by Gina, Brisbane, Australia
Often self-help workshops can be perceived as being money-spinners. Well, recently, for $5, I attended a presentation about Women’s health. It explored how women’s often punishing schedules, juggling a myriad of roles including carer, mother, partner, employer or employee, are affecting their overall health and well-being. The presentation proposed the consideration to self-nurture and self-love as a possible means to address vitality, energy levels, and feelings of overwhelm.
The example given was to consider how much time we spend getting ourselves ready in the morning. I realised I got dressed, cleaned my teeth then brushed my hair whilst my car was warming up and the garage door was being opened. At the same time, I had been having huge issues with getting my 3 1/2 year old daughter dressed; she refused to do it herself or let someone help her. Recently, we’d been leaving the house with her in her pyjamas because it all just got too hard.
So I endeavoured in a gentle, no-expectations way, to get up earlier and shower and dress before starting to get breakfast and lunches under way. I would make sure my breakfast was ready with the children (and not gulped down 5 mins before I was leaving) – so I was fully dressed spending time with my kids – who had cooked the breakfast whilst I was finishing getting ready.
After a few days, I realised my daughter had instigated and dressed herself each morning of that week. WOW! I could instantly feel the responsibility we have to show our children that by loving ourselves we in turn teach them personal responsibility and love towards themselves. They may have heard me many times speak with hollow words – “loving yourself is the most important thing” – but in that week they got to feel it for the first time and you could feel the increase in fun and joy in the home as a result.
A few weeks later we moved home. Our move was split over two days. On the first day, I got up and believed that because there was so much to be done there was not any time for a shower or any part of my new self-nurturing morning routine. So I put on some old, daggy appropriate ‘moving’ clothes and started my day. By 7am, I felt overwhelmed and had shouted at each member of my family for being lazy louts. My husband and I went about the day with very little dialogue and communication as a result of my rudeness. The next morning, I got up and this time paused before I launched into the day. Maybe I do have time for myself – so I showered, blow-dried my hair and dressed in clothes that were practical but still made me feel nice about myself. The day ran smoothly and we even had fun and a few laughs as we engaged with each other in our new home.
The presentation I was referring to above, that has supported me to connect to experiencing what I am sharing in this article, was delivered by Natalie Benhayon from Universal Medicine. I’ve attended quite a few events over the last four years. I could write much more about the benefits and support I have gained from attending these events but have chosen on this occasion to describe just one of them, because in its simplicity it encapsulates what Universal Medicine offers. For $5, I got to understand and feel how to embark on working with a self-esteem issue I’d previously paid psychologists high fees for, with little outcome.
The practical tools offered by Universal Medicine have supported me to discover for myself a way of living; to be able to manage and enjoy the busy lives we all have, and a chance to help me cope with and understand all the pain and hurt I see in other people’s lives and world events. The example I have described shows the essence of what Universal Medicine shares with us – by taking more consideration of ourselves and care to look after ourselves, we then invite the opportunity of bringing more love into our lives, which is shared and felt by those around us.
I am understanding as each day goes by, the more I am dedicated to loving myself, and making self-loving choices, the less drama there is in my life, the more flow there is in my life, the more joy my children express with and the calmer my husband is. I am experiencing the more loving I am with myself, the expression of all of those around me is also more loving.
This is never perfect for me, but just as I was able to reflect on what happened when I forgot to look after myself on the day of my move, each day I now reflect on how my treatment of myself has influenced the day’s events.
Thank you to Universal Medicine for sharing with me the simple science, that by my committing to bring self-love into my morning, my love-tank is filled and love is then what I have to offer to the day, and to all those with whom I share it.
The Truth about Universal Medicine 
Yesterday someone was asking why so many people are feeling ill these days. We seem to have difficulties just living life and this text shows that there is a simple way and a simple answer but it takes some courage perhaps but more so honesty to really look at what it is we do on a regular basis that might contribute in us feeling good or not so good. .
There are things that are priceless if we dare to go there.
Great to read this again Gina, I’ve recently been through a challenging period and noticed on some days I didn’t dress myself with the level care I normally take, and it felt like those days were in a kind of slump. It is amazing the quality of energy self care and self love brings to the whole day from simple everyday activities like how we dress ourselves.
Thank you Gina, with reference to your daughter’s turnaround, it’s amazing how much is truly communicated by living love rather than when we speak about love but don’t live it. We can never underestimate what our livingness communicates and inspires in another. It reminds me of the simplicity of how powerful our being is, as opposed to anything we can do.
There are many women feeling the pressure of life, overwhelmed and unable to cope and what seems common is we blame the circumstances and people around us, and a ‘change’ made from that place often takes us to another familiar situation of the same quality and we end up feeling there is nothing we can do. We cannot remind ourselves often enough to self-love and self-care as women, and those gatherings where we can be honest and be inspired by others and support each other are very much needed.
The simplicity of responsibility is here shown. Responsibility is really not the huge weight that we have been led to believe. It is what is shared here.
It is true that when we start to love ourselves we also feel more loving towards others.
It is very true that children learn more from our actions, movements and how we are than they do from our words. And, they are always watching.
Great point Carola and just highlights our responsibility in this regard,
A very beautiful blog Gina, the love I have in my life for me, equally is shared with and for others.
“Thank you to Universal Medicine for sharing with me the simple science, that by my committing to bring self-love into my morning, my love-tank is filled and love is then what I have to offer to the day, and to all those with whom I share it”.
I am in whole-hearted agreement with you Gina – if I get caught up in the energy of rush and don’t bring the space to my personal preparation for the day – it is this quality that I bring to everyone and everything – this is totally exhausting. Self-love and self-nurturing in the morning routine brings the energy of inner joy to share with all.
To pause before we launch into our days … simple, and so effective and something we often overlook. When we take that time, to love us first we are then more willing to see the love around us and allow it and we can love others. It’s that simple and something we can all do in every moment, and yes when we muck up, we just simply get back on our ‘love horse’.
Beautifully said Monica. It is quiet empowering to take a moment (even) to simply honor ourselves, as the next move we make is one with greater power, greater connection, and greater presence.
When we disregard ourselves we will always disregard others, this is unavoidable because it is simply how we live with ourselves. Such simple choices can make a huge difference to the quality we feel on the inside, which then allows us to handle life around us.
The cost of attending presentations by Universal Medicine and Esoteric Women’s Health has always seem extremely reasonable to me. No one could surely think that $5 for a presentation on being a woman in the world today is unreasonable!
I’ve previously spent $1000’s on workshops, presentations, sessions and books but my life didn’t change. Not only are Universal Medicine and Esoteric Women’s Health presentations reasonably priced they are truly life changing.
I love the reflection that was offered from the toddler in this story, as it shows how disruptive our behaviour can be and affects everyone in the house.
I wonder if the behaviour we see coming from our children is a reflection to us of what we are not doing for ourselves? Your daughter was, perhaps, saying in her way that she was not going to get dressed in the energy you were offering in the morning. It was rush rush rush and she wasn’t having a bar of it! I found with my kids that my timing was not their timing and if I actually created more space in the morning by being more organised with my own self care then magic happened for us all.
When we live from self-love and look after ourselves and the needs of our body, our life changes dramatically and that change is there for all to see by way of reflection, allowing others to feel how important self-love is and to make similar choices if they feel inspired to do so, often our actions are more powerful than words.
Natalie Benhayon has presented and passed on much wisdom, which many of us have benefited from, and shared with family and friends, I agree that when we care and nurture ourselves our lives have a greater flow and ease about them.
So often we run around helping others and never stop to consider ourselves, no wonder so many people are exhausted and craving stimulants just to get through the day. Your sharing around committing to a more loving routine in the morning and how supportive it was for not only you but your whole family it a great reminder to fill our ‘love tank’ and how this choice brings a quality and flow to our day that supports everyone.
“they got to feel it for the first time and you could feel the increase in fun and joy in the home as a result.” A beautiful foundation for all the family settling into their new home.
Gina what a beautiful example of how a true relationship to ourselves can change the world around us.
There is nothing like putting teachings into practice to see what happens and to be able to appreciate the quality of what was delivered. This and only this permits a proper assessment of the teachings. And, let’s face it, some do nothing for us. Others a bit. Others do but have a downside. Yet, Universal Medicine’s always work.
Thank you Gina for a simply beautiful blog about choosing loving care for ourselves each morning as we prepare for the day and the effects of our love on each other and our days events.
I absolutely love this blog. We would never go for a car journey without petrol – it’s impossible, so why would we begin our day without checking our love-tank is full. It’s our responsibility to ensure it’s full and we’re ready to go at the beginning of the day.
So true Meg and I love this analogy with the car! Always a reflection of how we treat our bodies.
The process of self love and rebuilding this into our lives is a very beautiful and endlessly worthwhile one to embrace and celebrate each step along the way. It is interesting how self love which is to deeply honour and give back to ourselves the love and care we are within has been seen as something bad and to be avoided. We have to put another before ourselves is the common misconception. But we must put ourselves equally first. The thing we often don’t realise is that by not valuing ourselves we are in fact bringing a lesser quality than we may realise to another.
“By taking more consideration of ourselves and care to look after ourselves, we then invite the opportunity of bringing more love into our lives, which is shared and felt by those around us” – this is a great reminder, thank you, Gina. So simple. When we look after ourselves, we are ultimately looking after everyone else.
It is the greatest responsibility to be who you are and inspire others to be the same.
I remember as a child feeling held back from doing my ‘fair share’ in household routines and duties, namely because someone else in the household carried it all as a burden that I realised in later years, was almost impenetrable to pierce through…
We can be so identified as women, with playing such a role of ‘carrying everything’ – how truly supportive to have the presentations as you’ve described here Gina (and I have also attended many…) that in the simplest of ways, offer powerful opportunities for us to wake up out of ways that haven’t served us, nor those around us, whatsoever.
It’s all too easy, isn’t it, for the woman trying to hold it all together, to actually neglect herself, and then experience (and likely express…) extreme frustration with those around her for not playing their part and seemingly adding to her load…
And therein is the key as you’ve shared here essentially Gina – what if the ‘load’ we’ve taken on isn’t ‘it’? What if coming back to a steady rhythm and way with ourselves is the true support everyone around us needs?
I notice that when I am in that running momentum in the morning and don’t put the care that I deserve into my day then I run my whole day in that. If I stop and put care into how I prepare for my day, it holds me and sustains me or has a point for me to come back to in my day.
Presentations like this give new meaning to ‘days off’ as every day is a day on and there is no off. I enjoy what this article is bringing in the way that no matter what the day has as a heading, every moment is a moment to take care of yourself. We can say this and possibly we do do this but when the pressure is on and the list has a thousand things on it do we really put this theory on the ground. We can also see how we are all role models from how we are, so no ‘time off’ to just get this done or justification around what the day holds it’s all on and everyone is watching. Good practice to the old ‘behind closed doors’ chestnut as well where we think just because we are in our own 4 walls anything goes. Children reflect to us how we are and not necessarily what we say, a great lesson for us all even though I have heard it a thousand times.
‘each day I now reflect on how my treatment of myself has influenced the day’s events’. feels a very powerful practice to reflect on the events of our day and to feel that everything that happened we created on some level as a direct result of choosing self-love or self-neglect/self abuse.
“I could instantly feel the responsibility we have to show our children that by loving ourselves we in turn teach them personal responsibility and love towards themselves.” Absolutely so Gina and not only are we showing our children what responsibility and self love looks like but they to get to observe us and how we feel and explore it for themselves. A perfect reflection of responsibility and the choice to make it so. Thank you Gina.
What you present here is a beautiful example of the effect that self care has on our days, and the relationship we have with ourselves and others.
Life changing wisdom shared for $5. Bargain! It goes to show Gina the most insightful and supportive real life learning’s don’t have to have an expensive price-tag along with them.
Great blog Gina, with a beautiful example of responsibility and self love. So gorgeous that you taught and reflected to your daughter by your livingness, thank you;
“WOW! I could instantly feel the responsibility we have to show our children that by loving ourselves we in turn teach them personal responsibility and love towards themselves.
Goodness how simple is that – making sure your love tank is full so you have that to offer to yourself and others. I can totally see how this would affect your day and how you spoke and behaved with other people.
Today is a day like any other and depending on your routine or schedule something like this happens: you wake, you get dressed or shower, have some breakfast, interact with children, partner or flatmates, pack some lunch, clean your teeth and leave. There will be some minor changes for each day depending on your schedule as I said, but do you ever wonder what life is all about? I mean do you ever wake and wonder why you are doing what you are doing? How many times can we do the same thing over and over without at some point feeling there is more? I sit often and wonder, am I just here to wake up every day and do the same or similar things and then just die at some point down the track having had a good or great life. I mean it doesn’t seem to make sense at all to me at this point.
What this article is asking is quality, in other words, we are going to do the same or similar thing over and over and as there is always a quality to it first, what is the quality? What are our thoughts when we wake, are they light and bright or are they heavy and dull? Do we drag ourselves out of bed on work days only to find on days off we can’t sleep? If nothing makes sense start to challenge why and the world will start to open up. What I have found the more you challenge the norm in you the more that opens. In other words, it’s an ongoing relationship that never ends, you just keep waking up ready to embrace whatever is in front of your face.
The title alone says it all. We don’t need war, conflict or fighting to change the world. We simply need to live love.
I had a session with a Esoteric Practitioner once who shared with me about regard and how gorgeous it is to challenge yourself each day to how much MORE regard you can take with yourself. I loved the idea, it made taking care of myself seem like fun and a never ending depth of love I can bring to myself and all I do.
Reading your experience has confirmed how much selfcare not only supports myself but supports others too. When we truly care for ourselves we inspire others to care for themselves too no matter how young or old.
Recently, I mirrored your experience, I had a day of decorating, moving furniture and general household chores to do and felt to skip self-care this one morning because there was so much to get on with and ‘I told myself skipping self-care was OK as I needed to get everything done’. The knock on effect though was huge, I felt dreadful by about 10 am and was surprised when I looked in the mirror and this is what I got reflected back. I had not appreciated how much self-care supported me and its importance regardless of what I have planned for the day; I might wear different clothes but the care I take to choose those clothes and put them on need not change.
I love the ‘love tank’ comment – so true. The other thing that really struck me in this blog is how when we express ourselves without any lived essence in our words, they are empty, no one really gets what we are saying and we are just living in our heads. But, when we speak from the livingness of our experience, our words are embodied and carry an energetic foundation that can be felt by everyone and real communication takes place. Understanding this has helped me see that there were certain subjects I really struggled to grasp at school, but this is because the presentation of them was purely mental, without the embodied livingness of them to support the expression – and so, didn’t have the energy to connect with. True communication is really a beautiful thing.
With out care for ourselves how can we show it to or hold others in it? Everything we experience on the outside starts with ourselves on the inside. Beautiful examples of reflection Gina.
That’s just one of the pieces of Wisdom I have also been offered by courses and workshops presented by Universal Medicine. It is constantly delivering simple, practical ways to live with love and self care that have transformed my life and the way I approach this beautiful world we live in.
Universal Medicine has always presented gold to us on how to simple make loving choices that truly work, such as this -‘by taking more consideration of ourselves and care to look after ourselves, we then invite the opportunity of bringing more love into our lives, which is shared and felt by those around us.’ A win/win that benefits us all.
Thank you Gina for sharing your experiences, it is amazing how different your day went when you took the time to take self loving care of yourself and the flow on effect to your family members compared to the day before. Such simple tools we are given but so powerful in changing lives.
$5 to attend the presentation about Womens Health. Such a small price to pay to reactivate our account in ‘the bank of wisdom’, the bank each one of us has an investment in, and access to anytime we want.
I used to think I thrived on drama and coping with it but I realize now it was simply a means to avoid being aware of how few, if any, self loving and self responsible choices I was making in my life.
Hello Gina and the list of ‘to do’s’ in life never ends, in fact it gets longer by the day. It seems back the front but the way to do more is to absolutely take time to take care of yourself. The more you rush around and try and get everything done the more time you actually waste. Next time you see someone doing this just take a step back and watch. It’s not to judge them but just watch and see how things are left and how they feel. The trap is to think there is no time instead of staying in time. What is the difference? The difference is that staying present with what you are actually doing and not thinking constantly you have no time or you need to catch up leaves you in a different quality. As we know there is a flow to life, we have all possibly experienced this at some point where things just flow, there is an ease, almost like you are being pulled along. This is a quality that supports you back, jump out of that flow and it can feel like everything is working against you. The only way or the key to staying with this quality or flow is to stay present in the moment of what you are doing, no matter how important or long the list. So if you have a thousand things to do, instead of doing 4 at a time that puts you in 4 different places at once, do one and do it well. The world is geared to not support this so you will be given all manner of thoughts but we can always come back to the feeling, does it flow or not?
Getting up early and dedicating the time to giving to myself makes such a difference to my well-being and how I respond to life. It prepares me for the day ahead and I am less likely to react to people and situations.
The $5 is more then great value for money Gina and what you give an example of here we got for free, thank you. As we look at our day or at any point in our life we have many things to appreciate or we can have many things we need to do or we can have nothing to do and life is worthless. What changes our view into each of these and why is it a different view for some and not for all. What is the piece that changes the view and makes life about something else other then the ‘do’. As you are saying here Gina, taking care, taking deep care of ourselves as the forefront to everything else.
Self loving choice bring a big difference to our lives, what you write here that it brings space into our lives. Bringing us true joy and a foundation of love for our day.
Gina you show beautifully how making space for ourselves in the morning to shower, dress, prepare breakfast, do whatever we need to do at a steady pace builds a nurturing foundation for the day and this flows into everything else we do.
What is the true purpose of self love, of devoting oneself to rhythms and rituals that focus on self care, and why does the devoted esoteric student make it such a large part of their life? Simple. Most of our focus as human beings is on what in outside of us. And not only do we focus on the external for our happiness and sense of identity, but equally allow what is outside of us to affect us detrimentally. And so we become a pawn to the world. As such, we have lost connection with the simplicity and magnificence of being – with ourselves, and as such with our true divine nature. But developing not only presence with what we do, but the right quality of presence, we start to build a foundation back to an energetic state of being known as fire. And that is nothing mysterious, although admittedly foreign to most of us, and so outwardly it would appear that way at first. But in time, and with dedication, by starting with being gentle in your movements, and progressively becoming more self-loving in your ways, you develop a way of moving throughout the day that ignites that which lays dormant within – gradually, slowly. This is a process however that cannot be done on its own, such is life, and so often support from another who has already reignited their own fire within is often required. There is nothing wrong with that. And that is where the esoteric modalities play their role in the scheme of things.
The story of your 2-year-old daughter’s behavior changing with you changing is truly touching, bringing more care to ourselves is the best way to communicate more care to others. Its easy to forget this when you are dealing with adults of work colleges, its easy to focus on what is seemingly the problem and push what you feel needs changing onto them. The best way is to self reflect and deepen our own care.
Gina these blogs are an absolute inspiration as they are very real and practical experiences – such as, I did this and this happened and when I chose this I saw changes all around me!
This week I realised how I don’t give myself time to stop and feel what I am still carrying and holding on to from work each day, before I go home to my family… so then I walk in the door in the same energy as I was at work and start working again, cleaning, organizing and getting things done. If I’ve had a tense and highly demanding day at work, I start being demanding at home and to my family to get the job done. I now can see that even giving myself 5 mins or even going for a walk supports me to let go of anything that is not me that I’ve taken on from the day and to start afresh. It completely changes my car ride home, how I greet my children and cook dinner!
I can very much relate to the ‘daggy’ clothes home day scenario… and it’s not even about the clothes, but how we prepare ourselves for the day. On weekends now, I find myself still going through the ritual of preparing for the day, with the same care and quality as if I was going to work. I may not wear the same clothes or put on as much make up – but I am still caring. This has made a huge difference to how I feel about myself.
Our reflections of living in a responsible and loving way with ourselves is more powerful than words…..as everything is felt.
How we treat ourselves influences everything we do. For example if we are having an off day, time to stop and see where and when we stepped out of love, and realign to walking in presence with our bodies.
Starting every day with a love tank full of love, how gorgeous to put it in these words, I will remind myself in the morning and check if my love tank is filled to the top!
Gina, I absolutely love how you were able to make the needed changes in your morning routine and then your daughter felt inspired by this and began to dress herself too! This just goes to show that every little thing we do, does have some form of impact on another. This then points out to us that there lies a great responsibility in how we live and the choices we make – as other people are always clocking this on some level and hence making similar choices – so if we make less loving choices then this too can impact on another. Hence, best we care deeply for ourselves as this might just result in the world choosing likewise eventually. You can call it a domino effect if you like, but eventually habits and choices will spread, you just have to be aware enough to make sure you are responsible for spreading the ‘good’ ones.
Wow Gina – the best $5 you ever spent. And how amazing is our Love – it is always there, infinite and full, just waiting quietly and patiently for us to simply connect to it and it never fails to respond instantly.
I love the very clear and practical examples of how a different choice can have such a profound impact on everything else.
It just doesn’t make any impact with others, or I could say, it is just not inspiring for others if we don’t walk our talk. Self love is so important, yet to really feel someone living this changes everything.
Beautifully said Gina, and a timely read. I slip into that ‘there’s no time for me’ mentality on occasions and the results are as you describe – it self-perpetuates. How I set up my day with self-care has a ripple effect, and it is well worth the effort to start the day with loving choices.
I now love getting ready for the day in the morning. Previously I would crawl out of bed to get my coffee and breakfast to jolt me into action, throw clothes on and rush like a tornado through all the other things. I was exhausted before I opened the front door. Being aware of the love I can bring to each and every choice throughout the day is a deepening commitment for me and one that my body thanks me for but it doesn’t end there, as you expressed Gina, the love in our choices goes out to everyone.
It is really amazing that the more loving we are with ourselves, the more loving other people can be too. But that doesn’t mean preaching about self-love as I have done at times. It means actually living it, as you did with your daughter.
How beautiful that your daughter is observing and being able to mirror something that is about self loving and caring for herself. Children mirror behaviour that they observe and is reflected to them. So it is important for us as parents and adults around children to know this and that they are watching all the time.
When you constantly put caring for others before yourself it’s the equivalent of kryptonite to the super woman image you are trying to live up to.
I have just started the long summer break I get as a teacher. I was just contemplating the time I have stretched out ahead of me and reflecting on how when I don’t have the structure of a working week, I can also let my self care routine slip. It’s as if, because I don’t have to be in top form for ‘performing’ at work, my self care doesn’t matter so much. It’s revealing that I will look after myself for others, but when it comes to doing it just for me, the same commitment isn’t there. This is going to be something I focus on this holiday.
A super reminder Gina to a take time to look after ourselves, especially when we have a busy schedule.
“The essence of what Universal Medicine shares with us is– by taking more consideration of ourselves and care to look after ourselves, we then invite the opportunity of bringing more love into our lives, which is shared and felt by those around us.” This has been my experience, time and time again with Universal Medicine teachings. They are for humanity. They don’t hold-back sharing their best each and every time. True integrity.
Thank you to Universal Medicine for sharing with me the simple science, that by my committing to bring self-love into my morning, my love-tank is filled and love is then what I have to offer to the day, and to all those with whom I share it.
l love this description and have to agree that my ‘love-tank’ has been so filled since learning so much beneficial and super, practical advice from Universal Medicine.
I love the practical examples you have given in your blog Gina. Very simple and relatable with some very powerful effects. It just highlights that self-care has many ramifications on those around us as well as our own wellbeing.
“we then invite the opportunity of bringing more love into our lives, which is shared and felt by those around us.”. It is impossible for it to not be shared with everyone and everything as we ourselves have changed as a consequence of living with love.
A great reminder of the power of self-loving choices and the enormous knock on effect this has on others. There is no doubt that the love we choose to live inspires those around us who live in its wake to embrace it for themselves.
There is no way to shortcut love and the more we understand and bring love into our lives the more love there is to bring. I can feel myself sometimes say…right, now I’ve got it, and then there is a call to go deeper and deeper…now more and more. The joy and harmony this brings is amazing as we all affect each other. This means we have to accept responsibility for the way we affect others and ourselves. Our deep care is not just for us, love always emanates beyond us and beyond what we ever imagined.
It’s ironic that we ‘believe’ or ‘think’ that loving others is putting them before us and many women with children (or no children!) do this. As you have shared from lived experience this is not the truth and your daughter beautifully reflected this to you. I can really relate with what you share .. the rushing in the morning and I don’t have children! With Universal Medicine and any of the Benhayon family or Universal Medicine Practitioners, whatever is shared or presented is always deeply healing, it’s not about a quick fix, looking outside of ourselves or spending vasts amount of money to help try and change our lives as you have shared ‘For $5, I got to understand and feel how to embark on working with a self-esteem issue I’d previously paid psychologists high fees for, with little outcome.’ Yet for $5 this has supported your whole family not just for an hour or day but something you tangibly have seen through your lived choices and ultimately love for yourself. $5 what an absolute bargain! I recently attended a Livingness 1 event by Universal Medicine that was for free, it was great to feel and see how holding ourselves in protection and keeping others out is not worth it, ultimately we are all love. With Universal Medicine it is never about the money and always about people and true care.
“I could instantly feel the responsibility we have to show our children that by loving ourselves we in turn teach them personal responsibility and love towards themselves.” Reflecting who we are to others can be an inspiration – or not! Taking the time to care for ourselves then enables us to care for others more profoundly.
Gina I really love the practical simplicity of the revolutionary article that you have shared. I too have found that by scheduling my shower routine in, first thing in the morning, then it feels like I have made a solid foundation for my day. Gradually I have added things to my routine, such as a little pelvic floor routine and it all increases the feeling of self care and dedication that I show myself.
Thank you Gina for a lovely and loving sharing, I will remember, with my own self love, to have my love tank filled each morning, so that I can share that love with all, whom my life touches that day.
I know that too Gina, that the inspiration you bring through the love you live is doing its work. There is actually no need to tell or instruct people but instead it is heartily felt and is inspired to live the same. And everybody does feel it as we have special antennas for that, and in that we love to be in this energy, therefore it is embraced with all that we are.
This is a great blog to re read Gina, and a reminder to start the day with self nurturing so that we may pass that nurturing on to others we come in contact with through our day!
This feels like $5 well spent and a return on investment that doesn’t come close to being able to put a value on! What I repeatedly find with any presentations by Universal Medicine is that they always offer absolutely practical and yet often life changing support and inspiration – it goes to show that we don’t need complicated processes in order to change the way we experience life, – we simply need a connection back to our bodies and to have a foundation of self-care.
Such simple practical things you were doing to support yourself Gina, and that in turn supported not only you but your whole family as well. What great examples.
I love this sharing Gina, and I am sure many busy Mothers do also! I am on my own but I still put more emphasis on other things and people than myself at times. When I realize what I am doing and take a stop moment, reconnecting makes a huge difference to my day running smoothly too. Thank you for the reminder.
Beautifully shared Gina and interesting to note that although this is written over 3 years ago the truth and wisdom shared through your experience is still of great value and needed today. You have shown how powerful it is when we choose to love our selves first, even in the seemingly smallest ways, as we can overcome patters of behaviour that leave us feeling exhausted and overwhelmed and instead build a foundation of truth for ourselves where we are able to then sense when we are not being loving. This act of love for ourselves first is also an act of love for all, as those around us are touched by how we live. This is a powerful testament of how the Ageless Wisdom Teachings as presented through Serge Benhayon and the reflections through our Livingness is in fact timeless, as the love we live is a known truth for all, through all time.
I noticed myself too taking much less care over my clothes and appearance when I was at home. I can totally recommend really taking the same care and attention in dressing at home as when we go out, I found it altered the whole flow of my day, and how efficient I was, and how much I enjoyed the day too!!
Its actually so good, that women are coming together to talk about the obvious patterns we all find ourselves in. Not one woman is exempt in finding themselves potentially being pulled from pillar to post at some point in their live, yet we carry on as if nothing is occurring and all seemingly well on the surface. Its like a ‘big elephant in the room’ that is being talked about and asking the question ‘why?’, and ‘Whats going on?’
I loved your example of when you moved house and the difference between the two days, one where you took time to care for yourself, and the other where you didn’t. I have found the difference in myself when I take the time to care for myself astounding too. Your example made me think of my days off, where sometimes I just put on old comfy clothes and don’t bother giving my hair or makeup any attention, and I just don’t feel great, so I’ve learnt to take some time in the morning no matter what I’m doing, or who will see me. The difference in feeling cared for and not cared for is MASSIVE.
This is a great point Meg as I can relate to my days off work being one when I just let myself go and not cared for myself in the way I did when I was preparing for work. Quite exposing really, that I was so invested in what others thought of me but for myself I did not care as much. When I began to focus being loving with myself it made sense why the quality of care was not present when I had days off. I was not truly caring for myself but more so to be confirmed by others, by my work. I now enjoy celebrating me and my beauty within every day, regardless of whether I am going to work or staying at home for the day. As I realise that every day that I wake up in an opportunity to live the fullness of Love that I am throughout the day.
‘Let myself go’ is the perfect way to describe it, and I love how you have added that you discovered that the love you had for yourself the rest of the time wasn’t true love, of course, that makes perfect sense, otherwise why would you not completely treasure yourself the whole time?
Absolutely Meg there is much for us all to truly to treasure, all of which deserves to be lived, shared and celebrated now.
Meg although I totally agree with you, I am still fluffing around, choosing to have ‘on days’ and ‘off days’ as far as the attention that I give myself. The result I can feel is that I either feel bright and shiny or do me what dull. I feel it’s time to look at why I choose to be a dulled version of myself.
A beautiful example of how the way we live and the choices we make affect everyone and everything around us so that they, in turn, also affect everyone else. This is the true message that Universal Medicine is sharing with humanity.
Self care is the base ingredient to any ‘good’ life. As it beaches off to encapsulate anyone and everyone.
Very true Luke. A great reminder of the fact that, however we choose to live effects the world we live in. Self-care is what establishes a foundation of Love for ourselves through which we are then guided to live in truth, with all, the Love we all are.
!00% agree :), for it takes a spark to reignite a flame.
I love the simplicity and wisdom shared in this blog Gina, thank you for the beautiful reminder that our commitment to self-care not only supports us but everyone around us as well.
Great blog Gina.. the ripple effect of one taking self care has such a profound on everyone else it is gorgeous.. and the return of this self care ripple back offers a deepening opportunity to the self care initiated… Now there has to be medicine for all in that! The reflection of self care inspiring more self care back!!
I have noticed too what a difference lovingly being with myself makes. I tend to keep things in order and am more full of myself, in a non obtrusive way. I especially observe this in my kitchen these days. When I open a cupboard or the cutlery drawer or the fridge and it shows me where I am at with myself.
A gorgeous reflection Elaine of the beautiful ever-deepening journey of self-discovery that presents when we consistently choose to be loving with our selves.
Gina, what a great investment of $5, not only for the gift of self-care you have been able to give yourself, but the gift this also offers to others by reflection…. Very powerful and one I can vouch for myself!
Loving ourself is super powerfull, and can be very inspiring for all that we meet. As it emanates from within, the true confidence of loving ourself.
The powerful aspect of Universal Medicine for me has been, that there was nobody who solved my problems for me, but amazing people, who lovingly supported me in seeing where the problems and tensions in my life rooted and that it was nothing but my own choice that stopped me from living differently.
Well said Michael as this is what is so empowering about what Universal Medicine presents. That through being inspired by the way Serge Benhayon lives, and the Livingness of the student body, I have come to realise that it is only ourselves that can choose to live the Love we are designed to live or choose to not live the Love we all are.
Thanks Gina, I’m finding the more that I take time to love myself, the way I feel about myself and my relationships are really changing in really amazing ways
A very beautiful blog Gina, so lovely to read how self loving and nurturing you are being. Obviously this is a great inspiration to your children, how gorgeous.
What a lovely sharing Gina it really does show that if we take the time to look after ourselves and not leave everything to the last minute rushing around to get everything done that this has a knock on affect on everyone around us.
So true Gina, we need to fill our own ‘love-tank’ first, great expression!
“The practical tools offered by Universal Medicine have supported me to discover for myself a way of living”; this is how we can make those different choices towards self-love because Universal Medicine has presented us with practical tools which are simple and easy to put into practice, otherwise it’s all just knowledge which sits in our heads and doesn’t effect changes in the body.
I whole heartily agree Gina,”by taking more consideration of ourselves and care to look after ourselves, we then invite the opportunity of bringing more love into our lives, which is shared and felt by those around us”.
Filling up our love tank is a responsibility we choose not just for ourselves, but for all others who receive the overflow of who we are.
‘filling my love tank’ I love this and I will remember this tomorrow in my morning ritual and I am sure it will deepen my nurturing and love towards myself and all I will encounter during the day, thank you Gina!
That is so true Matthew “Self love and self care is the future of worldwide rehabilitation from many illnesses. Science will eventually catch up and prove that we are energy first and by changing the quality of the way we look after ourselves, we change the path of illness and disease in our lives.”
“Thank you to Universal Medicine for sharing with me the simple science, that by my committing to bring self-love into my morning, my love-tank is filled and love is then what I have to offer to the day, and to all those with whom I share it.” I love this sentence it is so true I find If I start my day with my self-loving and nurturing routine my day just flows with ease.
Gina, you definitely got value for your money and have given us a gift in the process with this blog. It describes so simply how we can set ourselves up to either have a steady rhythm and flow to our days or we can let the drive and busyness rule and we end up frazzled, irritable and exhausted. Thank you.
“I could instantly feel the responsibility we have to show our children that by loving ourselves we in turn teach them personal responsibility and love towards themselves.” I love this Gina – so inspiring to be shown how our self-loving choices affect those around us to do the same, many of which we may never see the fruits of.
Thank-you Gina, this just goes to demonstrate how the way we are with ourself has an effect on all those around us and therefore we have a responsibility to not only ourself but to our families to show the way, by the way we care for ourselves and walk our talk, if we want our families to lovingly care for themselves.
Reading this a couple of years down the track is interesting. I am deepening this commitment to myself and my self care through an understanding that I am worth it. I can see that it is not the doing of showering, putting on make up or choosing the right clothes for the day. It is the understanding that those things are being performed because I am worth attending to them and not giving more value at any time to a chore – that the family or getting the lunches ready are more important. I am a divine, beautiful being and I need to value my worth and reflect this in all I do. So now, I am saying to myself, at this particular point am I honouring what my body requires or am I giving more worth to achieving something else. This has been quite profound. I just love how self care and self love only but continues to deepen and deepen, never getting to an end point.
“I am understanding as each day goes by, the more I am dedicated to loving myself, and making self-loving choices, the less drama there is in my life,” Drama is an amplification of ordinary events, the events and reactions to those events become magnified and seem larger than life, definitely larger than us. We can use those events thinking that we will get recognition through them. Such a complicated way to get noticed or make something out of nothing. We only do this if we don’t feel that fullness and amplification in ourselves first. Doing The Gentle Breath Meditation is an amazing way to feel that amplification as are so many other tools and modalities within the Universal Medicine kit bag.
‘I am experiencing the more loving I am with myself, the expression of all of those around me is also more loving.’ I absolutely agree and can say whenever I feel cranky or out of sorts it is not the people or circumstances around me that have brought that upon me but simply myself. It always comes back to me, how I treat and care for myself.
For $5, you have received a lot of true value that and your family have shown great benefit from Gina. It is not about the money necessarily, it is about the Truth and paying $5 for what I feel is absolute gold is simple proof of that fact.
Thank you Gina, you come across as a very down to earth person and I absolutely adore your style of writing, I could read it all day. I have had so many life changing 5 dollars talks with these guys, AKA Universal Medicine. I am so glad you have put it into a blog as I have had similar experiences yet nobody would know about mine as they are not documented.The responsibility we have to express these life changing moments to our community should be a matter of common practice no matter how big or small.
This article speaks to me and says there is no excuse not to share magic with the world as it is so important when you look at the state of health and state of being in our demanding modern age.
I have 5 children and it is easy to fall into the trap of feeling like you do not have time for yourself in a morning but if you allow those thoughts to enter or take over it always ends badly. Things are the opposite to what you think, the more you honour yourself as a woman and then give yourself the time you deserve the more time and space is created in a morning. Plus the practical fact that the children don’t fight you when you are in this state of being as you are not fighting yourself. This frees up a lot more actual physical time as things flow so smoothly.
Hi Gina, I have been playing with my mornings lately and I have been super surprised with how much fun it is. Rather than getting into a routine of what I do each day, I have been doing what ever comes to me as an impulse. Wether its exercise as soon as I wake up or shower or computer, I have not been locked in to one thing but rather feeling how I feel that day and acting accordingly. I have managed to avoid that 15 min rush on the way out the door finally, as that was a how I left the house everyday and it was causing a mild anxiety.
I love the point you make here too Sarah, for more time than not for me honouring myself as a woman was something that was nowhere near my ball park, that is until recently whereby I have been observing that as soon as the first choice is made to override something that requires my further attention, I begin to rush, and before I know it I’m in a race, racing around in avoidance of what it is that is required, to stop and check the engine (so to speak).
Putting ourselves last on the list of things to do not only depletes our ‘love tank’ but I have observed actually encourages the highs and lows of emotional dramas to fuel my day. Thankyou for sharing so honestly Gina, great blog.
Suse- I too have found that if I put my needs last eg only allowing 5 mins to attend to my needs in the morning that I end up feeling frustrated, angry, in nervous energy and this results in my day becoming stressed and ends in feeling exhausted and unfulfilled within.
This is a simple and great example of self-loving acts and how they permeate our lives and other people. Everything is energy and everyone is affected by our energy.
I love your analogy Gina of filling our own ‘love-tank’ with which to fuel our day, by the little steps taken and choices made to truly care for ourself.
Giselle, I love the analogy of a ‘love-tank’ too, it’s a fuel tank that is being constantly filled or drained by the choices we make, and of course, it’s always up to us if we put in the correct fuel.
Yes, Gina, I couldn’t agree more. I too found time to get up earlier so that I was ready before everyone else in my house woke up and ‘needed me’. The more I have done that – the less they need me 🙂 go figure. The $5 spent on learning how to put this little changes into our lives means that when I do have a session I bring far more personal responsibility to my own healing.
What I appreciated about your sharing Gina is the simplicity and practicality of how we live and what we choose that makes all the difference to our quality and state of being. Your example of taking the time to be with you in your morning routine was a beautiful insight into how simple and practical it actually is – and the affect it has on all others around you. Thank you.
I find the way I conduct my morning routine can make or break my day! Keeping is simple and with a focus on quality and care makes a massive difference to the way my day unfolds.
“By my committing to bring self-love into my morning, my love-tank is filled and love is then what I have to offer to the day, and to all those with whom I share it” – Gina, this is such a gorgeous sentence and well worth remembering that self care is not selfish.
The power of self care through a living way and reflection is far greater than by the spoken word.
The ripple effect of your self-loving choices is just so beautiful to read. The enormity and power of committing to loving and honouring yourself like you have is undeniable when confirmed not only by your family, but in the way you now view yourself and the love you offer and share with the world.
yes I agree, I especially loved reading about how her little daughter behaved so differently in response to how Gina went about her day-this shows us that kids do take on and feel everything, and respond to what we show them, not by words, but by choosing the energy we want them to also choose.
Great observations Gina. Your article shows so clearly that when we choose to start our day gently with plenty of time for ourselves we provide space for us to be with those around us and bring harmony where otherwise tension rules.
What a contrast between when you take time and when you don’t take time- the whole house is affected. Really highlights that how you are with yourself affects how you are with everyone else.
absolutely it does- and how important it is to be responsible and consider our impact in all interactions
Thank you Gina – a beautiful sharing with us all. I’ve realised too how I start my day is how my day finishes. In the way I behave during my day has a knock on effect with all those around me.
What a massive difference these simple self-loving choices make for our self esteem and the harmony within our families.
Thank you Gina for your great example of how simple love can be.
There is a MASSIVE difference that occurs in our self esteem, and in our general self worth when we start to deeply take care of ourselves. The answer to these seemingly huge, world epidemic problems is super simple.
What Natalie and Universal Medicine presents is of great value. Especially when applied.
From my experience I have an easier going morning when I am going to bed with me the night before-taking time to let go of the day, have a bath, read a book, sometimes even prepare my clothes for the day.
Elena, I can feel the enjoyment in your winding down from the day. Thank you for inspiring me to take more time at the end of the day to prepare for the next.
Elena such joy you have expressed in your daily wind down for bed. It really is delightful to support ourselves with such simple loving tasks as this prepares us for the next day in our cycle.
I totally agree, there can be no total monetary value placed on knowing who we are, and how to rebuild love in our lives – it’s truly amazing, and what Universal Medicine presents is great value.
Gina, you have inspired me to do this at work. Thank you.
Gina, you certainly received extraordinary value for money from your $5 investment when you attended the workshop presented by Natalie Benhayon. The results of the changes that you chose to make and the practical tools that you were offered, have flowed on very naturally to your family; that was so great to read ,as you didn’t set out to change them, but simply to change yourself. I just love this ripple effect!
Great point Ingrid about the value for money. We are worth investing in.
Thanks Gina for your sharing. Your example highlights how making more self loving choices can have a huge impact on yourself and those around you.
I agree Peter, by us making more self loving choices for ourselves just like a domino effect it allows and inspires others to do the same for themselves.
Thank you Gina, You have inspired me to put on make up and some really lovely clothes today. I love how you bring notice to wearing old clothes for doing what could be dirty jobs. There is no reason at all why we shouldn’t wear lovely clothes all the time, in the knowing that they might end up looking not so smart, but there is a washing machine and iron at the end of the day, and now it is possible to buy such cheap clothes that replacing them may not be so difficult after all.
Yes even taking care to feel good in work cloths is important, every little step of self love is a drop in the love tank and contributes to the foundation we create for ourselves to then be a vessel for Gods love to enter.
That is an amazing correlation between you looking after yourself and your daughter getting herself dressed! Amazing. So much to learn and share about how simple life really can be if we chose to honour ourselves and how we feel.
To think for a long time I always thought it was the nice expensive clothes that made people look and feel good… Hook line and sinker for that one !!
Well these days I wear a wetsuit to work and I know for sure it’s not the wetsuit that makes me feel great it might be black and snug, but the care and how I’ve treated myself right up until that moment tells another story.
Simply gorgeous Gina. We have so much to offer the world (our family/friends/work colleagues) when we first take the time to look after ourselves and develop a truly loving relationship with ourselves.
I love this Gina..”each day I now reflect on how my treatment of myself has influenced the day’s events.” This is Gold, how many of us go through life believing that the way we care for ourselves has no impact on the choices that we make. That we are victims of our situations rather than creators of what is going on. Building self-love and developing a deeply caring routine for myself through out my day has empowered me to know that I do have an affect on the quality of my day and that self responsibility is a true support not an arduous task.
Re-visiting this blog it is so lovely to be reminded of the amazing impact that your self-loving routines had on you and all your family, and how this led to less drama and more flow in your life. This has been my experience too, and it is great to reflect on the occasions when things go awry and what has led to me feeling I don’t have time to look after myself first before diving into my day.
I agree Samantha words are empty without appropriate action but demonstrating what loving ourselves looks like gives them a golden opportunity to make their own self loving choices.
This is lovely Gina, thank you. Children are so very observant and they feel and know what is really going on around them. It is great to read that the way you were (in the morning) have inspired your little girl to do the same!
Such simple and practical tools that we can apply throughout our day, that work…and your gorgeous example Gina is a living example and inspiration that living life in a way where we deeply care and nurture ourselves and develop a loving way work, in every area of our life.
Such a beautiful and powerful message to gently and lovingly self-care and how this benefits all.
“I could instantly feel the responsibility we have to show our children that by loving ourselves we in turn teach them personal responsibility and love towards themselves”.
Thank you Gina for sharing your experiences and expressing so clearly.
Gina I love mornings when there is such a promise of the day to come. Taking gentle care of what needs to be done to nurture myself feels beautiful and is a great beginning to the day.
Gina you have beautifully illustrated the profound effects that a self-loving approach can have on our day and those around us. I love the gem ‘… each day I now reflect on how my treatment of myself has influenced the day’s events.’ Thank you.
Gina such a perfect example of how our lives can unfold in unbelievable ways just by making more self loving choices. Thank you.
So true, ‘loving yourself is the most important thing’. If we say it to our children, but not live it, they will feel the emptiness of the expression. I know my son feels exactly where I am at, he reflects if I truly live my words or not. I am grateful that he doesn’t accept anything less from me, so he has a chance to choose that as well.
Thank you Gina for this great reminder to be loving with ourselves
And to feel the lovely results of this love with everyone around us.
I loved this part too, your caring of yourself led to the self care by your daughter without you having to say a word.
Wow this is just great Gina in the example of your daughter dressing herself from a pattern of refusing: “I could instantly feel the responsibility we have to show our children that by loving ourselves we in turn teach them personal responsibility and love towards themselves”. Say no more. The power of true inspiration.
I love how you describe the ‘love tank’ Gina. When we neglect ourselves, we really are running on empty. Its awesome how making these simple self-care choices fills us up, and we inspire others, naturally. It is a simple science as you say.
Absolutely Gina, I’ve had the same experience in my home. If my home and the people in it are not feeling so great, I stop and ask how I’m feeling. It’s learning to take responsibility for our actions and feel how they affect others, and in turn the all. Great example of how a little care can go a long way, and how we are living examples, which becomes an offering for a different way to be.
Gina this is exactly what I have been pondering on for myself. I know that there is another level of self care for me to go to but I seem to be faltering. A lot has to do with my perceived idea of time. I know that my concept of time will shift when my level of self care shifts but right now I am stuck. I also have a nagging suspicion that it has something to do with lack of self worth. Ok tomorrow will be a test, I’m painting my kitchen which is already on my mind as being possibly too big a job. Will I be able to shower and put on a little make up when usually I would roll out of bed and into a pile of rags for my morning routine ! I’m gonna give it a go !
I love the simplistic,nurturing and loving way that Universal Medicine present on all subjects that impact our daily lives, Always expressed from someone who is a living quality of that example as a reflection. Yes Gina, all this inspiration and support for $5. Very beautiful and with loving intent.
Thank you Gina for the valuable reminder of how we are with ourselves affects how we are in life and with others. It was beautiful to feel how you chose to take time to honor yourself in the morning, to connect to your love, and from that loving connection how love continued to flowed throughout your day.
Such simplicity. I am beginning to deeply realise there are no short cuts. If I wish to be loving I need to love and cherish myself and stop waiting for it to come from the outside first.
Proof that the only way to show another that they indeed can take care and deeply love themselves is by example. That is being committed to deeply care and love you first so that shines out to all.
This is so lovely Gina! The more we love ourselves the more we are surrounded by it. Your sharing here is a great reminder of the truth that when we are not in connection with ourselves, no matter what the context, things go not so well around us. A well spent $5! Thank you for sharing the spoils.
This is gold Gina. I can not imagine how many homes would completely change in the morning if this were to be posted on the front page of the Sydney Morning Herald. Most families with young children just assume the tantrums in the morning while getting ready to go out the door are a normal part of life and there is not much one can do to change it, yet you have shown by living example this is not the case.
So awesome to read your blog Gina, Thank You for sharing. This is such a great reminder for me and inspiring me to self-nurture and take time to self-care. I have young children too, from what I have read it is the best way to teach our children these qualities is to be living it everyday.
Such a great article Gina. I love how you have direct examples of the difference it makes when you choose to be worthy of yourself.
Very simple but very valuable, thank you for sharing.
It is actually so super simple- I´ve got to experience the outcome of taking more time for myself as well- it gives me that warm feeling throughout the day, and whenever something is happening unpredictably, I feel much more steady in my body– truly amazing.
Thank you Gina for sharing your experience of how important it is to start the day off with loving care for ourselves, which then is felt by other we come in contact with.
Very timely to read your sharing here Gina, it is difficult for me to be consistent and committed to self care and self love and this reflection you have described is such a great mirror, albeit not always one I want to look in!…. thoughts like “If only they would do what they were asked to do”, not how can I deepen my self love and care for myself its such a great way to take full responsibility for the life you are living.
Thank you Gina, you have beautifully expressed the amazing difference self nurturing and self love can make in our lives. For someone like me who is just learning this practical tool, it was reassuring to hear that we don’t always get it right, and the importance of recognising that we have the ability to change and ‘get back on track’ in an instance by stopping, reflecting and moving back to self nurturing and self love. I too have seen the difference self nurturing myself has made in my teenage daughter….it has taken the stress out of parenting a teenage girl to know it is so easy to show her how to love her self rather than tell her.
I learned that everything in life is equally important, so the care for myself is just as important as working, for example. The quality of how I take care of me defines the quality of how I work, cook, talk etc. Beautiful to know that the one thing does not fully exist without the other, and that we can choose the quality of all.
I agree delorme2013 and that is what makes it so accessible for us all – that it is the quality of how we take care of ourselves and not what we all do and achieve.
Thanks Gina, a great reminder about how simple and joyful life can be when we simply choose to make every choice a loving choice.
I certainly have days where I feel overwhelmed by mid-morning and it is always a result of me rushing, stressing and not caring for myself properly. In contrast, there are many days when I am gentle with myself and take the time to prepare myself for the day. I always find it amazing the beautiful connections that I have with others on these days.
It seems incredible that the key to a joyful life with great relationships starts with something as simple as taking better care of ourselves and yet, all of the ‘great’ religions, schools and universities fail to communicate this as a foundation of life. It does make you wonder how much awareness, responsibility and care there is in these institutions.
Good point Rob, for all the so called ‘intelligence’ that abounds in these institutions, there is not much common sense when it comes to making choices to self-love and self-care.
“By my committing to bring self-love into my morning, my love-tank is filled and love is then what I have to offer to the day, and to all those with whom I share it” – this is beautiful, and I can feel how you are making the whole process very practical and every day thing. I love it.
Being committed to spending gentle, caring time with myself at the start of each day, makes such a difference in how the remainder of the day progresses. I used to always rush and could not seem to find the time for doing nurturing things, especially in the mornings, when trying to organise family. Universal Medicine presentations have been instrumental in bringing simple ways we can implement caring and loving actions for ourselves and I have found the changes to be profound.
I love this practical article Gina, it reminded me of the struggles I had when my children were little and it makes sense that when you care and take time for yourself the children will feel this and respond differently, with how they are with themselves and situations.
Thank you Gina for peep into your day and how you have changed it for the better with the help of Natalie Benhayons presentation on Women’s health. My children now have children of their own and I see what they go through to get their days started, it is not much different to when I had 4 children to get organised. It is great to see that by taking that time just for you of a morning it has made such a vast difference to you and your families lives. Love begets more Love.
My love tank is filled……that is so beautifully and simply expressed. It totally makes sense. And then, as within so without, the magic of the surrounding environment reflecting the love back to us.
It is really incredible that when we self care we send out a signal for others to do the same. Whilst some accept, others reject, but the ripple effect of this spreads far and wide, much further than we realise.
I agree Gina, the simple but so profound tools provided by Universal Medicine are worth a lot as your example shows. They truly give you the choice to change your life and that of the people around you, making life more enjoyable, increasing vitality and overall well-being.
“My love-tank is filled with love and love is then what I have to offer to the day, and to all those with whom I share It” I think this is gorgeous. Isn’t it amazing when we realise that how we are with ourselves has an effect on everyone around us and by being more loving and caring about our own well-being then that supports our children to be more caring and responsible for themselves and that can continue on reflecting to all the other children that they are friends with.
Well said Deidre – I think we have to stop mistaking selfish for self-love – and understand that to appreciate ourselves it to inspire others to do the same.
That is in no way selfish. I have experienced this very thing at my workplace, and it is brilliant to see that out of my own choices I have inspired others to make their own choices in how they choose to be.
Thank you Gina, this really resonated with me, ‘the practical tools offered by Universal Medicine have supported me to discover for myself a way of living’ – this is so true, and with these practical tools we are able to bring a focus and support into everyday that builds a true confidence and ease…
This for me seems to be an important aspect that you are adding, Clare.
It is through this confidence and ease that we will live with more and more love and by that not only bring significant changes to our lives, but also live a life that has the power to inspire others to feel that there truly is a different way to live – a gentle way of self-love and taking responsibility that will lead to love, harmony and joy.
I love how you wrote – ‘I could instantly feel the responsibility we have to show our children that by loving ourselves we in turn teach them personal responsibility and love towards themselves,’ the example you gave is a perfect example of learning how parenting really should be – via inspiration rather than by pure instruction.
Beautifully said Meg. Parenting via inspiration is the natural way to teach your children how to live. We teach them to be stressful by living stressed but we also teach them to live self-lovingly if we choose to live self-love everyday – great responsibility!
Yeah! Absolutely! We definitely have a huge responsibility in the way we act and hold our selves, especially in terms of the lack of self love and self respect that is currently present in society.
I agree megvalentine36, my kids are a constant reflection of how I’ve been living. When I’m living by inspiration and not instruction the harmony is felt in the house.
That is an amazing way to have a relationship with your kids, a one mutual reflection and support to not get stuck in old patterns and to always keep evolving.
Gina I apprecaited reading this blog for a second time. What was great to ponder on again was the importance of being willing not be perfect while be open to looking at why we slip into unsupportive patterns. Thats a gold for me today!
Another thought here Gina, the change in your daughter’s behaviour a clear signpost that children often act out whatever is going on for us in one way or another – something simple that is often overlooked.
Thank you for the simplicity of your example around your morning schedule, it brings the point clearly into focus, although it goes against our conditioning, that to care for ourselves first has an enormous effect on everyone around us.
Thankyou Gina, what a great example of how the way we start our day affects us, and all who come into contact with us that day. When we are not with ourselves as we wash, dress and start our day, we are not with ourselves fully all day as we carry that inattention round with us.
Beautiful blog, It is so simple but so big for it makes such a difference in the way we are everyday, all the self-loving things we do will add to the way we are each day, and what I like a lot is that it is a continuing development that will never stop.
What you have written Gina I have experienced myself, how we care for ourselves effects every one around us. What we get out of attending Universal Medicine presentations is priceless, pure gold as someone else has put it.
Great sharing Gina, very powerful! Its such a great reminder how we decide if our “love-tank” is filled or not and how this affects everybody!!! The responsibility we have is massive and avoiding to be love is truly harming. That’s what I am learning with Universal Medicine, the beauty of responsibility.
I appreciate the simplicity in what this blog presents. Bringing back the foundations of self love and the very important tools that Universal Medicine offers as a way of living.
Thankyou for sharing. I love to hear about the massve differences this simple change can have to how each event in your day can turn out. I have felt these changes in my own lives, and appreciate so much the women’s groups presented by Universal Medicine.
I too did the rushing around in the morning with no regard for myself or my family. This is a beautiful example of how different your day can be by simply taking the time at the beginning of the day to be more nurturing and loving with yourself. You have inspired me to go deeper with my morning rhythm and be more appreciative of our this reflects in my day.
Loving ourselves first by the choices we make on a daily basis have an effect on the people around us. It is an invitation for others to make loving choices themselves. This story shows that.
Awesome Gina, I particularly like the part when you said:
“I could instantly feel the responsibility we have to show our children that by loving ourselves we in turn teach them personal responsibility and love towards themselves.”
We have a huge responsibility in the way we treat ourselves that affects all those around us.
Thank you Gina. I can relate with this so well.
It is so beautiful to feel and see the differences that are there once we start to make loving choices and care for ourselves.
At first it was a big step from always putting everybody elses needs (or what I thought they might need ;o)) before my own. This in great parts has been a trick so that I would not need to take the responsibility for myself, but could feel good because of what I did for others and if something did not go well I was not to blame, because I was the good and hardworking one. I struggled and struggled and struggeled.
With the making of loving choices simplicity has comes into my life and it is suddenly so obvious that the most loving thing you can do for everybody (including you) is to start loving yourself.
Can it really be so simple? Yes it can. Thank you Gina, your sharing is inspiring.
I too have attended presentations on Women’s Health by Universal Medicine and have found the wisdom shared to be priceless (and yet very reasonably priced!).
“The practical tools offered by Universal Medicine have supported me to discover for myself a way of living; to be able to manage and enjoy the busy lives we all have, and a chance to help me cope with and understand all the pain and hurt I see in other people’s lives and world events.” If these tools were only taught within every school and home what a different world we would living in. In time this will be the case as love will eventually shine through.
Beautiful, thank you Gina. ‘I am experiencing the more loving I am with myself, the expression of all of those around me is also more loving’. So true. And, as you say, how we choose to start our day, sets us up for the rest of that day.
Responsibility is freedom – and children know it.
Thanks Gina – this was so light-hearted to read and left me empowered to understand how self love can be so simple. You made some practical supportive changes in the set up of your day and the impact was felt and clocked in so many ways – especially with your family. I agree for 5 bucks, that is amazing.
It’s really amazing to consider that the love and care we give ourselves is something felt by all around us. There is such an entrenched view in society that you’re “good” if you give and “selfish” if you take care of yourself. This blog shows how self care and self love actually is something that effects everyone around us, just as when we self neglect or self abuse others get to feel the effects of this also. Love the “Love tank” – great way to put it.
Beautiful Gina! This year, my daughter and I get up early, and as a result things go generally (not always) just fine and smooth. I know that there is a lot room for improvement to leave everything as I want to find it when I return home. So, this is work in progress, but the difference is just amazing. When I went to high school, I used to wake up at 7:40 and school started at 8. And the bus took some ten minutes to get there. I had to do everything rushing like crazy. Every second counted. It was terribly self-abusing. That is where I come from.
Such a gorgeous blog Gina. I loved the part about how your daughter responded to you taking care of yourself and this reminds me of that everything that happens in life, is there to make you live in a more loving way. Your daughter with her unwillingness to get dressed reflected so honestly to you how you did not take the time to get dressed in a self-loving way.. wow! Thank you for sharing.
Hi Gina thanks for a beautiful, inspiring blog. “…the responsibility we have to show our children that by loving ourselves we in turn teach them personal responsibility and love towards themselves.” As parents we tend to put our children first at the expense of being loving to ourselves, and you have demonstrated that by being self loving a huge behavior change occurred in your daughter. This was a beautiful learning for both of you.
Gina thanks for your honest account. I love the simplicity of taking time for myself each morning to really prepare for the day and in the evening before bed. It really has turned my life around in so many ways. Thank you Natalie Benhayon for sharing this wisdom in a way that is very real and doable.
This is so well spelled out! I love your example of moving days!
This is excellent. I am inspired to go more deeply into my self care and see what happens next.
This is such a practical reminder of how events play out when we forget to look after ourselves and what a huge difference it makes to our day when we do.
Gina you certainly got your bang for your buck! These are such simple tips that we can all apply and they make such a difference to how we feel throughout our day. I have had similar experiences to what you have shared in that when I take the time for me in the morning, my days are very different. If I don’t take the time for me, it’s like I’ve left me behind that day and I’m always trying to catch up to me.
Such a simple and powerful blog Gina, I’m feeling inspired to fill up my love tank!
Thank you for sharing this Gina. Often what is presented by Universal Medicine is amazingly simple and you feel like it can’t be that easy – there must be more to it or a change has to be hard work to have an effect. What I have come to realise over the years of attending Universal Medicine events is that it is in the small things, the details, gradually bringing more awareness and love into your life and doing this consistently that has a huge impact on how I feel and those around me. With children, as you have shared Gina, we need to demonstrate the self-care and nurturing that we talk about. If we don’t live this ourselves then there is no truth in our words. Like the overweight doctor telling his patients that they need to loose weight.
How lovely to experience the simplicity of caring for your self in the morning and the effect it has not only on your day, but on the whole family’s day. It’s so wonderful when we realise that love starts with how we are with ourselves first, and then is shared with all who we cross paths with in our day. Now you have seen that everyone is lifted by the care you take with yourself in the morning Gina.
Gina what you shared deeply resonated with me. I too find that how I care and love myself at the beginning of the day impacts how the rest of the day flows. Sounds like the best $5 investment you ever made and so simple to choose!
What a joy to read – thank you Gina!
Thank you for a really inspiring story. You explain it so simply it is accessible for anyone, and shows how the simple things can make a huge difference not only for ourselves but everyone around us too.
The more loving choices we make for ourselves, the more flow we will experience in our lives. I can relate to that. I can feel the huge difference every day when I do choose to take time for me (getting up, showering, taking care of how I dress myself) and when I neglect that a bit. The more love I give to me, the more I get that reflected in my life. The power of choice!