And That Was My Last Drink – No Drama, No Resolve, Just Plain Common Sense

by Gabriele Conrad, Goonellabah, Australia

It wasn’t that I truly ever thought drinking alcohol was okay, but everybody was doing it and I wanted to fit in.

Not drinking did make sense to me. What I noticed though, was that everybody seemed to be drinking a lot of coffee, and that some people who had stopped drinking because they were alcoholics, actually smoked a lot of cigarettes. A lesser evil so to speak, because drinking heaps of coffee and smoking did not lead to violence and family breakups: but were people just swapping one addiction for a lesser one and exchanging one prop for another?

One day, upon opening a new bottle, which I would then usually nurse along over two or three evenings, and whilst keenly feeling the anticipation, the relief the glass of wine would bring me any moment and that sense of having deserved it, I thought: “What kind of life am I leading; what are my working days really like when I can’t wait to get this glass of wine into me?”

Well, that was the end of that – no New Year’s resolutions, no planning ahead of how I would manage to not drink, nothing at all – just the insight of the fact that there must be something wrong with my life to have to drink wine in the evening after work, and be looking forward to it so much.

So my life was the problem, and the alcohol just a Band-Aid.

Not drinking was therefore extremely easy and quite natural. I just did not drink anymore and started attending to my life, my working life, my relationships and my choices, the whole lot. I started taking responsibility for how I was feeling during the day, paying attention to when I felt drained and questioning and gradually changing all those things that I had accepted as normal, but which were in fact depleting me to the point that I could hardly wait to get that numbing sugar hit in the evening.

262 thoughts on “And That Was My Last Drink – No Drama, No Resolve, Just Plain Common Sense

  1. It can be quite difficult to accept that it’s the way we lead our life that’s the problem and not the band-aids that we use. But if we are honest with ourselves and get to the root of it, life-changes are plain and simple.

  2. It is so true what you share Gabriele that we can just swap our addictions as that insatiable addictive need feels the same no matter what the flavor of addiction is. At the moment I am craving salt big time and potato crisps are giving me that hit. And every time I eat them though I know they are not healthy for me I ignore this fact and eat them like the cookie monster devoured his cookies on sesame street. But that temptation that ‘I have to have my chips’ feels very similar to when I desperately wanted that alcoholic drink to placate me or that cigarette back when I smoked… Addiction is a fascinating topic that undermines far too many of us and we all need to discuss it much more honestly, transparently and openly.

  3. It just goes to show how empowering it is to self-reflect on how we are feeling. Our willingness to be honest about what we are feeling is what allows us to explore the truth of why we are making the choices we are making, and the effect they have on our body and being. From this point simply honoring that which feels true feel more and more natural and without effort our choices begin to reflect this. Are we freely living our full potential or do we ‘need’ stimulants and rewards to help us get through the day or night? For at the end of the day it is only ourselves that determines the quality of lives we live, this responsibility is only ours and cannot be avoided, whether we are willing to embrace it or not.

  4. It is really so simple, how we live is the result of how we feel at the end of each day. The responsibility to address the lifestyle we live is a far greater support to our body and mind that an alcoholic drink the numbs and holds us in the same pattern, setting us up to repeat the same day tomorrow.

    1. There is great power and liberation in our willingness to truly see and observe the momentums we are in, what we are aligning to and why. Our connection to our bodes offer us the greatest support with this hence the great wisdom in us developing a loving and honouring relationship with our bodies, our temples of God.

  5. When we start to open up to feel our own body and the hurts we kept for so long, the body starts to release the old and this makes space for more love.

  6. Mainstream addictions are our chosen way to try manage life from a body harmed by our primary addiction, namely, our addiction to aligning to pranic energy and the devastation which that brings to us.

    1. Not to mention the ensuing eternal unsettlement of a spark that is part of the whole, forever and needs to quell, by whatever means, the devastation that only oneness can settle.

  7. Giving up anything really can be as easy as you descirbe here Gabrielle, once we are willing to see where our habits and patterns of behaviour are leading us. It can just take a stop moment for us to wake up and ‘smell the coffee’ so to speak to then make a choice to make a lasting and beneficial change to the way we live our lives.

  8. Great question, why do we need a reward at the end of the day? If our day was complete we would not need this.

    1. True – no need to run around until the end of one’s days and declare oneself to be a recovering alcoholic. No more identification with what has not served and is long gone.

      1. Exactly Gabrielle as if you stay identified with the past and /or past behaviours then you can not let it go and truly heal

  9. Plain common sense rules! Love it Gabriele and love your common sense – it is infectious (in a good way of course) 😉

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