SPEAKING UP

by Tony Steenson, Age 35, Bricklayer, Coraki, Australia

Growing up, I was always a quiet child. In my early teens this continued; I was never loud or outspoken, and I didn’t really talk about how I felt to anyone. What I did though, was become really angry, so I started my relationship with heavy metal music… because listening to angry music seemed to have a calming effect on me when I was upset.

I was disgusted at the behaviour of a lot of my mates. They were rude, offensive and just didn’t seem to care about anything or anyone except themselves… yet I didn’t say anything to them because I didn’t want them to not like me or call me names or give me a hard time – I didn’t want to rock the boat.

This ‘no boat-rocking way of life’ caused me a lot of pain over the years as I experienced countless situations where something really needed to be said, but because of my uncertainty in what to say and my unwillingness to stand up I just moved on from the situation, ignoring what I felt.

Enter Universal Medicine.

From listening to presentations and doing a few workshops, I now have a greater understanding of myself, and of others. I know now that by me not speaking up and saying “that’s not ok”, I am actually allowing it to happen. That’s a big one that I’m sure we’re all guilty of, but one that I want to call from now on.

I have also realised there is a responsibility with the way I express myself; if I express in anger I get anger coming back to me.

The fear I once had of not fitting in isn’t really there anymore – I say what I feel a lot of the time now, and it feels great to get it out.

I am still learning and experimenting with this and sometimes it goes great and other times not so crash hot, but I learn from my mistakes and am willing to give it a go.

420 thoughts on “SPEAKING UP

  1. Often when I came across abusive behaviour from others in the past, I tend not to speak up because I was in fear of rocking the boat. But now I realise speaking up no matter what the outcome is very important, because when I choose to stay silent and not express, I know it is basically saying yes to abuse. By speaking up may rock the boat but in truth abuse is not at all stable in the first place and realising how harmful it is when we don’t put a stop to it has supported me to express more and not be in fear of doing so. I used to worry about the immediate consequences of speaking up but from experience I realise by not speaking up when I witness abuse has far deeper and harmful consequences overall.

  2. This is awesome ‘The fear I once had of not fitting in isn’t really there anymore – I say what I feel a lot of the time now, and it feels great to get it out.’ great to hear this as how many of us try to fit in and don’t say what we truly feel?

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