Talking His Walk

Most of us are familiar with the term ‘walking your talk.’

We usually take it to mean that what we talk, the principles we tell other people about, the way of living we endorse, the philosophies we hold and believe to be true and worthy, should be the way that we walk, i.e. the way that we live our life.

‘Walking your talk’ is very frequently used in areas of life such as business, sports, spirituality, health (particularly in the areas of weight loss, fitness and addiction), self-development, parenting, religion, education, and in fact any area of life where there is a perceived scale of goodness or worthiness against which we measure ourselves.

However I have seen most people, including myself, struggle with ‘walking their talk’ in practice. I once had a discussion with a group who were doing a lifestyle development process that focussed on remaining continuously mindful about how they were presenting themselves to the world. This covered posture, movement, style of speech, suppression of emotions, and general demeanour. They were very committed to this and paid a lot of money to do the course, promoting it to all their friends as well. But, and this is a big but, I could feel in those people an incredible tension of trying to constantly impose their philosophy onto their bodies according to their belief in what they thought was the right way. The effect was stilted speech, guarded demeanour, unresponsiveness to the energy or feeling of another person, second-guessing their own every word and move, and in effect living in a self-imposed ‘straitjacket’.

When it comes to gurus in many areas of life, I’ve noticed that the walking of the talk seems to be more difficult and more often unfulfilled for the guru than what is seen among the general mass of their followers (who usually reduce themselves and believe they are not good enough). An example is discovering that a spiritual guru who promotes a drug-free, ascetic, celibate life of mastery over desire, and constant presence and meditation, turns out to be indulgent, emotional, attention seeking, promiscuous, and revelling in power. I’ve noticed that the so-called advanced students of this guru (and it could apply to many gurus) are into drugs, all-night parties, pedophilia, multiple sexual partners and material opulence, while the face they present to the world, to their clients [in the case of practitioners] and to their communities, is one of serene, self-mastered enlightenment. Total hypocrisy!

I’ve noticed that many people who are great advocates of sport, fitness, physical body development, health and beauty, while presenting the face of their held beliefs to the world (‘talk’), behind the scenes live (‘walk’) the opposite. They eat lots of junk food, indulge in drugs, stay up late, party hard, overtrain, dishonour their relationships and compensate for the damage with health products, plastic surgery, top brand clothing and cars, psychotherapy, photoshopped images, etc. Again, hypocrisy.

And haven’t we all either experienced ourselves, or noticed others go through, the rollercoaster process of trying to lose weight and stay slim? Or get fit? Or be less angry? Or meet our ‘new year’s resolutions’?

What about churchgoing people? How often do we, or the ones we know, fail to live up to the ideal of living and worshipping according to our beliefs and then feel guilty and lesser for having failed to meet our own expectations and the expectations of our church?

Have you ever observed business leaders, lifestyle coaches, politicians, teachers, etc., who stand up and present (‘talk’) about ‘the best way to do it’ from the superior position of being a model of what they are talking, only to discover that in the day-to-day truth (‘walk’) of their private lives off stage, they do not live up to what they speak?

To be fair to people, we all have an inner sense of the true higher life, a feeling for what we could be if we were to live to the level of love, detachment, integrity, quality, commitment, compassion, service, and self-care that we believe to be a true path and worthy of walking. There is no doubt this is a true impulse toward our soul and our future life on earth. However, there is a big problem with the whole ‘walking your talk’ situation, and that is that we attempt to impose it upon ourselves from our thoughts based on a system of adopted beliefs in whatever arena of life we are considering.

The mind can take on any thoughts or system of belief and attempt to impose it on the body. Our minds can decide how we are to move, eat, speak, write, relate to others, etc. But if this is coming from outside of our bodies [and thoughts do indeed come from outside of our bodies, despite a deeply held belief among the majority of modern reductionist scientists], then what those thoughts are asking our body to do may be in contradiction to where our bodies are at and what they are capable of doing in their present state.

So if we are addicted to anything, be it drugs, sex, recognition, fame, work, victimhood, relationships, depression, wealth, being upbeat, looking cool, or whatever, then our bodies are energetically and physically configured to remain in that status quo and will have great difficulty rising above it – except in an occasional glorious moment of mastery and truly feeling the principle we strive to live constantly. But most of the time we struggle, not meeting our own expectations in the way we eat, sleep, exercise, walk, work, teach, parent, or relate.

What if by saying ‘walking our talk’ we have got it completely back to front? What if the truth is that the path to the higher life opens before us when we recognise that we are actually ‘talking our walk’ instead? That everything we say – our posture, our actions, all our expressions – are coming from the actual current state of our bodies?

This moves energy in the opposite direction from what we have been believing to be the way. What if the talking [i.e. our every expression] is coming from our bodies first, not our minds? What if we are in fact talking our walk in almost every moment of life? Another way to say this is that whatever state our body is really in, whatever the energy determining our choices, is what will govern what we say, how we look and how we behave.

That would certainly explain the difficulty we all have in ‘walking our talk’ – we are pushing against a great natural force with the inadequate counterforce of thoughts derived from somewhere else! And what if the difficulty of this leads to our applying an even greater counterforce of thought to try to overcome the momentum in our bodies? An example would be telling ourselves very sternly: “I absolutely will give up chocolate, I will not buy it, I will not even think about it,” only to find ourselves dreaming about it, obsessing over it, and pretty soon devouring it and feeling like a failure, which even spoils the indulgent saviour of comfort we were seeking? It doesn’t work because the thoughts are imposed onto the body in denial of where the body is at, the momentum the body is in. Moreover our bodies know this! Thus we feel the struggle.

While we go about ‘in love with’ our own thoughts, making plans, philosophising about how we will be, our body is sitting there being a part of the one universe and knowing in its every particle how to be in that universe. In effect, we are fighting against the flow when we try to walk our talk from a body that is in a momentum out of sync with the true flow of the all.

It has been a great revolution in my life to meet, come to know, observe and emulate as a great role model, a man who talks his walk. A man who expresses every word, thought, and action from the truth of his body. A man who continually commits to listening to his body and being guided by the truth it is expressing. So that if the body communicates (from universal knowing) that a food, a word, an action, or a movement feels to be out of alignment with the universe, he uses that awareness to make the next movement in the direction of alignment with the universe. Moment by moment, this builds a foundation from which the next thoughts and actions will come from the body, of a quality increasingly true. And what is the result of this commitment to awareness and being truthful about what is observed, with humility and yet with authority? The result is a man named Serge Benhayon.

This is not about worshipping an individual who has done something really cool that is difficult to impossible for most of us. This is about accepting and appreciating that someone, a fellow human, a brother, is talking his walk for all of us to see and to know that it is possible for all of us to do too. All we need do is open to the possibility that we have had it back to front all our lives, and that with this simple heartfelt commitment to listen to our bodies, to listen to our hearts, and to move in accordance with their communications (which come from the universe via our souls), then we too can walk and talk the joy-full life of grace, wisdom, harmony, brotherhood and unlimited love that we know is our true living way.

By Dianne Trussell, dedicated student of myself and humanity, scientist (BSc Hons), Goonellabah, Australia

Further Reading:
Self Care – ‘Walking the Talk’
Why Are We So Unquestioning?
Looking for Answers and a Game that No One Wins



636 thoughts on “Talking His Walk

  1. The way Serge Benhayon absolutely without question walks his talk, is the only reason that has confirmed to me that he is presenting a truth that cannot be likened to anything else. The Ageless Wisdom has depths that are beyond our comprehension, yet what Serge is a master at is making it everyday, hence The Way of The Livingness.

  2. It is a simple motto: Talk what you walk and walk what you talk. At least that would be honest and authentic and can be accepted as a process of developing transparency. But then there is still the crucial matter of quality we need to start with as it is the energetic quality we choose that will be expressed in movement and words. What true good does authenticity when the quality of what is expressed lacks love for people, is void of harmony and or is less than the truth we all can recognize to be the one truth?

  3. After a presentation by Natalie Benhayon today the walking and talking side of things got highlighted in the sense of whenever we are going to say something the quality of what comes out of our mouth is based on the movements that have led to this point in time. We could say that the talk was walked before even a word was articulated and in the same way the quality in which we talked will imprint the quality of the walk thereafter. In other words, walking and talking and walking are a continuum and nothing separate.

  4. Unfortunately there have been many lies spread about Serge Benhayon but in the 13 years since I met him I cannot see any truth in the allegations made against him. In fact there is more integrity and decency in him and his standards are way higher than other body work organisations I have visited or been involved with.

  5. Just as we learnt as babies, we must remember to walk before we talk, for the mouth is quick to speak what the body is yet to live and in this our words are robbed of their true fullness.

  6. I know I catch myself wanting to be ahead of where I am and not accepting that what I am doing is actually amazing. Being where we are at and living this consistently is definitely the start of walking our talk.

  7. I have given my power away to other gurus who I thought walked their talk and found out for myself how untrue it was. Something inside would nag at me that didn’t feel true and I would dismiss it for feeling this way.

    For me I would eventually find that they weren’t the ones and move on to another. Until one day I came across Serge Behayon. I have never met a person who simply presents the truth. The decision to accept it or not is upon me but my body certainly responds to it.

    I cannot agree with you more Dianne, Serge Benhayon not only talking his walk, he walks his talk too.

  8. ‘the thoughts are imposed onto the body in denial of where the body is at, the momentum the body is in’ – this statement is a biggie for me. This is asking me to appreciate where my body is at and when it is ready or in the momentum, the body it self will let go of what no longer serves.

    I can relax now and stop annihilating myself every time I eat something that the mind is asking me to turn to, I just need to trust my body will say no when it is ready.

  9. Dianne when we attempt to control ourselves with ideals and beliefs in how we are supposed to be, its almost we create an opening for the extremes of behaviour. I have noticed this about myself with food. If I try and control from ‘how I should eat’ (whatever that many mean)rather than simply checking in with my body, I tend to eat in ways, often behind closed doors, that are not supportive. This makes me question therefore the true value of ideals and beliefs and the relationship between this and our bodies.

  10. I recently got to feel the contrast between what you talk and walk in life. In being filmed and filming other people, we got to see where the words were not matched by the way the body moved. For instance, if you say you feel confident, but you appear anxious, there are mixed signals being given off. This authenticity and consistency is something that sets Serge Benhayon apart from other people. When he speaks there is nothing in his movements or manner that creates any doubt. In fact, I find the body speaks louder than the words and assures me that this is the real deal.

  11. Our reflections are so powerful to others, everyone is clocking how we move and walk, and when we see someone such as Serge Benhayon who lives with such energetic responsibility and energetic integrity and then to see him walk his talk, it inspires and ignites us in a way that invites us to feel we are one and the same.

  12. Our bodies are our vessel we move in, they reflect all we choose and when we talk it comes from our perspective and our perspective is informed by how we move. I know this from experience, work and inspiration, Serge Benhayon is a master.

  13. Many people do talk their walk. For example you can have people who are very careless in their speech, slouching and aggressive people who swear and have a hard walk.

    1. In Serge Benhayon I have met and observed someone who both moves and speaks with absolute love and truth and that leaves quite a mark on the earth and everyone who hears and sees him. Some are inspired and love it and some react in other ways and find it very confronting. We are all affected by each other’s talks and walk as well as our own.

  14. While people think that they can master their bodies by their mind, it is actually the opposite, as the body shows clearly in any moment where someone is at. No matter what they are showing off from their minds, the way they walk tells us everything.

  15. The way we walk tells us everything of who we are, how we live and what ideals and believes we hold. Everything can be observed in your walk and actually we all do know that but most of the time choose to ignore that capability and instead like to listen to the nice words or look to the way how people are dressed and present themselves with all kinds of mannerisms.

  16. Willfully deciding to do or not do something doesn’t stick over the long term. Although the body will do as it’s told and respond to commands if we make it, it’s not our natural way of being. Something eventually has to give. The body knows to the absolute detail how it wants to live, and quite easily communicates that, when we allow it to.

  17. Serge Benhayon is a very extraordinary being in a very ordinary body – with no disrespect to Serge – And he does life very well . It is no wonder that there are those that want to destroy him. It has happened time and time again in history. They can destroy the man, as in the case of Jesus Christ, but not the being. Serge will continue walking his talk for some time and we will all be blessed by this

  18. Serge Benhayon is a powerful example of a man who talks his walk. His integrity and love is a true inspiration to all who meet him and such inspiration is life changing.

  19. Being honest is always the direction of the universe, as Truth is the only way our body particles know. So being honest to where we are at as a body, is super powerful. Then we can truly hear where our next step is. But imposing from the mind of where we want ourselves to be instead of honestly acknowledging where we are at, we lose this intelligent navigation of the body. It is then an anxious battle, without settling in the body for it to do its magic. Our particles are intelligent, they know what to do.

  20. There is something very steadying and reassuring about people who walk their talk. You know that you can trust what they say, and that they have used trial and error so they know what they are talking about. They can relate to all the pitfalls we seem to keep falling into in life and offer inspiration to those who are willing to give it a try.

  21. Talking one’s walk put a whole new slant on the responsibility we all have to move in a way that allows us to be all that we are in full. As you say Dianne, Serge Benhayon is a great example of being able to talk his walk..

    1. In truth our walk exposes everything about how we live and behave ourselves into the tiniest details. Therefore in fact we all do walk our talk but we are not always honest with ourselves about what our talk in reality is.

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