Talking His Walk

Most of us are familiar with the term ‘walking your talk.’

We usually take it to mean that what we talk, the principles we tell other people about, the way of living we endorse, the philosophies we hold and believe to be true and worthy, should be the way that we walk, i.e. the way that we live our life.

‘Walking your talk’ is very frequently used in areas of life such as business, sports, spirituality, health (particularly in the areas of weight loss, fitness and addiction), self-development, parenting, religion, education, and in fact any area of life where there is a perceived scale of goodness or worthiness against which we measure ourselves.

However I have seen most people, including myself, struggle with ‘walking their talk’ in practice. I once had a discussion with a group who were doing a lifestyle development process that focussed on remaining continuously mindful about how they were presenting themselves to the world. This covered posture, movement, style of speech, suppression of emotions, and general demeanour. They were very committed to this and paid a lot of money to do the course, promoting it to all their friends as well. But, and this is a big but, I could feel in those people an incredible tension of trying to constantly impose their philosophy onto their bodies according to their belief in what they thought was the right way. The effect was stilted speech, guarded demeanour, unresponsiveness to the energy or feeling of another person, second-guessing their own every word and move, and in effect living in a self-imposed ‘straitjacket’.

When it comes to gurus in many areas of life, I’ve noticed that the walking of the talk seems to be more difficult and more often unfulfilled for the guru than what is seen among the general mass of their followers (who usually reduce themselves and believe they are not good enough). An example is discovering that a spiritual guru who promotes a drug-free, ascetic, celibate life of mastery over desire, and constant presence and meditation, turns out to be indulgent, emotional, attention seeking, promiscuous, and revelling in power. I’ve noticed that the so-called advanced students of this guru (and it could apply to many gurus) are into drugs, all-night parties, pedophilia, multiple sexual partners and material opulence, while the face they present to the world, to their clients [in the case of practitioners] and to their communities, is one of serene, self-mastered enlightenment. Total hypocrisy!

I’ve noticed that many people who are great advocates of sport, fitness, physical body development, health and beauty, while presenting the face of their held beliefs to the world (‘talk’), behind the scenes live (‘walk’) the opposite. They eat lots of junk food, indulge in drugs, stay up late, party hard, overtrain, dishonour their relationships and compensate for the damage with health products, plastic surgery, top brand clothing and cars, psychotherapy, photoshopped images, etc. Again, hypocrisy.

And haven’t we all either experienced ourselves, or noticed others go through, the rollercoaster process of trying to lose weight and stay slim? Or get fit? Or be less angry? Or meet our ‘new year’s resolutions’?

What about churchgoing people? How often do we, or the ones we know, fail to live up to the ideal of living and worshipping according to our beliefs and then feel guilty and lesser for having failed to meet our own expectations and the expectations of our church?

Have you ever observed business leaders, lifestyle coaches, politicians, teachers, etc., who stand up and present (‘talk’) about ‘the best way to do it’ from the superior position of being a model of what they are talking, only to discover that in the day-to-day truth (‘walk’) of their private lives off stage, they do not live up to what they speak?

To be fair to people, we all have an inner sense of the true higher life, a feeling for what we could be if we were to live to the level of love, detachment, integrity, quality, commitment, compassion, service, and self-care that we believe to be a true path and worthy of walking. There is no doubt this is a true impulse toward our soul and our future life on earth. However, there is a big problem with the whole ‘walking your talk’ situation, and that is that we attempt to impose it upon ourselves from our thoughts based on a system of adopted beliefs in whatever arena of life we are considering.

The mind can take on any thoughts or system of belief and attempt to impose it on the body. Our minds can decide how we are to move, eat, speak, write, relate to others, etc. But if this is coming from outside of our bodies [and thoughts do indeed come from outside of our bodies, despite a deeply held belief among the majority of modern reductionist scientists], then what those thoughts are asking our body to do may be in contradiction to where our bodies are at and what they are capable of doing in their present state.

So if we are addicted to anything, be it drugs, sex, recognition, fame, work, victimhood, relationships, depression, wealth, being upbeat, looking cool, or whatever, then our bodies are energetically and physically configured to remain in that status quo and will have great difficulty rising above it – except in an occasional glorious moment of mastery and truly feeling the principle we strive to live constantly. But most of the time we struggle, not meeting our own expectations in the way we eat, sleep, exercise, walk, work, teach, parent, or relate.

What if by saying ‘walking our talk’ we have got it completely back to front? What if the truth is that the path to the higher life opens before us when we recognise that we are actually ‘talking our walk’ instead? That everything we say – our posture, our actions, all our expressions – are coming from the actual current state of our bodies?

This moves energy in the opposite direction from what we have been believing to be the way. What if the talking [i.e. our every expression] is coming from our bodies first, not our minds? What if we are in fact talking our walk in almost every moment of life? Another way to say this is that whatever state our body is really in, whatever the energy determining our choices, is what will govern what we say, how we look and how we behave.

That would certainly explain the difficulty we all have in ‘walking our talk’ – we are pushing against a great natural force with the inadequate counterforce of thoughts derived from somewhere else! And what if the difficulty of this leads to our applying an even greater counterforce of thought to try to overcome the momentum in our bodies? An example would be telling ourselves very sternly: “I absolutely will give up chocolate, I will not buy it, I will not even think about it,” only to find ourselves dreaming about it, obsessing over it, and pretty soon devouring it and feeling like a failure, which even spoils the indulgent saviour of comfort we were seeking? It doesn’t work because the thoughts are imposed onto the body in denial of where the body is at, the momentum the body is in. Moreover our bodies know this! Thus we feel the struggle.

While we go about ‘in love with’ our own thoughts, making plans, philosophising about how we will be, our body is sitting there being a part of the one universe and knowing in its every particle how to be in that universe. In effect, we are fighting against the flow when we try to walk our talk from a body that is in a momentum out of sync with the true flow of the all.

It has been a great revolution in my life to meet, come to know, observe and emulate as a great role model, a man who talks his walk. A man who expresses every word, thought, and action from the truth of his body. A man who continually commits to listening to his body and being guided by the truth it is expressing. So that if the body communicates (from universal knowing) that a food, a word, an action, or a movement feels to be out of alignment with the universe, he uses that awareness to make the next movement in the direction of alignment with the universe. Moment by moment, this builds a foundation from which the next thoughts and actions will come from the body, of a quality increasingly true. And what is the result of this commitment to awareness and being truthful about what is observed, with humility and yet with authority? The result is a man named Serge Benhayon.

This is not about worshipping an individual who has done something really cool that is difficult to impossible for most of us. This is about accepting and appreciating that someone, a fellow human, a brother, is talking his walk for all of us to see and to know that it is possible for all of us to do too. All we need do is open to the possibility that we have had it back to front all our lives, and that with this simple heartfelt commitment to listen to our bodies, to listen to our hearts, and to move in accordance with their communications (which come from the universe via our souls), then we too can walk and talk the joy-full life of grace, wisdom, harmony, brotherhood and unlimited love that we know is our true living way.

By Dianne Trussell, dedicated student of myself and humanity, scientist (BSc Hons), Goonellabah, Australia

Further Reading:
Self Care – ‘Walking the Talk’
Why Are We So Unquestioning?
Looking for Answers and a Game that No One Wins



600 thoughts on “Talking His Walk

  1. There is such humbleness in talking your walk – you have experienced whatever it is and you can talk about it. It does not come from assumptions or must do’s – it’s real, tangible and true.

  2. If you try to live something that is not you, however effective or virtuous, it needs to be constantly practised and could be a constant effort that may, after long practice, appear effortless but still takes effort to impose on ourselves. Are there better alternatives?

  3. I now know quite a few people who walk their talk, they walk with love in their hearts and that love is felt by all that know them. And they share this love wherever they go no one is excluded, In time there will more and more people committed to bringing true love to the world then we will all know the truth of absolute love.

  4. Living what you say and saying what you live, through your movements is a precious quality that is constantly underestimated. Many of us flagrantly say the exact opposite of what we actually live, and do not see the hypocrisy in it, and this is very harmful to our community and planet.

    1. We say the opposite because we feel the need to do that and often the need seems to be for us to look smaller than we truly are. Somehow that can seem silly.

  5. “This is about accepting and appreciating that someone, a fellow human, a brother, is talking his walk for all of us to see and to know that it is possible for all of us to do too.” So beautifully and succinctly summed up Dianne. Serge Benhayon offers us so much in the way of reflection, simply by living what he knows to be true, in everything that he does, with no exceptions.

  6. To take full responsibility for ourselves in life is to live with energetic responsibility to the best of our ability. That is walking the talk and not relying on another to lead the way.

  7. It’s easy to talk… and to talk the ‘blah’…to talk knowledge but not live it. It can be easy to talk down to others from an arrogance of knowing better, it can be easy to talk from frustration, anger and our hurts, it can be easy to not talk and hold back, it can be easy to talk from self-doubt, it can be easy to talk from need and almost always we talk from self – for self… there are so many ways in which we can talk, but until I met Serge Benhayon, I never witnessed anyone talking from the all to the all, holding each person with a fullness and love that keeps them equal and constantly living that way. Serge never expresses anything that is not needed and his humour brings a joy that is uplifting. Serge Benhayon really does live everything he expresses and more!

  8. Totally Dianne. This man has turned the world upside-down or should I say, has shown us how the world is upside-down and needs to be revolved and evolved out of that position! Never did I realise in this life, before I met Serge Benhayon, that it is our movements in life (expression and physically moving) that come first and it is the quality of those that counts and that will determine what we talk. We are not progressing anywhere – we are deepening our movements and expression and so evolving that way.

  9. Seeing and feeling people walk their talk can offer me inspiration to connect to my own natural inner wisdom and live that as well.

  10. In our current world we have so many dictates about how to be, how to eat, how to dress, how to behave etc etc, not much of this comes with an allowance of the natural ways that we all knew as a baby, toddler or child…and before we know we have been engulfed in a world that imposes everything upon us and we play ball with this, because we choose to forget there is another way. But coming back to the body and how it feels, is a fantastic bridge to coming back to what we knew as children…I know I am still learning to do this fully and consistently, but when I am in the body and with the simplicity that comes with it, I know this is something we have all done and we are simply coming ‘home’ in terms of returning to our natural way of being, long forgotten.

  11. There is so much of life that is lived in a false way, but enter Serge Benhayon and he is like a breath of fresh air, a deeply beautiful presence that reminds you of who you are, and a truth in every step he takes. Thank God for Serge Benhayon, is what I say!

  12. Believing you are doing something like exercise, diet, religion etc. the ‘right way’ will always impose on the body, as beliefs are a dictate that come from your head. The only way to have the body on board is to let it decide and navigate how we do things.

  13. Have you ever seen someone just before they are about to present on stage? They like having their space, rehearsing, going over notes and then when they get up on stage they give it their all and then they are slightly different when then come back off the stage…I’ve seen this quite a bit and certainly have done it myself. Serge Benhayon totally deconstructs this. He is him on and off stage – whatever forum. He speaks like he would to 1 or 100 people. There is no highs or lows. He has time to talk to people right before and after. It is a joy to watch someone not change who they are to present. For him every time he speaks it is a presentation.

  14. The world is not mad. It is diverging towards Truth because of a lack of love. Talking our walk guarantees we are not loving to ourselves, as pushing a force to make something happen will not last long, so in effect we create the reasons for us to hate ourselves, bingo we get what we ask for. The world is not going to change overnight, but in knowing Truth we can love ourselves step by step in the midst of this huge force to not self-love, we have lots to explore and play around in remaining consistent and steady, life is pretty amazing and fun when we understand and simply respond.

  15. There is a universal intelligence and wisdom that we can connect with via our body, an intelligence that is within every cell of us and one that we can reconnect with, rather than look to outside ideals and beliefs of how we think we should be in life…

  16. We so have it back to front, inside-out, not outside-in. Learning to live from the inside of us, the part that knows what is right for us, it knows the rhythm it wants to live, Not living from a set of ideals/beliefs/pictures from the outside and imposing them on the inner. I am working on this inside-out, it’s not so easy some days, but for many years I did the outside-in, and boy o boy I know first hand that does not work. So my loving work in progress continues to live from the inside-out.

  17. I am really struck by changing some of our lifestyle choices because we have felt they are not supporting us. Your example about giving up chocolate shares with us a simple way we can employ with any addiction. The change has to come from our bodies, the bodies that have been building a foundation that no longer ‘need’ the numbing or stimulating mechanism.

  18. “we are fighting against the flow when we try to walk our talk from a body that is in a momentum out of sync with the true flow of the all.” And It grates on the person listening or watching. It just doesn’t sound or feel genuine. The trouble is we are so desperate for someone to ‘fix’ us and take away the yuk we feel that we constantly look outside of ourselves for answers and therefore don’t change the movement in our bodies.

  19. You may be able to fool the world with a catchy tune but far trickier is it to fool them with the way you move as these movements are the sum total of your living way and thus all that moves you to its tune by virtue of which source of energy you have aligned to – be that love or be it not.

  20. “I could feel in those people an incredible tension of trying to constantly impose their philosophy onto their bodies according to their belief in what they thought was the right way”. This has captured the problem of trying to make ourselves live up to a perceived goal. It comes from the mind and therefore it doesn’t feel natural or easy and it becomes a matter of will power. Whereas when you start from the body and follow its wise counsel, you can’t go wrong. IT may not look anything like your ideals, but it is natural and easy and supports every aspect of your wellbeing.

  21. As someone who can relate very much with living from a straight jacket of imposed ‘shoulds’, it’s wonderful to return to the simplicity of letting my body talk and listen, even if to begin with it isn’t what I had in mind.

  22. Beautifully expressed Dianne, when we do talk our walk we notice how it comes from our body first, and the result is the walk, the more we observe our life, and change our choices we notice how our walk automatically changes, and when we force ourselves to walk the talk, we are fighting our body to try to make it align, a very unnatural state of being.

  23. Mind over matter is a phrase that is quite often said, but I can see now how disharmonious and untrue this is – it totally negates the wisdom that we can connect with via our whole body and instead glorifies ideals, beliefs and pictures that we can attach to and then impose on ourselves and others.

  24. Serge Benhayon has inspired me from the first day I met him, it is because all he presents has been lived by him, walked by him, and the difference can be clearly felt from him walking the talk, I feel it from my body.. Truth

  25. I love the way you have so wonderfully exposed the energy of ‘imposition’ here Dianne. This energy of living up to an ideal, has been the major reason that so much that is thought ‘good’ in life actually does not, in terms of energy, do true good, even though it looks good – simply because there is imposition on the movement of its action and not Love. Thanks for such a great blog.

  26. Your observation of Serge is very beautiful Dianne “if the body communicates (from universal knowing) that a food, a word, an action, or a movement feels to be out of alignment with the universe, he uses that awareness to make the next movement in the direction of alignment with the universe.” Obedience to the order of the all.

  27. ‘This is about accepting and appreciating that someone, a fellow human, a brother, is talking his walk for all of us to see and to know that it is possible for all of us to do too.’ And that is the true inspiration Serge Benhayon offers us 24/7.

  28. ‘In effect, we are fighting against the flow when we try to walk our talk from a body that is in a momentum out of sync with the true flow of the all.’
    Walking your talk is actually a fight and the talking the walk allows the simplicity and the flow.

  29. If we talk first about something we aspire to we are then constantly trying to attain or achieve something. If we talk about something that we already live there is no such pressure and it is purely a confirmation of the truth.

  30. The idea of ‘talking’ your ‘walk’ sounds quite radical, as are all truths of the Ageless Wisdom. But in fact these truths are natural and full of grace and it is the way that we have turned them upside-down that is the radical element. There is a quantum leap distance between the truth of hierarchy and the astral cliche. We move before we talk, so the ‘move ‘has to be aligned to the divine first.

  31. I’m appreciating more the wisdom of our whole body and how much of a difference it makes to the way I think according to how I’ve been moving or holding my posture e.g rushing, tense, driven, hunched or at ease, settled, standing or sitting up tall… And how this then naturally affects the way that I speak and what I have to say…

  32. “What if the talking [i.e. our every expression] is coming from our bodies first, not our minds?” A great question to ponder Dianne. I am noticing more and more that when I change my body posture my feelings change. Such a simple thing to do. Why isn’t this more widely known?

  33. Recently I attended an event where there was a presenter who had been presenting for most of their life. And they came across as being very professional and at the same time was at pains to come across as easy going, they wanted to be everyone’s best buddy. As much as I liked the presenter I wasn’t convinced. And sure enough the exposure came a few days later when I drove with them in their car. They constantly talked to the other car drivers and behaved in a very agitated, frustrated and at times angry way. Venting at the other road users. And interestingly enough they had no idea they were doing this it was such an ingrained pattern of theirs. To me no matter how slick, professional, all knowing someone is, if they don’t feel quite right just wait because sooner or later they will expose themselves as the pretence cannot be kept up for long.
    That is why Serge Benhayon is my marker because I have known him for 11 years and his solidness, consistency is real, I have grown to trust that in Serge because he is as straight as an arrow. And he does not want to be everyone’s best friend quite the opposite if you don’t like what you are presented with you are free to walk away and never be troubled again.

    1. I have attended many spiritual and other courses, but the disillusion set in when the presenters showed by the way they lived and talked that he certainly didn’t walk their talk. I was similarly disillusioned by church vicars etc. I have attended presentations by Serge Benhayon for ten years now and witnessed him not only during his talks but with his family and others. Here is a man who truly walks his talk – and talks his walk. An amazing role model who can inspire us all.

  34. ‘Walking your talk is an expression that not only invites us to observe consistency but also quality of movement. ‘Talking your walk’, is an expression that not only invites us to observe consistency, but also quality of movement. The difference between them is what causes what. The first one takes expression as something that breaths movement. The second one it is movement that breaths expression.

  35. It is true. It is simple to listen to our heart and body and their guidance with our movement, to be on the path of living love and connecting to all that we are. And we have Serge Benhayon, who is living this consistently, showing us the joyful, love filled life of grace we all can live.

  36. It really turns everything on its head to say that if we care for the body and move a certain way, then via the quality the body holds comes the quality of universal intelligence we can then express.

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