True Religion = No More ‘If Onlys’ 

Many of us torture ourselves with ‘if onlys’ when the world comes crashing down around us. When we begin to accept that what’s done is done, we may turn to religion for solace or rage at God for ‘allowing’ the unthinkable to happen. Either way, for many of us God is the one we call on in our darkest hours and religion is a word that seems to accompany him.

When the proverbial excrement hits the fan, we are given a moment to stop and consider what it is that we truly believe – what rings true for us and what we subscribe to in the way of religion.

It is flat out nightmarish to be stuck in a loop replaying the lead-up to disaster over and over again in your mind. Many torture themselves in this way until they believe that the accident, break up, fire, loss or death may not have occurred if only they had woken up 5 minutes later, caught another bus, said different words, stopped to smell a rose or stayed an hour later.

When life brings us to our knees, we are offered a choice: jump down the spiralling rabbit hole of ‘if onlys’ or connect to who we truly are and what we know is a Truth about a situation or feeling, without any doubt.

For what if true religion is actually the lived understanding of your own divine essence? What if every breath you take has the ability to remind you who you truly are? What if each and every moment of your life is divinely constellated to remind you who you truly are?

“If you understand what religion truly is, then everything is religion.”

Serge Benhayon, Esoteric Teachings & Revelations, p 46

True religion is living the truth that you know with every last cell of your being.  It is knowing that each and every moment you experience is a gift, no matter how horrifying or unfair it may seem at first glance. When you know true religion, there are no more ‘if onlys’.

Leonne Sharkey

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512 thoughts on “True Religion = No More ‘If Onlys’ 

  1. The more I connect to my essence the more assured I feel and accepting of the choices I have made. For example at the time of writing this the UK general election has been on. Weeks before I connected to what vote I felt to choose, listening to others felt disturbing but my essence felt steady. Choices from the feelings in my body are the most steadfast and supportive choices I can ever make about any part of life.

    1. I agree Leigh our body has all our answers, we simply need to stay connected and be willing to listen to its wisdom the same way we would a friend we trust deeply.

  2. It’s funny how in our darkest hour we reach out to God and ask his for support; when we consider our life is going well we don’t even acknowledge him.

  3. Are they are darkest moments? For me its when I’m asked to dig deep that I find the treasure that is always there within me, and that can happen when I’m supporting someone who is dying, or falling into love. Having plumbed those depths, I now start to notice the same vastness inside in the more common and everday – nature and the big, blue sky being just one avenue.

  4. When life brings us to our knees it is a great opportunity to learn, expand, evolve and ‘do things differently’ next time; the choice and responsibility is ours. Beautiful blog Leonne, thank you.

  5. These ‘if onlys’ come from a place where something I have done is bad and rather regrettable. Staying stuck in this view stops me from truly seeing what’s I am being shown. For there’s a clear reason everything occurs, and not one ounce of vengeance or punishment exists in any of it. Every last act and circumstance is divinely designed to point us back to Love. When I see this how can I be upset Leonne? Or forget as you have shown here, that in our everyday, lives the medicine we need – and that is true religion indeed.

  6. It’s interesting how many of us will ‘dig deep’ or call on God in our darkest hours or when we’re really feeling challenged but what are we aligning with in all the other hours of our life..?

  7. It is interesting that it is only when life brings us to our knees that we are willing to consider the possibility of there being a God, for if we would live in a way that allows that connection consistently on a daily basis that would not exist, only the confirmation of living as sons of God.

  8. Every choice and occurrence in life show us a way to deepen our own love, it may be deepening in our connection and communication, a deeper humbleness and acceptance with ourselves and the world. Every single choice and movement we have in life, is so deeply precious, just as we reveal deeper this preciousness of us.

  9. Great mind provoking article Leonne! So I’m learning what it is like to live religiously in a true way. I am more experiencing and feeling that I am divine that God is around me, in me (dare I say that?), and yes I can feel I can grow towards experiencing it 24 hours a day. It is there already I can feel that, now it is for me to live a life where I feel that 24 hours a day. That is living religiously.

  10. “True religion is living the truth that you know with every last cell of your being.” and the more consistently we can live this way, the easier it is to live in the flow of that which is divine.

  11. Thank you Leonne, you share such good point !
    About the breath and breathing is very valuable. We live in a world where we have made it more so about our mind figures, goals, actions than ever attention is given to our way of being : our breath, our movements, our way of speaking, our way of choices etc. Interestingly enough these points are actually very valuable and important in order to establish connection. When we life in a dullness (unawareness) of all of the above points and we have a body that we move forth every day, we can ask ourselves the question: how are we living? In what quality are we living? Connection or no connection? What does connection actually mean? And how is it then to be connected to our body in all that we do?
    When we start recognizing those questions, even though we don’t know the answers yet, it is a very freeing thing to start getting out of the mental prison that life is just life. And that we have a whole different aspect of life to re-discover. In that ‘connection’ will be key, and we need to re-discover all for ourselves what this connection means to us and how much we are willing to choose our path of bodily (heavenly) connection again.

  12. Could it be these things are teaching us something? ‘It is flat out nightmarish to be stuck in a loop replaying the lead-up to disaster over and over again in your mind. Many torture themselves in this way until they believe that the accident, break up, fire, loss or death may not have occurred if only they had woken up 5 minutes later, caught another bus, said different words, stopped to smell a rose or stayed an hour later’ But instead of being willing to honesty read what it means and exactly why it has happened to us we go into ‘victim’ mode. And it says a lot if we don’t believe in God/The Divine but when something not so good happens in our life we then turn to God … for me that says we know the truth but are constantly ignoring it and pretending it doesn’t exist because it if did then we would have to face the fact currently life is so very very wrong.

  13. Our if only”s are only justifications of telling ourselves and others that what happend is by mistake and that we are not responsibile or could have been responsible for this situation.. An interesting trick to avoid the responsiblity we have and in fact – that we do have a choice. So our way out of the “if only”s ” is simply accepting our choices and taking responsibility for the next.

  14. “If you understand what religion truly is, then everything is religion.”
    Serge Benhayon, Esoteric Teachings & Revelations, p 46
    This saying says it all and makes sense of what religion is really about.

  15. I hadn’t really acknowledged the fact that I have actually renounced nearly all the “if onlys” in my life thanks to the support that Universal Medicine offers in understanding the true purpose of life. It is not about perfection or having a “great” life, “doing good” or “providing for your family”. Sure these are things we all do but its not the reason we are here. If you stop and feel, you can feel strongly that we are here to grow, evolve and learn from each other. We are here to return and relearn how to bring more of our God given natural light through and to reawaken to the fact that we are actually all made of the same love that God is. .

  16. There are no if onlys, all that happens happens for a reason and a purpose, an opportunity to feel and accept responsibility for our choices.

  17. When we connect with our inner hearts and start to feel and trust the innately beautiful flow of the universe and the interconnectedness of all things… the ‘if only’s’ really start to let go.

  18. When we subscribe to something that is not true it will, sooner or later, expose itself to be as such, hence we are only buying time for the inevitable truth to come out…

  19. How we live is key to what happens to us. If we do not honor ourselves we invite energies to play up with us and this is what happens. We can make up stories and reduce what happens to the temporal world, but in truth, there is us, our alignments and choices that truly account for what happens next

  20. If only’s only give away the immense power that is in one and that is actually to be lived and brought to life in full by its very own choice. That is – yes to love or yes to not love (evil).

  21. We willingly enter the wormhole of ‘if onlys’ when we are not willing to accept the evolution on offer in the current situation we find ourselves in. However ‘bad’ this may appear to us on the surface, there is always a light at the end of the tunnel when we realise that the tunnel is itself the self-created space we hide in to not live our true potential.

  22. Bang on Leonne! The ‘if only’ game is taxing and destructive. It serves no purpose other than to feed a lack of responsibility and desire to blame.

  23. Thank you Leonne, this is gold! as in truth we are being offered opportunities to be more all of the time so it is our responsibility to question life and the quality of our experiences as they are a mere reflection of the choices we are making that support or are detriment to our own evolution.

  24. Each and every moment to remind us who we truly are, amazing. The divineness from within and being reflected to that which out there. The thing is we can’t get it wrong, or fail – we only choose to move in a way that allows this divines to be in and with us or we move against it – and hence hold off the divine love that is always holding and Impulsing us.

  25. In each ‘if only’, there is a will to escape to the truth that is revealed with the situation that is judged as unfair, avoidable, wrong,… Only by accepting the things as they are in the first place and surrendering to the message that comes with them, we are able to understand and receive the gift that has been offered everytime

    1. Beautifully said Amapro. I agree that ‘if only’ exposes every moment we resisted surrendering to truth and every occasion that we said ‘no’ to evolution. As such offering us yet another opportunity to heal and renounce the loveless momentum that keeps us from being moved by the vibration of love.

  26. I loved reading your article Leonne. I have been reading quiet a few articles this morning around religion, and what is absolutely crystal clear is how amazingingly blessed we are to be a part of a true religion The Way of The Livingness, and to walk beside so many that are also choosing to live this truth and love consistently.

  27. ” For what if true religion is actually the lived understanding of your own divine essence? What if every breath you take has the ability to remind you who you truly are? What if each and every moment of your life is divinely constellated to remind you who you truly are? ” This is so beautiful Leonne the best description of religion I have ever heard thank you.

  28. There are no “if only”s” in our heart – our heart is made to be open, and if we shut it down, there is that not much flow that will be able to flow through us – hence we are stopped – until we see that the if only”s used from the closed heart are simple results.. But the root we can change – by opening our hearts… Yes.

  29. At the end of a person’s life the thing that disturbs people the most are the “if only’s”, e.g if only I loved more, spent more time with people etc. We have to learn to live in a way where there are no regrets.

  30. If only is actually a way of disempowering yourself of knowing the truth and stand for it.. As we are in truth dishonest when we say ‘if only’, because that simply did not exist..

  31. ‘“If you understand what religion truly is, then everything is religion.” True religion a movement of true purpose that is lived and expressed in our everyday. This is a very different approach to the man pictures and religions we here today and yet it makes such sense and feels amazing living from the body in this way. Our true intelligence is found within the vessels we call our bodies and the wisdom they possess.

  32. That very notion of ‘if only’ seems to tell us that we do know otherwise, that we do know we are capable of being truer. What you say here makes me really appreciate the potential and power we are being endowed with at every segment and fragment of what we call life. Thank you, Leonne.

  33. Amen to that Leonne. When we live in connection to the truth of who we are, true religion is our everyday through which our every breath, our every move is a magnification of the love we know we are in essence… wherever we are and whatever we do.

  34. Religion is simply our connection with our inner heart, our Soul, the universe, the all. It connects us to a grandness we are from, and with that also the awareness that we are equally part of this grandness. So to me living religiously is not just a belief as many people have from their relationship with the man made religion, but it is a way of living that it is not a fixture but constantly expanding to a greater awareness simply because of the expansive nature of the universe I am connected to.

  35. ““If you understand what religion truly is, then everything is religion.” I could say – if only I had woken up to this fact earlier in my life….. But I feel blessed to know the truth now. A beautiful sharing and quotes – thankyou Leonne.

  36. ‘It is knowing that each and every moment you experience is a gift, no matter how horrifying or unfair it may seem at first glance.’ When we really get this we can look to the bigger picture and understand that everything has it’s place. We are in Earth School and this is yet another lesson to heed and learn from.

  37. I feel we take breathing for granted it’s just something that we do, like eating without ever considering what we are putting into our bodies, I know from my own experience that this is considered ‘normal’. However things have changed, I now have an understanding that every in breath and out breath I am breathing God, as God is the space in between everything, as we are breathing space and the space is God. So all these years of feeling that somehow I had lost my connection to God is an illusion, a lie, because God is everywhere he is the space and the universe, so I can never not be in connection to God. Just writing these words it feels as though a veil has been lifted from my eyes.

  38. Humanity has been so conditioned not to believe in God, I feel we have been hoodwinked by so many Religions which one truly represents God? I am coming back to my understanding and belief that God is everywhere in the smallest of details to the magnificence we see all around us. Somehow in this constant drive to succeed at any cost to ourselves we do not stop to smell the roses so to say and deeply appreciate what we have been given. As one of those people that was blindly driven constantly chasing the carrot on a stick that was dangling just out of reach. I have decided I don’t like carrots anyway instead I have stopped to smell the roses and in that stop moment reconnected back to the simplicity that is God all around me. This is true religion a coming back to God and a reunion with me.

  39. This blog has supported me to look at all the subtle ‘if onlys’ I allow in my life. While it can be helpful to look at what went awry in the past, regret is never healing or supportive. As soon as I examine my life from a starting point of responsibility I can let go of regret and rejoice in seeing exactly what it is I need to change.

  40. We are often surprised or shocked when something happens out of the blue such as an accident or a tsunami because we are completely unaware that we are living so far from the harmonious way we are designed to live and in unison with the way the Universe is. An accident is a stop and a correction from our way ward living and while at times they may seem like our darkest moments they are also our greatest opportunities to learn from.

  41. We can’t change what we did or didn’t do in the past but what we can take charge of is our choices in the present and the quality that we make them from. It’s great to reflect on past choices to simply learn and appreciate the consequences of our actions but to get lost in regret just keeps us stuck.

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