Sticks And Stones May Break Your Bones… But Words Can Do Far Greater Damage

How many of us were told when we were young that “sticks and stones may break your bones but words will never hurt you?”. Were we taught to ignore our feelings and disregard any inner-pain as if this didn’t really exist because they were just ‘words’ and there wasn’t a bruise, break or any other obvious sign to prove these words had injured us?

I often smile at my five year old’s fascination with bruises – that we can be bleeding on the inside and yet there is no blood on the outside. How can this be?

What else could be going on inside us that we can’t always see on the outside?

Imagine if we were taught from a young age that “everything is energy and therefore everything is because of energy” – as presented by Universal Medicine? Wouldn’t that mean that words have energy as well?

Just to know this to be a possibility would go a long way in confirming what most, if not all of us, have felt at some time in our lives – that people’s words can carry just as much of a punch (if not more so, sometimes) than their physical actions.

A word can be expressed with love and yet the same word can be spoken with hate. Even the words ‘I love you’ can be spoken with true love and appreciation for another in one instance, or with the intention of pleasing, getting something, with underlying resentment, bitterness or sarcasm on another occasion.

It appears all too easy to be fooled by ‘words we want to hear’ and ‘need’ to hear, and in that we too readily overlook the energy they are coming with or the punch that they can carry.

My experience is that these energetic punches do bruise us over time and can affect the way in which we relate to all others as a result – if we have not initially discerned the energy of spoken words and how they feel to us in-truth, at the time.

Imagine the enormous healing for all of humanity to simply realise that words carry energy. Wouldn’t this go a long way to confirm what many of us perhaps already know to be true?

Wouldn’t we then be more equipped to know where someone is coming from? Know how we feel in our own body when words are spoken to us? And be far more discerning about our own energy when we express words to others?

by Deborah

207 thoughts on “Sticks And Stones May Break Your Bones… But Words Can Do Far Greater Damage

  1. Because we are not taught the fundamentals of life that everything is energy, we are then left wide open to how we are with people and how they are with us. We are completely fooled by words because we don’t discern the energy behind them and because of this we are poisoned by them. Jealousy is particularly toxic and this can be directed towards us from an early age from our parents and siblings. So we could say we are poisoned from a very early age and so is it any wonder we are a sick society?

  2. This makes me realise that we are always communicating either love or not love. Even though, it could even be just an everyday, practical exchange, it is always either love or not love. It is not what specific formation of words get uttered, but it is energy first. And now I am realising how little movement I actually allow to even consider my responsibility in that at every opportunity.

  3. The bruise example is a great one. We seem to have pictures of what abuse and harm is – anything less than that can get ignored and its existence even denied. Yet if we choose to let our body talk and pay attention to it, even honour it, the bar would be raised enormously. A lot of what we may term quite normal and civil would be clearly seen as the abuse that it really is.

  4. Deborah I personally look forward to the future when we will all be taught again from young, that everything is energy and therefore everything is because of energy. I have no doubt this will happen, we are just not there quite yet.

  5. A persons tone can give away much more of the underlying intent than the words can. Even louder, if willing to feel such, is the energy behind the words that expose the intent like a billboard. This can even be discerned through communication technology such as email or text.

  6. It is a lie to say that words do not hurt us for they clearly do. But can they hurt us if we have not first hurt ourselves in our choice to not be all that we are in truth?

  7. I like the phrase ‘energetic punches’. It describes for me precisely what happens when I feel assaulted by loveless or insensitive expressions. But I also remind myself that I am not powerless in this – and through healing of hurts and the power of observation, I can play an active role in restoring harmony to my being.

    1. It can feel like I’ve been dumped on or hit at times when in a direct conversation or within close range of a loveless or insensitive conversation. Or I can feel my own loveless comments boomerang straight back at me when I utter them. Nominating when I feel these moments helps them not stick and hang around.

      1. I agree Leigh. That act of nomination helps to raise our awareness and let go of all that is not in truth who we are.

  8. It is said that “sticks and stones may break your bones but words will never hurt you?”, but then we also say ‘the pen is mightier than the sword’. We cannot have it both ways. In my experience, words hurt and they can go very deep. What I feel is that we all have a responsibility to be loving in everything we do – and this includes the words we use. Perhaps if we end our ‘war of words’ we will also end our wars with each other too.

    1. Spot on Richard, war of any kind will not serve and when words can not be used to support ourselves legally then maybe we can continue to provide a barrage of Truth over the internet? And Maybe if the injustice continues we could learn to hate the ill-use-of-words as much as some have learnt to hate wars, then as we stand up to represent the Truth, Truth-in-words, Energetic-Truth-of-words as a responsibility to share how a foundation of Truth shall not be moved or swayed by lies and innuendo, so the Truth the whole Truth and nothing but the Truth will be known.

  9. “Expression is everything”, “The pen is mightier than the sword”, “In the face of weapons of war, my songs avail as much as doves in the face of eagles,” “the tongue is mightier than the blade,” are all quotes from different eras availing us of the power of words and when we come to understand, the True relationships and energy words carry is super important to understand-the-energetic-Truth-of-words.

    1. Maybe we could make-up a word for the immense scarring that can take place so we understand the true value of how critical the lies and innuendo can be to our way of living? Something like reprehensible-anguish, torturous-wrong, reprehensible-torture or reprehenguish!, torturrong!, reporture!, Hm, maybe seeing it is the media we are talking about, reporture seems to fit?

  10. Our current way of education fools us into believing that the mind knows best and that our intelligence comes from our minds. This has led us to believe only what our minds tell us and this is why we have ignored our bodies to the detriment of our health. Is it possible that if we listened more to our bodies and less to our minds our health would improve?

  11. I have been feeling this recently reading some comments on newspaper articles and social media. The words used are not abusive in themselves, but the tone of what is written is, and you can distinctly feel the disdain in the words and they are hurtful and harmful. We really need to consider very much the words we use in all forms of communication, but also the way we deliver them. All it does is provoke further reaction and further hurt.

  12. Words, their true meaning, the way we express them, especially seeing our True expression holds so much towards our evolution and will bring us back to Love as Love is a True movement of us in our full expression. So deepening our relationship with words so we can delicately communicate and get rid of our blustering ways of the past is a forever part of our evolution.

  13. Is it possible that crying is actually a mechanism of the body to help us let go of whatever it is that we’re sad about/ hurt by? Has anybody experienced an occasion where something has really, really hurt them, and after a good cry they have felt a surrender, a release of negative emotions and more capable to move on with their lives without being overwhelmed with thoughts and “what if’s”? Well this is energy, this is a release of overwhelming emotions which, if allowed to remain stagnant in the body become doorways for a preoccupied mind and ill health.

  14. Words can hurt us especially if we hold onto the feelings and then internalise what we have been told. As an example growing up, it was common to be called stupid by the grown-ups, roll forward 50 years only to find that those words were still in the body and playing out in my daily choices. So, to say that words do not hurt us is not exactly true.

  15. Abuse begins at the level of the tone of voice we use to mouth a word that will deliver the required vibration to the chosen target.

    1. Yes this makes sense Liane, it is the tone the words are delivered in that makes the difference. Two people can say the same words but the one that uses a certain tone that comes with an energetic configuration is the one that will affect us the most.

  16. This explains why when someone says something to you that you know is not true it makes you feel empty – because we feel the intention behind them is not loving.

  17. A physical blow is received once. It hurts yes, but we can recover from bruises, even broken bones. Emotional and mental abuse can be taken up and repeated by others – hence the prevalence of online cyber abuse, which has caused some to become very depressed, take on self-harming behaviours and even commit suicide. When will those responsible for this media abuse take responsibility? When will we as humans take responsibility for our own actins and words? We always have a choice – to harm or to heal.

  18. “It appears all too easy to be fooled by ‘words we want to hear’ and ‘need’ to hear, and in that we too readily overlook the energy they are coming with or the punch that they can carry.” These unseen energies can be felt when we are open to truly discerning, rather than hearing what we want to hear – or seeing what we want to see – and blocking out the rest. The ripple effect of hurtful words can linger on in ones mind.

  19. The evil in words that can be so easily used, it is fatal. You just need to go online to look at the abuse that is leading people to take their own lives, or the level of domestic abuse, and we can see how harmful words are being used.

  20. Our words and our tone hurt far more than physical harm at the moment I’d say. Because when you’ve got a bruise there can be support. Yet if someone was to speak to me in a disinterested/don’t care attitude which equally hurts, it’s like that isn’t seen as abuse or as harm-causing, when actually it is when we allow ourselves to be naturally sensitive.

  21. The last month or so I’ve been more aware of how someone can say something yet I can also feel they are saying something else, energetically. It’s also proven that what someone says is usually not always what is being picked up by the one receiving it. About 20 % or so are the words and the rest is how we say it. It’s quite fascinating really. Proves that we communicate with energy not with words alone.

  22. Being supported to read energy should be a foundational part of our schooling from young, before we even learn to read words on a page!

    1. I so agree Fiona. However the adult teachers aren’t aware of the importance of this and I too wasn’t aware of the importance of reading energy first until I came to listen to Universal Medicine presentations .

  23. Deborah thank you for your wonderful blog. What came up for me while I am reading your words is that we all are sensitive by nature, as otherwise we would not feel every single tone behind a spoken word. The thing is most of us are pretending to do, not feel what in truth is there as this seems a bit to confronting.

  24. We are so super tender and sensitive that just the ounce of a tone in the voice that feels unloving is not just registered but experienced as painful, as we know ourselves and everyone equally to be of pure love in essence and everything that is not of the same love is hurting our innate nature.

  25. It is so true that the words we use which either represent the truth or all that is not of truth, reveal the quality of vibration that is being aligned to in any situation. I love that this awareness is accessible to us all, to be able to navigate and respond with the truth that is needed to bring greater love to the lives we live, through developing a loving and honouring relationship with our essence, our truth within. It also brings to home the responsibility we all hold as to the quality we are living and expressing with and the impact this has on all.

  26. A word spoken in anger, resentment, or mocking energy can be recycled a thousand times in ones mind, causing immense inner damage if we accept part of it as being true even if it is not, whereas any physical damage begins to heal immediately and this process does not have as lasting of an effect. If the spoken word is a sound vibration that comes into the body of another person to be interpreted, doesn’t it make sense that the quality of that vibration (either love or not) then will have a corresponding effect on its recipient? Simple physics, really.

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