Thought for Food

by Frank Tybislawski,  Brisbane, Australia

I would like to share what I discovered through my recent sessions with a local Universal Medicine practitioner.

While I knew my diet was quite good, I had to admit that how I digested and reacted to the food was irregular. It seems like a simple process, one we have lived with (one way or another) since day one, yet food can be an issue throughout one’s whole life. I knew what tasted nice, I knew what didn’t taste nice, I knew what reacted with my body, so why then did I feel so up and down after eating? There had to be more to this and I needed to examine what that was, and why.

My practitioner and I discussed food and eating habits; most of our discussions centred on how certain foods felt when I ate them. For example, I already knew that a glass of milk caused severe pain, but I came to realise that other foods also had reactions in my body, perhaps in quite subtle ways which were easy to overlook. My focus throughout was to be very honest and feel each and every reaction to all the different foods I was eating. Another point discussed several times was that I often ate because it was that time of day, eg. breakfast time, so I must have breakfast. When I was asked if I was genuinely hungry on those occasions I had to say I was unsure – on some occasions I was, but on other occasions I definitely wasn’t.

The process then was one of self-reflection; firstly to be honest and ask myself, am I genuinely hungry? If the answer was no, then I had to determine why I was wanting to eat… was it to dull or override another feeling? If I was genuinely hungry it was then the time to consider exactly what I felt like eating, and how much I should prepare and eat.

Another factor also came to light; was I eating something just because it tasted nice and therefore made me feel nice? The unfortunate answer was sometimes yes, and I got to feel this quite strongly on one occasion. I knew I was genuinely hungry and was contemplating what to have for dinner. There were a few options available – a quick re-heat of some left-over chicken curry, I could steam some vegetables and have some fish, I could defrost some soup, and there were others. My first thought was the chicken curry (a typical dinner meal), quick and delicious, but that suddenly didn’t feel right. It then just came to me that what I really wanted was a green salad (a typical lunch meal); it would require more preparation, but it really felt like what my body was asking for. I made the salad like I have numerous times before with the same ingredients, but I have to say it felt more satisfying than it usually did, and I felt great after eating it. This was a pivotal moment, as I experienced an entirely different approach to the whole hunger/eating regime.

I haven’t got all the answers and I also know that this is an ongoing process which needs to be continually reviewed. Foods that suit me now may not in the future, and foods that I have dismissed previously may actually be beneficial now, or at some point in the future. What I now realise is that food is a daily choice which I actually need to consider every time I decide to eat, not just treat it as an automatic response to hunger.

1,089 thoughts on “Thought for Food

  1. I can feel that this is a big one; ‘Another factor also came to light; was I eating something just because it tasted nice and therefore made me feel nice?’ Reading this makes me realise that often we eat for taste rather than true nourishment and because we are actually hungry. I am also aware that sometimes I can eat out of boredom, for instance if I am on a long car or plane journey.

  2. We have all been fooled by the model of life at some point and it is great and wise to challenge whether it is true or not for us, even if it means giving up something that gives us reward or satisfies our desires in some way.

  3. Self reflection is a powerful tool, and something we can apply to everything – how we eat, work, sleep, our relationships and so forth. We can continually develop in ourselves without always relying on others to observe our behaviours.

  4. As I read your blog Frank I could not but help realise that when we eat it is often a tick box exercise – I am hungry and I want to be fed now. But does that rush distort and compromise the detail of what nutritional requirements our body actually needs… and what it doesn’t.

  5. Its so interesting how our body knows what it wants but how we let our minds dictate what we should feed it. I used to wonder how just having a fresh green salad for my lunch could possibly sustain me, but now my body absolutely loves it, does not make me sleepy, and if I do feel a bit hungry at lunch time it is all I need until I get home in the evening.

  6. What may suit now, possibly will not suit in the future, this is how we need to be in life with anything.. This is a much more expanded way of living. Universally so. Equally, the Universe constantly expands too. So are we.

  7. Great sharing Frank and you touch on so many things that I’m sure a lot of us can relate to, I certainly did. To even pose the question am I eating because I am hungry is one that you don’t really think of and you can definitely play with that, feeling when you eat and why you are eating it can reveal so much as to where we are and what is going on.

  8. Love what you say here about bringing more awareness to what/ when/ why you’re eating, to actually honour more your body and what it’s truly asking rather than being in auto-pilot, this is something we can keep learning and developing I find too.

  9. There is so much to learn about why we eat what we eat, when we choose to eat, how much we choose to eat etc. When we are able to answer these questions honestly we can begin to have a real relationship wit food.

  10. I am realising much more that many times I eat for taste and to distract myself from being really focused, instead of eating because I am really hungry!

  11. Listening to the body and what it really wants is an art… it can be so easy to give into those cravings to numb or dull, but making a true choice, the body really does become vital.

  12. Beautiful, so true there is much more to food than just taste ! there is a whole process that we have skipped over so far, one of reflection, acceptance and awareness and letting go.. Do we take those things on board when we eat?

  13. “Thought for Food”, and ‘food for thought’ – when i visit a restaurant and eat a lunch or dinner i have noted how that soon afterwards i can feel hungry again as if i had not eaten anything. And yet when i cook myself at home this same effect does not occur. It shows that there is more than pure food ingredients that go into the food and how it’s the ingredient of energy and its quality that allows us and our bodies the fortification and nourishment [or not].

    1. Its a great point Zofia – do we really pay attention to all the ingredients that go into food? The time and space we give the cooking, the intention behind the meal, the love we are feeling inside…. all just as important if not more so than the physical stuff we can feel. Its this energy that nourishes the body.

  14. Food is such an interesting topic because it is something we all need yet something that often brings up so much. I know for me it is important i eat enough for my body and honour where I am at rather than say thinking I can eat less. So often we see people either massively overweight or underweight – there are not many people in the correct body shape and size for who they truly are. Neither extreme is good and it is not solely about shape or size either as I find that gets taken care of the more we truly value, cherish and nourish ourselves. Also we cannot simply blame food rather see it as an end choice and so by seeing what has led us to the food or not we can then see what we need to address rather than using force and will power to stop eating or doing something.

  15. Before food became a commercial commodity back when we were hunters and gatherers there was no such thing as three meals a day, instead you would be very lucky to have a meal of meat a week. Apparently intermittent fasting allows the body to heal and grow fresh cells. The way we eat today the body is so overloaded and overworked with digesting that there is no space to allow for regeneration.

    1. It is an interesting point, just like how Kelloggs introduced breakfast. We do need to allow our bodies space to heal and regenerate rather than constantly piling food in. I also find when I do not snack that my thoughts are much clearer as well. So for me it is about eating proper meals that fully support my body, which can change from day to day – and not over eating, but also not under eat, as both can be taken to extremes.

  16. I have often heard Serge Benhayon presenting on the body and food, in jest (but in all seriousness) what would happen if we interviewed our colon before putting food down it, how it would feel? I am sure it would come back with an interesting reply.

  17. When I connect to purpose I do not want to eat the wrong foods nor over eat as I feel the responsibility of what I am needing to deliver and I do not want to drop myself with food. There is no need for self discipline as the purpose is felt and the desire to adhere to it comes before my desire for food.

  18. There always seems to be two layers in my relationship with food.
    1. What I want to eat for the taste and texture.
    2. What I feel will be the most supportive thing for my body to eat.

  19. It can be surprising what we may want to eat when we take a moment to feel into what will support most in that moment. Any picture from the day before about what we have planned can go out of the window especially if we can let go of any cravings and wanting to dull the body from not wanting to feel.

  20. Super article Frank, for the world to know. I went, and am still going, through the process of refining my food choices. Honesty is key: do I really need to eat because I am hungry? Or do I just want to eat to feel better? Often it is the latter, but hey, at least I am honest on that one:-) Step by step though, I see that I am letting go of this urge that I must eat sometimes. And that is something I fully appreciate.

  21. But are we even hungry 99.9% of the time when we think we are? Or are we confsusing anxiety, tension, fear, etc. etc. with hunger? We feel something, we know that eating will quell it down so we call it hunger and eat a bowl of pasta.

    1. Or ice-cream, chocolate, cakes, nuts, fruit, crisps, fruit … anything to not feel what we are feeling. Yep I know that one! The irony is I am actually feeling more and more in love with myself so why do I not want to feel that!

  22. It is really helpful to re-visit this blog as I am in the process of reviewing why, how, how much and when I eat. What I eat is not a problem as I have a really healthy diet and I don’t crave certain foods, but for me the change has been occurring in allowing myself to feel what my body needs, checking if it is from true hunger and not to avoid feeling something in my body. I am also giving myself permission to eat when I feel to and not be bound by certain mealtime routines during the day.

    1. I too am giving myself permission to eat when I feel to, some days it is in the morning and evening with no set times and other days it may be just a meal in the afternoon again no designated time and other days it may be an early evening meal. This is very supportive for my body presently but I am always adjusting according to what I need and what will best support me to work and serve to the capacity I want to

  23. I find there is a consciousness with food that currently holds a vibration that feels heavy, complicated and imposing. When we choose to step away from this, it feels easier to listen to our body and discern what to eat, when and how much. But if we align to the current heavy consciousness of food it can lead us to feel disempowered especially when it comes to our food choices.

  24. Our relationship with food has certainly descended from one that is honouring of our connection to our body and being, as such honouring our evolution to one that uses food to self-medicate in order to not feel the truth of how we are living away from our connection to our Soul. Yet the irony is, we seem to know precisely what foods to eat, when and how much to dose ourselves, with the desired effect to numb and comfort the tension we feel from resisting our responsibility of living the light of who we are. So in truth it is what we are willingly aligning to that guides us to either eat to evolve, or eat to stay in comfort.

    1. Yes indeed, we know exactly what we are doing to either support the body or dull it so that we do not evolve. When we can be honest about this we step into greater awareness of our choices.

  25. I love how I can feel what my body wants and what is doesn’t. It can be tricky when one part of me feels like having something but I know I can feel not so good after eating it. I’m slowly learning what is the best approach for me with food. Being understanding and loving works wonders and feels very supporting.

  26. Building our relationship to our body and to food is a lifelong process, our body regularly changes due to weather, the seasons, hormones, stresses, our age, illness, and if we are feeling strong and vital, we are in never ending constantly changing cycles and our needs change too.

  27. To have a relationship with food that is very alive, aware and flexible with what is needed meal to meal, day to day, is a brilliant way of breaking through the notion that there is a ‘fix it all’ diet out there that will solve everything when we find it. Our bodies, our days, our ages, genders and work require different support at different times. Understanding this means that all we have to do is build an open, listening, respectful and responsive dialogue with our bodies.

  28. We can use food to fill ourselves up but what are we filling ourselves up with? The more we understand energy the more we become aware of how food can affect us and then it becomes much easier to make changes that we know will support the body and not just our taste buds or cravings.

  29. I agree, the more I value the loveliness of me the less I want to put food into my body that dulls me, bloats me or makes me racy.

  30. When given a menu or choice of foods, such as during a supermarket shop, what goes through our head whilst our eyes are searching the different dishes or we walk down the various aisles?… Do we buy to nourish ourselves or our family, or do we try to ‘get away with’ eating certain foods, fill the fridge with ‘fillers’ that will feed the family or even get concerned over whether our diet will help us to lose weight, or if it matches the ‘eatwell plate’ where we are getting the apparent right amount of nutrition? Often we are thinking about so many other things than what will be a nourishing meal.

    1. the last one is often the case. Showing us that there is something driving us to eat in a way that is not that nourishing possibly. And so, of our great concern it might be now, to feel underneath and see what is driving us to eat certain foods and what underlying cause is craving to fill our hunger? A beautiful question to ask ourselves. Honestly.

  31. Food and the way we eat is something that evolves as we do, so should never be stagnant. In that it’s important that we don’t become attached to a way of eating. It does take time to allow ourselves to listen to our bodies to determine what it is we will eat.

  32. It is interesting how we overlook and do not want to address the more subtle reactions in our body from food, convincing ourselves with our mind that they are still okay to eat and we are managing just fine. I have found though, that as my awareness expands and with that how I treat and take care of my body, the subtle reactions feel more impactful so that I don’t want to hurt my body and choose instead to listen and make changes that feel more aligned and in harmony with what my body needs.

  33. It is interesting how I will find myself reaching for snack foods and wanting to eat even though I might actually not feel hungry at all. And further to that I can easily justify that the food I am eating as a snack or a meal is healthy or good for you, so it is like this implies that is it fine to eat, even though my body is actually not hungry at all. And how often do we overeat in social occasions when we are distracted by the company or the conversation? The body thrives on getting breaks from food just as much as it thrives on receiving nourishing and supportive food when it needs it. It is simply about tuning into what is happening and feeling your way with it as Frank has shared, and being open to exploring why we might go against what feels natural to us.

    1. There is so much in what you have said here Henrietta. Something you have said about the body thriving on getting breaks from food is an interesting one and something in the western culture that is rarely, if at all discussed or even considered. 3 meals a day plus snacks is the ‘ideal way of eating’. But does it really suit our bodies. Do we thrive on eating this way? If we look at our current health and our waist lines one could say no, but there comes the quality of food we are eating also. What I am learning is that the diet we have and the food we eat is nothing about diet and food and all, but how we are with ourselves during the day, how we express (or not) and what we are prepared (or not) to deal with.

  34. Frank, what a wonderful and simple sharing with a practical suggestion too. I love this part especially: “What I now realise is that food is a daily choice which I actually need to consider every time I decide to eat, not just treat it as an automatic response to hunger.”

    1. I find sometimes that my body feels all the things I associate with hunger, the tummy gurgles, etc, but my body also communicates strongly some of those times not to eat. Yes I am hungry but my body seems busy taking care of other jobs and asks me to give my digestion a break. This always feels great when I honour it and it’s a constant learning process.

  35. What has helped me with food and eating in the wrong manner that I am developing more is to appreciate and confirm when I feel lovely in my body. The more I know this the more I do not want to degrade this feeling.

    1. Rik, I find this is a truly helpful comment. I often let my food craving overtake the wanting to take care of myself and will either overeat, or prepare my food in rushed manner and eat it quickly. I can feel that by appreciating the quality of feeling the loveliness in my body more, I will be less likely to want to sabotage myself.

    2. On reading your comment Rik what I pondered on is, often we diet because we do not like our body, but it seems currently we rarely have a relationship with food based on absolutely feeling lovely and loving our body!

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