Our Delicateness

There is power in delicateness, and we feel this when we are moved by the beauty of a flower.

The beauty of a flower lies in its delicateness. The tender petals, often tissue thin, the tiny stamen, and the arrangement of the petals that seem to barely hold together.

There is fragility in something so delicate and beautiful, so we know to handle a flower with care. If we were to try to protect it with some kind of armour we would simply crush the flower. Something that fragile and magical is not meant to be contained or hidden away, it’s meant to be on show.

The beauty of a flower is there when it is fully open. If the flower were to keep itself closed to protect itself from possible harm, the world would be missing out on profound beauty. Imagine a world with no roses or lilies because all the flowers stayed closed to protect their delicateness?

We also cannot force the flower to toughen up to protect itself, because all the beauty is in the delicateness. Flowers that are hard, brittle or rigid just would not work.

We, as human beings, are also by nature delicate. As babies we express an exquisite and unadulterated beauty that is the essence of who we are. We live this essence fully until life alters us, but before that time the delicate and gorgeous being we are easily melts the hardest of hearts. We inspire, bring joy, open hearts to love, remind what life is all about, and bring healing to those feeling battered or worn down by the harshness of life. Babies remind us of an innate purity we were all born connected to. Like flowers, we handle babies with great care, honouring their sensitivity and never questioning their fragile nature. We accept them as they are – delicate and precious.

As we leave the tender years of babyhood, we may harden our body in an attempt to protect ourselves from the onslaughts of life. Over time this hardening encases the beauty within so that no one can see the delicate person inside. We may even forget that we ourselves are beautiful.

We may toughen ourselves, preferring to meet the world with aggression or defensiveness, portraying a false strength, forgetting that our innocent inner beauty is much more powerful. We can choose to move people away, or we can choose to move them with our beauty.

And, just as it is with babies, our body communicates a fragility every time we mistreat it, handle it roughly, neglect it, or push and drive it. Like a flower being battered in a storm, there is only so much that it can take before it shows the signs or becomes completely tattered.

We rarely see flowers alone; they grow everywhere in all shades, shapes and colours, ready to share their light-hearted playfulness, their sensual depths, their fragrance and inspiring beauty. There is never one beautiful flower and the rest are average – they are all beautiful.

I have seen whole fields of flowers… an ocean of colour, form, and beauty so moving it completely stopped me. I could not be more with my heart to see such grandeur – so simple and so powerful.

Imagine if we too as human beings celebrated our delicateness and always had our beauty on show? What if we collectively dropped the armour, hardness, toughness and masks, and simply let the true, beautiful and delicate person on the inside, out?

And what if we dropped the self-neglect and nurtured ourselves like precious flowers, always taking great care to support and nurture the beautiful being within, so we were always present and on show? What kind of world would that be?

Imagine an ocean, a global field of human beings glorious in their natural beauty, emanating their innate gorgeousness for all to experience.

What would it be like walking in that field every day?

By Melinda Knights, Self employed in the construction industry

Further Reading:
Nature: The Ultimate Reflection
All of nature is here to support us to return to who we truly are

641 thoughts on “Our Delicateness

  1. It is not until we read blogs like this that we then realise just how much we have toughened up .. without even truly realising it! The irony is to live in this world we don’t have to toughen up at all in fact toughening up or allowing our bodies to harden to be ‘protected’ hurts our bodies even more. As you say if more and more of us allowed ourselves to be in our delicateness and truly appreciated this that would give others permission to do the same. Then the world would be a far less ‘tougher’ place to be in.

  2. A great analogy of our own delicateness described in the beauty and fragility of a flower in bloom that reflects a true strength and emanating power in its fullness.

  3. “Babies remind us of an innate purity we were all born connected to”. So where is it now in our adult life, this innate purity and delicateness that for all was our normal expression when we were born? I found it is still there, under the armour I had built around it because of my choices in life, and armour that I could let go too, by making different choices in life supported by Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon.

  4. For both women and men, when we start to appreciate, value and claim back our delicateness, the world will become a complete different place to live in.

  5. I love that this is written by someone who works in the construction industry, an industry known for hard hats and steel capped boots. It shows me that we all need to bring our delicateness to all industries.

  6. “Imagine a world with no roses or lilies because all the flowers stayed closed to protect their delicateness?” – protection of any kind leaves no room in which to hold anything else and hence any space to enjoy the scent of a bloom whether that’s a flower or a person.

    1. It is to me even impossible to imagine how life would look like with no roses or lilies because they choose to stay closed. But I do recognise it in people that only show that outer surface, the armour or wall but rarely the delicacy they are. Is it possible that nature can be seen as a reflection to show us the way in how to live life and contribute to the whole?

  7. “We can choose to move people away, or we can choose to move them with our beauty.”

    I know I have done both. And for much of my adult life, I did live with my coat of armour and kept people at arm’s length. Even though I appeared open, friendly and engaging. I had forgotten my true beauty. Since reconnecting with it, slowly but surely, and starting to live that more and more – combined with my preciousness and delicateness – I am starting to choose to move people with my beauty. It is quite stark the difference. I know it also from the receiving end and it is quite something to be moved by someone’s beauty. It can stir up quite a bit, be a bit challenging when you have not chosen your own beauty, and also be something very divine.

  8. Thank you Melinda. I have for too long not cared about my delicateness, as I have payed so much attention to my hurts and making myself small (holding back my truth). T I am now returning to who I am more, and letting go of the hurts, protections and contraction. For me to feel what is being written here about our delicateness feels yummy. To actually come back to that beauty and love inside that is precise. No hurt or protection or contraction fits in there. More reason to let go..

  9. Today I saw a beautiful picture of a flower and I was touched by the light, the purity and how shameless it shared its beauty, the power of the absolute delicateness it was. And then I read this blog and this line ‘We can choose to move people away, or we can choose to move them with our beauty.’ So true and lets go for the last option!

    1. Absolutely gorgeous, thank you for bringing this out ” We can choose to move people away, or we can choose to move them with our beauty.’’ I am often moved by another’s beauty and now I am more aware that I can bring that to others…something to appreciate and continually activate.

  10. I love flowers and so the analogy to what if flowers didn’t open or if we all did is clear. I’m growing a rosebush whose roses come out, flower and then lose their leaves in only a few days. I was quite surprised by how quickly the cycle happens and wanted the roses to last longer in flower than they do. But what I’m noticing is how graciously the petals drop and to appreciate each flower in its beautiful delicacy is something very lovely. Each rose is enough, it doesn’t have to pretend to hold itself together when it’s letting go. There is much grace here to observe and appreciate. A way of living that doesn’t get in the way of its cycles and rhythms.

  11. ‘Imagine an ocean, a global field of human beings glorious in their natural beauty, emanating their innate gorgeousness for all to experience.’ If this were so we’d be super joyful going to work, work meetings etc. and being with people. I’d be out of a job in social care: they’d be no need for it as it currently stands with concentrating on protecting children and young people. And yes, the world isn’t like this but it just takes a few to start living what’s possible. I know I’m going to keep coming back to transparency and experience the world without going into protection. It maybe a few seconds at first but I know it’s possible to live this way and inspire others.

  12. One of my favourite moments is when I come across a tiny, delicate flower growing out of a crack in the concrete, its innate delicateness in stark contrast to the hardness of the matter around it. It is always a moment to stop and appreciate the strength that there actually is in delicateness and fragility, a strength we too have naturally within us, a strength to be embraced not cast aside as a weakness.

  13. Just the title of this blog brings me to see and feel my delicateness, to appreciate the still pulse of my heart and how powerful it actually feels. Thank you

  14. Melinda this is so beautiful to read. I always loved the ability of the flowers to regenerate. When the bloom finishes there is a time of repose where the bud is closed and then they start blossoming again and again with no stop…This shows me that it doesn’t matter what we did in the past, how protective, hard or dismissive we can be, our beauty and delicate nature is there, untarnished within us always ready to be shown.

  15. “We can choose to move people away, or we can choose to move them with our beauty” I have done both and still do at times. One is quite isolating and one is quite inclusive. such a different feel in the body.

  16. In reading this article I get a sense of the delicateness that is me, the being. And in doing this I get a sense of each person also having this same delicate being-ness inside. And so it makes me both wonder why we live in such harsh and abrasive ways, but also it inspires me to bring more of this delicate nature out so that there may be real change in the way we treat eachother and in the systems that we currently have, because I reckon that it is through the expression of our delicate nature that what will need to change will change, naturally.

  17. When we are hurt we often lash out as protection so that we do not put ourselves in that position again, and as a way to keep others at a distance. The sad thing is this way of being is so harmful to ourselves and to others and a complete lie; we do not need to protect ourselves from anything as the more open we are, the stronger we get.

  18. The potency of a flower’s beauty and perfume is dependant on how well it is nurtured by the quality of the soil, the sun’s rays and the falling rain. In equal proportion so too do we need to take great care of ourselves so that all that the inner exquisiteness is available on the surface as well.

  19. Imagine a world with no roses or lilies because all the flowers stayed closed to protect their delicateness?” I love that analogy and yes it would be a tragic day indeed if the flowers refused to open, just as it is a tragedy when we refuse to open up to all the preciousness and delicateness that we are.

    1. Very true Elizabeth. My body always felt very tense when I tried to protect my delicateness. Thanks to being open to listen to it, I could understand that being protective is not my natural way of being. How powerful is being honest to make significant shifts in life as since this realization, I made the choice to bring more of my gorgeousness out whether it is liked, approved by others or not. This simple choice feels very loving and honouring and I really love being me 🙂

  20. Such a beautiful analogy Melinda, offering us much to ponder as to how we treat ourselves. Do we care for ourselves as we would a precious flower or a new-born baby? Maybe if we did then our body will reflect that level of care, as would our lives. It is never too late to begin to treat ourselves like the gorgeous and very vulnerable little baby we once were.

  21. And flowers only show us a small part of the incredible delicateness inside us – as human beings we are infinitely more delicate than any flower, it’s something that’s worth taking the time to really explore.

      1. Yeh – nature is incredibly beautiful in its’ delicacy and intricate detail and order, but nothing compares to looking into the eyes of another human being and seeing the universe, or hearing someone speak the absolute truth.

  22. The delicateness we are at one with as babies is no different to the delicateness we still are today, we only think that is is not who we are as this quality is not commonly lived or accepted as normal in our world today – it is in fact considered a weakness. Yet, the truth is that this is who we innately are and our resistance and denial of living with this quality is why we live in such a tension and unrest. When we live in connection to who we are within, our delicateness is a natural expression, reflecting the true power of love in all its beauty and grace.

  23. The delicateness and likewise strength of a flower are a great reflection and inspiration for us; strength and power go together well with being delicate, not just for flowers.

  24. ‘We rarely see flowers alone; they grow everywhere in all shades, shapes and colours, ready to share their light-hearted playfulness, their sensual depths, their fragrance and inspiring beauty’ True Melinda and a beautiful observation of the light flowers bring through, a reflection for us all to share our light, the delicateness that we naturally are, grander than anything we see in nature.

  25. There is a misconception that we have to have it altogether and to do this we have to be tough and strong and put on a brave face. In my experience this actually keeps us from being honest with ourselves and thus with everyone else and no true relationship can develop this way – let alone the relationship with ourselves.

  26. Melinda i just love your observations of nature: “We rarely see flowers alone; they grow everywhere in all shades, shapes and colours, ready to share their light-hearted playfulness, their sensual depths, their fragrance and inspiring beauty” – observations that reflect the truth of us as human beings too.

  27. We cut flowers to beautify our houses, tend gardens so we can look at the blooms and yet we don’t care for ourselves so well at times. Our delicateness is there at any moment to connect with, honour and cherish.

    1. This is a bit of an ouch, we can have flowers in our house and look after our gardens but do we connect to, honour and cherish our own delicateness as much as the reflections the flowers bring to us, do we feel and care for the innate beauty we are?

    2. Exactly. Just one delicate movement is more exquisite and more beautiful than even the most beautiful bloom of flowers. Flowers are gorgeous but nothing beats the preciousness inside us.

  28. I love what you present here, a sea of people appreciating and honouring their own delicateness and in doing so showing it to all … it would be a very different world.

  29. What I love about this flower analogy is that the flower opens up to the world when it is ready. It doesn’t rush to get to the petals stage, it just steadily and surely builds and strengthens itself, and allows the magical unfolding to happen, according the the bigger rhythms of nature and the universe, of which it is an equal and integral part of.

    As humans we create so many distractions and dramas that get in the way of us reaching our full potential. There’s a lot we can learn from flowers as they just get on with it and do their thing, without fuss or fanfare, or need for reward, recognition or acknowledgement. They flower because that is their purpose and their job.

  30. I remember a few times over the years spending some one-on-one time with young children, and feeling this overwhelming sadness. I hid it from the child (physically but I am sure they felt it energetically) and I never really understood it. It only happened a handful of times and I have spent many a time in the company of children. When I read this line “babies remind us of an innate purity we were all born connected to” I realised that I was feeling the sadness of abandoning that innate purity. Now thanks to The Way of the Livingness, I am learning to live that more and more and that feeling of sadness is not so overwhelming.

  31. I already see myself and many students of The way of the Livingness opening their hearts and blossoming.

  32. Thank you Melinda that actually touched my heart..
    And so it is true what you shared in the sentence bellow, a beauty we actually can not resist..
    ‘Imagine a world with no roses or lilies because all the flowers stayed closed to protect their delicateness?’
    This is reflective of the way we can be with ourselves moving forward — unprotected and unguarded, letting out the beauty of who we are.

  33. The more of us that are able to live openly from our delicateness, the more people it will inspire not to live from that protection that most of us build, due to the hurts we accumulate along the path of life.

  34. Delicacy is another word for our light – that which dissolves the shadows beneath our feet. And just as the flower is dependent on the sun’s rays to unfurl its petals towards the warmth of such light, so too must we learn to respond to such a call from within and surrender the walls we have built that have stopped us fully relating to the world and our place in it.

  35. It brings a warmth to my heart reading this blog and imagining the hearts and faces of others opening up and blossoming to the warmth of the sun.

  36. Many years ago we had a cactus and out of the blue, it flowered one year, presenting us with one perfectly delicate white flower. The flower was the most beautiful thing I had ever seen, but only lasted for one day and it never flowered again. What blew me away, was how unimpressive the cactus was on the outside, but could produce something so beautiful.

  37. Its true we would miss out on so much beauty in the world if all the flowers kept themselves shut in protection, but this is what we human beings do protecting our inner beauty just in case we might get hurt.

  38. A great analogy Melinda, it makes sense that through hardening ourselves we hide away our natural delicateness forgetting that it is this innate quality within us that is our true strength.

  39. It is true that there is great strength in our delicateness, but for many there needs to be a sense of safety in order to let this out and for it to be expressed. For many people, delicacy has been something crushed and then hidden for fear of being hurt again. And as I understand this, for I was there too, it is possible to see how life becomes hard and arduous through the experiences that we have that shape us and make us into what we are – perhaps not always what we would like to be. Trust and security therefore are paramount in letting delicacy be seen. And the greatest lesson I have learnt about this which I am honoured to share with you, is the fact that we are the source for the most stupendous levels of trust and security. It comes from within yourself, you have within all that is needed to live delicately – even in the face of difficult times.

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