by Tanya Curtis, Gold Coast, Australia, Behaviour Specialist, Assoc Dip Ed, BHlthSci.(BehMgt), MBehMgt, MCoun
Until recent years, I have become accustomed to a way of living in which my experience of people I have chosen to be in my life, including myself, has been of ones who are consistently inconsistent. The consistency of this inconsistency created for me a platform of unpredictability, lack of trust, “you can’t rely on anyone”, it is a guarantee they will let you down… I could go on! Basically, I had concluded that people (including myself) could not be trusted.
From when I was young, my parents and relatives were sometimes happy and sometimes angry; sometimes loving while sometimes aggressive; sometimes supportive and sometimes dismissive! My friends were sometimes claiming to be my ‘best friend’ and sometimes saying “you’re not my friend any more”; sometimes joking and loving while sometimes teasing and mean; sometimes reliable and sometimes not. My siblings were sometimes inclusive and sometimes outright excluding; sometimes loving while sometimes outright nasty. Shopkeepers were sometimes welcoming and sometimes uninterested; sometimes helpful and sometimes not. I could go on, but the common word I associated with people was ‘sometimes’. The word sometimes created a pattern of consistently inconsistent, which to me became the norm.I had laced all people with the only guarantee is that there is no guarantee… people are unpredictable! I had a consistent feeling of isolation and aloneness as people could not be trusted or relied on.
As an adult I chose a career of working with people. To learn more about people and develop understanding, I chose university degrees that taught me how to observe people. So all day, every day I now observe people to help understand their behavioural choices. My observations throughout my career have confirmed that the word ‘sometimes’ is consistent to the general population. Thus, my experience in my personal, professional and community life has until recently been conclusive… as a norm, my observations suggest people are commonly ‘consistently inconsistent’.
So, as I lie here on the dawn of the 1st day of 2013 feeling amazing, I have reflected on how this expectation of people being consistently inconsistent has started to change, and how awesome it feels. I have realised that I have started to trust people again and pondered on how this might have happened
Well, let me tell you a story about a family I have met called the Benhayon Family. I began attending courses run by an organisation called Universal Medicine and presented by Serge Benhayon. Members of the Benhayon family always supported the courses so there were always opportunities to experience, either directly or through observation, many of these family members. The information presented at the courses made sense to me! But what stood out the most was a feeling of equalness for all of humanity: a love and acceptance of all, responsibility for self and freedom to make one’s own choices – this was presented and observed by not only Serge, but his whole family in the way they interacted with all participants throughout an entire day (formally and informally). I always left the courses feeling amazing. At first I was a bit (well, VERY) dubious – thinking “this could not be real… it’s one of those FEEL GOOD scams that you read about… there’s no way they can hold this image up for long”! So I decided to do what I do best and continued to observe… what I found over time was this family was consistently consistent!
I started having healing sessions at different times with Natalie Benhayon, Michael Benhayon and Curtis Benhayon. Again the same… they were all consistently consistent in that they always presented with a resounding consistency of love, equalness, no judgment and unconditional support; they were always welcoming, never dismissive. This consistency intrigued me and I asked myself “how could this be possible?… I have NEVER experienced this before”. So I continued to observe, but no matter what I observed I always saw the same thing.
I observed Michael Benhayon as a father to his daughter, a husband to his wife, a brother to his siblings, a friend to many, a practitioner to myself and other clients, a performer of music he has written himself, a support dancer to his friends on stage and much, much more. Throughout all roles he was consistently consistent – he was always the same… nothing but love!
I observed Natalie Benhayon on stage presenting to hundreds of women; again on stage in a different role teaching a form of dance; again on stage presenting at the annual Esoteric Practitioners Association (EPA)*; I have had conversations with her, client sessions with her and I observe her at courses with her family and friends… again I observe Consistently Consistent – always the same solid foundation!
Then there is Serge Benhayon. From presenting on stage, to having a conversation with me, responding to my emails, providing extra support for people when needed, observing him with his own family, as a husband, an ex husband, a father, a grandfather, a friend… I watch as Serge welcomes all those who attend events run by Universal Medicine, and again I have only observed or experienced consistent consistency – a consistency in nothing less than love and equalness with all.
I could name and give examples of every single family member, but the outcome is always the same… each and every one of the Benhayons is CONSISTENTLY CONSISTENT, and they present consistency in ‘nothing but love’. In the 2½ years I have known them, this has not changed once! Amazing!
So, to Serge Benhayon and the entire Benhayon family, I want to say Thank You for being you and being a great reflection of what is possible. Because of what you have shown me I have now learnt to trust in myself, trust in people and trust in love… thank you for being so consistently consistent.
* The EPA (Esoteric Practitioners Association) is the internal accreditation arm of Universal Medicine. It was instigated by Universal Medicine to monitor and accredit the modalities that were founded by Universal Medicine.
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I can notice in myself sometimes as well a doubt in the possibility of life being consistently simple, loving and enjoyable and that is understandable after years of living the life of struggle. But the more I allow and surrender, the more it becomes my reality that it is possible to feel consistent and great what ever goes on in my life.
I can second everything that Tanya has observed. The consistent consistency of the Benhayon family is remarkable and has allowed many hurt people to begin to trust again. This is a very rare and precious gift.
Consistency is not an spontaneous type of movement but one that requires an explicit commitment to move constantly in a certain way till what may be discipline at the beginning turns into joy and beauty thereafter.
Consistency builds the foundation that we live from – whatever that may be. We can be consistently irresponsible… or build a consistency of Love and Connection in our lives.
That is so true most of us are pretty inconsistent in how we are. No wonder so many of us feel lost not knowing who we are.
The unconditional consistent lived love and integrity of the Benhayon family is truly inspiring, reminding me of what is really possible in this world and how we can build consistency, without perfection, in the way we are in life that supports not only us but everyone else as well.
So well described..there is so much that we have chosen to do opposite. We know love, what happend to us now living unloving? etc..etc.. A beautiful piece of writing of awareness that brings us closer to the truth of who we are and what we have chosen to live. There is only one way to go and how quick we go is determined by our choices.
Being consistently inconsistent we are constantly creating the opportunity for confusion and hurt to flourish. When someone is offering consistency consistently it leaves us to be and gives us the space to drop our guard and to trust again.
It’s one of the most incredible things having someone in your life who is consistently consistent, who doesn’t judge or change how they treat you no matter what, and it’s beautiful that we can offer this support ourselves to all other people in our lives. The consistency comes from how we live, and how solid our rhythm is and love for us and humanity is in every moment.
I agree Susie W, it is an incredible thing. The Benhayon family’s consistent consistency is the reason I now no longer live in the middle of nowhere trying to retreat further and further from the world, and now live in London and am committed to life.
Consistency makes us feel safe to trust again; consistency is like the steady drop of water onto a rock – over time it creates an undeniable impact.
I have a word for consistently inconsistent – some-time-ish. And yes I agree that we do all have this trait, although some less so than others. Looking back I see how I have become more consistent and solid in myself so that I am less affected by the constantly changing, sometime chaotic environment we live in. This has come from being willing to observe myself and make new choices.
Consistency builds trust for sure.
Tanya, I really appreciated reading your list of all of the inconsistencies you grew up with and felt how similar this was for myself. All my life I have been reflected an inconsistency until I came across the Benhayon family, who with their consistent consistency, I have been able to build trust in a world where trust is lacking.
‘What I found over time was this family was consistently consistent!’ It is no wonder that the Benhayon’s stand out, consistently loving, joyful, open, the list goes on and the more I get to know them the more I know this to be true.
Consistency builds trust and if we don’t see it out in the world then we need to build it in ourselves so that others see it in us. We have been blessed with that reflection so time to pass it on.
Being consistently consistent becomes an everyday way of life when we start to heal our hurts; it allows us to respond to situations and people rather than go into reactions which makes us end up on a roller coaster of emotions.
Observation is such a great tool in life, I always learn so much from observation, much more than from being told what to do.
Being consistently consistent is such great inspiration to draw from all of the Benhayons, as I agree, they live in a way that is so consistent. They always say that they are not special, they just make choices that many of us just do not choose to do.
‘But what stood out the most was a feeling of equalness for all of humanity: a love and acceptance of all, responsibility for self and freedom to make one’s own choices..’ I too had stopped trusting people and always felt hurt at this inconsistency. Was I living in a consistent way though? No, I was not and so was feeding by my own choices this unwritten rule we are all operating by and all get hurt by. Through meeting the Benhayons I have come to understand this and am learning to take responsibility for my choices so that I do live in a much more consistent way, now offering in my own turn that there is a different way and that integrity, love and consistency are the cornerstones of rebuilding trust in myself, trust in others and so that others may also trust me.
The Benhayon family are definitely consistently consistent, no matter where they are or what they are doing there is a deep consistency within them, that has deeply inspired me to be more consistent in my livingness.
‘Sometimes’ is a word that does not have any meaning to the Way of Living and loving that is there for all to observe with Serge Benhayon and has clearly inspired his family, both his own family and the family of Universal Medicine students and an inspiration to the wider family of humanity.
I totally agree with your comment about the Benhayon family, they are totally consistently being consistent in all that they do, and I have observed how supportive that is not only to the Benhayon family but all those around them, which has inspired me to be more consistently consistent, rather than inconsistent.
The reflection that the Benhayon family offers the world is truly powerful and very inspiring, their consistency is very consistent as you share Tanya and this has supported me over all these years also to be open to true love and to trust in life again.
By-and-large inconsistency rules (us). We never know. And, we normalise this, accepted as the way things go. That is why when someone presents consistency and solidness in every one of his/her movements they stand out and provide an amazing reflection for the rest to realise that what we have accepted as normal is not the only option nor the one we feel at home with. The power of reflection….
I too have observed the Benhayons for many, many years and always found them to be consistently consistent. It has also shown me a way of life that I had never seen lived before and through that inspiration am becoming more and more consistently consistent myself.
What a funny expression consistently inconsistent is because it exposes how much of a choice and consistency there is in being inconsistent.
Amazing sharing thank you Nicola. There is indeed a lot of consistent choosing needed for being inconsistent.
Yes we are conning ourselves.
Yes, stuck in a rut of repeating our inconsistent pattern again and again by choice.
I loved your sharing Tanya, and the importance of being consistently consistent and the foundation of love that, that way of being brings to ones life as witnessed in the lives of the Benhayon family. who show a beholding equality of this love for all humanity and is deeply felt by all who come in contact with them
What a great way to describe this family that at times for me, feel indescribable. What this family offers humanity as far as a reflection of how things can be for everyone if they are willing to commit to love is priceless but can often be overlooked sadly through people’s fear and inability to trust that what they are seeing is the real deal. Gossip, judgment and jealousy can follow this “disbelief” and this family has copped it over the years but with each attack, they only grow stronger, their lives never reflect stress or emotional reactions. They are consistently consistent, as you so aptly state in this article. Each client, supermarket check out person, cleaner, lawyer, neighbour is treated with the same love and care, even if you have been the one whingeing about them at some point.The reason this family are able to offer this is they do not need praise or approval, they only want to live truth in every breath possible.
Being consistently who we truly are is the most amazing thing in life, this is a foundation that allows us to navigate all situations in life. No matter how inconsistent life situations are, we have a foundation that is consistent and this is the most amazing solidness that supports us through life. It is also a most needed reflection for the world.
Yes Adele, it almost starts by re getting to know ourselves again, really looking underneath our normal to check if we are consistently ourselves. Such good medicine for mental and physical health.
Reading your blog again today has reminded me that consistency is the ability to simply be ourselves in the essence of who we are – love.
This really got me thinking. As a consistently inconsistent person, how I am every now and then attracted to going off track, taking a detour, seeking stimulation; how I find pleasure in the non-ordinariness. We seek to be confirmed and also to confirm others in their true essence, but our behaviour often betrays that. Not having the awareness that there is a choice to be made every moment could explain the why, but whether we are aware or not – is also a choice.
Consistency in our relationships seems to be a rarity that is given little if not no true value almost labeled as impossible or even “freakish” to be so. Yet to have someone who is consistent in your life can be the greatest and most loving blessing one could ever imagine.
It supports in the greatest healing of love to observe and feel consistency.
What an acute observer you must have been as a child Tanya – and then still clearly are to this day… And what a great and consistent light and way of living must have been reflected to you, that you could actually turn around and state what you have here – i.e. that there are those in this world who are consistent in their openness to others, the depth of their care, their love and their ability to do and bring what is needed for all.
In truly accepting this, that there are those who walk amongst us holding such qualities, we cannot hold onto hurts from our past over the inconsistency from others – for it is Love that stands here right before us today, and nothing less.
This is a very powerful sharing Tanya, and thank-you for bringing it so unreservedly… I agree with all that you’ve shared here – and can say wholeheartedly that the consistency of unwavering love, consideration and service to all displayed by the Benhayon family has re-ignited places within me that I had long forgotten – the inspiration to build my life in a way that I may also be ‘consistently consistent’, and let go long-held attitudes towards my fellow humanity where I’d given up on love being our natural way.
I know what you mean when you write about the Benhayon family being “consistently consistent”. And it has been an amazing discovery and unfoldment to grow into this quality myself rather than endure and entertain the never-ending merry-go-round of all the ups and downs my life used to be filled with.
For me having the consistent reflection of the Benhayon family in my life has supported me to regain trust, learn to feel the love I have for people and start to express this out regardless of what comes back. It is so beautiful to be consistently loved by another regardless of the choices you make.
I find my inconsistency super frustrating, however it also provides me a sense of comfort. I often get a thought of “I’ve been pretty good, I can take a break now” and even more often these “breaks” can lead to a month of self-loathing and bashing… is that really a “break’?
I had not realised it at the time, but your blog has reminded me of growing up as a child, being confused by adults and how they behaved. It was in fact their inconsistency that confused me and this then led to not being sure if I could trust people, As you say Tania the reflection that the Benhayon family offer is very different, they never pander or seek recognition, everything is about truth and it this consistency even when it may feel uncomfortable or at times very exposing the absolute consistency they reflect is undeniable and it is this that restored my trust in people again.
So much here to connect with Tanya, firstly lack of trust is enormous! Someone will always let us down so it is much safer to do it ourselves, but then we go and let ourselves down too…it might be by not sticking to a new way of eating, or putting everyone else’s needs before our own only to find ourselves sick with exhaustion, even overbooking the diary is letting ourselves down. I have done all these things and berated myself for my personal lack of consistency except in being inconsistent. Yet I now appreciate there are more and more inspirations of consistency and Serge Benhayon certainly leads the way!!
In a world where we have been programmed from young to not trust each other, it is the consistency mentioned here that rebuilds the trust that leads us back to the undying love that has never let us go, despite us withdrawing from its embrace. It is this quality of movement we must show to each other in order to arrest the ill momentum we have otherwise become so caught up in that has led to the great divide we now as a humanity find ourselves in. This is how we restore harmony amongst us and thus heal the scars of the past by living the future now.
I can feel how consistency is a key part of love. Not consistency in what is done per se but rather consistency in the quality of what is loved as this not only allows people to trust the love and support they see and feel but also helps inspire them to live this themselves.
I used to get a little disappointed and downhearted with people when they were not not themselves. I saw myself comparing to the last meeting, having an expectation of how they should be but recently I am much more accepting as how can I be judgemental when I am living inconsistently too, not like it used to be but I do create it from time to time.
For me it’s the no judgement from Serge that means one the most dearest things to me. To not be judged by another is immense, the level of acceptance and love you feel with this is huge. You are allowed to be yourself. There is nothing greater in the work than this.
To see, experience and live a consistently true life builds deep trust in humanity and strengthens confidence in our inner knowing.
Yes, as I read more of the blog what came up for me was that through the reflection of the Benhayon family, I have learned to trust myself more, and hence trust others more once again. And all this has arisen from a deeper connection to myself and a true understanding of who I am.
I couldn’t agree more Tanya – it’s truly eye-opening (in a great way!) to see how consistent the Benhayons are in all aspects of their life and with all people. It’s a very real and practical example of what we are all capable of living like if we so choose.
Thank you Tanya for this beautiful testimony of the Benhayon family and what is possible for all of humanity. We are so used to live having ups and downs, and people being moody at times, the general inconsistency that we gave up on what is innately our truth and natural way, to be love consistently consistent as Serge Benhayon and his family are showing us.
Thank you Tan this is a beautiful reminder of the power of our reflection and how our consistency builds trust for others to feel inspired and supported by.
This is a beautiful observation and appreciation of the true inspiration the Benhayon Family offer. Their commitment to being consistently consistent in presenting love equally to all has supported me to feel there is in fact purpose to life, and to open up and trust.
Consistency and trust seen to go hand in hand, and I have come to realise that if I can consistently do one thing then that consistency spills over into being consistent in other areas of my life.
Consistency is so crucial in everything we do. Regardless of our surroundings, if we remain consistent we will grow.
I can feel being consistent is about having the ability to keep choosing the same quality, and not about upholding something regimentally rigid or being disciplined, yet there is a rhythm and order, it is a livingness.
Learning to live with that consistency in and with oneself brings a solidness and a trust in oneself and from there we can accept how others are so trust no longer becomes an issue.
The Benhayon family are a living testament that it is possible to be consistently loving and that living consistently is not only possible but brings a quality of life that is rewarding for oneself and others.
Seeing all the inconsistencies written down like this, it really hits home and makes sense that we would then find it difficult to trust another when everyone around us is acting like this. Having the Benhayon family reflecting that there can be consistency and trust, and that we can be that steady also has the ripple effect – which is awesome.
I like the subject you are opening up here, trust and letting people in is an area that I find fascinating. We have this idea that everyone is going to let us down and then they do, confirming that you should have never trusted them but had we a different approach I wonder if it would pan out quite the same? I am realisng that to trust others I must build consistency within myself, that trust is not something that I can get from another showing me consistency. It is more of a commitment to myself that allows me to feel everyone more deeply.
The best sort of support is one that is continuous and realible. Good deeds that are one off are fabulous don’t get me wrong however someone who can offer the consistent consistency of love, care and understanding shows the way for many people.
Reading your blog made me laugh at myself, for I begun to think that if I am this good at being consistently inconsistent, that with all that consistency at this, it should a breeze to take that consistency into being consistent!
I have just realised reading this today that I have laced all people with hurts I have felt from only a few people – everything has now changed. By feeling this it’s not going to happen anymore.
Ha ha – talk about consistency – coming back to this blog to read it everyday. My body loves consistency, I feel solid, no anxiousness it allows me to be. Imagine what it would be for everyone in the world to be met by someone who is not projecting their stuff on them or asking them to be anything, but standing with them totally solid, content and consistent in their own body – people would be left to feel themselves and not have to be someone else.
Inconsistency is one of the things that drains me the most, it has a knock on effect on everyone and all parts of my life, and very much physically on my body as well. People are craving to trust in people again. Living with solidness, consistency, integrity and power will, as I have found with the Benhayon family, support people to return to trusting in people and themselves again. Meeting the Benhayons allows me to be myself.
“resounding consistency of love” This makes me smile – because it’s this consistency of love that changes everything, and everyone.
The message I get from this is consistency build trust. It allows us to settle in our bodies, to breath, (it’s a bit like walking around holding your breath and then being able to breath and let big sigh out, I don’t have to protect myself or live on guard anymore) to let go of any tension or holding we have. That there are people in this world who we can trust and we are also one of them.
I can’t help but feel when reading consistency how supportive and solid living this word is, and how much trust it allows another to feel, when meeting Serge Benhayon and being met with this consistency my body could stop and surrender from the holding I was / am living in, it allows me to trusts myself, in that it’s more than okay to be myself, I could and can take a breath. I too can bring this to myself, my body and others by the consistency of how I live.
I have known the Benhayon family for 12 years and my experience has been the same as yours Tanya….consistently consistent and like you, they inspired me to know this was possible for myself and instilled my trust in people again
Tanya what you have so beautifully described here is true and unconditional love which is always consistent and as natural as night follows day and day follows night.
Wow it is very true that we can just think the world is a certain way; All I see is inconsistency therefore people can’t be trusted – a very easy assumption to make. But surely we have a responsibility to be open – and in doing so we can be shown another way – that trust is possible with others and with ourselves.
I can concur completely Tania, the consistency lived by the Benhayon family is profound and can be seen not just in how they interact with others but equally in the remarkable settlement in their bodies and the ease of their movements – a steadiness that is reflected by nature yes but not by humanity at large.
It is amazing when we are surrounded by consistent inconsistency and we meet people who are consistently consistent, because what they reflect to us allows us to simply trust. Being able to trust people again can be a massive shift in our lives if we have been living with mistrust in people. We also learn that it is therefore possible to live and express consistently what is true, and live in a way that consistently emanates truth and love.
Inconsistency is very much the norm, we even expect ups and downs. I feel the basis for consistency is maintaining our connection with ourselves, and expressing who we are in full. The Benhayon family are certainly turning many things on their head, and they continue to inspire me with the consistency of love they live everyday.
I agree Tanya- the Benhayons consistency is something that taught me a lot about myself and that this consistency can actually be lived.
I too have been deeply inspired by the Benhayon family for their consistency and purpose in life, it has been through my commitment to connect to and get to know the quality within me that has allowed me to be more consistent in my life allowing more flow and simplicity in my life.
I know no perfection is being asked for, but when I also know that I have used that card so many times and also tried steer clear of beating myself up while being shown a way of living that is possible and available to us, and have done so for quite some time, I feel there comes a time when I have to be very honest and say that it actually is an indulgence of mine that I am still allowing quite a few pockets of what is not love in my daily life. At the Vietnam retreat earlier this year, I understood so clearly that all we are ever being asked to do is to take care of our physical body and its movement so that true light could be expressed and felt in a lived way, and I don’t even have to worry about what it is going to look like. And so for me to have a sense of so-called self-doubt clearly indicates that I am fully aware that I have not been making a true choice consistently and for me to behave as though I have a self-doubt issue is really a pathetic pretense.
To see consistency first hand really does repair this sense of broken trust we’ve developed. Same as you – to this day I still have friends who I am never sure what to expect from them. It is the inconsistency you speak of. It used to really get to me, But I do know what consistency is and I know I have a responsibility to be that. I was once also very much all over the place! And I have that reflection from the Benhayon family too – where it is actually a very simple and honest way of living. So my responsibility is to reflect that back with no expectations to those around me.
Consistently consistent, sounds easy, but actually can be quite challenging. We are all so used to be consistently inconsistent. There is an ease with being consistently inconsistent, we don’t have to take full responsibility for where we are at, there is like a small get out clause that we like having there just in case. In case for what? who knows, who cares? we just like it. I agree wholeheartedly, when meeting the Benhayon family who are just normal people, however what sets them aside is they are willing to live life at a level of responsibility many are not yet, myself included. I do observe this within me, knowing that I am working on many things, consistency being one of them.
I certainly found this consistent inconsistency in those around me very confusing when I was growing up; it put me on tenterhooks as I never knew what was around the corner next, what kind of disaster might strike. I have also found that this is not something that can be easily shrugged off, it takes time, dedication and consistency to heal and build a different foundation.
Such an inspiration everyone should be asking what’s their secret?.. haha 😉
The inconsistency in life and relationships you have exposed is incredibly poignant for we have settled for so much less than what we are capable of. How gorgeous it is to now have trust rebuilt when we see people live the steadiness and consistency of what is possible.
Thank you for sharing Tanya. Most of the ‘mistrust’ we feel towards others must steam from our relationship with ourselves and our daily choices. The power of self care is all to often over looked in our modern society.
What is supporting me to become more consistent is committing to something daily and doing it rain hail or shine. Just one small thing, that does not include going to work. That one thing can develop confidence and eventually it will support more commitment and more consistency.
Consistency is so rare today and no wonder we walk around guarded not trusting anyone. We don’t admit even to ourselves how much this lack of consistency hurts us… As I write this I can feel at a deeper level still the importance of building a loving consistency, staying steady to the best of our ability, because the world en masse enormously needs this reflection in order to begin to truly heal.
If there is one thing that engenders deep trust it’s consistency. And this, the Benhayon family give in spades — they are consistently consistent and reflect this as a shining example to others.
“Because of what you have shown me I have now learnt to trust in myself, trust in people and trust in love… thank you for being so consistently consistent.” Then Benhayon family have shown me also the power of consistency and therefore trust. Another key point for me when I feel let down is learning to not take things personally – a work still in progress. However having understanding – and not judgement – really supports with this.
What is so true about consistency is how quickly – even just 2 or 3 consistent choices – old patterns can be completely changed. I always had this image that consistency was a hard, dogmatic, will-power-induced slog. Quite the opposite. The simple repeated steps are immediately embraced and supported by our innate knowing – but the key to it is a deep appreciation of those steps – this is a very important ingredient in the process! – because then I am immediately impulsed to take the next consistent step. This is what turns it from a dogmatic slog in to a joyous evolution.
I know I have lived with that inconsistency for decades, milking the good times and struggling through the bad. However, isn’t life about choices? Is there not a consistent centre inside of ourselves that is immutable, and unchangeable? We simply need to orient ourselves to this aspect of ourselves, rather than the topsy turvy world that we have been brought up in and seems so normal. It isn’t.
I agree simonwilliams8, we can apply the same dedication we have applied to inconsistency to consistency!!! It is simply our choice. Saying yes rather than no is a help!
To be honest, I struggle with consistency a lot and have highs and lows with myself and how I am with people close to me, especially my partner. What supports us to live consistently? To me, it feels like the rhythms and rituals we have in place to support our daily life. If we are off or not feeling great within ourselves, then we always have the rhythm of our morning routine or self-care rituals before bed to remind us of our beauty and connection. This is where my attention needs to be, on the power of self-care and rituals to build a quality of being with myself that is consistent so the rest of my day is embodied in that quality.
Tanya, you’ve encapsulated the Benhayon experience beautifully. Each of them in their own uniqueness, walking the flavour of enjoying being themselves and being open to all they meet. It’s such a gorgeous way to live and the Benhayon family ooze this beauty constantly. It’s an honour to be involved with them, not because they are elite or special, but because they are doing human life like I’ve never before seen and it reflects the possibility of what it can be like to be a human being in love.
I agree, they live life, they haven’t taken themselves off and created a special place surrounded by special people! They are out there in the community, seeing how tough life can be but also offering a way to keep life simple thereby, often, not bringing complication to ourselves.
I adore this blog – each time I’ve read it I feel a spark of inspiration. The consistency reflected here is almost contagious! I know we can all live like this, consistently choosing Love over all the rest.
‘I had laced all people with the only guarantee is that there is no guarantee… people are unpredictable! I had a consistent feeling of isolation and aloneness as people could not be trusted or relied on’. When we classify and judge people in any way we effectively pigeonhole and lock them into a particular category based on emotions that may or may not be always true. Either way there is no room for movement, and in turn no space growth or expansion so we all cannot but miss out on the potential of the relationship.
Tanya I agree the Benhayon family are masters of reflecting what is possible when you are Consistently Consistent in living your life from love.
I have found that being consistently consistent, is only possible if I consistently build my foundation of self love and self nurturing, and from there I am becoming more consistent in my everyday Livingness, not yet consistently consistent but building a foundation.
I am noticing how I used to associate ‘being consistent’ with a bit of tension, as if I had to hold my breath to keep it going steady therefore impossible for me to do – and that is so not true. The only thing I need to pay attention to is the quality of my movement/expression right this moment, not 5 min after, not 1 hour, not a day or in 2 weeks – then it stops feeling so daunting.
Serge Benhayon and the Benhayon family are role models of consistent consistency in the responsibility to share love and brotherhood equally with all.
Tanya, I totally agree with all you share. The Benhayon family are truly inspiring in the way they are ‘consistently consistent’, a beautiful and powerful reflection for everyone.
Thank you Tanya for reminding me of the consistency that is possible in life, which we get constantly reflected by Serge Benhayon and his family.
Inconsistently consistent – you have described the emotional highs and lows that drives modern day society beautifully Tan. The truth is, it is the reliable steadiness of having a world around us that is consistently consistent that we all truly crave and ultimately all that we want. For this to actually occur we all must commit to living and expressing ourselves in the fullness of a truth the love that is consistent and thus in the honesty and love the we all innately are. Consistently consistent is definitely the way forth….
The consistent inconsistency creates a form of irresponsibility and a form of arrogance too as with this way of living we can do our naughty thing in our own time and think we can get away with it cause no body else knows and we put on a mask in the way we act to show that we have not done such an action. It is a complete lie and it creates the distrust we all experience so frequently with others.
Great point davidsonsamantha . I still get caught out by the desire to be ‘free’ and ‘spontaneous’. Lately I am seeing that often the choice to do something last minute comes from a desire to escape responsibility. It is so important to discern where our impulses are coming from.
This is great Leonne Sharkey, what a gem to uncover, when I read your comment it brought up a feeling of not wanting to deal with the present, to feel what is happening right now, so instead make a ‘spontaneous’ choice…and so to ‘escape responsibility’. Brilliant!
Great point Fumiyo. I am especially struck by how important it is to be consistently loving within ourselves. For many years I was consistently hard on myself, consistently hungover and consistently unhappy. It seems I had no trouble being consistent after all! The Benhayon family has demonstrated what it is to be consistently joyful, vital, loving, reliable and productive. They have also shown me how to let go of the things that prevented me from being consistently loving (which just so happened to be things I was doing consistently).
It is wonderful to be reminded to appreciate how rare and mind blowing it is to meet a family that is consistently consistent. Had I been met with anything else I would probably have run a mile as it has not been easy to move from living irresponsibility t responsibility, however the Benhayon family have consistently shown me how amazing life can be when we take responsibility for our choices.
Tanya, I am so glad to find your blog today and start my day with this uplifting and confirming reading.
I know that for me consistency is somewhat a struggle. When I ponder on this it is some kind of me being rebellious against control, to be “flexible” in life.
Your presentation shows consistency from a different angle, simply being love meaning being consistent.
Very helpful indeed.Now up to me to embody it.
I also remember experiencing the feelings of inconsistency of those around me when I was a child and getting stuck in trying to work out if the changes were because of me or not. It’s so easy to then start trying to please others or fix things for them in the way we are and what we do. The consistency in living from all of the Benhayon’s and those who have committed to living in a loving connection to their true selves feels so supportive and leaves loving footprints for others to follow if they choose.
thank you for sharing your observation, I can totally relate to not feel like you can trust people as every time you see them they are different. But I am finding more and more that the love I have for myself is the most consistent part of my life, so when I feel that I know I can trust myself, and that that love is in others too.
I am consistently inspired by how ‘consistently consistent’ the Benhayon family are and I know that I can do this to, I am learning to be more consistent in my life and building true foundation from which to live and it feels amazing.
You have hit the nail on the head Tanya. Everyone in the world is fully expecting everyone else to be always consistently inconsistent and hence unpredictable and not worthy of their trust. Further, this distrust is being bred into the very fabric of our society and becoming the expected norm. In retaliation many people are simply shutting themselves down and numbing themselves with a variety of anaesthetic agents such as drugs, food, alcohol and general poor behaviour to numb themselves from the anticipatory and inevitable hurt they feel when someone lets them down. Other ways to do it is to put on a protective armour to harden and fortify yourself and stop the hurt coming in or, to express unwanted behaviours that hurt others before they hurt you. Yes, the list of how we do this is endless. Either way all these do is keep us separated and disconnected from each other which is in fact our true strength as a society. It’s quite a mess really. A mess that we all need to start to clear away so we can all commit a new way that is exactly as you say, consistently consistent.
One could say it is a burden to be consistently consistent. However it isn’t as much as a burden not to be.
In the end the commitment and focus is worth it.
When I met the Benhayon’s my lack of trust in myself and others was totally challenged. I had been living in a world that confirmed my lack of trust in humanity but the Benhayon’s presented a different way that has forever altered my life. Their love for one another and for humanity has never waivered it has only grown and become stronger.
It’s very true that we can lose our trust in life and people simply from experiencing how unreliable and inconsistent many people are. It’s the feeling that kind of makes you want to give up. It is wonderful to observe the Benhayon family and know that there is definitely a way to live that is totally consistent. They are absolutely one hundred percent trustworthy.
So true- I never knew life could be like that until I saw them in action- very inspiring.
A TV show – ‘Living with the Benhayons’ ….mmmm, could we handle the simplicity they show us of how to live consistently harmoniously with each?
A great sharing Tanya, I also have been inspired by the Benhayons for their ‘consistently consistent’ way as well. When love is truly lived there is a steadiness and joy that is powerful and reminds us we are equally this love as well.
Beautifully said Anna. The consistency of love we have for ourselves and in others brings joy and power to us all.
I have regained an awareness of how vital it is for me to feel consistent, I had spent years being spontaneous and not trusting people around me. I used to perceive it as dull or reducing, it is the complete opposite of this from my experience. The quality of consistency that I have been developing not only supports me but it is a great refection to share.
Mistrust seems to be the common currency of the world and with that comes the expectation that things are not what they seem on the surface – hence loads of inconsistency where ever we look. It took me a while to accept that the Benhayon family were in fact consistently consistent and it has shown me that it is possible for us all to live like that through enormous dedication to love for self and humanity.
Consistency in love is the key to evolution, for if we keep saying yes to love, we say no to everything that is not.
‘The power of consistancy’, now that is a true line that we often don’t want to feel. From Tanya’s blog we get to feel the hurts consistency can heal and how we all have this privilege to be consistent and create healing opportunities in others.
Tanya I love this, reading it I realised that it is a major observation that I have learnt a lot from also. Your blog gave me a moment to look back on how much distrust in people I had and why. It feels true that this consistently inconsistent behavior has always been present and how this has effected me. I give a great moment of appreciation for the Benhayon family and there consistence with being love, they have shown me also that there is another way, and this is the true way, a consistent way.
I too have only seen and been very inspired by the Benhayon family, as being consistently consistent in being love as their foundation, in all that they do and with everyone they are with. My trust in people and life has been reestablished because of my association with them- through personal esoteric healing sessions and workshops at Universal medicine. I am deeply grateful and appreciative of this.
The consistency in the love that the Benhayon Family presents is truly inspirational, and as it is so consistent it gives the time to come to that what is needed for us to feel, as they are constantly reflecting the same that we all are.
Serge Benhayon and his family are inspiring role models for a consistent way of living with love as the their foundation and it matters not who they are with, or where they are, they can be trusted to always treat everyone with that same quality and integrity, for it is their natural way of being and can be for us all, if we choose.
Yes the consistency shared by Serge Benhayon and his family is truly beautiful. It inspires me everyday to continue to support myself and my love too.
I have seen situations particularly in workplaces when people get to a point where it is easier and less stressful to expect managers to be inconsistent because of the disappointment and frustration experienced when employees expect consistency. A giving up occurs and a settling for basic function rather than harmony.
Reading this Nicole brings up the comfort we sit as to avoid asking for more and hence being more.
Yes, and if we use that excuse, we never have to deal with the evil at hand and the cycle keeps repeating. Our comfortable chairs at our desks become even softer, with an undertone of nails, as we become consistent in allowing inconsistency.
I’ve experienced exactly what you have shared here Tanya. It certainly does feel make believe in the beginning, because it’s opposite to the norm of how a family functions. But, they are certainly proof that choosing another way to live, choosing love first, does wonders for relationships.
The example set by the Benhayon family is quite remarkable and something that I have not seen a display of before.
I agree Joe this family is remarkable, it’s the consistency in this family to be love that inspires many to be the love that they are.
Thank you Tanya, I could really feel how this inconsistency has played out in my life too and trusting myself has been an issue. It is truly amazing to know and be present with the Benhayon family because there is a consistency there that is beautiful to feel. As I deepen the care and love for myself trust in myself grows also. From trusting myself I have more confidence in the choices I make. I used to have a saying posted on my notice board “Trust yourself and you will know how to live”. Although the sign is no longer there I feel this still holds true.
All the relationships that I have with people come with the foundation that I am deeply anxious of the way people may choose to behave, for there is such an inconsistency with their behaviour, the constant unknowing of how they will accept me or how they will be, leaves me in fear of rejection. There are but few, the Benhayon’s making up the majority, that I could say I have the trust in them to let myself go and be open to, as there is the feeling that no matter what, they will be love, there is no need to try and calculate, measure, or decipher what way they will receive me as they consistently, every time, offer all that they are.
I never really thought about it that way Tanya, But I too had come to a conclusion before Universal Medicine and meeting Serge and his entire family, that there was no consistency in anybody and people would always let you down, or the many that were really just out for themselves and were always out to gain at others expence. I now see many people that have been inspired by the Benhayons, consistently working for the good of others. A renewed faith in mankind has occcured for me.
I love your blog Tanya, your observation of people and the Benhayon family is so true. I too am blown away and extremely inspired by the Benhayon family. It has been a blessing for me in meeting the Benhayons, what they reflect have inspired me to also choose love and truth consistently. Seeing how this amazing family is living and knowing that I can choose that too is incredible. Their commitment, dedication and love for everyone is always present and felt. They hold everyone all equally and always lovingly supportive to all no matter where they are or what they are doing they are fully committed to serving humanity with all the amazingness that they are. I am deeply grateful to have access to this way of living and to learn from them and to embrace it fully and consistently.
That inconsistency that you write about can put people in a place of not knowing how the other person will be. Will they be nice will they not? I had that in friendships and at school with teachers. I have learnt via Universal Medicine that there is a way to live, and part of that way is consistency of being me. Serge Benhayon was a great reflection for this, I have seen him via workshops and sessions and he has always been just him, no stress, no moods, no reactions, just loving and supportive Serge. He has shown me how consistency is a powerful tool.
I so agree with you Tanya, in observing that all the Benhayon family are consistently consistent. Such wonderful role models for us all. I notice too that as a student body we are becoming more consistent than we were a few years ago. I still am aware of my own inconsistency, but a few years ago I wouldn’t even have known what that meant, so accepting where I am now at, and appreciating, allows me to unfold further and become more consistent. The amazing Expression programme, founded by Simone Benhayon, has enabled me to continue this evolving.
I totally agree Tan, observing anyone living and expressing themselves in a consistently consistent manner is rare in this day and age, but truly inspiring. The fact that the Benhayon family all live this quality everyday shows us that with commitment and total responsibility for our lives we too can aspire to live it.
Here here to all you have shared Tanya. To consistently be shown consistency is a foundation for extraordinary healing. The day I stepped upon this, walking through the doors of Universal Medicine clinic, the life I was living up until that point would never again be the same, I thank God for Serge Benhayon, his family and the second to known support offered through Universal Medicine.
It is wonderful when you have people in your life that constantly reflect trust and a consistent way of being. It provides a support that you can fall back on when others do not show that to you. It allows you to be more accepting of life.
Thank you Tanya, I love how you described the experience we all have had with the Benhayon family. The most supporting reflection they bring me is the one of absolute love and no judgment on anyone’s choices and reactions. They consistently live what I at times avoid to fully live because it is kind of earth shaking for others. They show me that there is another way to live, a very needed one too.
Becoming aware of our own inconsistent patterns of behaviours gives us the awareness to change and the best way for that to happen is to observe consistent consistency in others, which as you say katinkadelannoy is very needed in this day and age.
I really appreciate how you have written this Tanya and the way you have experienced and expressed inconsistently consistent and consistently consistent. It is very relatable and makes complete sense.
What I have come to understand, to be able trust another we first have to learn to trust ourselves. Starting from connecting to how we feel, how we react, what’s going on in our body. When we can have this understanding and clarity, our trust for ourselves is solid and unwavering. This in turn will support us to trust others and be open.
The consistency of the Benhayons helped and inspired me in life to become more consistent- they are, every single one, a great role model, how to be in this world- with no judgement and holding love.
Yes Tanya. To exhibit and experience the consistency of being love, as the Benhayons have shown, is indeed an incredible inspiration. My life has benefited and been supported by this incredible consistency.
Thank you Tanya this has been deeply healing to read. “Consistently Inconsistent to Consistently Consistent” I love this. I feel this is the way, and the Benhayon’s are the perfect inspiration for this. Incredible, feeling how each time their quality deepens.
I was younger I was told to never trust anyone so, It is soo inspiring to have others reflect back to us that it is indeed possible to trust ourselves and others that consistency is the key no matter what and it’s within reach for everyone, watching yourself rebuild trust your own trust is such an empowering gift.
Thank you the Benhayon Family
A powerful article and gorgeous observation… The consistency you speak of is indeed rare and yet with the Benhayon family it is absolutely unwavering… providing us a beautiful marker of what is possible, inspiring us to live this love consistently, and supporting us to rebuild and heal the trust lost in ourselves and others.
An opportunity to rebuild trust in ourselves and others is key in what the Benhayon family bring us. Very inspiring indeed.
My experience of the Benhayon family has been exactly this. Through the consistent love, equality and non-judgment that they have shown me, I have begun to trust people and trust myself to be with people.
Amazing how developing consistency in these basic areas can be so profoundly healing for others.
I couldn’t agree more Tanya. With so much inconsistency in the world the consistency of the Benhayon family stands out immensely. I have observed them too over the years consistently bringing the exact same quality to everyone and everything they do. Through observing them I am learning to apply this to my life. Sure, I still have hurts to heal and commitment to build but building consistency is key, and this brings so much more steadiness to my life.
Thank you for your comment Heather. I agree building consistency is key to bringing steadiness to our life. This blog highlights and awesome to allow myself to reflect on how I have been living. To appreciate how important it is to be fully committed and consistent in life and in choosing love and truth.
Great observation of the consistency of love shared with everyone by the Benhayon family. An amazing role model for the world.
I agree whole heartedly, that the consistency demonstrated from Serge Benhayon and his family, is certainly there. Without perfection, when we feel a loving consistency, it becomes natural to trust another. In fact, with greater consistency with ourselves, we tend to have a greater level of confidence and trust in ourselves.
I agree Oliver. Consistency in love rebuilds trust. It is the warm embrace that welcomes us home.
Thank you Tanya for your amazing blog. I can confirm what you are writing. The Benhayons were, over all the years, consistent in their consistency of being love, and also for me a loving reflection of joy and harmony.
This is a great blog Tanya as it reveals to me how important living with consistency is. It does build trust, but it also reflects true purpose and love in the way you live. I feel the Benhayon family do live with consistent consistency and they show it is possible for us all to choose this in our own lives too.
Great blog Tanya. You can guarantee someone will not trust what you have written because to come across consistency is so rare!! So I stand beside you, as many more will do, and say I agree!! I have been struck how consistently consistent they are. It is so unusual but so refreshing.
It is also through the consistency of the way in which the Benhayon family reflect their livingness to the world which has so inspired me also. As you so beautifully share Tanya I am learning to “trust myself, trust people and trust in love” letting go of some long held patterns which held me back from truly living life. (and still learning)
Thank you – it is so obvious that if I am not consistent in my own way of being how can I possibly trust myself, and how can others trust me also? A truly inspiring blog.
Wise words indeed! I hadn’t before quite thought of it as simply as you have expressed it here elainearthey but it’s so true – of course it is the consistency of our own being that is the foundation and ripple effect to all consistency everywhere.
Since last reading your blog a few weeks ago Tanya, I have been reflecting that consistency leads to trust and observing where I see this and where I don’t in my own life. It has helped me to understand why I trust some people and not others. The Benhayons are a reflection of being consistent in all they do and a true inspiration.
Hi Tanya, at first while reading, I went like, yes I recognise what you say and love the way you express about this subject. And than you started to write about the Benhayon family, I felt this deep stillness and actually no words, but a deep appreciaton for everything that they are, blessing everyone with just their presence and the choice they make to live nothing less than the love that they are. Thank you Tanya
This is brilliant Tan, it makes so much sense why we don’t trust people including ourselves but then to know there is another way to live that is presented in full by the Benhayon’s consistently is so awesome and like a breath of fresh air into a very stale old environment that we have all accepted as the norm. I love that the norm is challenged by what actually should be the norm the way the Benhayon’s live – with LOVE, how we were all born. Simple.
Yea, your right Tanya, just thinking about it now a lot of people are consistently inconsistent.. Feeling and acting one way one day and then feeling and acting another way another day.. Only recently have I met the same people you have that are consistently consistent- and what a welcome change !
Thank you Tanya for this wonderful lines.
For me it has been a very similar experience. To see all that is presented at the courses and workshops lived and embodied with such love and consistency by the Benhayons in each and every moment for me has been the most convincing proof I have ever met. Since feeling inspired by it and living differently myself, my live has changed in the most amazing and beautiful ways.
Consistently consistent; I have found this so inspiring – and when talking with people particularly, in the area of customer service, there is an understanding of how important it is to be consistent to develop trust – we understand this concept works for humanity yet we so rarely stop and apply it where it would make a real difference.
Awesome, awesome blog Tanya. This is so true, as I was reading I can recall the inconsistencies in my interactions with my daughter. A beautiful reminder for me to focus on always being consistent and to be present. My experience with the Serge Benhayon and his family are exactly the same as yours. They are always amazingly consistent in holding everyone with deep regard, love and equality. I have never come across a family that is so loving and supportive to each other and to everyone that they met.
Awesome Tania! I have experienced the same of th Benhayon’s over the last 5 years that I have been attending presentations. They truly are consistent, and it’s been a huge support for me to develop my own consistency.
I have observerd the same about the Benhayon family Tanya – consistently consistent. They are truly inspiring as individuals and as a family, and provide a beautiful reflection to us all.
Great blog Tanya, I have never really given it much thought that we have grown up being ‘consistently inconsistent’, along with the people around us living the same way and seeing nothing wrong with it. I also never put lack of trust down to this either but it does make sense.
But over the last eight years I have known people from Universal Medicine who have been consistently consistent and I do feel as though I could trust them with anything and this feels solid to me.
Me too Julie, I also never have given this much thought about why and how this inconsistent consistency in people and in myself affected me and everyone around me. Relating this to trust is a great realisation for me.
Great Blog Tanya which brings up the whole understanding and role in our lives of “consistently inconsistent’. The relationship between lack of valuing self and self worth comes up for me in reflecting on being inconsistent or attached to inconsistency. My observations have reflected to me that many in our population have trouble holding true to a way of living or building a foundation which supports them in a loving way. To commit to loving ‘selfcare’ in every way doesn’t happen. Being consistently consistent has brought a beautiful foundation to my life which is loving of me and also loving of others. A true win win relationship.
Thank you Tanya, I agree that experiencing the consistency of the Family Benhayon has brought back my trust in love, life and people too.
It is awesome to observe and feel that consistency in others, and how its reflection can radiate a way of living which feels very true and deep.
You are right Tanya. There is no sometimes with the Benhayon family, they are consistently consistent in all my observations and interactions with them, which does build a solid foundation of trust. You know what you are getting and it is the real deal, no pretending, no on or off button, no this is what I will be here and I’ll be something different there. Just the same consistent delivery of all that they are, individually and as a family. They are all inspiring role models.
I completely agree Suzanne, beautifully expressed. The Benhayon family are extremely inspiring to me and to thousands globally to choose the same consistency, living with love, trust and harmony.
It is absolutely the consistently consistent love that confirmed to me I had found a way of being that truly was love. From the many modalities I had previously tried which did not reflect consistency to find Universal Medicine which does is a true gift for all.
Thank you Tanya for illustrating my own experience of people prior to attending Universal Medicine presentations and the loss of trust that ensued which was a very lonely place to be. It has been so healing for me to observe the whole Benhayon family being ‘consistently consistent’ and I totally agree with you that ‘I have now learnt to trust in myself, trust in people and trust in love’ and for this I will always be deeply grateful.
It is quite a change to meet people who understand people, are not hurt by them. The Benhayon family have shown me this consistency, just complete understanding, love and care for people leaving behind expectation, drive and need for people to be a certain way. Gorgeous blog Tanya.
Tanya, your story seems familiar. Something I experienced as I grew up too. I struggled to trust people and let them into my life as I always felt I would be left hurt. But this has also changed in my life, I now am able to let people in without having fear of being hurt.
Tanya, on pondering, I too experienced “consistently inconsistent” patterns of behaviour from my family, and friends growing up. And yes I also feel that because of this I didn’t trust people in general. But thankfully this has also changed for me, since meeting the Benhayon family- Serge, Miranda, Michael, Curtis and Natalie. They have only ever shown consistent love and equality for all. They are an awesome reflection of what true brotherhood is.
The consistency that you speak about Tanya has been my experience of the Benhayon family as well. I enjoyed reading your blog and understand that it is possible to trust again, which is something that the Universal Medicine courses and the Benhayons are showing me, but most importantly they’re teaching me that the person I need to trust most is myself which is possible once I have that connection with me.
I love what you share here Deborah – “…the person i need to trust most is myself, which is possible once I have that connection with me.” Key words to support the building of consistency within ourselves and each other.
I love that self trust Deborah, and found that when I have that other people trust themselves to trust me too and there is such honesty in the relationships I have with them.
This is a great read and I have to agree, my experience with Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon and the practitioners of Universal Medicine has been one of loving consistency for more than 13 years. I feel this is unique, very inspiring and so worth celebrating and appreciating.
I am with you Jeanette, and appreciating this is very important, as this type of consistency is not the ‘norm’ in modern day society at present, so having such a strong reflection shows us that this is not just possible but massively impacts those who choose to experience it.
I have know the Benhayons for about 8 years and have watched his family grow to what it is today. The whole extended family is a constant reminder of what consistently consistent is.
I completely agree with you, Tanya. Consistently inconsistent – wow, what a title. Thank you for nailing it so beautifully. Being consistently inconsistent is what I thought was how we humans behaved – unreliable, unpredictable and volatile, and I have settled for that. How each ember of the Benhayons lives is how we can be as an individual, as a family unit and as a community, and it is something I truly aspire to.
We all want others to be consistent, and then there is ourselves, how consistent am I. I now consider this before I ask for consistency from anyone else. And the more consistent I am the less I need others to be the same, yet the more I can enjoy when they are, as I enjoy the steadiness I am becoming.
Your article Tanya has led me to ponder on how it is that I don’t trust people when there is an inconsistency and I know I have that inconsistency in myself as well. Something that I am working on. So what is the special ingredient that the Benhayons have so that they are consistent? Love. Love for themselves, for each other and for all of humanity. So for me I am inspired to learn to live to this level of love so that I too can be consistent in being all of who I am.
Thank you Tanya! The Benhayon family are amazing! So supportive. Interacting with them has allowed me to open up in a way that was beyond my dreams and tap into a profound wisdom inside of me that when listened to and acted upon NEVER leads me astray.
amazing blog Tanya. I have also found the Benhayons to be very consistent, and this is very inspiring. When I think of myself and how consistent I have been in my life, well it has not been a strong point. And I too had a lot of mistrust in people and myself, because i couldn’t find anything that was really consistent, like you Tanya.
By us building consistency we build trust in ourselves, this leads to us feeling we can trust others. This supports us to feel safe and open up to humanity. The key is to be consistently consistent. That is something I am still working on.
Thank you Tanya for your observations and amazing awareness around consistency (and inconsistency). I loved your blog.
I can very much relate to what you are sharing, consistent consistency is something really nourishing and trust building. Thank you Tanya.
I agree Esther, learning to redevelop trust with others and nourish ourselves are skills that with the inspiration of others, actually supports us to both understand and change our behaviours.
I loved reading your blog Tanya and I realise it is so true, apart from the Universal Medicine community, I can’t think of any role models in my life who have been consistently consistent with the way they live or even in their interactions with me. I feel that seeing everyone as equal and holding all of humanity in the same love, with a tender hug, makes it easier for us to be consistently consistent with the way we are with everyone and anyone in every moment. It all comes down to choice.
Tanya what you write here is so true. All my relationships in life – with friends, work , food etc have been consistently inconsistent – even with people who are incredibly consistent with me. This is because my relationship with myself to date is inconsistent.
I’d never have considered this as something unusual- it was how the world was. Look at being on a diet and then coming off it and going back on when weight was gained. I saw how people were different depending on their bad moods, myself included.
People letting the things in the world around them bother them or determine how their day was – like for me it was if it was a sunny day or someone was friendly.
But until I met Serge Benhayon I’d never experienced consistency and learnt to trust humanity again. Now I am bringing consistency into my life in a much more disciplined way. I’ve never been consistent with myself but now it’s time I experience I can be trusted to be there for me no matter what. Not in a self seeking way as I have lived but in a Godly way.
Inconsistency really is the norm, people even use alcohol to become someone there were not. Reading this blog again I’ve come to realise the true value of consistency (not perfection) and the harm to us all in inconsistency. It’s a great reminder of how supportive for others consistency is, and I can certain relate to the healing effect of this consistency on my life with Serge Benhayon who is like a rock.
Good one Tanya, the only way we trust ourselves is to build our own consistency – that’s why many of us trust Serge Benhayon and family – due to their consistency.
If your ever wanting to be truly be inspired have a chat with the Benhayon family, you will see and feel that anything is possible
So true Brendan. I know as I become more consistent that I have begun to trust myself more. For me this has been super important as I can only truly trust others when I feel and experience how trust feels towards myself first. This has given me much more confidence in myself and my relationships.
I love this Tan, consistently consistent is such a great phrase. I too have observed how members of the Benhayon family are incredibly consistent. There is a quality within them that emanates this consistency. What a reflection! Truly amazing.
Really Enjoyed your blog Tan.
This blog brings up a lot of key points that I too never really considered but once read I can fully relate.
Seeing people being consistently inconsistent, allows mistrust, second work and a lack of quality.
For example if you work in a company where no employees are consistently consistent there is no accountability. How can someone pull you up for getting your work in on time 60% of the time if they don’t live it for themselves. If we don’t live it for ourselves it would be likely you don’t see anything wrong. Thus the biggest fall in quality is inconsistently. If there is consistency there is a constant building, refinement and self development, whereas in inconsistency there is a backward and forwarding in the same place.
Yes I agree – so very safe and the Benhayons are utterly consistent in their ways of relating to all.
This is so true. I had an experience recently that really reflected back to me how different the Benhayons, and all the students of the Way of the Livingness are in some ways to the trends put forward by modern society. There is an ‘in-built’ integrity and feeling of trust – due to this feeling of constant consistency, or at least in the students’ case, an absolute willingness and responsibility to equally live that consistency. I can now feel and appreciate that more in myself – and therefore in others. How awesome!
Beautifully expressed Tanya. I can fully agree with what you shared about the Benhayon family. Their unwavering commitment to love with all equally and in everything they do has inspired me to choose to develop this way of living for myself.
That’s so true Brendan, it is that trust that I have experienced in sessions with any of the Benhayon family that allows me to totally surrender, it’s delicious!
So well said Tanya, I am glad you wrote on this subject and all the points you have shared. I can vouch for all that you have said about the Benhayon family’s consistency. And thank you for pointing out the inconsistency that I have experienced in my life is only a mirror of my inconsistency. A great blog that has me reflecting.
Thank you for sharing your observations Tanya. I have observed the same consistency in not only the Benhayons but also many of the students attending courses and presentations. I am building consistency in my own life – it provides a beautiful foundation and strength, a rhythm which supports everything else in my life. Hopefully I will also become consistently consistent.
I am very grateful to have this consistently consistent reflection from the Benhayon family in my life. As you say “a consistency in nothing less than love and equalness with all”. A true inspiration on every level.
Woah, what an eye opener and potential game changer. Reading your gorgeous blog Tanya – and having also observed the total steady consistency of the Benhayon family over seven years, I can really feel what’s possible. This is an area that with development could change so much for us all. Till just now reading this I had not so fully felt the relationship between consistency and self trust – and what is possible from there. I’ve had amazing times, and long ‘patches’ of ‘steadiness’, but fuller consistency has till now been an underutilised resource. I can imagine how different each day could flow with the reliability and underpinning support that is available by developing and conciously building consistency. Like putting deep foundations under life for everything to be built on. I’m in, this is definitely to be developed in my own life.
Tanya this has been my observation of the Benhayon family. This is something that I am committed to developing in my own life from the inspiration of the Benhayons.
Beautifully observed Tania. Your words illustrate to me how we constantly crave consistency. That’s why the chopping and the changing you describe tends to hurt so much. The brilliant Benhayon family are amazing. They show us we too can live with the consistency of us, the consistency of love.
That is so true Tanya, they are consistently consistent, I really got the chance to appreciate this through reading this blog. I now know you and how their consistency has allowed you to become very consistent. The Benhayon’s are inspiring so many to also live consistently. Imagine the trust that the world could have if this were to expand throughout our community.
I love your style of writing Tania and I totally agree with you I have known the Benhayon Family for 10 years now and the quality they bring to everything they do is as you say CONSISTENTLY CONSISTENT- one of LOVE.
Tanya, so true, through my own observations of Serge and his family I now know I can no longer give up on the world or people in it; I’ve learned that love is possible and I’ve dropped my old given up on life mentality – it’s changed my life.
I agree Tanya, my observation and experience with Serge, Michael, Curtis and Natalie Benhayon has been that they are consistently consistent in their Livingness and are a true inspiration for all of humanity.
Hear hear Tanya, my experience with the Benhayon family has been the same, and from their consistent consistency I have been inspired to feel that I have the ability to also live this way – I’m becoming consistently more consistent all the time!
Thank you Tanya for a wonderfully consistent observation and presented blog! I love how you have shared your observations with us and I have also witnessed and experienced the Love and support of the Benhayon family. To have such an example in ones life is inspiring to be the same with all equally, family, friends and acquaintances.
Consistently consistent, what a great way to describe the Benhayons! This is how I experience them also, I feel so held and supported just being around them even if they do not speak to me or even look at me. This consistency benefits everyone and is well worth developing.
Very true Tanya. It is great to see that consistently consistent is possible as we have seen with the Benhayon’s and many other students.
Awesome blog and reminder to look at my own consistency in my life. In ALL areas. I couldn’t agree more when it comes to the Behayon family, so I second “Thank You for being you and being a great reflection of what is possible.”
Thanks Tayna for your blog. It makes me ponder on the way that I have grown up and the interactions that I have had with the many people in my life. I for one know that my behaviours have been very inconsistent and its amazing that you have met a family that are showing you what it is to be consistently consistent within their lives and the way they live are with each other. We have so many personal emotional problems that usually get in the way of communicating clearly that I can see how this is such an inspiration. Thank you again for your post.
Great blog Tanya and I agree with all you have written. It is so easy to write off the Benhayons as the ‘exceptions’ but what I have come to realise over time is that they are simply modelling how we can all be with commitment, personal responsibility and openness to living our lives in a different way.
I have experienced this consistency with Serge Benhayon too. And he makes his life about supporting others to live this consistent love everyday.
A great observation indeed Tanya. It always amazed me from the beginning that every time I saw Serge Benhayon he was exactly the same as the last time I saw him. I was met with respect and love, and was never judged for anything I told him about myself. He always was, still is, and always will be a phenomenal vessel for the expression of love. All his children are now grown up and also present this respect, love and honouring for all of humanity, and so does his current and previous wife. It simply cannot be denied, they meet you for who you are, no matter what is going on for you, and if you are out of sorts they gently bring you back. Consistent they are. Blessed we are.
Absolutely beautiful to read this blog thank you dearly Tanya. I agree the consistently consistent quality of the Benhayon family is very inspiring and has supported me to trust in people again. I too have then been inspired to begin bringing more consistency to my life.
Beautifully said Tanya – I agree, observing the Benhayon family for many years being ‘consistently consistent’ has deeply inspired me to also be consistently loving to myself and all who I interact with daily.
A great reminder of “power of reflection”. Livingness says it all! Thank you Tanya for writing this.
This is so great to read, thank you Tanya. It makes me deeply appreciate the Benhayon Family for how they are living as it supports me to trust again and inspirers me to live again consistently consistent as well 🙂
Thank you Tanya, like you I had stopped trusting people and I can now see it was because people were being consistently inconsistent….which is exactly how I was behaving but unable to see. I have learnt through observing all the Benhayon family that being committed 100% to what ever they are doing regardless of what it is, has reflected back to me my own lack of commitment and therefore my own inconsistencies with everything I did.
Thank you Alison for linking lack of commitment with inconsistency and how the reflection of the Benhayon family illustrated this to you which I can really relate to.
Beautifully expressed Tanya, I know that inconsistently consistent within myself which I once considered normal. As you share, it has been through roles models such as the Benhayons that I have come to know another way, a true way to be myself consistently.
Tanya thank you. It is great to read your article as you have put in words what I have felt and experienced with Serge Benhayon and his family. Building a foundation of love I am trusting me much more and other people. I too would like to say a big thank you to Serge and the Benhayon family.
Totally agree Tanya. In all the time I have known the Benhayon family, they have been remarkably consistent, and that is something you cannot fake over time. There are very few people who we can say in this world are consistently loving ALL of the time. All of us show and experience love at some point but so many of us are caught in the emotional roller coaster of life that those moments are interspersed by ups and downs. What the Benhayons have consistently shown me is that you do not have to live life with such huge hills and valleys, that whilst life is not always consistent and easy on the outside, it can be easy and consistent for us on the inside.
Beautiful Adam, I love how you highlight how this begins with a consistency within.
Tanya thank you for reminding me that from solid foundations for ones self, we can truly support ourselves and the love we all possess.
Kelly, a strong foundation is important, it is the strength of moving forward. I have been working on my foundation for the last couple of years and I can feel how much support it is for myself and everyone around me.
The Benhayon’s as a family are role models of a rare kind. Not only are the each dedicated in the themselves personally to the responsibility that they live, but as a team they are very solid and very supportive of everyone they know.
Tanya my experience has also been the same, witnessing a high level of consistency from Serge Benhayon and the Benhanyon family and Universal Medicine staff at events, over the years.
What a great reflection!
By becoming more consistent in my own life has led to much more balance, joy, better health and abundance. This I have also witnessed with many others that have been attending Universal Medicine events over the years. I have seen many changes in students from people being sad, burnt out, exhausted, transforming into full of life committed members of society.
Absolutely agree, I have seen people change into consistently, committed, joyful persons and have experienced it in my own life as well. Deepening my consistency every day has become NORMAL to me and is an absolute joy to be.
Hi Greg and Tanya, it has been deeply confirming to experience the level of consistency that Serge and his family present unfailingly so – and because of this, I have developed a deep trust in them because they never change to suit the situation but rather just hold absolute Love and tenderness as they present how they live – and leave it up to us whether we choose to try it for ourselves, but never judge. A huge inspiration.
In 6 years of attending Universal Medicine events and having sessions with Natalie Benhayon annually I have only experienced an amazing level of consistency. It has been the greatest experience of my life and so inspiring.
Great blog Tanya. This is what I too have noticed and felt from the Benhayon Family, amazing, supporting people who have built their lives on a true foundation of love. A great reflection showing us the way.
Tanya, what came to mind when I read your article was that love is a constant and so when we choose to reconnect back to the love that we are, we inherit the properties of love, consistency being one of those properties. We are each returning to be the love that we already are and so in time will all be the united properties of love. How scrumptiously divine will that be?
Beautiful Leigh; this way of consistency can be applied to all areas of life. For me I can feel my commitment to gentleness and responsibility is quite inconsistent, I do however know that this can change if I apply consistency to my daily choices.
Great blog Tanya; yes this makes sense to me, receiving and playing a role of inconsistency is rather exhausting. We blame our swinging moods on ‘that time of the month’, our food choices and other people. Feels so simple and true to reflect on the state of consistency offered by the Benhayons and to feel this as a potential that I too can live. Why live any less than the love we truly are?
Just got something else here; for me, I played the inconsistant game as a protection. If everyone around me was unpredictable and inconsistant and I was living on recognition then I would monitor how I was living based on what people could offer me. So I learned to be inconsistant as a tool to moderate how much I let people in or showed my true colours. Woah!
Experiencing consistency since attending Universal Medicine has allowed me to let down my guard and my belief that others were out to get me. It has allowed me to be more consistent with myself and as a result to open to others. The Benhayon’s consistency is so amazing , just like the sun that comes up every morning.
A very healing and confirming article for me, thank you Tanya.
I have experienced the same inconsistency in people and am learning to trust and let people in again. This is a parallel process of connecting to me and building more self trust, whilst I do it others.
The Benhayon family is worth studying since they are the ones that show us something special that is far from the normal we can see in society today.
Even if there the expressions “Consistently Inconsistent” and “consistently consistent” are only two letters away, the qualities they represent are two galaxies away. Through the Benhayons I have also learned that consistently consistent is an option. Just for this fact, my thank to them is enormous.
I have found this observing them also. The ‘consistently consistent’ is just part of how held I feel when I am with them and part of the inspiration I feel to live this same love in my life. It is just about Love!
It is always great to meet someone and know they are going to be consistent in how they are, no 2nd guessing what you are going to get, the Benhayon family certainly provide this consistent consistency.
Thanks to the Benhayon family, yes everyone of them, for showing us a different way to live. One that is nothing less than loving for every single person on the planet.
I love it “consistently consistent!” I didn’t realise it was missing in my life until I had a chance to observe it in the same way that you have Tanya. In what I have learned is that consistency builds trust and connection which is so desperately missing in our society.
Consistently consistent-it such is a game changer. I have been so inspired by Serge Benhayon and his family that I am now learning to be consistently consistent myself.
Thank you for highlighting this amazing quality the Benhayon family has and we all have in us. A consistent basis of trust and love. And the more I experience it the more trust I build.
I can totally relate to the worlds reflection and my own reflection back as consistently inconsistent and love the way you explained life growing up observing this. Then how this refection had caused a shutting down and mistrust of people generally ,as I felt they couldn’t be trusted, so I would only show the world a small version of the real me out of protection. I would also make choices deliberately to make myself inconsistent , as in” if you cant beat them join them ” mentality and write myself off to be a lessor version of myself , in a given up way . A rebel without a cause , or many excuses as causes.
I do agree and have witnessed all that you say with the consistency that the Benhayon Family have reflected over the many years I have observed and known them . I am also now feeling and known to be very consistent in my way of living , without perfection that is. Thanks to the many better choices made and understandings ,and have been inspired by the work of the Serge Benhayon Family through this process of self development.
I enjoyed your article and I love the “consistently consistent” as it expresses exactly what the Benhayon Familiy is. They are like a solid rock, that I can absolutely trust.
This is a very healing experience and it inspired me to also develop consistency on many levels. It is life-changing for me!
Andrea is so true, the Benhayon Family sure are consistently consistent. What a beautiful reflection for us all, to develop our consistency.
I used to think that consistently consistent was being very boring and fought hard not to be that way. Boy was I wrong….Having a consistency in our lives is so supportive, caring and loving for ourselves first and then everyone around us. The Benhayon’s are all true inspirations with how consistent they are with how they live, what they present, how they are with everyone they meet. They are definitely doing something right. Thanks Tanya for your great observations.
Thank you Tanya, I also find the Benhayon family a real source of true inspiration and a wonderful reflection of consistency in the way they live their lives and how they all make love so accessible in their interactions with anyone. They all have inspired me to keep letting go of protection I have carried in my body and be more open and loving with people I interact with.
Leigh, thankyou for highlighting consistency in the relationship to self, I hadn’t considered this, lots to ponder!
What’s wonderful about this is that Serge Benhayon and family are presenting practical steps for each of us to reconnect to ourselves so we can also live this same consistency. Inconsistency is a great source of sadness, trauma and confusion for many, because in one moment we are experiencing love from someone close to us, and the next anger or dismissal. We also do this ourselves and it feels terrible and can be very confusing. To me, the consistency lived by the Benhayons is something to talk about. Imagine how different the world would be if we were all consistently loving?
Thanks Tanya. As I read your piece I was feeling just how important consistency is. Expressing from an essence that I am rock solid in my connection to. I can feel how trust plays a big part here, trusting our essence is always there just waiting to be lived from.
I really enjoyed reading this Tanya. It just confirms again it’s up to us…we can choose to complicate things or choose to just be us.
I listened today to a presentation by Natalie Benhayon and learnt we often jump between being in our essence and hiding in relationships or living with ideals etc. when really if we choose to really connect and live from our essence we too can be forthright with our love.
Totally spot on Tanya – the whole Benhayon family has always been ‘consistently consistent’! I have never felt an ounce of change or annoyance or judgment from any of them, and only ever ‘consistent’ love and understanding. I can see when there is this inconsistency with myself, how it impacts on not being sure of anything or anyone, and also others not being sure of me. Thank you for sharing this… lots to ponder on.