by Cherise Holt, Nurse, Australia
For the past five years I have seen a dermatologist. In this time I have had an appointment on average every three months, with each appointment lasting around 20 minutes – so I spend approximately 80 minutes with her every year. What I have found is that no matter which practitioners we see in our life, be they medical or complementary, we create a relationship with them.
When I first saw her, I had been referred by my General Practitioner (GP) for assessment and treatment of keloid scarring on my chest and shoulders. My treatments involved extremely painful cortisone injections into the scars to help decrease the inflammation and pain. Keloid scars are made up of many little nerve endings, and are unlike other scarring which can commonly be numb to the touch. It was the scars on my chest that caused me the most grief and affected me every day.
They appeared on my skin during my early teenage years and as they grew, so did my hatred of them. I despised them. The clothes I wore had to be of the softest material as any scratch or touch was at times unbearable for me. Every outfit I wore was carefully designed to cover and hide them. I often searched the internet in the hope of discovering new medical treatments but I felt disheartened, as a successful and pain-free treatment was difficult to find.
When I first saw my dermatologist I was desperate for a fix for the pain and I would have done anything to not have to look at them ever again; the sight of them, at every glance, completely repulsed me. What I first noticed with my doctor was how her touch to my skin felt so gentle – also how she spoke softly and was always supportive in her words of encouragement. Before each appointment I would feel nervous, as I knew the discomfort I was in for. Although the local anaesthetic gave me an hour or two of relief, I would be in agony with nerve pain for up to 12 hours afterwards, unable to find any comfortable position or even sit still. I can remember my body being in constant motion as I tried to keep my mind off the pain. I felt disheartened, as the first two to three years I would go through the treatment only to have them grow again, not always as bad, but mostly bringing more pain.
Today, after 15 years of these scars and five years of steroid treatment, I went to see my dermatologist for another appointment. For the first time, we didn’t just do the usual chit-chat (how is work going? etc.). Today, with my permission, she brought a medical student in to watch and learn about the treatment of these scars. She shared with him my experience from her point of view, and spoke so highly of my ability to cope so well with what she described as a painful and unfair medical condition (with no real known cause) over the years. She spoke of the sadness there is seeing people who permanently ink their chests with tattoos, and here I was with these permanent markings I hadn’t asked for.
It was here that I opened up to share with her my own experience. What I feel is, people can take their medical conditions, illness and diseases to their doctors and say, ‘Here is a part of me, please fix it! I may only see you 80 minutes of every 365 days, but you are the doctor with the knowledge and the medical know-how; this disease that is in my body I do not know how to fix, so please do it for me and ASAP because I have had enough of the sadness that it brings me.’
When I shared with my doctor that in the last two years I had been working on self-love, she didn’t hesitate to nod her head in agreement, confirming how much she had noticed this. I told her how through this I discovered that I could work with her in the treatment of my scars. It is not for me to say, ‘here are my scars, please fix them’. As I had previously hated them, I am now learning to love them – they are a part of me, and as I am learning to love ALL of me, then of course they are there to love, too. It amazes me that for so long she was dedicated in the application of her medical expertise to help heal my body, yet I was taking no responsibility for the treatment of this same body – my own. Her gentle hands and medicine were doing battle with the anger and self-hatred (self-abuse) that I was in.
We are all capable of making the choice to heal ourselves: our bodies are our own responsibility, so why wouldn’t we want to treat them with the utmost respect and an endless amount of love?!* In the past two years my scars have dramatically changed and are far less painful, most times now I forget they are there. I recall a time I had only dreamed that this may one day be the case. The physical pain has eased and I am still working on the deep inner pain that I have experienced with them: the self-abuse and punishment of my body that I had once allowed and accepted… and how I had chosen to hide them (and me) away from the world.
When my doctor asked what support I had received in achieving this new level of self-love, I told her how I have been inspired by the practitioners I see for modalities such as Esoteric Chakra-puncture, and that I have completed some healing courses with Universal Medicine. Although she mentioned she had heard of Universal Medicine, I felt no need to know if she had seen the sensationalised media reports of late, spreading complete untruths about the very people who have inspired me to make such loving and responsible changes in my life and in my body. These people are my practitioners and Serge Benhayon: I have created relationships with them also.
Instead what I felt was: she knows me – and we have a relationship that dispels any untruth that can ever be spoken or printed. Our doctor-patient connection has been more than just that, it has been woman-to-woman, person-to-person. I have been deeply inspired by her gentle ways for many years – and she has observed me blossom into a self-nurturing woman.
*For those further interested in a discussion on this topic, please see Eunice Minford’s article at Medicine and Serge Benhayon, Illness and Disease are Healing
The Truth about Universal Medicine 
It sounds like you had a lovely doctor to help care for you and that you developed a lovely connection. Great teamwork.
This is an amazing account of your relationship to your doctor and condition Cherise. Everything has an impact, and our choices ‘outside’ of our illness or disease, as in how we live our daily life and our approach to self care, relationships and so forth, all have an impact on our health and wellbeing as evidenced by what you’ve shared.
It feels like an important part of the puzzle was learning to love all of you – including your scars. So often we leave bits of ourselves out when we choose to up the love, but the true magic is loving each and every part of ourselves. Inspiring stuff!
Such a great question – “our bodies are our own responsibility, so why wouldn’t we want to treat them with the utmost respect and an endless amount of love?!” Yes, it does make sense to deeply love and care for our body, the amazing vessel that carries us through life, but for some, often inexplicable reason, many of us don’t. I know that I didn’t. I fed it, washed it, put it to bed at night etc, but in between I fed it foods it couldn’t deal with, drink that made it sick and pushed it harder than it needed to go; and then I wondered why it often struggled to get through the day, and was unwell on a regular basis. At those times all I wanted was the quick fix, but that was only ever temporary. It was only when I began to honour my body, to take responsibility for it, to treat it with love and care and to listen to its messages that things began to change.
We are so much more powerful in our own healing than we may think we are. As with going to your doctor and saying ‘here is a part of me, please fix it! we are giving our power away and in a very arrogant way too.
Life is about relationships and if we one day will understand the blessing of these we will use the relationships we have to work together in building and sharing the love that we all are from instead of using these relationships for our own gain and only to make ourselves to feel better.
Doctors see first hand the devastating effects of illness, disease and all manner of health conditions. They may do well at treatment and management, but do struggle with how do you help someone live well with them? This is not something discussed very much at all in health care. What we have here is a blue print for living well, feeling well and growing our own self love through our self-loving choices, no matter with whatever the ailment that affects the body. This shows that our sense of worth in who we are, does not have to be influenced or affected by what our body is going through.
“We are all capable of making the choice to heal ourselves: our bodies are our own responsibility, so why wouldn’t we want to treat them with the utmost respect and an endless amount of love?” – such a wise question to ask, and one there is much to ponder on in terms of our own resistance to something that is so beautiful to embrace. The seeming eternal struggle.
When we have a condition, we just want relief from it. What we search for are solutions, instead of establishing a relationship with the condition based on understanding where it comes from, and steering both to a different point so the condition no longer makes sense.
I find it so revealing, if we are willing to learn and evolve, that when we ‘hate’ something, in fact, within it there is a reflection of something for us to heal.
No doctor or practitioner can heal us – we can only heal ourselves.
Spot on Elizabeth – all the other can do is hold the space for us to be aware and hence activate the needed changes.
True Elizabeth, we can only heal ourselves but in that process there are awesome practitioners and medical professionals that can assist us in our healing, but that is in our responsibility for our own health and wellbeing too.
This really highlights for me the impact of the kind of relationship that we have with ourselves and our body, with the whole of who we are – how much this affects our wellbeing.
One of the many things that are so powerful about the experience that Cherise shared here is how directly her body was communicating with her through the scarring how she had been living and treating it. And also, how a physical manifestation like the chest scars is a direct result of a non-physical emotional way of being (as in the self-hatred and abuse).
There are a couple of things that really stand out in this blog, and the first is the relationship that the author has built with the GP, maybe it’s because many visits were necessary but rarely do our GPs know us that well. In my GP practice, we have many GPs and never get to see the same one. Secondly, I like the fact that the author was learning to love herself and that that was making a difference to her health condition. She has realised that it is her responsibility to do her part and not expect someone to fix her – in this day and age, this is refreshing to read.
This blog is a testament to the truth that instead of asking another to ‘fix’ us and take responsibility for ourselves, which includes asking for help where necessary, then true healing can happen.
Self-love and nurturing is without doubt the foundation for true haling to occur!
its so true Cherise. Your Doctor knows you and has seen you grow and blossom in your relationship with yourself. With this there is no doubt. There is nothing that can sway her from this, regardless of what is written or spoken by another. It says everything about the quality of our relationships and how everlasting they can be – only if its 80 minutes per year.
Cherise there is such a beautiful tenderness felt in what you have written here, thank you. We are truly united by love as this is our true connection. When I read the description of your doctor and of your relationship with her I can feel that what forms the basis of your connection together is the love and care you both live from and express. There is always such a sense of equality with love.
I am wondering if many people seem to be saying (though not Cherise) – “Doctor (the word please is often forgotten) fix me but I don’t want to do my part”.
What I am getting from this is that being open and building a relationship with doctor, or in fact whoever is offering support, is part of responsibility that I can embrace.
It’s great to come back to this blog after so many years and appreciate even more what my body communicates to me each and every day. I recall when I was wanting to hide my scars away, a Universal Medicine practitioner said to me, can you feel that one day your scars won’t even be a thing?, and so it came true. They are just there, they are a part of my physical flesh that I never try to hide from anyone and a constant reminder to appreciate who I am and how far I have come by being willing to heal myself.
It’s truly an amazing milestone to appreciate and cherish Cherise all the self love and love you now live. The beauty you are is definitely not found in the package that holds it!
I can’t help but feel what a wonderful article your journey with your scars and self love would make for a women’s magazine or online site. So many women struggle with physical things like scars not realising the beauty and love that’s there within them.
This is beautiful Cherise – healing the deep hurts from within supports changes in the physical body too. “As I had previously hated them (scars), I am now learning to love them – they are a part of me, and as I am learning to love ALL of me, then of course they are there to love, too”.
The imperfections and ailments of our physical body can teach us so much.
I agree we have an ability to build relationships with our doctors and specialists, when we see them on a regular basis even if it is once a year, they notice much about us and have a great understanding of self love and self nurturing, from my own experience many doctors and nurses have a great understanding of this, however do not necessarily practice it themselves.
Thank you Cherise for sharing a deep quality of love to what has been a very difficult and painful experience. I absolutely agree the more we accept, embrace, and love the aspects of ourselves that for what ever reason don’t fit our picture the more these can shine in their own unique way bringing truth and even healing for others.
When we take responsibility for our health and well being, our relationship with illness and disease is completely different. We appreciate the opportunity our body is presenting to us and let go of the ‘there is something wrong’ mentality…
Healing is completely possible, but the most important person in the process is the person that needs the healing, for their contribution to the illness has to be acknowledged and reversed, in that feeding the illnesses must stop so as to have complete medical whole healing.
How wonderful for this doctor to experience this relationship with you, where a patient takes responsibility and works in collaboration with practitioners to heal. What a confirming experience for the doctor I’m sure, someone who goes into the profession to support others and knows their support is valid but without the patient being responsible this support doesn’t go as far as it could otherwise go. What a lesson for me too, where is it I go to practitioners for support but don’t do my 100%?
It seems evident to me that a true relationship with a medical professional is one that says something like, ‘can you support me to heal this condition please?’. Responsibility is power and when we accept this, we can create truly supportive relationships with our GP’s, teachers, social workers and the like. Thank you for the inspiration Cherise.
Our personal relationship with the people we live and work with is so much more important than what comes out of this relationship in the physical form. We tend to emphasize only on the outcome, to what it brings to us but actually it is not about that. The outcome is just a result of the intimacy that we are able to build in the relationships we have.
This blog has come at an appropriate time. I have had a long history of ear problems and were ‘healing’ or so I thought. It feels there is another level of healing that is now occurring and my ears are doing some ‘weird things I will not deny concerns me at times.
I would love to find a GP who doesn’t treat me as a number but also support and understands me during this part of my journey. Instead I see a specialist who I have been with for the past 7 years and has got used to me but struggles to give that support I really require. As a specialist he is fantastic and I wouldn’t go anywhere else. I travel to the other end of Sydney to see him. Once he jokingly mentioned that I probably pass 15 other specialists but I have to see him yet he would not refer me to anyone else as he has got to know my ears.
I feel we are both getting to know each other, him as a specialist and I as a patient. There is more for both of us to appreciate in the healing that is going around.
Cherise your blog really highlights the difference between ‘curing’ and truly healing a disease or illness. We have an integral part to play.
The support of medical practitioners when we are unwell is invaluable and much needed, but when you approach this support with responsibility and understanding that each of us has a great part to play in our own wellbeing, well then you have an opportunity for true healing.
Taking responsibility for our own health and well-being is key to true medicine.
I never knew there was such a thing as these scars and they do sound painful. I like what this article presents in that even though there was a consistency in seeing one doctor, in actual fact out of a year you didn’t see them much and yet we can at times place enormous pressure on them to deliver and even be critical if they don’t do everything for us in that time. Who spends the most time with us, well we do and in that we can and should be taking an ever deepening care of ourselves as again this article presents. I can see how this then supports anyone to further support you. In relation to how busy everything is getting and how fast things are continuing to move this would be a care well worth taking, after all we are talking about you.
If we have a condition, not only do we develop a relationship with the doctor, but also to work on a relationship with the condition and with ourselves. It makes a huge difference.
Thank you Cherise for a beautiful blog on self love and responsibility, working in a loving relationship with your Doctor and taking responsibility to change the hatred of your body into one of acceptance and love which is allowing healing to take place.
Reading what you have shared with us Cherise I can feel the importance of building a relationship with any health practitioner we go to, for that relationship builds the foundation that will support our healing. Walking in their door expecting a quick fix from them and then walking out again ‘cured’ is not at all realistic, we need to take responsibility for our own health and then together with our health practitioner work towards the healing that is being asked for by our body at that moment in time.
What you are uncovering in this article is so spot on. It is, in my opinion one of the biggest issues we face as a society – a belief system that says” You’re the doctor, it’s your job to fix me” It’s not fair on the doctors or on the patient…. aka us. We know way more than we give ourselves credit for and we have the ability to read what message our bodies are delivering. This means we have the potential to have the best of what Western medicine has to offer along with the right attitude and open approach that is willing to do whatever is needed not only to get well but to live vitally.
That is so inspiring you have established a level of responsibility with your doctor where there was no need for either of you to talk about what the media has been saying about Universal Medicine as you are the living proof of what it is truly about. Truly awesome.
We so often want to fix our problems and find a solution. If we can cover it up, pop a magic pill – great, let’s just carry on with life. But it does nothing to settle the discontent the body and its intelligence is showing us.
Opening up and letting ourselves be seen and vulnerable is so transformational Cherise. It’s fascinating to read about the changes you have made to the way you see yourself and how the pain from your scars has considerably lessened. When we change the relationship we have with ourselves it changes everything.
It is interesting to read that it is actually the frustration and anger that is withholding us from truly healing what is coming to us, as in your case Cherise, the keloid scarring, all from not appreciating the reading behind it. Actually, we are always asked to look deeper than only the physical pain at hand and that it is not a punishment but a gift from heaven to heal something that is withholding us from true connection to that love that so lovingly lives within.
When we build a relationship with our doctor and/or complementary therapist we work together to heal the scars of how we have been living. I can feel how rewarding this is for a medically trained doctor to know that they are supporting their patient and not burdened by the weight of expectations to ‘fix it’.
How amazing must it be for a doctor to watch someone progress through their life, and especially with people who like you choose to evolve and deepen your self love so that you are able to take more responsibility towards yourself and your medical condition? You can imagine they could write an amazing memoir of ‘what I’ve observed as a doctor’.
It is true Meg, when we bring such clarity and love to people, and in this case a doctor, these people will be presented with someone who is different from the many they meet and shows them another way of living and taking responsibility in life that is not only beneficial for themselves but is there to be shared with everybody they meet.
‘I may only see you 80 minutes of every 365 days, but you are the doctor with the knowledge and the medical know-how; this disease that is in my body I do not know how to fix, so please do it for me and ASAP because I have had enough of the sadness that it brings me.’ What a huge burden we place on doctors and the health care system when in a short consultation we expect them to fix our ailments that are usually the end product of our long term lifestyle choices.
Inspired by a presentation of Serge Benhayon I am pondering on how much are we ‘willing’ to heal, not just wanting, desiring, hoping or needing to heal or be healed. This includes not just the process when already being sick of suffering a condition but the activity before we even get an ailment, and also not just on a physical level but as well emotionally, our relationships, work attitude etc etc. Just a discussion on the willingness to heal would initiate a change of our health situation worldwide.
A real practitioner, medical or complementary, is one who inspires, supports and assists us to heal ourselves; otherwise we are getting fixed at best but never healed.
Wow Cherise. You remind me that incredible healing is possible for both doctor and patient when we choose to take responsibility for our own dis-ease and express the truth from our hearts.
Over the years I have heard many doctors comment about patients sharing they have seen complete changes in them and their recovery that they thought was not possible, due to the support of Universal Medicine. I love what you have shared about taking more responsibility for the state our body is in to then be able to make changes to support ourselves- the first key to healing our ill conditions.
To take responsibility for our own healing process makes sense, because we are the ones who caused the illness in the first place. This is not a burden or unreasonable demand – it is an empowerment.
I love reading about the healing power of responsibility. It is a truly great medicine.
I could feel the appreciation for your GP and the growing appreciation for yourself. Appreciation (and self-love) are the key ingredients to healing what is not you in this life. I was really touched when you said you loved your scars, because you love ALL of you. I was moved to tears as I realise I have hated/or disliked parts of my body and all our bodies want to do is love us and keep us alive. They are our greatest allies and it is quite sad when we choose to dislike/hate them.
Thank you for your very personal sharing Cherise. Relationships are important especially with yourself. To know yourself, to understand who you are, and what you are capable of is a consistent daily moment to moment choice. We hold the ‘scar’ of our human body to remind us. It is there to show us our return back to love.
“We are all capable of making the choice to heal ourselves: our bodies are our own responsibility,..”.
Beautifully said Rik. I was in awe of Cherise’s relationship with herself when I read this blog. I was able to see such a clear correlation between Cherise’s physical symptoms and her relationship with herself. From this foundation Cherise has been able to build an incredible relationship with her doctor and many others that are blessed to know her. An amazing healing from and for the heart (and chest).
“Please heal me” is a common request, be it with a doctor, dentist or even an esoteric practitioner. We can want relief from our symptoms and what we are feeling in our body. Yet the only way to heal is through our own responsibility.
So true Nikki for relief just gives us a short reprieve and does not address the root cause of our woes.
Do we love every part of our body? It is a question I am going to take with me into my day. Although there have been parts of my body I have hated do I truly love those parts of my body now? It is beautiful and inspiring to read how Cherise is learning to love all of her.
This really jumped out for me today, “Her gentle hands and medicine were doing battle with the anger and self-hatred (self-abuse) that I was in.” What a revelation for the medical system, to understand that a persons thoughts, emotions, hurts etc. all play a part in obstructing and going against the healing that they are prescribing. That’s huge… this would take away medical professionals burning out and believing they are the ones that need to fix the patients.
This is such a wonderful and inspirational example of what can happen when we see our health practitioner as an equal instead of putting them on a pedestal deferring to their wisdom and not acknowledging ours. Yes they have such huge knowledge of all things medical, but it is us who has the intimate knowledge of our body; we are the authority of it and claiming this can change, as I have recently experienced, the whole doctor/patient relationship where we work together for the healing that is waiting.
The magic that can happen between us if we just allow it is breath taking. I find it quite humbling that between people there is actually just love all there awaiting if we choose to. And the love that I’m referring to is that deep connection where you can meet another in a space that is what I can describe as pure, free of all images of how things are to be or how to behave. You seem to have had that with your GP which I find beautifull.
Thank you Cherise for sharing your experience of taking responsibility for your part of healing in connection with your doctor and her gentle loving care, and how bringing self love into your life along with Universal Medicine modalities you are gradually healing.
Such a beautiful example Cherise of the power of building relationships with everyone in the community, and also your choice to be responsible for your healing and not expecting the Doctor to have all the answers for you.
To take ourselves to a medical professional knowing that we have a huge part in the healing of our condition, instead of walking in the door with a “fix me” attitude is, in my opinion, the first big step to the healing we are seeking. Most of humanity has not been raised to take responsibility for the care of their bodies but with the belief that someone will be there to fix them. This is one belief that needs to be turned right around if the health of humanity is to begin to improve.
‘Doing our part’ to support what modern medicine has to offer is an essential part of the future of our healthcare system. Thanks for the perfect example of this in action… I can only imagine the blessing you have been for your doctor too.
Self-love is a very potent healing ingredient.
It is very true, we take our bodies to the doctor and say fix me, take away this pain. I think pain is the thing that certainly used to get my attention the most. I have learnt through building a relationship with my own body that self love, self care and building a solid foundation of both in my body is true responsibility when it comes to taking our body anywhere else for support.
beautifully expressed Lucy. True responsibility for our own self care removes a huge burden of expectations that are placed on medical staff and others to fix us.
Cherise and your doctor could observe too, that she is no longer having to battle the anger and self abuse. So really what anybody could say would never matter because of how she would have seen you grow as a self loving, self-nurturing woman. This was all confirmed in front of you as she walked through your case with her student. The evidence is all there in front of her.
This awareness that you offer of a relationship between patient and practitioner opens the door for us as patients to know we have responsibility in our own healing, and not to lay that responsibility at the door of another (even though they may greatly support us).
I love what you are presenting here Cherise. Giving our power away to another is to deny our responsibility – even with our GP’s. They are not there to fix us but to support us with our own healing. How wonderful to appreciate this relationship in the way that you do here.
The understanding you present here Cherise in your experience and choice to self love holds an in-ignorable message. This being, self love along side Esoteric Modalities and Western Medicine supports true healing.
It must be amazing for a doctor to have a patient who takes equal responsibility in their healing process. So often we dump everything on doctors and expect them to fix the mess we’re in, rather than empowering ourselves to make the necessary changes to our health and lifestyle.
“Instead what I felt was: she knows me – and we have a relationship that dispels any untruth that can ever be spoken or printed. Our doctor-patient connection has been more than just that, it has been woman-to-woman, person-to-person. I have been deeply inspired by her gentle ways for many years – and she has observed me blossom into a self-nurturing woman.” Cherise your story is living proof of how Universal Medicine works hand in hand with conventional medicine.
Thank you Cherise, taking responsibility for the way we look after our bodies and the messages it communicates to us is very healing as this allows Conventional Medicine and any other complementary therapies to support us in our journey back to harmony and well-being.
How we connecting is so important! With ourselves as well as with others.
Will I give & take just a bit or do I go for all? My choices here will shape the results of my day.
This is a beautiful bog Cherise, and the relationship you describe with your doctor is touching. “It amazes me that for so long she was dedicated in the application of her medical expertise to help heal my body, yet I was taking no responsibility for the treatment of this same body – my own”. I too have expected doctors to ‘fix’ me without doing what is needed to support myself. You highlight such an important point in the healing process.
What you have shared Cherise is a most beautiful example of a true, two-way connection with a medical practitioner, and the associated healing power of the union of Esoteric and Western Medicine, something that the world has been missing for way too long.
Thank-you Cherise, for sharing the amazing support and understanding your Doctor was willing to give you for what appeared to be an insurmountable illness. It’s inspiring to read the changes that occurred when you began taking responsibility for your illness through self-love and by honouring yourself. “We are all capable of making the choice to heal ourselves: Our bodies are our own responsibility, so why wouldn’t we want to treat them with the utmost respect and endless amount of love?”
What a beautiful sharing Cherise, what a journey of self discovery and self love. To keep up with the pain, but you kept up with unfolding what was underneath it all, along with unfolding a deeply supportive and wonderful relationship with your doctor, very inspiring.
Cherise I am deeply touched by your blog in many different ways. Most inspiring was how the self-love you built (or returned to) in your body affected the scarred areas, and amplified the treatment received from your caring doctor. The mutual respect in the long term relationship between doctor and client is also great to read about, and in fact feels very natural when you consider the intimate nature of the relationship we have with doctors working so closely with us. It is an example of love in action.
Thank you Cherise. Your blog shows how important it is to take responsibility for our health, and loving ourselves is the most responsible thing we can do.
‘What I feel is, people can take their medical conditions, illness and diseases to their doctors and say, ‘Here is a part of me, please fix it!’ This is so true Cherise. Far too many of us walk into a doctor’s surgery or a hospital with the belief that by consulting them and adhering to the treatment prescribed it will erase all their past choices that has led them to the consult in the first place. More often than not this is not the case for our ‘today’ is founded on an accumulation of our past lifestyle choices of yesterday and because of this our past can never be erased and will always catch up with us eventually.
There is something completely freeing about taking stock of where you are at and taking responsibility for your choices, not because you are left feeling bad or hard on yourself in anyway but because you then have the openness and willingness to make different choices. This alone takes us out of the ‘boxes’ we create for ourselves, that have us living inside them instead of living in a way that is truly possible, a way that is far more expanded and observant to our way of living and all that occurs around us.
There is so much pressure on the medical system these days, which is what you are describing Cherise. There is always an opportunity for each of us to take more responsibility for what is unfolding for us when illness or disease is presenting. ie. to not go to a doctor and say ‘fix it’, but ‘how can i work with you to help me, so I can help myself’. That feels so much more supportive for all parties.
We need to stop and ask questions, view our choices and understand the underlying root causes of the illnesses, pain and disease, bumps or bruises that we experience in life. Everything that happens to us is never from coincidence or bad luck; in fact, everything that happens to us is a sign and proof that our bodies consistency communicate with us in all moments of life. This is something to greatly appreciate as we are living, breathing, walking markers of energetic expression and communication and the greatest science and engineering that exists is so though our very bodies – how cool is that?!
Thanks Cherise, your blog reminds us all how it is the quality of our relationship with people that what stands the test of any false accusations, and this quality of relationship begins with the relationship we have with ourselves – forever working on self care and self love.
Thankyou Cherise, I have had the same experience in that I let who I am do the talking and people connect to that and it dispels all the sensationalised lies written about Universal Medicine by the media and hate bloggers. It was also beautiful to read of your self love for your scars, self loathing for skin conditions is very common, but why not unconditionally love and cherish ourselves? This has also been my experience with Universal Medicine, my self love has grown substantially and continues to grow. There is such an ease to life with self love!
We can so easily give our power away to a practitioner, believing or thinking that they know more than us because of their medical expertise, knowledge, intelligence or experience; but the truth is that we need to be equal in our encounter and our relationship. What we bring to the treatment room is just as important as anything else, what we bring is an opportunity of honesty, self-responsibility and thus true and full healing. What we bring is our ability to know our own bodies and the intricacies and delicacies of how we live our complete lives and this forms a part of the medical condition or process that we are there to receive. Knowing and understanding this, it is important to hold our power in any medical setting and to not give it away to any other.
I love that you have chosen to not be a victim demanding medicine to fix you but rather have chosen to embrace a life of love and responsibility… your profound healing makes you living proof of the power of such a choice.
The ‘that’s so unfair’, ‘why me?’ and ‘I didn’t ask for this?’ are all such disempowering beliefs to have in how we look at what our bodies are showing us. It also puts an enormous pressure and dumping on our medical system… and no wonder there are so many doctors and nurses collapsing through exhaustion. I recently shocked a specialist when he asked me ‘what do you want me to fix?’ and I said ‘nothing, there is nothing I need fixing, I’m just following up on what I can feel in my body’… a smile broke out across his face and his whole body relaxed, and he said ‘great, I can definitely help you with that’. It’s amazing when we work together in the knowing that we do create and are responsible for the choices we make and how we are with our selves.
You have perfectly pin pointed our irresponsibility when it comes to visiting our doctors and expecting them to fix what we have broken in under 15 minutes. Imagine if doctors told us the truth and asked us to take more care and responsibility when it came to our health – they would be so unpopular!
When we seek support only in the ‘Doctor please heal me way’ I have found that it is not asking for healing, it’s asking for relief. I can’t receive healing from other, only I can start the healing process from whatever it is that I wanting to move on from. Only I can feel the unease and unrest, being honest and expressing that I feel this way is the first step to healing and that comes from me before I ask for help from others. Relief healing is ‘I don’t like what my body is showing me and I want to not be aware of the unease and unrest within, I don’t want to claim and be responsible for feeling this way so please take the symptoms away’ Universal Medicine has shown me that playing my part in why the body got into the state it now finds itself in is far more healing than expecting and wanting the symptoms to be gone by any means. Even if the condition remains the judgement and heavy emotions have lifted, it is not the condition we suffer from it’s the irresponsibility that weights heavy on us.
“When I shared with my doctor that in the last two years I had been working on self-love, she didn’t hesitate to nod her head in agreement, confirming how much she had noticed this.” This is true testament to the way of living as presented by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine and the fact that people can feel it and notice the difference.
Beautifully said Shevon – this is what stood out for me too.
I have been having a series of tests lately, and I have been pondering about my relationship with the medical support. I was beginning to feel powerless as I felt like I was just following their recommendations regardless. It is true that I lack the knowledge and expertise they have through their training and experience, but my body is my responsibility. “We are all capable of making the choice to heal ourselves: our bodies are our own responsibility, so why wouldn’t we want to treat them with the utmost respect and an endless amount of love?” – this, brings me right back home. Thank you, Cherise.
Your experience highlights how connection and realness are so so super simple. It is just about letting another in, seeing who they truly are and understanding what is going on for them as well as being equally open back. There is a freedom in my body when I express like this with another person and it is so super gorgeous and very natural to do. It is what we are all in truth craving for and it shows in your case just how special it can be to share as it goes deeper than anything said as you truly connecting with each other
Thanks Joshua, this is the ‘realness’ that we are and live daily and so why hold back from showing it to another or letting them in to see all of us.. I love the freedom you speak of here as when we allow our bodies and us to express unreservedly life is very simple.
It’s our body that is unwell and we, therefore, need to bring ourselves responsibly into the healing of it – this is a great sharing of how true healing can occur when we don’t give our power away to the medical profession but instead work with them – our bodies are amazing in their communication of any ill going on within them and I’m learning how to stop and listen to these messages of love.
This is so true Shelley as I am sure that we were always intended to work together and not invest in someone else fixing us or in us doing it on our own. This realisation is huge and so powerful for the whole world today as illness and disease continues to rise and people are looking for answers all around them, not truly realising that they play one of the most equally important roles in their healing and thus their life!
Well said Cherise, in the past I used to play the victim when something went wrong in my life and felt powerless to do anything about it. These days and with the support of Universal Medicine I am more responsible and willing to look at my part when things happen to my health or in my life. Taking greater responsibility has allowed me to see the opportunity’s that are presented for us to learn and evolve whenever we are faced with any challenges.
This is such a beautiful and tender sharing Cherise. I can imagine how lovely it would have been for your doctor to hear what you had to share and what an incredible education you provided for both your doctor and the medical student who sat in on your appointment. Your experience shows the amazing potential there is to work together with medical professionals to create true health from a place of responsibility.
This place of responsibility is the key Leonne, as without it we are left in desperation, out in the dark or simply feeling like a victim of life. No one truly wants to feel this way and so it is in our best interests to take charge and take the responsibility for each and every choice that we make, to truly provide a loving and vital life for ourselves to lead.
I know this well when I had shoulder pain for a few months when I was 30. I went to see different doctors and treatment to help me get rid of the pain. Giving my power away that another needs to fix my pain and problems. That’s how I have lived my live giving my power away and disconnecting from myself. Once I started to listen to my body and how I feel, the pain was gone. Today I have a different understanding about illness and pain, understanding that the body is communicating to me in that way.
What a blessing it is that our bodies communicate with us all of the time, how else would we know that something was not right or that damage was occurring? Our bodies are one of the true forms of intelligence and wisdom on this planet, far outweighing that which our minds can think or a class can teach us.
Cherise, what a profoundly beautiful blog and you cover so many things here. I am especially touched by how you shared with your dermatologist that you have been inspired to be more self-loving through the support of the healing therapies and courses offered by Universal Medicine. No justification on your part despite the media representation of Universal Medicine, rather a deep knowing in your body of the truth and a testament to the love, honesty and openness you bring to your relationships.
Beautiful blog Cherise, thankyou for sharing your story through to self-love – and beyond. “We are all capable of making the choice to heal ourselves: our bodies are our own responsibility, so why wouldn’t we want to treat them with the utmost respect and an endless amount of love?!*” Accepting where we are at – and appreciating all we have is so important.
Without this appreciation and a solidly, full foundation of it at that, we are left with an emptiness that gives access to all the abusive thoughts and self-loathing that is opposite and rather forceful. Without a healthy appreciative life-style, we are not providing ourselves with the support we undoubtedly deserve.
The conditions we develop are a clear sign of our own relationship with responsibility. Therefore, to undo them we have to step in the healing process. The emergence of a conditions gives us the opportunity to step up in our level of responsibility towards ourselves. This is an important angle that usually goes unexplored.
Thank you Eduardo. An important angle and an absolute key in deepening our understanding of ourselves and what our bodies are communicating to us, constantly. The healing process begins when we stop to feel in the first place and this we must have appreciation for, as the long roads we can sometimes feel in healing are not at all there to discourage us. This stop leads to honesty, leading us more to the power of our choices and naturally we take responsibility as we go; I love that this process is not only one of strength and commitment without any perfection but also one of grace for all that we uncover and of who we truly are.
This is a great observation Eduardo. We can only do so much to the body for so long before it lets us know it requires a correction via disease or illness which is not a failing but a great opportunity for us to look at how we’ve been living with ourselves.
That was such a beautiful article to read, thank you Cherise, as are all the ones you write, what a beautiful connection you have had with your Doctor and the blossoming of you and your woman to woman connection.
Cherise this blog is so sweet, and honest, and inspiring. You are inspiring. What an incredible journey to have been on and what amazes me more is all the people who you have collected along the way, gathering relationships with genuine affection and care.
Thank you Annelies, what is truly beautiful is taking responsibility for ourselves and everything that entails… as this brings about a true willingness to see, to learn and to work together from a new and loving foundation.
Thanks for sharing this Cherise, your contribution encourages me to nurture myself much more in the future. And I loved to read, how your relationship has changed regarding your scars. In my case I have some problems with my nose and I tend to judge my nose for not working the way it should be. Your love towards your scars inspires me to treat myself and my body much more lovingly. Thanks for your inspirations.
Working in the medical profession I have been watching surgeries take place where women have been altering their bodies, breasts, necks, arms, face.. all sorts of procedures. What I have sensed in all is that there is not a true love for themselves, nor the bodies they are in.
When we do hold this love our bodies are no less than exceptionally sensitive and abundantly wise vehicles of our expression and it is US that need to change our perception of them; rather than altering them to deny the choices we’ve made or fulfil an externally fed image about who we are.
What a powerfull and inspiring sharing Cherise. Our bodies are our responsibility and by being more loving and caring to ourselves this supports the body to truly heal. The relationships you are building between you and your Medical Practitioners is an important step and one I appreciate being reminded about.
“We are all capable of making the choice to heal ourselves: our bodies are our own responsibility..” I agree Cherise, whilst we can and need to seek medical help and support it is important that we take responsibility for how we are living our lives too.
This part is crucial Fiona, if we don’t take responsibility for our own choices in life be that to take on other people’s emotions or allow ourselves to get caught up in situations of drama to making food choices that don’t support us and our bodies we are keeping our eyes closed to the bigger picture of life and our health.
Cherise you are reminding me on my life a few years ago, where I was giving my power away to the doctors and as you write I had the same opinion: here is my problem, please fix it. And I had to learn as well, that this can’t work. We have to take responsibility for our own choices – the illness is just the end result of my past choices.
“Her gentle hands and medicine were doing battle with the anger and self-hatred (self-abuse) that I was in.”
Such an honest, but also, powerful perspective shared here. Why don’t we treat our bodies and selves with the dearest and gentlest respect? I’m further inspired by your writing Cherise. Constant reminders of the tenderness we each deserve to treat ourselves with are welcome with open arms. A new normal is being forged and it’s beautiful.
The hardness and at times rejection in which we treat our own bodies makes no sense when we know we absolutely melt in purity and tenderness with warm and loving touch. Could it be that we don’t think we deserve such a depth of love? Or, perhaps we know when we do melt into this naturally we have nothing to fight or rebel against but the choice to only surrender more and more to the love we always are?
Your blog Cherise is a great reminder that healing is more than just a visit to the doctor and being given medication. It is about building a relationship with the doctor and working with them in a loving caring way. It is all too easy to go to a doctor and expect them to fix us without playing our part in the healing and then wonder why we are not getting better.
The depth and beauty of a relationship can absolutely dispel the fabrications spread about Universal Medicine, for it is in the true knowing of another that the lies imposed on them are exposed.
Thank you for sharing your blog Cherise which is full of inspiration and the knowing that it is all about people and our relationships and the joy and love we build together which allows nothing less than that to get in the way.
It is hard to imagine that there could be self-abuse in the person who wrote this blog. It is clear to feel the developing love and acceptance of all of you. This is inspiring as most of us, including me, love some parts but also have parts we don’t like or even are repulsed by. As a health professional I am also inspired by the co-healing you have done with your doctor. They can do so much, but with our active participation they can do so much more.
Thank you Cherise, it is beautiful to feel you bloom. You have so hit the nail on the head here with how society approaches the doctor, as in ” please heal me”. You took responsibility for your own choices and in doing so have allowed yourself to heal and blossom.
It is a blessing to read Cherise Holt, how you have developed over time your self love with the help of Esoteric Chakra puncture sessions with Universal Medicine practitioners, and that by becoming more loving with yourself you have also healed your relation with the scars on your body and accepted them being part of your love. How powerful love is as you clearly show when you describe that by building relations based on this love, we reflect this love in these relationships that in turn allows, in this case the medical practitioner to help us to heal the hurts we are holding because of the false way of living we have created for ourselves and for others.
Only 80 minutes within 365 days over a few years thats pretty amazing for someone to take notice of the detail and changes made to help support the healing
That is beautiful, and, as I am about to have an appointment myself with a professional, it is timely inspiration for me to build a relationship with her!
It was lovely to feel the respect and love that has become part of your relationship with your doctor, Cherise. It’s amazing how we can change the relationship we have with ourselves once we are prepared to understand that pain is not something that is inflicted from outside our body, but showing us the tension and stress we apply to our body when we are not fully present in each moment. As I become more willing to live in a way that honours each moment of my day, the complication of pain seems to lessen and I build a more intimate relationship with my body.
An absolutely beautiful blog Cherise. The relationship between you and your doctor is so respectful and caring. I can feel the appreciation you both have for each other and a mutual sense of awe.
This part really made me STOP: ‘Her gentle hands and medicine were doing battle with the anger and self-hatred (self-abuse) that I was in.’ It really made me sit up and see how many times I have been irresponsible in this regard. You express this with so much love and understanding – who wouldn’t take notice?
Thank you very much for sharing this experience with us.
I find it beautiful how even though you only may have seen you doctor for up to 80 minutes a year, the truth in the relationship you both shared dispelled any untruths that may have been mentioned about Universal Medicine or Serge Benhayon
Cherise, you have provided a wonderful demonstration of the power of self love on our physical health. It’s so true, that when we approach treating medical issues as a collaborative partnership with our health practitioners, so much more is possible. Thank you!
Thank you Cherise. What you have shared here is amazing, Not only were you seeing your doctor for who she is and the way that she is with you and the support that she offered you, you took that next step to see what your responsibility is in this process. Its a win win all the way around and opens up our relationships with our health professionals when we work in this way. We will eventually all learn that there are no such thing as ‘fixes’ to our so called health problems.
Very Beautiful blog Cherise, this a beautiful example of true healing with the help of yourself and the medical treatment.
It is so beautiful to read about the lovely relationship Cherise has with her doctor, appreciating the connection and trusting to share without imposing how she has been inspired by Universal Medicine. A very inspiring blog.
I love this part “Our doctor-patient connection has been more than just that, it has been woman-to-woman, person-to-person” in feeling the power of connection in a whole way of health care! It’s also great to see how esoteric healing and modern medicine can successfully work together.
Thank you Cherise and Danielle. Esoteric Healing Is definitely complementary to Conventional Medicine and to actually be able to connect ‘one on one’ brings a great level of sharing.
Cherish what a beautiful connection you share with your doctor. So amazingly powerful to connect and share our experiences with others. This experience is definitely a healing for both you and your doctor. That is the power of true self care.
Cherise what an amazing story of acceptance, responsibility and also connection with self and the medical profession in your keloid scarring. Just shows the harmony that can be when the esoteric works alongside and together with the traditional medical practices. Beautiful encompassing healing.
Cherise thank you for sharing your experience of learning to embrace you and your connection to your doctor. It was truly lovely to read.
I really appreciate your articles Cherise because I can feel you appreciate so much of what you are learning and developing within yourself.It is a true joy to read and be a part of this with you. Thank you.
I love the way you connected to your doctor, this is true humanity.
Thank you Cherise for showing so clearly the mutual benefit of working with the medical profession when we consult them seeking treatment for a problem. It is our body, so we are part of the problem as well as being part of the healing process.
Thank you Cherise for this wise sharing. It is crucial that we start to look at healing processes from a point of self-responsibility. The expectation to just get fixed is tremendously today and our bodies are treated like cars. Thank you for starting a new conversation on this very important topic.
It is absolutely crucial Rachel, I am noting in the medical profession how important it is to nurture and self-care fully for oneself and then care for another; without this the level of drain and strain on our bodies is tremendous and serves no one. Our bodies are like cars as you say and if we aren’t taking responsibility for each and every thing that we do and every energy we put into them, we will always and eventually be faced with our own consequences as our bodies are the markers of truth and of the choices we make.
Cherise, great to read the change in your level of love and acceptance to all of you and the all of you that you bring to your healing. An equal and responsible member with your doctor and universal medicine practitioners.
Our bodies communicate all we need to know in order to heal the ‘whole’ of who we are. Whilst the design of the clothing held a deeper message for you Cherise regarding a choice to hide from the world, I felt a powerful reflection in the choice of the softness of the clothing you chose which simply expressed the level of love you were seeking at that time. The wisdom and intelligence of our bodies guiding us forward is so much bigger than we realise. Thank you Cherise, for this beautiful and inspiring reflection.
Thanks for this ch1956, as this softness was something I had not fully appreciated; that I have a natural sensitivity to touch and feel and commonly choose soft and gentle over anything hard or harsh – I have always done so whether to support myself in pain or not.
Beautiful revelation and observation ladies. Our bodies are always calling out for healing.
Cherise, the love you now feel for your scars is certainly inspiring, it made me reflect on how differently I now feel about my own body since developing a loving relationship with myself. Thanks to the inspiration and teachings of Universal Medicine I am now able to accept myself more fully which has also deepened my acceptance of others, with a respect of where they may be at in their own evolution.
Yes I agree Kate. The love Cherise has for her scars is very touching and deeply inspiring. ‘I am now learning to love them – they are a part of me, and as I am learning to love ALL of me, then of course they are there to love, too.’ Beautiful.
Taking responsibility for our own condition and working together with our medical practitioners – yes Cherise, you’ve pointed the way forward to how we can each use the health system in a holistic and sustainable way, and not expect the system to support us with an ongoing quick fix management of our lifestyle choices.
Cherise this is the most beautiful blog thank you. I was particularly struck when you said
‘It amazes me that for so long she was dedicated in the application of her medical expertise to help heal my body, yet I was taking no responsibility for the treatment of this same body – my own. Her gentle hands and medicine were doing battle with the anger and self-hatred (self-abuse) that I was in.’
This is revelation for many people… as more and more people like you choose to take this level of responsibility, our health care system and workers burden of responsibility will be eased. So many turn up to any consultation looking only to be fixed… your blog offers a different way to be in relationship with yourself, your ailments and therefore any health professional you choose to consult with. Gorgeous… just like you!
Cherise your comment jumped out at me: “…dedicated in the application of her medical expertise to help heal my body, yet I was taking no responsibility for the treatment of this same body – my own”. Just yesterday I was at a health forum where some doctors spoke. They shared how difficult it can be when patients just want a quick fix and do not take responsibility for loving their own bodies and working on healing it with the doctor as an equal human partner. They shared how awesome it is when the patient does take responsibility, and how much it helps the doctor and patient to be a more effective team in the healing process. Your case is a shining example of how medical treatment can be when we love and accept ourselves, pain and scars and all, and bring that to our doctors.
Beautiful Cherise. ‘Doctor, please heal me….’ How many people today visit their doctor with the expectations that they will be diagnosed and healed almost immediately regardless of how they have lived and what they have done to their body. After all, we all lead busy lives and we all live in an impatient world and being ill is an inconvenience that we simply don’t have time for. Cherise, I love how you share how vital it is for patients themselves to take responsibility for their own body and their own healing process. A process that sometimes requires actual commitment, self reflection and responsibility and self care. Not to mention actual patience sometimes (pun intended). To work with their doctor or other health professionals together makes this whole process easier and more effective and is far more enriching for all.
Most of us go to doctors with one intention in mind and that is to fix me. We often then go back to living our life in completely the same dis-regarding way that led us to needing to visit the doctor in the first place. And with that fix me attitude we walk in with comes an arrogance of; I can live how I want to and you will fix it for me. You are bucking the trend Cherise and showing us how we can work with our doctors. As patients we have to claim responsibility, as it was our way of living that has led us into the doctor’s surgery to begin with.
‘It amazes me that for so long she was dedicated in the application of her medical expertise to help heal my body, yet I was taking no responsibility for the treatment of this same body – my own. Her gentle hands and medicine were doing battle with the anger and self-hatred (self-abuse) that I was in.’
This is gold Cherise, it shows the power of self-healing. Only if we take responsibility over our own life and body can we truly heal.
Cherise what a beautiful blog with so many layers to feel into.
It is so true that we often expect the doctor to fix our bodies but that we ourselves do not really take that same dedication to ‘fix’ or more correctly heal our own bodies. Thank you for sharing Cherise this makes so much sense.
Placing the responsibility on to our Doctors to bring about healing for our bodies is not only irresponsible for our own health it is irresponsibly impacting the lives and energy of our practitioners. When we don’t take responsibility for our own choices, we impose on our practitioner to take it on for us – taking on another’s issues, symptoms or problems only leads to exhaustion as it does not belong in their body.
Thank you Cherise for expressing your experience of the changes that the willingness to take our responsibility and the support and massive changes that a combination of Universal Medicine and Conventional Medicine can bring to our lives.
This is an awesome blog Cherise, I love how you have spelled out how you work with your body and your doctor to support the healing process that is occurring.
This is where we need to go as a race, we need to see our part and take responsibility for it in how we approach illness, and then work side by side with the medical profession to facilitate the healing process.
Awesome Cherise. Great article. I loved what you shared about how people often go to doctors with a condition and say ‘here, please fix me’ as it is often the case. I also loved what you shared about having responsibility for your body as well and working with the body to help the problem. What a revolutionary way to deal with illness and disease. By the sounds of your blog the self care has had a lasting impact on your condition.
It absolutely has Emily, a lasting impact that continues to deepen as my relationship with myself and my own sacredness as a woman also deepens.
Victoria,what a beautiful reminder you have given us. When we treat everyone with respect, care and gentleness, we can become part of the healing process for them too.
We are indeed called to a deep level of self-responsibility Catherine, aren’t we… that we can meet others with a consistency of respect and true care, honouring the preciousness of the being we are interacting with (in any way). We may never know when a truly gentle gesture, or true concern for someone’s wellbeing, may make a tremendous difference in their lives.
How wonderful to have a doctor who is so understanding and caring. And how even more wonderful that you Cherise have been able to accept and take responsibility to nurture and care for yourself and not leave it all to the doctor to heal you. This is a great example of what a difference it can make to the healing process when the doctor and the patient work together.
Thank you Deidre, taking responsibility for ourselves really does make a huge difference to the overall medicine that we are worth giving, receiving and living each and every day.
It feels like a blessing both ways, between you, Cherise, and your doctor: evolving each other.
So simply said Paul, and so true.
Thank you Cherise for the revelation and responsibility that a patient requires to prepare the human body to be truly supported by any practitioner. We can no longer expect someone else to make it all ‘better’ for us if we are not prepared to play our part in it as well.
Cherise your article on your scars and the Lovely Doctor you have been seeing all these years is encouraging and inspiring. I had not truly realised that I often go to a Doctor and expect instant relief from pain and disease without contributing to the healing myself by taking responsibility for my attitude. You were saying you now love your scars as they are part of your body and deserve to be loved, a wonderful attitude. Thank you Cherise.
Thank you Roslyn, it actually turns out to be a deeper sense of freedom that is felt when we take responsibility for ourselves. The love that I have for my chest, scars and my whole body continues to develop everyday as I bring acceptance to who I am.
It is fascinating the relationship between you taking more care for yourself and the lessening of the pain from the scars, both emotionally and physically, this relationship is an unexplored part of medicine and one where further exploration is needed to showcase as you have done so beautifully Cherise. Just how much we can be playing a greater role in managing our health and learning to love our bodies. From reading this I certainly feel impulsed to appreciate more my own body, which can only be a positive thing in terms of our long term health.
Everything is an opportunity for us all of the time. These brief encounters with your GP are a perfect example of how we can either let them pass by, or take the opportunity to learn, love and heal.
What a beautiful connection you have with your doctor. Your blog has touch me deeply and inspiring how you have changed and grown through discovering how to self-love and self-nurture. I can feel the respect and love you have for yourself and your body, truly amazing changes. Thank you for sharing with us Cherise.
An inspiring story. Thank you Cherise!
Reading your words Robyn, and those of others here too, I start to realise the absolute power that is in us sharing our healings. That Cherise could share hers with her dermatologist, and then with us, helps so many people share too. When you consider this ripple effect world-wide, what a healing true expression is.
This article adds so much to the saying being ‘comfortable in your own skin’. The honest way you describe your old feelings Cherise, makes it clear, what a miracle this is, that you can go from seeing your body as a kind of vicious enemy to returning to loving every inch of you. It is beautiful to read how you sharing this, touches others too.
I think medical practioners are blessed when they get a patient like you, because it shows them another way to deal with pain and sickness. It also takes the pressure of them that they have to be perfect.
There’s much you are expressing here, Cherise. It touches me deeply to feel how you have embraced and applied your inspirations into your life to make it all about love. Thank you.
Yes, I agree Jane, this is absolutely gorgeous.
Cherise, the way you have honoured your relationship with your doctor says so much about the way you now deeply honour, and have taken responsibility for building a loving relationship with yourself.
Beautiful.
This is a very supportive article showing how we can work with a medical practitioner rather than expecting them to do it all for us. It reminds me of my early struggles with maths; I found it difficult and just wanted someone else to give me the answer but in this I never learned how do work it out. By being open to work with someone who helped me understand how the answer was arrived at I was able to look at the next problem and solve it for myself and ask for help when I needed it.
Exactly, and I think the key here is about working together. There is so much healing that comes from this responsible and group way of living.
“Our bodies are our own responsibility” Well said Cherise!
Learning to Love and accept ourselves and where we are at through our healing process is a very liberating also taking reponsiblilty for it without blame or internal hatred is and has been huge for me . Thanks for sharing a beautiful Blog Cherise.
Cherise you too are proof that taking care and being responsible for our health can bring relief of physical symptoms but more importantly that it is the only way to re-connect with ourselves.
Thank you Cherise for sharing your story with us. This is a beautiful testament of how when we take responsibility for our health and well-being we can work together with modern medicine and esoteric medicine to bring about true healing. And I love how you have highlighted the importance of developing relationships, especially the one with self.
Thanks Carola, it’s a beautiful way of living when our relationship with ourselves is honoured and we can’t even begin to imagine the relationships with others that follows suit with this – and the imposition that ceases to exist when self-responsibility is taken, is a very precious feeling.
Beautiful blog Cherise, it really is the way that we choose to live that inspires people and not anything that we can tell them – you obviously were showing your doctor (and the world) very clearly that your choice to be more self loving has had an amazing effect on your life.
A doctor patient relationship is no different from any relationship we have in life, and we know how supportive it is when a relationship we have with a doctor is one that is mutually trusting and open and responsible, for our bodies respond and there is a deeper understanding of our diseases.
Building a relationship with self, deepens our relationship with our medical practitioner and with all others, and truly a relationship cannot only come from one side, can it? This certainly opens up a whole new perspective as well as self-responsibility in relating. Thank you Cherise for sharing this so beautifully in your experiences.
Thank you for sharing this Cherise. I have found in my life that taking responsibility for my health to be liberating. It has freed me to known that, while there may be no cures for some conditions, actively engaging in the treatments does help. I am no longer a person with an issue that needs to be fixed, rather, there are aspects of my health that I am working on with a great support team. I feel that this goes beyond health issues and can encompass any issue we face in life.
A very beautiful and powerful article to read. There is no limit to what “self-love” can bring through! Thank you Cherise for writing this.
Cherise, lovely lovely blog. I feel so much of the beauty of you and your dermatologist working together here, and how it’s so not about us dumping our problems at another’s feet without seeing how we are – we expect another to treat us with care and yet we don’t always do this ourselves – ouch as I write this I feel how I’ve been frustrated with another and annoyed with me and I’ve expected them to sort themselves out but not wanted to sort me out. We are so much the masters of our own destinies.
Beautiful Monica, I agree the way Cherise and her dermatologist work together, equally is precious and very tangible in this blog.
Thank you all for your comments, today after 10 years of seeing my Dermatologist for my regular skin check and scar treatment I was appreciating even more deeply the supportive relationship that continues to develop between us and the equalness that I bring to my own healing. As I lay on the table and felt my body receiving treatment I couldn’t help but feel how beautiful the human body really is, in its wisdom and intricate delicateness.
I agree Jane. Self-responsibility is key here. The more we take responsibility for ourselves, the more we can take responsibility within our relationships – including not only our health practitioners, but our partners, friends, family, work colleagues etc.
Beautiful blog, thank you Cherise. There’s such a pressure and weight put on doctors when we don’t take any responsibility for our part of the equation.
This is gorgeous to read Cherise.
Such an inspiring read ….a true Love story, Esoteric medicine meeting Western Medicine, simply gorgeous….thank you Cherise your exposition highlights the swirl and flow of relationship so beautifully