Living a Harmonious Life in our Eighties

My husband and I have found that to live a truly harmonious way of life in our eighties requires us to be responsible for the quality of lives we lead.

We met Serge Benhayon and his family thirteen years ago, as well as many other people who have become our very good friends. Over these thirteen years we have learned many life skills which have helped us change our conceptions about life and about the choices we make. It is interesting to have these new concepts come into one’s life as one grows older: so many of our friends who have remained in Sydney are finding their lives are contracting, their friends are dying and they only have their families. We, on the other hand, find that our lives are expanding with new friends and new challenges all the time.

As we enter into our ninth decade we feel more aware, more alive… and more blessed by sincere and loving friends than ever before. This I attribute to the many life lessons that Serge Benhayon has shown us. We have found that by listening to our own body rhythms and going to bed early we can live more productive and balanced lives.

By taking full responsibility for our actions and our reactions we can live more harmoniously with each other and with all others: this has made our lives so much more worthwhile and so much more meaningful.

We no longer feel the need for any stimulants, either coffee or alcohol, which both play such a large part in our society at present. Both are very harmful for our bodies and should not be considered “harmless”. We feel that alcohol related violence is a present source of much suffering and alcohol should be seen to be the scourge that it actually is.

Living harmoniously is something that so many do not understand – and probably don’t want to understand – because it means that they really have to look at how they live their lives. How one thinks, how one reacts and how one communicates with one’s fellow humans is all one’s own responsibility, no-one can do this for you, and it is not something you can wriggle out of either, although many spend a lot of energy trying to do so!

We have found that establishing a rhythm to living and recognising when that rhythm is disturbed – either by our own actions or reactions or by absorbing the energy of others – enables us to deal with anything that life throws at us. It is all a matter of being with ourselves 100% all the time – this does take practice, but it is so worthwhile.

I feel, in all honesty, that I will continue to live a productive and loving life until I die, whenever that might be. I feel more alive and more joyful than at any other stage of my life because for the first time I take full responsibility and know that my wellbeing is totally up to me – not because of anything or anyone else, and not because I have to be a certain way or not.

I am simply me and it is wonderful.

By Rowena Parkes

566 thoughts on “Living a Harmonious Life in our Eighties

  1. “….. feel, in all honesty, that I will continue to live a productive and loving life until I die, whenever that might be. I feel more alive and more joyful than at any other stage of my life because for the first time I take full responsibility and know that my wellbeing is totally up to me” Such a beautiful and inspiring blog Rowena. Thankyou for sharing.

  2. Thank you for sharing how you live, you are beautiful Rowena. To know that we are still able to enjoy life by sharing our wisdom with others and generally being in the livingness of this wisdom!

  3. “I feel more alive and more joyful than at any other stage of my life because for the first time I take full responsibility and know that my wellbeing is totally up to me”.

    When people talk about the word responsibility, you can almost feel the sigh and the weight of the world on their shoulders. We can often feel burdened by responsibility.

    But what you are sharing here is completely different. You are feeling more joyful and alive because of taking full responsibility. An important different perspective that the world needs to hear. Responsibility is the new black.

    And I love that you know that your well-being is totally up to you. A beaut reminder because it is also totally up to me (my well-being that is :-).

  4. A bit of humour here – I thought the title was living a harmonious life in the 1980’s… and I was thinking that must have been so hard! Anyway…. lovely to read this Rowena, and be inspired that our journey is relevant throughout our lives, and the expansion continues right up to the day we passover.

  5. I simply love the responsibility and grace that this sentence holds.
    ” How one thinks, how one reacts and how one communicates with one’s fellow humans is all one’s own responsibility, no-one can do this for you, and it is not something you can wriggle out of either, although many spend a lot of energy trying to do so!”

  6. ‘I am simply me and it is wonderful.’ This blog is refreshingly wonderful, it’s so rare to read from someone in their eighties how much the love their life and how much they still embrace everything that is on offer. Did I say rare? Actually I think you are the first person I’ve ever come across – amazing.

  7. What I feel most when I read your words Rowena, is that life has no end, that there is no beginning nor an end and that every moment lived asks for the same responsibility no matter what age we are.

  8. “We have found that establishing a rhythm to living and recognising when that rhythm is disturbed – either by our own actions or reactions or by absorbing the energy of others – enables us to deal with anything that life throws at us.”
    This sentence represents a life lesson that should be nurtured, explored and supported our whole lives. In my experience, living with this level of responsibility allows for clear understanding and a sense of solidness and trust in self that supports truth and integrity. This can only support others in our lives.

  9. Dramas, intrigues, difficulties and struggles are like a rollercoaster ride at a fairground – they might appeal and stimulate but ultimately they just leave us feeling ill. Your words Rowena are a beautiful reminder that simplicity, evenness and harmony are our birth right and natural state, at any age.

    1. We all seek reprieve from the chaos of life as it is currently being lived. But there can be no harmony without responsibility. Responsibility is the breath of wind beneath the sails of a smooth sailing boat. Take this away and you will need to hold tight.

  10. It is so refreshing and inspiring to read a blog so full of sparkle and commitment to life in your age bracket Rowena. You are a very beautiful role model of how to be a true elder.

  11. And I would like to add that it is extremely rare to hear a person in their eighties say “I am simply me and it is wonderful”. Love it Rowena!

  12. ‘We have found that establishing a rhythm to living and recognising when that rhythm is disturbed – either by our own actions or reactions or by absorbing the energy of others – enables us to deal with anything that life throws at us’. Yes, absolutley Rowena, this is gold and is also how I live my life which has become super simple and is The Way of The Livingness, presented by Serge Benhayon.

  13. Thank you Rowena for highlighting a way of living that honors the responsibility we all hold as beings here on earth together, so we can live as we are harmoniously intended. It is very inspiring to feel how the joyfulness of life is naturally present when we willingly choose to be aware of and honest about how we are living through the choices we are making on a day to day basis, for ourselves first and with all others, and as such let go of what does not feel true. By embracing the responsibility we all have of the choices we make, and choosing to truly honor and respect ourselves, we are naturally then able to honor and respect others which allows us to live in a more harmonious way with all.

  14. “We have found that by listening to our own body rhythms and going to bed early we can live more productive and balanced lives.” I absolutely agree, a deep daily care for who we are leads to productive, full, joyful and successful life.

  15. So inspiring to read Rowena. Our lives are continually expanding and as we age it does not mean that life need reduce in any way, as you are testament too. Your love and vibrancy is felt.

  16. I love reading this blog Rowena, your reflection offers others a different way to be as you age, so many slow down and lose purpose as they grow old but you inspire us with your loving choice to remain committed to life and be productive and continue to expand and grow.

  17. I find this a real joy to read, it reminds me to keep things simple and to appreciate how much taking full responsibility for ourselves and our choices is daily medicine.

  18. The power responsibility holds is only a choice away, making it a simple change in our movements towards a yes or a no to love.

  19. Choosing to be responsible for you life entirely as you enter into your 9th decade Rowena is pretty amazing. You’ve lived several decades not choosing this so to be open to completely changing your belief systems is really quite outstanding. What an inspiration to the many of us that haven’t lived the years you have. Just goes to show, it’s never too late and a leopard sure as hell can change it’s spots.

  20. Recently I have become more aware of the importance of having a rhythm in my day. It is this rhythm that supports me and forms a foundation for my everyday living, a rhythm that I am building and developing and when it does get disturbed it is important to recognise it and be honest; like I found out recently when we had some new lights fitted in our kitchen. I got irritable as I placed more importance on what was being done than the love for myself.

  21. Wow this is inspiring to read and what a testament to your choices you are Rowena. 80 years of age and with the vitality, clarity and self-love that is beyond many 60 year olds. Learning to understand that it does come down to our responsibility of our choices and that this is the outcome to we will live with in our bodies is something that we should be taught at schools so we have a life full of richness and welling being.

  22. I loved reading this Rowena and also loved listening to you talk about how you live, the changes you have made and the relationship you and your husband have on a webcast once. The wisdom and responsibility you carry and live is very inspiring for all those that see you.

  23. What a great approach to life – this is our life – it is completely and totally up to us how we choose to live everyday and how much importance we place on the quality of our day, our work, our sleep and our well-being.

    1. I agree it is a beautiful approach to life – “this is our life”, we have complete control of how we choose to live everyday, every moment, how much importance we place on the quality of our day, work, sleep and well-being, as well as what we eat or drink.

  24. Thank you Rowena, this is a loving and healing reflection and makes practical how we can choose love as the way in our lives and the outcome this brings. I love your honesty about it taking practice. This has been very supportive.

  25. Rowena you are such an inspiration… for the way you have expressed about life shows how ageless we actually are. The body may be ‘old’ in years and weathering but the wisdom, engagement and vitality can still be in abundance. Thanks for sharing, it is so important to have role models like you to show us how it can be.

  26. Gorgeous Rowena and proof that we are not here to wither away towards some finite point but rather to continually expand back towards our true way to be – the endless love that we are.

  27. “so many of our friends who have remained in Sydney are finding their lives are contracting, their friends are dying and they only have their families. We, on the other hand, find that our lives are expanding with new friends and new challenges all the time.” I have a feeling I have highlighted this sentence before. If so, so be it – it is worthy of remark as it is offering us all a new way to live and be in our elder years. It’s so joyful to feel how life can expand instead of the supposed ‘norm’ of contracting as Rowena observes. I look forward to my elder years with the inspiration and foundations laid by those who walk before.

  28. Rowena, the joy you express by simply being you is almost unknown for people of your age. What an amazing inspiration and role model you are by living a harmonious life choosing to be responsible for who you are and what you put out there. And I can absolutely relate to feeling more alive and vital since starting to take responsibility for all my actions and reactions.

  29. A great example that giving up and giving in doesn’t work and that it is possible to truly lead one’s life (rather than being led) if we choose to take responsibility and be transparent and accountable.

  30. I feel like I have been hugged, supported, guided and truly loved by the absolute purpose and commitment to life that’s expressed here by Rowena. Her and her husband are the elders that I wish to be as I age, the elders that are needed to arise our world from the disregard that many see as their right.

  31. Beautiful what you share here Rowena “We have found that establishing a rhythm to living and recognising when that rhythm is disturbed – either by our own actions or reactions or by absorbing the energy of others – enables us to deal with anything that life throws at us.” When we create that rhythm that flows and is loving and supportive, it is very easy to recognise when something does not feel right and so we can deal with it instantly.

  32. ‘How one thinks, how one reacts and how one communicates with one’s fellow humans is all one’s own responsibility.’ More importantly it lays the foundations of what our tomorrow will be for us all.

  33. So refreshing to read Rowena! I am inspired by your joyous life and the wisdom that you live by. The example you set we could all do to emulate. Thank you.

  34. ‘It is all a matter of being with ourselves 100% all the time – this does take practice, but it is so worthwhile.’ This is heart warming to read. I used to never want to be in my own company – and then was so insecure in others’ that I was caught oscillating between being alone and in company and uncomfortable in both and at ease in neither. So I’m practising being with myself whether I’m by myself or with people. And it is taking practice but it is very worth it!

  35. You are an inspiration Rowena. I love what you share about how for many this can be a time where life diminishes yet what you share shows how every day regardless of our age we can grow, deepen, learn and embrace life in full.

  36. Rowena, this is so inspiring to read and should be shared with many. So often I hear one’s excuse for not making change be, they are to old to do anything about it now. This life, and the many to come, are all but one life that continues on. If we chose to live this truth, we would know that age is irrelevant and that change is a choice that can happen at any age.

  37. I might add that you also look amazing Rowena! What an inspirational woman you are, I hope to be as enthusiastic and passionate at your age. You can feel that you are not winding down, you are continuing to grow and love more and more each day.

  38. Living harmoniously is something that so many do not understand – and probably don’t want to understand – because it means that they really have to look at how they live their lives – but this feels true. It feels like there’s this overall reluctance about embracing the whole truth and we in stead keep one eye shut while we keep telling ourselves that we are individuals and we only have to care about our own lot, and not the whole lot.

  39. What a joy it is to read this – of how you can live a full and loving life no matter the life stage. Of how you can take responsibility, be present and take care of yourself. Wow this is a game changer for older people.

  40. A beautiful sharing Rowena of living a life to the full no matter what the age, ‘How one thinks, how one reacts and how one communicates with one’s fellow humans is all one’s own responsibility.’ and this responsibility allows for more loving, honest and harmonious relationships

  41. I was speaking with a dear friend this morning whose birthday is today. We are both 55 and we talked about how much more we feel life has to offer and how much fun there is to be had in this life. Blogs like yours Rowena are inspiring, especially the tips on how you are living more harmoniously. Life certainly doesn’t stop just because the body gets older.

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