The Meatball Story

Recently when I was visiting the UK I had an experience I’d like to share with you. It was one of those moments where I could have felt that I made a mistake and I could have easily been hard on myself about it, but instead I had such awesome support from the people around me that it didn’t feel like a mistake at all but rather a moment to learn and grow from.

The Story…

I was visiting a little town in England called Frome, in the county of Somerset, southwest from London. I was there to attend an Esoteric Yoga Course presented by the awesome complementary medicine wonder of a company called Universal Medicine… and yes, they are that awesome. On the premises where I stayed there are different levels of accommodations on offer, some providing a space to be able to cook for yourself. I chose to stay where I didn’t have that much of a possibility to cook, but where the beds and the sleep provided is pure heaven so my choice fell in favour of that. So when it came to the food bit I had to fulfil that need someplace else. So… I decided to go to another facility which to be honest didn’t feel right from the start as I was accessing services that were otherwise intended for other guests.

Just to say that I’m in the process of really aiming to listen to what I feel about things and situations and not to override them with my head, but at this point I was still pushing through what I actually felt. And hence perhaps the reason for what then occurred…


I had prepared some lamb meatballs to be done later on and when that later came I put them into the oven on a tray, not being too focussed or aware of the program I chose. It turned out that I put it on grill function with a fan on 200°C. Now for those that are not too savvy in the kitchen let me tell you that 200°C with the grill generates a lot of heat. It took only a few minutes for the oven to start puffing out smoke through its openings, and we had to literally evacuate the kitchen because we couldn’t breathe properly. At the same time I had to make sure the door was closed and that the smoke didn’t get out otherwise the fire alarm would have gone off. At this point I could feel the heat in my face starting to present itself: and that was not just because of the heat in the kitchen let me tell you!

The funny and interesting thing was that I didn’t find the situation to be that big a deal, even though I said I’m sorry a few more times than one. The people I had stopped from accessing the kitchen were amazingly supportive and I feel that was a big reason for why I could experience the situation as something to learn from, and I was actually quite surprised by how at ease they were in the midst of it all, or mist to be correct. If they had all started yelling at me or saying not so very pleasant things I might have experienced the situation differently.

It cannot be denied that The Way of The Livingness that these friends and I are now students of, presents a very healthy way of approaching life where you don’t feel that you have to get all sucked into whatever is happening around you. That you can actually look at life and let it be where it is and respond accordingly, and not react. And to be honest, being the one that was having a potential moment to learn from – usually called making a mistake in our everyday language – I’m glad I was where I was. And perhaps no mistake either (!).

The presenter and founder of The Way of The Livingness, Serge Benhayon, has been presenting since 1999 that it’s well worth observing life and not absorbing it. Now that can be just words until you actually get to experience what it actually means. And if I take the example of the meatball story, I see very clearly how that approach looks like in real life. So even though I have no need to glorify anyone, it sure was a glorious moment for me to be given the space to make my little “mistake” and to learn from it, which I did.

By Matts Josefsson, Student of Behavioural Science & Life, Sweden

Further Reading:
No Mistakes: Just a New Learning
No Doubt
It Was Meant to Be and Everything Happens for a Reason


249 thoughts on “The Meatball Story

  1. One of the things I love about this story is the fact that there was just no getting away with it – those meatballs were going to signal your situation to the world no matter what! A very visible mistake can feel excruciatingly revealing but conversely, can allow us to reap the biggest rewards in terms of what we learn.

    1. Sure Victoria, while we se many people making mistakes, only the ones that take in full what they are leaning from it do grow grow and evolve in life. We cannot learn life from a book but by experience and with that both to learn from what went well, but equally so from that what went seriously wrong.

  2. Yes Matts, when we override or try to block out what we feel, what we know is the true thing to do, we automatically place ourselves into a reduced state. Like a pilot who’s turned off the GPS, how can we expect that things will carry on as normal? We said no to assistance guidance and support and so naturally it’s not surprising that things go wrong. But as you show how beautiful that is too – for it highlights and frames what we have to learn and what we did not want to know. Mistakes are part of this beautiful boomerang design God has made to help us return to Love.

  3. A lovely meatball story with a great ending Matts, you were still alive! And it could be debated that there are no such things as mistakes only learnings, and yes it does indeed support you in the learning when others do not react.

  4. It’s interesting how the people around you determined the outcome of your experience, it really reminds me that the way I approach and treat others has a massive impact on the way they choose to learn or to cement old and harmful behaviours.

  5. Oops, this is how we learn. When we make ourselves or others wrong we are really saying I do not want to learn and hence are guarenteed to make the same ‘mistake’ again.

  6. What I realized lately is, that not saying something is very often enough. My authority does give the space for the other to ponder on what they did. Reactions or teachings are very often just for yourself and don´t allow the other person make their own realizations about the situation.

  7. ‘that it’s well worth observing life and not absorbing it. Now that can be just words until you actually get to experience what it actually means. ‘I agree with this totally and having heard this for a number of years and never doubted it and always felt I understood it until recently when I had an experience which brought a wave of realisation of what it truly means – amazing to feel the deeper meaning in something which is so simple.

  8. We actually all do have the meatball like events with the potential to learn from but only the fact if we could appreciate the events as such made it a point of evolution while it otherwise even could bring devastation into our lives, like the shame or guilt we then could take upon us.

  9. To not allow any drama into any given situation, but to hold ourselves equal in love, has the potential to change any situation into one of deepening our understanding of why something happened and then a willingness to make a change in our life to prevent a similar thing from reoccurring.

  10. ‘That you can actually look at life and let it be where it is and respond accordingly, and not react.’ This in itself is the biggest gift … then the learnings naturally flow from that.

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