Living From Love, Not Hurt

I recently attended a Livingness 1 Workshop presented by Serge Benhayon, founder of Universal Medicine. I have attended this and other workshops previously and, whilst each one has held an abundance of light bulb moments, the clarity and understanding in me from this particular one has been exceptionally profound.

I realised that the hurts I’ve absorbed through false beliefs of my ‘failings’ as a woman, mother, wife, friend, daughter, sister, employee and neighbour, are how I have encased myself in a seemingly impenetrable suit of armour, burying my natural essence underneath. These hurts, I have further come to understand, have been nothing more than excuses to justify not living in the fullness of this Essence.

Our Essence, you see, is the love we all seek, searching all corners of the globe, stuck in the belief that it’s ‘out there’: in some hidden valley, on top of a mountain, in the deepest ocean, or with a partner, having children, a new body at the gym, a better house or car, a new pair of shoes, that ‘must have’ dress, or chocolate bar after chocolate bar. When all this fails to fulfil, we have turned our quest to outer space, sure that it’s ‘out there’, as deep, deep down, we all know it’s somewhere.

But it isn’t ‘out there’ – it’s inside us, solidly, continuously, bigger and grander than anything this world has to offer. Take the most amazing sunset/sunrise you have ever seen, the most delicious food you have ever eaten, the joy felt looking into a new love’s eyes, the miracle of childbirth or simply the joy of a child and multiply it by a gazillion… that is our esoteric Essence.

In my experience, the steps to let go of this searching and allow what is inside to flourish have begun with my relationship with myself. This is not something that I have suddenly ‘got’ and am now sitting pretty. This is my life on a daily basis, how I am with myself in each and every moment. It’s about the choices I make when I get out of bed in the morning and how I place my feet on the floor; when I feel what to eat instead of eating what I feel, when I choose what to wear based on what will support the gorgeousness of me and when I connect with everyone, not from my hurts but from my Essence.

Being in a deeply loving, nurturing and honest relationship with myself allows for a deeply loving, nurturing and honest relationship with everyone else.

As I went back to work yesterday, full of the knowing of my Essence and the beauty of connecting with people in this way, it wasn’t long before I bought into someone’s pain and allowed it to trigger my own. Almost immediately I began thinking of foods I could eat (mainly the sugary or salty kind) that would allow me to block out the feeling of yuckiness that had invaded my body as I bought into the “it’s all too hard” mentality.

But you know what? It isn’t! The commitment to drugs, alcohol, overeating, drinking caffeine, lack of exercise, judgment, blame, lack of self-worth, jealousy and comparison, with which I have excelled in my life, I now dedicate that same commitment to living every day from my innermost.

Inspired by Serge Benhayon, Natalie Benhayon, Michael Benhayon and Curtis Benhayon as well as other Universal Medicine Practitioners, students and friends, I have discovered more of what innately lives inside me. It has always been and continues to be here for me to choose it each second of my unfolding day.

There is no Pollyanna approach here, simply the reality of the truth as presented by Serge Benhayon.

By Julie Ferguson, Brisbane, Complementary-to-Medicine Practitioner

Related Reading:
We are not our Hurts
True Relationships – Being Love First, not Demanding it from Others
The Power of Healing Our Hurts

543 thoughts on “Living From Love, Not Hurt

  1. The Livingness 1 course by Serge Benhayon is my favourite course, it’s the foundation of love, the essence of who we all are that we have stepped away from, and returning to that essence is what brings the joy back into life. No flat screen TV, cocktail, overseas holiday, or other supposed apex of human living can fill the void of simply living our true selves again. What Serge is offering is truly a gift. A very beautiful course to attend.

  2. Serge Benhayon inspires by reflection that living from love in connection with our essence is how we are truly meant to live.

  3. There is a false belief that love is an on off switch. That a momentum of not living love for ages can just turn on a switch to suddenly have a body full of love. Whilst we can make a committed choice to return to love, love is a process and a forever unfoldment. Every choice of being love builds the next choice. Wanting ourselves to be perfect in love is recognition. Wanting to change things all for the best without wanting to deal with all of our past choices is impossible. Just start to be love and live this in our moments of awareness, rather than focusing of what we have missed in love. Be love. Be love. Be love.

  4. When we are driven by our hurts and imperfections we get taken on a ride of deception and distraction that fails to address the root cause of these same hurts.

  5. Embarking in developing our relationship with self is forever ongoing where there is no room for self-judgment or lack of trust only the absoluteness of our connection to the divine.

  6. Exactly Julie. The same dedication that we use to take ourselves off- track and then to hold ourselves together with can be used to choosing wisely and lovingly.

    1. Love your point Lyndy! Dedication can be strong for us, but we must ask – dedication to what? Dedication is certainly our strength when we follow the compass of our inner hearts.

  7. A gorgeous reminder of what love is and what is not. And so our hurts are just showing us where we have not been loving. Thank you Julie.. We need to come back to who we are and need to live the love instantly.

  8. Nothing in this world can deliver what we truly want – but it does a great job and giving us everything to distract us away from the fact that everything we seek is already within and we already are that everything.

  9. What I love about the Universal Medicine workshops is that it does not matter if we have attended them before or not, you still get so much out of them. I recall how I used to wonder why some people repeated workshops, and then one year I decided to repeat a Level 1 Healing workshop – I wanted to support any new people who were doing it for the first time. When I attended the workshop, even though I was somewhat familiar with the techniques we learned, because Serge presents each workshop from a different angle and with a different ‘twist’, it was like I was attending a brand new work shop – I was delighted! This is similar to Serge’s books where there are so many layers of blessings that one can receive – each time that you read a book of his, there is something different you get from them and it is almost like reading a brand new book!

  10. Like day and night, either living from hurt and reaction or the love that resides within, is the difference of how life looks like and one´s whole approach to and relationship with every aspect of life. As every type of energy seeks more of itself so does hurt look for confirmation to stay in the hurt and protecting attitudes and so does love, resonating with and magnetically pulling more love. The choice is ours, what posture do we take, in every moment another choice confirming itself.

  11. We have identified with our hurts so much that when we seek love we actually don´t know anymore what love truly is, ie the version of love we will settle for is not true love at all but an emotional substitute that will assure that we don´t need to open up again to what we actually are longing for as it would require to let the guard down and face our hurts, take responsibility and heal. As long as we are not willing to go there we will seek love outside and won’t be able to reconnect to the abundance of love within.

  12. It is a choice to either stay caught in hurt and reaction or to make love one´s priority. Just the intention of making life about love means a change of game. As soon as we turn towards love, love ‘turns towards’ us, ie. we give love permission to come our way and enter. Without such openness love is still at offer but we will tend to be blind and closed off and hence ignorant to it while we are focused on being protected and avoiding to get hurt.

  13. Julie what you say is so true, we put such effort into
    “drugs, alcohol, overeating, drinking caffeine, lack of exercise, judgment, blame, lack of self-worth, jealousy and comparison, with which I have excelled in my life, I now dedicate that same commitment to living every day from my innermost.”
    I like you I now give myself the commitment to really look after myself and take myself into consideration all the time and it’s paying off because I can actually feel this other part of me that is truly beautiful to feel and now, of course, I’m wondering why did I leave it until my 60’s to discover this other part of me as you say my essence. Well my excuse is that I didn’t meet Serge Benhayon until my 50’s and its taken 10 years to let go of my own resistance to me! How daft is that!!

  14. It is indeed simple and just needs dedication and an understanding that in each moment I can build and can deepen the relation with me. It is 180 degree
    turn around of my life where my primary focus is the connection with me, and then everything outside me, including the connection with my partner.

  15. Julie, this is so simple and very beautiful; ‘Being in a deeply loving, nurturing and honest relationship with myself allows for a deeply loving, nurturing and honest relationship with everyone else.’ This makes absolute sense and yet this is not something we commonly hear or read.

  16. You are right Julie – it isn’t ‘too hard’ at all for we work harder in not being this Essence in truth. And to be honest, even if it is hard work, it is worth every moment along the way.

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