True Religion = No More ‘If Onlys’ 

Many of us torture ourselves with ‘if onlys’ when the world comes crashing down around us. When we begin to accept that what’s done is done, we may turn to religion for solace or rage at God for ‘allowing’ the unthinkable to happen. Either way, for many of us God is the one we call on in our darkest hours and religion is a word that seems to accompany him.

When the proverbial excrement hits the fan, we are given a moment to stop and consider what it is that we truly believe – what rings true for us and what we subscribe to in the way of religion.

It is flat out nightmarish to be stuck in a loop replaying the lead-up to disaster over and over again in your mind. Many torture themselves in this way until they believe that the accident, break up, fire, loss or death may not have occurred if only they had woken up 5 minutes later, caught another bus, said different words, stopped to smell a rose or stayed an hour later.

When life brings us to our knees, we are offered a choice: jump down the spiralling rabbit hole of ‘if onlys’ or connect to who we truly are and what we know is a Truth about a situation or feeling, without any doubt.

For what if true religion is actually the lived understanding of your own divine essence? What if every breath you take has the ability to remind you who you truly are? What if each and every moment of your life is divinely constellated to remind you who you truly are?

“If you understand what religion truly is, then everything is religion.”

Serge Benhayon, Esoteric Teachings & Revelations, p 46

True religion is living the truth that you know with every last cell of your being.  It is knowing that each and every moment you experience is a gift, no matter how horrifying or unfair it may seem at first glance. When you know true religion, there are no more ‘if onlys’.

Leonne Sharkey

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My Relationship with Religion

540 thoughts on “True Religion = No More ‘If Onlys’ 

  1. I love this Leonne – a deeper awareness of the breath being far more than just a physical necessity to the body. Pausing to feel the breath as a reflection of connection to God brings a clear sense of expansion, spaciousness and warmth throughout.
    “What if every breath you take has the ability to remind you who you truly are?”

  2. What I can really appreciate, through the love, teachings and livingness of Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon, is if I do have a moment where it feels like the world comes crashing down or something not great has happened, I instead ask myself ‘how have I lived up to that point? and what do I need to change?’ As this, as well as my relationship with God is where it is at. Our Livingness.

  3. If everything is religion, then even when life is super difficult, we are still being held in the arms of religion. When there seems like no end to the darkness, we are still in religion’s loving embrace. When it seems impossible that a certain kind of living hell will never end, religion is beholding.

  4. I can remember distinctly as a child and teenager/young adult I would indeed torture myself with ‘could have’, ‘should have’ and ‘would haves’ in relation to events that I felt went bad, opportunities missed, or things I felt guilty about. But after finding Universal Medicine, and realising that we are being supported by every single reflection, angle, act, expression around us to evolve back fully to our souls, life is so much more fluid and when something happens that was not planned or seemingly a disaster, I can no look at it as merely an opportunity to grow, heal, and evolve instead of driving myself crazy by replaying the event in my head with an alternative ending and not accepting what happened and my responsibility in it.

  5. It was great to read this ‘Serge Benhayon, Esoteric Teachings & Revelations, p 46 True religion is living the truth that you know with every last cell of your being. It is knowing that each and every moment you experience is a gift, no matter how horrifying or unfair it may seem at first glance. When you know true religion, there are no more ‘if onlys’.’ As always just a few lines from Serge Benhayon and the Ageless Wisdom delivers so much for the reader to ponder. Also reading this, what I felt was (from experience) the stronger our foundation and self love we have for ourselves, the easier it is to deal with moments such as a ‘break up, fire, loss or death’. Years ago I would have been in complete pieces and mess with any of these, but now I have more understanding, awareness and consistency with a lived way in regards to true truth, I know it will be completely different.

  6. *Light bulb moment* – in our irresponsibility to avoid seeing the mess we have created we actually think that if we stopped to tie our shoe lace we wouldn’t have been hit by a car, not that we needed to see the momentum we were living in, not that this “accident” is actually there to teach us a lesson.

  7. I had another experience of ‘if onlys’. Whilst at work one of our staff member received news from overseas that her mother had passed away.

    This member understandably was distraught and whilst a few of her colleagues were supporting her, I constantly heard her say ‘if only’ I had flown out yesterday, ‘if only’ I had done this or done that. And I observed this woman being consumed with such guilt that it took her away from her grief. And when she was in the ‘if only’ it was challenging for her to be present in that her mother was unwell, she had recently visited her not so long ago and unable to see the beauty in all of what she had with her mother.

    We can lose ourselves in the ‘if onlys’ if we allow it, instead of being in what is and appreciating this.

  8. These ‘if onlys’ are very destructive and so often play out in my life. The regurgitation of this acid plays havoc on not only one’s body but mind too.

    I am bringing more understanding nowadays, it is what it is and it is what it’s meant to be and as stated by Serge Benhayon, ‘everything is religion’. To me it means that everything, whether we perceive as ’good’ or whether as ‘bad’ is actually just ‘right’.

  9. “What if each and every moment of your life is divinely constellated to remind you who you truly are?” And what if every person on the planet lived who they are then there would be no more ‘if onlys’.

  10. ‘For what if true religion is actually the lived understanding of your own divine essence?’ Great call Leonne, and it is something we can only discover the truth and beauty of if we live our divine essence more and more.

  11. What you have shared so succinctly Leone is that there is power in simplicity. And in the simplicity of this blog is a powerful message for us all. “If only” keep us firmly entrenched in the past but choosing to be in the present we offer ourselves the space to feel the truth of religion, that we are, and have, everything we need in that moment to step confidently forward into the next moment, and so on.

  12. True religion is to know your reconnection to yourself, God and the Universe – no ‘ifs’ or ‘buts’.

  13. “What if every breath you take has the ability to remind you who you truly are? What if each and every moment of your life is divinely constellated to remind you who you truly are?”

    I think I may have wasted a few of these :- But the beauty of them is that they never stop coming, so I have a another choice in every breath and in every moment.

  14. Powerful. A message for us all that we have made excuses that do not let us feel the truth of what initially is there. An understanding we can get from the above shared.

  15. If you understand what religion truly is, then everything is religion.” Our inner heart knows exactly what religion is.

  16. The biggest ‘if only’ is ‘if only I hadn’t chosen to separate from the Divine and had held to true purpose to live in Co-creation with God. Then all the other ‘if onlys’ would never have arisen.

  17. Thank you for including this very pertinent quote from Serge Benhayon in your inspiring blog Leonne. To live from the quality of the re-connection to our Divine Essence, innate stillness, harmony and joy to express truth in our every movement is living true religion.
    “If you understand what religion truly is, then everything is religion.”
    Serge Benhayon, Esoteric Teachings & Revelations, p 46

  18. Understanding religion is actually quite simple, it is not meant to be complicated and it is something we all know how to live. Through our connection to our essence, our relationship with our Soul is one and the same as our relationship with God, through which we are guided to move with the love we are, as such our every move from this point is a religious one. And so, it is possible to live religiously in all that we do, not needing to find or seek connecting to God in a church as the true house of God is our bodies, with us 24/7.

  19. If we take the lesson offered when disaster strikes, it serves its purpose. Saying ‘if only’ and wallowing in wishing something didn’t happen means you miss out on the healing and learning. I am sure that nothing is random and nothing happens because God is a vengeful being. There is an order to the universe and corrections are a way of bringing us wayward humans back into order, back to the Godliness we are.

  20. When we go into the if onlys, there is always an issue with not being able to accept life as it is and the consequences of not living the truth of who we truly are.

  21. When we think about the ‘if Only’s’ we are forgetting that for every choice there is a consequence and that we are responsible for our own choices.

    1. Yes agree Sally. It does feel like the ‘if only’ approach is an avoidance of the responsibility we hold as to what we are aligning to, and instead wishing that things could be different. Completely disempowering via the avoidance of the truth of offer being reflected in every situation we are in.

  22. The ‘if only’ trap stops us from looking at the truth of a situation, it stops our ability to read what is truly at play and see the bigger picture.

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