by Gina, Brisbane, Australia
Often self-help workshops can be perceived as being money-spinners. Well, recently, for $5, I attended a presentation about Women’s health. It explored how women’s often punishing schedules, juggling a myriad of roles including carer, mother, partner, employer or employee, are affecting their overall health and well-being. The presentation proposed the consideration to self-nurture and self-love as a possible means to address vitality, energy levels, and feelings of overwhelm.
The example given was to consider how much time we spend getting ourselves ready in the morning. I realised I got dressed, cleaned my teeth then brushed my hair whilst my car was warming up and the garage door was being opened. At the same time, I had been having huge issues with getting my 3 1/2 year old daughter dressed; she refused to do it herself or let someone help her. Recently, we’d been leaving the house with her in her pyjamas because it all just got too hard.
So I endeavoured in a gentle, no-expectations way, to get up earlier and shower and dress before starting to get breakfast and lunches under way. I would make sure my breakfast was ready with the children (and not gulped down 5 mins before I was leaving) – so I was fully dressed spending time with my kids – who had cooked the breakfast whilst I was finishing getting ready.
After a few days, I realised my daughter had instigated and dressed herself each morning of that week. WOW! I could instantly feel the responsibility we have to show our children that by loving ourselves we in turn teach them personal responsibility and love towards themselves. They may have heard me many times speak with hollow words – “loving yourself is the most important thing” – but in that week they got to feel it for the first time and you could feel the increase in fun and joy in the home as a result.
A few weeks later we moved home. Our move was split over two days. On the first day, I got up and believed that because there was so much to be done there was not any time for a shower or any part of my new self-nurturing morning routine. So I put on some old, daggy appropriate ‘moving’ clothes and started my day. By 7am, I felt overwhelmed and had shouted at each member of my family for being lazy louts. My husband and I went about the day with very little dialogue and communication as a result of my rudeness. The next morning, I got up and this time paused before I launched into the day. Maybe I do have time for myself – so I showered, blow-dried my hair and dressed in clothes that were practical but still made me feel nice about myself. The day ran smoothly and we even had fun and a few laughs as we engaged with each other in our new home.
The presentation I was referring to above, that has supported me to connect to experiencing what I am sharing in this article, was delivered by Natalie Benhayon from Universal Medicine. I’ve attended quite a few events over the last four years. I could write much more about the benefits and support I have gained from attending these events but have chosen on this occasion to describe just one of them, because in its simplicity it encapsulates what Universal Medicine offers. For $5, I got to understand and feel how to embark on working with a self-esteem issue I’d previously paid psychologists high fees for, with little outcome.
The practical tools offered by Universal Medicine have supported me to discover for myself a way of living; to be able to manage and enjoy the busy lives we all have, and a chance to help me cope with and understand all the pain and hurt I see in other people’s lives and world events. The example I have described shows the essence of what Universal Medicine shares with us – by taking more consideration of ourselves and care to look after ourselves, we then invite the opportunity of bringing more love into our lives, which is shared and felt by those around us.
I am understanding as each day goes by, the more I am dedicated to loving myself, and making self-loving choices, the less drama there is in my life, the more flow there is in my life, the more joy my children express with and the calmer my husband is. I am experiencing the more loving I am with myself, the expression of all of those around me is also more loving.
This is never perfect for me, but just as I was able to reflect on what happened when I forgot to look after myself on the day of my move, each day I now reflect on how my treatment of myself has influenced the day’s events.
Thank you to Universal Medicine for sharing with me the simple science, that by my committing to bring self-love into my morning, my love-tank is filled and love is then what I have to offer to the day, and to all those with whom I share it.
The Truth about Universal Medicine 
This is beautiful to read that by loving yourself, everything else changed, ‘the more I am dedicated to loving myself, and making self-loving choices, the less drama there is in my life, the more flow there is in my life, the more joy my children express with and the calmer my husband is.
It’s quite magical to read how everything flows on the outside when we start to deeply care and love ourselves. It feels like we don’t need to say or do anything, all naturally unfolds when we allign to our presence, from there we know what needs to be done and what’s next to support ourselves and others in the same way.
“they got to feel it” When we nurture and care for ourselves this is what we reflect and offer to others.
Very true Mary, words are not needed when Love is embodied. Energy speaks by itself.
That reflection of caring and nurturing then lets other people see and feel that they could possibly live like that too.
I like the analogy of the love tank Gina, and it’s self service :-). “each day I now reflect on how my treatment of myself has influenced the day’s events.” This line offers two important things, one is the opportunity to appreciate all we have chosen for ourselves, and the second is to examine areas that are weak and either reinstate love there or advance it to more love. Love is a beautiful responsibility.
Gina clearly pointed out how her taking care of herself had a knock on effect, ‘I could instantly feel the responsibility we have to show our children that by loving ourselves we in turn teach them personal responsibility and love towards themselves.’
What Universal Medicine offers is very practical, because it is what is being lived by those who present. It is not an ideal or a package of products they are trying to sell by promising an outcome. It is what it is, therefore equally available to every one of us, and what gets highlighted is our choice and responsibility.
It couldn’t be in another way. Only when we love ourselves first, we can love what we do, enjoy and inspire others with it
I never tire of reading this, thank you Gina, it really communicated the simplicity and practicality of what Universal Medicine present, as well as the beauty that self love is and how it supports those around us. Self love is truly a community and global responsibility. Love has a huge effect and it starts with us.
Love always starts with self, and then has a ripple effect, ‘by taking more consideration of ourselves and care to look after ourselves, we then invite the opportunity of bringing more love into our lives, which is shared and felt by those around us.’
To me this is the biggest take away from the teachings and presentations of Serge Benhayon
“I am understanding as each day goes by, the more I am dedicated to loving myself, and making self-loving choices, the less drama there is in my life, the more flow there is in my life, the more joy my children express with and the calmer my husband is. I am experiencing the more loving I am with myself, the expression of all of those around me is also more loving.”
As we dedicate our lives to self love, others get to feel the reflection of this and have an opportunity to try it out for themselves. It becomes a domino effect and so, is it possible this is how the world will change?
It is simple, in the process of getting ready and taking care of ourselves we build a foundation for the day. During the process if we focus solely on getting ready and let go of any tensions and to do lists, we get to feel a steadiness, which is then easier to maintain during the day. If we don’t do that, if we don’t have the foundation, we fall through the cracks and are up and down all day long trying to come out of them.
The amount of sharing of practical ways of living by Universal Medicine is astounding, and when I look back it all started with being gentle, as self-love was too huge a step from where I was at.
And step-by-step we edge towards Love from self-love and in some areas of life gentle-ness is still being worked on.
Tangible evidence of the energetic ripple effect we have on others.
It all starts by being more loving with self, ‘I am experiencing the more loving I am with myself, the expression of all of those around me is also more loving.’
This is so powerful what you have shared here and so simple in how we are with ourselves affects all others and our environment. Gosh just the change in your daughter says it all, let alone the other examples. This morning I could really feel this is still one for me to learn … or should I say do .. to love me and consider me in all I do.
This line really exposes the lie of putting others before ourselves and being self sacrificing “…by taking more consideration of ourselves and care to look after ourselves, we then invite the opportunity of bringing more love into our lives, which is shared and felt by those around us.” I have been in both camps, the self sacrificing and the self love. It’s truly amazing to see how the love I live with myself is felt by others and often inspiring them also. The self sacrificing is so depleting and can also end up feeling quite degrading and comes with resentment.
“I am experiencing the more loving I am with myself, the expression of all of those around me is also more loving.” A great reminder that what we put out we get back.
“I am experiencing the more loving I am with myself, the expression of all of those around me is also more loving.” This so true and as you illustrate, Gina, how one is affects everyone else either in a negative or in an enhancing way – it is just a choice of how we wish to be with ourselves.