Talking His Walk

Most of us are familiar with the term ‘walking your talk.’

We usually take it to mean that what we talk, the principles we tell other people about, the way of living we endorse, the philosophies we hold and believe to be true and worthy, should be the way that we walk, i.e. the way that we live our life.

‘Walking your talk’ is very frequently used in areas of life such as business, sports, spirituality, health (particularly in the areas of weight loss, fitness and addiction), self-development, parenting, religion, education, and in fact any area of life where there is a perceived scale of goodness or worthiness against which we measure ourselves.

However I have seen most people, including myself, struggle with ‘walking their talk’ in practice. I once had a discussion with a group who were doing a lifestyle development process that focussed on remaining continuously mindful about how they were presenting themselves to the world. This covered posture, movement, style of speech, suppression of emotions, and general demeanour. They were very committed to this and paid a lot of money to do the course, promoting it to all their friends as well. But, and this is a big but, I could feel in those people an incredible tension of trying to constantly impose their philosophy onto their bodies according to their belief in what they thought was the right way. The effect was stilted speech, guarded demeanour, unresponsiveness to the energy or feeling of another person, second-guessing their own every word and move, and in effect living in a self-imposed ‘straitjacket’.

When it comes to gurus in many areas of life, I’ve noticed that the walking of the talk seems to be more difficult and more often unfulfilled for the guru than what is seen among the general mass of their followers (who usually reduce themselves and believe they are not good enough). An example is discovering that a spiritual guru who promotes a drug-free, ascetic, celibate life of mastery over desire, and constant presence and meditation, turns out to be indulgent, emotional, attention seeking, promiscuous, and revelling in power. I’ve noticed that the so-called advanced students of this guru (and it could apply to many gurus) are into drugs, all-night parties, pedophilia, multiple sexual partners and material opulence, while the face they present to the world, to their clients [in the case of practitioners] and to their communities, is one of serene, self-mastered enlightenment. Total hypocrisy!

I’ve noticed that many people who are great advocates of sport, fitness, physical body development, health and beauty, while presenting the face of their held beliefs to the world (‘talk’), behind the scenes live (‘walk’) the opposite. They eat lots of junk food, indulge in drugs, stay up late, party hard, overtrain, dishonour their relationships and compensate for the damage with health products, plastic surgery, top brand clothing and cars, psychotherapy, photoshopped images, etc. Again, hypocrisy.

And haven’t we all either experienced ourselves, or noticed others go through, the rollercoaster process of trying to lose weight and stay slim? Or get fit? Or be less angry? Or meet our ‘new year’s resolutions’?

What about churchgoing people? How often do we, or the ones we know, fail to live up to the ideal of living and worshipping according to our beliefs and then feel guilty and lesser for having failed to meet our own expectations and the expectations of our church?

Have you ever observed business leaders, lifestyle coaches, politicians, teachers, etc., who stand up and present (‘talk’) about ‘the best way to do it’ from the superior position of being a model of what they are talking, only to discover that in the day-to-day truth (‘walk’) of their private lives off stage, they do not live up to what they speak?

To be fair to people, we all have an inner sense of the true higher life, a feeling for what we could be if we were to live to the level of love, detachment, integrity, quality, commitment, compassion, service, and self-care that we believe to be a true path and worthy of walking. There is no doubt this is a true impulse toward our soul and our future life on earth. However, there is a big problem with the whole ‘walking your talk’ situation, and that is that we attempt to impose it upon ourselves from our thoughts based on a system of adopted beliefs in whatever arena of life we are considering.

The mind can take on any thoughts or system of belief and attempt to impose it on the body. Our minds can decide how we are to move, eat, speak, write, relate to others, etc. But if this is coming from outside of our bodies [and thoughts do indeed come from outside of our bodies, despite a deeply held belief among the majority of modern reductionist scientists], then what those thoughts are asking our body to do may be in contradiction to where our bodies are at and what they are capable of doing in their present state.

So if we are addicted to anything, be it drugs, sex, recognition, fame, work, victimhood, relationships, depression, wealth, being upbeat, looking cool, or whatever, then our bodies are energetically and physically configured to remain in that status quo and will have great difficulty rising above it – except in an occasional glorious moment of mastery and truly feeling the principle we strive to live constantly. But most of the time we struggle, not meeting our own expectations in the way we eat, sleep, exercise, walk, work, teach, parent, or relate.

What if by saying ‘walking our talk’ we have got it completely back to front? What if the truth is that the path to the higher life opens before us when we recognise that we are actually ‘talking our walk’ instead? That everything we say – our posture, our actions, all our expressions – are coming from the actual current state of our bodies?

This moves energy in the opposite direction from what we have been believing to be the way. What if the talking [i.e. our every expression] is coming from our bodies first, not our minds? What if we are in fact talking our walk in almost every moment of life? Another way to say this is that whatever state our body is really in, whatever the energy determining our choices, is what will govern what we say, how we look and how we behave.

That would certainly explain the difficulty we all have in ‘walking our talk’ – we are pushing against a great natural force with the inadequate counterforce of thoughts derived from somewhere else! And what if the difficulty of this leads to our applying an even greater counterforce of thought to try to overcome the momentum in our bodies? An example would be telling ourselves very sternly: “I absolutely will give up chocolate, I will not buy it, I will not even think about it,” only to find ourselves dreaming about it, obsessing over it, and pretty soon devouring it and feeling like a failure, which even spoils the indulgent saviour of comfort we were seeking? It doesn’t work because the thoughts are imposed onto the body in denial of where the body is at, the momentum the body is in. Moreover our bodies know this! Thus we feel the struggle.

While we go about ‘in love with’ our own thoughts, making plans, philosophising about how we will be, our body is sitting there being a part of the one universe and knowing in its every particle how to be in that universe. In effect, we are fighting against the flow when we try to walk our talk from a body that is in a momentum out of sync with the true flow of the all.

It has been a great revolution in my life to meet, come to know, observe and emulate as a great role model, a man who talks his walk. A man who expresses every word, thought, and action from the truth of his body. A man who continually commits to listening to his body and being guided by the truth it is expressing. So that if the body communicates (from universal knowing) that a food, a word, an action, or a movement feels to be out of alignment with the universe, he uses that awareness to make the next movement in the direction of alignment with the universe. Moment by moment, this builds a foundation from which the next thoughts and actions will come from the body, of a quality increasingly true. And what is the result of this commitment to awareness and being truthful about what is observed, with humility and yet with authority? The result is a man named Serge Benhayon.

This is not about worshipping an individual who has done something really cool that is difficult to impossible for most of us. This is about accepting and appreciating that someone, a fellow human, a brother, is talking his walk for all of us to see and to know that it is possible for all of us to do too. All we need do is open to the possibility that we have had it back to front all our lives, and that with this simple heartfelt commitment to listen to our bodies, to listen to our hearts, and to move in accordance with their communications (which come from the universe via our souls), then we too can walk and talk the joy-full life of grace, wisdom, harmony, brotherhood and unlimited love that we know is our true living way.

By Dianne Trussell, dedicated student of myself and humanity, scientist (BSc Hons), Goonellabah, Australia

Further Reading:
Self Care – ‘Walking the Talk’
Why Are We So Unquestioning?
Looking for Answers and a Game that No One Wins

 

 

660 thoughts on “Talking His Walk

  1. What you have explored here Dianne, makes so much sense and the more I contemplate it, the more sense it makes. When you understand that when we open our mouths to speak everything we have done, everything we have felt and even have thought, comes with those words, it makes sense that in that moment, we are talking everything we have been ‘walking’. Nothing can be hidden when we express, as we have already lived it and now we are walking it.

  2. Yes, makes total sense to me. When we want to change something we have to start with our body and how we are with it instead of imposing an ideal on the body from the head whilst the body is possibly anxious, nervous, tensed and so on. If we first be with our body and care for it in a way that it will be at ease, warm, surrendered change often occurred naturally.

  3. I am deepening my understanding of how our minds can totally deceive us as it wants to control our bodies no matter what the cost in ill health and disease to it. We are actually taught from young to rely on our minds, when it is our bodies we should be listening to. How come we have got this so mixed up?

    1. Great question Mary – “how come we got this so mixed up?” I was convinced, by all I saw around me and what I was taught, that my mind was the wise one, and so made my many decisions from this societally accepted seat of intelligence, and then wondered why I used to ‘mess up” so often. It never made sense; in fact it was downright confusing. Coming to understand what an un-caring trickster the mind is, has changed the way I consider decisions and how I approach life, and as a result I am definitely not ‘messing up’ so much these days.

  4. We get pretty upset and feel almost betrayed when we see hypocrisy where someone gets exposed for not walking the talk, but I wonder how the whole thing really works. Because when it comes to discerning whether someone is telling a lie or not, we as a species have not always been successful. We sometimes hear only what we want to hear and very conveniently interpret its meaning to suit our own personal agenda. Likewise, even when someone is talking the walk, if our agenda is already set to say no, we would not have it in any other way.

  5. This totally exposes the back-to-front, head-first dishonesty we unwittingly fall into when we even attempt to walk the talk as we would already be walking before we start talking. When they match, we call that honesty. And whatever we walk speaks louder that the words we utter.

  6. I agree with everything you say Dianne, we have no idea that our bodies are configured by an energy that completely dominates our movements so that every move we make is compounded in the energy of that move. Most of us are completely unaware of any kind of energy and how it flows through our bodies. I have only heard Serge Benhayon give an explanation of the two sources of energy available to us. Waking up to the fact that the majority of us are completely dominated by a negative energy that we then compound through our movements so that we are totally controlled by our movements and the thoughts that come with such movements. The only way out of this domination is via our inner heart the more we connect back to this the more chance we have to free ourselves from such negative movements that are imposed upon us through our lack of awareness.

  7. Having attended some Walking Therapies with Serge Benhayon I now see more and more how it is the way we walk and move which affects the way we are in life and then what we say and express. The more I express from and with my body the more I find the words come naturally and are what the other person or people need to hear. So out with all the calculation and trying to please others and in with the truth and nothing but the truth!!

  8. “I’ve noticed that many people who are great advocates of sport, fitness, physical body development, health and beauty, while presenting the face of their held beliefs to the world (‘talk’), behind the scenes live (‘walk’) the opposite.” Yes I witnessed so many of these people when I used to devour various spiritual courses. Over twenty years I got disillusioned with every one on account of the lack of integrity. Finding Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine was like a breath of fresh air. For thirteen years now I have never once become disillusioned. This man does walk his talk, treats everyone equally and has great love for humanity. Impressive…

  9. You can feel – on some level – when people are saying something but living another.You may not be able to put your finger on it, but often something does not feel quite right. But on the other hand, when someone lives something and then says something, it can feel super solid. You may not agree or completely understand it, but the truth is there, to be felt for all.

    1. So true. That’s what I felt when I heard Serge Benhayon – super solid. I just knew from deep inside here was worth something holding on to and learn to live for myself. Integrity is so important.

  10. Trying our hardest to be a certain way doesn’t last long term, that’s why many of us relapse into our old habits but when you come across a man like Serge Benhayon who walks his talk without an ounce of effort you can feel the difference of his presence just being near him. He’s not bigheaded, boastful or pretentious; he’s just being himself and loves deeply.

  11. The straightjacketed way of living that you have described is very accurate for what I have seen in many people who take on a belief for a way of living. Which is why the Esoteric Way of Life is so beautiful, because it has the potential to unlock a person simply by the process of re-connection with the soul ~ a process that can not be dictated to by any outer source. You are therefore your own master, and by this deep and meaningful relationship, the soul becomes home.

  12. I’ve met many teachers and gurus. I was always looking for love and truth.
    When I met Serge Benhayon I definitely knew this was different. This was serious, here was truth. Every cell in my whole body, knew that what Serge teaches came from heaven’s source.
    It’s not always easy to get the truth revealed as we keep so much around us and in our lives. This can be very confronting but also very loving.
    I feel Gurus are attracting people who are looking for distractions from the truth.

  13. Very true Dianne what you write About Serge. The world is not realising yet how big his support is for walking his talk here with us on earth.

  14. This really blows the idea of mind driven actions out of the water and explains so much about why for all our best intentions we don’t do the thing we say we will and why for example diets never work! Making it real and bringing it back to the body is sobering for often we do not want to feel what the body shows us but it’s the way back to living truth in a way that our mind driven ideals can never match.

  15. Changing our walk is much easier than changing our thoughts. Fighting thoughts, emptying our mind and so on does not consistently work, but changing our movements is simple as we can make them in a quality we choose like gentleness or delicate ness for instance and this can change everything from how we feel to how think.

    1. It sure is Lieke, it seems to simple to comprehend that by changing the way we move and walk changes our thoughts but it does. I have tried countless times to think my way out of something now have been shown and seen that if I change the way I move what I thought was imprisoning me now no longer has any hold over me and I can clearly see it for what it was.

  16. Love the turn around Dianne, indeed if we just simply talk from how we actually live life would be at least honest.

  17. The way Serge Benhayon absolutely without question walks his talk, is the only reason that has confirmed to me that he is presenting a truth that cannot be likened to anything else. The Ageless Wisdom has depths that are beyond our comprehension, yet what Serge is a master at is making it everyday, hence The Way of The Livingness.

  18. It is a simple motto: Talk what you walk and walk what you talk. At least that would be honest and authentic and can be accepted as a process of developing transparency. But then there is still the crucial matter of quality we need to start with as it is the energetic quality we choose that will be expressed in movement and words. What true good does authenticity when the quality of what is expressed lacks love for people, is void of harmony and or is less than the truth we all can recognize to be the one truth?

  19. After a presentation by Natalie Benhayon today the walking and talking side of things got highlighted in the sense of whenever we are going to say something the quality of what comes out of our mouth is based on the movements that have led to this point in time. We could say that the talk was walked before even a word was articulated and in the same way the quality in which we talked will imprint the quality of the walk thereafter. In other words, walking and talking and walking are a continuum and nothing separate.

  20. Unfortunately there have been many lies spread about Serge Benhayon but in the 13 years since I met him I cannot see any truth in the allegations made against him. In fact there is more integrity and decency in him and his standards are way higher than other body work organisations I have visited or been involved with.

  21. Just as we learnt as babies, we must remember to walk before we talk, for the mouth is quick to speak what the body is yet to live and in this our words are robbed of their true fullness.

  22. I know I catch myself wanting to be ahead of where I am and not accepting that what I am doing is actually amazing. Being where we are at and living this consistently is definitely the start of walking our talk.

    1. Yeah it’s a very human thing to want to be ahead of where we are at. To desire to be different rather than put our energy into being where we are exactly, and really appreciating what it is that we bring simply by doing that.

  23. I have given my power away to other gurus who I thought walked their talk and found out for myself how untrue it was. Something inside would nag at me that didn’t feel true and I would dismiss it for feeling this way.

    For me I would eventually find that they weren’t the ones and move on to another. Until one day I came across Serge Behayon. I have never met a person who simply presents the truth. The decision to accept it or not is upon me but my body certainly responds to it.

    I cannot agree with you more Dianne, Serge Benhayon not only talking his walk, he walks his talk too.

  24. ‘the thoughts are imposed onto the body in denial of where the body is at, the momentum the body is in’ – this statement is a biggie for me. This is asking me to appreciate where my body is at and when it is ready or in the momentum, the body it self will let go of what no longer serves.

    I can relax now and stop annihilating myself every time I eat something that the mind is asking me to turn to, I just need to trust my body will say no when it is ready.

    1. Yes that is a beautiful realisation, and I have found I go back to foods and go through another process of shedding – whatever that may be – and then again don’t want it.

  25. Dianne when we attempt to control ourselves with ideals and beliefs in how we are supposed to be, its almost we create an opening for the extremes of behaviour. I have noticed this about myself with food. If I try and control from ‘how I should eat’ (whatever that many mean)rather than simply checking in with my body, I tend to eat in ways, often behind closed doors, that are not supportive. This makes me question therefore the true value of ideals and beliefs and the relationship between this and our bodies.

  26. I recently got to feel the contrast between what you talk and walk in life. In being filmed and filming other people, we got to see where the words were not matched by the way the body moved. For instance, if you say you feel confident, but you appear anxious, there are mixed signals being given off. This authenticity and consistency is something that sets Serge Benhayon apart from other people. When he speaks there is nothing in his movements or manner that creates any doubt. In fact, I find the body speaks louder than the words and assures me that this is the real deal.

  27. Our reflections are so powerful to others, everyone is clocking how we move and walk, and when we see someone such as Serge Benhayon who lives with such energetic responsibility and energetic integrity and then to see him walk his talk, it inspires and ignites us in a way that invites us to feel we are one and the same.

  28. Our bodies are our vessel we move in, they reflect all we choose and when we talk it comes from our perspective and our perspective is informed by how we move. I know this from experience, work and inspiration, Serge Benhayon is a master.

  29. Many people do talk their walk. For example you can have people who are very careless in their speech, slouching and aggressive people who swear and have a hard walk.

    1. In Serge Benhayon I have met and observed someone who both moves and speaks with absolute love and truth and that leaves quite a mark on the earth and everyone who hears and sees him. Some are inspired and love it and some react in other ways and find it very confronting. We are all affected by each other’s talks and walk as well as our own.

  30. While people think that they can master their bodies by their mind, it is actually the opposite, as the body shows clearly in any moment where someone is at. No matter what they are showing off from their minds, the way they walk tells us everything.

  31. The way we walk tells us everything of who we are, how we live and what ideals and believes we hold. Everything can be observed in your walk and actually we all do know that but most of the time choose to ignore that capability and instead like to listen to the nice words or look to the way how people are dressed and present themselves with all kinds of mannerisms.

  32. Willfully deciding to do or not do something doesn’t stick over the long term. Although the body will do as it’s told and respond to commands if we make it, it’s not our natural way of being. Something eventually has to give. The body knows to the absolute detail how it wants to live, and quite easily communicates that, when we allow it to.

  33. Serge Benhayon is a very extraordinary being in a very ordinary body – with no disrespect to Serge – And he does life very well . It is no wonder that there are those that want to destroy him. It has happened time and time again in history. They can destroy the man, as in the case of Jesus Christ, but not the being. Serge will continue walking his talk for some time and we will all be blessed by this

  34. Serge Benhayon is a powerful example of a man who talks his walk. His integrity and love is a true inspiration to all who meet him and such inspiration is life changing.

  35. Being honest is always the direction of the universe, as Truth is the only way our body particles know. So being honest to where we are at as a body, is super powerful. Then we can truly hear where our next step is. But imposing from the mind of where we want ourselves to be instead of honestly acknowledging where we are at, we lose this intelligent navigation of the body. It is then an anxious battle, without settling in the body for it to do its magic. Our particles are intelligent, they know what to do.

  36. There is something very steadying and reassuring about people who walk their talk. You know that you can trust what they say, and that they have used trial and error so they know what they are talking about. They can relate to all the pitfalls we seem to keep falling into in life and offer inspiration to those who are willing to give it a try.

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