Brotherhood: What if True Love Was Taught From Day One?

by Adele Leung, Fashion Stylist/Art Director, Hong Kong

Imagine a world where everyone first knows and claims their preciousness; and not only this, but knows that everyone else is equally as precious. If there were any religions, it would only be that of love. There would be no mistrust between humankind because everyone is an open book and nothing has to be hidden or protected; and if anything is not done out of love, everyone is aware that self-responsibility cannot be avoided.

A world where parents and schools share what is truly important for a child, by supporting him or her to grow up to know his or her true self, rather than what he or she is told to be. From day one, there is love, and only love.

Where corporates work in collaboration rather than in competition. Work is not about projects or skills, but about people – through the unique expressions of one’s light, everyone’s contribution is a confirmation of who they are in a harmonious synergy with others. Every part of every contribution is essential, not only within an enclosed system, but ultimately, for the entire human race.

Imagine a world where family is beyond that of blood, nationality, community, tribe, sect or pact. Everywhere we travel, we are returning home.  Language will not be a barrier towards connection, for it is not the main form of communication; we utilize a much more truthful way to communicate, that of feeling from the inner-heart. There is no differentiation in the love we hold for everyone, whether we have met or have not met.

Why is this world not that kind of world presently?

We are living in a perception that every one of us is separate and individual, when in-truth, we all know brotherhood.  Individualism rewards us with what is recognition and identity. Achievement and identity have almost become the reason to be human, and being human has come to equate with being only about self. Instead of love and brotherhood, we enter school to immediately learn about competition at 4-5 years of age, and even earlier, if favouritism began at home.  As is currently the case, being human in this world feels nearly unnatural.

Being human has been my greatest anxiety. In fact, this anxiety has been so strong and overwhelming that for most of my life I had sought to escape life. I know deep down there is something so much better in this world, not because I am a dreamer, but because that is exactly how I know life to be. Yet, I do not know how to live that fully.

And because of that, I have felt hurt. I have been impatient and very reactive towards humanity, only because I had needed humanity to fulfill my expectations, and that is not love.

So after years of reaction, I went back to square one. What if love was taught to me on day one? I would then be reminded that love is never imposing. It is just forever patient and non-judgmental.  Would love ever feel alone? Never, as love just is, it is nothing but being that. Would love allow itself to be walked all over in the name of trust and would love be abusive or take abuse? No, as love cannot ever cause harm, either to oneself or to others. The truth is, it has taken me decades, and probably lifetimes, of not living what I know in my heart.  How can this not be the greatest anxiety a human being can experience, if it is allowed to be felt?

I had not committed to life by living and expressing what I know is true in my heart because I had felt inadequate, small and powerless: knowing love, yet I lived all the lovelessness by reacting to the world. Instead of being me, I focussed on not being understood. Knowing brotherhood, yet what I lived was separation. I did not let love in, and that was not true love, because true love is when loving out we equally let love in by acknowledging the divinity in every human being equally. Therefore, I am also responsible for the world that I know is not being the world it is truly meant to be presently. Having said that, I know I can also make a difference by finally choosing to live what I know in steadiness and consistency from now on.  In fact, it is my responsibility to commit to life.

Yes, I am one person, but I have the whole of the universe with me, backing me up, cheering me on, holding my hand when I need it, because now I have chosen to finally let the world in.

441 thoughts on “Brotherhood: What if True Love Was Taught From Day One?

  1. Isn’t it strange that being human has been an anxiety – that being human means being separate and you do not have a reflection that Love is who we are, where we are from and what we are made of. We each have the opportunity to turn that around by living in a connected way and throwing separation out of the window.

  2. We make true brotherhood appear utopian by moving further away from with in every step, to make it look like an impossibility because we know the precise detail of it, and it is catching up with us to announce the game-over.

  3. Watch young ones grow with there parents exposing the ill energy they can get into is such a joy as they are so naturally loving when given the choice of energy of our essences, which is the energy of love.

  4. You paint it so clearly, a world where we would consider love before everything we do. It may seem like a dream, like an unrealistic desire, but that is only so because we deny our innate way of being.

  5. ‘Everywhere we travel, we are returning home. Language will not be a barrier towards connection, for it is not the main form of communication’ This is really interesting to read and reminds me when my son was young and we travelled aboard and although he didn’t speak the same language as the children there, they would come together and play and it would be this very sweet and loving connection without words.

  6. ‘Imagine a world where everyone first knows and claims their preciousness; and not only this, but knows that everyone else is equally as precious.’Reading this I can feel how gorgeous it would be to be confirmed in our preciousness and that boys would not need to toughen up and hide their preciousness and girls could feel empowered and walk their preciousness and that we could grow into tender, sensitive adults that respected ourselves and others, this feels very different to how society is at the moment.

  7. I get to feel this every time I travel somewhere, the people I go to visit are like family to me. And I can feel that whomever I go to see with a few exceptions are very pleased to see me rather than just seeing me as someone there to sell them something.

    1. One of my most gorgeous joys is meeting and connecting with new people when I am travelling (or not as the case may be). It doesn’t matter where I am if that connection is made with a genuine openness and transparency on both sides.

  8. Brotherhood would be taught from day one if we actually simply just allowed our hearts to rule – instead of the over complicated mind.

  9. It is interesting to ask what if we were brought up knowing love, how would things have been different. I know on a human level we could say we may not have had the most loving upbringing, but love was always there with us whenever we chose to be open to it – at least, that was my experience. But what happened was, I felt it did not fit in with the way I thought i needed to be to fit in with life, so personally I become the nice and pleasing boy rather than simply staying with what I felt and knew was true. No matter what I can say love has never left me, I have just chosen to look the other way and dismiss it.

  10. Yes individuality has a lot to answer for. When we wake up and realise we are all one and it is love that unites us, we can drop our comparison and competition to outdo each other and work together. We are so much stronger when united in a common purpose that serves the all.

  11. Such a great title Adele. What if indeed. Yet we can introduce this love and brotherhood into our lives today and every day. What a reflection we would give to others, and often do……

  12. I have come to understand that we are all born knowing love, knowing brotherhood and knowing our place in the world, but at the same time we are born into a world that is set up for us to forget this as soon as possible. If we had carers and teachers who know this to be true, then our natural knowing will be honoured and supported from day one, but most don’t and the world that encourages separation and competition becomes the only world we know. But, thankfully those initial knowings do not go away, but simply wait for us to come to a moment in time when we make the choice to return to who we truly are and with this return, the reconnection to the love and brotherhood we know within every particle of our being.

    1. What if we choose love first, and foremost, ‘we make the choice to return to who we truly are and with this return, the reconnection to the love and brotherhood we know within every particle of our being.’

  13. “Knowing love, yet I lived all the lovelessness by reacting to the world. Instead of being me, I focussed on not being understood”. So many people know the way other people are behaving is not it but do not stop our own behaviours of reacting, playing small etc. So this is what we each have to work on, to live what we know and not wait for anyone else.

  14. From some this may seem like a utopian world, and it could remain that unless we start to live it in our own way in our own lives. Build up little microcosms of brotherhood until they all come together.

  15. Going into the victim mentality, blaming the world and wanting it to change first so that we can come out of our hidey-hole.. how many times have we all played this game, in various ways, and for what? Eventually we have to ask ourselves if all that hiding and protection has really been worth it – has it made us feel safer, and given us the respite we were seeking, or has it simply separated and alienated us from each other and the world at large?

  16. “What if love was taught to me on day one?” Great question Adele, if we were taught love from day one, we would not be living in the separation we do and brotherhood would be a natural way of being.

    1. Yes and not wait for the abuse to be horrendous, call out the small things that hurt and ensure we live in a more responsible way so we make ourselves accountable for the hurt we inflict on another by not being more aware of the impact of our thoughts, actions and words.

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