewarded, but because we are worth it.

     1. Yes Monica, ‘…it’s for us to make those choices for us, not for another, not to be liked or rewarded, but because we are worth it’ – so true and so beautifully expressed!

273. Wonderful blog – what a turnaround! As you made different choices and started to interact differently with people, the way you were treated by Universal Medicine practitioners was the same “Interestingly enough, the Benhayons or Universal Medicine practitioners don’t regard me more favourably due to my being much less reactive and more loving these days.” – they always held you in love and simply showed you there was another way to live. That’s true inspiration.

     1. Yes Sandra, I absolutely agree. The Benhayons and the Universal Medicine practitioners are all true inspirations living what they present without perfection – something I haven’t come across before.

274. Having that feeling of being held in love and truly understood is such a gift to build a platform from which to truly heal. The old saying springs to mind here, you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make him drink. You were shown the way but realised it was up to you to make the loving choices in order to change.

275. Yes I agree responsibility can be a difficult pill to swallow but one that is worth swallowing if we want to escape from feeling trapped, empty and generally discontented with life.

276. FL I love your post. In particular I am moved by your comment that the Benhayons or other Universal Medicine practitioners don’t regard you any more favourably now that you have you life back together than when you were a mess … I notice that if I’m having a messy patch I tend to avoid others who don’t judge me because I have judged myself badly for being in that state, when in fact there has never been judgement from them. Thank you for reminding me of the ridiculousness of not accepting all of me every moment.

277. There is obviously a lot for me to learn from this article as I find myself back here again!

     “there is no one to impress, there are no favourites, no goals to meet, just a chance to truly grow”.
     This is such a powerful statement, it seems I have spent my whole life seeking approval and recognition, I still find myself running this program in the background. This article helps me to see that living this way actually keeps me from a truly loving and intimate relationship with myself.
     Thanks FL, this one is going in my bookmarks; next time I revisit it, it will be on purpose rather than accidentally.

278. ‘What I couldn’t walk away from though, was the feeling of being truly understood and held in love. That was so crucial for my recovery as I really had not felt that before. It allowed me space to turn around the trajectory of my life. They simply reminded me that I had choices, that being a victim or reactive was a choice too. Slowly I came to see this was so – and understand just how powerful this awareness is…’ It is such a gift to be held in love and recognise that we have choices. For me this has been life-changing and the consistent support that I have received on this journey has enabled me to explore different choices that have had an amazingly positive impact on all areas of my life. So inspiring to read about how you have transformed your life and continue to do so. Thank you.

279. I can so relate to the feeling you got from the Benhayons and the other practitioners..Held in love with no investment, no judgement, just pure love. It gives you automatically the space to let go of what doesn’t belong to you.

280. Dear FL, Your story is inspirational and empowering. I too have taken responsibility for my self and have changed the quality of my choices. My life has since changed for the better too.

281. “I wasn’t always as willing to let go of the ‘victim’ mentality and the comforts it brought.” I feel it is so important to recognise that the victim mentality IS a comfort. From my own experience it is the easy option and a way of copping out of responsibility for my choices and reactions. When I started feeling the result of choosing another way after meeting Serge Benhayon, and life became so much more fulfilling, I find when I slip back into that “victim” it feels really horrible and drags me down. It takes a long time to recognise that it is the comfortable place and why, but the persistent choosing is well worth the gift of a more loving life that follows.

282. I can really relate to what you say,
     “Interestingly enough, the Benhayons or Universal Medicine practitioners don’t regard me more favourably due to my being much less reactive and more loving these days.”
     This is so because they don’t judge in the first place but truly see all people as equal in their loving essence.

283. Classic….. “Besides, the way I was going, there were bound to be aspects of the afterlife that irked me as well!”. Good call F.L. to see the future of what being in that mode can do to you, it can be relentless, continually seeking fuel to add to the fire of being angry (or whatever it can be for each person – mine was sadness). Ah-mazing story of turning your own life around by taking responsibility for it – ah, the power of choices.

     I also loved your line – “Interestingly enough, the Benhayons or Universal Medicine practitioners don’t regard me more favourably due to my being much less reactive and more loving these days. They are unattached to my choices and the outcomes that follow.”. So true, and I love it because it so so refreshing. What they are showing this world is so different to what is out there.

284. It’s truly amazing what love can do (:

285. Amazing to hear that you and your family have reconciled.

286. ‘…just a chance to truly grow’ is what the victim mentality robs us of.

     1. Yes David you are right , I had no idea how stuck and stunted I was until I came to Universal Medicine and began to see the victim stuff for the trap it was. Very confronting, but time for me to move out of it. It’s a step by step process, but I am so worth it!

     2. Yes and the victim is always at the mercy of others choices…because the victim is forever reacting to others and life’s circumstances. But when we realise as F.L. has that self-responsibility and choice is the ticket off the victim treadmill, life can be such a different experience.

287. Thank you FL, this makes so much sense and highlights the importance of self responsibility – it is huge and a massive key to healing.

     1. Absolutely Gyl, it makes so much sense that the anger would start to drop away when we start taking responsibility for our own choices.

     2. Yes, self-responsibility is the key. Without it I was forever waiting for someone else to turn my life around which not even God can do. Self-responsibility is the way I am getting to know who I truly am. When I put my truculence aside it is something to be embraced and cherished.

        1. So true Karin, nobody can do it for me – they can inspire me, be a living example to me, even encourage me but I have to make the steps and claim them for myself. And this is what is so amazing about the sharing on this blog, the fact that people were willing to make different choices against all odds.

     3. Self responsibility is the massive key to healing. When we take that responsibility, we start letting go of anger, frustration, and resentment.

288. It has been amazing to have Serge Benhayon and many others at the core of Universal Medicine offering a steady, loving reflection. Having a consistent and gentle reminder that we do all have choices and can take responsibility (as FL stated) has made so much difference to so many people’s lives. And yes I agree there is never any feeling that the choices made needed to be acknowledged, because they are their own reward.

289. Great sharing FL. It just goes to show how unconditional love without any expectations is so liberating and supportive, “This has been wonderful, there is no one to impress, there are no favourites, no goals to meet, just a chance to truly grow”. And as you say, ” in many ways this story of recovery is only the beginning” what a recovery.

290. I can really relate to this. Even though I have always had a good relationship with my parents, for a long time our relationship was somewhat strained by the fact that I still held them to ransom in some way for them not being everything I wanted them to be. It was a great healing for me the day I accepted my parents for who they were – the good and the bad – and it has lead to a much deeper and more honest relationship between us ever since.

     1. I had a similar experience years ago Adam. Not judging and accepting my parents and family completely changed the dynamics between us and our interactions. Being able to bring more understanding has brought with it more acceptance and much more ease in the relationships. When there are no expectations then it is much easier to just be in each others company.

291. If we choose to take our responsibility and make loving and supporting choices towards ourselves, people around us might react at first, but from my experience they above all will be inspired to open up.
     Be prepared to suddenly see more and more of your colleagues, friends and family start to support themselves in a way you would never have deemed possible ;o)

292. Wow F.L, what a phenomenal change. I love hearing about what your life was like before and after-glad you made the change.

293. It’s inspiring to have others hold you in their love, committed to supporting you but not being invested in you. This is something we can share with other people.

294. Great sharing FL – isn’t it amazing to have this unwavering support – it never changes or fluctuates is consistent and steady and allows us to make choice after choice with no concern of what that choice may be – because it’s ours. The soul holds us like this forever waiting for us to let it all the way in.

     1. That last sentence, Lee, tells us how loving the soul is. Thank you.

        1. Absolutely Catherine, this last line by Lee Green, struck me too – how totally embraced we are by love in waiting!

295. Great story FL and sure to inspire others, including me.

296. Awesome sharing FL – I love how you have changed your life around with the support of Universal Medicine but, through self-empowement really! With the ability to see things in a different light, we actually give ourselves a clearer choice in everything. Thank you for reminding me of this!

297. Dear FL, a beautiful read, in parts I could have been reading about my own life. I love how you have turned your life around and taken responsibility for the life you have. I too have done this. For me too it took a while, the not good enough I felt and the victim mentality both were difficult to negotiate. But negotiate them I did, with much support from Universal Medicine Practitioners. I am eternally grateful that I pushed through and love how I feel today.

298. I love your story of this new beginning F.L, the way you have written sounds so claimed in who you are and that your choices are indeed about and for you, however they naturally and gorgeously have such an impact on all of those around you, new and old. It shows the true healing that can happen, be supported and nurtured when we have those around us who hold us with a genuine quality and without emotion, need or expectation – just warmth and acceptance.

     1. Yes Cherise, F. L. the true healing is cemented in your reference to the fact that Serge Benhayon and his family would not fret if they did not see you again! It is about your growth and so goes for all of us. I too loved reading this blog and your expression is real, accessible and digestible. You are an inspiration.

        1. I love that claiming and knowing F.L. has that it’s not about pleasing anyone else or doing something for them but about what she did for her. For me too Bernadette I could feel the absolute claiming that this is a journey we all make for us and in that everyone else, but we connect to and address how we are. And it’s what I love about this blog, that F.L. has so honestly and clearly expressed that. It’s an inspiration, actually it’s a miracle, to hear of someone so lost coming back and claiming themselves so clearly and strongly in their life now and all within such a short space of time. It just shows how powerful we are, how much is in our hands and how when we’re willing to take the steps the support is there.

299. Your blog is really beautiful to read. It is so honest. My choices about how I am and live make my life what it is. It’s all about lovingly taking responsibility for that. Thank you for sharing.

300. A beautiful sharing FL, you have very casually yet with great depth presented your life as it was and as it is. Lovely to hear the way you describe your practitioners, with their constant loving support although detached from any particular outcome. Very inspiring.

301. Thank you F.L. There is a point your blog makes very clear: our circumstances not only shape how end up acting, but also how we see the world; our sense of normal and how beautiful it is to realise that your ‘normal’ was in truth totally abnormal and that your new normal feels much better because it has obvious beauty in it.

302. ‘I took the opportunity to consider another way of living’, so awesome FL, as have I and it is wonderful to have met you on this path and to see that with this opportunity we can meet as women, and friends and with the openness of our hearts we share and reflect so much with each other – it is a joy to know you and to grow with you.

303. I’ve learnt a lot from seeing how the practitioners you spoke of are able to be firm and not compromise on pulling people up on their responsibility in a situation but at the same time doing so with the utmost compassion, warmth, understanding and feeling of equality.

304. Beautiful sharing about the turnaround you have made in your life FL. The support offered by the Benhayons and Universal Medicine is second to none and as you say it is not based on outcomes, it is simply offered.

305. A wonderful story of a life turned around. Being met for who we are, not judged, offered unwavering love and support and at the same time being reminded of our personal responsibilities, presented through Universal Medicine and it’s associated practitioners. It is life changing if we don’t shy away from having to face up to all our choices – and you have turned your whole life around by accepting this and making the changes you needed to. It’s so wonderful for you and your whole family who now get the loving reflection of who you truly are. Keeping enjoying the unfolding!

306. What a gorgeous blog, I feel very inspired by it. When we give up the role of victim, truly feel that we are responsible and from there start making different choices, then small and big miracles happen. Life is beautiful and so full of grace, even the smallest changes can have such a huge impact.

307. Thank you FL for a great blog. It felt like you were relating my own ‘story’: from being contracted and out to blame everyone else for my life to ‘discovering’ Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon. The blinkers had to come off no matter how hard I tried to keep them in place. Taking responsibility for myself and my life was also HUGE for me but, I am deeply appreciative that I chose to take the blinkers off and oh my! isn’t life great?

308. I love this line, as I can so relate – “What I couldn’t walk away from though, was the feeling of being truly understood and held in love.” It reminds me of when I first had a session with Serge Benhayon and I was feeling like I was such a terrible person, and shared that I was an angry woman and took it out on those closest to me…. I was so surprised that this was not focused on but more about that not being who I truly was. Because of that loving support eventually like you, I started to choose differently and be more honest with how I was actually feeling.

309. I can totally relate to what you share here – I’ve been angry, but have also realised that I’m not the anger, I carry anger, but I’m not it. So I choose to be who I feel to be and then the anger slowly can dissipate. To me the anger feels like an approach I’ve had, like a way to deal with life. I also have, like you, seen my relationship with my family improve, from being quite cold, to me accepting them for who and how they are and suddenly there is just room for all the good stuff, which is so much more preferable than how it used to be. And lastly my job, which I love more and more. It feels as if it’s me that I love which makes everything else around me be part of that so nowadays I really look forward going to work because I get to be myself and have fun with the ones I work for and with.

310. Our life is a reflection of the choices we make and FL, you have lived that. Once you choose to seek out another way, something started to shift and in any moment of any day the direction could have been changed but love held you there. What a beautiful story of re-connecting to and following what felt true within.

311. Thanks for a great blog. I also tended to wallow in ‘ victim mode’ or be reactive in my relationships so could relate when you said ‘ I had choices, that being a victim or reactive was a choice too. Slowly I came to see this was so, and understand just how powerful this awareness is’. I agree that it’s our relationship with ourselves that determines how we are with everyone else and this will get reflected back to us when we are aware. Taking responsibility for our choices without beating ourselves up is key to growing and appreciating our self worth and trust in ourselves. Thank you for reminding me about this.

312. This blog shows clearly that it is about our choices, our every day living. How we live changes us, our families and the world. We are so powerful – time to claim this.

     1. I agreed, it’s time to truly claim we are all very powerful.

313. Fascinating, how the way of living your life, as presented by Universal Medicine, supports also the life of one’s family. I make similar experiences in mine.

314. “I am looking forward to the rest of my life” – that is so joy-full, the knowing that there is more love and joy to unfold. What an amazing gift it is what Serge and Unimed are offering and inspiring in all of us. And that love is, and has always been our true nature anyway -I guess that’s why the Benhayons are not attached to any outcomes of their service, it’s just natural.

315. Taking responsibility for our own lives means giving up blaming others and giving up playing the victim for how our lives are/have been. An awesome responsibility but one that is truly worth it: coming back to the gorgeousness that we are. Our relationships with ourselves is the only one that matters before we can even think about our relationships with others. Strangely these other relationships change for the better as we take more and more responsibility for ourselves.

316. I love this part about the Dali Lama, and I agree that his words seem to resonate deeply for many many people. Maybe it is his great presence that pulls so many people to Buddhism, only to become disillusioned by it once they are in to the depths of the religion itself. This has been my experience anyway and I have met many people who have felt the same. But the Dali Lama seems to talk more about life and people and less about religion as such. He just seems to have a great love of people and this is inspiring, in the same way that Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine are just there for us all, with a very deep and precious love. I feel most honoured to be a part of this group of people. It is far more than I ever expected it to be and nothing like anything I have ever found before.

317. It is so stunning how effieciently this “victim mentality” can distract us from what is really going on. We suffer and lament, but never consider to take steps ourselves – always hoping for salvation.
     When the point comes where you feel that the only one who can change anything about how life is for you is you, this can indeed be confronting. But in the end it is so empowering to feel that you are not dependend on anyone or anything yet connected to everyone. With this realisation responsibility came back into my life and with it a huge amount of love, freedom and joy.

318. So very true it is only the beginning of things to come

319. We could all learn from the deep love and connection but detachment from any outcome that you describe here from the practitioners that you have encountered in your path of healing.

320. A beautiful unveiling of the true and loving person beneath the anger. It just goes to show, a bit of support and a load of love can work miracles – joyous to behold!

     1. Yes , a miracle indeed has occurred here, I never ever thought the day would come that I could enjoy being me or feel that I am not my “issues.” Yet all it took was solid love from the Benhayons and solid love from Caroline Raphael- now it’s all so much easier. There is always more to work on, but I am out of the bleak hole I once lived in and I am never going back!

321. Thank you so much for sharing your story and experience. It is such a deep learning to read such blogs and helps us to understand each other, know that when people are reacting it is usually due to past hurts and to support them by not taking it personally and reacting back.

322. If you have never experienced being ‘held in love’ as you stated FL, it is difficult to appreciate what that does to support your healing process. Unconditional and non judgmental support are to be seen as the soul you are and not the false ideals and beliefs that we have accumulated is really quite incredible and healing.

323. Thank you for sharing FL. What an amazing turn around you have made. To be offered unconditional love and support from another is so incredibly beautiful and not what we’re are used to, I certainly wasn’t. Learning to trust that the love and support is true and let it in was a huge healing for me. The consistency and support of Universal Medicine has shown me that love is a very real choice we can all make.

324. Thank-you FL for being so honest. Wow look at what can be when we stop blaming others or ourselves and let go of the ways that don’t support us and begin to take responsibility for our thoughts and actions and start to live in a more loving way. What a great role model you have become to your family, friends and work colleagues by being willing to change.

325. I was a very angry person in the past and I can say now, anger is such a destructive emotion which seems to keep the door open for many other destructive emotions and thoughts to come in. Today, I can happily say, there is no longer any anger residing in my body, as I have worked on my hurts and issues from the past. This new path of honesty and responsiblity began when I started attending courses by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine and found another way to live and now 4 years on, my health has significantly improved as have all my relationships and interactions with people. A very similar story F.L, thank you for sharing.

326. FL I can really feel how wonderful you must feel to be able to let go blame and take responsibility for your own choices. That is challenging to shift and you have so beautifully made that shift, its truly inspiring. I love how you shared in your blog about taking responsibility and not playing the victim or react. It is a choice! That will stay with me.

327. Gorgeous F.L. your wonderful shift certainly mirrors that of many others I know, including myself, who have found truth within themselves under the loving, patient, care of Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon. Well done!

328. Wow, what an amazing offering your family and you have gotten.

329. Thank you, FL, for you honest sharing. My journey of self discovery was in some ways similar to yours. Even though I didn’t blame others, I always blamed myself, I was full of self loathing and the effect on my life was the same-I could not connect to people.
     When I met Serge Benhayon and started having session with UniMed practitioners I noticed straight away:”They are unattached to my choices and the outcomes that follow. If they never saw me again it wouldn’t trouble them.” After short while I understood that they are here for us but also they can see a bigger picture which include everyone and everything so it is much bigger responsibility.
     And for me Serge is the point-the point of unconditional love, light and true reflection of how everyone on this planet can be equal and amazing.

330. Recognising that we are the cause of our own problems and then choose to become a victim so that we do not expose our choices is a huge revelation, one that has taken me a while to be honest about. Like you F.L. knowing this has turned my life around and I can no longer play the victim role knowing that everything that happens in my life is because I have made it happen that way, they are my choices. Like you Sarah never before have I been shown so much love and acceptance and appreciation for who I am until I came to Universal Medicine. Thank you F.L. I loved the clarity with you which you shared your journey.

331. Thank you F.L. it just goes to show there is another way and we can change our lives, it’s all a choice that we can make.

332. F.L. thank you very much for this open and honest sharing. I can relate to much of what you describe. I also lived with a lot of anger in my life and preferred to blame my own misery on outer circumstances or other people. When I came to Universal Medicine I experienced the same like you: a non-judgemental and loving, very caring approach of all the practitioners I met. It´s exactly like you say: “Interestingly enough, the Benhayon’s or Universal Medicine practitioners don’t regard me more favourably due to my being much less reactive and more loving these days. They are unattached to my choices and the outcomes that follow. If they never saw me again it wouldn’t trouble them. They simply inspired me to wisely choose how I respond to life and leave me to continue this way forward in my own time, preferably sooner than later, for my own sake! This has been wonderful, there is no one to impress, there are no favourites, no goals to meet, just a chance to truly grow.” An awesome and very inspiring experience!

333. There are indeed endless opportunities to be ourselves or not, and Universal Medicine and the Benhayon family constantly remind me of that with their their endless patience and consistency whenever I am open to their support.

334. I love what you have shared in this blog, so many aspects from being honest about it being a slow process with much resistance along the way, but in particular for the love and absolute non-judgement and lack of attachment to the choices you make that the Benhayons showed you. I could never quite articulate, why I kept going to see an esoteric practitioner in London, but just kept feeling to go and knew I felt good and understood when I went. Now the other dimension you’ve helped me deeply appreciate is that I am continuously seen for the beautiful person I am and welcomed. There is no judgement and no trying to change me. That is huge as we don’t often feel that. I feel that it is this also that has supported me to make the changes that I have. This is particularly important if one has a lack of trust: to not be judged is huge precursor in not giving up.

     1. Beautifully expressed Shevon and the lack of judgement has been huge for me too with the constant support to go deeper as I choose to do this.

335. Great blog FL, what you have expressed here is just pure truth for each and everyone of us to feel. Taking responsibility for ourself and the choices we make is a huge leap forward for all of us. Even more so is the fact it is us who so often gets in the way of our own healing and stops the opportunity for each and everyone of us to connect. I love the fact that your connection with family, work and the world is from you just simply being you.

336. It is the title that grabbed my attention first because I have been angry for a long time inside. It is through the support and love that I have felt that I have been able to follow through with what I have always known to be right and truthful for me. If it wasn’t for the teachings of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine I would still be the angry man inside rotting away.

337. So well put FL. When I came to Universal Medicine’s teachings a similar victim mentality was playing out in me. Having the presentation that it is my choices that make up my life was absolutely life changing. I was the victims victim. Now I am moving forward knowing that I cannot be swayed by anything unless I choose it, that I am enough just as I am. I don’t need to be constantly looking for someone or something to tell me what to do and how to do it… only to blame them when it doesn’t work out.

338. This is also my experience. Never before Universal Medicine and meeting Serge Benhayon had I felt such love, no imposition whatsoever and a full acceptance of me. Thank you F.L, great sharing!

     1. This is also my experience of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine Sara. Feeling true love for the first time in my life and feeling the way I was held with full acceptance has been the constant inspiration to keep discovering and exploring what true love and responsibility is.

        1. Beautifully said Vicky. This point cannot be shared enough. To be met by love – the real and whole deal – is an absolute life-changer.

339. What I can truly say is that its amazing how quickly one can turn their life around, by making the choice to embrace what is not working and feel what hurts are inside and then choose more supportive loving things for oneself.
     With the assistance of the practitioners of Universal medicine this too has been my experience, one I am very grateful for.
     Thank you for sharing your journey with this.

340. Very inspiring blog – wonderful changes in your life through an awareness of loving choices and taking responsibility for yourself.

341. This is an amazing blog to read, sharing your unfoldment from one way of life to a full life of making it about you and becoming responsible for your choices, which brings a joy to our lives…and others feel and see it…this healing is not just for you but for many….as they are also inspired by what you now bring – you bring YOU!!!!

342. The honesty in this blog speaks volumes. The way you have turned your life around from everyone else being a problem to taking full responsibility for what life brings you is astonishing and very empowering for anyone else experiencing the same. You are a true role model for many.

     1. The self empowerment I have when I take full responsibility sets me free in a way I never thought possible. I agree with Rebecca, and Ryoko, there is no going back to holding others responsible for my life.

343. This is very beautiful. As written, once you “swallowed a (initial) big pill” there is no going back, is there? Thank you FL for writing this.

344. Absolutely gorgeous FL – I loved reading every word. It is a little confronting to really accept that we create all our own issues but like you, my experience of this truth has allowed me to change my life in the ways I always wanted when nothing else worked. Thank you for reminding me of this FL.

     1. I agree Leonne, it can be very confronting to know that we are the source of our issues, especially when those issues have been extremely painful and traumatic. But I too have found that the more I accept responsibility for my choices and actions in every moment of the day, the more I am taking control of the quality and direction of my life. I am opening up to new and previously un-imagined possibilities as a consequence of my willingness to accept this truth.

     2. Yes, it can be confronting to realise that we create all our own issues, but equally so, it then becomes truly empowering that we can make changes too. No more need to play the victim or blame others, the power is within us to change ourselves.

345. RL,I can relate to the anger and playing the victim role. It took me time to turn this around as it meant I had to take the responsiblity for my emotions and actions and stop blaming others for the way I was. I had been to a number of counsellors over the years knowing that I wanted to change my ways but nothing seem to change for me. It wasn’t until I came across Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon that this is where my life turned the corner. I will be forever appreciative for what I have learnt through the Presentations, Retreats, and the beautiful Practitioners.

346. The part I liked most about this blog F.L was the fact that you have been willing to not consider yourself a lost cause and that those around you have been consistent in their presenting that love is stronger and healthier than choosing to remain stuck in the victim or reaction of/to life. I have experienced the same where my practitioners have held strong, at times I have reacted to the fact that they continue to be love and I am still holding my issues (jealously is just another reaction and doesn’t support love, vitality or well-being). It’s the former (the willingness to not give up on ones self) that strips away at the reactions when met with love. It is my choice to say ‘I am equally the love they are showing me’ and work on building that as my own experience/s or react and go into blaming, self-critaisum for not being x,y,z – all of which keep me distracted from the fact that I can equally be and express my love just as they can and do and have worked hard to maintain that every day.

     1. ‘I am equally the love they are showing me”, I have felt this equality in love with my practitioners too, and it is not something they are doing, it is them, just being themselves, reflecting what I am inside, back to me. It is then my choice to take it away and hold it for myself, to stop considering myself a victim and choosing to not listen to the internal dialogue that could keep my away from love if I allowed it.

        1. Often I get the internal dialogue that I have to wait around for someone to tell me ‘you are love, don’t hold onto that anger or resentment about not choosing to be love beforehand’. But what I am playing with at the moment is what if I said that to myself in the mirror? So I did yesterday and there were no fireworks or fanfare but a simple ‘is that all it takes?’ feeling – it was so simple. The only person who can forgive us and the only person who can love and accept us, is ourselves.

347. Very deep shift and what a wonderful change in your awareness and your life. Reading your blog is like feeling fresh air passing through all your life. You chose to swallow the pill of responsibility and not blame any more. Empowering indeed, and very inspiring too.

348. You write with such clarity and simplicity, lovely to read. I can relate to your journey of return, mine has been not dissimilar. I have found it quite curious that the Benhayon’s have been so detached from the outcome of my healing process as this is something I have never before experienced. No one ever follows up to see if you have done something or how things are going! At times I felt rejected by it, wondering why they weren’t emotionally invested in me ‘getting it’. And yet I always felt the deepest love, I knew that is wasn’t that they didn’t care. But it really was all up to me. And ultimately this is the most empowering part because now I have the skills and awareness to face what my life presents to me to deal with.

349. Beautiful FL. ‘There is no one to impress, there are no favourites, no goals to meet, just a chance to truly grow.’ I loved reading this this morning. Thank you for sharing.

350. F.L.The majority of the world’s population has been shackled for eons. Shackled by ways of being that are simply not us. You, like so many others are undoing their own shackles. Love is the key to unlock the shackles. More and more of us are breaking free and boy oh boy does it feel good !

351. Thankyou for sharing how simple your life is now. (:

352. ‘a big pill to swallow, but a very empowering one when grasped’… this is brilliant. In taking responsibility for our lives we have to relinquish the cape of victimhood (which can be super awkward at first), but the joy of feeling your own hands on your own steering wheel is empowering beyond words.

353. Yes F.L this story of recovery is most certainly the beginning of a beautiful journey back to you. Truly inspiring.

354. Dear RL, it’s so wonderful to read about your life and hear in your words that you are a vibrant and reclaimed person. I like your use of the word recovery. I feel it works well with the idea of self-responsibility. Thank-you.

355. “The Universal Medicine practitioners never gave up on me, never judged me, never shunned me, never told me what to do, just simply showed me consistently that there was another way to be in life, and helped me discover that I could also choose it for me – that it really was possible.”… and choose it you did! This has also been my experience with Universal Medicine; an unwavering unconditional positive regard which allowed me to start making choices for myself that were supportive, and thus live with a lot more responsibility – and the results, like yours, spoke for themselves. Thank you F.L, and Thank you to Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.

     1. Very well said – this has been my absolute experience of Universal Medicine too – unwavering love and support – no matter what.

356. Thank you FL. Wonderful commitment to love and healing. What you have described is the basis of all true healing – taking responsibility for our lives and the realisation that we have created the mess we are in and that we do have a choice. When this is realised and lived this is when the magic begins. I too now take a lot more responsibility for my life and my choices which is so liberating, it can be challenging but like you I now look forward to life and the learning it holds.

357. Yes it is such a simple thing that you have a choice, but we are sometimes so far gone that we don’t see it as a choice any more, it is something that happens to us and have to cope with. It is amazing to read how this simple realisation changed the way you live your live with a lot more responsibility.

358. FL – What an enormous shift in your state of well-being pre and post attending Universal Medicine presentations. What you are describing is huge and deserves to be studied.

359. It is so clear from what you express, FL, that anger leads to blame, and blame means we seek sympathy for our woes, and then we blame all over again, when we don’t get it. That Serge Benhayon and many other esoteric healing practitioners did not give you sympathy, is a gift of healing. And the fact that you could feel their unconditional love and trusted them, reveals that the love inside yourself, that you had separated from was still there, and so you could heal yourself by returning to it, and becoming your true self.

360. You are so on the mark FL when you said…” this story of recovery is only the beginning.” For my recovery and reconnection to myself certainly was for me.

361. Whatever emotion we are entangled with, at some point, wisely and sensitively needs to be addressed. Dealing with an emotion of anger, frustration or sadness does not make you angry, frustrated or sad, but neutralises the energetic hold… The alternative is a pattern of living that alienates people and prevents one from embracing our natural ability to feel love for humanity and connect to the intrinsic love of ourselves.

362. FL a truly inspiring blog. I have travelled the same road as you, over the years. It was never me in the wrong, but everyone else’s fault, if things did not pan out as I wished.
     It has taken me a long time to realise I am not perfect.
     Universal Medicine has taught me so much. Patience, understanding, caring, not just for me, but all others.
     Still learning that there is more and more to come.

363. This is a really beautiful sharing – I especially took a lot from these two parts; “Universal Medicine practitioners don’t regard me more favourably due to my being much less reactive and more loving these days”……”there is no one to impress, there are no favourites, no goals to meet, just a chance to truly grow”. It’s really easy to get caught up wanting to ‘evolve’ or develop for the wrong reasons – meaning wanting to grow and change but to stay in old patterns of wanting to be seen, or be recognised by the right crowd, be popular and be liked – all as a way to feel better about ourself. What you have highlighted in this article is that this is not what the teachings of Universal Medicine and The Way of The Livingness is about. It’s about deepening the love and connection with self, so there is never ever any more need to look out to anyone or anything to feel better about our self. So it’s all completely about us, and our love, which is not selfish, because as highlighted here, everyone benefits from it!

364. Fabulous transformation. My family have noticed changes in me also, since discovering universal medicine. Those of us who have chosent to make different lifestyle choices are certainly reaping the benefits, which are tangible.

365. Dear FL I loved your blog. I can totally agree with having the same experience of the Benhayons and how they love everyone equally. It’s been quite something really appreciating that – especially at the beginning, and sometimes still, I seek recognition for being a ‘good’ dedicated person. Yes, I cringe at this but given this, the fact that I can appreciate being loved and understood, whatever my choices, is amazing. Like I still struggle with accepting myself all the time but that’s ok because I’m aware of this and being more tender with myself.

366. FL -I am sure your story will resonate with many of us. I, too, also truly appreciate having Serge and his family in my orbit this time around. I realise that my connection to them is not by chance and I have been constellated to be here for a reason. At times I still feel resistance and choose to be less than who I truly am but as you have pointed out the Benhayons make no judgement and just keep offering us the grace and love to be more of who we truly are. It is up to us how we respond.

367. Beautiful blog. Your commitment to changing the way you were living is very inspiring. It made me realise that I am always making choices and that these choices result in how I am in my life. Very empowering.

368. Awesome blog F.L thank you. I have had a similar experience with Serge Benhayon and the Universal Medicine practitioners no one has ever put pressure on me to “get anything” or to change. Whenever I have discussed an issue I may be having with Serge Benhayon or one of the esoteric practitioners I feel absolutely held in love. It is such a healing experience to feel the person listening, offers understanding & acceptance of where I am at but at the same time sees the truth that I am not my issue. This has supported me to develop a way of being with my stuff that means when things get a bit messy and my choices are very much in my face I too can choose to hold myself in love, bring understanding and acceptance and know that I am not my issue but simply being presented with the opportunity to look at my life on a deeper level so then I have a true choice in the way I live. This true choice starts with self-love and a commitment to treat myself in a deeply caring way. The inspiration to live with love, acceptance and truth has come from Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine and I have much appreciation for this reflection as it has supported me immensely.

369. F.J you explained so well how the practitioners always held you in love no matter how many times you wanted to go around in the same circle. I love reading and feeling what appreciation and love you have for yourself, that inspired me.

370. Absolutely gorgeous FL. I am inspired by how truly living something true and vital has been noticed and supported by those around you. Shows the true power of living something not just presenting it.

371. Wonderful blog F.L. – I too have changed my ways of being a ‘victim’ of my circumstances to taking more and more responsibility for everything in my life after attending Universal Medicine events. I have also found Serge Benhayon and many others at Universal Medicine to always be there for support and full of love with no judgement, no imposing, no telling me what to do, and now I look forward to life everyday as well.

372. It strikes me that we meet people and we have no idea of the struggle, trauma, or just life path that they have taken. If we did we would all be more understanding. I like you say thank goodness for having the Benhayon family to lovingly support me when I could not do it for myself.

     1. That is so true, it’s really been obvious to me recently just how judgemental and opinionated I can be, yet like you say, we have no idea of the struggle or trauma that has happened to the amazing person we are judging.

373. Thank you FL, your journey could speak for many, given up on love, feeling hurt but finding no true answers on how to live in a loving way, until you chanced across Universal Medicine. I too found that Universal Medicine offered answers to questions no else could, showing just how much we make our own troubles, and that we have the power to change them. As you say “This shift in perspective allowed me to actually see how I had contributed to the life I complained so much about – a big pill to swallow, but a very empowering one when grasped.” I too have never met such love and understanding from anyone as I do from Serge Benhayon, his family and the Universal Medicine practitioners, deeply loving and true friends who constantly support hundreds of people to find their own way to resume responsibility for their lives once again.

     1. Beautifully said Rowena

374. “Branded a hopeless case” this is such a powerful statement. I know that I have labeled myself in this way in pockets of my life, giving up or ignoring parts of my world that were too hard. Studying with Universal medicine has shown me that we are always evolving and all parts of my life affect the whole. To be in an environment that is not focused on perfection but, on love, truth and humanity, opened up a whole new way to learn.

375. There are so many stories like this one in relation to how you have turned your life around to be more loving and accepting of yourself, with Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon at the centre of all of them. Me included. I too am in recovery from a life of misery, mine was lead by resentment, bitterness and rage. And like you, after putting the time and effort into making changing for myself my life is now about joy, tenderness and Love. Such a big turnaround and with thanks to the immeasurable commitment and support of Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon.

     1. So very true, FL.

376. Wonderful to feel you reclaiming who you truly are and providing a beautiful reflection for those around you.

377. Clearly FL the changes you have made have had a profound and wonderful affect on your life. Universal Medicine practitioners have also been guiding lights supporting me as I have come to realise my own part in my life dramas and in understanding the steps involved to create a more joyful life.

378. We all know the blame game. . . and the seeming pay-offs of victimhood. You have illustrated what it takes both to overcome this and what it takes in a practitioner and another person to support the victim to step up from a self-imposed subjugation. Beautiful.

     1. I know that game so well! I can honestly say holding myself as a victim never brought me anything but misery.

379. Yes, I also found that I experienced the fact that I can make choices, loving ones or ones that are not loving. Now I can be honest about every choice that I make because I know that the truth is that I choose the way my life is and it is not a result of what happens on the outside. I also found the support of Serge Benhayon, Michael, Natalie and Curtis Benhayon to be very amazing and I would not trade that for anything.

380. I agree it is truly amazing to be understood and held completely as an equal when going through a tough time or trying to heal without sympathy or being looked down upon. This is also what I have always experienced from Universal Medicine practitioners.

381. I love how you write:
     ‘there is no one to impress, there are no favourites, no goals to meet, just a chance to truly grow.’
     Exactly my experience. We are all equally loved and given the same examples to choose for ourselves if (or not) and when to make changes for ourselves in our lives.

382. It is so true- without this, we stay in the ‘victim’ cycle: “I am so glad I didn’t give up or keep branding myself a ‘hopeless’ case. I took the opportunity to consider another way of living”. And I can also personally relate to that “The Universal Medicine practitioners never gave up on me”. They are always there for me, inspirational and the support they provide is unfathomable.

383. Held with loving support and allowing people to unfold in their own time is also my experience with Universal Medicine practitioners. Such a journey and it has only just begun. The return to one’s true self is inspiring for others to see and feel they can also be this way.

384. Thank you FL. It is great to be reading about life beyond anger. I also had a slow smouldering fire of deep anger buried under decades of meditation and spiritual practices, which would however surface, and with it bring a feeling to annihilate all around. Nothing touched this deep dysfunction, until the truly safe haven of Universal Medicine was found, then the journey of true healing was started.

     1. A great way to put it Chris, whilst I would certainly try to mask the anger and fury I would feel from late childhood onwards it was indeed very visible. It is hard to picture how out of control and unhappy I would be had I not also had the support and love of Universal Medicine – just writing that brings a deeper sense of appreciation.

385. An amazing journey you have shared. From such emotional turmoil and isolation from family and society to a life free of the hopelessness of anger. With the love and support of the Universal Medicine Practitioners to make such a turn around is wonderful and much credit must be given to you for making the changes, congratulations FL.

386. Thank you FL I loved reading your blog. I have reprinted below a section from your writing because it expresses exactly my experience of the deep love and support I received and still receive from Serge Benhayon and the Universal Medicine practitioners.
     “At all times during this relearning phase I felt totally accepted and loved for who I was. The Universal Medicine practitioners never gave up on me, never judged me, never shunned me, never told me what to do, just simply showed me consistently that there was another way to be in life, and helped me discover that I could also choose it for me – that it really was possible.”

387. ‘I look forward to the rest of my life now’ – wow – a testimony on never giving up.

     1. That is amazing to hear 🙂

388. To go from a victim mentality to how you live now is very inspiring and a credit to yourself. Self-responsibility has been a huge catalyst for me to also start looking at myself and not just blaming everyone else. And, I’m sure all those around me are grateful for this as well.

389. The wonderful thing about the Esoteric healing modalities and the practitioners is that they help you get back to you. They help you to reveal your true self and let go of all of the things that were not you, holding you back.
     This is such an inspiring story. No one is ever beyond claiming themselves back.

390. Thank you. It is beautiful to feel how you have found a life beyond anger, blame and reactions. I am on my way, too.

391. Sounds like a brand new beginning for you, well done for persisting and not giving up.

392. “Being truly understood and held in love…[gave me the] space to turn around the trajectory of my life’. I hope you don’t mind me pasting these words together FL, but you have captured something really powerful here – how dedicated and supportive the Universal Medicine practitioners are and how the consistency of love can be life changing.

     1. Good point Janet and my experience too. I and many others have also turned around the trajectory that our lives were heading down. Drawing upon the wisdom offered by Universal Medicine plus the perpetual love and support of Serge Benhayon and all the practitioners has enabled and continues to enable so many people to truly resolve their issues. This is truly life changing work and it’s us, the participants that are doing the changing, making our daily lives about love, honesty and nurture with miraculous results.

393. Dear FL, I loved this blog so much, the honesty and self acceptance that oozes from your words has brought up for me how judgemental and hard on myself I still am for being a person who has/had issues (i.e. the ridiculous ideal of perfection). That itself has been very healing for me, thankyou. Please keep writing as your expression is beautiful.

394. Even the toughest things to deal with can be worked through, it never ceases to amaze me how capable we actually are.

     1. And I love how we are always only presented with what we are more than capable of dealing with. This perspective always supports me in challenging times.

     2. Beautiful Dean, it never ceases to amaze me either.

395. I have felt pretty angry in the past, it felt like I ranted against everything in the world but when I looked a bit deeper, felt a bit deeper, I became aware I was more angry with myself then anything else, I was disappointed and hard on myself for not living in a way that supports me. I am learning to do this now and many days feel good and I do not get angry, if I feel emotions rise I have a look at why they are there, rather than dumping them on other people. And if I do happen to dump, I acknowledge it and apologise. It is not a way to live, to dump on others, responsibility in life supports all of us, together. I feel so much more light, loving and joyful, rather than having a cloud of gloom and doom hovering around over me. Your blog is fantastic because it clearly speaks to all about the wonderful changes that have occurred within you and how you express this in life.

396. Thank you for your beautiful and honest blog. Like you I have only ever been presented with love by all the amazing esoteric practitioners. It is inspiring to be offered such a safe place where I can be totally honest about my behaviours and know that I will be supported to change. I will always be held in the same love whatever. That is LOVE indeed.

397. Very beautiful FL. The proof is in the pudding isn’t it? The changes in you are there for all to see.

398. Deeply poignant F.L. How many of us have lived, or are living, in an angst-driven state as you have described of your life, previous to your involvement with Universal Medicine?
     I absolutely relate to ‘searching’ undertaken in years gone by… finding nought that truly assisted me in developing a way of everyday living that actually sustains and enhances my vitality, joy for life and commitment to myself and others.
     Thank God for Universal Medicine, and the accessible, sensible teachings and esoteric modalities that assist us to make this a reality. No more searching, it’s all actually here within, if we listen to our bodies and are willing to go deeper in looking at what indeed has been holding back the great love in our hearts – a love for ourselves, people and life.

     1. Beautiful FL. And also, how powerful is the recognition, that such true inner-change is brought about, firstly via being, and allowing ourselves to be truly met by another who has dedicated his or her life to being able to truly hold others in such a capacity. Being seen in full – ‘warts and all’ – and loved in full, regardless of what is at play, is a life-changing experience.
        Now that is the most absolute inspiration one could ever receive in life – such a reflection, via another, that whatever is going on for us, however caught in our ‘own struggle’ we may seem, that we are all capable of being that great in our capacity to love. It is who we truly are.

399. Wow FL it knocks my socks off when I read your blog . . . your are relentlessly honest. That is pur joy to feel and read your sharing and it makes it for me very easy to understand more about others and myself.

400. “There is no one to impress”. That comment on it’s own FL when lived in full, is truly life changing.

401. ‘They are unattached to my choices and the outcomes that follow.’
     Isn’t that remarkable and fantastic, to feel that there are people who don’t have an investment in how you should be or behave, but keep consistent in their love whether we make loving choices or not. And we are thrown back on our own responsibility. Great!

402. When we learn that we make choices every moment and that we are the only ones responsible for them and that there is no one to blame, it does changes everything – the home life, work and our general outlook.

403. Accepting people as they are and respecting the choices that they have made is not only what the Benhayons’ present, but how they themselves live.

404. Amazing transformation! It’s very clear that through the support of the Benhayon family and Universal Medicine you have been able to come out of the anger you were living in and everyone knows how hard it is when you are angry and feel like a victim to just come out of it and live different (it’s easier said then done some would say) – however Universal Medicine presentations help make us realise that it can be very simple through the simple day- to-day choice which make up the way of the livingness.

405. Thank you F.L, your blog is inspiring. I too have experience a traumatic childhood and thought I had dealt with it pretty well. I chose not to bury my issues and often tried to seek understanding and reasons behind what had happened and studied why my family behaved the way they did. I didn’t see myself as an angry person, I come across as always very calm and loving. I chose to stay open and loving towards my family. But the biggest realisation for me was when I had children. They exposed the anger I had held on to tucked deep down. Anger I didn’t realise I had that came out through shouting. I would discipline children when they shouted but why is it ok for me to shout? Definitely not OK. I started having healing sessions with a Esoteric Partitioner Judy Felix 3 years ago, it was the beginning of my commitment to truly dig deep and start healing my hurts. Each Esoteric Healing course I have attended, I have let go of layers and layers of sadness and learn to live in a loving rhythm and to connect back to ME. I am truly grateful for the love and support I have received. I love every step of my learning, I am not seeking for perfection but understanding for why things are the way they are. Universal Medicine is the school I have been searching for and I am very grateful that I have arrived.

406. FL – what you have shared is super inspiring. You have beautifully described what I am understanding ever more deeply – how when things have gone wrong to understand exactly what you have allowed to happen – and it is not about judgement at all, but rather understanding and this brings much greater empowerment. I can feel the joy in how you are living now too. A big thank you.

407. Beautiful honest sharing that reveals that love and our essence never leaves us and the moment we embrace ourselves and look beneath the “warts and all” issues, what remains is the beauty and love that we are. What a wonderful inspiration for us all.

408. It is awesome to feel that when we let go of the labels we put on ourselves, and with true support like the Benhayons and Universal Medicine, in spaciousness we can grow and evolve in ways the mind cannot fathom, simply amazing!

409. I so much love your blog F.L. you are an inspiration in turning your life around, I can really relate to all of it. I too thank Universal Medicine for showing me another way.

410. This is an amazing blog, and the most inspiring and amazing thing is you have taken responsibility for yourself, your choices and the ripple effect this has had. It’s also refreshing to read that there were people to support you along the way that held you in absolute love no matter what you displayed and the choices you made.

411. ‘They simply reminded me that I had choices, that being a victim or reactive was a choice too. ‘
     This is very powerful and life changing, like you have shown in your sharing. Thank you, F. L.

412. Thank you FL for your story to which I relate for having lived so long with anger. Universal Medicine has shown me a different way of living, an awareness that the choices I made contributed to my feeling a victim of life circumstances.

413. I agree Ruth, the fact that there is no one to impress, no favourites and no goals makes Universal Medicine an organization with a difference. An organization that really makes a difference in peoples’ lives.

     1. Here here Lisa. Universal Medicine is unparalleled in terms of the consistent quality of service that it offers all clients.

414. Thank you F.L, I also love the way esoteric practitioners are unattached to our choices and their outcomes, there is incredible allowance and acceptance of others, which is so important to our allowing and accepting ourselves and the healing process.

415. What an amazing story! From the brink of giving up to giving it another go- but this time seeking out practitioners from universal medicine- Serge, Natalie, Michael ,Curtis Benhayon and Caroline Raphael who’ truly understood ‘you and’ held you in love’.
     Also by taking responsibility for your own choices in life you were able to turn your life around from being a victim to being empowered and love life again.

416. Beautiful F.L.
     I too can relate to ‘ I wasn’t always as willing to let go of the ‘victim’ mentality and the comforts it brought’
     But gradually, bit by bit I too have persevered and let go of old ways of being.
     Just recently while driving my car I was thinking of someone close to me who has recently been diagnosed as terminally ill with cancer and wondered how I would feel with such a diagnoses. It then dawned on me just how much I now enjoy myself in my life!
     In the past I too have had thoughts of ‘escaping’…

417. Thank you for sharing your beautiful story, a great example of a changed life by changing our choices, I love the words “What I couldn’t walk away from was the feeling of being truly understood and held in love ” thank you to Universal Medicine for offering us another way, and this we can offer ourselves.

418. “the story of recovery is only the beginning…” I like that F.L, and the potential for us to turn our lives around is HUGE if we stop blaming others and start taking responsibility and loving ourselves. I like it also when you call our problems “perceived problems”, it’s liberating to feel that we DO have a choice and that we are not hapless victims of circumstance. If we could all wake up to the realisation of how powerful we are, how different the world would be. I have had sessions with esoteric practitioners, and I agree with your sentiments totally..
     “What I couldn’t walk away from though, was the feeling of being truly understood and held in love”.
     It is true, when I come away from a session I feel RE-connected to something wonderful on the inside that has been buried there for a long time, and without judgement, criticism or sympathy I feel held in love. Thank you F.L.

419. Thank you FL for your open and honest sharing. How beautiful that the basis of your healing experience with the Benhayon’s and Caroline Raphael was due to the fact that you were held in consistent, unwavering love and that their way of living simply inspired you to do the same and now the ripple of the same wave continues to expand out. Lovely

420. FL you are a really good writer! Well before I met Universal Medicine I had this sentence go through my head ‘whatever happens to me is a result of my own actions’ – howsoever removed and this sentence helped me a lot. It meant that if I wanted things to change I only needed to change my actions, I did not need to wait for others.

     With Universal Medicine I learnt even deeper truths that made it easier and more powerful for me to change whatever I felt to change. It works.

421. No one to impress and no favourites, so true. I have experienced there is nothing but true freedom to just be and learn and develop within the hands of Universal Medicine and the practitioners.

422. They are unattached to my choices and the outcomes that follow. If they never saw me again it wouldn’t trouble them. They simply inspired me to wisely choose how I respond to life and leave me to continue this way forward in my own time, preferably sooner than later, for my own sake! This has been wonderful, there is no one to impress, there are no favourites, no goals to meet, just a chance to truly grow.

     I love this. Presenting of the truth, for us to do what we ‘will’ with it. Take it or leave it. No attachment to outcomes. No judgement. No pandering. But always, firm, never wavering, LOVE.

423. Yes we can all relate to that one on some level,
     I am delighted to share this story.

424. Yes anyone can !
     I am living proof!

425. Thank you Mary,
     I agree, your way of living now is very inspiring to those around you too, including me!

426. Yes Janet, it’s never too late to turn things around. I deeply appreciate that I have had the chance to truly change the direction I was going in- despair and rage.Now my life is unfolding so easily into a productive life of richness I could never have imagined.

427. Yea Bina
     I say bring it on too, dealing with issues is the only way forward for me now, it’s ongoing but so worth it.

428. Dear Mary
     I am deeply honored by what you share and how you have felt the depth of what is written.
     It’s been an ongoing path for me and I keep going back to the fact that the team of practiorners I worked with never gave up on me or needed me to be anything – it was so delightfully freeing and yet another way I was shown what love really is.

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