Our Delicateness

There is power in delicateness, and we feel this when we are moved by the beauty of a flower.

The beauty of a flower lies in its delicateness. The tender petals, often tissue thin, the tiny stamen, and the arrangement of the petals that seem to barely hold together.

There is fragility in something so delicate and beautiful, so we know to handle a flower with care. If we were to try to protect it with some kind of armour we would simply crush the flower. Something that fragile and magical is not meant to be contained or hidden away, it’s meant to be on show.

The beauty of a flower is there when it is fully open. If the flower were to keep itself closed to protect itself from possible harm, the world would be missing out on profound beauty. Imagine a world with no roses or lilies because all the flowers stayed closed to protect their delicateness?

We also cannot force the flower to toughen up to protect itself, because all the beauty is in the delicateness. Flowers that are hard, brittle or rigid just would not work.

We, as human beings, are also by nature delicate. As babies we express an exquisite and unadulterated beauty that is the essence of who we are. We live this essence fully until life alters us, but before that time the delicate and gorgeous being we are easily melts the hardest of hearts. We inspire, bring joy, open hearts to love, remind what life is all about, and bring healing to those feeling battered or worn down by the harshness of life. Babies remind us of an innate purity we were all born connected to. Like flowers, we handle babies with great care, honouring their sensitivity and never questioning their fragile nature. We accept them as they are – delicate and precious.

As we leave the tender years of babyhood, we may harden our body in an attempt to protect ourselves from the onslaughts of life. Over time this hardening encases the beauty within so that no one can see the delicate person inside. We may even forget that we ourselves are beautiful.

We may toughen ourselves, preferring to meet the world with aggression or defensiveness, portraying a false strength, forgetting that our innocent inner beauty is much more powerful. We can choose to move people away, or we can choose to move them with our beauty.

And, just as it is with babies, our body communicates a fragility every time we mistreat it, handle it roughly, neglect it, or push and drive it. Like a flower being battered in a storm, there is only so much that it can take before it shows the signs or becomes completely tattered.

We rarely see flowers alone; they grow everywhere in all shades, shapes and colours, ready to share their light-hearted playfulness, their sensual depths, their fragrance and inspiring beauty. There is never one beautiful flower and the rest are average – they are all beautiful.

I have seen whole fields of flowers… an ocean of colour, form, and beauty so moving it completely stopped me. I could not be more with my heart to see such grandeur – so simple and so powerful.

Imagine if we too as human beings celebrated our delicateness and always had our beauty on show? What if we collectively dropped the armour, hardness, toughness and masks, and simply let the true, beautiful and delicate person on the inside, out?

And what if we dropped the self-neglect and nurtured ourselves like precious flowers, always taking great care to support and nurture the beautiful being within, so we were always present and on show? What kind of world would that be?

Imagine an ocean, a global field of human beings glorious in their natural beauty, emanating their innate gorgeousness for all to experience.

What would it be like walking in that field every day?

By Melinda Knights, Self employed in the construction industry

Further Reading:
Nature: The Ultimate Reflection
All of nature is here to support us to return to who we truly are

375 thoughts on “Our Delicateness

  1. Our body calls is to be delicate each and every time we feel aggression or jarring. Over time as we honour our body’s calling for this we become more and more attuned to a higher level of aggression and abuse which may come through the slightest intent to express anything that is not loving. It is a daily offering we have each and every day and our body is our friend never our enemy

  2. It is very beautiful to honour and allow ourselves to feel how delicate we are, and that we can and do get bashed and bruised so easily when we dismiss these feelings.

  3. Our delicate way of being is one of our greatest strengths, unlike what many think who are of the belief that you cannot function in a tough world without getting squashed if you are delicate….not true .

  4. It’s ironic that we lock our delicateness away to ‘protect’ it and in that we shut an innate part of our expression down just in case someone else might reject it…

    1. And it is even more ironic that by “shutting down an innate part of our expression” we are fundamentally betraying and rejecting ourselves! If someone else was forcing us to do this we would be outraged and would call it abuse!

  5. I was at a wedding on Saturday, and even ended up with a rose in my hair, yes there is nothing like a flower to reflect our delicateness and strength back to us.

  6. A beautifully sharing on our delicacy, thank you Michele, reminding me that this delicateness is a natural part of who I am and embrace it as a beauty with a tenderness of holding a baby or a beautiful flower.

  7. As a physical therapist I see every day the physical consequences of people losing touch with their delicateness and fragility – it takes a real physical toll on our bodies which has yet to be quantified by medical science but nonetheless is a real medical condition that causes many other more recognisable health conditions.

  8. One of the greatest things I have ever re-learned to do in this lifetime is to be more gentle with my self and my body, meaning to really honour my own natural fragility and delicateness and sensitivity.

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