by Nicole Serafin, Age 40. Tintenbar, NSW

Most celebrations usually have you partake in the drinking of alcohol and eating way too much food that the body struggles to digest – and often in my past experience, there are drugs involved to boot.

As a society we have become so accustomed to and accepting of this way of life that it is generally considered to be out of the ordinary to not have alcohol involved.

Why is it that we are unable to enjoy ourselves without some kind of substance that alters us?

In my experience, if you didn’t drink it was only because you were the designated driver, not because you chose not to drink.

Oh yes, and of course if you were pregnant!

My body slowly began to tell me that drinking was not for me. Of course, I continued to try, jumping from red to white wine, brown to white spirits, all in the hope that I would find something that I would be able to drink.

Even with allergic reactions I persisted, and those around me would make suggestions so I would still be able to join them in a drink (or three)!

Eventually it did not matter what I drank; 1 glass of red made me feel like I had drunk 2 bottles, as did every other form of alcohol.

So, finally I began to accept that drinking was just not for me.

It was not however, before deciding that maybe marijuana would be the next best option – so just exchanging one drug for another.

It seemed to do the job; I only ever smoked enough without actually getting stoned, as I did not like the feeling of it. I still liked having control over my body, hence why other drugs did not appeal to me in the way that marijuana did.

How crazy! I drank, but never liked to get drunk… and I smoked pot, but did not like to get stoned!

So the alcohol dwindled off and eventually so too did the smoking of pot, until I no longer used either of them.

I often have people ask me what it is I do if I don’t drink. They are surprised, yet at the same time intrigued by the fact that I no longer drink. What is most surprising to them is that this is a choice I make!

I understood as I used to feel the same way: what would I do if I was not drinking or smoking?… it was such a big part of my life.

But I could not believe how much better I began to feel. I no longer woke up in the mornings feeling tired, hung-over, hazy or foggy.

My life is now completely alcohol and drug free. Many of my friends and family still choose to drink and smoke but there is no issue for me with that. I accept them for the choices they make, and they now accept me for mine.

I find I now enjoy the time I spend with others, calling on my own self-confidence rather than that of the alcohol, as I once did.

I realise I am now willing to feel more of what I am feeling without reaching for a glass of red wine or a joint to numb it out.

I realise I did not want to be left out – as drinking and smoking in my mind helped me fit in.

I was lucky enough recently to attend an end of year Universal Medicine celebration – where there was not an ounce of alcohol or drugs in sight.

There was however, a plethora of talented individuals who had put time and dedication to a performance that was second to none – simply awesome! Along with this there was dancing, great food, wonderful people and great conversation.

It was a confirmation of all I have come to know myself – that yes, it is possible to have a great time with others without having a drink or taking drugs.

It was fantastic to be together with such a wonder-full group of people and enjoy their company as well as my own. And all that without the influence of alcohol or drugs!

203 thoughts on “Celebrations

  1. There were times in my life growing up where I would wonder ‘is this really it?’ Like, is my life just about what is going to happen at the weekend, or when can I drink. This would be a fleeting thought and then I would just carry on. Never did I think that I would stop drinking alcohol … I should say be able to stop drinking alcohol even though I wanted to because I just felt weak willed. I have not drunk or smoked in over 11 years … AMAZING. Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine have been a huge part of this, especially with the bodywork healing courses helping me to discard all that is not me and not loving for me. Now my body feels so lovely and I go to loads of celebrations, in fact most of the celebrations I go to do not involve alcohol and they are the best times I have ever had. I am totally with you on this one.

  2. It is a very peculiar behaviour that we choose to poison our body when we celebrate, and under the influence of mind altering substances, we are not even there to embrace and/or remember that moment of joy.

  3. I was the same as you Nicole, once upon a time every night out involved some kind of substance, its been a very long time for me since I took any type of drugs or alcohol but lately I have been around it more than usual and for a flitting moment I felt “left out” on some level and wondered what it would like if I “joined in” again. Then I remembered that I have me and when I drank, I gave that up, to fit in and no amount of “fitting in” is ever worth giving up who you are, I will never do that again. I am so glad I have Unimed so that I can experience parties that are super fun and family oriented, without any substance abuse, it truly is a blessing.

  4. Society accepts a woman who isn’t drinking because she is pregnant, which to me is very revealing that we do know alcohol is harming but do not apply that same level of care to ourselves.

  5. We seem to feel that we are not enough and can’t enjoy ourselves unless we have alcohol or drugs in our lives, when we come to understand and feel that we are enough, just as we are, there is no need for anything else to make us feel we are enough.

  6. It is interesting that by and large, celebration is never of you and your body (that is you in your entirety) but of you against your body. How can we say that anything that damages us is a celebration of us?

  7. the spirit is a tricky one and I have experienced this many times for example when wanting to eliminate a certain food from my diet that I do not feel supports me a different one or old one comes back in. Alcohol however is one that has stayed out permanently for over 10 years and my body feels very good about this.

  8. If anyone had told me 17 years ago that I would enjoy celebrations so much more if I didn’t drink I know that I would have laughed and then dismissed the possibility as a fantasy; no way was that ever going to happen. Fast forward to today and the fantasy is a reality and a very real and enjoyable one at that; no hangover, no runny nose and the next day I can remember everything that happened, now that is something to celebrate.

  9. I felt the same way when I was younger as well Nicole, I wanted to fit in and be part of the crowd so I abused my body with alcohol and drugs – how crazy is that? Now my life is drug and alcohol free and has been for many years and I may not fit in with what’s considered ‘normal’ but I am experiencing more joy, vitality and greater health than ever – that’s my new ‘normal’ and I am loving every minute of it.

  10. Its interesting how we moderate our behaviour trying to see what we can still get away with – perhaps its the spirits, or the red wine, but my beer in the evening or spritzer will still be ok? We cling on to behaviours (and you could write a thesis about the foods we cling onto), despite what our body is telling us – crazy really.

  11. So why was alcohol created and became such a dominant factor in society? By cutting out alcohol we are reconnecting to who we truly are.

  12. I love the simplicity and joy that can be there when we are with others without needing to have a drug of some kind to ‘celebrate’ with – no big highs and then the inevitable drop afterwards and the potential for more genuinely interesting and intimate conversations and connections…

  13. ‘I realise I did not want to be left out – as drinking and smoking in my mind helped me fit in.’ This made me question what fitting in really means, that we think we will be accepted by others for doing what we believe makes us socially acceptable by our friends, when in truth our true friends will accept us for who we truly are without the need to join them in drink or drugs.

  14. A celebration without alcohol? This is most unusual in society given our heavy reliance on various poisons to the body in an effort to make us happy…

  15. I find it interesting that even when the body gives clear signs of not wanting something that we try to find a way to sneak around it. if alcohol doesn’t agree with us we may try different kinds of alcohol until we find one that does. If dairy doesn’t agree with us you can even get lactose tolerance tablets that help you digest the lactose. We really do think we are smarter than the body which just goes to show how smart the intelligence we currently use is.

  16. Iv’e not done the hard drugs but definitely the alcohol and the smoking. Its seems the norm to drink. I know of a work colleague to take their son on his 18th birthday for his first beer!…which I was surprised by.

    So if you don’t drink, smoke or take drugs then it is considered abnormal. But I am the converted not because someone told me but my body had had enough. Goodness knows what I put my liver through and I’m sure my brain is thankful of being free from the regular hangovers.

    I too have experienced Universal Medicine celebrations and to have such fun without alcohol or drugs was just glorious. Going home sober, waking up sober and remembering the night before was just lovely to experience – no regrets. True joyful celebrations can have lasting fun.

  17. Celebrations are either alcohol or sugar fuelled (which is no difference to alcohol). A false pretence of being around people who are trying to be something they are not – WHY?

    The silly season is upon us soon and the cycle of dieting, getting fit and undoing it by indulging re-begins – WHY?

    Whats the point of it all? Be far away as possible from who we truely are – crazy.

  18. Celebrations are always a time of togetherness and joy and yet as a society we deem a good celebration as a night to push our bodies to the limit. If we were to truly celebrate people and the coming together of friends and family at gatherings would it not be beautiful to be able to also support and cherish the bodies that got them to the party too? Celebrating who we are by way of supporting the vehicles we express from not only offers us much to enjoy and connect with on a daily basis but also brings a new take on what it truly means to come together in celebration of who we are.

  19. Celebrations like the one you’ve just described can seem daggy and uncool…when your world is more about the glamour and intoxicated fun one can have of a night out. But, despite the perceived daggyness, I can say from experience just how lovely it is to have a night out where everybody is sober and just being themselves. No egotistical rubbish, no showing off, no trying to be sexy (which when drunk is probably more embarrassing than anything)! It’s awesome to be with people that allow you to just be, and it’s awesome to enjoy that company, go home at a reasonable hour and wake up ready to face the day. There are only positives in this scenario!!

  20. With the Christmas season soon upon us there is no doubt that there will be excessive “drinking of alcohol and eating way too much food that the body struggles to digest”. And with it being summer here there will be those who are getting their bodies ready for the beach; toning up and trimming down. They will probably eat and drink way too much for their precious bodies, put on weight and then make a New Year’s resolution to lose the unwanted kilos. And next year repeat the same cycle. I wonder if anywhere through this body disregarding process whether anyone will stop and ask themselves what they are doing to their body – maybe not but it is always all about choice.

  21. “Why is it that we are unable to enjoy ourselves without some kind of substance that alters us”? This is a great question, one I unfortunately took about 30 years to consider! I suspect most of us are struggling socially, even those who appear to be happy and outgoing. We knew from when we were little kids that our true selves were not acceptable, so we sadly use alcohol/food/drugs in an attempt to change ourselves and fit the mould.

  22. What I am noticing is not only are we unable to enjoy ourselves without the need for alcohol but the amount of alcohol consumed is increasing! It has stepped up! Interesting? It’s as though we have to increase our intake of alcohol to numb ourselves because what we were drinking before is not enough.

  23. I didn’t numb my feelings today and I felt it was unfamiliar and when I started to make justifications to not feel I became more anxious so I just allowed myself some space. I felt what it was. The natural power of myself is unfamiliar to express and sometimes I water it down to protect myself and not wanting to feel this makes me anxious.

  24. This is an amazing point to make, about no longer seeking substances to help you to numb-out to what you are feeling, but letting yourself feel whatever is coming up to be felt instead. I love this because of how this can be a daily practise, something which is a constant in one’s life – to always seek to be aware. And this is beautiful because it takes away the need for something or someone to do it for us, as we all have the ability to feel and to be aware.

  25. I love my life without alcohol and I do not miss being around others who drink either. There was always something in me that felt drinking too much was not harmonious and when I started to listen to that something, the allure of drinking started to wane. Not only this, but other less than harmonious habits have been exposed too. As a consequence I feel much lighter, more vital and even joy-full in general. We might perhaps look at what is fueling the social pressure to confirm to such a habit and whether it is a lack of love for ourselves we are trying not to feel.

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