Living From Love, Not Hurt

I recently attended a Livingness 1 Workshop presented by Serge Benhayon, founder of Universal Medicine. I have attended this and other workshops previously and, whilst each one has held an abundance of light bulb moments, the clarity and understanding in me from this particular one has been exceptionally profound.

I realised that the hurts I’ve absorbed through false beliefs of my ‘failings’ as a woman, mother, wife, friend, daughter, sister, employee and neighbour, are how I have encased myself in a seemingly impenetrable suit of armour, burying my natural essence underneath. These hurts, I have further come to understand, have been nothing more than excuses to justify not living in the fullness of this Essence.

Our Essence, you see, is the love we all seek, searching all corners of the globe, stuck in the belief that it’s ‘out there’: in some hidden valley, on top of a mountain, in the deepest ocean, or with a partner, having children, a new body at the gym, a better house or car, a new pair of shoes, that ‘must have’ dress, or chocolate bar after chocolate bar. When all this fails to fulfil, we have turned our quest to outer space, sure that it’s ‘out there’, as deep, deep down, we all know it’s somewhere.

But it isn’t ‘out there’ – it’s inside us, solidly, continuously, bigger and grander than anything this world has to offer. Take the most amazing sunset/sunrise you have ever seen, the most delicious food you have ever eaten, the joy felt looking into a new love’s eyes, the miracle of childbirth or simply the joy of a child and multiply it by a gazillion… that is our esoteric Essence.

In my experience, the steps to let go of this searching and allow what is inside to flourish have begun with my relationship with myself. This is not something that I have suddenly ‘got’ and am now sitting pretty. This is my life on a daily basis, how I am with myself in each and every moment. It’s about the choices I make when I get out of bed in the morning and how I place my feet on the floor; when I feel what to eat instead of eating what I feel, when I choose what to wear based on what will support the gorgeousness of me and when I connect with everyone, not from my hurts but from my Essence.

Being in a deeply loving, nurturing and honest relationship with myself allows for a deeply loving, nurturing and honest relationship with everyone else.

As I went back to work yesterday, full of the knowing of my Essence and the beauty of connecting with people in this way, it wasn’t long before I bought into someone’s pain and allowed it to trigger my own. Almost immediately I began thinking of foods I could eat (mainly the sugary or salty kind) that would allow me to block out the feeling of yuckiness that had invaded my body as I bought into the “it’s all too hard” mentality.

But you know what? It isn’t! The commitment to drugs, alcohol, overeating, drinking caffeine, lack of exercise, judgment, blame, lack of self-worth, jealousy and comparison, with which I have excelled in my life, I now dedicate that same commitment to living every day from my innermost.

Inspired by Serge Benhayon, Natalie Benhayon, Michael Benhayon and Curtis Benhayon as well as other Universal Medicine Practitioners, students and friends, I have discovered more of what innately lives inside me. It has always been and continues to be here for me to choose it each second of my unfolding day.

There is no Pollyanna approach here, simply the reality of the truth as presented by Serge Benhayon.

By Julie Ferguson, Brisbane, Complementary-to-Medicine Practitioner

Related Reading:
We are not our Hurts
True Relationships – Being Love First, not Demanding it from Others
The Power of Healing Our Hurts

599 thoughts on “Living From Love, Not Hurt

  1. Wow Julie, you have really turned your life around. Instead of drinking from the muddy polluted waters of the stagnant lake, you have committed to drinking from the pristine font of the waters of Life.

  2. When we begin to explore our relationship with who we are within, the love we are in essence, we soon realise that it requires no effort at all to be ourselves, and in fact can feel how it requires much more effort to resist and deny it.

  3. When we bury our hurts we end up living a life of protection in order not to feel the hurts we have, yet all the time we do this we are stopping ourselves from living the love we truly are, and when we let go of those hurts and live from our essence we wonder why we held on to them for so long.

  4. Our esoteric essence, is the divine part in us that is indestructible, no matter how much drugs we use, alcohol we drink, to cover it. Finding it and building a solid relation to it, is the trick of life.

  5. “Our Essence, you see, is the love we all seek,” And we have all been seeking in the wrong place until we come back to feel the love of our inner-most essence.

  6. I have come to the understanding that hurts that we hold onto or have buried, keep us locked away from who we truly are. And it is through healing these hurts that we have ingested, that allows us to reconnect and feel the true beauty of who we are, and from there, start the journey back to who we truly are at last.

  7. I realised the other day, that we all have this divine essence, and that it naturally consistently expresses divinity. This constant expression is our true nature. By going into, for example, is just overlaying this constant expression of divinity, but is not who we are and just a moment of overshadowing our constant natural expression. Felt like a big relieve to realise this.

  8. I love the title of this blog and how it reflects the simplicity of the choice we can make every day and how deeply this can impact how our day is and how we are with others.

  9. ‘Being in a deeply loving, nurturing and honest relationship with myself allows for a deeply loving, nurturing and honest relationship with everyone else.’ Absolutely the relationship with ourselves is crucial to how we are with others and investing time in exploring and falling in love with ourselves may not be currently the accepted norm but has most definitely supported me to let go of my many layers of protection and build loving and confirming relationships with others in many areas of my life.

  10. Julie thanks for this ‘ouch moment’
    “These hurts, I have further come to understand, have been nothing more than excuses to justify not living in the fullness of this Essence.”
    I personally get so much from reading all the blogs that are published because there is so much to re learn about how we hide from our own innate essence making all sorts of excuses as to why we cannot take responsibility to look after ourselves and instead indulge in foods and liquids that further the indulgence and numb our bodies so that we cannot feel the harm we do to them. Why is it we withhold our natural birthright from ourselves and instead look to other to supply what we won’t give to ourselves? This makes no sense to me

  11. A brilliant exposure of that fact that we seem to have our commitments the wrong way round. As you say Julie If we can be so “committed to drugs, alcohol, overeating, drinking caffeine, lack of exercise, judgment, blame, lack of self-worth, jealousy and comparison, with which I have excelled in my life, I now dedicate that same commitment to living every day from my innermost.”

  12. Letting go of chasing the dream/ideals outside yourself began for me by being humbled by my body which could no longer take this kind of treatment. It then was a slow process of building care for myself back into my norm, like a parent caring for a child. It keeps evolving now but as Julie says, it always has its foundation in your relationship with yourself.

  13. “Our Essence… is the love we all seek.” So simple and profound in their beauty of telling a gigantic truth, these words are a gift to read.

  14. While living from hurt rather than Love there will be conflict and inevitably violence in the home, which then spread out into national and global. It is vital for the health and evolution of the human race that we deal with our hurts and heal them.

    1. It is vital, I agree Lyndy – as otherwise we are continuing to allow abuse to be considered ‘normal’ which as we can see by the state of outplay and the nature of our relationship in the world today is it not, nor is it serving us well at all.

      1. Absolutely Carola. Over 400 years ago, Shakespeare presented the first performance of ‘The Taming of the Shrew’ which magnified the battle of the sexes, the accepted norm of domestic abuse, to the view of an Elizabethan audience. It is gobsmacking that we are still engaged in this wounding, damaging drama.

  15. Many of us tell ourselves we are no good at commitment and yet we are master of it. It’s just what we have been committing to that’s caused the problem e.g. overeating, being emotional, unmotivated, lacking self worth, drive, drugs etc… This shows me that there is no commitment issue – just a matter of choosing to commit to different things that support e.g. being caring and loving, eating well, rest etc. instead of those things that don’t.

  16. When we bury our hurts we make them appear bigger than they truly are and in holding onto them instead of letting them go we reconfigure ourselves away from our natural and loving expression.

    1. yes when we don’t deal with our hurts then they take over and before we know it, everything we do seems to come from these hurts. But this is a simple inversion of the truth that we have an essence, which is simply and purely love, and not one ounce of hurt resides there.

  17. Julie thank you for my ‘ouch’ this morning
    “These hurts, I have further come to understand, have been nothing more than excuses to justify not living in the fullness of this Essence.”
    From this sentence I have to be honest enough to say to myself that I am playing this game too. And this is also a huge exposure of the type of energy we are using to keep ourselves small, rather than admit there is a grandness that we all are evolving back to and this is a completely different energy that we are not logging into.

  18. This is a pretty cool revelation ‘These hurts, I have further come to understand, have been nothing more than excuses to justify not living in the fullness of this Essence’. As we as this ‘But it isn’t ‘out there’ – it’s inside us, solidly, continuously, bigger and grander than anything this world has to offer’ Gosh if we came to truly understood these things alone WOW what a difference in the world it would be. And all of this comes down to ‘how we are with ourselves in each moment’.

  19. I love the commitment of waking up and just being up for life, knowing there are a lot to deal with but we are ready for it, because dealing with everything allows us to be in life, not away from it or on the periphery. Committing to life deeply we truly live on earth and to not needing to be here one day.

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