We are bombarded by so called ‘role models’ in the media. These men and women have achieved some superiority or greatness in a particular avenue of life they have given focus to and excelled at. Yet often when we delve past the surface the entirety of their existence does not stack up, as other areas of their life suffer.
Growing up I yearned for a true role model, a person who was the real deal, who held the same integrity and quality in all aspects of their life and with no ‘put on’. Someone I could be inspired by. I knew the way people were living was not it but I did not know any other way.
I have known Serge Benhayon since 2003 and never once have I felt he was putting any of it on. Everything Serge presents he has lived. Serge has not held back with what has needed to be said, even if at times it has been tricky and I would say difficult.
When I have gone astray from honouring and truly caring for myself (and there have been many times), since knowing Serge he has been there; he has never once minced his words or dumbed them down for me. He has given them to me straight and it was always exactly what I needed to hear… without fail.
I have never once felt an ounce of judgment from Serge. This is remarkable in itself. For someone to tirelessly listen to all my ‘head talk’ yet be there fully with a loving tender presence, seemingly without any effort, is unheard of in everyday life – and remember I have known Serge for over 10 years. And I am only one of thousands.
At Universal Medicine courses or presentations Serge always has a queue of people wanting help or support with something. Serge, without fail, has time for everyone. He never rushes a moment with a person. He isn’t looking over your shoulder seeing how long the line is, but rather is focussed and gives his full undivided attention and presence to the person he is talking with. It is extremely hard to do; give it a try and you will know what I mean. When we are talking with another person are we actually truly there for them, or do we have a hidden agenda underneath, an agenda that wants something for us and if we don’t get this, we switch off and aren’t interested? I certainly have done this.
It is with the sheer amount of love Serge Benhayon holds for each and every one of us – that enables this unreserved dedication to humanity. This should be celebrated and something for us all to be inspired by. Serge Benhayon is no different to any of us: he has simply chosen a truer and fuller level of expression, one that serves humanity, not self.
I know there has been a lot defamation written in the media about Serge Benhayon, his family and Universal Medicine, but none of it has stuck and this in itself is testament to the integrity and truth Serge lives by. The media hungers for exposing stories but in this instance have missed out on the greatest story of them all – a man living lovingly and inspiring everyone he meets to be more of themselves and to be more naturally loving. This is nothing inherently special as we can all do it, and be the same, but it should be celebrated as very few among us are willing and choosing to do this.
By James Nicholson, Design Consultant, Frome, England
656 thoughts on “Serge Benhayon – A True Role Model”
Reading about your relationship with Serge Benhayon is making me wonder my part of responsibility as a role model. I have been observing the behaviour of the young staff members in their 20s and 30s at my work place and feeling like an old person, like there was no way I would be able to effectively communicate with them, and in my honesty, I was coming to a place of like I don’t care about them enough to even start a conversation. I can feel how I was judging them according to my own scale of decency, and how I want them to be different and basically I have an investment in the outcome if I was to reflect something to them, but the question now is what exactly am I reflecting?
Serge Benhayon has inspired many people to be role models to others, role models in how to be with people without the judgement, without the projection, with patience & understanding. It is very needed in society and more and more of us are learning to be this way.
And Serge Benhayon keeps on inspiring more and more people with the way he lives, how he moves, and how he is with people…such an incredibly amazing being.
Serge Benhayon has so much integrity that we can all learn a valuable lesson from simply being with all that he has so lovingly made available.
Serge Benhayon has integrity from beyond, he takes integrity to a whole new dimension, so beautiful, and needed.
“a man living lovingly and inspiring everyone he meets to be more of themselves and to be more naturally loving.” Serge Benhayon does not judge anyone for the choices they make, he feels the truth of the essence of all.
What you are describing here James to me is true love
“Serge he has been there; he has never once minced his words or dumbed them down for me. He has given them to me straight and it was always exactly what I needed to hear… without fail.”
It is the love that he holds us in that speaks to us and resonates in our bodies, we then have a choice to heed the words or not, that is our free will. There are no words that I can use to describe that we have the free will to listen or not, it is never judged and we are never less than the absolute love Serge Benhayon knows us all to be.
There are incredible people in this world – we can either discount them or learn and be deeply inspired by them and allow that to bring absolute magic to our lives. This is one such incredible man – that you discount at your own loss.
Absolutely Meg, ‘ This is one such incredible man – that you discount at your own loss.’
This world needs true role models that show us that life can be made love and only love. Serge Benhayon is such a role model.
Serge sure, just like we too can be as the true roles are needed especially as people are starting more and more to question how we have been taught life to be.
We are love, and are here to reflect being love, as the Gods we all are.
Serge Benhayon indeed is a true role model on many levels. We all need role models growing up, but also in doing business. The sad fact is there are rarely no role models that live a life that is worth following on every kind of level. And then we end up adopting show business people or celebraties, as a role models of the way to live. And do they present a life that is worth role modeling on every aspect of their life?
‘He has given them to me straight and it was always exactly what I needed to hear… without fail.’ Now this is love. Another person knowing you are amazing and never speaking to you as if you are any less. For some this is too much to handle because it asks us to be our amazing selves and drop all the mistrust, fear, investment in what isn’t love. But when you do embrace it, it’s amazing.
I agree Karin it sure is amazing when you embrace it when someone is pulling you up and reminding you of the love you are, I find it interesting how for me whenever it has been done whilst it may not initially be what I want to hear my body goes yes and it makes sense yet for a bystander they may think that was a harsh comment.
Serge Benhayon presents the truth, some may find this challenging; presenting the truth is also being love with the person.
Yes this needs to be celebrated, as it serves to step out of the comfort and truly get ourselves out of the imprisonment that is our reality. The teachings of Universal Medicine show that there is a true way out – by our own will power.
There sure is a way out of the mess and imprisonment we are in and as you say Danna it is from within us and nothing outside of us will ever do it for us or bring us anything we could not already connect to within.
Only a few who are willing to stand in truth right in the opposite current. Those who are I deeply admire for their absolute strenght and willingness to seek truth over comfort (lies). One of these people is Serge Benhayon, in his commitment to absoluteness and love for humanity he stands there tall, like you said not for himself but for us all. Now we need to applaus for that, for only very very few would take that place.
Totally agree Danna – not many would take that place because there is such a backlash against being shown what love is – and not the make believe love that many seek or hope for. What Serge Benhayon presents is bound to receive retaliation on a huge scale because all our choices to seek comfort in whatever varied form that takes, are so prevalent in all aspects of society and life. Even those battling against him cannot, underneath all the lies, deny there is a man who lives the love that we all are, who loves us to the bone, more than we ever love ourselves right now, and is standing up for us so that we can realise we too are love.
Yes Karin, and from this retaliation only greater illusion exists, that eventually needs to be exposed for what it is and detached from. Until love is love again.
Indeed Danna, It is ‘his commitment to absoluteness and love for humanity’ which is second to none and inspiring, showing us all that we too can live in this way and not be affected by what we see. Rather to embrace the love we are and live that, as the only true and real change is within, the outer is then simply a manifestation of this.
Serge’s love for humanity is absolute, it is true, it is like nothing I have seen before, it is like a God walking amongst us.
Serge Benhayon is a true role model, someone who lives and breathes an immense love for humanity, equally so. In his presence we are reflected that the love we feel from him is also the love that dwells deep within us, he is not special as one above us, but as one equal with us..
Indeed Jill it is the equality Serge lives with and presents which makes him stand out among other presenters as he offers us the space to be equals and never puts himself as better than anyone else.
The immense love, the equal-ness, and the humility, are just some of the magnificent qualities that are reflected to us by Serge Benhayon.
“I have never once felt an ounce of judgment from Serge. This is remarkable in itself” – absolutely yes, and testament to the inordinate amount of observation Serge holds for people through holding that same amount of observing of himself. When there is observation there is understanding and when there is understanding, judgment falls short in any appeal whatsoever or action.
Judgment cannot exist when we are truly observing and understanding life and its movements. The more I allow myself to see what is going on and why, the less reactionary I am to live and the more I see mine and everyone else’s part to play, so there are no innocent bystanders.
Serge never judges, which is incredible. Judgements can be very small and sneaky, Serge remains observing and simply holding us in love, who we are in truth.
Every step Serge Benhayon takes invites us to walk with him, in equality, in love and in return to our true way of being.
It sure does Matilda and the more we walk with Serge the more we see we too are the same.
What I love about Serge is his ability to say it straight, cut though any rubbish, deliver something you may not want to hear all with an absolute enormous amount of love.
Oh how we/all of us/the world are truly blessed.
We sure are truly blessed to have someone who is not afraid to say the words we need to hear. Serge holds us in love and the rest is up to us. To give anyone this opportunity is the best gift we could ever give.
I have read these words many times over in other writings about Serge Benhayon “Everything Serge presents he has lived”, and I always ponder how is it that Serge lives what he says? This man is Worldly he plays it BIG. He connects to the all to know the all. Connecting to the all he responds in a way that is developing the all. He writes books to leave behind and presents truth. There is something about writing your truth. It brings your body alive and expression out for all to see because we need to be seen for who we truly are — we are more than just human beings on earth — we originate from a source that is not from this plane of life.
Very true Rik, we need to play BIG, as ‘we are more than just human beings on earth’, to play the game of being less is merely an excuse to not be in the fullness of the love that we are and claim our origins, otherwise we make life purely about bettering the human existence, which has only taken us further away from the love we are from.
We sure are Elizabeth, blessed in more ways than we can fathom.
Serge Benhayon is 100% loving never judging and always accepting of where we are at, he is definitely a true role model.
Serge sure is a true role model for us all, no matter what our age, gender, nationality is and has paved the way for how we can and naturally are with each other, just have gotten lost along the way.
Serge Benhayon is for me an inspiration to live with and the real role model to observe and live up to. But not in the way that I feel he is more than I am, but in a way, I do feel to be completely equal to him and can live like him too. It is only a matter of choice to choose for a life of healing instead of staying with the choice I made before which is to live a life of harming.
Very true Nico, a true role model like Serge presents and lives the equality with all so no one is lesser and offers us the support and reflection to live the equalness and grandness that we too are. If no one was reflecting who we were we would stay lost, it just takes one person like Serge has done to start to reawaken humanity up to the love we all equally are.
I agree with you James, Serge Benhayon should be celebrated instead of being defamed because people do not like the clarity and transparency he brings to us all.
It is an interesting point Nico that someone who is the epitome of love gets defamed in the media and attacked. It goes to show how much we resist the love we are, as when we allow it, naturally we celebrate and appreciate others who are, or have chosen to live their life based on love.
True James, it is the love that is equally in us we resist the most when Serge Benhayon unconditionally is presenting that.
It makes no sense we resist that which we are from and are by essence. Serge Benhayon shows us we do not need to resist it anymore and can live the love we are in full.
Serge Benhayon has inspired me also to be more responsible in the way I live. I’m so much more aware that all of my actions and thoughts and the way in which I express has a ripple effect that then affects everyone. There is a huge responsibility in that and this man lives it. He is indeed a true and loving role model and one that I will be forever inspired by.
That is great Heather and true for many of us, one of the things here with the responsibility is that we also are not perfect as Serge keeps reminding us and so we will make mistakes, but it is how quickly we recover and come back to the love we are that matters, as then everyone else gets to see what is possible and how they too can be living.
As a young girl I looked for role models and what I found were singers who spotlighted because of their abilities or physical appearance. They were special to me because they were different but always left me with a feeling of emptiness inside. If they had it all, what about me? Who I was then? I couldn’t find a true reflection in anyone. Today I understand that all I received were images but nothing that emanated from within. In fact, some of them went down the path of alcohol, drugs till the end of their lives. So, what kind of model do I really was following?
At age 28 I met Serge Benhayon who left me with a very different feeling within. The steadiness and lightness of his movements, the playfulness and depth of his expression made me stop and see a loving man who was not afraid to show his tenderness. I could see me for the very first time, for the very precious, delicate and beautiful woman I am. A true Role Model for me who reflects to all Humanity how amazing we all really are.
I do recognise that too Inma, that the role models that are on offer to us are more so to keep us trapped into the same illusion altogether rather then to get us of of it, like for instance Serge Benhayon is living for us.
That is gorgeous Inma, that you know can see and appreciate and adore ‘the very precious, delicate and beautiful woman’ that you are. It is one of the greatest gifts we can give another; to allow them to see the true depths of love and beauty that they are.
Its true what you say James. I have seen many a long line of people at events to speak to Serge during breaks and there is never a rush to get through everyone and everyone is given the time and space they need. Every conversation is a deeply held connection. Its beautiful to see.
It is beautiful to see and is remarkable how no one is ever left needing or wanting more. The more we bring this quality to everyone we meet through every interaction slowly just like Serge has done with many of us we will start to rebuild our trust back with humanity rather than thinking we need to withdraw and not be fully open with others fearing reactions that may come our way.
Those who know Serge Benhayon know the truth of who he is and what he stands for in life and will not be swayed by sections of the media, who try and convince otherwise. Once can simply see the way the stories circulate and recycle themselves without any truth and also saying things in a way that invites assumptions. But none of this is true. The real story with Serge Benhayon is all there in the public for anyone to access, but as yet those in the media prefer their recycled versions that are not true.
I agree Jennifer, ‘Those who know Serge Benhayon know the truth of who he is and what he stands for in life’. He is transparent and open for all to see and has absolutely nothing to hide, nothing hidden in the closet, no dark secrets. It is this openness which is not common that makes Serge stand out and also for people wanting to keep things hidden away, it makes them uncomfortable because it exposes the choices we have and continue to make. So we can either be inspired by Serge or try to bring him down.
And unwavering Serge Benhayon continues his work, with a view so far beyond the circulation and re-circulation of gossip and conjecture – his steadiness, consistency and love for humanity are unshakable.
I completely agree that Serge is a role model in every sense of the word – you only have to look at the way he has handled so much media attack and defamation – with constant integrity, understanding and never with any malice, hate or judgement or even resentment or frustration – and that’s just one small part of what makes him a truly amazing human being.
I agree Meg, there are not many people I know who would have been able to handle such an attack, as you say ‘with constant integrity, understanding and never with any malice, hate or judgement or even resentment or frustration’. He has set the standard for how we can all be and how important it is that we never hold any judgement over anyone however extreme their behaviour may be.
Most role models as you mentioned James are successful in one area of life, one topic or subject but what is the quality of the rest of their lives? We look up to those at the ‘top of their game’ so to speak but they don’t stay at that top 24/7. Serge Benhayon on the other hand doesn’t have a peak or a top of his game, it’s all one and the same life to him.
Very true Leigh, the more we see everything as one life we see that no matter how great or successful we may be in one area if it is not the same in all areas then something is missing. It could be said we are only as good as our lowest point.
Our role models of today generally are championed because of the success they have achieved one way or another. However, what we do not take into account enough is the quality of the success that we are championing. Generally, many have achieved certain feats or goals in one aspect of their lives that appear to be extraordinary but is the quality of life they live one of true fulfilment, of true settlement, of honouring themselves and others equally, of true decency and integrity through and through, and how they live is then a reflection of this? Serge Benhayon is a role model in many ways of how a true role model offers inspiration to all equally to be and live the full potential of who we are, so that we too can be role models for all those who yet have not realise the greatness they are is also waiting to be lived.
Very well said Carola, true success is achieved in all areas of our lives and cannot be isolated to any one area otherwise we have the highs and lows which have no true settlement. When we can bring our all to every area of our lives we know that what we do completes, with nothing lacking and so the settlement comes. Serge Benhayon is a great role model for this as his focus remains the same regardless of what he is doing, everything matters and everything we do affects everything we do. So the way we are in one moment directly affects the way we are in the next.
‘Everything Serge presents he has lived.’ Very true James, Serge Benhayon is so inspiring because of the strength of his livingness, he doesn’t talk at you with knowledge, he walks his talk and when he presents you can feel how solid and unwavering is his commitment to truth and love.
I completely agree Anna. It is interesting how so often most of us speak with knowledge about how we want or wish things to be rather than actually living what we know 1st and then speaking with the authority of the lived experience. As you say Serges ‘solid and unwavering is his commitment to truth and love’ is something that is evident to all and very inspiring.
It feels like we’ve been championing and celebrating wrong kinds of role models all along. It’s not about being perfect, but what I can feel is how we’ve wanted to be met by someone who we can completely trust – someone who unconditionally loves like God does, but having that hanging almost as a condition for us to say yes whilst actually given up on that possibility which can actually serve as an alibi. Saying yes to what is truly true is part of taking responsibility.
I agree Fumiyo and love how you say ‘Saying yes to what is truly true is part of taking responsibility.’ So often we can think of responsibility as a role or a doing but it is simply saying yes and then being obedient to the love, without needing any picture or it to look any way.