My husband and I have found that to live a truly harmonious way of life in our eighties requires us to be responsible for the quality of lives we lead.
We met Serge Benhayon and his family thirteen years ago, as well as many other people who have become our very good friends. Over these thirteen years we have learned many life skills which have helped us change our conceptions about life and about the choices we make. It is interesting to have these new concepts come into one’s life as one grows older: so many of our friends who have remained in Sydney are finding their lives are contracting, their friends are dying and they only have their families. We, on the other hand, find that our lives are expanding with new friends and new challenges all the time.
As we enter into our ninth decade we feel more aware, more alive… and more blessed by sincere and loving friends than ever before. This I attribute to the many life lessons that Serge Benhayon has shown us. We have found that by listening to our own body rhythms and going to bed early we can live more productive and balanced lives.
By taking full responsibility for our actions and our reactions we can live more harmoniously with each other and with all others: this has made our lives so much more worthwhile and so much more meaningful.
We no longer feel the need for any stimulants, either coffee or alcohol, which both play such a large part in our society at present. Both are very harmful for our bodies and should not be considered “harmless”. We feel that alcohol related violence is a present source of much suffering and alcohol should be seen to be the scourge that it actually is.
Living harmoniously is something that so many do not understand – and probably don’t want to understand – because it means that they really have to look at how they live their lives. How one thinks, how one reacts and how one communicates with one’s fellow humans is all one’s own responsibility, no-one can do this for you, and it is not something you can wriggle out of either, although many spend a lot of energy trying to do so!
We have found that establishing a rhythm to living and recognising when that rhythm is disturbed – either by our own actions or reactions or by absorbing the energy of others – enables us to deal with anything that life throws at us. It is all a matter of being with ourselves 100% all the time – this does take practice, but it is so worthwhile.
I feel, in all honesty, that I will continue to live a productive and loving life until I die, whenever that might be. I feel more alive and more joyful than at any other stage of my life because for the first time I take full responsibility and know that my wellbeing is totally up to me – not because of anything or anyone else, and not because I have to be a certain way or not.
I am simply me and it is wonderful.
By Rowena Parkes
633 thoughts on “Living a Harmonious Life in our Eighties”
Actually what we try to avoid most is the thing that will help us to feel so much better in life. It is taking responsibility for how we are, for when we are reacting to look at why, to feel when we were telling a lie even when we thought it was the truth and unpack this for ourselves. This sets us free from the constant avalanche of reactions on reactions, on reactions…
I agree this is wonderfull to in your ninth decade be truly feeling this ‘We, on the other hand, find that our lives are expanding with new friends and new challenges all the time.’
It can be difficult to live in harmony in your eighties if you’ve had a momentum of a life lived in contraction, life lived in disconnection from your heart. Often I hear about stories from elderly and others speaking of people in the late years of their lives who would always be regretful of the life they have lived – if they weren’t honest, if they did people harm, if they didn’t treat their children well & so on. Nobody ever regrets being poor, or not having a nice car in their last hours on this planet. We often connect to our deepest sorrow & acknowledge that. So why live a life in denial of what may be bothering you every single day? Why live a life in a lie? We can be honest and change our lives at any single moment throughout.