The Meatball Story

Recently when I was visiting the UK I had an experience I’d like to share with you. It was one of those moments where I could have felt that I made a mistake and I could have easily been hard on myself about it, but instead I had such awesome support from the people around me that it didn’t feel like a mistake at all but rather a moment to learn and grow from.

The Story…

I was visiting a little town in England called Frome, in the county of Somerset, southwest from London. I was there to attend an Esoteric Yoga Course presented by the awesome complementary medicine wonder of a company called Universal Medicine… and yes, they are that awesome. On the premises where I stayed there are different levels of accommodations on offer, some providing a space to be able to cook for yourself. I chose to stay where I didn’t have that much of a possibility to cook, but where the beds and the sleep provided is pure heaven so my choice fell in favour of that. So when it came to the food bit I had to fulfil that need someplace else. So… I decided to go to another facility which to be honest didn’t feel right from the start as I was accessing services that were otherwise intended for other guests.

Just to say that I’m in the process of really aiming to listen to what I feel about things and situations and not to override them with my head, but at this point I was still pushing through what I actually felt. And hence perhaps the reason for what then occurred…

So…

I had prepared some lamb meatballs to be done later on and when that later came I put them into the oven on a tray, not being too focussed or aware of the program I chose. It turned out that I put it on grill function with a fan on 200°C. Now for those that are not too savvy in the kitchen let me tell you that 200°C with the grill generates a lot of heat. It took only a few minutes for the oven to start puffing out smoke through its openings, and we had to literally evacuate the kitchen because we couldn’t breathe properly. At the same time I had to make sure the door was closed and that the smoke didn’t get out otherwise the fire alarm would have gone off. At this point I could feel the heat in my face starting to present itself: and that was not just because of the heat in the kitchen let me tell you!

The funny and interesting thing was that I didn’t find the situation to be that big a deal, even though I said I’m sorry a few more times than one. The people I had stopped from accessing the kitchen were amazingly supportive and I feel that was a big reason for why I could experience the situation as something to learn from, and I was actually quite surprised by how at ease they were in the midst of it all, or mist to be correct. If they had all started yelling at me or saying not so very pleasant things I might have experienced the situation differently.

It cannot be denied that The Way of The Livingness that these friends and I are now students of, presents a very healthy way of approaching life where you don’t feel that you have to get all sucked into whatever is happening around you. That you can actually look at life and let it be where it is and respond accordingly, and not react. And to be honest, being the one that was having a potential moment to learn from – usually called making a mistake in our everyday language – I’m glad I was where I was. And perhaps no mistake either (!).

The presenter and founder of The Way of The Livingness, Serge Benhayon, has been presenting since 1999 that it’s well worth observing life and not absorbing it. Now that can be just words until you actually get to experience what it actually means. And if I take the example of the meatball story, I see very clearly how that approach looks like in real life. So even though I have no need to glorify anyone, it sure was a glorious moment for me to be given the space to make my little “mistake” and to learn from it, which I did.

By Matts Josefsson, Student of Behavioural Science & Life, Sweden

Further Reading:
No Mistakes: Just a New Learning
No Doubt
It Was Meant to Be and Everything Happens for a Reason

 

409 thoughts on “The Meatball Story

  1. Nothing like “messing up” around people who love you. It’s never a mess up, only an opportunity – and a welcome one as great learning is on offer. This applies even around people who may not love us, but the love offers a solid support.

      1. Yes, it does. When we are held in love, the things we do and don’t do that are not love become more obvious.

      1. Jump in Matts – imperfections and all 🙂 Nothing more beautiful than a transparent person in all their tenderness and vulnerability opening themselves up to the world. I take note too!

      2. Yes sharing with people how you feel about them releases a lot of tension in the body, at least for me, and I would say it sets free and shares the love that is naturally within us. Maybe we all come to a point some day where we feel and realise that holding back things we feel, holding back how much we actually love people hurts so much more than letting the love out.

  2. Often we push through with what we know to be true because we have an investment in doing something and listening to our body does not suit us.

    1. I agree anytime I struggle with knowing an answer, it is because I know the answer that will work but it doesn’t suit me…. The “I am not sure” is really about me seeing if I can manipulate the situation in a way “I” want.

  3. Every time I read this blog it reminds me of a movie called “Cloudy with a chance of meatballs” – the story about a mad scientist who created a machine that could control the weather and then you had food raining from the sky. Except in Matts’ case we could call the movie: “Smokey with a chance of meatballs”. And the beautiful thing is that Matts’ story has a moral and a learning for us all. Thank you Matts!

  4. How differently we would all relate to each other if rather than seeing our mistakes as being really bad and detrimental, we understood them as being an opportunity for everyone to learn something from about themselves and others.

  5. We all make what we call mistakes,we often get a reactions from someone when we do this and our first choice is to react back, neither party learns anything, we all just heated, indignant and righteous, to be open to learn change the conversation…there is something for all of humanity to learn there….

  6. Yes, the simple ‘stop moment’ and honoring of the body is far away if we have an investment in the outcome. Out is the honesty and willingness to listen to our body.

  7. We think we can get away with things when everything goes ok/nothing goes wrong. But even then we do know and feel in our body that what we do it not true and not considering everyone equally. When I do things like this I am only focused on myself and care less for others, which is in the end always painful for my body.

  8. How cool that you had space to truly reflect and learn in this situation. Sometimes we can go into defence or self-bashing – but what if we don’t need to allow these emotions at all – such as in this case. Very cool.

  9. I love the way you have used such a simple story to demonstrate something so powerful. Often the reaction to something we have done wrong is worse than the event itself. It’s wonderful to read of the response that you had, and how held and loved you felt.

    1. So true Rebecca, the event is usually only a physical out play that is cleaned up and left behind. Where our ‘Loving’ response, to any situation ‘will’ serve us for life-times!

  10. We can give ourselves the opportunity for growth and learning in every moment and with every experience. Observing, not judging or reacting is fundamental in this. And then we let go and say: ‘what is next?’

  11. I love this story Matts, makes me smile knowing the place you mention.
    The change is that the other students also didn’t react because they already felt you taking responsibility by nominating it for yourself. All is felt. Thanks for sharing.

  12. The mind justify, rationalise and sympathise till the cows come home..! But the body is constantly expressing a truth that the mind cannot. Learning to listen to this is an art in itself and one that makes life much more joyful and purposeful as we start to stay connected to the body and bring its quality to all that we do. This, the mind is under qualified for.

  13. What a beautiful learning shared from you experiences of stopping and taking a moment to feel and not go straight into reaction and blame . A beautiful example of taking responsibility and not going into emotions and all this offers us as a way of living in harmony and love from within.

  14. Absolutely no point in beating ourselves up for a potential learning in the making. Every opportunity to grow is placed before us. It is up to us as to which way we look at it. . . . to learn and grow or to berate ourselves and stay in the same delay.

  15. The presentation of Serge Benhayon’s ‘To observe and not absorb’, is a particular favourite of mine and has bought me a lot of understanding around life, relationships and any situation.

  16. Who would have thought that you would learn so much and not just you but all those involved with making some meatballs! This shows that if we are prepared to be open and willing to see what is there being presented to us that it is a graceful learning for all.

  17. Living with people is beautiful in how it reminds us constantly how everything we do impacts those around us either in a beneficial way or not.

  18. There is so much to learn in life in this blog. For me where I am today it would be to accept where I am at even though I keep repeating a simple behaviour which is not loving with myself and others, a cycle I have been in since I was a child going to school and a cycle that if I chose to align to love would make such a difference to my wellbeing and that of others.

  19. ‘Observing life and not absorbing it’ has been one of the most valuable principles taught by Serge Benhayon over the years, something that I am conscious of every single day in my relationships and interactions with the world.

  20. This reminds me of how we treat our children. Do we shout at them and berate them when they “mess up” or do we accept the situation for what it is and allow for a greater learning.

  21. Accepting where we are at and accepting the situation as it is – not blaming others or the moment in anyway (the weather takes a lot of flak for example), we allow ourselves to be aware of the support and love and a deeper awareness of life that’s on offer.

  22. Thank you for sharing your experience Matts, I have found that there are many opportunities that we learn from, and not to be judged by our mishaps by others makes the learning far deeper.

    1. So true, having that space to grow from is a blessing for sure. I have to say that I am inspired by my friends being so cool about it and not judging me. To be honest I still judge but I know that is from me still judging myself.

  23. Observe but not absorb should be written on my mirror, it is a 101 lesson that I am still learning all these years later. It is something that although I am great at in some areas of life, other areas just suck me and under. Keeping a lightness under pressure is one of the easier tasks for me but family dynamics or taking comments that my husband might say personally is an area I can still work on! What I love about the esoteric community, is that everyone may not be perfect but generally they are all attempting to sit back and make life joyful and not stressed.

  24. The best advice i got was that its good to make mistakes- i would rather may mistakes and learn from them and grow rather than not act and remain stagnant.

  25. So much pressure we place on ourselves and another to be ‘perfect’…an ideal that none of us will ever come close to living up to. What a set up this is to make us feel inadequate, less and failing.

  26. When a mistake happens, there is always a lesson to be learnt, not only for the person who is ‘doing’ the mistake itself, but for those around them. With this point of view, your experience with the meatball was an opportunity for all those involved to go deeper in something about themselves too… so mistakes and service goes hand to hand. Non judgement, acceptance and surrender makes easier it to learn the lesson at hand.

  27. Our total awareness when cooking and actually being aware and present with the multitude of different connections we have every day is having a profound effects on those who choice to live in this most divine way.

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