Where do I Start?

Have you ever in your life looked at something and thought, “Where do I start?” It could have been whilst cleaning, de-cluttering a space, moving house, starting a project, writing an assignment… the list goes on. Many times I have gone into overwhelm (and sometimes still do), asking myself this question and making the task bigger in my mind than it truly is… which if I do that, of course I will not know where to start!

I had a very similar feeling recently, only this was not to do with writing an assignment or de-cluttering, it was to do with what is going on in the world. In a short space of time I had read, seen and signed petitions on various news’ stories of devastating things that are happening to people and animals around the world. Not long after reading and seeing this, in fact during reading and seeing these different news clips, came the familiar feeling of overwhelm – of “Gosh, where do we start?” and I noticed an old pattern of feeling helpless arise. The question then came back to me: when such abuse and devastation is happening within the world, “Where do we (as humanity) start?” and “How on earth do we stop or change the abuse that is happening in the world?”

What I noticed was, when I gave myself space to feel into this a bit more (pulled myself out of being in the overwhelm and observed instead) I did not feel helpless, I did not go into sympathy. Instead I knew the answer. It starts with us. It starts with how we live, how much do we care and love ourselves within our own life, what do we value and tolerate within our life… do we or do we not accept abuse in our own life even on the smallest scale, which could be something as simple as overeating?

This then becomes manageable, tangible and feasible. For if we (every single person in the world) love ourselves so deeply, saying no to abuse, not tolerating abuse, valuing and respecting not only ourselves but every other person, then we would have zero abuse – no wars, no corruption, no lies, no greed, no harm to another or others.

This is possible – we just need to make the start.

So, where do we start?

We start with us.

Continually and forever inspired by the lived way of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.

By Vicky Cooke, London

Further Reading:
One Step At a Time – Anything Else is Just Too Tricky!
It’s time for the world to wake from its Sleep
An Unnatural Disaster

595 thoughts on “Where do I Start?

  1. Gosh, so simple and so powerful: it starts with us, it starts with love and admitting we are part of a much bigger picture than this life here on earth. It starts with something that might seem a detail but has a big ripple effect: self-love.

  2. ‘If we (every single person in the world) love ourselves so deeply, saying no to abuse… and respecting not only ourselves but every other person,” The…. the world would be turned on it’s head – very powerful.

  3. I can relate to feeling overwhelmed by the concept of needing to start somewhere, but with the intensity of the world and everything going on every minute of the day, how on earth can we make a difference.
    But, like you, I’ve come to understand and appreciate that it literally does start with us, ourselves, how we care for, live, accept and appreciate who we are first, and then all of those qualities naturally flow on to the way we are with others, and so on and so forth. That’s where we start, with ourselves.

    1. Yes absolutely and what I have seen over the last few days is when we do start with ourselves this then reflects something to others. Also just by holding a space for someone to be themselves and express without being judged creates not only a change for that person but a reflection that we can all do this in our lives both for ourselves and others. True connection is key.

  4. Inspiration for living, inspiration for loving – ourselves, all the way, more and more – yes, there is no end to how much we can love ourselves – and no end to the ripple effect this then has on everybody else.

  5. Mmmm maybe much to do on the home first front around self disregard and self abuse. Maybe when we clean up our own backyards, workplaces and communities the ripple goes out wider.

  6. Going into overwhelm is making the potential of your power in that moment (of what is required from you truly) less.. This is disempowering yourself from the situation as you were actually shown that you are capable, but you need to turn up the volume, as we can stand still same to that we can not not move. So it starts now with you right now..

  7. Knowing there is a greater purpose beyond our own immediate needs is very supportive to make loving choices. By choosing to not harm me in any way I’m adding this foundation, therefore reflection for the world to be able to choose the same for themselves.

  8. The change and magic one person can bring to their community is incredible, and most importantly ‘starting with us’ and being absolute in our commitment to supporting others, standing up for what is true and speaking out against abuse is confirming for others that they too don’t have to ‘fit the mould’. And thus we get to experience the power of two, three, four or more people changing the game.

  9. Abuse is happening all the time all around us, the more I am calling out my own self abuse the more I am able to see the abuse that many do not consider abuse, as I feel they are so numb to what is happening,

    1. The cool thing is that even though many people may have numbed themselves to what is going on for them and others, if we continue to share and call out what is our own self abuse as Mary Louise has described here, then other people get to see an example of what is possible to do for themselves in their own lives, and bit by bit they may begin to do the same for themselves.

  10. At work I witnessed an elderly client being settled for the night, this meant changing her pad and moving her up the bed. I came in to help and was horrified by what I witnessed. The way the staff handled the woman was so rough and quick I felt it was absolute abuse and they had no idea this was the case. They would have thought they were just doing their job and very normal. I stood at the end of the bed and held her feet. When they left I connected with the woman as I could see how distressed she was, she said she felt like she had been handled like she was a lump of meat, she felt very deeply comforted when I confirmed her experience and appreciated that I had held her feet.

  11. It is said that the buck stops here – pointing the finger or going into overwhelm signal defeat and giving up whereas taking responsibility for our own choices changes everything, even if we don’t get to see the results personally or in our lifetime.

    1. Very good point Gabriele, we want to see the result and the outcomes in our own life because then we know what we did, offered, contributed to worked. It, perhaps, offers us our personal ego fix that we did that. Perhaps taking a moment to consider ourselves as part of a much bigger cog, one that cannot see the whole picture but can feel the value of our part in it, is a far more supportive way to approach the situations that present themselves to us in our life.

  12. We are not responsible to fix the world, this we cannot do, but we are responsible in how we live with ourselves. As our choices become much more loving in the way we car for ourselves this sends out the vibration of love, that in due course, as more and more live with this connection this will change everything.

  13. ‘Where do I Start?’ or ‘how shall I do it’ is a question often asked in moments when we have a first realization or understanding and seeing the need or chance for change, but are still held by the pattern of the issue we are in the process of unraveling – somehow it seems we are blank. Interesting enough we often find the answer in the issue itself. When I have been e.g. disregarding and loveless, I will need to start being attentive and caring, just the intention is already enough to initiate the process; and actually we know that but haven´t chosen to make it our activity or movement, we are in resistance to activate it, as that means to let go of the familiarity and identification the issue provides us. Thus it is not really a problem of knowing what to do or how to start, but much more understanding one´s resistance still being at play, even when we had a realization and think we have the intention to change.

    1. Fantastic observation Alexander. What you shared reminds me of how when I have used sheer will power to change a behaviour that was no longer supporting me without feeling into the ‘why’ of me choosing that behaviour, I inevitably went back to that unsupportive way. Many times I would wonder how I got there, but because that underlying source was not flushed out, I simply repeated it out of comfort and familiarity.

  14. Love the simplicity of starting with us, because through small changes many things are possible, we have a responsibility to ourselves and the rest of humanity.

  15. By the time I get to ‘where do I start’, I have already delayed the initial moment when the timing was perfect to do something. Add a few of these together and you can have a case of overwhelm and the sense of dread of all you have left undealt with. When I respond instantly to what I feel needs doing, this question does not enter my head and the way to go about it comes effortlessly.

  16. ” This then becomes manageable, tangible and feasible. For if we (every single person in the world) love ourselves so deeply, saying no to abuse, not tolerating abuse, valuing and respecting not only ourselves but every other person, then we would have zero abuse – no wars, no corruption, no lies, no greed, no harm to another or others. ”
    Yes this is very true, it all starts with oneself and all that we participate in actively or passively contributes to the all.

  17. We can start by being honest with ourselves as with honesty we always feel what needs to be addressed. There is always a ‘first step’ no matter what our situation is or how bad we think things are…honouring this first step is all we need to do.

  18. The best thing I have found with starting something is to be very focussed and present with that one thing, no matter how many other things are waiting to be attended to. Otherwise I get overwhelmed and don’t start anything or try to do too many things at once which never ends well!

  19. ” Where do I Start? ”
    When I read this writing , I was thinking of a baby . If a baby said ” where do I start ” . If a baby can do it surely its possible.

  20. Thank you Vicky, it’s true by looking at the sheer magnitude of what’s going on around planet earth in terms of abuse it feels too big to address, however we are addressing it by starting with ourselves. We may still add our support to local or global issues but true change does start with ourselves.

  21. I love what you have shared about the overwhelm of where to start. It can seem so big and complicated. Yet the moment you take a step back and depersonalise it – stop thinking it is for you to fix and solve it all, there is an ease in the body that ensures it knows its next step.

  22. There is a lot to do, as there is so much wrong in the way things are in the world, but it is not in doing a lot that this is changed, but rather by doing what is needed. And what is needed first, requires us to be a certain way, so that what we do has the quality that brings true change.

  23. Where do I start is related to the overwhelm or time that comes with the task. An interesting approach is to start with one’s attitude or posture, e.g. seeing the bigger picture can help to recognise the parts or details for what they are, and get a sense for the flow in which they need to be taken care of.

  24. Let´s start with our movements. No matter what´s the issue, we will always find a disharmonious movement as the cause of the problem. Before trying to address the issue, we need to change the quality of movement to be one of harmony to the best of our ability – no perfection required but a sincere approach to shift one´s attitude and hence way of feeling, thinking and communicating.

  25. Taking that most important first step is the way to approach anything in life, particularly if we are feeling that something needs changing – like the world. Trying to figure out how just one person can make a difference can be rather overwhelming but if we start from the beginning, with us, and take one step at a time the changes begin to unfold with no trying whatsoever.

  26. “Where do I Start?” – great question to ask Vicky and in relation to anything really… and what i’ve noted for myself is feeling whether i’m asking that from a heady, mental plane, or more so from the body that’s balanced, steady, full, honest. Because from the body the starting point is always known. And the (above) question becomes somewhat redundant.

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